The REAL Reason 90% Of Men Are Lost In Life | Scott Galloway
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- Scott Galloway delves into society's role in the crisis faced by men today, why men lack positive role models and the pressing importance of men's mental health.
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He is right about being paternal. I work in the trades and started noticing the young guys following me around the shop or the grounds. It took a few years to realize this 18 19 20 year old dudes were desperate for some guidance, for an older man to take interest in them. Now when I hire these young guys I realize I am not just a boss, I am a big brother.
I had this in my reserve unit. I chastised this young 18 year old about his finances and personal decisions, which to my surprised caused him to reach out to me for guidance. We eventfully got him to understand how to budget his money, refinance his car, and move out on his own. But his personal life -- relationship decisions really annoyed me -- as he thought the Plan B pills are an acceptable for of birth control. I tried and tried to get this line of thinking out of his head to no avail. I shunned him and left the reserves and never reached out.
I wish I hadn't done that. He has no men in his life, no adult man to get him to think, and understand the difference between reacting and responding and how decisions he makes even if not directly related to him in this very moment, will come back to haunt him. I wish I hadn't done that. So, my advice to you, and keep big brothering them, even if they act like knuckle heads because eventually you'll breakthrough and the lessons will stick.
Bless you for influencing young men in positive ways.
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This I was so lost and in mid 20s just wanted some guidance. Mainly in my career but also like you said mentors become family more than anything.
Thank you so much for understanding the task, sir.
I got my ideas about masculinity from my dad, who rarely tells me how he feels but is always showing me and others by going out of his way to help them.
I left teaching because of the "creep" factor. You hardly make enough to live on, so women don't want to date you. You're constantly being watched because no one can believe you'd devote your time altruistically. If you spend too much time with a particular student ( because they're the only one who is listening to you) you get accused of favortism. Ulimately, there are too many downsides, so when I stopped teaching and went into IT, it all turned around. I spend most of my time alone, but the peace is irresistible.
And the paycheck must be better, too. It's almost like the educational system is designed to break you. smh
Modern education is a scam and it's total trash
Made to serve a by gone era of the old industrial world order
Women don’t date you because you are a teacher and make no money! lol that’s not true guys who are broke are always dating you need to look at yourself and find out why you can’t date a woman. Dating is easy but you need to master being comfortable talking to women. If you don’t you will be lonely most of the time
@@BeYourself-jk5xoppl who are not well adjusted always blame it on the others. I have my bad days and want to isolate from ppl. Its me not them. Some ppl just accept how the world is and survive it and I cant always do that.
Yes according to society, the sole value of men is the value of their bank account.
I just stopped caring about what others think of me, made life much more fulfilling.
What he says about boys not having male role models is 100% true. It’s like the entire school system made a pact to uplift and encourage the girls, while ignoring the boys. I’ve never had a mentor, teacher, counselor, no one who ever took me under their wing and gave me some good advice. For most guys, the heroes we saw in sports and movies were who we strived to be like. I’m now in my 40s, doing okay for myself, but definitely under-achieving. I was a decently smart kid back in my school days, but, where were the real-life role models that could’ve helped steer me in the right direction?? It’s a travesty, smh.
@@derek4412wow super interesting! .
I agree with everything you say about the boys not having that in the schools are not having role models. But you say that as if the girls had that. We didn’t. We had to work very hard to find our place in the school system. Education was not given to women. Women had to take education in their own hands and fight against a system that didn’t want to educate them. This is a problem for both males and females and as long as we keep talking about it as if the males don’t have it then we are going to keep them divided.
@@danzwithizabel1175 I disagree. I’ve had this discussion with my sisters as well as female friends, and they actually agree with me. They can rattle off this mentor, or this professor who helped them along the way, and for them to hear that so many guys like myself were ignored throughout school blew their minds, they had no idea! So, now that so many women today are successful and wondering why so many men have fallen behind, look no farther than the school system. I’m not sure how old you are, but, it sounds like you may be speaking of previous generations of students. Presently, there is an obvious difference in the time and investment given to girls versus boys in the school system, so much so, that college enrollment for boys are at an all-time low. To deny that there is a gender bias within the school system is just (with all due respect) plain ridiculous.
They have idiots like Rogan, Tate and Peterson unfortunately
Boomer here. No role models Made my own way. I'm fine thanks 😊
"We've decided, when it comes to men, that compassion is a zero sum game. And that if you feel bad for men, it immediately out you as someone that could be anti-women."
DUDE, PREACH !!!
What if there were groups for guys that might revolve around sports or fitness, but included a lot of mentoring? And perhaps getting this type of thing monetized?
@@reginasemenenko148 That would be nice.
But the monetization part tends to corrupt things in my experience.
@@laStar972chuck I know. I just don't know how you could attract all the help that would be needed. I think you are on to something that could be really helpful.
Worse, I think it's a negative-sum game. People actively care less about issues that effect both men and women once they're aware that men are suffering in some way. Most people simply deny it or blame men, even when they are the disproportionate sufferers for many issues.
"WE" didn't decide this. the left-wing did.
Men are discriminated against in higher education. A few years ago I applied for a Respiratory therapist program at a college after meeting all the criteria. I worked in the government, I was an EMT, I had worked at a hospital at the time and had been in healthcare for 6 years, I had excellent grades and grants too. When I went to the interview the Female interviewer said this program wasn't for every body and gave such condensing tones and even called me "dude" this grown 40 year old woman telling a 28 year old man he was a dude. I then talked to a lady who interviewed next after me who had worked as a CNA for 2 months and told me she got the spot in the program even after she said she had no idea what she was doing. Granted she was a nice lady but the discrimination was very apparent.
If you ever want to see what female on male discrimination looks like, work in the hospital field. If you aren't a doctor you are essentially at the bottom of the pyramid. There truly is a class system.
I've heard more than once that the medical field and hospitals are essntially glorified harems for male doctors.
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@@onyxjade5474 The faintest melody plays for you, onyx.
Yes, you hit the nail on the head. Try pleasing a divorced female principal, as a single male.... Good luck bc you will need a lot!! of it
My view of masculinity is : thoughtfull, wise, rational, objective, expressive
Oh yeah 😍
View of Females: Privileged beyond belief, and still claiming to be Victims,
Yes wish guys where like that.
That's basically the description of a nerd. Rational and objective in particular.
No one likes nerds, except the fake ones.
@@QoraxAudioyou can still like and enjoy “nerd” like activities, just be man about it i guess, stoic?
Idk where i was going with this, anyway, im high, have a good-day/night who ever is reading! ❤️🙏
I grew up in a family as the only boy with 3 sisters and my mother of course. My father was more or less present and didn’t like me so much, he was hitting me physically from time to time. My parents divorced when I was 15. My father and I didn’t see eye to eye so I left home at 18. I was surrounded by my 3 sisters who gave birth to 6 girls (my nieces), not a single boy in the family besides me. When there is a family reunion, I’m surrounded with 10 women (mother, 3 sisters and 6 nieces)! Needless to say that I am the black sheep in the group, they ignore me totally like they have always done. I avoid those family reunions now, I don’t attend them. I went on to succeed the most compared with my siblings, graduated from university, had a great career in commercial real estate, married a great wife and we live in a very upscale neighbourhood. The message is take control of your life, don’t give a f_ck about people who ignore you and be strong.
I was a high school English teacher in a low income area of NC. I had a group of young boys who were in my classroom before/after school and in between classes. They were like glue - being around me whenever they could. Part of that may have been that I was young and fun - but I know for sure that all of those guys lacked male role models. It's a problem that has serious real-world consequences. Boys need good male role models.
There is no shame to be a man. Stand tall for yourself.
The problem is, some men have NO shame.
@@josiah_jacksonwhy would someone feel shame for being born something? It makes no fucking sense
@@bensheard3969 Who's saying that?
Porn and weed are just bad for young men, I was also part of it.
@@bensheard3969 Where did I say that? Why deceitfully try to put words in my mouth, have you no SHAME, man?
Scott is 💯 on point. Get out of the damn house, breath air, live life, be with friends. FIND A PASSION
Too expensive...
Scott
The number three item "look after yourself" I believe should be number one. You cannot look after others until you can look after yourself first.
Very true. 🫡
That's been my motto throughout my adult life. I've got to take care of myself first so I can take care of others: family, friends, colleagues, community, etc. My ex wife kept accusing me of being selfish...that's one of the reason we're ex !
The issue I see amongst some men and voices online respond to that question of be a protector is…”well what’s in it for me? Why do I need to sacrifice my life for a society that hasn’t done anything for me in return “. I don’t know how big of an issue this is but if things continue the way they.
exactly, what reason do men have to serve a society that openly hates them?
Literal this. Men are waking up and people like Galloway want to put them to sleep
This guy is so weak I am amazed he thinks he’s an expert on it. I’m so bored of social intellectual people who alll they do is read books and study - that is NOT masculine . The guys getting action are the OPPOSITE of that lol
What’s in it for them? Idk, ummm, maybe a stable society?
@@ree4214 , then go ahead and be the one to put your life on the line for a stable society that couldn't be there for you prior.
The moment that we accepted the outlandish idea that fathers are irrelevant, we placed that last nail on our collective coffin as a society.
Exactly 💯
When a father decides to abandoned his kids, he is doing this, my friend.
@@missfaztudo9312 A father who willingly abandons his kids is no longer a father.
sure
Seeing Fathers as irrelevant is grounded in the Post WW period, where fathers just werent there and after that lost the connection to their families. Just being the financial supporter was an image, that grew out of necessity.
I'd say that technology, trends and ease of access is the main reason behind, but also the trends of influencers and celebrities. In 70's for example you would got all the music, sports and activism to meet people, get together and find a proper roll models because celebrities were vocal about social injustice. Today kids have everything within a reach of their phones where they get influenced by people who are constantly looking for sponsors. Today we live in a society where most celebrities and influencers would sell anything for money, including themselves. That leaves so many young people attached to narcistic people who only care about their image in media, without doing much to protect, provide and serve those who need attention and help the most.
You've madae such a sharp & critical point!!! Thanks.
Even when there is a father in the home working full time and a mother working full time (which there basically is no choice) workers have barely any vacation time to spend with their kids. Hard to be a good model when your burnt out all the time! Europeans get 5 weeks off when they start a job. We are lucky to get one. Time to advocate for our workers.
So right !!
Even if we get vacation with kids, marriages are breaking off for the very same reason as in USA : half of the population was psychologically damaged by immature parents and can not get along with each other. Men blame women, women blame men, but this does not do the hard work of looking at your broken heart, acknowledge that mom and dad were far from perfect, having the courage to put YOUR own shit together, and maybe getting enough empathy to be able to truly love someone.
Marriage and love require and demand strength and it takes work and courage to grow up. It’s the power to endure emotional pain, to sacrifice for a loved one to openly communicate. Mature relationships only come from those qualities and a desire to support each other long past the stage of physical looks and expectations of perfection.
Beautifully stated ❤
Many men in my generation (born in the 80s) prefer the instant gratification of video games to the hard work of building a business or a homestead, and then wonder why they can't attract / retain a partner. Most women want a man who can be a good father and that means taking care of her when she is disabled by pregnancy / breatsfeeding, not a man-child game partner. But there are exception, I have a couple of friends who are both 50 and grossly out of shape, both are childless and addicted gamers: they chose not to have kids despite a 20 year long marriage so they could play in their freetime.
There are Very Few RealMen that can Teach and Lead young Men Today.
I think this is one of the most balanced opinions I’ve heard around masculinity and being a young man, this is seriously an antidote to the current environment and I welcome it’s approach as a 25 year old trying to navigate my place in the world . I’ll be buying this mans book as soon as it’s available as I think / hope it will make me a better person and a better man
Itll make you a better worker drone. Thats what Scott wants you to be, he wants you to make money, not be happy
are your fk ing series man you just cant be men dont you any self worth or pride in you how can any men take this advice its just a slave to left thinking and just promote them
Unfortunately, balance doesn’t move the needle.
@@painunending4610 I think you missed his point. After a certain point, money doesn't bring you happiness, however, a lack of it can make you very unhappy.
@@gauravthadanii Agreed. For most of society you HAVE to be a worker. Find your happiness AFTER you have a steady income.
I fear that if this trend of men being ignored in this time of crisis goes on for another 10 years or more, I only see the majority of average men in the future eventually becoming so violent and filled with rage that they will lash out on the few top 1% of men seeing no other option then to eliminate the competition to be able to even have a chance at a normal life. It is an extremely dark road we are headed for.
Nah
Its not that serious. Most of these guys would rather off themselves than off someone else. You have to put into perspective. Even if those 1% guys are gone, the women still wont want them.
This is less of a threat on them, but more a threat on society. Because society needs them to be productive in order to function.
true damn…
I think a scenario according to Chris Williamson's "male sedation hypothesis" is much more realistic than an actual revolt of "angry young men". It will constitute a huge cost problem for society as a whole, but probably not an existential threat.
@@yurigansmith the problem with this theory is you and everyone who is saying it’s not possible are not “angry young men” so how can you say for certain that 10 years of not getting laid and treated like a slave to society won’t cause mass shootings, riots, and all out war. Lol 😂
Finally someone who doesn't see things as black or white.
"You don't have to understand something to be a protector" should resonate with every man everywhere.
it has! I've been feeling it but i didnt have the words.
Yeah, I'd put a boatload of nuance on that:
You'll have a hard time protecting somebody from themselves if you don't understand them and their situation, since you'll have no idea where the damage is.
Yes you do.
Protect yourself first.
@@UnrealTransformer Sry, that sounds feminine. Men protect their values first and care about the consequences to themselves only after that.
He’s worried about protecting the trans community but he should be worried about protecting young men and women from their ideology and the transitioning industry.
Even if a boy has a positive role model (aka as a Dad of boys I can vouch for) they can still struggle. I have noticed if boys are not athletic or academic, they can easily be left behind in school.
Some of the greatest men I know, didn't have good male role models growing up... some did. It's a compound problem. Sadly, a perfect storm.
@@CMS_10 we all know why! They cut out physical subjects in schools like woodwork, electricity
Men need to build things to feel validated and do good work that no one will question
school today is largely day care and a poor waste of youths time
Really? So boys can have great fathers, uncles, grandfathers, male teachers, male coaches, and male role models on TV, yet still struggles. Huh. Makes no sense what so ever.
i think an important thing to consider is that in the past, the great inventors, sports figures, astronauts, businessmen, artists, but also ofc actors were THE role models, and in many films certain actors would embody this healthy masculinity, or at least with positive attributes. Nowadays, the biggest role models are influencers, many also young or without much education tbh, but more importantly they are not the great entrepreneurs or innovators of the past, they're not groundbreaking artists, no longer are the role models for young men people who achieve great things. I mean what you have one or two famous rich ppl like Elon Musk or Jeff Bezos, but u look at any alpha male influencer video and its these sort of unachieving youtubers or twitch streamers who are presented as role models of excellence. However problematic past role models could be, they were better than this.
My 14 year old son is going through a truly rough time right now. We're going through a rough time. I see so much of the struggles Scott describes, in my son... it breaks my heart every minute of everyday. I wish the men in his life were brave enough. I wish they cared enough to be better men.
Going through the same with my 15 yr old x
Same…
@@addyolo9968 Sorry to hear 😔
@@jhwilson00 I hope and pray we all find a way forward.
Try and enroll your son in a sport or other activity outside the house.
It just gets exhausting reading and watching over and over again the negativity that is used to describe masculinity in the West today. I can't help but find it harder and harder to find examples of positive masculinity to hold as a goal and to aspire to, in education, media etc
Agreed. Personally I find Bedros Keiulian is a massive help in this way. A great man
Me too. I really struggle as a young man to find a-role model i like and wanna be
Or become the role model you wish you had? For yourself and for others.
@@CMS_10 it's hard to know exactly what that role model should be when I find constant critiquing of masculinity causes a lot of self doubt within myself
@@johnnygillingpart of being masculine is saying fck u to society’s bs - good starting point if you ask me
My dad was absent and my brother was a man- child. My maturation came from working with work release inmates and getting my ass kicked in the military! A young man needs to be taught how to be a man.
Lead with strength, governed by empathy.
Every time Galloway opens his mouth he says something challenging and thoughtful and pretty brilliant. This guy really has a handle on where relationships are at and where men are at right now.
And sadly nothing is gonna change it to make it better in the major
One of the biggest challenges I’ve noticed is “men vs women: who has it worse?” Is a stupid competition to have, but unfortunately a lot of women (understandably so) are frustrated seeing men complaining about men’s issues, because of all the hell most of them constantly go through. And then men (also understandably!) are frustrated when women say “men can’t have problems!!!” ….yeah, we absolutely do have problems
I understand women wanting men to speak up and stand up for women, but women often say “it’s not our responsibility to rescue men.” And like in the one hand I get that, but at the very least, if a man is “whining” (I hate when people call it that 🤮), please please please do not “kick him when he is down.” If a woman can’t rescue him, that’s fine, but please don’t say “hahahaha you don’t have problems, and if you do, it’s the fault of men! Deal with it on your own!”
Most guys have the opposite problem in my experience, they refuse to acknowledge their problems, and therefore fail to take action to remediate. As any recovered addict knows, you can't heal as long as you do not have the courage to face your addiction. It all start with being humble rather than "fake strong", men who pretend to have it all together and it's only the women in his life who whines get nowhere else than losing their marriage, their kids, and even their friends.
Read Gottman 7 rules for marriage
Women are the perfect “yes men” and it lends to an easier entry into the middle management work force
Yes 👏🏽 it’s women’s fault.
@@twainalex996 placing blame and noticing patterns are different but I understand why you think that
@@user-hs9sp5ih6x Your "patterns" are anecdotal and without ground. You aren't as intelligent as you see yourself.
At my last 3 companies, women were chosen to be the leaders (from supervisors to CEOs) simply because they are women. Had one rank tenth out of ten on the totem pole, get the job over the 9 men who put in for it.
Men have a harder time with authority.
We grow up to find out our role models are very flawed.
Great presentation. Nailed it on the head on every point IMHO. I'm 68 yrs old. Had a successful career and 3 boys who are now successful men. I must admit that growing up today is much more challenging than back in the 60s, 70s, even 80s. Just too much distraction and rapid changes. I'll try to help bring my very young grandson along the proper masculine path...as I did with his dad.
My last partner started to listen to these “dating advisors” on CZcams from men who had the most terrible advice. He started to treat me badly, he began to cheat on me bc these “advisors” taught him that he should get as many women as possible, he used very demeaning phrases that they would use and he completely fell into his rock bottom. Fast forward, he now lives hating himself for it. He tells me that he lives every single day regretting it all and is completely ashamed of who he has become. I walked away but he’s in pure pain bc of it. I wish he had a good father to guide him, but it’s not my job to worry about him anymore. It’s usually these boys without guidance that look for these “advisors” online and they truly ruin their lives because of it. I feel for them and wish them the best. And the people to whom they hurt, I wish them the strength to leave and find healthy people to surround themselves with ❤
Yes, these people with Podcasts, CZcamsrs, TikTok "influencers", etc. are very bad for both men and women. They pry and monetize on the weak and end up ruining their lives.
Life is a risk every day you wake up
tldr
I think the issue when going through that stuff typically isn’t that it’s all wrong, but that it’s a bit black and white and not connected to as much other things of value. And it’s hard to not see the behaviors and reactions in women once you understand how they think and reason and communicate, on top of how people do. Like it def wakes guys up to the reality that women are not sugar spice and everything nice. The issue is the actual reality of all of it, there is no other institution that would ever have coached men through that minefield of learning. In fact society hides all things related to reproduction and attraction and just acts like “if you work hard you will get it” So what happens is you get this rough group of guys who look at various studies and compare notes in Internet forums across the years and the history of the whole discussion, as the type of discussion isn’t new it’s just evolved.
your love and patience for him is very inspiring! i wish more people had empathy like you
One thing about accountability, is to stop looking at it as punitive and start looking at it as a responsibility. Through accountability one grows, learns and understands to be an adult or a Man. "Save our boys 👍😎👍"
I was lucky, my male role model was my father. Not a perfect person, but the best man I ever knew. I think many boys today don't have a father in their life. They don't how to be a man because there is no man in the household.
Mental health counseling is very important as is a reading the great philosophers of all ages.
I never had a male role model who offered me a complete picture of the best facets of behavior but with the above help I was able to
Integrate into my own life the best of what I saw from the men within my life. No one is perfect but it’s vital to strive to be a better person. That’s how civilization gets better.
I don't necessarily agree with everything this guy says, but I think he brings a positive voice to this important subject.
Real reason 90% of men are lost in life: low wages, high cost of living.
Nowadays, you can work your ass off for years and never get closer to owning your own roof over your head, which is the most fundamental thing in life.
If you can't be owner of the most fundamental part of your life, then what's the point of living?
If you vote for Trump, you will pay lower taxes and less on electricity and have more money to afford a house. If you vote for Biden , your tax money goes to illegal immigrants
All of the things Scott talks about in this video go back way farther than the recent high cost of living. Men have far more challenges than that. Did you even watch the video?
@@ChatGPT1111 Go away chatbot.
@@QoraxAudio Make me slimeball
Yes the wages they offer adult men is downright degrading.
This guy says a lot of truth. The thing I don't agree is the role of the protecter as a men. I have done my share of protecting ppl beeing assulted on the streets, got beaten up while doing so. Since they attack in groups of 4+ ppl. Even got stabbed once, trying to help. But if society rejects male in general and you get yelled at, when you hold a door open for a women, why should I risk my life for a stranger? Im at the point where I protect my famelly and frends, thats it.
I was just about to say this. You got me fucked up sideways if you think im getting stabbed by someone by sticking up for a stranger. Fuck that shit. Run.
Not to mention if you do end up saving someone from an attack, you will very likely end up being vilified by the exact people you saved.
YES! Men are waking up!
Here is a good idea, DONT ever ever ever listen to an intellectual about dating they have no clue. Stop trying to work stuff out and just talk to plenty of women and use your instincts combined with some big balls - to any men out there STOP thinking over and over again what SHE wants. You will notice if you ever stop your constant overthinking that dumb asses who have 10 iq get WAY more women then the smart geeks out there
@@painunending4610 ??? waking up from what, dont be decent to other ppl? thats not male specific, plenty ppl dont trust others or wont stand up for strangers. not that its good,
Who’s having a difficult time talking about men’s issues? It’s to the contrary, women have been saying that men need to deal with their issues just keep our name out of their your mouths. This conversation is refreshing and need to go nationwide ❤
Algebra of wealth is what schools are not teaching. Hardly any citizens understand how money works, and that is why laws and politics are enabling evisceration of most peoples economic basis.
Scott Galloway is so right.
This is the type of direct and to the point discussion that needs to hit the road! SO much of this resonates with the reality of my 13 year old son's life and what I run into in the business world while I visit the US. Men will no longer get on an elevator alone with a younger woman, I get comments and looked at from women some times because I am not only masculine I revel in it. Why do they look at me...? Society has taught them that men are predators and they should be more like women. I will pause here but Scott thank you again for being out there and for being so direct with your message!
As a male therapist that works with kids, I appreciate the last two minutes. Totally agree.
The men in my family taught me what not to do by their careless, undisciplined behaviour. But that's better than not learning anything. I was blessed not to confuse dysfunction from functionally positive behavior.
Woman: "Men need to open up and be emotionally vulnerable."
Man: "Well, sometimes I feel like...
Woman: "Awww...did you whittle man-child fee-wings get a boo-boo? MAN UP, LOSER!!"
Man: "Well, I guess I will see what Andrew Tate has to say."
Yep, as funny as it is, that sums it up.
Unfortunately, that’s how things tend to play out.
Little boys are raised as defective girls in the school system but once adult, they still have the burden of performance cuz hypergamy does not care.
In a patriarchal society, if women used your rationale, women would be the most suicidal demographic... not men.
Women today have created men like Andrew Tate.
This guy is so well spoken
I'm glad Scott is sharing his nuanced and caring perspective in this conversation that often gets polarized. And I'm glad that he's out there trying to help young people, regardless of what's going on between their legs. The vacuum of positive, healthy mentors and role models for young people under the influence of testosterone can lead to some pretty awful sh*t. So, trying to outline healthy, societally beneficial masculinity seems worthwhile and challenging. Although "protecting, providing and procreating" all seem to be pretty universal human inclinations regardless of whatever reproductive organs a person has, but I get what he's saying. For me what also might be helpful is to study what are (in general) the irrefutable hormonal and biological byproducts of having whatever sex organs you might be born with, (especially for young people) and try to identify how to positively channel those behaviors in our culture. Until we collectively get better at that, if I had to pick my poison, I think I'd rather have young testosterone-influenced people like my kids err on the side of watching a little too much porn and being a bit more passive in romantic pursuit than buy into misogynist, narcissistic, objectifying rape culture. Of course, it isn't an "either/or" path, which is part of his point, but I think it's something worth bringing up.
Society's doing men a disservice , and then he proposes men should step up and protect those around him.
0:33: 🔑 The video discusses the lack of compassion for men and the consequences of this attitude.
4:01: 📚 The education system and economic policies are biased against men, leading to shame and rage.
8:05: 🔥 The video discusses the importance of firefighters as protectors and the role of masculinity in society.
11:55: 💬 The speaker believes that part of masculinity is being the initiator in a romantic relationship, but emphasizes the difference between pursuit and being a predator.
15:47: 📺 The speaker discusses the impact of pornography and excessive online usage on young men's motivation and engagement in real-life activities.
Recap by Tammy AI
Thank you so much for shining a light on this and opening up the conversation. Healing this is vital for healthy society and a future living Earth.
I work in a high school in Washington state and I see that the boys are struggling.
Great talk by Scott, as always. Most of this boils down to just awful parenting of their own children; sons and daughters included. The generational disconnect is astronomical and ridiculous. We just seem to be so paralyzed by our own confusions and that is what makes me mad with everything.
Worked for Morgan Stanley & BA in Economics & MBA! Started a Marketing Consultancy firm in 1997! Elected in 1999 to the WEF gobal leaders of tomorrow! Tells me all i need to know about him.
Yes, he's made his money in the system and is now in a comfortable enough position to criticise it without hurting his own chances. He's admitted on tv interviews that our society is rigged in favour of people like him. I wish all our elites were this honest.
@@joepeake8972 The UN/World Enslavement Forum are pretty "honest" about their intentions. They don't try to hide the fact that they want to micro rule the world nor do they hide the fact that they absolutely bitterly hate us and will use any means to achieve their vile agendas, including the use of bioweapons and the use of "directed evolution" to fulfil their fascist trans humanist agendas. Most of what this guy says is common knowledge and I doubt his sincerity. He hasn't given us any Achilles' heel that will allow us to bring the beast down ... just the same ol' same ol' that most of us have been aware of for many years now .. but were called derogatory names and censored. He is however certainly correct about the massive siphoning of monies from the public purse into the hands of the already uber wealthy .. but then he should know about that as he's a member of their vile club. It's a big club but most of us aren't nor ever will be in it.
The distruction of the nuclear family
Thank you!
The women's movement and main stream society has changed for men and dating. I was dating women I worked with in the 60's and 70's. You established who you were in the company. You had interactions at work for business reasons but you got to show you could handle yourself in social situations. Nowadays if you talk to women in business they can say they want you to leave them alone and get you fired for saying have a nice day. Women still want protector's but only if you qualify in the the top 15%. Its hard to find anyone to just be a friend these days.
The biggest attractive characteristics of masculinity that would group in it all is courage, something missing completely in our society
His quote about the average age of a 1st time home buyer 1980 to 2024..... that's Supply-side economics at work.
....driven by deficit spending and money printing (aka M1/M2 Money Supply, aka buying votes).
Galloway makes excellent points
I absolutely think society plays a huge role in the negative impact on boys. I’m 40 years old with 5 kids. I suffered with low T for years. A few years back I started TRT and I am a completely better man. My relationship with my kids and wife is better. I have a better body then my early 20’s. My mind is sharper. My mood is more stable. I’m killing it at work/business. I’m not saying everyone should be on TRT but testosterone is critical for physical and more importantly, psychological development. We know boys have lower T on average than the generation before and we should ask why and what we can do. This also impacts women. While their levels are much lower, they also need healthy test because it converts to higher estrogen.
So glad to have had totally different raw models as male protagonists . Grandpa, father, uncles, husband etc. were all galaxies above such a chaotic negativ data collector.
As you go through your research there is one big category you didn't mention that I believe you need to address-on-line betting and gambling. The companies and apps that support that industry are targeting young men...I believe it has the potential to be more dangerous than porn
Let them, we make a lot of money on that sh*t. Young college aged males have always been the demographic to historically take risks and come out better on the other side.
As a woman who does not have a children, I am observing families, mothers, fathers, parenting,... The thing that makes me sick is that exaggerated role of a obsessive & devoted mother, that is formed in recent decades as a kind of cultural role model ... She and her kids ... As the highest possible love union, to the point like there was never ever a father, or any of his importance ... As much as there are beauty and strength and devotion and sacrifice in being a mother, & in expressing natural tendency to care for little human beings, this trend towards new matriarchy is a way to new imbalance in our society on many levels ... And for sure, in creating insecure young men ...
Being genderqueer, everyone expects me to hate on men. I cannot express the number of times I’ve gotten flack for simply voicing empathy for what men today are going through. Yes some other groups have it worse, does that make it ok? If you’re gonna try and make life better for women and minorities, you’re also gonna tear down men?? I thought the goal was to uplift humanity. Why are we so intrinsically programmed to dehumanize and devalue a group of people? We seem to need an enemy. We seem to need an “other”. It’s heartbreaking. Yes I’m a feminist, yes I’m pro trans, super lefty, but I have eyes, I have ears, I have a heart, and I can see the pain and isolation many men are going through, and piling all our collective sins on them and driving them out of society isn’t going to make the rest of us any better or any more pure or good. We are all human. We all deserve love, kindness, empathy, and understanding.
Great vid 👍.
Direct explanation of a manhood 💪
Some things are spot on. Others, fly in the face of logic and reason. As a 30 yo male, I completely understand the trans position. I just think they should wait until their prefrontal cortex has finished developing. You don’t want to make permanent, life-altering decisions while your brain and emotions are in flux. His emotion is getting the best of him here.
Exactly and considering the suicide rates are already high as is w/ the trans community it’s probably best not to complicate things for a child, especially as he stated earlier in his talk, biological males tend to mentally mature slower than biological females.
It’s not a man’s job to protect trans people.
Yes. He refers to the protective instinct. My protective instinct kicks in when someone is abusing a teenager by feeding them drugs and hormones and exposing them to disfiguring surgery. NO
@@dalewetzel3029 That was my first thought as well: I oppose the Trans issue (particularly for minors) BECAUSE I have a sense of protection. I think what they are doing is child abuse of the worst kind. Probably on par with sexual abuse of minors, maybe worse. Another point is: I also value TRUTH as a pillar that men should strive for. And I just don´t think it is true. To pretend that gender is only socially constructed, completely divorced from biological sex. Or that you can easily change you sex by chopping of some body parts and taking hormones. You are not changing your sex, you are just mutilating your body to look a certain way.
Also, his argument of protecting despite you don´t understand is so awful. If you support something and take actions with potentially serious outcomes you should better be sure you know what you are doing.
He is a progressive and a feminist. What he says about andrew tate applies to him as well - he is coming from a good place and he gives alot of good advice but he goes off the rails when it comes to his politics. There is no accountability for his side and he fails to realize that they are dismantling institutions that took thousands of years to build.
Great video! Love the refresher of all the different types of capital you outline in your book.
One thing I’d add - there is something you can do about cultural capital: you can move.
Where are the fathers for role modeling, guidance, support? Older men are failing younger men. A true man is responsible.
Well said Scott, clearly a significant problem - accountability in the context of having an internal structure in which the guy is accountable to himself, but he has no training on *How* to handle himself.
Thats what ppl need to learn from a young age. I didnt experience any favoritism from being a girl/ woman. Wish I did. It was quite the opposite. Even nice guys have a hard time telling me when they are not mentally well though I initiate the conversation because I notice when something is wrong.
I feel like he is trying to straddle the fence...
Enjoyed up until 9:20. No, children cannot consent to being put on chemical castration drugs.
I think Galloway means well but he is really scared of the left and feminists. Any time he starts agreeing with men's issues too much, he will randomly throw out some progressive talking points about abortion rights or transgender issues.
A non-American comment here, he says men should be protective over trans people. But parents and doctors are subverting minors to gender-change operations. So, a logical conclusion is that men should protect them against parents and doctors, which translates they should protect them from their own ideology. That's tricky...
You're right. It takes approval from their teachers, principals and the school nurse.
@@ChatGPT1111 You missed my point ChatGPT. No child should be allowed to do this until they reach adult hood. The brain doesn’t finish developing until 25.
@@martyevans1 if that is the point you were making, I agree with you.
The national Guard was a great place for young men to find role models in real life.
This prof is my new hero
Interesting, now imagine this conversation had money not exist . The real problem is capitalism is eating itself.
That may be true but with communism, there is nothing to eat unless you stand in a bread line for 4 hours.
He's a treasure.
I was in sports in school, army then fraternity and there is nothing like being around your boys and comrades when you're young. We mostly give that up for family which is goof but we should still have those places to be.
This is such a great video. Lots of wisdom
Being transactional leads to being emotionally unhinged.
Tell that to women.
The men at the top of the heap are not exactly thriving either. That kind of sexual power is very erosive to the soul and encourages greater and greater aggression and contempt for their partners. In the past, rakes or womanizers, whatever you want to call them, were not necessarily shunned, but were identified and siloed into roles or situations where those talents and characteristics would do the least harm to the general community while maybe leveraging some of their unique skills. In many ways they are in as much trouble as the incels, essentially victims of their own success.
Yes! Thank you.
I'm so glad I'm through being a young man and am now in my 40s with daughters. I believe it's easier to be a young woman than a young man these days. Women militantly support other women as a group. They really don't care about men. Men care about them, though, because sex. Society and our service oriented economy are far more accepting of young women into employment than young men. The worst thing women have to look forward to is being ignored when they turn 40. Nope, I wouldn't go back to be 25 again. Being male with greying hair equals money, respect, and acceptance.
The worst thing really? No we have way more than that do you know how many young women are getting diagnosed with breast cancer? I know cause I just went through it. It’s scary the things we have to worry about throughout our lives. Being ignored I assume you mean by men is least of our worries.
Yeah, Growing up the wonderful, warm, affectionate and deeply instructive relationships I had with older men in my local neighborhood just wouldn't be possible today. That phenomena no longer exists.
Porn is the problem
Porn is a sedation.
Really well said, Scott.
Be accountable where you can, not for anyone else's mistakes but your own. But young men (boys) need guidance (to be raised) too.
Fatherless America single mother America
When blue and red sides square off at the 'split', the red side will have no difficulty recruiting for militias. It will be a growth industry. Pray the split is peaceful.
There's an American militia... then there's Sun Tzu. The brains aren't on your side 🤷🏽♀️
Men have come to love online dating because of the volume that mathematically increases the chance of finding romantic partners and because a MATCH means you have the green light to approach, without all the drama of women fearing for their lives because of creeps and rapists who came bofore for them or for other women in general.
It's sad, but some women feel offended just for talking to them, saying a simple hello or good afternoon. In their view, if they're not in full control of the situation, you're being a creep just for saying an unsolicited "hi"!
It gets very tiring and can even get you into trouble without saying or doing anything inappropriate, depending on how crazy the woman you are approaching is.
Personally, unless I feel very strong eye contact and the body language says so, I never approach, period.
I agree that two parents are vital for raising children. What's being missed is that forever we repressed women, didn't educate them and taught them that their job was to serve their husbands. As women have become more equal, more masculine and more independent, men lost the upper hand they had in relationships and in the workplace. Now they feel threatened and claim that women are emasculating them.
In one of the Scandinavian countries, I read that women ask men out and the dating dance is more equal. Women are insulted that they would have to wait for a man to ask them out, giving the male all the power. Guys, you just aren't getting it. We are evolving out of the archaic cave days. If men want respect from women, they have to earn it by treating them as equals. Marriages will be a lot happier when we shed the power dynamic and become partners, real partners.
What's emasculating men is capitalism. If you have to take orders from an authority all day like a little kid you are not going to feel very manly. It's demeaning.
As a man ages in America, he realizes that starting a relationship with a woman isn’t worth it.
Well, I met my partner when he was 62 and I was 64. We are very happy.
Brother, did you not watch the whole video?
@@createone100 How’s the sex?
So be with a man
Fr.. men would watch stop watching pron if women would stop making it and being 304’s, theres literally no incentive to being with a woman these days, due to the government and how society treats women way better for being degenerates and shits on men
As a society, it's time we move away from the notion of 'gender roles'. Rather, play to your strengths. Simply put, be a useful, impactful human being to yourself!
The blurring of gender roles has also caused many problems though. So many young guys don’t even know what they should be doing. My generation and the ones prior did not have this problem -
Exactly!! Gender roles are totally socially constructed depending on where you live. The brainwashing runs deep, and it seems more people are opening up to being Human and being more concerned with morals and ethnics vs being threatened by different gender identities.
@@brianmeen2158Sounds like they get to explore who they want to be and how they want to show up vs following a script that doesn’t work for everyone.
@@brianmeen2158 true. Life was simpler when I was growing up, and simpler still for the previous generation, where gender roles are concerned. However, times have changed yet agian. Women now have similar rights as men and they intend to utilise those rights to get their entitlements (such as the right to say no and be respected, rather than berated, for it, like with any man)! Men need to adjust to this new reality, pronto!!
@@MrGB-me8wsNot how it works, dingleberry.
Very intelligent commentary. Superb video.
This needs half a million views.
In all this over left tiktok porn society that seems the world to be becoming nowadays I think is relieving to hear Scott Galloway speaking so honestly about masculinity, even better knowing he is not a far right abdicate
That first pilar of masculinity he state being all about that protector role is OUTDATED by a century now. If we are to evolve/emerge a healthy and relevant renewal masculinity we have to simply GET RID of that protector role.
It really is high time we understand men's lives isn't worth LESS than women's or even maybe children's. There is an inherent sacrifice, putting voluntarily one self in harms way that come with the protecting...that is simply incompatible with the equality society strive for and rams down everybody throat.
Litteraly, let the feminists handle the house fires.
He makes a few valid points but this guy has a pretty restrictive and conservative view of masculinity that I can't support and don't recognise myself in.
@@ianpepper4240 Yeah, as I kept listening, I realized how blue pulled that motor was. Very knowledgeable and educated about his topic...but still blue-pilled af.
What a waste of potential.
I did not have role models growing up g up. No matter, I looked at fictional characters and one real-life person whose behaviors represented the kind of person I wanted to be: Pa Engle from Little House on the Prairie (family, husband, father), Jean Luc Picard from Star Trek TNG (leadership), and Steve Jobs (innovation and commitment to excellence).
I like the definition from PsychHacks about Masculinity:
1. Have a spine
2. Have a pair
Meaning: Know what you think is right and who you are (1.) and be willing to stand up to reality with this knowledge and suffer for it (2.)