The Side Effects of Being Human - ASMR Supportive Friend / Mental Health vlog
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- čas přidán 2. 08. 2024
- I call this "The Side Effects of Being Human" after compiling the list of topics provided by viewers and seeing how it looks like the side effects listed on a prescription drug label. Says a lot about our species.
I “act” as a supportive friend while rowing my boat down a winding stream of consciousness that contains my unadulterated thoughts, views, feelings, advice, knowledge and experiences on a wide variety of mental health topics primarily suggested by viewers that they themselves or someone they know are dealing with. I also swear. A lot. I get very emotional and defensive whenever I talk about how people are mistreated in this world. What can I say, I wear my heart proudly on my throat.
Please remember - if you are having suicidal thoughts, dealing with severe depression, self-harm, etc., please seek a professional, call a national or local hot-line, emergency office, etc.
00:00:00 Intro
00:11:55 Fire symbolism
00:22:00 The list of viewer provided topics
00:24:50 Lack of mental health education
00:37:39 Suicidal thoughts & suicide
00:44:23 The animal inside us - Fear & anger
00:46:58 Ignorance (bigotry, racism, sexism, etc.)
00:52:37 We're all perfectly imperfect - Fake people & inadequacy
00:54:45 Being balanced
00:57:30 Makeup, Fear of social rejection
00:59:00 Don't let the wrong people rent your headspace
00:59:58 Pick your head up! Be confident!
01:00:34 Why I Run My Channel
01:02:41 Don't allow yourself to be a peg
01:03:25 Fuck the world (but be caring)!
01:04:00 My mantras
01:05:44 The power of positive words
01:10:24 This too shall pass
01:15:25 Seeking revenge
01:19:08 Being stoic
01:20:37 Being progressive (minded)
01:21:19 Pros and cons of being alone
01:25:25 Perspective / Someone always has it worse off
01:26:11 Keeping a simple perspective
01:26:24 Being constructive
01:28:15 Want of a simple life - Respect for Indigenous People
01:29:22 Be happy with what you have, who & where you are
01:30:17 Be the King / Queen of your Mental Realm
01:32:20 Self management - Taking ownership / accountability
01:36:40 Addiction to opiates & medication - Effects of bullying
01:40:14 You have the power to beat your addictions!
01:44:13 K.I.S.S. (Keep it Simple Stupid)
01:47:13 Managing emotions
01:48:52 Being alone / Alone in a crowd
01:52:11 Guilt, Mistakes, Forgiving yourself
01:55:17 Self-harm - You can beat it!
01:57:33 One thing, one moment at a time
02:00:14 Overthinking / Existential questions
02:01:26 It's okay to say no (especially to toxic people)
02:02:37 Cyber bullying
02:02:48 How to be a supportive friend
02:06:35 Dealing with the holidays - Military personnel
02:08:56 Purpose - Nihilism - Making life meaningful
02:11:39 Loss of loved ones
02:13:29 Worrying - Can't worry about what you can't control
02:17:34 Abuse (abusive / neglective parents)
02:19:56 People turning on you - Trust
02:20:58 Finding inspiration - Grow, take risks, try new things
02:22:01 Never let 'em see you sweat
02:22:43 Be present - Don't stay lost in your head
02:23:41 Physical disabilities & conditions
02:25:13 Final thoughts
Audio from select videos available for download:
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Whether you are new to this little video of mine or are watching it again, I just wanted to drop in after all these years (after noticing people still commenting and watching) to say that I wish you nothing but the best as you travel down and forge your own path in life.
There may not be any guarantees from one day to the next, and we all have to make the best of the hand we are dealt. Just try your best to enjoy and make the most of the good times, and to overcome and get through the bad times.
Peace,
ER
Thank you for wondering have a good one man.
Cool seeing your older videos
Always nice to revisit a classic. Not to mention one of thr videos with the most voice behind it. Most videos are pure whispering, you should do more gentle speaking :)
thank you uncle ER. this vid really helped me
thank you
not enough men talk about mental health, im a 16 year old boy and i think it’s about time boys felt like they can talk about mental health
Honestly yeah, it's silly how many people boys/men are so closed off about their own heads and thoughts. I'm 13 and really open, but you're always gonna come across as weak or something stupid like that when you're the only one strong enough to talk about your thoughts and emotional struggles.
@@harrypowell99 that's very true I'm sorting going through mental health issues because I'm trying to accept myself and its hard but hopefully I will and I'll be truly happy sorry for rambling
Bitchy Mitchie I'm going through the same thing. You're not alone.
Why is humanity f up like males things like "be a MAN!" Tf? We humans are heartless beings once we hit the 10th year
Bitchy Mitchie I hope you are able to get through whatever you are dealing with too. Sharing can be very helpful and I'm glad you are able to share at least a little of what you're going through.
Honestly rift, youre a special person.
***** of course
***** not everyone
***** Nah, I mean like people in ISIS, they're not special are they xD
We're all the same, just fuel in the system of the world. Designed to know only what we should.
+BleskFilms Fuel in the system of the world...yet is not the system of the world up to us?
Being human is hard man
It sure is.
i feel like being any big game animal would too or any plant
Being psychotic is actually pretty fun man
@@hawksfan8870 Finally someone who agrees!
I hope things are going well for you. If you want to talk to someone, let me know. My contact information is in my about section.
If ASMR therapy ever takes off and goes "mainstream," future generations will read about and watch ER as perhaps the most innovative performer of his time, and someone who laid the foundation for future generations. I really believe ER has a grand idea of what ASMR could be.
Yep, I think soon there will be an ASMR CHANNEL on TV through dish network or something. And I can see E.R. hosting a "primetime" show. Kind of like doctor Oz.
Oh and Bob Ross was the creator of ASMR , unknowingly. Lol
friendlyfire53 ah you're too kind. I just think asmr as a medium has so much potential and we've only barely started breaking ground artistically.
Markus A did you just pull that name out of your ass?
Markus A i was kind of implying that if there was to be an ASMR CHANNEL, Bob Ross was already "it". He unintentionally, in a way started it. Bob Ross brought me to ASMR. ASMR brought me here.
Over three years after you posted this it saved my life. Not only did I feel too foolish and embarrassed to call a suicide hotline, I was more comfortable listening to this and fighting my demons on my own. You made me feel loved and I haven't had that in a while. I want to thank you for this. From the heart. Whether or not you meant this for me or for someone else, I feel the love and because of you my 1 year old boy will grow up with a father.
Shane Wilson
Are you okay today man? How’s the baby?
I hope you doing better 🙏🙏❤️
Okk well that’s amazing you where able to share this I hope your doing well ok latters
That's good to hear. Hope you're continuing to strike high, man.
I really hope you're still doing great after 2 years! I hope your child will become as strong as you ❤
I just found this video today - August 1, 2019. I have a tattoo that reads “this too shall pass” I got it a couple years ago, when I finally started going uphill in my daily battle with mental health. The self-harm and suicidal thoughts are finally over
Hope you are doing good!
That's awesome. What's your secret?
Proud of you for fighting
Micah V. I finally stopped looking for my parents approval and just became me for who I am.
Angelina Dubois thank you!
It was a very tough go
I come to this video so often. To help me sleep but to remind myself someone out there has my back no matter what. Thank you Paul, for giving me support when nothing seems to make sense
You don't act like a caring friend. You are. You are also a wonderful human being and you saved me today, from a lot of pain and self-loathing. Thank you so much for that. Please know that your help really changes lives.
do you ever get too depressed to sleep?
@@fakehandle666 yes
Ever realize that depression is the inability to feel happiness
Butter
@@fakehandle666 i can relate so much .
good video. I also know what it's like to go through hell in life. I lost my wife to diabetes 3 years ago a week before our birthday ( we were the same age, only a day apart). we had a 2 year old daughter whom I was left alone to raise. after her death, every night when I went to sleep I experienced sharp pains in my chest and my arms would go numb. I thought, every night, that I was going to have a heart attack. this was such a strong feeling for me that i feared night time, and became an insomniac. I couldn't sleep because I knew out would happen again, I feared out happening again, and every night for 3 years it happened, so many times I rushed to the e.r thinking I was going to die, I became nauseated and would get sick in the toilet, the e.r doctors told me there was nothing wrong with me, it was all in my head...I thought my life was over, I'd never be able to cope. I've had doctors try to put me on anti depressants, nothing worked, anti depressants made it worse but made those same feelings come through the day as well. finally I found a doctor I could talk to. I explained to her my situation, she suggested a counselor, I was never the type to see a counselor, I didn't want to see one, I always thought only people with mental disorders should see them, but I went, I saw a counselor anyway, we talked, he asked me about things in my life that stressed me out, what was causing me anxiety, why I felt like I was having a heart attack, I explained to him how I blamed myself for my wife's death. after hearing my life's story he explained to me I was perfectly fine, he told me I was having anxiety attacks. after doing research and listening to other anxiety sufferers stories, I realized that's exactly what it was. he explained to me that the reason I was having these attacks was because I want dealing with her death the way I should be. I held it in, I tried to ignore it, not because I didn't live her, not because I didn't miss her, but on the contrary, I did love her, I did miss her, I just didn't want to hurt, so I tried to push my emotions aside, he gave me some amazing tips, which I thought "yeah right, this won't work for me, this is stupid" but I went along with it and it did help. ive not had an anxiety attack now for awhile, while my wife's death still does bother me, I've realized it wasn't my fault, I did for her everything that I could possibly do. it doesn't take those feelings of hurt and lonliness away, but I've learned to deal with them. just know if your like me, don't hide your emotions, don't hold it in under the facade off being strong, hiding your feelings doesn't make you strong, dealing with them is what makes you strong, everyone goes through pain, hurt, loneliness, remember, it's not that you survived the storm, it's how you got through the storm that makes you who you are. suicide is never the answer. suicide causes more harm than good. no matter who you are there is always someone out there who cares for you. even if sometimes out doesn't seem like it. before you consider suicide, consider this, who will you be hurting by you ending your life? I know one thing, I have my daughter, she depends on me, she lost her mother, I couldn't ever take her father away from her as well, just please understand that only death is permanent.
also. another thing that helped me. the midwest center for anxiety. outs not free. but it actually does help to hear other people talk about their problems with anxiety, out makes you realize your not alone and your not a lost cause, your not hopeless.
God bless you, +Mike V. Sometimes it's hard to even get out of bed with all you've been through, and people have been crushed by less. Thank you for having the strength to keep going, to post this. Hopefully this post helps someone out there that needs to hear this- that it's ok to get help, that its ok to hurt sometimes too, and that there are ways to deal short of ending it. And yes, death is a permanent fix for a temporary problem.
May the Lord turn your ashes to beauty and continue to bless you and your daughter. Good days are still to come, my friend. Hang in there.
Thank you! Some days are better than others. Even though it's been 4 years this October, it doesn't make it any better. I thank God for my daughter, she helped me get through it, she saw me cry and she would start crying even though she didn't really understand what was happening, so I told myself I want going to cry anymore, especially around her because i didn't want it to effect her anymore than what it already did. I know a lot of people who go through things like this or that, not everyone feels they have someone to help then through it, I guess I was fortunate to have my daughter. I just like to let people know that no matter what the circumstance is, there's an old saying my counselor told me to repeat to myself when I was depressed it goes; this too, shall pass! And it's the truth, most everything in life, good or bad, is temporary and depending on how you deal with it, you most often come out stronger and wiser for it. The Strifes in life are what build our character. The thing I keep telling myself I'd " don't ever give up!" Yes it's hard but the alternative is not worth it. I hope, if there is anyone going through a really hard situation right now and is reading this, contemplating suicide, reading this will change their mind. Nobody is hopeless. Everyone deserves a chance at a happy life! You'll never get that chance again if your dead.
God blesd u mike!! respect!
God blesd u mike!! respect!
The dislikes are people who fell asleep and their hand slipped..
This comment is more accurate then the current Covid 19 Tests
yes indeed
The dislikes are from people who think hes talking gibberish, like me
I did that on a recent video I think it was the anime man
And the fake cunts being exposed
This dude is like the bob ross of ASMR
Dude, Bob Ross is the Bob Ross of ASMR.
@@sirisaacclarke4964 Very true I should say ._.
Jesus Christ died and suffered to save us all and pay for all of our sins accept your free gift of salvation and follow Jesus Christ
@@vurxell2266 this is CZcams, not church
@@vurxell2266 you gotta sin a little bit otherwise jesus died for nothing
I genuinely like this guy
John Doe he's a great guy
John Doe “like” is an understatement, I freakin love this man
He radiates good vibes
That's why I subbed on both of my accounts
just some yandere with internet access AHHAHHAHAHAHAHHAHA
You mentioned an analogy about being a flower and getting trampled. Us guys tend to give each other a hard time (both online and in person), but after watching this it reminds me that I might be guilty of that at times. Just because we're comfortable with something, doesn't always make it okay to joke about. One man's joke could be another man's struggle. Thanks E.R.
Andrew Romeril I've been there myself and have been guilty too.
"Actions are reactions don't be quick to judge, you may not know the hardships people don't speak of. It's best to step back and observe with cool, for we all must meet our moment of truth."
-Gangstarr, Moment of Truth
I was a piece of shit to one kid in primary school. I befriended him towards the end, but by then it was too late and we haven't seen each other since we graduated to high school in 2010.
I maintained a level of cognitive dissonance that allowed me to bully him for years and think it was okay. I feel horrible, ashamed and disgusted in myself to this very day. It's one of my deeper regrets that I wish I could fix.
@@Omega4Productions I get why that would get you down. Do remember that you realized it yourself before it was all too late and decided to do it right. I'm glad you got to befriend him in the end even though it didn't last - he must've appreciated the changes you made as well👍🏼
@@sinus7411 Yeah, it'd just be easy to reconcile properly now that we're both adults. Unfortunately, he's deleted his Facebook account at some point, so my only method of getting in contact with him is null and void.
It sucks, man.
2 hours and 30 minutes, and not one ad. Just shows how much he cares for his viewers well-being, along with the talk at the beginning.
I haven’t seen any asmrtists that put ads In the middle of their vids
@@SuperSmashMyAss I’ve seen a million do it
I fell apart crying as soon as he offered to light the fireplace. It just hit me somewhere special that someone would do something like that out of pure kindness and hospitality. I only ever bring pain to those around me, so it felt good to have someone say they appreciated me enough to light a fireplace for me. Thank you
Hey are you good? I hope you’re ok.
You doing ok? I hope you are, you deserve to.
Be a Muslim ❤
For everyone.
Hey. I hope things are going good for you all. Please keep of trying to make things better for yourself. If you want to talk to someone about something, let me know. My contact information is in my channel's about section. And I have something in my about section and a helpful playlist that could help you. They have helpful information, ideas and links to other helpful resources. If you don't want to talk to me, please talk to someone else though, like friends or family, or maybe even a professional. There are people out there who care and can help. I hope this helps. God bless.
@@corbanoT.V. Hey. I hope things are going good for you. Please keep on trying to make things better for yourself. If you want to talk to someone about something, let me know. My contact information is in my channel's about section. And I have something in my about section and a helpful playlist that could help you. They have helpful information, ideas and links to other helpful resources. If you don't want to talk to me, please talk to someone else though, like friends or family, or maybe even a professional. There are people out there who care and can help. I hope this helps. God bless.
After being bullied on the bus, I came home and watched this. It helps so much.
I hope that things have improved now x
I know how you feel. Don't worry, you're not worthless. To someone, your special. But true meaningful people aren't meant to make you feel amazing, but show you you are.
@@drivernephi170 r/oddlyspecific
No it ain’t Jocelyn Flores
Les Anderson. I see your pic and you are beautiful. I wish so much I could have been there to bully those bullies. Please know that whomever these bullies are THEY HATE THEMSELVES more than we ever could. That's why they act like fools. YOU ARE LOVED, SWEETHEART!!!
"You need to find solace in your situation. You need to find the good in the situation." This is great advice that I think works in many different life situatons ^_^ Sometimes it's easy to let the negative things in life get you down, even when there are a lot of good things happening. This quote from you is something I'll keep in the front of my mind. I haven't made it all the way through this video yet, but thanks for being so relatable and helpful, Paul.
Caroline ASMR Hey thanks Caroline. It's not always as easy as what I've said. It's not easy to always find the good in life. Sometimes depression and negative thoughts are just too overpowering. But if someone can recognize them as just thoughts and feelings and that they really want to live, and they keep battling the war in their mind, they'll grow stronger. It's easy to sit in front of a camera and say everything will be alright, you have the power, etc., etc., but it's harder when you're that person in real life struggling in those dark moments. But believe me, I can speak from experience. I shut myself in my room and took antihistamines to sleep for 24 hours in order to escape the mental anguish. But I made it through to this day. I continue to learn and adapt and sometimes I have my bad days still. But everything I said in this video is really what I try to think of and do all the time. Some of the stuff are things I picked up from artists, philosophers, and various other people. We all have to find what works for us. Hopefully I can offer a little bit of that.Sorry for the book! ;)
@@Milo-xb3gj Observe greatness.
Why are people typing articles when you can just type lol
@@LemonadetvYT ???
This is dumb and obvious advice.
Can’t believe anyone disliked this, this dude is solid🙏
Confess with your mouth that Jesus Christ is your Lord and Savior and God brought Jesus Christ back from the dead three days later and believe it in your heart and you will be saved
@@vurxell2266 this isn't church
@@_Mrrock yup, I'm atheist.
@@_Mrrock then simply scroll past the next time.
@@sicksadworld6221 an idiotic comment I made I now understand this person tries to help others, forgive me
I just turned 21 at the end of last year. My mom passed a month ago, leaving me and my two younger siblings at 16 and 8 on our own. I'm trying to support them in any way I can on military income, or with emotional availability, but it gets really hard sometimes. I've been trying to find different ways to handle the sudden influx of garbage in my path in healthy ways, and this has certainly helped. I've been following you for the last seven years now and I always find myself coming back to you and your content. Thank you so much for all that you do, Rift.
I’m really sorry for you. That sounds like a shit situation on so many different levels. Can social services not help you guys? Are there no other family members to help you a little? Make sure to try and keep you guys busy, to try and keep things distracted. If you can afford it, treat yourselves every now and then. It’s important that we do that, but people will forget that so easily. It’s still important though. Hope things are ok, even with the world crumbling.
people fear what they do not understand
But there are some who are attracted to the unknown. Some who embrace it. Challenge it. Play with it.
The most paranoid people are the ones who are most aware
Very true.
+battleshipfleet
I do not understand why someone would cut off peoples head in the name if imaginary friend, and I fear those people.
That's not wrong. I know you're going with this generalization to the gay thing, and you're wrong here too.
I have colours I dislike, food I don't like. Doesn't mean I fear spinach soup is gonna kill me, doesn't mean I disapprove their existence or other people's right to enjoy them.
what
You're my favourite ASMRtist. It's so rare to find high quality, intelligent, DECENT people. To be genuinely decent you have to have thought about shit A LOT. That's how I can tell you're decent. Because you're so thoughtful. Life is not simple and there are no simple answers. It's only the assholes who'll tell you it is. Please keep going.I was having an excruciatingly bad day, and you're SUCH a help. These vids are higher quality than your others because they're not just ASMR (which you're great at btw), they're life enhancing.
+SuGaRuSh14 The thing you said about the flower was SO POIGNANT AND MEANINGFUL.
+SuGaRuSh14 You have an air about you of Brad Pitt. You don't look like him but you have that what I would call: strong decency. Which is the best kind of decency.
I agree with everything you said, especially the decent people being thoughtful
"It's only the assholes who'll tell you it is
Making situations/solutions simple does not make you a indecent person. Many times the simple solution is the best..... thinking simple is how you get things done.
whether you like this dude or not, you cant deny the fact he's saved literal lives with his words and just raw emotion.
It's with a heavy heart I write this message. I haven't felt the same in awhile. My heart feels like it's sinking into me and the only thing I can do is cry and cry and cry. I don't know why I feel this way. I just woke up one day and felt like my heart was made of stone and is affecting me physically. I hope you're doing amazing whoever reads this.
Rooting for you 🫵
I hope your okay I love you and hope this passes 💜💜
this too shall pass, i love u, you’ll be okay
damn this hit me hard at 1am ♥️
I have felt the exact same way before and I truly hope you are doing better now. Things will get better with time ❤️
I begin student teaching in a few weeks. I want to say you've been a constant source of inspiration and insight for me. I wish I could impart even half of this video's content for my fifth graders. My doubts and fears coagulate in my brain like a cancer, but people like you give me courage, hope and strength to become the teacher our young people want and need for a bright future. Thank you ER, keep on doing what you do. We love you for it.
Bonfire Keeper James Best of luck with what sounds like a new career! I bet you will have a lot of great positive impact on those 5th graders as you evolve as a teacher.
Homework is a fucking plague, please dont assign too much
How has the last 4 years been?
how is it going?
I had a massive and sudden anxiety attack because I realised that I am going to experience death and it could happen at any time, this helped a little.
The realization of your own mortality is the most painful kind of anxiety.
It is the reason why so many intellectuals were depressed.
Nothing you do matters! Life is meaningless! Free will is an illusion! Who cares?
Yeah, I have the same kind of anxiety for months when the doctors didn't give me an answer to my pains and "esps" after what appeared to be registered as trauma (wont share lol, tho i dont know if it was the pain that created it or the most intense shock i ever experienced that did it, however it was... it was like both crashing down on me at the time so i either almost fainted due to the pain or the shock, made me believed i was dying tho cos of the state of my mind back then),. Especially when you know that no matter what, you'll really going to feel pain upon death unless you're lucky enough to have a good enough handgun or get dispersed instantly.
I know your comment is a year old but this happened to me a couple of weeks ago. I had a huge panic attack and was pacing up and down my living room in tears. It sucks, worst panic attack I've had so I feel ya!
_Yorick _ way to be positive.
man... this is the best conversation i’ve never had, he’s like a dad i’ve never had, man ily
This must be Fate... I revisit this video that helped me years back for general depression and anxiety, now for trust issues from fake friends, toxic family members, and a cheating short-term girlfriend; and my last spot saved is just as he starts to talk about dealing with trust issues and betrayal/people turning on you.
Thank you, Rift!
I'm a little nervous to watch this because some of the topics are somewhat troubling to me.
But it also seems like a really good video.
+Heinrich Petsch I understand. Thanks for watching, if you do. Hope it helps....
+Heinrich Petsch I understand that this is a 7 month old comment, but if you haven't already, you might want find a reputable psychologist whom you can trust - it's incredible what they will show you about your mind. You can learn to control your mind & its responses to difficult situations in ways you never knew existed!
+Ephemeral Rift Also Ephemeral I haven't been able to watch the whole video but it's obvious that you are well researched and knowledgeable on mental health strategies - and it pays dividends to have that understanding shown even in a simple ASMR video, instead of mindless chatter (although that's relaxing too) :)
I'm not allowed to draw on the walls.
Jacob Riht Me neither!
Ephemeral Rift GET REKT M8
R/woooosh
@@gachafinepvplegend what
gacha fine ???
5 years ago, this video may have saved my life when I was at my lowest. Only now as I’ve healed from my past have I realized how much I am in such a debt to you and your words. Thank you.
I just want to go out and say this:
Rift your videos are something special. I’ve never seen a individual such as yourself devoting so much time to the action of helping others on CZcams. Now I’m not saying there aren’t others who make videos like this, as there probably are others. But in this moment I just want to appreciate this video. This man who has devoted so much of his personal time for the benefit of others. There are many of us that have had dark thoughts circling us like sharks, but I believe videos like these are the bright light which blinds those circling thoughts, allowing us to escape the murky water to which those ideas originated from. I could rant about personal experience, but this isn’t about me. It’s about appreciating this man. Thank you rift, with all my heart thank you ❤️
Is this what society has come to, pure magic when someone helps you? Isn't that the natural reaction people should have..kindness, being intelligent, and helping ease someones weak annoying emotions people these days need to make their personality based on. It pissed me off how dark a world is where people get suprised when genuine action is shown, as though the opposite reaction is usually disgust and malice.
@@WitchKing-Of-Angmar unfortunately, yes. basic human kindness is not a basic human trait. the world conditions us to hide and suppress emotions, and videos like these can be the light at the end of the tunnel for people in a very dark place. genuine kindness shown for no other reason than to help should not be underestimated for its impact.
In a way I appreciate the swearing in this, the sense of actually stating the information is more acknowledgable to my state of mind.
Thankyou paul I really appreciate your videos.
Youre a very strong and honorable man and I respect that
Euan Cleveland I pick my moments when it comes to swearing. I'm a passionate person. I know when and when not to swear especially around our son or other kids, adults, etc. Time and place for everything, you know. Thanks for the kind words and for watching.
"Who the heck is going to watch this long",
I did, Rift, I did. And I could not be happier for having done that, it helped me so much.
Dear anyone reading this.
You are immensely beautiful and are truly deserving of happiness.
Reeeeaaaally??? U would take that statement back if u saw my fugly mug
Listen. I wish i could believe you, but if that were true. Why does just waking up in the morning hurt. Why does waking up and remembering my loved ones are gone happen. I know everyone goes through it. Time doesent heal it. Nothing does. So im sorry but who i am right now. Hiding everything from everyone behind a fake smile. I dont deserve happyness.
Chara 58
You need to talk my guy?
@@redactedredacted4505 I realise this was a few weeks ago but what was written at the start of the video is true. This too shall pass, i watched this 5 years ago when ER uploaded it and i just came back for the nostalgia i guess. I was in a very bad place then but now I'm doing better now.
In time everything gets better, not saying it will only days, weeks or months but gradually over time things always improve.
Thanks, that's sweet coming from a stranger
I need this rn. A recent loss has really made me rethink stuff.
Everyone:
*make sure the people you love know you love them*
I shouldn't take this too literally cuz I have a crush on a friend 👀
and now's not the time
yum yum sandwich
I struggle with depression, and some anxiety and have the hardest time relaxing. A few years back I found ASMR videos and some helped me to relax. Today I discovered your potato microphones video and really, really liked it. This video has really helped me so thank you for the help calming down after a stressful day and thank you for the time you take to to make your videos, they're wonderful.
Abby Turrner Sorry to hear about your battles, but you're not alone. Thanks for finding the video and for the kind words. Sending you all my best!
I beat my depression and anxiety with one simple method. I acknowledged Borel's law and the absurdity of all existence. I just don't need to care now, I'm happy just living, even if it's temporary.
@@K4inan ur shit for saying that
@@v3dansh998 no not really mate
@@K4inan
Unless you are 100% positive, you can't say that.
@K4inan Never doubt anybody’s life unless you understand what they’re going through. Simply stating that this person is not right about their own life is extremely rude. Just because you’re anonymous online doesnt mean there isn’t someone getting hurt by your words.
Mia L You can never know what someone else is going through. You can never know their life. You might think you do, you might have an idea but you will never know what they've gone through. Hell, sometimes you don't even know that about yourself.
I didn't show this to her, but I did say a few things from this video. I honestly believe that because of you, my love is still here with me.
I know this will be flooded by a sea of other comments. Please know, I owe you so much, or at the very, very least, thank you. Godspeed you brilliant man and fantastic asmrtist.
I show my partners this too. I never want them to think their lives aren't valuable to me
Just coming to this now after having broke up with the love of my life, which came just after becoming unemployed. I've struggled with depression and addiction through 2018 and so in my mind 2019 can't get worse from here. This video has already helped me and I'll be striving for the best I can this year.
Cannot thank Rift enough xx
I hope life has improved. Love from Edinburgh.
I pray you’re doing better man. If prayer isn’t your thing (I get it, not everyone’s religious) I HOPE you’re doing better. Sending good vibes.
Everything reminds me of her and I feel my heart is in bits. I can't think about anything else but her but you've helped a little bit so thank you.
same here man. the guilts and the heartbreak are fucking eating me alive
I know the feeling man...My ego was basically destroyed when she left for a trans, and I'll be honest, they are really the only group of people I discriminate against, time and time again I tried making friends with a trans, but every time they end up being bad people in one way or another in my experience
I'm going through the same thing now, so I wanted to ask you how you're feeling after a year. Did you get over her? Get her back? Find someone better? Or does it linger? Sorry for being intrusive, but I wanna check on you as a fellow Human being, and I'd like to hear that things are well with you to kinda prove to myself that maybe I'll be ok in the future.
Yeah man. I feel your pain. I do. If you work on yourself as best you can, you might just meet another woman who gives you an immense special connection. You might not. But your best shot is to become the best version of yourself, despite your pain. I know how dibilitating the pain can be and how hard it can be. I lost the love of my life suddenly. I hurt all the time. Can hardly function. Medication, racing heart, endless suffering. But your best self is your best chance, there is no other choice. Love and peace.
The same happened. Shit was hard as fuck, but 8 month later I was getting better.
And then I stumbled across her. She avoided to look at me, avoided to get close to me, and waited for her boyfriend to come. She walked past me with him, keeping the head down. And here I am, after a stop in a bar.
Honestly how fuckin' pathetic isn't it that I have to look up videos on CZcams to find a supportive friend?
Asmr helps for anxiety, insomnia etc your lost bro
Ainsley Harriott is your supportive friend, isn't he?
A Whales Vagina He rubs my meat like no other.
Cash64 but at least you have rift and you also have an idea of what you would like in a friend
not pathetic at all my lad sometimes are lonely and you may feel down, it happens to the best of men
6 years later and this video is only getting more and more relevant. Thank you.
Hi, Rift. I'm gonna get right to it. I am a lesbian. I live in the south. People here are not very accepting. I feel like I don't belong anywhere. Before this Eureka! moment came about, I was severely depressed. Then along came anxiety, and realizing I just didn't feel anything for men. This amped up my anxiety, which brought about the severity of my depression. "People are going to find out before I want them to. People are going to hurt me. It's dangerous to be LGBTQ+ in the south!" I'd think. "I'm worthless. The world would be better off without me, a lesbian. I'm a sin." And then I found this video. I am not going to lie and say it cured me, but, I guess, indirectly, it did. This video gave me the courage to talk to my dad about my depression and anxiety, and I got medicine for it. Today, I still get anxiety quite a bit, and am definitely still a little concerned about how people will treat me when they find out about my feelings for girls. The good news is that I am able to be happy and that I have completely come to terms with the fact that I like girls. I could never be more grateful for anyone. You have gotten me through fights, breakdowns, anxiety attacks, nights when sleeping pills weren't working for my insomnia, and times I just needed to relax and think. Thank you so much, ER. (P.S. I'm sorry that this is long, lol.) ((:
Vega Collyns Well thank you very much for taking the time to write. Its unfortunate we have people in the world that we might fear but just remember and try to keep in mind that there ARE plenty if not more people that are open minded and accepting. Especially here ;) You just have learn not to care what people think of you and just be yourself. And i am pretty sure you're not the only one in your neck of the woods to think the way you do. You're human; we all are. Sending you all my best :)
Vega Collyns i feel your pain i am a gay 15 year old boy in texas they are not so accepting :/ i also suffer form depression and anxiety. I also have talkted to my parents about my depression and suicidal thoughts. and well i have meds now and i honestly do feel better. Ephemeral Rift thank you so much :')
Cookiemonsterloki texas is the worst when it comes to these things in my opinion. im so sorry you have to go through this, too. no one should. be safe, xx.
Vega Collyns Sounds like you just want to complain about the South. It ain't that bad. Especially Texas. Hell they're gayer than SoCal.
NotQuiteLucid Crazynerdguy You probably aren't looking. I live in Texas, lived in Arkansas, Tennessee, Louisiana. I think I'd know. The South isn't as precious and perfect as you think. Remember, most of you still want or think it's okay to fly the Confederate flag.
As an emotionally and mentally unstable person, I thank you for your work and your existence. Two months of checkups has been less helpful than the two hours spent listening to you.
lilmisstiny5 Ah you're too kind. Thank you for the kind words. Stay strong. 1 moment, 1 day at a time. Sending you all my best!
You know, ER really makes me feel like no matter what kind of a bad situation Im in, the bois will always be there for me. Honestly, thats all I need. Thanks Uncle E
Yeeeaaaah booiiiii!
Everytime i'm feeling bad i come back to this video, this is one of those times.
Thank you so much Rift.
This video made me realize: at the end of the day, we're all alone... So why can't we all be alone together?
well now there’s a virus so that’s one reason 😂
@@hanzsolo5460 you're answering him after 5 years
OwenWasHerVEVO i know that’s the point
@@hanzsolo5460 lmao
@Pikora Animation What about us who don't believe in God?
I often find myself coming back to this video when I'm at my worst, and it helps me everytime. You truly are a great man and I could never, not even in a thousand lifetimes repay you for all the good you have done for me, Uncle E. Thank you so much! I wish both you and your family all the best. Greetings from Norway.
This video closing in on 5 and a half years old is insane. I've kept revisiting this video once in a while because i have been in very dark places with nobody to talk to. This is truly an amazing video and i am so happy you made this. 11 months ago i met the person i love, she's now my girlfriend. And meeting someone like that is a wonderful thing, she's helped me so much with lack of self-esteem, motivation, and purpose and with my depression. With the situation we find ourselves in the world today with a global pandemic has made me unable to see her for a while now, we still keep contact, but my feeling of loneliness have been at an all time high. This video has helped me since it came out, you've changed my life for the better Paul. Thank you
I just failed my driving test for the second time yesterday, and I’m one of the only seniors that still doesn’t have it. It’s really embarrassing to me and makes me feel like a failure, and so I tonight I could almost feel my depression that I dealt with a few years ago coming back, as well as anxiety(my permit expires in a few months). This helped a great deal and made me realize there’s no use sitting around moping, and I need to be grateful for waking up and do something constructive. Everyone has their own path to take and timing.
Did you pass I hope. Definitely don’t stress over things like that, while they can be annoying at the end of the day you fail just means you take it again and do better! If it helps, I failed my driving test once and my sister failed five times no joke and she’s a great driver too lol!
I have Aspergers and it's had a really rough impact on my life. Your video here has given me a glimmer of hope that things will get better and I can't thank you enough.
Hey, lol i know that it's 3 years late but i just wanna say good job on just staying around and dealing with that man you're a very strong person good on you, :) i hope all is well
Aspergers is weird in the sense you don't know what is normal... For me I long for a moment in which I can experience things without aspergers. Just as some may want to experience how it is to have aspergers. While the "symtoms" of mine has lessened over the years ( mostly the sensitivity to sound ) I still have a little bit of trouble socializing. I do attribute it to a lot of bullying in my life and a bunch of stupid decisions I had made in my childhood however I also thing that it has made me a better person through experience. I now don't get bullied and have multiple friends. I had learned how to ignore bullying and I had gotten in shape and continue to do so. I also try to get out more as the bullying and lack of friends had made me isolate myself. I had resigned myself to the family computer for years and became very unhealthy which attributed to more bullying. I have looped this back around to finding that I can easily learn multiple programming languages and have found that I want to chase a career in such a field. My advise when dealing with these things are to find the pros within your cons. You also have to stay healthy, a healthy body can make you feel 100x better. Just switching from soda to water or doing a simple 10 minute workout each night can make you feel way better about yourself. You can also make sure to get up in the morning and maybe take a shower and clean up. Start with the little things in life and work your way up. Not sure why I took the time to type this but I hope it possibly helped someone. One thing I need to work on is sleep...
@@pinekel1081 there's a deeper unexplainable meaning that bends reality all together, its a strange universe
whenever i'm going through a dark time i always come to back to this video and man, there's something about it that just inspires me, rift is such an amazing human being all around, so grateful for content he puts out, it's just a place to go when things get too much
still coming back to it?
@@amity6985 Damn 4 years ago. Not for a while, no. Which I guess is a good thing. However this will always be one of my favourite rift videos
Back in June, I watched this video for the first time. On the part where you talked about the fire symbolism, I suddenly got inspiration for a poem. I thought I’d share it with you now.
“The Void”
There is a void
That you filled
In someone’s heart
In someone’s mind
Where once was darkness
You brought light
Where once was sadness
You brought joy
Where once was death
You brought life
When I was lost
You showed me the way
:) Made me smile, hope others will see it
Nicely put 😊
Hope you’re ok :)
Thank you for reaching out and discussing subjects that are not always easy to bring up. You did an amazing job. I cannot even begin to explain how important, and helpful this is to me, and to others (perhaps not even in the ASMR community). The more information we know, and the more we talk about it, the more successful we are at helping other people, and ourselves.
Thank you for comforting this silly eighteen year old.
Thanks Tandia LittleCloverWhispers , I appreciate the feedback. I try my best.
Rift, the lord of cinder and the firekeeper.
Why the DS3 reference? lol
A comment from 3 years ago responding to a comment 1 week ago lol
1:47:58 Even defends the host from invaders, what a good fire keeper!
I just got down on bed after crying a lot... I'm feeling incredibly depressed this past few days and I keep feeling like I'm getting down and being pulled deeper and deeper into those horrible feelings and even thoughts...but I know this will pass, I hope it will pass.
I'm listening to this before going to sleep, I hope I feel better tomorrow.
This too shall pass.
a guy with a sonic picture
Hey, I hope things are getting better for you. Please keep on trying to make things better for yourself. If you want to talk to someone about something, let me know. My contact information is in my about section. If not me then please talk to someone you trust and if needed try talking to a professional. There is always someone that cares. I also have a link in my about section and a playlist called "Helpful/Inspirational Videos" that have information, ideas, links and more that can help you. Feel free to make use of them. I hope this helps and things get better for you. God bless.
I like to come back and watch these. They really help. It helps me relax at night when I'm having trouble sleeping with my insomnia and takes my mind off my dysphoria, anxiety, and depressive thoughts at night. Rift has to be my favorite ASMRist because he seems so genuine and can relax me the most. I'm used to being called slurs but they still hurt. These types of "supportive friend" videos helps me ground myself during an episode. I don't get to talk about my mental illnesses or horrible times in life often or at all, because I'm afraid of being weak and vulnerable. Even to my friends, It's hard. I still bottle it up, thinking that they don't need to worry about my emotional burdens because they seem so much more carefree, and they're dealing with their own things. Even to my s/o it's hard, just because I feel broken and disappointing. My family barely knows anything, they've never been understanding or wanting to deal with it. So I'm left with nobody, and end up spilling it to some random internet video to get lost in the comments or have a really really bad episode. I've just been keeping it all for so long that I have too many burdens and emotions to say. I'm angry, hurt, depressed, frustrated, confused, broken, and more. Everytime I try to let go I only grip harder. I don't want to remember these things, and I don't want to keep it from my loved ones. I just. Can't seem to find the right time, for them to be emotionally okay enough, for me to be brave enough, to find the right words to say, so I lie. This is really only the vague description that doesn't even include everything. So. I guess there's my semi opening up to some internet strangers, because that's so much easier.
Wow. I didn't expect this to work as well as it did! As soon as you said that suicidal thoughts are a fight or flight response, that clicked with me and I immediately went from depressed to enraged! XD. Now I'm up in the middle of the night getting all the work done that I realized I was running from.
You pulled me up from a dark place to a rather cozy, warm place that smells vaguely of cinnamon and fresh bread.
Thanks Uncle E.
-Eric
Its been almost 4 years since I saw this and Seeing this again actually made me cry. I’m so happy I watched this back then, I almost killed myself if it wasn’t for watching videos you make like these over the years. Thank you so much and I really appreciate it. :) much love
Hows it going
You know, the first time I watched this through to the end, I found myself coming away feeling like I'd gained nothing. However, rewatching it now, I've realised just how many small details of my life I've altered in order to live happier and in order to better cope when things go wrong.
Thanks to you, Paul, for giving me the guidance I needed to finally make the necessary changes. I wish you all the best, my friend.
I appreciate this video so much, as someone who is struggling with their mental health. Seeing someone raise awareness like this always makes me happy, I'm glad that there are people in the world like you
Thanks for this ER. When I was 16 I was diagnosed with cancer, I'm better now, but recently a lot of my friends have been relapsing and dying. I also found out that the reason I haven't met anyone yet who has had the same cancer as me is because my cancers survival rates are so low. I've been incredibly stressed and upset because of these things and although I make it through each day doing my best to be happy, it doesn't always work and often I can't sleep because of everything that's on my mind. You help make it easier to sleep, for which I am very grateful! Thank you
rhys laws Thank you. I'm glad to hear you are better. I hope you are on a better road in life. Just try to do your best to find ways to be happy or at least keep your mind preoccupied so it doesn't have a chance to think. :) Sending you my best!
Who needs a final epic from Peter Jackson when we've got 2.5 hours of ASMR from ER? Thanks, man!
Lit Bytes I didn't like the first Hobbit film. As much as I love Jackson, I just didn't like how some parts differentiated way too much from the books. I never saw the 2nd one and I doubt I'll see the third. I felt the same way about LOTR. The 3rd was great, but I could not stand how weak and whiney Frodo was. But I'm not trying to make fans of the films feel bad. That's just me! I think there were great parts of the films. And I'm glad that he brought the books to life as best as possible.
Thank you for this Video ER, when I was 8-10 I was bullied in pre-school, when I got trough it, it made me stronger, it made me who I am. And now I help people who get bullied to make best of themselves and show the bullies the ground
Almost 6 years later and this video is still hitting people. Especially in 2020 by far one the most messed up years I have ever lived through. I’m glad I found this now, in a time I actually needed it and not just when it was posted.
For me I feel like it would be inappropriate to fall asleep to this considering how genuine this feels... 😢
even sleep is acceptable, its a state of peace and that's all he wants for us.
AciidHoney thank you. :)
The idea of taking control of the mind is great. It's often good to calmly observe your life from the outside, instead of from inside through your emotions.
jonskunator It's tough. It's been my life's work, but I'm just about there. Anger is my worst enemy.
Hello! Lol I could keep commenting so much on this video. This is one of my favorite subjects, the brain/our minds. There is a bit of basic science I have learned, some general concepts and definitions. So, from what I've learned, most of our mind is the subconscious and it is such a small part which is what we would call conscious. The subconscious being things like our emotions. The conscious part having to do with our frontal lobe I think, something that is so much more in the human brain than any other animal, it is that which gives us such an ability of choice. I don't hold the beleif that there is no limit to that ability to choose and change, but there definitely is something there. I feel sometimes like I have two brains. The subconscious is very powerful, but there is something that seems to be the observer.
Oh yeah! Also, the frontal lobe is a part of the brain that supposedly isn't even fully developed until we are in our mid 20's!
You are an inspiration to keep moving forward and never give up. I’ve been dealing with male pelvic floor dysfunction for the past year and a half and it’s been absolutely devastating to deal with mentally and physically! I’m married with 2 young kids and need to be here for them. Your videos help me calm down and relax which is actually an important part of my healing as stress and anxiety have a big role in muscle tension. Thank you very much for your supportive comforting video channel!
5 years have passed and i still come back to this video time and time again. it never disappoints. you are a gem to this world
I've been watching your channel for a little over 2 years now, and i gotta say, you've really helped me out. I was very depressed, during 2012, and 2013 and these ASMR videos kept me from thinking too much about it. When you started making these psychology related video, i could also relate to pretty much everything you said, and i while watching this video, i started thinking and realized that i actually overcame my anxiety because of you. When i was younger, i felt anxious and hated going to birthday parties, and pretty much all social activities, like going to the store to buy something, but now that i've overcome this anxiety, i can go to these things, without a problem. I actually ended up being one of the "popular kids" in school. So as you can see, you've had a huge influence on my life and for that i thank you. I'm only 14, so i still have a long life ahead of me, and if i kept being depressed, my life would be way worse and maybe i would even have considered committing suicide.
Niclas Aabo Well thank you for your kind words and for watching. But more importantly I'm glad to hear you are better. I think what you said just goes to show that you have that mental fortitude to overcome anything in life. If you can overcome depression and suicide, you are pretty much one of the strongest people in the world. It shows you have the power to overcome. So keep doing what you're doing, take 1 day at a time, because it's working and someday you may just end up being strong enough to help someone else in turn. :)
Struggled with a lot of shit and I watch this video almost every time I feel down or fuck up in one of those ways that stick in your head and never leave really helped me a lot, love your videos and thank you so much for everything.
I just want to let you know that you’re not alone. Everyone struggles. Does that make it right? No. Does it make it easier? Maybe a little, but that’s not the point. Remember though, that there are always people there for you. It’s easy to forget them, when you get wrapped around in feelings. There are always people to talk to. I hope you’re doing ok, amidst the pandemic.
You've seen me through some of the hardest times in my life so far. No matter what it is...lying awake terrified of a test the next day, feeling like crap after being stuck in a uni room alone for weeks, spiralling into terror when family members fall ill. Coming back to this video each time, I just feel happy to be alive and to have made it through, all the while getting stronger and gaining life experience. So thanks for teaching me what I'm capable of.
Me: “I’m feeling pretty depressed lately”. School counselor: 21:40
The only difference is they dont say anything useful after
But you haven’t. And that’s where it would have ended
school counselor: now get back to class, sport, eh!?
cant wait for the 50 comment war waiting to start
Was feeling sad and scrolling down the comments. This gave me a little chuckle. nice.
I cant believe it's almost been 5 years since you've made this video and I'm just now discovering it, I sat down and listened to this whole video and it helped me so much mentally and emotionally. I've never found a video so moving and so therapeutic as well. ER you really are an amazing person man and your creativity nowadays is superb, I'm glad you make videos because they really mean a lot to a lot of us.
Tyler Syn Dane same and what a intellectual
As much as I want to watch this video, and as much as I probably need to watch this video, every time I try, I have to stop due to breaking down in tears. I haven't even gotten into the first five minutes, which is probably pathetic in and of itself. The fact that you spent time and energy to think about this video, actually plan this video, and then record it for over two and a half hours makes me feel so good and I can't tell you how much I appreciate it. I can't tell you how much these things mean to me when they're more weighty and touching than anything anyone has been able to do in my life outside the internet. I know that you know that this matters, or you wouldn't have done it. But I feel like I couldn't just sit here and feel this way and have these thoughts without telling you how much this video means to me. So thank you.
And I wanted to add, I thank you for making this video even at the possible expense of your own mental health. I know that these things are tough for you, and to power on making a video in order to help other is frankly incredibly brave and worthy of quite a bit of praise. Again, thank you.
Transcending-Nihilism Well thank you for your kind words. I'm not doing anything anyone else couldn't or wouldn't do in my position. I have been meaning to write you back sorry I couldn't get back sooner. Sending you all my best!
Thank you, some people such as myself have never had anyone to rely on or trust in their whole lives and people like you who create videos like this really are special and it means quite alot
I have depersonalization disorder ,and this is making me feel warm , I actually felt the warmth of the fire place my friend much luvv
6 years ago I was just a scared kid looking for some sort of reassurance when I stumbled across this video. Today I find myself in a similar position with it in my recommended. Thank you for being a nice human
Thank you Rift. You really are an amazing friend I wish I had... I've been going through so much, and you've honestly been able to keep me at a peace if mind.
i can honestly say rifts videos have helped me through some pretty rough times cant thank this guy enough for the helpfull and relieveing content you are truly a gift and its very much a privelage to be able to have these videos at hand for anyone to see amd use for such purposes . Thank you rift
And suddenly tears are streaming down my face. I guess this is what I needed to hear. Thank you so much.
I guess most viewers will Identify with this enormous video due to these life challenges you talk about, but I hope you know you give a mountain of inspiration not just to those of us who are struggling, but to a -Just Creative-Never Stop Thinking&Combining Meanings-Wanting To Help Poeple-Restless Souls.
It's been a while since i'm processing this thought of how amazing people around the world did and do the most amazing things that happened to the humankind, out of their weakness. Their passions came from struggle and coping with difficulty. And this video demonstrate it all!
"Everybody is f***ed up!" is the smartest thing I ever needed to hear. It confirms (or more like progress) another box of thoughts I have. And this is what is so beautifull in this world, bunch of ****ing ****ed up people that trying to rise out of it, and if they lucky or talented or strong or whatever it takes to find the right formula, they will benefit from the f*** and develope themselves to beyond. I think you do. amazingly!
First comment I ever gave you was about how unpleasent are your costumes of monsters and creatures, but i'm staying here cause I can see you, like, truly feel your greatness (plus some other great concept videos ).
Thank you for this video, thank you for the efforts, for the length, for the honest talk, for making yourself up in every single video.
PLEASE keep loosing track! :)
Asmrista Fan well thank you for the kind words and lengthy comment. Never too long; did read. ;) I'm just a slave to whatever my mind wants to express. I don't think I'm in control anymore.
It's been a few years now and this is still one of my favorite videos. People like you remind me that there's still hope in the world and that it might all turn out well in the end. Thank you so much for all you've said and all you've done.
From the bottom of my heart, I’d like to thank you for this video. I’ve been struggling a lot lately with mental health. I live with both of my grandparents who are both very sick. They practically raised me and it’s hard to see people who stepped up to raise you go through tough times. It kills me everyday seeing them in the condition they’re in. This video made me feel cared for and understood, as my grandparents always have. Thank you again, Rift. I’m sure you hear this a lot, but you’ve helped me through a lot. I appreciate you and the effort you put into all of this.
The fireplace really makes the video relaxing and making the atmosphere immersive.
Tranquil JOE Thanks for the feedback! That's why I have been using it.
Ephemeral Rift Yeah it's really nice, hopefully you include it in alot more videos.
I can tell that everything he says is genuine, not many people like that these days
This is one of the most beautiful, thoughtful videos on CZcams, I really needed this tonight. Love all your work Rift and appreciate the time and energy you put into this channel, we all love you dearly. 🖤
Thank you so much for this brutally honest but neccesarry talk. I really relate to this in so many ways. I understand your take on compassion and the attitude needed in life. From the bottom of my heart...thank you! I wish you (and your family) peace, love and happiness for the future!
And now I understand why everyone is kind of in love with you, Uncle E.
I always come back to his mental health videos whenever I feel like shit. It makes me feel so much better. love this dude.
rift, your wisdom and mannerisms remind me so much of a dear cousin of mine. he’s actually my fathers first cousin so he’s much older than me. he’s always felt like an uncle to me and provided me with so much guidance and kindness. i haven’t been able to see him in a while, so while it wasn’t what i excepted to get out of this wonderful video, thank you for giving me a little glimpse of him.
After fighting depression for a couple years and now finally feeling like i’ve won… I watched this video 3 years ago and it truly helped me, i thought to myself: I should rewatch this if i ever get through this. And here i am, happier than ever. Thank you ER, thank you so so so much for giving me the sleep i needed in trying times
I always come back to this video when I’ve hit my lowest. Thank you for being there for me for literal years :,)
This remains one my most rewatchable videos on youtube.
Five to six years later and this still hits very hard, thanks Uncle E, you're the best~! And honestly just having someone post a video like this, and act like a friend actually does help, especially if you don't have someone there for you~
Thank you so much for everything you do for us. There are no words for how much you have helped me through some of the hardest times in my life and I will be forever grateful for your channel and everything you do for your viewers. You are truly an amazing person Paul, and I wish you and your family the best.
I've been crying for almost a year because of this one girl, thank you i really need this
This is helping me remember that my grief over losing a family member is only temporary. The tough part will pass and become easier over time. It's been a month now and it still feels like just yesterday he was next to me. I still somewhat can't believe he died, but I can't deny it. Life is tough right now and this is helping me, so thank you. I should probably put my laundry in and other stuff I have been delaying. I should probably go to sleep too. Last time I looked at the clock it was 10:30pm, and now it's 11:30. Goodnight. Thank you for the wonderful video.
i still regularly come back to this video now and then when ever my new love interest breaks my heart. I’m gonna rant now and i know no one cares because this is a pretty old video. So i have been with this girl for a little bit but i love her, i truly do as a person who has abandonment problems i have a bad problem of falling in love easily and there’s nothing i can do about it so most of the time the problem is they find me smothering or over affectionate but this girl matched my energy and i loved it she had even told me she loves me. So of course me hearing that puts my feelings in stone i will never forget this girl she was my first everything, my first kiss, first cuddle, first time having sex, first person who wasn’t my family who told me they loved me and meant it in an affectionate way. Anyway i had to move and i knew this before meeting this girl and i knew it would end up breaking my heart and it did the day i moved she told me that night that she went on a date with her ex and i was destroyed i had never felt so betrayed and i was already stressed from moving from the place i grew up, but i forgave her and i took my emotions and turned them on myself i was mad at myself i was sad because i couldn’t do anything about it. And i know i should be mad at her but i just can’t bring myself to be mad at her because i still have such strong feelings for her idk i’m just dumb thanks for coming to my ted talk
Hang in there buddy. Break ups are hard, but YOU are the most important person in your life. Be angry if you feel angry, be sad if you want to. Feel what you want to feel don’t stifle it. You’ll work through it. Every day it will hurt a little less.
I hope you were able to look back on this a year later or more and see how things change and get better.. In the moment of any struggle, we forget all the others that have faded and maybe even improved our lives.
I hope you have gotten to that point and have learned that the most valued people in our lives love us deeply and won't ever willing leave. Spend more time with these people. It will mostly be your family.
You are still young and these may be meaningless words but as you grow and experience life, you will see the wisdom here. ❤