How Empaths Get Taken Advantage Of
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Empathic people can sometimes be mistreated because their emotions can be mistaken as weakness but that's not the fact! As an empath, you've got to learn how to protect yourself and this video will help you do that by learning how empaths get taken advantage of and what you can do about it.
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Personally, I rather be hated for what I am, than loved for what I'm not ;)
Linda Carter 100%
So humble 😉
Linda Carter exactly
"Let your weird light shine bright so the other weirdo s know where to find you"
It does help to know how to "talk normal" though! I had to learn that when I had my son and moved back to Stepford wife-land! Lol! 😂
Nemaste 🙏✌️
AMEN
I learned just recently that being referred to as "weird" is actually a compliment. The Latin root for the word "weird" actually means "magical, mystical, mysterious"......what a beautiful root to our trees
Good to know Sheri! Thanks for sharing.
Yes.
Oh wow
Love it ❤
Then I am happy and proud to be a weirdo 😊
I actually have the opposite happen to me all the time. A lot of people just come right up to ME and start telling me Their problems without asking for MY permission.
Amy Jacobs Same here! Happens A LOT!
@Amy Jacobs, it's like the strangers have diarrhea. They will tell me everything about themselves, and I mean everything. I just listen and sometimes nod. I no longer offer help because not everyone needs help. Most just like hearing themselves talk out loud.
Amy Jacobs THIS is WHY I’m here...in the hundreds! SAME!!!
I’m struggling!
Ya thats a real empath..they approach u..we never approach them for the fear of being drained..loving to help..but the the thing is that we are respected for it and not traeted as doormats...hence all of the empathic protection stratagies that are needed. Defo real empaths dont approch people . It us us that are approched.💕
I always wondered what was it about me that made total strangers so comfortable talking to me about any and everything.
It’s not easy being a empath. We feel everybody mess and can’t even express it to someone without u looking like a mess. Thx for this video
Thank you for watching!
I totally love what you are saying. I was raised by a narcisist who always said "you're so sensitive"- until 1 day i said yes mom i am sensitive. & thats not always a bad thing. Im sensitive to other peoples wants, needs, desires & pain. & i cant help but try & help.
Keep up the good work that you are doing Heidi. Thanks for watching.
Me too.
Good for you, Heidi💪
I am a damaged Empath. So, I have gone the other direction. I don't trust people and fear being taken advantage of so I am less likely to step up and offer help to people. I always feel like my space is being invaded.
It is hard to be an empath, an introvert, and Co dependent. The struggle is real.
Empath set the standards, you're a weirdo but you see them coping everything you do🤗🤗😂😂
😀😀😀
wow so true copy cat or sabotage every thing I do
Isn’t that annoying it annoys me lol
BJ H seriously. People are always copying me because I do create cool changes that people like. It still bugs me that people do that
I agree
This feels like the most beautiful validation I've ever had in my life! I feel at home. So grateful. Thank you!
Foreeealll
Thank you. In the past 2 years I have totally changed my diet. No more fast food, sugar, bread, rice, noodles and potatoes. More vegetables and lean meat. My awareness has heightened. So glad I found you! Everything you are saying is rings true for me. I am now more excited to get to know myself than ever before. Thanks for being you!
Great solid advice on being aware of language. I think we often forget others are not like us, nor do they want to be. Wish I had been more aware years ago. A church member came to my home to visit and told me that no one in my congregation liked me and everyone thought I was weird. His comments were very hurtful to say the least
I really shut down after that. Huge walls went up. Trusted no one.
Today I finally have maybe a clue as to why this person relayed this info on behalf of 250+ other people : My empath-ness must have been too visible. And not understood, especially in a very rigid, religious setting.
I very much appreciate these insights about language and finding who can be trusted.
One observation I have made : narcissists are highly adept at mirroring language and demeanor to gain commonality and trust. Empaths have to be extremely careful not to fall prey to a narcissist.
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This helped me because I never fit in in groups or jobs. If I did it was with the rejects. I was criticized a lot growing up and expected to be almost a lunching bag and absorb stress and constant energy. I found myself in toxic relationships too. I was not allowed to sleep in or rest on my days off. So now I do that I left. I'm catching up. The needy people thing is very anoying. Then I feel guilty if I say no. With strangers you see people angry with dark energy, bit ways to avoid them. I agree on being careful on explaining things because it's like a person from the future talking to someone from centuries ago. Being outspoken is a rare gift, but yes people freak out. Hes right on carefully wording with common langauge. Does anyone feels more of a connection to animals than people? I will need to remember the permission part.
I never knew what was wrong with me until I came across these videos. Growing up I could feel people's emotions and still right now today. I always felt alone because no one understood me but today I've learned to embrace my loneliness.
People told me that I'm too sensitive or I'm an over thinker. I can pick up on people's authenticity especially when it came to my adult children were meet new people. I'd could sense these people's motivations and I'd tell my child however they thought I was nuts but in the long run they found out I spoke the truth and try prohibited them from being hurt.
Sometimes I could be asleep and will sit up crying , someone is hurting in pain and of course I'm thinking if a family member. Sure enough when I contact my parents or any other family member something bad has happened.
I recently learned to differ my own emotions from someone else's. I mean it could be sudden anger or crying, I had to ask myself are these my emotions and a lot of times they weren't.
I use to hate this gift, I felt like it was a curse and interrupted my life. Now that I'm educated those negative feelings are gone. I'm just more aware of the company I keep and know that I can't save anyone but can help. I couldn't understand why I would get so overwhelmed by crowds of people, just feeling drained of mental and physical energy. Thank God I'm in the process of mastering being an empath.
Thank God for these videos because there were times I thought I was losing my mind. I didn't understand why I always felt like I was different and didn't belong in this world. I do utilize my gift to help others, the ones who want that is.
Thank you for your insight on this subject, you are well appreciated. May God continue to bless you in more ways than one. 🙌🙏🤗
same..that why i find answers and this came up❤..so hapi to understand myself now because sometimes i feel i may give up but my son keeps reminding me that he needs me
Yes! Lots of people think I'm odd, very sensitive to noise, and sensory! People don't think I'm smart or something & try to take advantage- which is unfortunate! They find later once they get to know me they get intimidated or something which I'm not looking to do & they find I'm a very intelligent person! Thank you for your video
One of the best advice about empaths. Thank you.
Great tips, thank you. I've recently been wondering how people around me, in an organisation that I volunteered at, were unable to read a situation where we were being misled, me being labelled a 'trouble-maker' for trying to speak up. This fits.
One out of 100 ? That means there is only 800,000 of us " weirdo's" in the whole world ? I'm proud to be one .............
I no longer trust someone who is my closest friend physically simply because I realized how I am being used. She was only there when she needs me. She only cares about her own stuffs and ready to just unfriend me but probably found out she can't. She still keeps on reaching out to me up to this moment but im not doing the same for her this time.
I have more tips in this video that can support you czcams.com/video/DLKAtQwmKlk/video.html Give them a try and thank you for watching.
You just described all the females I've ever met lol
Never let others define who you are, what you have, and what you can do. You set the boundaries of your life, not the rest of the world. I love being "weird"!! I love your videos Kirk!! Thanks!!
"Why are you so sensitive?" "She knows when we are talking about her" etc
My entire life I have been an empath...I am in this world but not of this world...
I think this is me too
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What has been a surprise to me as a spiritual empath is the judgments from people in my church. The pressure to be always “ positive” as a sign of spiritual maturity is quite widespread and, in my experience, misguided. It’s sometimes difficult and seems disingenuous for me to ignore the true feelings people hide.
This display of spiritual falseness does not sit well with me and the “ pursuit of truth” many claim to embrace.
Why do I always seem to be helping everyone, but I can feel a sense of this destroying me on the inside ?
I'm not looking for sympathy, I'm looking for answers !
Don't help more than you can handle. Learn to pick and choose your battles. It takes a bit of self control. Take vacations
same!!
Make a list of your necessities:
Eat
Drink
Sleep
Personal Hygiene
Family time
Spiritual time
Ect.
Find out how much time is needed for each activity. Afterwards you can say, "Okay, I have X amount of time left for doing other things," and that is the time you allot to people asking for your help. If people ask more from you tell them you cannot. It isn't selfish it is necessity.
"Well they were seeking help n ur heart answered them.. That's how we loose our free will... We hv to understand whose desires u hv been serving! "
Some people are energy vampires.
Omg thank you. I have helped many but I do find it difficult when I try helping someone in need and they don't take my advice. It is so frustrating. But I have learned to give some advice and let them come to me when they're ready. But it still kills me when they go through something that they don't need to be going through.
This is scary but relieving. Scary because I have literally experienced everything that he is talking about. I get so angry/disappointed when people don’t want to be helped and I can FEEL their pain.
Thank you for your clarity. I especially appreciate the advice on getting permission and using plain language.
Best wishes to alll.
Thanks for watching, Vincent. Here are some great tips on how I find and create clarity and balance in my life. czcams.com/video/7swfLLtjtiY/video.html
You are spot on and thank u for following your journey because I am sure you will help many others as your message gets out there!
Thank you, Jennifer. If you like this video, be sure to subscribe. We are posting new videos each day.
I struggled all along. I am 40yrs old, i am social worker and i discovered this is my personality and i am happy to learn how to cope with complicated me
Empaths cam transmit energy sometimes they have to send the energy right back to the offending person.
Yeah, the mirror effect ;)
Anna Vajda ... consider the context in which this is used. Some have found that in using it from a reactive perspective and then to explain of cover reaction.... it can get pretty rough from there. Context, agreement and the intent to grow, mutually makes the powerful intent of engaging as or with the mirror effect incredibly effective and beneficial for others.
True, I have to do this at the moment to a covvert narc and her flying monkeys on my workplace.
Intresting to see, that the handful of coworkers, who are not influenced by her, started to adapt the greyrocking and mirroring as well, even they do not know about these things.
It is kinda intrestuing to see, how the energy fields swaps from toxic to healthy, depending on who is there.
The thing to say about this, in an office, where you have to stay, perhaps it would be too hard to do.
Luckily, i am outside alone most of the time, so i can harnest energy from taking deep breaths.
@@J3robi did you ever notice it's the Narc who have a lot of friends and people at work always like then and get everyone else to do their dirty work. I'm learning to keep my distance from them and not try to be too friendly and smile at them. They take your kindness for granted.
I like to share and help so many people , while am travelling on the bus i just feel to go and talk to people but is always reminded of boundaries and permission.
I'm finally realizing at the age of 62 that I can be who I am to a point, but I can't say it in certain ways bc I get the "look" and suddenly I lose 50% of my credibility. I guess it'll take the rest of the world a little while longer to catch up with me. Thanks Kirk...I'm loving your videos. Your insights, suggestions, and the way you present the information has been more helpful than any others I've watch regarding this gift of empathy.
I love being an Empath 🥰🥰🥰🥰 thank you lord 🙏🙏🙏 forever grateful ❣️🙏🏽
I don't think other people's lack of perception is just down to poor diet...some people are tanks with one gear setting.
Mary Conneely poor diet has a lot to do with it. It is a factor for sure.
so true with some people like you said
Poor diet is one factor, social media is a jumbo factor
I think food and sleep are vital, your brain is then firing on all cylinders. Fact: during the sleep cycle our brains get washed, not having all the sleep cycles interupts the brain bath, your clear thinking is affected. There is a potential link to dementia, because the brain isn’t getting washed. Food obviously affects your body’s performance.
This is me!!! 100% 🤷🏻♀️🙏🏾😊 Lol 😂 That’s my language energy, reconnective healing lol 😂
No I don’t shut down my gift I just shut people that don’t get me OUT
I have already been a tertiary educator so I know how to speak to crowds of people.
Thank You! This resonates 100%.
I'm so glad. Thank you for watching!
Thank you 🙏🏻 Thank you!!!! I am an empathic person! Did not even know what this term was? Thank you so much for bringing me peace with this message!
I am working on more sleep and eating healthier. 😊 I've just learned a few years ago that I'm an Empath. It is hard to trust You are easy to listen too. Great advice ty. ❤️ We are not the weird ones. We are normal. 😊 We do need to be respected with what we know. ❤️
Thank you! I needed to hear this. Perfect timing!
Thanks for watching, Trish. Go to 3ke.to/lifeskills for a Live Online Monthly Program that I have. I would love to have you be a part of that program.
yesss.. willingness is always the key.. i will just listen just to let them know i feel there emotions and someone is there to listen to them..always like this😢
You give the best advice for empaths, thank you so much!! This really has changed my way of thinking and acting with others.
I am forever greatful... Thank you for helping me understand myself, and how to go forward from here. Wish I have known this earlier in my life.... Now everything makes sense.... Bless you X
you're so brave and courageous. thank you for sharing. i needed to hear your message in not just this video but all of the ones i've watched of yours. consider me a huge fan, and thank you for putting your truth, which is my truth, out there. you resonate. and i'll pay this forward.
I was the weirdo all my life but thanks to you an other great vid I have learn an still learning there no one to trust but God an myself I have accepted who I am great video thank you Namaste
Namaste!! I began in this life as a "woo-woo" person. I am an indigo, a starseed, an empath, and an INTJ (MyersBriggs). This presentation was awesome! And, I'm still a work in progress in my 7th decade of life. However, I am in alot of pain right now. I am very ill with a rare, untreatable condition. I will look to see what else you have to offer.
You are my blessing. Divine timing is a thing and you’ve proved this to me. I’m ready to take on my mission and you’ve significantly helped me. ❤️
You are like the best person ever!!! Kudos to you!! Thank you soooo much❤️. I needed this... all this!! I have watched like 5 of your videos! I will take one of your classes! So exciting 😃
I don't use "odd" language about light, etc, but inevitably, when people get to know me, some of them start to take advantage of me
Can I say it drains me when people talk non stop
Yes, Anne, it can definitely drain you. Here's more insight for you in this video with tips to keep yourself protected as an empath. czcams.com/video/ikHIgHO3X84/video.html
Mee too!
Me 2 lol
Being an empath is the loneliest part of my life.
Namaste
When I recommend essential oils for bodily conditions, some think I'm some kind of magical creature. When talking about natural compounds with anti tumor benefits and cancer prevention, you get that look too. Some are open and appreciative...will even call you an angel. Doctors aren't always right. I can relate to this topic about empaths.
I never heard this before empath it help me to understand myself OMG am not crazy thank u sooooo😢 much i am really 1 outta a 100 thanks i can go on living☺
Alana greene videos will change your life
Oh my gosh.....the best!!!! 1 match in a a room of 99 is still light. God Bless. I watch everything and am learning to teach and boy have I learned!!!!!!!! This is great. God Bless
Why should we dumb ourselves down?
And “speak “ normal? How about I just be authentically me and not care about fitting into the matrix? I’ve gained so much freedom by just being me and embracing my “weirdness “....Eventually I will meet people who speak my language...♾💜♾
Thank you so much😭😭 you feel like the Papa of all empaths out there. the way you talk is full of empathy and I felt too understood and connected. you are truly amazing... keep going... a lot of empaths out there loves you and do actually need your help😭😭❤
Excellent commentary! I agree 💝😘👍
Thanks for the reality check.
That was a great message of bringing the skills of Empaths the integrity it deserves. I have only gone through a handful of videos featuring contemporary Empath CZcams personalities, and they seem down right reasonable; containing wisdom on a practical to pseudo metaphysical spectrum, attempting to describe extreme perception and holistic understanding. What strikes me most is the consistency of what these personalities present as the objective qualities of an Empath, as opposed to the admission that everyone has the capability to feel empathy from none to some, but that some does not make them an Empath.
This guy is up to something. I don't understand what the danger is. I live in a world full of blind children. We are just here to help they couldn't hurt us if they wanted too
Then call me a weirdo! I like it. The best empath is an empowered empath. Much love to you all🤍
People have always thought I'm weird, at first when I was younger I used to be hurt, but now, I'm comfortable with it. In fact, I often introduce myself as a weirdo, that I'm weird. I have been duped, countless times, and against my instinct have 'made friends' with narcs and manipulators because they've been good actors. Now I ALWAYS go with what I feel about someone rather than what they say or do (always acting btw). This footage has helped me and I'll watch it again a few times. Thank you 😊
kirk i love when you say “you know what i’m talking about” 😂😂😂 you know exactly how i feel and where i stand 😂
This is very grounding advice. Being an empath is such a dilemma at times when you hear one thing from someone but you feel something g different. How to respond can be a challenge.
The advice to keep empathic perceptions and woowoo language out of it is of great help. 🌺
Thank you for the videos it validates all my feelings ever since and i can tell that i am normal.I am 100% empath and it was not easy along the way but now i get to know and manage my feelings.
There are times when it is better not to share or engage. I'm learning it is better to evaluate slowly whether or not it makes sense to explain more. Less can be more
Very practical help. Thank you.
So this has been my problem all my life or most of it. I get so worn out and now that I am retired I can stay home and even during this pandemic I find being forced to stay home is fine with me. I just have not learned that I am...this...thing or how to control it. How not to be used until I am so drained I can't function for 3 days. Now I know. Thanks for this. I wish I could do all your classes. I only have my SSI. But I will watch what you have shared in videos because it is a great help. Thank you AGAIN! :D
I was in charge of a hoard of mundane designs which I accomplished with indefatigable vigor. The legerdemain of my design was something less than spectacular but I'm constantly improving .(Wrote this on a self review and got respect (they were fearful, results I wanted)
Oh my yes! Right at home here ! Thank you!
I appreciate you so much . My entire life I’ve struggled with this . I needed to find this video today
It completely makes sense what an eye-opener
People try to take advantage of my empathy. Once, I reacted angrily because of past painful atrocities. Today, I'm older, wiser and calmer. I do not allow anyone to use me. I prayerfully give of myself. I delete toxic people from my life and put me first, to survive.
I am so happy to have found this site!
Thank U🤗Wishing Well To U & U Family
As a sensitive empath, I have the power to spot a liar too quickly, ( not you)but it can be a detriment to me sometimes.
This is really very Deep talking! many thanks Kirk
Thank you for making my life clear to me now
I even call myself crazy because of those things that I see or smell or feel it when others don’t know
Yeah, u r rite.. We should use the normal/common language to normal people. Thnxs for reminding.. 👍
That you for taking your time to explain me to me 💜
Thank you so much!!! The permission is huge and the language even bigger! I'm a clairempath but have many other clairsenses. I get really tired of what I call the "blissed out" masses. Being blissed out, you don't even act human anymore. It's like you're trying to act God like. People can't _stand_ people who act like that. That's why we're dubbed "New Agers" like we're a brain washing cult. 😂
I'm a Reiki Master Teacher as well and years ago when I was making my business card, my mother and I were discussing the language I should use for what else I do being put on the card. So in large letters it's speaks of the Reiki, then in tiny print (almost like subliminal messaging) it says "spiritual guide". That was the most normal thing we could come up with because we didn't want to use "life coach" since that's something else entirely. Seemed to work. But I keep my clients to a minimum since I get run down extremely easy.
Anyways, thank you for this. It seems in a time where more and more people are awakening to their "super powers" the very first mistake they make are overstepping boundaries and sounding like they're St. Peter at the gates of heaven only preaching something new and "superior" and people cannot stand it! 😂 I'm glad you covered this. ✌
Durk Dunkin thank you for your bluntness in respect of an empathy person. Yes light on to room of 100 . And it's value of being You! Gifts that are there to help solve problem s or offer a solution and another perspective that some can not. See or know about. You did a good job explaining empath to be empowered and not be put in woo land .
Super helpful! Amazing tips! Thank you so much!
I had to shut down for a number of years and now I'm trying to use it again and I am finding you so helpful. Thankyou
Thank you
My pleasure. I am so glad that this resonates with you!
And you have answered a lot of my thoughts and questions.
BEAUTIFULLY EXPLAINED AND VERY GREAT LIKE YOU 👍
Appreciate this. Am always alone, but this makes me feel good.
I am glad that you found value and helpful insight here. Thanks for watching.
People 🙏 on empaths, I’m
very aware of this !
Really good advice. Mainly geared towards an American audience without experience with deeper forms of wisdom. Yoga philosophy and Ayurveda describes a lot of this scientifically and would be helpful for empathic people to manage their bodies and minds. It is unfortunate that this terminology is still considered "woo woo" - but it is due to low levels of awareness and perception. But I would add, that if you sense openess in the person you are helping, there is nothing wrong with introducing different concepts and ideas (chakras etc) - let's not underestimate their level of conciousness. Take each person as they are, one size does not fit all.
Why is it valuable? Thank you for help.
Wow ..
Do U think it's possible to get energy from a video cause Ur words and delivery of it actually gave me goosebumps
Of course, everything is energy. We're all one.
I'm an Empath too. I've been watching your videos and they have been very helpful for me. Thank You!
I overheard a neighbor who told another neighbor and said "Did you meet the new neighbors? His wife is nice, I think she's Empathic". Now this other neighbor avoids me.
Thank you! You’ve taught me so much about myself an how to approach people I talk to.
This information could save the world. It has changed my world. ❤️💯☮️👁️🙏🌍🌈🌠🦄
Great video, glad I found this channel
But Kirk! There’s an urgency! Lmao
Great video, I needed to hear this. For a long time I was guilty of giving people info they definitely didn’t want to hear, and basically just word vomiting. Aka I was the weirdo 😆😖. For the last several years I’ve suppressed all of it and stayed home, stopped talking to most people, been very overwhelmed, and believed I was a bad person due to the times I’d done that. Now I’m trying to learn how to understand when it’s appropriate to tell people their lives. It’s funny, I have always known this stuff and yet I’m just realizing it for the first time thanks to your videos. Nothing comes more naturally and effortlessly to me than helping people to understand themselves.... Uggh as I write that I have a voice in my mind saying “wow you’re so conceited, what makes you think you’re so much better than everybody else?”... I’m sure that’s something I’ve heard before and internalized. I really appreciate the bluntness with which you approach this subject. Finally someone addresses that I’m a weirdo so that I can figure out how to stop being such a weirdo and help people!
Oh Good how this is real ( all gone threw…) So I decided time ago , that I will have a " door" where people can come to "ASK 4 HELLP" , even I do it in everyday life ...but today , in a smart way….But I steel OFEN FEEL ALONE , & not understood ... Have I had stumbled in Your videos 20-30 years ago...I would spear to myself many , many sufferings….( now I know it from experience ….& I am still learning….).THANK'S KIRK , THERE WAS A REAL NEED 4 A MAN LIKE YOU ! GOD BLESSED YOU !
Thanks for the wisdom!🧚♀️
Thanks Kirk and Kim.......When the student is ready...the Teacher appears! Thanks agsin...just found you and already subscribed @ Love and Light!❤
Awesome! Thank you for your wisdom and ability to turn my aha light 💡 on