Why are 66% of young men single
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- čas přidán 29. 03. 2023
- Why is it that 66% of young men between 18 - 29 are single, but only 34% of women in the same age bracket are single? I'll dive into this in the video.
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The new American dream is to stay single, stack money and leave.
Wish I had realised this earlier
Literally what I’m doing 😂
Yes exactly leave the Hellhole.
The New American dream is stay single, try not to starve, pray for escape. Like a prison sentence, hopefully when you can get out there's somewhere to escape to.
Yep. Western women are unmarriageable.
Unpopular opinion Social Media and apps like TikTok has bred a generation of grossly narcissistic young women. The dating world is disgusting.
It has. But no one wants to admit it because of the entertainment factor. They have become addicted.
Not unpopular, just not allowed to say
That's a fact My dude, social media screw up girl's and indirectly family and society.
True. And the only good thing about this glaring fact is that the vast majority of these modern women - especially in the under-30 set - is that they are too stupid to notice this trait in themselves or to realize just how obvious it is to everyone else. They are overt narcissists rather than covert. Even when they speak and act in a covert manner they fail to realize just how obvious their character is - and that the guys who play along with it are only doing so until they've hit it and quit it.
So keep doing those duck-lip poses and wearing those tight outfits and paint-by-number faces, girls. Keep telling everyone you're the prize, that you're a ten and that you're an empath. This way the objects of your desire - no matter how brief - know exactly what to expect from you and to act accordingly. 🙂
@@zeus014 preach good sir
Went on a 1800 km roadtrip on a motorcycle for 2 weeks alone after a nasty break up. One of the best experience in my life.
She was the wrong one.
Thats the way to go. After I got heart and self worth destroyed I went on a 2 week vacation and had a blast. Sun, sand, sea, shopping, solitude.
correction: 1118 miles
Me but it never dated in the first place
Can you share more? Why was it the best experience?
Also the top 10% of men have multiple girlfriends. I am serious. Women would rather share a top tier man than date an average man.
Yeah. I used to have this friend who was a Chad and remember women would stalk him like they were groupies and he was a rockstar. Two wanted to give him a bj at the same time. They would not stop trying even when he blew them off. Multiple sexual harassment cases if the roles were reversed.
Other than his looks, he was probably the least impressive or interesting person I've ever met in my life.
You are correct.
Cause they don't prioritize love and compatibility... they prioritize money and status
@@guy8360 wrong. They prioritize genes. Genetics. Even millionaire is getting dumped
@@meinkek7896 God I hate this world, bring the asteroid
I dont want a woman who only cares about my money and status
and the BIG 4x4 TRUCK/SUV... boat, nice house, HARLEY.... all bought on time so pay for the thing 3x before it is paid off... if it is every paid off. i cannot imagine the $$$$ wasted buying new.... and pay pay pay for it as it depreciates to the max and by the time it is paid off it is worth .. 1/3-1/2 of its BUY IT NEW Value... years ago.
Your are not in luck. Women want a prince charming, that is both money and status.
Then don’t be with a woman whose looks are the only important factor.
@@AliPi7 Look are everything for women, then how much benefit you can provide for her.
What about your looks? Sadly people aren't attracted to each other for no reason, something about a person has to attract them in the first place. Personality and real connection only comes after attraction
As a male who has suffered from mental health issues since childhood, and endless trauma all the way from physical to emotional, and even sexual abuse, I have come to realize how cold this world really is.
I was bullied and ignored throughout my childhood because I had Tourette’s syndrome. It made social interactions so nerve wracking and uncomfortable and as a result I developed severe social anxiety and depression that I still experience. But apparently I need to still care what people think or I’m the asshole. It’s so fucking pathetic. And it’s sad because deep down I know I’m a good person and I’m worth getting to know but apparently most people don’t give a fuck about you unless it benefits them. And if I show any sadness about my lack of dating than I’m seen as creepy and weird for even daring to want human intimacy. It’s so sad and disgusting.
Sending you love from UK prayers.
Women should steer clear of guys like you. You need to get over those issues before you can even think if getting into a relationship.
@@KFrost-fx7dt and for what reason do you believe we are such a threat to women? honest question.
@@kimb6508 psychos do psycho shit.
I can confirm as a male nurse from overhearing my colleagues talk : women think they are inherently deserving of a high quality man without meeting him half way.
I'm 60, and the young men today have outsmarted me by not getting married. You guys rock.Stay focused dudes. 😅🤣👍😎PEACE
Thanks baby, you single?
True
Was marriage that bad?
@@gendalfgray7889Lol. 😂
They are living at home with mama.
We are also in a loneliness crisis that young men are doing the worst at. Saying just go make male friends is just like looking at the pew research study and saying just go find a girlfriend. Young men are systemically struggling at human connection in general and it’s not a thing of that they are lazy and stay inside playing video games all day.
Just going outside and signing up for activities doesn’t easily make you friends.
Men today were brainwashed as young boys in schools to be silent and social behaviors towards other boys was punished, listining to bullshit feministic teachers was the norm.
Yeah that loneliness sucks
Men were probably always this way....men never had to be decent human beings to get a woman....oppression actually hid how incompetent and inept men really were. Oppressing women and denying women the ability to provide for themselves is the reason why most men even got a woman in the first place. Now that women can provide for themselves and are happier single and child free, it takes a lot more than oppression to get a woman.
True. Men gave allowed this to happen though. The American white male doesn't understand what power, civilization and biology truly is.
Why the fuck people try befriend me every where I go
I'm 33 and I'm still single. Probably gonna be that way for the rest of my life. I already accepted it as truth.
25 n i feel u bro.
I've been single since 2011...
Had many chances but I have serious anxiety... only now I've been changing.. got 2 phone numbers this year, but no replies. And always get rejected... I feel like giving up as well. I'm 5'2 so I'm at serious disadvantage but I have $130,000 cash cuz I've been single 4 so long. And I have a goal of buying a big house....
Dude I’m 32 and I have never had a girlfriend 😢
Its over
I'm 30 and been single since birth 🙂💔
that's gonna be the reality for a lot of men and no feel good platitudes are gonna help us.
I'm divorced. Was royally shafted by my ex and lost everything. Witnessed every dirty trick under the sun to get everything from me.
This has turned me off dating and marriage altogether. My sons have seen what I went through (near-homelessness) and are also avoiding dating.
This kind of situation is now very common.
Sorry to hear that. Seriously
Hope you are well sir. Unfortunately this knowledge wasnt common in the past
I am sorry that you were burnt by your ex wife but am grateful for you and men like you sharing your stories with the rest of us.
Sad but true, blame Hollywood.
Millions of men been put thru the same and worse brother . Hope your doing better now
53 , single , no kids & for the first time totally content with life.
Peace & quiet
No nagging no drama
Travel & freedom 🙏
yes, this is exactly how single successful women feel
@@clauaome25 Let's go extinct together, wohooo
@@Clown-Piece yaaaaaay
Same. 46 single, no kids. Enjoying my social life and travel experiences like crazy.
@@clauaome25 Not quite. Might want to read into depression in women. Especially those over 35. Here is a hint: It's incredibly high. Double the rate for men on the *conservative* estimate.
Let this society burn to the ground.
As a woman I see nothing wrong with that and want it to happen.
FBI has entered the chat, the feds always watching 👀
@@cirogarcia9951 good! then it's EXTRA good if i say FK OFF!! if they see we hate them? it makes it THAT much better. fk "the feds".
same way I see it. we have gone as far as we can go in this society. im over it....
if i get horny? ill wank it to my fantasies or some porn. i honestly do NOT fucking care
@Weave and dice keeping black men out the home You guys will take the brunt of it.
I had a conversation with my mom recently about the purpose of relationships. She said she and my dad both started with nothing, but they knew through hard work and dedication that they could get ahead in life.
Many young women today want men who are already successful. They want the prize for free without putting in any work themselves. The believe that because they went to college, they now deserve the top men available without realizing that the men they find attractive only see them as objects for physical pleasure.
Relationships today are about scoring a prize instead of finding a life partner. People are commodities, and true lasting love only exists in the movies.
That’s absolutely true. My mother used to tell the problem with women today is their mothers. Their mothers tell them to marry wealthy men.
Yes, young women "want men who are already successful" therefore many of them marry or pair up with men who are 4 to 10 years older. Only 1.6 % of marriages have an age gap of 20 years or more
@@natashadickson4819 22 years age diff in my case. Men age like a fine wine. Haha
@@natashadickson4819 This just proves my point. Women that pursue older and successful men are chasing an elusive prize rather than building a strong foundation for their lives. I know a few women who were left helpless and alone after their "successful" partners abandoned them for even younger women.
My ex left me for an older man who later found a younger women to replace her. After my breakup, I built myself up by going to college, finding a good job, and buying a house all by myself. Five years after she left me, my ex tried to get me back, and I happily told her no and to not contact me anymore.
It all worked out in the end because I eventually found someone my age who makes even more money than I do. We are happily engaged and enjoying a simple life together.
Most important thing is to get your girl on Tubal Ligation if she wants a relationship. ENTRAPMENT pregnancy is used legally or marriage to finally trap men for decades and have destroyed 10s of millions of men's lives including in suicide after 80% divorce filings by women and more than 60% divorce rate in the West (excluding people 60 or above)
My ex cheated on me 5 years ago, still suffering to this day. I bought her a promise ring, we were talking about getting married, etc. then out of nowhere she turns cold on me. I later found out she was cheating and it was soul crushing. Still painful to this day
I'm sorry for what you went through. I hope you find happiness 🤗 you deserve it.
out of nowhere is almost every time cheating
Went through a similar situation about 3 years ago, and it still stings. Don't think that'll ever really go away, honestly, but I have at least found a positive spin on the situation, that seems like could be applicable for you as well. We had been engaged for a few months, and had a wedding date set for about 6 weeks after the breakup wound up happening. Yet, every time I look back, I find myself actually feeling happy and grateful. Not that she cheated, mind you, but that I found out and ended things before we actually got married. Would've been a whole lot messier if we had to go through the divorce process rather than just splitting. Just something to keep in mind, that has helped me cope. Keep your head up, King. You're not alone. 😊
Cheating is so terrible, hopefully you find a girl who will truly love you.
My experience with online dating was no one can get anyone’s full attention. Especially in bigger metro areas. Everyone is getting messages from so many people and it’s hard for anyone to decide on who to focus on. Each time you login, there is more new people messaging you or responding to you. But all those people are experiencing that exact same thing, it’s like everyone is constantly distracted by someone new
🎯
Yep, my experience as well. Even as a man, I just ghost matches because my attention span can hold only so many. Not saying I’m a hotshot getting a ton of matches, some guys get way more and hotter. But I just think dating apps are the wrong design for human dating rituals.
Those are simps
Nope, Its all about who stands out from the crowd from a womans perspective
@@exoticspeedefy7916 I would think that would apply to everyone
The more successful I’ve become, the less I’ve cared about women.
Cool. You should spend more time with men and see if that floats your boat.
Congratulations Tom keep up the good work 🎉🎉🎉. Ignore the haters 💯💯💯
Same here, i am 31 now.
They have nothing to offer but their snatch, and they throw it all over the place like it's worthless.
Yea, I also noticed that the more successful and more value I acquired as a man, the less I gave a fuck about women.
Divorce rates are at 54%. 70% are initiated by women. Men are learning seeing other men lose everything financially, while also paying child support & alimony. Men are avoiding & rejecting divorce, by NOT getting married to begin with.
Am looking for a serious man white in my life
Keep looking.
It's actually 80 percent of marriages that are filed by women.
The main reason for divorce from the women's point of view, is that she is doing it all. She's earning the money, doing the cleaning, shopping, child-care, and he's watching TV. After a while she is exhausted and resentful and wonders why she married a lazy immature man? She can't respect him or love him - especially if he's into porn, gambling, cheating, etc.
@@scinformation7229 Nonsense.
Society says men are to be blamed. I've seen so much anger against men nowadays I can relate to young guys not wanting to engage with the world. When your told you are to blame for all the world's troubles and being told "we don't need men". I can understand.
I honesty feel the deck is stacked against introverts overall and dating is one of the biggest categories where this is true.
Starting around 2015 my son (a former Marine) began the hunt for a nice girl. (He is very attractive btw and has good solid employment.) He's not into smoking, drugs, drinking to excess or tattoos. He's still looking in 2023. From what I am seeing in his age range, I don't blame him.
He needs to leave the country. Unless he wants used and damaged goods that’s all that’s left largely.
Your, son does not fit the bad boy image young women want only the safe back up guy after they have used up like a kleenex.
Yup. Often you'll see young women who will rather go for the overconfident "bad boy" type who does all the drugs and drinks than for the disciplined guy who is into sports. Generally speaking that is. I fall into the latter category, always been into sports, taken care of myself and am reasonably successful and stable in life. Yet I have lost some really good girls/women that I saw potential in to said guys who barely put in any effort and were just trashing themselves. Often they got money from their rich parents or leased some expensive car. After about a year of "fun" they break up with the guy since he turns out to be a POS and come running back to you. This is oddly common these days and simply makes you lose interest as you are basically seen as a resource and adventure rather than a partner in crime so to speak.
Thank u for raising a good Marine ma'am. I am in the army it's definitely changed
Best of luck to him! My husband is also a former marine.. as a woman I didn't think any man would find me desirable because I was shy and dorky (likes anime, video games comic books) I was still girly to a degree as I did enjoy dance but I was not the outgoing flamboyant type who was willing to sleep with them so I was tossed aside.. I am lucky I found my husband who shares the same morals as I have, or I'm sure I would have had to just give up on men and stay single as well.
Why are men left to their own devices so often? I feel like there’s a huge expectation for growth without any guidance.
What do you mean their own devices ?
@@blacklyfe5543 No community. It's different for some men who have all that. Like having uncles, a father, 2 grandfathers, community mentors, all to help you navigate. Some men have none of that at all. They have their dog.
Guidance? Wow, need anything else?? Get back to work MALE
@@Metaphixdude so true, I’ve noticed all the self help online dating advice is great and all but nothing like your cool older brother or uncles guidance - it’s always such good advice!
Modern occidental "children are resilient" nonsense from psychologists and other academics. Also, because "discipline and hierarchy is fascistic."
It’s too expensive to date. It’s too expensive to buy gifts. It doesn’t help that every woman I’ve met nowadays wants the princess treatment without putting the same effort towards me so I just don’t care anymore. Dating women nowadays is like buying a shack at mansion prices.
It sounds like your "dating" prostitutes that don't put out. Stay away from money grubbing 304's.
lol you want to be a princess?
@@ilykepinkWhat a shitty response. Ur literally the type of person he’s talking about
You already know he wants to be the princess. He wants to ride in the passenger seat and get flowers on V Day 😂
@@ninagrace-lee8323 Nah, I’d just like to be treated with respect. Women nowadays are just like you 2 that replied, bitches who would make fun of someone by twisting their words and wonder why you don’t have any friends, family, or loved ones that want to e around you.
To all my boys out there struggling in this cruel world, i feel your pain every single day. I have struggled all my life with women and low self esteem that they caused. Im 30 and never even kissed a girl. The couple of dates from online that i have landed ended with "i dont feel a romantic connection to you". I have zero friends and almost always have had no friends since my teen years. I feel i am losing the will to live at this point. Still live with my parents and women dont want me for that reason whenever they find out online. I cry daily now with this. This is the male privilege that i hear all the women talk about. They dont realize how good they have it. They are just very selfish and conceited. That is my rant. Dont be afraid to make connections online with other guys in this predicament. It can help with the deep pain you may be feeling.
Living with your parents is fine from a financial/physical help situation. If it is mutually advantageous, that's fine.
My suggestion would be to try and Cultivate hobbies and interests, hopefully that'll give you a chance of developing friendships by joining groups
Just wondering, have you been going on dates with women who you'd say are in your league looks-wise? For example if you're overweight, are you going on dates with overweight women?
This is truly gutwrenching to read... i know thisll be me in 5 years
I’m not an expert but it sounds like you need professional help. If I was you I would seek consultation from a psychologist to solve that.
Friendships are communities that you have to seek out and fit in. It can be anything: world of Warcraft, the gym, army, salsa dancing.
Life is not about wailing and complaining for us men: we need to get out there and conquer the world.
As a 26 year old with a few life long friends still (for over 10 years now) I can confidently say that many of us are not putting in effort anymore. The amount of times ill reach out to people to try and engage in an activity, for it to fall on radio silence or for the plan to fall throught entirely is so discouraging that you end up not asking anymore. There are so few actual real life day to day role models that we end up resorting to these online self help gurus.That's all fine and great but it does leave a pit of emptiness that there isn't really someone around that cares to see you progress and achieve our potential.
You should be prepared to do 100% of the work of creating the activity. And not expect your friends to help at all in the planning.
Also. Being regular helps alittle. Example. If a guy from work had a poker game every week. I would be more likely to show up. Then if he was doing it for the first and only time. And expected me to help create it.
I don't wanna go camping with 5 guys who don't know anything about camping.
I wanna go with 5 guys who know the best place to stay and bring all the gear.
As we get older i have less time and less energy.
So true man...I feel ya. Take care my friend.
@@billted3323 That's a great point, it's almost enlightening to many.
@@FactStorm We learn as we live
"Friendship" is the idealization of an evolutionary survival mechanism, consisting in social cohesion, which stems from human beings' physical inferiority in comparison to other animals (strength in numbers vs individual brute force).
Despite that, nowadays, it's pretty much useless for becoming wealthy and powerful (it if were useful, statistically, most people would be wealthy and not mediocre or, in underdeveloped countries, broke); it only works, if you have the right contacts, who must be willing to help you.
Turned 40 this year. I have learned to be alone and enjoy it. My passions, hobbies, and work have become more attractive than any woman or the idea of a relationship could ever be.
As a woman who has always been a loner I agree. Hobbies keep your mind stimulated. Same goes with volunteer work. I question what my purpose is, what makes me happy, etc. Helping others and caring for the environment has brought me so much joy. Keep at it!
Cope
@@barcaman1013 You can say its a cope because you worship woman validation but he is living his life how he sees fit.
Keep doing you. If they don’t chase you, it is their loss. You are the king.
All that matters is if you spread Your genes... Otherwise You are s looser in nature eyes... Imagine there are men who spread their genes with 500 women by sperm donation... Thats a huge win, his genes will last to the end of man kind.
Man without child is looser in nature
The only woman, who will ever love you as a man is your mother, remember that.
Them 34% are also only "single". Meaning at least half of them are in situationships imo
The worst thing is that it doesn't even matter what you are as a person, it matters only what you can provide, basically like an object, not like a human being. Most of us will live, spend the best years, grow old and die completely alone. Nobody there who really genuinely cares. We make jokes about it without to understand this is one of the saddest things in our sick Era.
It doesn’t have to be sad. That’s what he’s saying. The saddest part for me is not being able to have children of my own, but being alone and financially free is awesome. Having friends (and more importantly) the ability to make friends anytime and anywhere, is dope. You can live a full life. Having no wife is eh it sucks but a lot of times we forget the ugly parts or less pleasant parts of marriage. It’s very rare that marriages are without seriously depressing rocky points. The biggest let down is not having kids. Everyone I know that has them has changed and says the same thing about it giving them purpose and becoming the best part of their lives. Tbh if I’m not in something serious by my mid 30s I’m just gonna knock up a fling so I can at least have a child lol. Or maybe I won’t. But it’s a backburner plan lmao.
I care but that's only me and I can only do so much plus my life has been a struggle to despite not deserving it
Yup. Many, many unpartnered men either drink themselves to death or commit suicide. Die all at once of die slowly, pick one. No amount of male bonding is going to fill out longing for romantic partnership. Fools errand.
Sadly true. Never found a real friend yet as all my fake friends don’t give a fuck
Did you consider that perhaps both matters ? That there is some guy who can provide but also is really good fucking guy ?
Oh but girls date ass holes all the time, they're DUMB.. Well why do you care about dumb girls and envy the ass hole guy ? Don't go all melodramatic on me when these things just don't logically click.. This isn't the voice of a sound mind, in these comments people are so critical of girls but i would also raise attention to the mental sanity of some of these guys..
I've been trying to get a girlfriend for years. Going out, meeting girls, going on dates, but nothing ever sticks for longer than a month and I really don't understand why. People also say it's easy to have casual hookups nowadays but I haven't found it easy at all and it takes me many months of talking to different girls to maybe find one that's interested. I consider myself a decently attractive guy and still struggle so idk how people are doing it nowadays
I'm in same boat man it's rough out there but we gotta keep our head up
Honeslty you could try women in other countries - they have different outlook on relationships I’ve noticed - probably the longest relationship I’ve had was with one from mexico - the language barrier is rough though not gonna lie but they care about relationships and not hook ups. You could also try church too. You gotta find the pockets where they hang out though in my experience. I met her at my job! Also focusing on yourself works pretty well too and being less about getting girls, from my experience that is. Hope that helps!
I’m in the same boat as you. I’m doing all the “right things” dating gurus say and nothing changed
simple - you are not good looking, you just cant be honest with yourself
@BARBELL SAMURAI obviously if I felt I was unattractive then it would make sense, but I promise you I'm what many people consider good-looking
What is also means is that women are willingly and/or unknowingly sharing a small group of men lol.
yep
Nah. Just that a lot of women are not heterosexuals. 🤷🏻♂️
Idk man, I make well over 150k, 6’, decent looking in shape and overall just nice but striking out with girls left and right. They want a X factor, all of the above but more importantly a killer instinct. They have resources so they want to indulge the feral feelings. If you’re a normal balanced calm guy who approaches life with caution, it’s repelling to them. In my experience at least
A woman having resources prevents desperation, prevents her from settling for a guy she doesn't really want to be with.
based take
I make 250k, I've got a six pack, I'm a leader of men, and even I'm finding it difficult at times. If I'm having this much trouble I can only imagine how some dude who's making a median income must feel. Granted I'm a bit older at 46 but I still date women as young as 22. But it should be far easier given where I'm at in life. Something is not right with society if guys in my position top 10 percenters are having this much trouble
This is true what I have been noticing for a few years now is that women all kinds are with degenerates with face tats and gangster methheads.
I remember when I was in the dating market a couple years ago, whenever I would talk to women they would almost always give me the cold stare like I’m some weird creep, or give you the “eww” factor. I’m totally decent looking, and I wasn’t a pro in conversations but I was okay, but still the women just automatically label you as some creep before you get a chance to say anything. Or sometimes I would say something just to talk about whatever, and they would ignore me like I wasn’t there. I know if I pressed on she would probably say I was harassing her. That’s why I just gave it up and started working on myself. I do think there’s some things men need to fix about themselves, but women have this weird messed up attitude towards other males, before they even know the guy they often automatically label him as “ewww” and “creep” if he goes and talks to her. I’m not surprised guys are checking out, like who wants to be constantly dissed like that. They try to be so nice to them trying to have a nice conversations with them, taking them out on dates and buying them things, all often so the girl can just laugh at what a “weirdo” he is, and talk S about him to her friends. It’s really cruel and sad. And also for the guys that cat call women on the street or try to act all arrogant and cocky to women ruin it for everyone else.
22 year old here, I’ve checked out of the dating pool already. I gave it a final shot 2 years ago and was disappointed as always so I chose to focus on my career instead and cultivated a bunch of hobbies. I’ve also emphasized male friendships in my life and have just gotten distant to all females outside my mum. I’m not interested in pursuing anymore and am comfortable by myself. It’s way too much of a headache to deal with these things. Better to just avoid it for your own sanity and find new things to do.
Awwww 😢
Honestly not surprised. The age at which men in our nations seem to gain an understanding of the situation and stop caring just seems to get lower and lower by the year. But this can be dangerous for societies in the long run, especially with the sudden gender imbalance on the rise. God knows what these boys will turn to as they grow up.
@@sulphurous2656 Managers
@@isidoraveronica Don't just say "awww", if you really feel sorry for him talk to the guy, get to know him, make and effo... ...oh who am I fooling.
@@Madness1299 how would I do that? Lol
Gave up on dating. Every time I had to talk about something or open up more, I was abandoned. Learnt I was secretly cheated on after being left. No one helped in any way. Left due to depression spiking due to the pandemic. Attacked the following week. Member of the family tearing my life apart. Left due to the mental toll it was taking. The funny thing is that despite their own issues and problems, there was ALWAYS someone to give help and assistance. Yet always one sided. Always have that need to love though (which I hate) while having to deal with the trauma inflicted. Not to mention being unable to earn my own money due to anxiety and, surprise surprise, no one wants to help with overcoming that! Before anyone says: I have tried seeking help and therapy but left in the dark. Doesn't help the expectation of something bad always around the corner.
Edit: Since speaking this and still receiving no help, chose to push through. Now much happier with life despite the harsh truth of being alone. Still got anxiety to get through but plan to take care of that when ready.
None of what you described is s need to love, dear. Bc love is ONLY found in yourself. What you are doing is looking for someone to fill your void, when that's your job and yours only❤
theREALE youre horrendous mentality is the reason why our society is so broken. Your focused on self.
I love OP, honestly and truly, if he was within reasonable distance i would find him amd give him a hug and whatever else he wanted. Im not gay, i actually do to women what they do to good men who dont deserve it, ie, i use my charm intellect and good looks to manipulate women into paying for LITERALLY EVERYTHING, and i use them for their holes every chance i get, and i make them drive me everywhere. Its so funny when they start to get upset and realize i played them when they thought they were playing me. They always call me evil. Its hilarious. Because they are too stupid to realize they are calling themselves evil. OP, your too good for any nasty snake s**t, and i will siphon resources from my next sugar mama in your honor. Love yourself as much as i love you.
Real men help themselves
Seek therapy/support groups to hlep with the depression youre obviously struggling with. You deserve to grow pas depression!
Go to God and pray on it and He will fix whatever is broken and needs to be fixed.
Woman hit the lottery at birth, Men work decades just to get in the game.
The party’s over. I have retreated to being alone all day. I don’t go out or talk to anyone, other than people at work.
exactly i have to get literal drunk in order to enjoy going to a restaurnant, or a festival or club. or even a show or walking downtown, so thats not sustanable
Me too, and I gave up on life. I literally work and see a friend or two during the week, other than that I exercise a bit and occasionally vacation but no women in my life - I dont even get laid, on very rare occasions.
@@FactStorm how do you look ? are you attractive
@@amandaburleson2035 That's subjective, now isn't it?
@@amandaburleson2035 the problem isn't attractiveness though. Attractiveness in itself is subjective...what you find attractive may not be the same for another person.
The current dating scene today is a combination of Hypergamy and options. Women today have many choices - they can choose to date from a pool of guys aka Chads, Tyrone, etc. or the multi-millionaire sitting on his yacht on some island in Miami. What this means is, only a small group of guys (20%) end up getting all the dates - you will have someone getting 7+ dates in a week, while another guy will not get a date for years.
It's not a surprise that some are giving up...the main danger though is, more and more will see this happening which in turn will have more and more men quit dating and that will have some major societal effects for the future.
Yup! I agree. I am 29 and i am considered to be a “failure to launch” person. I never once dated a girl even in high school and I always had trouble talking to women even today and I noticed the dating market has gotten worse and I regret not trying harder to find a nice girl when I was younger. Nowadays it’s hard for even a guy with a good and stable job to find a good girl. The risk of cold approaching women is not worth it anymore.
I am 24 and for now, I am at the same state
Same man. I also feel like making a good friend is an impossible task as well, it may be because i live in Brazil and ppl here don't seem to know what a friendship means.
Same boat 28 yrs old. Stable job with benefits and pension and with a recent promotion. College educated. The two people I have been friends with for the last 10 years have always been flaky and secretive about everything. Which is why I consider them to be more like associates. I got into cooking, biking, repairing things (only with what I'm comfortable with), etc. Trying to get into kayaking this year but its either been super windy or raining (every single weekend for like the last 2 months).
Haven't been on a date in 10 years. Given up on looking for a partner because of how awful society has been. And its only getting worse. There's no community events in my area. No public volunteer groups. I'm not the kind of guy to go to clubs or bars. (No clubs near me anyway). Dating apps led to no matches. Churches are not my thing either.
Hell, people at my work are even flaky. They'll go out to eat in groups on the drop of a dime. Not even a single day in advance . Not even a few hours. They even brought their own lunches but choose to go out to eat instead of eating what they got in the break room. I refuse because I don't want my food to spoil. They always say they will give me an advance warning the next time but don't. I've gotten the hint. If they ask me again, I'll be mad and tell them to just stop.
Done with society in general. They don't do me any favors, I won't do any for them.
It’s over
dont give up and meanwhile look at yourself what can you change about yourself for better maybe
I thnk a lot of 18-29 year old women think they are in relationships when in reality, they are just one of many options for Mr. Chad. These ladies are diluting themselves and wasting their prime years.
The numbers make it clear that there's several women for one man. Basically women are literally sharing men.
Lmao no.
@@_Dynamight_ They are.
@@OccidentalAryan Nah. Not me. Nor my girl friends. Nor the girls in my family. Nor my colleagues or customers.
This is how human civilization crumbles.
Let it, we deserve it. The poor dinosaurs did nothing, it is humans being selfish, self centered & destructive towards mother earth
Women are going to suffer the most
It was fun while it lasted
Let it crumble then
human civilization isnt just the west. in fact, most of the civilizations that have lasted longer to this day aint the west. its exactly this hubris that is leading the downfall and the rest of the world is awaiting with anticipation
Hypergamy. The word your looking for is Hypergamy.
Said the crowd who reeks of stagnancy. Why would she need to level-up if you're improving yourself?
@@maebandy bruh
@@thedoruk6324 cmon we all know it isn't just women giving up and throwing away all their pants that don't have elastic in waists after marriage. There are a lot of people who see the wedding day as the checkered flag not the sound of the starting gun of the tandem race towards goals of shared improvement. Maybe if the weddings didn't exhaust so much energy and money people wouldn't feel like they need to sit down and rest for 6 months after to recuperate. An ass at rest watching Netflix for 6months tends to stay that until someone at work starts to look like a better snack than the leftovers somebody cooked and hasn't touched since jamming them in the freezer a year ago.
@@maebandy I thought you were blaming men. Never mind.
Everything that women do is hypergamy boundaries? hypergamy no boundaries ? Hypergamy 💀💀💀⚰⚰⚰
As a guy who is 27, I would say this also affects many men who are in their late 20's, 30's, and on too. Everyone's goes through their journey differently.
Excellent advice. You hit the nail on the head about surrounding yourself with good male companions and growth. Social media I feel is playing a big part in exasperated and unrealistic expectations from women but at the same time men need to not victimize themselves. We need to continue to grow mentally, and spiritually in our own lives and relationships. This was very encouraging and I thank you for saying this and sharing this. I needed to hear this today.
Many of these young men saw the mistakes of the previous generation and just want peace of mind
Cope
I'm 39 years old, single by choice and wouldn't change that for anything or anyone.
Now here are my Top 16 reasons why I choose a single life....
1. Romantic partnership is expensive
2. I don't want the responsibilities
3. Too much arguing which causes drama and stress
4. I have depression and anxiety disorder
5. I am not romantic lovey dovey
6. I'm unattractive, boring and lacklustre
7. I wouldn't be a good partner
8. Too many people lie and cheat
9. Partnerships can become abusive
10. I have nothing to offer
11. I never desired romantic partnership
12. I'm a selfish person
13. I like my freedom and peace
14. I'm not making changes for anyone's gratification
15. I'm not beneficial for anyone
16. My lifestyle is not impressive
I often wonder what people want romantic partnership for. A lot of times, it's for companionship, sexual satisfaction and financial security which is absolutely downright selfish to me.
You are absolutely amazing. Not that you should care at all, but society marks men as potential threats or undesirable and women worthless or also undesirable to the economy if they choose to be single and childless by choice. My family was shocked and angry when I informed them that I wasn’t having kids or ever getting married at 15. Now at age 34 they still can’t believe I’m still single.
I made the decision to be single/unmarried at 18 and my family didn’t like it at the time. Now they support my decision and I have zero regrets.@@vaneilysweet920
Same tbh, you hit the nail on the head. Why be miserable married when you can enjoy the apathetic bliss of being single. Besides if i want a companion, i will just get a doberman.
People are legitimately a mess both male and female. Mental health and drug addiction are just two huge elephants in the room when it comes to dating. So many people are lower functioning in terms of relationships due to mental health and addiction problems just huge huge numbers of people. Most people are functioning so far beneath their potential and those are the two major culprits.
Yeah mental health is a big one where I live. I lot of women where I live have have a lot of trauma from growing up in hippie communes, getting sexually abused and such. There seems to be a lack of trust in men here.
I have a girlfriend now. I got rejected about 1500 times before a girl wanted to be with me. Just rejection after rejection.
In that time, I graduated university. I learned two languages.
Happy for you , good on ya
that sounds like a lot, but none of this is new. When I was in college I was turned down 40 times in a row.
How different is ur life with your girlfriend than with out
She is your gf because of your money. And she won't stay...
@@mathisnotforthefaintofheart i want to call this negative thinking but unfortunately this is just how it typically is
I'm 28, poor, and unnatractive. I decided to stop looking. Eventually you get tired of constant rejection. Unfortunately I don't have anything to look forward to in the future either every time I try to improve my financial situation it never works out. At this point in some ways I feel like I'm just waiting to die, hopefully sooner than later.
You have to lower your standards sorry.
@@MrMrsteve01 What am I supposed to do, go to the bottom of the barrel? At a certain point it isn't worth it
Acts 2: 38 take a upci girl
You are not the only one.
Level up brother. Good luck.
Honestly everyone has become so competitive making friends or meeting anyone is just draining
Everything he's saying is right. Hypergamy is incredibly prevalent. I'm 25 and I've been on and off dating apps for 3 years after college. I've had plenty of sex but that got boring. I had my first serious girlfriend about a year ago. She confronted me one day about the fact that I didn't have a solid friend group and that really stuck with me. After we broke up I tried dating again and it was incredibly challenging. I deleted all my dating apps back in September and I haven't been back on them since. I got back in the church, I joined a men's small group, and I really prioritized building those relationships. I gotts tell you with Valentine's Day in a couple days I don't think I'd have the strength to make it through if I didn't have my group of guys beside me.
Bro same! Went through a break up as well. Realized I didn’t have a strong support group of friends. Starting going to the gym and to men’s group. Best decision of my life!
Two factors
1. Young women like older men that have done more with their life, which leaves younger men out. (red pill explanation)
2. Young women are sharing guys. Average guy has no chance in todays market. (black pill explanation)
Both are probably true and sum up dating for young men today.
I used bumble in the states for 4 days and got zero matches, used it in Vietnam for 2 days and have over 26 matches. Get your passport
This!
..and expect to be shamed and criticized by the same women who didn't want you on Bumble.
@@sephiroth1234 could careless, they don't care what we think and I don't care what they think. Let them have a battle royal for the 13 chads that they want and I will live a life of abundance abroad.
You must be white.
@@moneylineparlay105 that's the spirit. I have the same experience by the way, in Vietnam but also Japan and Indonesia. But the women here (in the West)... they don't want to have anything to do with the average guy, but will not go out of their way to shame and blame him out loud when he finds love elsewhere. It's sick and sadisitc if you think of it...
Real friends no longer exist.
Just remember everyone:
A dog wont wake up in the morning and tell you it doesnt love you anymore.
all the classic copes. “men peak in their early thirties! just keep working / grinding for the next ten years and you'll get tha girlz! i promise! and don't forget to drop a bunch of money getting out there and traveling“ does anyone actually see women in their early twenties dating ultra successful thirty five year old men? i dont
I do, yeah, but you have to be well-put together
Exactly
Money + power = all the things
@@tevinmoss12 lookism also, you don’t necessarily need the wealth if you look good.
@@tevinmoss12 what happens if you already have money success looks and all those other things and the women don't magically appear? enough men are crossing the finish line only to find there is no woman waiting for them at the end. and then dropping out entirely because they've been lied to for years in the form of messages like yours. cant blame them
27, single, living at home. I’m 100% checked out.
You got a job? Strive for financial independence! That is true freedom and you will enjoy it. Practice stealth wealth and nobody is bothering you.
@@mathisnotforthefaintofheart nah I’m pretty convinced America will collapse completely in 10 years or less. No sense in working while the flames burn the brightest
lol you are super young
@@clauaome25 I’m about 50% through my lifespan actually
@@oocloudoo1549 but for a man his dating life truly starts at 30, maybe 35.
Here are some double standards that I think about sometimes. If a guy breaks up with a girl for any reason, we consider it okay for the girl to lash out and call him a selfish, inconsiderate piece of sh*t. If a girl breaks up with a guy, the guy just has to take it and not complain, regardless of what the reason for the breakup is. Also, if a guy dumps a girl simply to date a hotter girl, he's considered a douche bag, but if a girl does the same thing, she's "leveling up".
But we men also have double standards
We see a man who break girls heart a cool mf while a girl doin this is a bich
For me both are wh*res
Im 36 and i checked out back in 2011. Stay single, stay stress free.
am 19 but is that really what u want?
u got any advice on life?
@@julespeeters45 my only advice is to live life man. I am also a military veteran who works as a refrigeration engineer. If it happens it happens but I am not forcing myself on any women or chasing. This is what works for me.
Women just don't want me, dawg. I'm not going to lie about it
They don’t want the majority of us bro 😂
I hope things are going better. I know it sucks
@@lebossy 3 words always go into my mind: MONEY, MONEY. MONEY
@@jimnfl7134 Since the 70's wages have been stagnate and it's made the dynamic hard for everyone. We are all out here just trying to do our best. Money can make you feel like you are not stuck on the hamster wheel of life but it sure doesn't keep you warm at night.
@@jimnfl7134I want money, and not to attract women. I want it to buy the house and the cars I want.
As a 25yo male, I’m focusing on my career. I want to find someone but my job comes first.
Cool but the youth, health, energy, and wishes not longs forever. I'm 32 and every year after 30 I want less and less. From 15 to 30 age girls looks for you so damn beautiful and wanted, but when you getting older they looks for you just like average any random people, they all the fkn same and you have low motivation to get relationship.
@@NKN82 I am hearing you pal (metaphorically speaking) now imagine how it is for a 42 year old man like me. I cant be bothered anymore.
AS YOU SHOULD!
Corporate America has succeeded. That's what they want you to do. Your occupation comes first. No significant other or kids to prioritize? Looks like you can work more hours and devote more to your meaningless job. Any corporation's dream is a slave-wager who will give all their labor to them their entire life without any other wants or desires. Now ask yourself who is behind the destruction of the family unit and the rise of "independent" women? It's no coincidence that the "solution" for both genders in this new twisted culture is to focus on their "career". Then everyone applauds.
You can imagine walking down the street with your wife and men constantly recognizing her from her past, this can cause friction in a relationship. This also applies to the man and his past.
Agreed. Solid friendships with good dudes are key to getting started on a better path in life.
I’m a 31yr old guy - I'm 6’1”, earning high 6-figures, apartment, car, athletic, gym 5x/week, in fantastic physical shape, very family oriented and yet I still get ghosted by women left and right. I cold approach women all the time and I also attend social functions whenever they come around and it's always the same response: "I'm seeing someone" or "I have a boyfriend" or "You'll find someone eventually". I'm polite, friendly, kind, flirty... but nothing I do is good enough. I think I'm done for good, I'm so exhausted.
You can't be all that and get nowhere with women.
he forget to mention 3/10 face the important part.@@elizabeetle13
@@elizabeetle13 Yes you can. Dating is complete garbage in this generation.
Woman: "Now that I am divorced, I don't understand why men my age don't want relationships leading to marriage?"
Man: "How did your divorce turn out?"
Woman: "I got custody of my kids, the house, alimony, child support, and half of everything, including his retirement."
why would you say that
@@kapsi I am guessing you were never processed through the "system". In my case, after I paid the taxes (my liquidated 401K) and attorney fees there was not much left. My EX and "friend" bought a double wide (my retirement fund), I paid support and lived with a roommate in similar circumstances for 7 years. It took me 9 years to recover. Thirty-five years later I am a millionaire and I make a Country Club home by the Coast of Florida. My EX married her "friend" and they still have the doublewide. Comprende?
@@kapsi because it happens so frequently...
It seems education is important for both genders.
But there should be some balance, have freedom of choice.
then as experts say those long-term marriages are flourishing if both have the same values, hobbies, same lifestyle.
so it's interesting that when you see a couple from the same environment or same job, for example, music field or science field.
they understand each other so much that their marriage is long-term, and they share similar points of view or values.
It's like the music or the topics brings them together because of empathy.
They put themselves in the shoes of the other person.
For example, if both love sports or hiking or traveling there is a bigger chance that they will have a long-term relationship.
I agree that men are designed to be high performers.
As John Gray says estrogen makes women talk about emotions more often.
10 times more noticing emotions and problems when under stress.
So I guess women should do some yoga or sport to be less in stress.
Testosterone suppresses the estrogen in the man´s body, to be calmer and focus more on task.
Testosterone is about problem-solving. So it's true that men are usually better leaders and problem solvers.
He also says women should not force their husband to think too much about their emotions. She shouldn't ask him how do you feel, but What do you think?
Because if she forces him to feel emotions too much, it's against his biology.
But men feel happy to make the wife happy, or create values etc.
He says men shouldn't ask women What do you think, but how do you feel?
because if he forces her to think rationally and logically it is against her biology, She is becoming masculine.
Love and empathy and gratitude are not about logic, its energy, and vibration as Einstein would say.
because man expects her to have the type of thinking and feeling as women have thanks to estrogen.
He teaches couples how to communicate properly. Empathy helps put each other in their shoes.
But elderly men get much more estrogen and females get more testosterone. so it seems they should do some meditation yoga and not think bout their identity
so much even Dr. Joe Dispenza says the less you think about your identity such as gender nation, profession, lifestyle, language, status etc.
the better you focus on your tasks.
Man: And most importantly, what was the reason for divorce?
The advice about focusing on male friendships is extremely good. I am 30 now but a few years ago I had almost no friends, with some deliberate effort now I have a few and it has enriched my life immensely. I have not dated anyone since I was 17 and I still feel invisible to women but it doesn't sting so bad when you have a few people in your corner.
Still you have to realize that friendships come and go. It's not important the friends you have, it's important your ability to make new ones.
no such thing as a unicorn.
@@tedclark7860 terrible advice. there are definitely ppl that could possibly be around till the day u die. be open minded
@@tedclark7860 shit take tbh, my homeboys have helped me through very dark times simply by being around. A good friend will last way longer than an relationship.
@@tedclark7860Well, relationships come and go too.
Couple of years ago I heard this quote about how you don’t go to the supermarket starving otherwise you get the wrong things and, likewise, you don’t start relationships when you are starving emotionally for very same reasons. I’ve been following this words for a while now, putting emphasis on creating friendships first but I can’t help but notice how much harder it is to make friends than to find a girlfriend
It's all well and good to say that you shouldn't choose what to eat when you're not thinking clearly, but sooner or later you have to choose something or you starve to death. If loneliness is the reason why we're depressed then waiting to be in an optimal frame of mind before seeking company just ensures that the right frame of mind never comes.
No offense but i truly dont see how people crave friendships and relationships.. if a man builds himself physically and mentally he doesnt need others, for me i always been alone but i got other things i work on and addicted to seeing myself change. Because when you’re with friends you always think” this shit is boring, i could be doing something else with my time “ and anxiety comes in because you know you should or shouldn’t be doing something, friends are a distraction if they arent on the same page
not gonna lie going to the supermarket starving would probably be a good thing. When you are starving anything tastes good, so it is easy to just choose a bunch of healthy produce that maybe doesn't taste so great usually, but since you are starving it will be amazing.
not to detract from your overall point though
Thanks for the video. Although the factors you mentioned are mildly depressing, it's good to have a reminder to focus on other things. Having high quality friends around is really important and most importantly getting out doing stuff.
I think if you get too wrapped up in self pity or get too defeatist about never meeting a girl, it's easy to shut yourself in. In turn making yourself more anti social and having less great memories with the people actually in your life.
Then you'll have no hobbies and nothing interesting about you, making you less attractive. What a downwards spiral that could be.
It is because young men are getting wiser. They realize that the cost of relationships outweigh the benefits. Women have made dating an awkward and not very rewarding experience.
You could say the same about the job market. A lot of people are not negotiating or trying to understand each other's wants and needs.
Wrong. They’re getting more ignorant bc they’re too busy projecting bs ideas of who they think all women are while at the same time objectifying them and not seeing them as actual people. 😂 you can’t form an actual connection with someone you don’t even see as a person. Guys just see women as a means to an end instead of an end in itself. They also base a great amount of their own value on whether they can “get” women or not. Extremely toxic.
@@Quaberr Men are objectifying women? LOL, Women are walking around in clothes much too small for them, and revealing way too much. Then women get on social media in thongs and other provocative outfits for attention. They are constantly objectifying themselves.
Also, men spend more on dating. Why? because women are selling their vaginas. Men pay for se. That is the rule. Many times we do not get sex. Men buy the diamond rings, Women initiate o0-85% of the child support and alimony. Men only get around 75% of the time with their children that women get. Men lget their wages garnished for child support, and have to pay the child support clearing house a fee AND their employer. Mom does not pay anything and she is not accountable for where the money goes. Even if she has an affair the divorce works the same way.
Women initiate over 70 percent of all divorces, and it is easy to see why. The most common reason is "we grew apart." You ladies want equality some of the time, and you want traditional gender roles some of the time. You want it both ways. All you do is use men. You are really a waste of our time and money. You would not understand because you do not invest as much in relationships as men.
Men approach you, they ask you, they pay for stuff, then they ask you to marry them, then they buy the ring, then you leave them and he pays you child support. NO Thanks.
Maybe some men are leaving voluntarily, but I'd argue that most are still alone involuntarily.
@@macdonald2k Involuntary? Women control sex, men control marriage? Men are the ones that initiate dating/courtship, and the proposal, etc. They are choosing to avoid relationships with women. The cost outweighs the benefits. Why are women initiating over 70% of divorces? The system rewards women for breaking the contract. It is not involuntary, trust me. Men want to spread their seed, but only when conditions are favorable. Conditions are not favorable. Read the book "Men on Strike" by Dr. Helen Smith. It explains why men are boycotting marriage.
Everything you talk about here is what I lived. Diagnosed with cancer at 18 and again at 21. Didn't get into college till 23, and by the time i did, all my classmates from highschool had graduated or close to it. I spent the first year working really hard on my classes and in the gym, but by the time i turned 24, i had seen enough on social media and experienced enough in real life to become what gen z now calls "black pill"
Spent the next 5 years in a near constant state of borderline suicidal depression all while changing schools and shifting through odd jobs until last year, i finally snapped out. Went back to finish my degree and have been job hunting since.
If you're 18-29 and reading this, i turn 30 this week. It wasnt too late for me, and its not too late for you.
Glad you made it out Stephen, proud of you.
I had last stage T- NHL Lymphoma when I was 17 (now 37). Two years chemotherapy, since then stable.
I had a lot of bad times after it, so much that I often asked myself if surviving is really "winning".
I am content now, living my life alone.
same boat as you bro, going to finish university at 33
@@warlord1207 I finished at 29 but I feel you man. Find strength and hang in. We're going to find our light.
@@warlord1207 still very young.
"You are alone? Dont search for a wife"
1 Corinthians 7:8-9
So true words from apostle Paul
When women wield authority, their true characteristics become evident. Men seem to be progressively losing their traditional strengths, and women no longer feel compelled to settle for a partner they don't genuinely love because of the abundant options available to them. In the past, women often found themselves in marriages they might not have been content with due to legal restrictions that prevented them from achieving financial independence. Nowadays, the situation has changed significantly, with the emergence of a more open landscape. Social media, progressive movements, and governmental policies are increasingly empowering women while potentially holding men back. Both the old and modern systems are seen as unjust, and there is no definitive right or wrong in this debate. The fundamental question is which of these systems will better support the well-being of humanity. It also raises doubts about whether patriarchy ever truly existed, as it appears that men have always been significantly influenced by women. The only certainty is that life tends to be unjust, with winners and losers in every era. Currently, it appears that men, especially in more developed Western societies, are facing greater challenges.
That is very well said. You seem like someone who has studied this subject thoroughly and I bet you have a lot of insights on it.
Gonna poke a hole in your thesis… I’m 35, single, backpack, do landscape and macro photography, work on major motion features, my job takes me accross the country, college educated, typically read about 50 books a year, and referee soccer…yet my very first date she wants to know about my 401k and student debt.
I’ve been depressed overwhelmed with feelings of inadequacy obsessing over making more money, finding new qualification’s and activities like scuba and forklift certs, when I realized the key to happiness is lifting off the social pressure and just do me. I’m sorry I was not born into a life of overwhelming financial privilege. If I do better than my parents then I’ve done alright.
This is why men are over it.
How about this (my idea)?: "Success is not needing it."
A rich and robust man of the world here! You could've stopped at backpacking & photography, and still been miles ahead of the 'gamer boys'.
I spent half my life as a semi-pro guitarist (to the degree that I once worked with one of Taylor Swift's recording engineers)... these days, I'm practicing hand-drawn animation and would like to start a podcast..... think it's getting me laid? Think again x'D
Keep doing you, amigo; you aren't a meal ticket.
I don't think I'm ever gonna do better than my late dad. He was a beast. Too bad I couldn't learn crap from him.
Fuck cancer
I feel like the big thing for young men is that our efforts are not valued and appreciated, and that people just expect all these things from us like they're entitled to it.
Asking a girl on a date is a big deal for a lot of guys. Putting yourself up for potential rejection and taking a hit to your confidence and ego. This was worth it almost all the time before because the act of asking a girl out was looked at as a very flattering thing to do. Even if she wasn't interested, she still respected the confidence and balls it took to go up and ask her that. Then when you go on the date, you pick her up, open the doors for her, move her seat for her, pay the bill, all these things for her. These were truly valued and appreciated but now, it seems like there are so many women out there who believe they are "the shit" and a "queen" and "Im a 10" so much that they feel entitled to those things. We don't mind doing those things for people who genuinely value and appreciate them, we absolutely don't want to do them for someone who feels like they're owed those things.
The risk just isn't worth the reward anymore, at least not nearly as much as before. Don't get me wrong, I've gone on a few dates and some of them they really appreciated all the kind things I did for them and going the extra step. I don't want this to seem like it's every woman because it isn't, but I have met a lot of women who feel entitled to things. The world doesn't owe you shit, you are not a queen, you are not a "boss chick", you are a human being just like I am. Imagine I was walking around all the time calling myself a "boss man", a "king", saying I'm perfect and deserve all these things. Any woman with a connected brain stem would stay the hell away from me, and for good reason.
We need to really reintroduce humbleness into our society. We don't need luxury, we don't need all these things, I don't need to make 100k+ a year to be happy. Focus on the things that really matter, human connection, family, relationships, etc. Social media has everyone's priorities mixed all the way up that we've lost the core reason to be in a serious relationship.
Just keep at it and you’ll find someone that’s high value as soon as they start gold digging just leave it
I agree with every single thing you said here. Women are the problem nowadays because she is only thinking about money and how to control her “man”. Women want men who are dumb enough to do all her dirty work which speaks to her insecurity. At this point, every man that I see who is in a relationship is in a relationship because his woman controls him, tells him what to do and he knows that if he doesn’t do it, there will be hell to pay back at home. It’s not worth it and women will suffer the consequences in the future. Now that men and women are equal, when the millionaire men are gone, I wonder who they will have to go out with next?
This comment was epic. Glad wise people like you still exist
Men qho do things for a woman want something in return.
No nope, not going on a dinner date.
@@CordeliaWagnerWhat’s wrong with them wanting something in return? What happened to EQUALITY
I’m single cuz I wanna focus on my goals and dreams without being held back by a toxic female
The irony is that when your Dreams and goals are met, most likely a Toxic female will target you like a gun. Always remember that the majority of women don't start the race with you. They wait at the finish line for the winner.
Im 38 and ive completely given up on women and love
Not only are they dating older, they're dating (sharing tbh) the same small group of guys. Can't miss that part lol
polygamy with extra steps and less loyalty...
If there is a small chance of getting accused of being a creep, singled out and condemned by people online - possibly losing your job even - it's just not worth it. At all.
It's about looks, bro. If people assume that you're creepy, you're just not attractive.
@@Churlzeven if not attractive, that's no excuse to treat people like pariahs
@@MarquosXoloVanda Women's feelings are more important than treating an ugly man with basic human respect.
@@MarquosXoloVandathat is how women view ugly men they discriminate against them act like they are some kind of subhuman genetic failed experiment that deserves nothing but the absolute worse ive seen it second hand
I’m 18 right now. Talking to girls my age is painful because they’re bland and, have no hobbies. Girls my age lack substance. That’s not to say I’m the victim of bad women, I make mistakes too.
Stay single, save your mental and physical health. Also save your money.
I think he's forgetting about one thing. When people are out in public, no one talks to one another. When you do attempt conversation or branching out socially it's stilted and often unfruitful. Everyone seems so atomized, and there is no depth.
No eye contact, On their phones
I hate that. I used to work in some big cities and would actually intentionally stay in hotels that were many blocks away from where I was working because I loved to walk the streets in the early morning and talk to people and grab coffee and breakfast and discuss things like the local sports teams...but it's just not really like that anymore. Everyone's on their phones.
@@joebriggs5781 it's pretty crazy how disconnected I feel outside. Not for a lack of trying. Almost like it's easier to form meaningless connections on social media. I hate this shit so much
It's so true I feel like I'm committing a crime just by approaching a girl in public.
Try being the one person who's not on his phone in public, I guarantee you that you will catch strangers stare at you funny.
It’s not just for guys in the 20s. I’m in my 30s and I can’t get dates despite being more established than I was 10 years ago.
Over 40 will be even harder
How come you think that’s so?
25 -40 is the sweet spot for men. Visually appealing, somewhat fit and energetic, more financially stabilised and mentally matured.
Men at 40 start having the erectile dysfunction, beer belly and receeding hairline comes through, body pains start. Wrinkles start coming in etc. Start. The older you get the worse it gets.
It‘s all about your looks. No woman cares about how established a man is, unless they wish to fleece him. Women get piped down by lifetime felons on the daily. 😂
@@steph6109 What's the sweet spot for women. I think it ends at early 20s.After that, they are the pits.Even young girls today are mostly fat, pierced and tattoes with blue hair. Unappealing!!!
I don’t think it’s attractive. They’re just chasing for someone that can give them an easy life with benefits. They may not be in it for you to begin with.
So much advice given today seems to include something like "ignore the data, pretend as if it weren't there." When it IS there. We now know that women are massively hypergamous as a group and can point to the relevant supporting statistics. I'm just using this as an example, but you can say the same for male dating strategy or anything else. When you're handed data on something and find it depressing, are you doing yourself a service by a) ignoring it and acting as if you've never seen it, carrying on and effectively lying to yourself.... or by b) reacting to the new information and assimilating this new knowledge into your decision making, even if the new information is depressing?
I'm one unhappy guy, so I'm not giving advice or advocating for a certain attitude, because i have no idea how to be happy. But i have a rule for myself that i won't willfully put my head in the sand and ignore reality just because it's painful. I won't pray to a God i don't believe in just because religious people are happier overall. And i won't pretend i don't know all of the depressing things i know about dating just because I'd potentially be better served by pretending like i don't know them. Personally i advocate for dealing with what is, even when what is abjectly sucks.
We’ve all lost our way.
Younger women are aggressive and non traditional. Career focus and not family/home focused.
Younger Men are softer and have less drive for physical long careers and basically are scared of these demanding women.
I don't think young man being scared is necessarily a problem, I'm pretty sure this fear existed far before our time and will still do after, the thing is that young man have no incentives to face this fear. Fight the world, secure the bag so you could maybe get a mediocre wife doesn't sound like a good deal
Well Said
@@20thcentury_toyit's even harder to "secure the bag" since we're entering a great depression
@@20thcentury_toy I think he meant scared as in resorting to seeking validation from women rather than being the lead..
@@20thcentury_toy These thoughts have been in my head for some time: Non-traditional (I get that some is outdated but blindly following progressive ideas no thx), career-focused, highly demanding while not bringing much to the table, "need to experience" (lol)...
It is probably just a bigger symptom of the state of society.
Dating older, dating each other, dating the same man or choosing to remain single.
So as a young dude at 19 out of HS who doesn’t plan on going to go to college for long, I’m kinda screwed when it comes to when I decide I want to date, and I’m not quite sure how I’m gonna be making friends from now on but i still think the advice Is helpful if I can manage to make more friends. I’m pretty similar to what you described especially since I like staying in, but maybe spending time with friends can help if I can somehow make them.
Note that spending time with your family can also help take your mind off these things too with how you feel women treat you or feel like how you’d never strike a date with a woman or that no woman would like you more than just a friend.
Get into a trade
I’ve been single for 7 long years and I’m tired of it.
Damn, dating and relationships sound horrible and super difficult. No wonder so many fellow guys of my age just gave up on them.
You have no idea man
@@jaysouthmusic8230 It's going to get crazier with that 2030 prediction of a huge population chunk of lonely single 40 year old women and the advent of AI/Robotics relationships. 40 to 80 is a long time to spend alone for these women. Are these 40 year old single women going to all try and share those few successful 40 year old men, and would these top tier men even want those worn out bitter ladies, and would the single 40 year old betas even want them when their AI virtual or robotic girl is angelic by comparison?
I’ll stay single for as long as it takes, had plenty of relationships, all they do is drain your time, energy, resources, sanity, and most of all my peace, my job is hard enough why do I want extra drama? Nah I like my peace
That’s exactly how I feel
Hello
Not going to college does not mean someone isn't intelligent. College is overrated.
Women need to understand that not every man lives his life to chase money or status. Id rather die with 0 in the bank no kids and no wife 😂. I want a woman that looks past money.
As a married man, I would say stay single guys. Keep your friend group. Travel. Meet up at the local bar. The women I dated in my day were not great. I can't imagine it has gotten better with time and it is better to be comfortable by yourself than alone with a wife/gf.
Meet up at the local bar? Why would you want to date an alcoholic?
Meet up at the local bar? No thank you. OF wh*res aren't my type.
It's a lot worse today, all they want is to be "tiktokers" or "streamers", be OnlyFans models, have a lot sugar daddies, I will follow your advice.
konstantinrebrov675 keep making excuses to not do work.
@@KFrost-fx7dt ??
39 year old here, getting close to 40. Had 1 serious relationship only in 2014-2017, we lived together. But I learned the hard way that she, like most women, cared more about what I could do for her and not so much about me, while from my end I had no expectations and just wanted to be with her and loved her. This is the key issue I think... many guys like me realized that all women want from them is to provide - time, money, attention... some women are obfuscating this simple truth, others are very blunt about it which is a major turn off. Funny enough when I was younger I lived under an illusion that women are delicate, need to be fought for, that they are somehow special. Now thanks to my ex I understand that they are just regular people who use certain things to get what they want, and are probably too focused on self survival/putting themselves first. Selfish. And can they be really blamed for it, when so many men out there are ready to provide? not really. I think many men, including me, just learned to be selfish too - thats all. Either way, it's been an awakening.. some get that knowledge much earlier in life, others much later, and others don't even learn and keep repeating the same mistakes.
I agree, I have the same age than you and I think many women are fucked up and that dating market sucks, but do you realize that you are extrapolating 1 single experiencie into billions of people?
@@rc6115 I am very likely extrapolating that 1 real experience (before her there were many short-lived bullshit times, 1 random nice 1 night stand, but mostly just pointless 1-sided shit). I didnt get much experience but I guess I learned a lot from that 1. Plus I look around, seeing how guys in my circle doing everything for their gfs. There're also dating apps of course - been swiping for years now, seeing more of the same "I like this, I like that, I need a gentleman", all asking for stuff. I am just tired of giving, and since I started focusing on my own needs its become easier to live really
Also forgot to mention about $. With her my account shrunk in a major way (gifts, trips all that good stuff). But being 7 years single I accumulated enough and got an investment property. I keep thinking - had I been with her still, or anyone else and their "me me me" crap, I would've been only doing that - running around and catering to their needs. I honestly think that we men weren't born just to keep someone happy. It shouldn't be hard work either. I dunno.. maybe those nice not very demanding women exist, but I think they are truly rare :\
@@aldimboglmao the only thing i ask for my husband to save up some money for emergency for him cause hes a spender... i was never a spender i would only ever want atleast one date or two dates a week it doesnt have to include money but certainly food. Its a mutual bonding. My hisband spoila ne with clothes but im not a material girl i rather save it for a trip w him or something
@@rrrealqueen thats great! I wish more women were like you :\
36 years old. Had friends. They got married and now I see them every couple months or so. I haven't dated in over a decade. Online dating sucks. Cold approaches suck. I'm about to go live in the woods.
Just curious
Why didn't you date and get married around the same time as your friends?
just think about it. IDK this guy but I know the answer, Not surprised women dont know squat about men.@@math1181
@@math1181 I’m 36 and unmarried, I think I can answer for him:
Dating is basically impossible for an average man. While I do get dates, they can barely get past the 3 month mark. People (especially women) are way more picky now. No one wants to put in effort. If the relationship hits the inevitable minor speed bump, it’s over. On to the next one.
I think it’s a miracle anyone is able to form lasting relationships at all these days
@@math1181you really cant figure that out?! Its literally why 66% of men are single, its cause you greedy 304’s didn’t like anything about him that you could use.. doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure that out
Perhaps, focus on developing new interests you'd meet new people for both friendship & romance. Sorry but, LIFE REQUIRED EFFORT. nO EFFORT MEANS NOT GETTING THE RESULTS YOU WANT.
It was amazing to see this video, the fact that everything of what he says is take in a single straight speech with no cuts it's just... unbelievable.
That’s a difficult time in a man’s life, you think you know a lot but you really know nothing, you’re still learning and maturing and gaining experience. It’s not easy, but as soon as I turned 30 my entire mindset shifted. Hang in there brothers
20s and anything before time is constant learning and growth it gets better in your 30s depends tbh on the person
Looks like the so called black pilled losers were right after all. People need to give them an apology straight up
People prefer easy to digest lies rather than difficult truths.
Le Bla¢kPill remain Undefeated
I feel like I do what it would take to make myself appealing to women, I'm very out going and social, Im always out somewhere, Im a photographer so I'm always sharing my experiences and journeys on Instagram. I've been working out everyday now for overall health and appearances too. But yet it just never seems to be enough. Even when I meet new women and I had gotten the impression that we hit it off well, they just don't care to see me again. I get ghosted, or get replied back with tons of excuses that they are busy, it's not like they even try to make time and work out a day they are available. It's getting to the point where i'm almost numb to it, I'm just wasting my time and energy getting all stressed and sad about girls who don't give a fuck about me anyways. I want to give up everyday. Just focus on what really matters, my career, my friends, my family.
Sounds like your doing well, now you just need to learn game, do cold approach.
I highly recommend Corey Wayne's 3% man book
Cold approach?
I was going to write a comment but it literally couldn’t matter less if I do or not. Nobody will actually listen, nobody will help, and nothing will change.
True unfortunately. Only you can help yourself.
A couple of years ago, I went full "monk mode" for two years straight. Coming of a divorce I needed a reset.
Meaning, not looking for partnership, hook-ups or any confirmation from the opposite sex at all.
Work, mental and physical health and sorting my life the best I could without distractions did wonders for me. Worst, and by far, best period of my life, without a doubt.
Monkmode is a blessing when done right
You gotta be careful wifh monk mode if you go too far Into it there is no coming back it's like you enter a zen mode
@@fayelis I think it’s too late for me. I plan on practicing “semen retention” for the rest of my life.