Are Narcissists Happy?

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    Is it possible that narcissists have a better grasp on happiness than the rest of us? In this video I explore whether narcissists are capable of happiness. Or if it's all a facade.
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Komentáƙe • 939

  • @BaggageClaim
    @BaggageClaim  Pƙed 22 dny +49

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    • @smallies7154
      @smallies7154 Pƙed 22 dny +1

      sweet Georgia brown

    • @mallorycarpinski1160
      @mallorycarpinski1160 Pƙed 22 dny +6

      That was an awesome ad by the way!❀

    • @nihilismistheonlyway4680
      @nihilismistheonlyway4680 Pƙed 20 dny +1

      Have you seen the channel "real housewives recap" I found her when she was doing vids on AJLT but now she a-logs Meghan. 😊

    • @aguila9982
      @aguila9982 Pƙed 20 dny +1

      You're amazing thank you

    • @zalamael
      @zalamael Pƙed 20 dny +1

      A better question would be, how happy are you, living in a world of narcissists?
      An even better question would be, what is a narcissist? Who are they really, behind their desperate needy lies?

  • @DimWit000
    @DimWit000 Pƙed 22 dny +972

    Meghan is nothing without Harry and Harry is nothing without the royal family.

    • @GIBBO4182
      @GIBBO4182 Pƙed 22 dny +32

      It’s a copy/paste comment
but it is true

    • @jesush.tap-dancingchrist7328
      @jesush.tap-dancingchrist7328 Pƙed 22 dny +20

      Do you have anything original to say?

    • @theveryworstluck1894
      @theveryworstluck1894 Pƙed 22 dny +12

      Didn't Harry serve in the military with distinction? I don't think comparing Meghan's uselessness to Harry is accurate.

    • @MissLizaMay
      @MissLizaMay Pƙed 22 dny +27

      ​@theveryworstluck1894 no he didn't. He served, but didn't do anything especially noteworthy

    • @jesush.tap-dancingchrist7328
      @jesush.tap-dancingchrist7328 Pƙed 22 dny +16

      @@theveryworstluck1894 All testimony says he was deep in a bunker the entire time.

  • @councilofkarens729
    @councilofkarens729 Pƙed 22 dny +602

    Leeches can never be happy, as they are always hungry and looking for their next meal.

    • @baylorsailor
      @baylorsailor Pƙed 22 dny

      Because narcissists don't create, they take.

    • @GLJosh
      @GLJosh Pƙed 22 dny +15

      Plus, the more the leech eats, the larger it gets and the more required to fill 'full'.

    • @councilofkarens729
      @councilofkarens729 Pƙed 22 dny +5

      @@GLJosh so nice to meet a fellow leech enthusiast LOL

    • @Marco905905
      @Marco905905 Pƙed 22 dny

      No matter how fat the leech grows it always wants for another meal

    • @I_dont_think_therefore...
      @I_dont_think_therefore... Pƙed 22 dny +6

      I'm going to leach off the conversation by saying drug addicts have to have more of their vices to maintain or sustain their craving.

  • @iggi3985
    @iggi3985 Pƙed 22 dny +612

    if you watch Suits, you soon realise that she played her character so well because she was playing herself.

    • @Dibbz_TV
      @Dibbz_TV Pƙed 22 dny +32

      100%

    • @carolinaho4068
      @carolinaho4068 Pƙed 22 dny +36

      Really 😼I had never watched suits because I didn’t even know it existed until the engagement announcement of Harry.

    • @Vid7872
      @Vid7872 Pƙed 22 dny +16

      I'll have to trust you on that.
      Thanks for doing the research

    • @AlisonsArt
      @AlisonsArt Pƙed 22 dny +40

      ...or she had no sense of self and adopted the character as her own. Explains why her ideas are borrowed and tired to stale. Oh. Clichés.
      Why she insists on people seeing and touching her bare skin in formal situations is a mystery. Go back to old Craig Ferguson interview. Flirtacious, silicone gloved skin, almost wearing clothes, sliding around in the chair and he remarked on the alarming expanse of skin. Tee hee, she said.
      It's very creepy.

    • @Tomtaylor7337
      @Tomtaylor7337 Pƙed 22 dny +8

      Exactly what I thought 😂

  • @Candaceshanana
    @Candaceshanana Pƙed 22 dny +277

    No one can ever convince me that Meghan is not a narcissist!
    Ever!

    • @Daurio4747
      @Daurio4747 Pƙed 22 dny +16

      Me too. 🙋

    • @janeknight3434
      @janeknight3434 Pƙed 21 dnem

      I think she’s a psychopath. All psychopaths are narcissists but not all narcissists are psychopaths. I think she’s a psychopathic narcissist. I’ve never seen a drop of genuine emotion. She copies others. That’s a sign of a psychopath.

    • @sunnyadams5842
      @sunnyadams5842 Pƙed 18 dny

      She is our example of what NIT TO DO
      If anyone tries to convince you that she is not a Narcissist- call them SUGAR and walk away. They MUST be crazy!!

    • @SuperStella1111
      @SuperStella1111 Pƙed 17 dny +1

      Darling. It was the popular word of 2023. Everyone used it and continues to use it wrong, including you.

    • @janeknight3434
      @janeknight3434 Pƙed 17 dny

      @@SuperStella1111 she is absolutely a narcissist in every sense of the word. They target, lovebomb, manipulate, isolate, down grade, discard and then leave. She’s disgusting.

  • @GIBBO4182
    @GIBBO4182 Pƙed 22 dny +575

    Funny how South Park nailed it with these 2! World Wide Privacy Tour😂
    Congrats on 300k btw! 👍

    • @ScotsThinker
      @ScotsThinker Pƙed 22 dny +14

      "COME ON! COME ON! COME ON! COME ON! COME ON!
      IT'S THE WORLDWIDE PRIVACY TOUR!
      COME ON! COME ON! COME ON! COME ON! COME ON!
      IT'S THE WORLDWIDE PRIVACY TOUR!"

    • @ChrisMorganComedy
      @ChrisMorganComedy Pƙed 22 dny +7

      They have had about 26 years of nailing it

    • @zalamael
      @zalamael Pƙed 22 dny +10

      South Park actually did a better episode, where Cartman eats all the skin off the KFC while everyone's back's are turned. Because he is the epitome of selfishness. So the kids hit on the brilliant strategy of ignoring him, and refusing to deal with him. And it only makes Cartman more needy for attention, because that is how attention seekers behave when you ignore them.

    • @leslie6938
      @leslie6938 Pƙed 18 dny +1

      South Park could easily do another H&M episode and I hope they do someday. There's plenty of material!

    • @SuperStella1111
      @SuperStella1111 Pƙed 17 dny

      Funny how the Sussexes saved South Park. 😂

  • @DarkPaleUnicorn
    @DarkPaleUnicorn Pƙed 22 dny +273

    the dirty looks which she cannot control are the sliver of truth peaking through her facade. love it.

  • @svetlanaandrasova6086
    @svetlanaandrasova6086 Pƙed 22 dny +172

    Trust me. When they announce a divorce she will claim he was the abuser.

    • @annaverano5843
      @annaverano5843 Pƙed 19 dny +19

      Yes . I'm willing to bet that is one of the reasons she had doria move in with her . I bet markle pushes Harry's buttons until he looses his temper with her and says terrible things in his fit of rage .and Markle is doing the amber herd and saving his text, provoking harry and secret video record harry when he is not at his best and she will use the text and videos the very day she gets a restraining order against harry or file for Divorce . And her mom will be her witness. And she will blame every lie she conjured up and she will reveal every secret harry has ever told her , she will accuse harry for not allowing her to contact her father and the reason why she never had a healthy relationship with Harry's family she will blame all of that on harry and she will accuse him of being mentally and physically abusive towards her and the children and accuse harry of forcing to say lies about his family . And the sad thing is the media, the sussex squad and even Hollywood will believe her and she will laugh all the way to the bank . Knowing her trophy prince gave up everything in his life to be with her . She even took harry masculinity from him and reduced harry to half a man he use to be .. Harry doesn't even look happy now . They just but on a fake facade in front of the lens. I think the trip to Nigeria finally opened Harry's eyes and seen meghan for what she really is ( loving wife and loving mother she is not ) harry and markle were invited to Nigeria to celebrate Nigeria joining the invictus game family instead it became the meghan show harry had to take a backseat as markle pranced around in her inappropriate dresses and as she cosplayed as Diana princess of wales and the invictus was ignored all together. Markle is insufferable.

    • @gusto7543
      @gusto7543 Pƙed 19 dny +10

      She writing all the tails in her diaries.

    • @yorgunurfali63
      @yorgunurfali63 Pƙed 17 dny

      @@annaverano5843at last, someone that agrees with me. U explained better than I could. Especially about the media and the squad being on her side. When I’ve tried to express it I start shaking from anger that ppl all agree that she’s a narcissist and know (well not everyone agrees) exactly what a narcissist is and how their victims are in fact victims of the narcissist abuse, still criticise Harry and belittle him, just as she does. He believed her when she said she wanted privacy, convinced him his family are evil. My blood is boiling just thinking about Harry. He truly is alone. Do u remember when his mother died and the nation criticised the queen for not coming out and comforting them with their main character syndrome. She was practically forced to take her grandchildren out so that the ppl could see them and shake the boys hands. Then when the queen died everyone loved her again. How when the king left Diana everyone hated him. Hated Camilla. Now everyone loves them and hate Harry for what he’s doing to them. The true victim in this is Harry. He’s lost his family, his country, his dignity and probably his self worth. She made him think that he couldn’t get better than her and that he was lucky to have her. 😱

    • @norah4892
      @norah4892 Pƙed 17 dny

      They will never going to get divorced. Harry is her meal ticket in to the celebrity and rich world. She is never let him go and frankly I don't believe he will ever

    • @SummerBumble
      @SummerBumble Pƙed 15 dny +2

      Yep, she's so predictable.

  • @WayStedYou
    @WayStedYou Pƙed 22 dny +303

    The international privacy tour continues

    • @LadyDecember
      @LadyDecember Pƙed 21 dnem +13

      "WE WANT PRYVUHSAY!" **sets off fireworks**

    • @--MAD
      @--MAD Pƙed 21 dnem +7

      😂😂😂 Best episode ever! Other than the war craft, of course.

    • @BrandonScott-mi5pz
      @BrandonScott-mi5pz Pƙed 18 dny

      NARCISSISTIC PEOPLE.

    • @Aurora-lp9sn
      @Aurora-lp9sn Pƙed 18 dny +2

      How many times will people like you get this so confidently wrong? They never once said they wanted to live a private life, they said they were “stepping back as senior royals” and would appreciate some privacy while they transition. Even working members of the royal family ask for privacy, and if i recall had Meghan not just given birth when then stepped back? I think asking for a little privacy at that time, considering how horribly the press had treated her during her pregnancy, is perfectly acceptable, UNLESS you’re Harry and Meghan. When Will and kate ask for privacy, no problem. When the royal family asks to us to give pedo prince Andrew some privacy, NO PROBLEM! The hypocrisy is astounding!

    • @oceanfive8201
      @oceanfive8201 Pƙed 8 dny +1

      @@Aurora-lp9snare u being fr? Ppl respected Catherine’s privacy? Did u not see the chaos of Kategate and the conspiracy theories, ppl were literally saying William was beating her. Right now u are being the hypocrite

  • @R.Omar82
    @R.Omar82 Pƙed 22 dny +284

    Meg is now going through the "I'm 43% Nigerian, I'm back home in Nigeria " phase, let's see how long before she gets bored and reinvents herself for the umpteenth time. South Park's depiction of Meg being empty and hollow was spot on. “ _HELLOOOOOOOOOOOO?_ ”
    And no, Thank YOU for another valuable video 🌾

    • @zarabee2880
      @zarabee2880 Pƙed 22 dny +14

      I thought she was Maltese?? 😂😂

    • @anthonybarlow1767
      @anthonybarlow1767 Pƙed 22 dny +6

      Back home to country she loves huh. Hmmm . K.

    • @R.Omar82
      @R.Omar82 Pƙed 22 dny

      @@zarabee2880 hey, it's one way to get a free trip and all expenses paid for. I wonder if the same Genealogist she dragged to Malta on that scam, sorry, soul searching trip to discover her roots is the same Genealogist who told her " Gurrrrrl! You're 43% Nigerian now!” đŸ€” 😂

    • @peabody66
      @peabody66 Pƙed 21 dnem

      Before she married Harry Meghan wouldn't even acknowledge that black side of her. Growing up when signing documents she always write "white" when describing her ethnicity instead of "black" or even "mixed". She never once married or dated any black man and as far as I know she never had any black friends. Meghan only put this ambassador for black people persona when she started getting push back from the public.

    • @soleil7259
      @soleil7259 Pƙed 20 dny

      ​@@zarabee2880You never know tomorrow it might be different 😂

  • @oceancat0450
    @oceancat0450 Pƙed 22 dny +82

    Watching Meghan in Nigeria, in the UK, In the states, at different events
she is NEVER actually listening to the people she’s talking to, or the crowd of people she’s meeting. All she is thinking is “how do I look? Where’s the camera”
    Her recent trip to Nigeria, watching her talk to someone then completely turn her back on them as they answer. That has to be exhausting. I hope it is.

  • @SebSenseGreen
    @SebSenseGreen Pƙed 22 dny +173

    My last boss was like this. She had to leave because no body could stand her anymore. When she finally had to leave she went to some of us telling us she's finally leaving, fishing for compliments and everything else. Literally nobody said anything apart from things of the like "Oh cool", "Good!" or "Bye!". The look on her face, at each person, was priceless. "Why is no one sad that I'm leaving???", well, we've been fighting for two years for you to leave, it's about time, that's why!

    • @Werewolf.with.Internet.Access
      @Werewolf.with.Internet.Access Pƙed 22 dny +29

      The worst part is you know she didn’t have a moment of “maybe I’m the problem” but that she’s most likely coping with “they couldn’t handle my intense GIRL BOSS energy, that’s there problem”

    • @p382742937423y4
      @p382742937423y4 Pƙed 22 dny +8

      That is priceless indeed. I imagine that was a huge compensation

    • @gusto7543
      @gusto7543 Pƙed 19 dny +4

      I’m sorry you had to go through that. How awful

    • @AnnSmajstrla
      @AnnSmajstrla Pƙed 11 dny +1

      I’m experiencing this with my boss right now! Our team works hard and she’s literally never happy with us. The goalposts are always shifting. I don’t need constant coddling, but working for someone who is impossible to please is quite another thing. I hope she goes the way of your former boss 
 that, or maybe I’ll go elsewhere.

    • @SebSenseGreen
      @SebSenseGreen Pƙed 11 dny

      @@AnnSmajstrla What ever happens, good luck!

  • @baylorsailor
    @baylorsailor Pƙed 22 dny +285

    If you don't want to raise a little narcissist, don't let your children think they're entitled to get whatever they want, whenever they want. It's not how the world works, and they will become nightmare adults if it's allowed in childhood.

    • @ryanc5572
      @ryanc5572 Pƙed 22 dny +29

      And let them be who they are. That's perhaps the biggest thing. Don't make them feel ashamed of themselves for who they are and give them love so they don't have to get it from everyone else. Because if you don't as a parent " getting love from everyone else" becomes their whole personality, as one can see with Meghan.

    • @courtneymcgregor3417
      @courtneymcgregor3417 Pƙed 22 dny

      Narcissism is also genetic. My naternal side have a predisposition to narcissism. My uncles etc and most cousins are normal. My female sibling (I refuse to call her a sister), is a covert, malignant narcissist. She's an evil bitch. She actually started a Twitter account within hours of my mum dying for the sole purpose of destroying me. She didn't succeed but she tried. That set her off to the point that the police had to become involved. She of course tells anyone who will listen, that she's a victim and oh woe is her, she's tried to invite me to get together etc etc.
      Narcissistic behaviours don't necessarily have anything to do with being 'spoilt' as children.

    • @p382742937423y4
      @p382742937423y4 Pƙed 22 dny +10

      As a former teacher, i can say that this is good advice.

    • @richardsears4665
      @richardsears4665 Pƙed 21 dnem +7

      its also DNA

    • @SioxerNikita
      @SioxerNikita Pƙed 20 dny

      You are aware that Narcissism itself, as in clinical Narcissism is ... well... a Personality Disorder... Something that is primarily based on how your brain is wired...
      You don't raise a Narcissist... you can raise someone with induced Narcissistic traits...
      This is the kind of shizz that misinforms heavily.

  • @bobz1736
    @bobz1736 Pƙed 22 dny +204

    I lived with a narcissist for 4 years... the worst years of my life. She was never truly happy and so controlling. I realised I couldn't help - I had to run away 😔

    • @InfamyOrDeath-__-
      @InfamyOrDeath-__- Pƙed 22 dny +13

      Yea there’s nothing you can do to help them, they’re permanently scarred, nothing can undo the damage that caused it.

    • @baylorsailor
      @baylorsailor Pƙed 22 dny +8

      ​@@InfamyOrDeath-__-typically narcissist lived very entitled lives as children. Their parents allowed them to behave with entitlement. This is why she doesn't correct her behavior whatsoever, because she feels like she's in the right no matter what.

    • @SefanitM-ms6ky
      @SefanitM-ms6ky Pƙed 22 dny +11

      6 yrs with a narcissistic man smh killed myself to make him happy. You’re right, you can’t help them

    • @ssoory6343
      @ssoory6343 Pƙed 22 dny +8

      I lived with a narcissist for 3 yrs. They are never happy with themselves or others. Even If you love them unconditionally, they'll make it conditional. Nothing doing, just stay afar from them even if it means changing your country of residence.

    • @Evil_gumby
      @Evil_gumby Pƙed 22 dny +7

      They are only happy when they hurt you.

  • @MrMoridinalthor
    @MrMoridinalthor Pƙed 22 dny +111

    No, that's why they need continuous attention. Ignoring them is the most painful revenge.

    • @Hapi777-
      @Hapi777- Pƙed 18 dny +1

      The RF’s golden silence must be hurting so badly.

  • @InfamyOrDeath-__-
    @InfamyOrDeath-__- Pƙed 22 dny +144

    The thing that I find scary is the massive rise in narcissism, I’ve never before seen so many. I read comics for years (now I read manga) & over the last 10 years the industry is flooded with them.

    • @baylorsailor
      @baylorsailor Pƙed 22 dny +32

      It's because parents are allowing their children to grow up feeling they're entitled to get whatever they want, whenever they want. My younger sister is currently raising little narcissists right now. They will be a nightmare as adults.

    • @ostwelt
      @ostwelt Pƙed 22 dny +13

      @@baylorsailor This is just learnt traits as identified above from bad parenting. These habits can be unlearnt, albeit in a painful way. True narcissism is a genetic brain state that can't be unlearnt as is permanent. This is what Baggage Claim is discussing here.

    • @Sedow1231
      @Sedow1231 Pƙed 22 dny +15

      I think with social media, we can see them acting live, they are exposed and documented

    • @ostwelt
      @ostwelt Pƙed 22 dny +7

      @@Sedow1231 Very, very true.
      This is exactly how I caught out my ex-wife with her ClusterB ASPD. Without a definitive, factual SM record I would have just been gaslighted by her denying lies and, evasions.

    • @bigtomboye
      @bigtomboye Pƙed 22 dny +12

      It's often said that the term Narcissist is "so overused now" -- but it does seem that it is actually legitimately on the rise, as you point out📈

  • @rain.0_0.
    @rain.0_0. Pƙed 22 dny +90

    0:59 "Vampire like or at least Dracula adjacent" yo that's a bar đŸ”„đŸ”„đŸ˜€

  • @gabbyb4493
    @gabbyb4493 Pƙed 22 dny +201

    Harry and Meghan are a study in real time by seeing a narcissist in action on the world stage, the misery they inflict on their partner and the carnage they leave in their wake!!

    • @badfoody
      @badfoody Pƙed 22 dny +3

      lol wat ahahahahah

    • @lianest-germain2903
      @lianest-germain2903 Pƙed 19 dny +9

      Let's hope our society will be wiser about them and cease enabling them.

    • @LilyAmongThorns
      @LilyAmongThorns Pƙed 18 dny +1

      Gabby, that’s how I see it too. I’ve been following this with great fascination and have learned a lot about narcissism from Harry’s wife.

    • @Triple265
      @Triple265 Pƙed 16 dny +2

      Yes, and will be used to teach psychology students what narcissist behaviour looks like

  • @Missy802
    @Missy802 Pƙed 22 dny +72

    Megaliar's the perfect example of how the wrong person can ruin your life

  • @HuxleyWasRight
    @HuxleyWasRight Pƙed 22 dny +49

    She’s done what all narcissists do to family’s, torn them apart! It’s narcissism 101, you have to have full control of your victim, family threatens this control so the narc will pick away at grievances to cause more division with the end goal being isolating their victim from close friends and family.

    • @HEA5690
      @HEA5690 Pƙed 19 dny +5

      Exactly. I've experienced two narcissists in my life. One a family member, the other was a partner/SO. The family member (not related by blood), tore and destroyed our family from within. Brothers against brothers. Sisters against sisters. Brothers against sisters. Cousins against cousins. All of whom were very close and connected before. But this person, tore apart everyone and enjoys every bit of it deep down inside.
      The other was a SO that love bombed me and then tried to separate myself from family and close friends, sowing toxic seeds in my brain to make me dislike them or see things more negatively. This is narc 101. How harry doesn't see it, makes me feel sorry for him. But he asked for it and he's too dumb to realize so he's made his own grave, so to speak. He's too chicken poop to realize how toxic she is.

  • @shawnawana235
    @shawnawana235 Pƙed 21 dnem +43

    I dont think harry will ever leave meghan. He is too weak. He will probably make many attempts to leave but she will reel him back in hoovering. She will use the children to control him. I am very familiar with being in a relationship with a narcissist. They confuse you, make you think what you know happened did not happen. Guilt you and the relationship only usually ends when the narcissist decides it will end. As bad as i want out of my relationship, i am trapped. I understand. I see it in them as clear as day. He tries to defend his family to her on private and she likely screams and tells him he doesn't take her side, although clearly he does, she tells him constantly how bad they are and how they conspire anganst her. Saying " you dont defend me, i would defend you" she puts him down, erodes his confidence. He wont leave.

  • @AliJ
    @AliJ Pƙed 22 dny +58

    “Dracula adjacent” my new favorite quote 💀💀

    • @gelchert
      @gelchert Pƙed 22 dny +1

      In a lot of versions of the story, Dracula strings Renfield along with the hope that he can eventually become a vampire, too. Compare that to a narcissist’s partner constantly trying to live up to expectations, hoping that eventually the narcissist will love them the same way the non-narcissist loves the narcissist.

    • @AliJ
      @AliJ Pƙed 22 dny +3

      @@gelchert brilliant analogy, lets hope this one has less flies and spiders đŸ€Ł

  • @SirSpuddington
    @SirSpuddington Pƙed 22 dny +72

    "Pride is not the opposite to shame, but its source. True humility is the only antidote to shame." - A wise old man who had to learn that lesson the hard way.

    • @CosmicFist78
      @CosmicFist78 Pƙed 19 dny +8

      I'm sorry I couldn't hear you. I'm too busy screaming at the thunderstorm, begging to be struck by lightning.

  • @iamneverwrong6635
    @iamneverwrong6635 Pƙed 21 dnem +24

    During Royal Engagements you never saw an actual look of interest from her while other people are talking. She literally seethes whenever someone else has the spotlight.

  • @historicaustraliaadventures
    @historicaustraliaadventures Pƙed 22 dny +92

    I can answer that question immediately. My father, one of my sisters and my ex are all full on narcissists. They're all miserable. There's your answer in a nutshell.

    • @InfamyOrDeath-__-
      @InfamyOrDeath-__- Pƙed 22 dny +13

      And their goal in life is to make everyone equally miserable. It’s equity.

    • @historicaustraliaadventures
      @historicaustraliaadventures Pƙed 22 dny +7

      @@InfamyOrDeath-__- yep that's what my dad and ex do. Exactly what you've written.

    • @VishalKjha
      @VishalKjha Pƙed 22 dny +4

      ​@@InfamyOrDeath-__-misery likes company afterall

    • @norah4892
      @norah4892 Pƙed 17 dny

      Or maybe you are. You are the common denominator. I am sorry to come that strong at you😂😂😂

    • @VishalKjha
      @VishalKjha Pƙed 17 dny +1

      @@norah4892 no you're not.

  • @dronesclubhighjinks
    @dronesclubhighjinks Pƙed 22 dny +68

    I'm always amazed at how you can take such complicated subjects and explain them in such a short space of time.
    I'm sorry the CZcams algorithm is often uncooperative to the highest quality content.
    It is not your fault!
    Thank you for the video and have a great week! 🙏💜

  • @cfarina5470
    @cfarina5470 Pƙed 18 dny +16

    Narcissists are never grateful for anything.

  • @crocodiledundee8685
    @crocodiledundee8685 Pƙed 22 dny +87

    CZcams cannot keep this channel suppressed from me 😈

  • @tinkerbell1270
    @tinkerbell1270 Pƙed 22 dny +81

    the curse of CZcams... so many great creators do not get promoted, while mindless clips have millions of views... You have every reason to feel proud of your work, regardless of number of views...

  • @Nicole-Faith
    @Nicole-Faith Pƙed 22 dny +57

    A narcissist that I know made the statement "My life is perfect" which couldn't have even been possible for this individual and the state of their life. Anyway very few people have perfect lives, the statement itself is odd.
    In many ways being so phoney and delusional must be a miserable life.

    • @p382742937423y4
      @p382742937423y4 Pƙed 22 dny +3

      That is true. No matter how it looks from the outside, every life has its lived experiences of failure, fear, defect, defeat, dissapointment.
      Perfection really does not exist

  • @Werewolf.with.Internet.Access
    @Werewolf.with.Internet.Access Pƙed 22 dny +23

    I’m grateful for social media in these moments.
    Narcissist can’t resist social media. It’s literally a wonderland for them; they’re encouraged to make it all about them, they can quantify the attention they’re getting, and there’s no one to call them out on their ish.
    Social media has made finding who’s a narcissist VERY easy

  • @weswolever7477
    @weswolever7477 Pƙed 21 dnem +18

    As Benny Hill once said “a friend in need is a bloody nuisance”

  • @julieannejoolz
    @julieannejoolz Pƙed 22 dny +35

    Ive enjoyed every post you have made. I dont see MM ever really being happy because she's so shallow. Enough is never enough.

    • @ceciliaM17256
      @ceciliaM17256 Pƙed 18 dny +1

      Nobody else wants them. Eventually they will divorce. But it will take a crisis. The fake kids comes to light, one of them goes to jail or gets sick.. something like that.

  • @BinkyTheElf1
    @BinkyTheElf1 Pƙed 22 dny +11

    With this degree of pride and self-absorption, it’s like having a black hole in your soul. Pray for her.

  • @Melchiah28
    @Melchiah28 Pƙed 22 dny +28

    congrats to the 300k subscribers. Narcissists are completely empty inside, trying to conceal them with their appearance and behavior. It’s like being hungry all the time and not being able to satisfy that hunger no matter how much you eat.
    I think narcissists would be even more unhappy if they were completely alone than they already are. You need this confirmation from others that they are worth something, beautiful, etc.

  • @bmardiney
    @bmardiney Pƙed 22 dny +21

    It’s kind of a trick question. They don’t feel emotions like we do. They never developed past the age of about 4 years old. So it’s like asking if a hurricane is evil. The answer is “not applicable”.

    • @ostwelt
      @ostwelt Pƙed 22 dny +6

      The sad yet funny thing about this, after being with a an ASPD wife for +20years, is that I now I always imagine my life then as holding a toddler's hand. Becuse for these sorts they have fully mastered the art of very skillful lying to get what they want by that age - as you state. Yet, I would never imagine myself dating a child. But that was in effect my life because her emotional state was never fully developed. Leaving me telling her often when to say please/thank you, when to be grateful, when she should express sadness, when to praise the children and then always to smile for the camera (which is an ASPD difference from NPD).
      Then sadly because unlike being able to immediately identify a toddler by their very size there is no immediate signs of ClusterB. All types within are masters of hiding that through their lies whilst reeling you in with charm and wit. Took me over two decades before my daughter explained that her very mother was a sociopath! Till then I just though "difficult" and a bad marriage! How I wish there was a way to have readily seen her PD....

    • @bmardiney
      @bmardiney Pƙed 21 dnem +6

      @@ostwelt wow, I’m sorry, that really sucks. And I’m sorry to say this, my man, but your parents (most likely your mom) probably also had some kind of cluster b going on as well. Which is why you can’t easily see it in others. There are tons of ways of seeing almost immediately if you know what a stable, rational person/relationship looks like. The fact that you were so blind to it (no offense, just saying) means you were trained not to see it. Really sorry that happened to you :(

  • @gpaty
    @gpaty Pƙed 22 dny +11

    That was really valuable!! And that woman is an excellent example of Narcissist behavior

  • @sandrab2589
    @sandrab2589 Pƙed 19 dny +6

    They have brief moments of satisfaction, but are never happy. You cannot satisfy a narcissist.

  • @asimplecadence
    @asimplecadence Pƙed 22 dny +20

    This was really well done! I appreciate that you took the time to address how we need to be self-aware of our "narssistic fleas." We may not be a narcissist, but there are certain behaviors that can be narcissistic, and we should introspect and curb that behavior.

  • @cameron120587
    @cameron120587 Pƙed 22 dny +18

    1. 00:07:12 Narcissists will never understand they are the problem after all, or at least they don't care. They lack the empathy or self-awareness from this delusion to do so. As such, they will never change.
    2. 00:07:20 Anyone who was raised by narcissists or has been in long-term relationships with them will pick up narcissistic traits through conditioning, but realizing these types of behaviours are narcissistic, and if we make the conscious effort to correct this behaviour is a key difference between narcissists and non-narcissists.

  • @nerdymoto4353
    @nerdymoto4353 Pƙed 22 dny +35

    For all the lies they tell other people, they tell themselves 100 times more.
    Megan’s children’s book was too artistic, or ahead of it’s time, or too good, so publishers sabotaged its sales.
    It is never a case of admitting they failed, and a learning opportunity.
    They convince themselves they are the victims, and that is why the world doesn’t love them.

  • @Gringosaurus
    @Gringosaurus Pƙed 22 dny +9

    9:17 “ there’s two situations you should never stress about, things that you can control and things you cannot control” William George Jordan, ‘ the majesty of calmness,

  • @elijahp.3720
    @elijahp.3720 Pƙed 22 dny +15

    As soon as baggage claim posts, I click!

  • @Hereintheswamp
    @Hereintheswamp Pƙed 22 dny +24

    Lmaooo the sponsor bit was good

  • @GrizzlyLolly
    @GrizzlyLolly Pƙed 22 dny +12

    I argue with the point that narcissists never know that they are the problem cause after watching this It’s been like a mirror help up to my face,and it’s hit me how I’ve treated my wife and friends recently

  • @haleytruslow7200
    @haleytruslow7200 Pƙed 19 dny +8

    I want you to know that the work you do here is fantastic. I was scrolling through to pick the last video I’ll listen to before bed, and when I saw that this was Baggage Claim I said to myself, “That girl is so smart.” And I clicked. And here I am. I’m sorry to hear that some videos haven’t performed the way you would have liked but that does NOT devalue your work. Keep it up!

    • @BaggageClaim
      @BaggageClaim  Pƙed 19 dny +2

      Thank you so much. That’s so sweet of you to say

  • @janebaker4912
    @janebaker4912 Pƙed 22 dny +6

    The way you weaved in thors examples of her behaviour was beautifully done!

  • @ryanc5572
    @ryanc5572 Pƙed 22 dny +10

    My ex was like this, and I was strong enough to end things before they got to devaluation. It's a frightening thing how powerful their spell is at first, and how easy it is to push aside the red flags cause things are so "good " Be careful everyone. Don't ignore the red flags! They'll save you a lot of misery.

  • @dr.matthewhertert310
    @dr.matthewhertert310 Pƙed 22 dny +7

    to release attachment you don’t have to give up your stuff and go live in the woods. freedom from attachment means being happy whether or not things turn out the way you want them to. you can still hope and dream and strive.

  • @itzblvckhighlander1576
    @itzblvckhighlander1576 Pƙed 22 dny +10

    I usually never comment but I wanted to thank you for the precious advice in this video. I bet this will help alot of people even those who already came to the conclusions you are wording out, its always good to get reminded. Wish you a beautiful day!

  • @TherismosFoundation
    @TherismosFoundation Pƙed 22 dny +7

    Wow! Love the fact that you've shown your face for the first time. You're so beautiful!

  • @HomerSampsonite
    @HomerSampsonite Pƙed 22 dny +6

    Fantastic video, growing up in a family of narcissistic parents and now living in a society where narcissism is praised to the exclusion of all else it's refreshing to hear some pushback against the constant gaslighting. Thank you!

  • @Bigtunaproductions09
    @Bigtunaproductions09 Pƙed 22 dny +7

    I wanted to let.you.know that i find this format of you speaking to the camera more engaging than your older format. Love your videos!

  • @ALITPUMPA
    @ALITPUMPA Pƙed 22 dny +22

    As a narcissist myself I can confirm this is all in fact true đŸ™đŸ»

    • @celiacresswell6909
      @celiacresswell6909 Pƙed 22 dny +11

      No offence but my narcissism is WAAY shinier. Edit, I also liked my own comment

    • @ALITPUMPA
      @ALITPUMPA Pƙed 19 dny +2

      @@celiacresswell6909 Nononononono MY narcissistic tendency’s are WAY shinier!

  • @tamulemon
    @tamulemon Pƙed 21 dnem +6

    I enjoy your entire analysis about narcissism, happiness, ego, expectation,and criticism. It really elevates your video above the whole MM drama. We can all learn something from this. Thank you.

  • @isabellerothman9782
    @isabellerothman9782 Pƙed 18 dny +2

    Your explanation of the narcissist is very good, I get it more and more. Thank you!

  • @Protomomentum
    @Protomomentum Pƙed 21 dnem +4

    idk why any time i watch your video i want to cry, its so thoughtful almost therapeutic

  • @disco7379
    @disco7379 Pƙed 22 dny +14

    Had an affair with a married narcissist it almost broke me
 as I was sick and unemployed when she discarded me and watched her move on instantly and started telling people she was happy with her husband.

    • @p382742937423y4
      @p382742937423y4 Pƙed 22 dny +2

      That is not fun.

    • @cursedcancersurvivor
      @cursedcancersurvivor Pƙed 22 dny +17

      You had an affair and thought it would end well?
      The only one I feel sorry for here is the husband shackled to this harpy.

    • @lanazak773
      @lanazak773 Pƙed 21 dnem +3

      @@cursedcancersurvivoryes, what a weird comment. Maybe it’s an AI trolling us.

    • @SairanBurghausen
      @SairanBurghausen Pƙed 19 dny

      Are you sure you aren't a narc yourself? You participate in victimizing her husband and then depict yourself as a victim? Scum.

  • @LoriManning
    @LoriManning Pƙed 22 dny +5

    Excellent. I love the quote "do not think of yourself more highly than you ought. " It's in the bible somewhere but I don't know exactly where!😃

  • @PhilG221
    @PhilG221 Pƙed 22 dny +9

    I like this video format, where we get to see more of you. I think it helps build rapport between your viewers and you.

  • @Flamewolf14
    @Flamewolf14 Pƙed 22 dny +4

    I really appreciate the section toward the end of how we can learn from the mistakes of a narcissistic and how we should challenge our ego.

  • @PrettyCatEyes
    @PrettyCatEyes Pƙed 21 dnem +5

    So good to see another Baggage Claim video! ❀

  • @jhb1493
    @jhb1493 Pƙed 25 dny +11

    Hello hello - great content as always! Even your plugs are hilarious!
    I think you are right about a narcissist being incapable of learning humility and being incapable of positive change - that seems pretty well demonstrated, particularly in MM's case. The only thing she seems to learn from her past mistakes is how WRONG everyone else is.
    You noted that eventually employees, family members, romantic partners, friends - they can sooner or later realize the truth and leave the narcissist.
    But what about the public? MM reminds me of Amber Turd, in that I don't think either has ever accepted that the majority of the public does NOT view them positively. I also don't see either of them gracefully giving up the limelight - which will probably mean increasingly ludicrous attempts to regain relevance and attention.
    You think maybe "the public" might learn something positive about appearance vs. reality when the MM supernova comes?

    • @BaggageClaim
      @BaggageClaim  Pƙed 25 dny +8

      With Amber, she had such a public fall that she's gone into hiding, so she can privately find more people to ensnare. I suspect Meghan will have a similar (not as massive though) fall from grace when she and Harry get divorced, and she'll go into hiding. I think the public is starting to learn that already. Whether it's a lesson that will stick is another issue.

    • @ostwelt
      @ostwelt Pƙed 22 dny

      @@BaggageClaim If any lesson is learnt by Harkle it will by definition be the wrong one (because they lack the necessary psychology balance to make the correct relationship appreciation).
      For society at large, no. Historically there is no evidence of the lessons of NPD being learnt by society. Depsite the ancient texts like the Bible or the Greeks warning of them (NPD named for the Greek mythological figure Narcissus, who fell in love with his own reflection). The problem is ClusterB's are blessed with immense charm and wit (e.g. Trump/Johnson) which dazzles all of us. For how long depends but unless you do full psychological evaluation of all the people you meet in the first few minutes !!!!!! (Imagine on that date: "sorry I am not buying you another drink until I have done a full Hare Psychopathy test!") Then PD diagnosis will only come with painful hindsight.

  • @reddragon1030
    @reddragon1030 Pƙed 22 dny +2

    Great video!! Thank you again Baggage Claim and happy 300k subscribers!

  • @justBeOrDontB7568
    @justBeOrDontB7568 Pƙed 22 dny +1

    I get a smile on my face when a new Baggage Claim video drops. Narcissim is such a tough thing to talk about and it's even worse having to deal with one, but you talked about it so well. A weary day at work is definitely made up by your smile and positive vibes!

  • @katherinemartin3591
    @katherinemartin3591 Pƙed 22 dny +5

    Great to see your face! You are just brilliant with your observations and insights! ❀

  • @randomrey6568
    @randomrey6568 Pƙed 22 dny +7

    Congratulations on 300k!!!!

  • @matthewhines8509
    @matthewhines8509 Pƙed 22 dny +2

    Always such an easy watch, great that you're featuring more in your videos.

  • @eliuryes2778
    @eliuryes2778 Pƙed 22 dny +1

    It never fails to amaze me the level of research and effort you put in to your videos. That's why you're one of my favorite creators when it comes to media discussions and essays. I like this new style that you're going for in your videos. Keep it up!

  • @ajaxrosso1
    @ajaxrosso1 Pƙed 22 dny +3

    Baggage claim, your videos are awesome and you're beautiful!

  • @user-lr5yy4io2w
    @user-lr5yy4io2w Pƙed 22 dny +3

    Your work is spectacular. The only improvement would be to produce more of it. More content, more videos. Each are fantastic.

  • @SJ-xg3rv
    @SJ-xg3rv Pƙed 21 dnem +1

    I enjoyed your description of our ego and it's need to codify what we believe is our identity, and the fight it puts up when given uncomfortable truths about our behaviour, and the cognitive dissonance that we then struggle with. Your reminder of the need to be humble is important.

  • @Victoria_Winters
    @Victoria_Winters Pƙed 16 dny

    Wow-Excellent video! Thank you!

  • @sternonisoil
    @sternonisoil Pƙed 22 dny +16

    She's back! 😄🎉

    • @DLC1990
      @DLC1990 Pƙed 22 dny

      Notice how she has put herself more into the vid as well?
      I remember suggesting this in a previous post.
      Itll work like a charm for views

  • @lord--snow
    @lord--snow Pƙed 22 dny +4

    I love your analyses of NPD, and Meghan Markle is a textbook narcissist. I have watched all your videos, and would love more content dissecting Meghan's awful behaviour and her inability to introspect and understand that it is her actions and not her skin that make her repulsive to so many people!

  • @annafife9094
    @annafife9094 Pƙed 21 dnem +1

    I loved what you said about the ego craving stability, that was such a helpful way to frame it.
    Also, that had to be the best June's Journey bit ever. My daughter plays it, and really enjoys it.

  • @carlkoh
    @carlkoh Pƙed 18 dny

    Very, very good and thought provoking video. Well done!

  • @susankayewriter
    @susankayewriter Pƙed 22 dny +7

    I am endlessly fascinated by narcissism and those in the web of it. (I struggle with whether they are victims or happy travelers on that particular road.) Anyway, I just wanted to say that this is another great video and that I love your delivery and broad topics. Talking Meghan and Harry and then pivoting to Geek culture and holding your own with Drinker and Co is no mean feat.

  • @onedaychangewillcome
    @onedaychangewillcome Pƙed 17 dny

    Brilliant! Thank you for this short but very informative talk about the narc and the very good advice as to how we should deal with our own ego.

  • @Bunnykins771
    @Bunnykins771 Pƙed 20 dny +2

    Dear Baggage,
    What an excellent video!
    Many thanks.

  • @fuferito
    @fuferito Pƙed 22 dny +5

    I see that we've all learned a lot on the subject of narcissism from HG Tudor.

  • @stompieandsuzie
    @stompieandsuzie Pƙed 22 dny +2

    Do an analysis of Baby Reindeer!

  • @laurareeves9754
    @laurareeves9754 Pƙed 21 dnem +2

    Your content is always superior. Thank you for all your hard work.

  • @KimM-hd6sf
    @KimM-hd6sf Pƙed 18 dny

    Thank you for the way you explained this topic. You have a relaxing and ease to draw your audience in. Good video!

  • @bloodysoul7346
    @bloodysoul7346 Pƙed 22 dny +4

    june's journey is really a wonderfull game.. the storyline, the art style is everything!! and it's very underrated

  • @rottengirl4046
    @rottengirl4046 Pƙed 22 dny +3

    Four minutes ago!! This is a personál record, I want a keychain! 😂😂🎉

  • @rogerschumacher9202
    @rogerschumacher9202 Pƙed 13 dny

    Excellent video, I appreciate your analysis of ego and humility. You are right, being able to discern between the two is the key to not only being happy but living a fulfilled and productive life.

  • @hsk2909
    @hsk2909 Pƙed 22 dny +2

    Love the way that you turn around this understanding narcissism journey as an onlooker (or participant in their life in one form or another) in to understanding more about our own disappointments and expectations not being fulfilled or exactly the way we want it. At the 09.00 mark forward or a bit earlier, when you speak about your own experience with your own videos, when something doesn't perform view wise the way one somehow expected to, is a weird sensation. I have another channel(i am a visual artist) where i make videos of (some) very famous people, alterations to their music, using remixes and footage of the performer in question and make up entirely new videos, in unexpected ways, and sometimes i have worked on a video like 6, 9 months..a YEAR sometimes before everything sits correctly and i'm obviously super proud of my own work and i have a very good "fan base" whom have followed me since the beginning, some nine years ago..(but i am NOT monetized, so i am limited in visibility by algorithms, i get that) it feels i dunno..disappointing, strange..it's a weird feeling because it me ME feel like i'm feeling something WRONG or shameful so to say. But at the end of the day, i have spent so much time of my life alone in various sets and circumstances and for a number of reasons and i think about shit real deeply and therefore am always the first one to analyze my own judgments about myself. Am i REALLY behaving or reacting in a selfish or egotistical manner because of THIS (whatever it happens to be) ? or..am i just feeling especially vulnerable right now for some reason, i analyze my WHOLE life situation as one, to get a complete picture of -where i am at right now. I EASILY blame myself for shit when i shouldn't, because i was TAUGHT that way by a set of really strict and religious parents, and as an atheist and artist and everything that makes me a person i tend to feel a bit like an outsider in most situations (because of very disturbing things that happened in my childhood, one becomes a life long "weirdo" so to say) , so..when i feel that insecurity about myself creep up when some video "only" makes it to 2000 plus views or whatever when i was expecting OLD numbers of 10k or whatever..it takes me on an analytical journey INSIDE, rather than outside. And so, i know i am NOT a narc. They never make such an interior journey with themselves.
    Sorry i rambled on here a bit but, thanks for a BRILLIANT video and communications , openness and showing your own vulnerable feelings. It really helped me right now. I know it will have the same effect on so many others. You are a true healer. (ps. edited only for typo reasons)

  • @andydavid683
    @andydavid683 Pƙed 22 dny +3

    She has no joy, ironic how the one woman to beat the odds and win the heart of a real life Prince without being of royal or noble birth.............. You'd win 4 State lotteries before you could come into the British Royal Family.
    Yet she's a far cry from Cinderella or Rapunzel,she has beauty but no elegance, no selflessness,lack of appreciation for her life, seeking or dare I say begging for attention..... I honestly pity her kid's mental health, Harry made his choice
    We all have our flaws but Megan personifies them. The wicked can never know happiness.

  • @kevinroark5815
    @kevinroark5815 Pƙed 22 dny +3

    Why did the Prince selected an average looking divorced B actress is beyond my comprehension.

    • @sojalemmi1515
      @sojalemmi1515 Pƙed 22 dny +1

      It was probably the first black but not too black person he ever met and thought it would be a great virtue signal to bring someone he could sell as a "common black person" into the royal family.

  • @EiramH1112
    @EiramH1112 Pƙed 18 dny

    Excellent video. You answered questions I've often wondered about

  • @alissa2228
    @alissa2228 Pƙed 22 dny

    I really appreciate you turning it back on us the audience, in how we can take these lessons into our own lives. It is great to take the time to self-reflect on what we personally can do to be better and more happy in our own lives.

  • @paranoyd70
    @paranoyd70 Pƙed 22 dny +3

    Narcissists aren't born, they are made. And I've seen a massive spike in narcissism in recent years. The "victim" culture has created many of them and keeps creating many more.

  • @KhristyNeke
    @KhristyNeke Pƙed 22 dny +3

    You look beautiful.. Love your Hair ❀

    • @jesush.tap-dancingchrist7328
      @jesush.tap-dancingchrist7328 Pƙed 22 dny +1

      Did you see BaggageClaim's wedding photos she posted yesterday? Holy shit!

    • @KhristyNeke
      @KhristyNeke Pƙed 22 dny

      @@jesush.tap-dancingchrist7328 I just did.. Thank you
      She looks gorgeous like wow ...

  • @JollyJoker369
    @JollyJoker369 Pƙed 22 dny +2

    ALWAYS great to see you. Awesome content. Well done.

  • @MPA2172
    @MPA2172 Pƙed 21 dnem +1

    I needed this more than I knew! Thank you for your words and wisdom!

  • @kokunaijin
    @kokunaijin Pƙed 22 dny +7

    Does anybody else watch these videos just for confirmation that you are not a narcisist? 😅😅

  • @ChrisMorganComedy
    @ChrisMorganComedy Pƙed 22 dny +3

    The baggage claim is hotter than Meghan

  • @namelessformlesscosmichorr620

    Astoundingly impressive submission! This is why I'm a satisfied subscriber.

  • @Jpjptmtm
    @Jpjptmtm Pƙed 18 dny

    I was looking forward for your two cents on this
    I can say it's worth the wait.
    keep up the good work.