Life at Home Self-Discipline
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Our Life at Home series continues this week as we talk about the need for self-discipline in our home life. Join the conversation and let me know what you think! #MADAMECHIC
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1. Putting down the darn iPhone. 2. Doing what needs to be done early in the day, instead of taking time to wake up (reading blogs, watching CZcams) until far too late in the day and then cramming it all in when the family is home & needing me, which leads to not...
3. Going to be early enough. I will be a different person if I can just get some sleep, and it's almost always my fault when I don't.
Yes! We recently cut cable and just watch Netflix or Amazon Prime on "movie nights" It makes family time more special and, O man, has it helped us get to bed way earlier! I realized how tired I was by 9pm!
Lol, or by 7:30, whenever. :D
Yes, I am good at wasting time on the internet! I've been practicing self discipline with my phone for a while now. I never use it while I'm out. A couple weeks ago I was at my daughter's basketball practice and looked around and I was the only parent sitting on the bleachers that wasn't staring at my phone. Seriously, the only one! I want my daughter to see me paying attention and know I want to watch her and see when she makes a basket rather than be the parent zoning out not knowing what's going on. I'm also trying to up our Art intake.. we just hung out at a couple museums on Friday. I'm thinking of making it a monthly thing along with other stuff like musical performances.. things I can take a 6 year old to.
Re. Self discipline: I post pictures of very poor people to remind me that I don't need anything. I also focus on Jesus' humble birth to remind me of how grandly I already live.
I love you for being so wise, and living your best life. We need more people who think like you in today's world.
When I get home from the office at the end of a long day, I take off my work clothes and put on some lounge clothes. I feel like I don't have time to put them away - hang them up or throw them in the hamper so I create a pile in my closet - the baby needs to be fed, dinner needs to be made, the hubby wants to snuggle. But I just need to slow down...breathe...and know that those two minutes putting away my stuff will ease a lot of stress later on. I think we feel like we don't have time to put things away b/c there are more "important" things to do, but having a messy house affects everyone. Anyone else go through this?
Exactly
I find it is easier to have self-discipline if I "attach" a new habit to an old one. For example, if I want to start remembering to put lotion on my feet every day, I attach that to taking my vitamins, or brushing my teeth. If I just think "I need to put lotion on my feet" it will never happen!
To eat less sweets, it helps me to have replacement - such as a berry smoothie, an a bakes apple, or a gourmet cheese..
I struggle the most staying FOCUSED on one thing - any help you can give on that would be much appreciated. I tend to flutter every minutes from task to task fearing I'll forget to do it if I don't do it right then..but then the main task of the day doesn't get done! For example, I' m supposed to be writing thank you notes and sympathy cards RIGHT NOW, but thought I better watch the Sunday Video or I'd forget. :)
Attaching a new habit to an established one - what a brilliant idea! Thank you for posting this!
Holly Jamison Your are welcome. It is not my idea - I got it from Leo B. on zenhabits.net - he changed just about everything you could change in his life - diet, exercise, smoking etc and this is how he did it...
So good. It's seems counter-intuitive, but discipline actually frees us! I need discipline to sleep so I can be productive; early bed, early rise. I seem to switch on to work when everyone goes to bed. Also, healthy diet: Need discipline to prep for eating well instead of grabbing what is convenient and less healthy!
Absolutely Brilliant topic Jennifer. Presently I am de-cluttering my entire wardrobe. I am giving myself to the end of February to complete this task.. So I am good there
However,. I do a lot of research on line and I do need to limit my play time on the computer.. A must for me is to discipline my morning...No checking e-mails, reading blogs, watching video's etc, until I have accomplished my daily to do's, including home care tasks for the day, workouts and eating on a more routine schedule instead of hit and miss..
.3 pm., which is tea time for me. I can then reward myself with a 30 minute break to read a blog, check out a few video' s answer some e-mail, and finally I can set aside the few hours before dinner to do the research.. After dinner.. Only check important business emails.. Then OFF-Line..
& since you are asking
I really need to discipline myself to drink enough water.
Daily Discipline is what creates your future... as one discipline unfolds into another.
You don't wake up one random morning and decide-. Hey.! I think I am going to dance the lead role in Swan Lake today,.
Living gracefully and elegantly is an art form.. All art forms require daily discipline..
And as I compose this uh Novel.. I am up past my bedtime.. another really bad habit. that must be disciplined.
No Sleep, No chic....
As an English teacher, I bring home essays to grade, and tell myself that I will grade 10 a day. Unfortunately, that doesn't always get done, then I feel overwhelmed with my workload. (over 150 students)
Staying calm and in charge with my 2 Jack Russell terriers. Being in charge without yelling, excitement, or panic. They are a great reflection of my behavior. They minick me therefore helping me to see myself and get back on track. Our 4 children are grown and gone, but I suppose children in the home do the same mimicking.
For me I would say housework, always being presentable and limiting my snacking.
Wonderful video and it was really thought provoking. I have a bit of trouble with organization especially with getting ready in the mornings on time. I have a habit of taking just a little longer than I have to get out the door, even if I get up earlier than I normally do. I think this is a self discipline problem that I'm trying to address. I'm really enjoying these videos!!! Much love to you, Jennifer. Melissa
Great video, Jennifer
You're speaking right to my heart...indeed, I'm struggling with self discipline and my interactions with my family. We've all been sick with one virus or another for the past 9 weeks and I am low on energy which means I'm high on criticism and I haven't been biting my tongue enough!!!! I will do better, flu or not. Thanks for keeping me accountable. Chic is not losing your temper!!!
I have to agree with Deborah. I spend too much time in the morning waking up. I am a stay at home mom to 5 homeschooled kids. I am like a different person when I wake up. I just don't think straight and all I want is coffee and to zone out with an iPad game or something. Getting up earlier doesn't work, giving myself a time limit doesn't work. It is like I don't want to get up and do what I should do. So I end up without time for make up or even a shower, or often no breakfast. Once w estate school for the day I don't have time to do lots of housework, just switching the laundry or picking up after us. If I can get a load of laundry started and have an empty dishwasher ready to fill before school starts it makes all the difference. If I don't, the house looks like a disaster at the end of the day because I can never get caught up, and I am so burnt out and fried after school is done I just want to go to bed! This is my downfall....starting my mornings right.
I don’t own a dishwasher. So, when I heard ‘...dishwasher’ I started to laugh. I enjoy watching your videos. Thank you for your helpful advice.
I'm such a procrastinator. I need to work on prioritizing and time management. Thanks for the video!
Clearing Clutter for Clarity Hey! I'm a MAJOR procrastinator as well. There is a wonderful podcast called iprocrastinate. You can get it free on iTunes. There's way too much to say about it in this comment, so I'll just say that it has helped me in so many ways! I believe there are about four years of podcasts available. I just listen to it as I clean up around the house or when making meals. If interested, you should give it a listen :) -Blessings!
I love you even more for sharing about the 6 brownies. I’m a registered dietitian and I still do that!! Hahaha! In good company 🌸
I can totally relate to talking negatively to my family when they don't cooperate or understand my struggles. I feel like they intentionally try to create more work for me & don't help out by caring for their own things & their own responsibilities enough. I have 3 kids ages 8, 6, 2 & it seems they create mess everywhere they go faster than I can keep up with it.
Oh gosh...where to start! Organizing papers and taking care of them at least monthly, then bills...ugh....and working out. I have gotten better about eating, but I need to focus on working out and getting healthy.
Really appreciate your constant encouragement and honesty with your subscribers! I definitely need to work on self-discipline in keeping my hot spots clear!
Wake up earlier, meal planning, dedicated playtime with the kids, keeping kitchen tidy, staying onto of household filing.
This is a wonderful series and I'm a believer in the "touch it once" philosophy, as in put the coat away when coming home, fold the clothes when the dryer goes off, go through the mail and discard, sort and distribute, etc. My one issue, and I hope you address it down the road, is also with "paper." For example, I want to save a nice quote from a couple of my daily calendars (Zen and French ones!) or there's a newspaper article I may want to ponder and then write to someone about, etc. So, I'm open to new ideas on how to tackle these hot spot areas. Also, I started reading Marie Kondo's "The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up," and while I haven't started the process yet (a few drawers have been addressed), I find the idea of having a system to tidy up as a way of life to be so freeing and wonderful. That's why I enjoy your videos here, too. ^_^
I'm terrible about snacking when "bored".. I'm "busy" doing boring stuff so I feel like I need some sweet encouragement. My waistline hates me for it.
Hello
I think yur vids are great:-) the 3 major areas in my life requiring more self discipline from me are
1. Tidying up and cleaning without wasting time. I will opt for setting a timer.
2. Taking good care of myself.
3. Reading books and cultivating myself.
Definetly folding laundry and putting clothes away!!
Please do one! On best habits morning & night routine please for a successful day, week, and even month! Always looking to grow! Thank you for your videos! ❤❤🥰
Great topic Jennifer. Thanks.
I really need self discipline with laundry chores. Washing its fine and so is folding, putting away and ironing is another story. And usually the clothes I don't decide to wear end up folded on my dresser. Not in. But since reading your book I've gotten so much better at having self discipline in keeping up with my kitchen chores and bed making:)
Same here! I'm slacking on ironing it's not even funny. I mean I will iron something from the giant pile of clothes when I need it but the pile as a whole is so overwhelming that I refuse to do it!!!
some of my days are really good like very disciplined. but some days i just spend hours on my phone. downloading and just staring at it. but your advice helped me to get out of this
Thank you for this vid. Wow thank you for taking the direction with your life that you have and sharing it with us. You are an answer to prayer. God bless you and yours!! Love you!!
Salu Jennifer, i try to stop eating too much sweet things over the day. But its so hard- I am glad that I am skinny and I like to eat( besides of the sugar) healthy .
How do you battle the sugar ? thank you very much &best wishes from germany
a bientôt!
I am guilty of most of these at one time or another, but when you said, "binge watching a tv show" I cringed! Were you spying on me this weekend? Hahaha!
I usually feel so guilty for not using time wisely that I start rushing around like crazy to get things done afterward, which makes it hard to be present and joyful about my tasks. I just finished your second book and I really do want to try your approach!
Perfect and timely advice🌹thank you so much. God bless you🌹in depression I make excuses to do nothing and sleep away my life. I know I have to get up but the house is so much work I don't know where to start. Help🌹
I have found the beginning of the week is my downfall. I would always take Monday off in that I would do whatever I wanted on Monday. But I found that by starting my week off in such a undisciplined manor only made Tuesday much harder because I had to recover from Mondays bad decisions. Like saying up to late or making bad food choices. Then trying to recover on Tuesday meant that I have already wasted two days of my week and now I am behind on everything. I think taking moments in time to be grateful throughout the day is better then wasting long amounts of time. So it seems for me. : )
Professor Leo Wiener was correct. "Careful home training free from useless waste ". Don't let anyone mock or make a joke of your self discipline. You will be surprised how may people don't want to control their impulses, discipline their will and curb their desires.
Thanks Jennifer, I love watching your videos...your so inspiring..we need more ppl like you in the world..thanks for sharing what you know and are working on in your life,so that many more ladies can try to become there best self also:)
Not allowing the laundry and dishes to pile up seems to be my consistent struggle!
Excellent topic Jennifer! Please oh please continue with this. 🙌🏼
I would love a spin off with creating good habits in tough areas but not from a generic point of view more like a tiny baby step point of view. I find many people are so stuck in life and need those baby steps in some areas for momentum to get them started then we all know what happens when you get started.... progress can take place then that fuels you for more starting, momentum, etc. Anyway you are a deep thinker so anything you come up with in this area would be good. Man, as we make progress in self-discipline, our lives change and almost always will positively impact or inspire others as well. Win/Win ! Self-discipline in spending, wanting, our speech, food of course, being active so that we can be helpful, doing chores early, not complaining, not speaking of others weaknesses, practicing in areas you truly want change. I could go on and on. Thank you for encouraging us.
I tend not. To finish things like I should and procrastinate, especially with tedious work like organizing and maintaining my daughter's drawer s and closets and my office
Thank you! I love your books, and the videos are spot-on. Having the self-discipline to look appropriate for the task at hand shows you have good sense of what's proper and, I believe, shows you have self-respect. People can sense that, and the logical next thought is, "hmmm, if she respects herself, she would be more likely to respect others -- that is, respect ME." win-win!
The problem I seem to have is jumping around and neglecting certain things. What I mean is, for weeks I will be into organizing, cleaning and dejunking. During this time I will neglect my sewing, my guitar practice, and exercising. Then I will get on a sewing kick and neglect everything else. I wish I could do a bit of each every day so I could keep up in each area. I am retired, so these things are what I have chosen to do with my time, but I still can't seem to get a handle on this.
Oh, I need a big dose of self discipline. I've had to be inactive for the past 5 months because of a broken bone in my back. Now I'm having difficulty getting back to my productive habits. Can you recommend a book for me?
Hi Mili Pi , thank you so much for your kind tips or advice. I will definitely follow your way of cleaning while cooking . I like it.. Thanks again .
Financial management. Such as be aware of how much I spend on clothing, food each month, how much i saved, and how i should do with the money left other than just put in bank. I would definitely want hear about personal stable financial investment.
Please do a follow up on self discipline ar home
I do agree with what you say, but feel that it is constantly me who is making allowances, I feel that I am in some way denying my own wishes to defer to my family? I have always tried to respect people, When is it my time for people to respect me - I spent many years alone and am beginning to think that this is the only way to have respect. If I am the only one exercising self-discipline in the home I may as well live alone
Although it is an escape for me, I know that I should lessen time spent on the computer.
I need self discipline with screen time. I’m out of control and I hate it. I’d like to change this.
Great video! My biggest area I need discipline in is ~ not saving tasks for later. I put things off telling myself "I'll do it later" ~ and later never comes........ugh! Bad habit for sure ~ I know you will gasp, but I currently have 19,873 emails in my combined accounts ~ yikes
I watch too much TV. In the evenings when I'd like to be reading, writing in my journal or going to bed early, I get stuck channel-surfing or watching re-runs of shows I've already seen 100 times. I also need to break my cookie habit, but every time I go to Whole Foods I tell myself over and over I won't by the delicious cookies from their bakery, yet every time I buy cookies....
Mine is not washing the dishes right away after eating. We don't have a dish washer at home and have to hand wash all the time . I always wanted to wash them ASAP but I fail keeping it consistent . I need to focus on this area . Pls help me. Thanks as always! Love you
You could try to clean your kitchen and wash your dishes while you're preparing your food. For example, I always empty my drying rack, clean my cutting board, knives and utensils while I'm cooking. So when I go back to the kitchen after my meal, everything is already clean, except 1 pot and the plates and utensils we used to eat. This way, I never want to leave dirty dishes, I know that with just a little more effort I'll have a clean kitchen. :)
You caught me! i just ate a butterscotch krimpet abd was literally thinking i shouldn't be eating it when i clicked on this video. My areas of self discipline to work on are eating less sweets, dealing with papers and not buying anything else when i go in the store for necessities.
As far as the phone I am never that mom on the phone when I am at my kids' games, BUT, most moms are. Really it is sickening to watch. It's like a bunch of zombies.
For me u tube is a problem especially when where been in lock down in saying that I have learn't a lot too.
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1. Snacking
2. Sleeping
3. Phone time
I'll start with a timer. I'm a horrible time waster.
MustardSeedish timers really help me stay on task. Especially with projects that will take many mini-sessions of work. You know - decluttering & organizing the garage or closets. They really do help with momentum. I also use the left to right rule. Lets say you are tidying the kitchen and you are "feeling" overwhelmed. I focus on a starting point and then move to the right as i make completion progress. This especially helps me when I am doing something that I am not motivated about - like painting that needs done haha. But the result of doing it is so good so we must cheer ourselves on in love and good deeds. : ) I will say the number one thing that has helped me get anything done in my house is embracing my own version of minimalism. Less stuff has great power - more than i ever thought possible.
Not giving advice but to be quiet about others affairs
Like Melissa55 below, I am always late getting out the door in the mornings. Not every morning, but more often than I find acceptable. Thank goodness I work in the same town that I live in otherwise I would be terribly late for work everyday! This is definitely a self discipline problem.