Why You Have No Self Control
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Hey, I'm Cole Hastings. I'm a vegan athlete/content creator with a passion for videography/video editing, among other things. I help people build themselves physically/mentally through fitness and self help videos.
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Well... that kind of self control helps sometimes and even often. But not always. I worked for 6 weeks straight on my job and on my channel and had a total meltdown one day before eastern where I did not want to do anything, my head just said "world, leave me alone". No amount of self awareness and control helped me there. I took 3 days off, turned off my phone and just went out into nature hiking and watching nature.
Instead of always trying to work on self control, I try to rely more on habits and environmental design. And yes... sometimes itÂŽs okay do watch netflix and do nothing productive, regardless of what hustle culture wants to tell us :-)
I feel that too. If you have been squeezing your self awareness too much and you will become a rebel.
Very very well said. Maybe the one thing that's making you lose self control is that you're overworking yourself. Taking some self care time and relaxing is totally okay sometimes. Thanks for this comment!
Ahhh nature hikings are definitely a cheat code that we have here in this world hehe.. Helps a lot and I'm so grateful for it..
@@cloudscape5996 Yes, one of the things money canÂŽt buy. Sitting on top of a mountain and watching the sunrise :-). Thanks @Cole for pinning my comment :-)
I agree. Productivity for the sake of productivity is another form of social pressure to a degree. All work and no play is unhealthy. We need things to look forward to.
A brilliant way to do this:
1. Stop what you're doing.
2. Take a very deep breathe and hold for 5 seconds.
3. Very strong exhale.
4. Repeat 5 times.
5. Think about what you were just doing, then think about what you should be doing.
6. Get on with you life.
It's half hour I'm breathing, but I needed to poop half hour ago...
Take a deep breath, close your eyes and get ready...
This. When you pause and take a moment of what you need to do, you get back on track.
HOLD? Are you kidding me.
@@frupunrounin738 totally can relate
"Last time I recall, I was using my mind, my mind was not using me! Our mind is a tool, use it, don't let it use you."
Mind = blown
My mind is a computer, im coming from the future on a hovercraft scooter
Damn that was dope
@Soviet Doggo What?......I always thought it was the other way round!
@0 so .....basically, becoming a Christian makes you ignorant!
This is my first full day without watching pornography and really controlling myself. I worked out for 3 hours today and then I rode my bike for awhile & then mowed the back yard. Slowly getting myself together day by day Iâm really proud of myself. & imma keep going!
Now?
day 43 on nofap,social anxiety is 70% gone
Goodluck bro
Good luck mateđ
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I canât control myself from watching a Cole hastings videođ©
Some things don't need controlling ;)
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One of my favorite quotes: âSelf-discipline begins with the mastery of your thoughts. If you donât control what you think, you canât control what you do.â
Was it from netero??i guess..
There is a qoute on bhagavat gheeta " your mind can be your best friend but it can also be your worst enemy".
True that
Bhagvad* hota hai gawar
âThe Happiness of your life depends on the quality of your thoughtsâ
Be comfortable with yourself alone.
Be dependable on yourself.
Be your own emotional support.
Life is truly freeing when you are self made and rely on no one for help or happiness.
For many itâs hard to be comfortable when alone. Great point!
I feel like you can't completely trust yourself either because dementia, amnesia, all those other terrible sicknesses that messes with your brain and perceptionđ«
For real!! đŻâĄ
Bless you while watching one of the cheeck slayin prophets. Thank the gospel verse 55:34 which states: If a man wishes to achieves his full potential and life dreams, He has to hold on to his selfmade creams. Amen
Rely on no one for happiness, but still ask for help! Don't go it alone if you don't have to
Cracked up at the brazzers part holy shit
That's really how it be
ayyeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee sup Brian
Not really how I go about it lol, every couple days I think, "huh, I feel like doing that", then I do it and I'm good for a while. I try to spread it out and change up formats to make it less harmful, though eventually I plan to quit entirely.
Donât curse
Damn bro leave some muscle for us
The main factor behind success is self-control.đ
Without a doubt
Thatâs so true!
Before I couldn't control myself and it ruined my relationships with friends and family, now I'm practicing meditation and working out to learn some self-control and to make sure I don't hurt anybody around me again. Thank you for this video, Cole.
You got this
That's me.
Same man been doing that for the longest, now its time to work
Man, every time I'm having an issue with something you always make a video specifically about what i'm having trouble with right when I need it most. You must be some kind of mind reader lmao
I agree, coil has a clear mind.
I gotchu â€
Agree, Cole is awesome ! đ
Everyone is going through this. . this is for everyone
"You are not your thoughts" I don't know why but this alone change the whole perspective of me.
Your brain naturally wants to take the path of least resistance. Learning how to lean into resistance rather than remaining contempt is a powerful skill to master.
Then what are you? (ok that got too philosophical)
The "Me" you speak about is just your thought and that that tries to makes sense by perceiving through it limited senses and puts you in a cycle till death.
its not a voice, its thoughts. âA person who thinks all the time, has nothing to think about except thoughts. So, he loses touch with reality and lives in a world of illusions."
Alan Watts was a wordsmith
"You are not your thoughts. You are a consciousness that perceives them."
I'm not religious but God bless this man
@0 amen
Ooooh, A Metallica fan I see. Nice..
@0 A-Goddamn-Men
I can't physically tell you how much you and your videos, all your work, have helped me these past few days. I am and will be forever grateful to you. Thank you Cole, thank you for helping me find myself again.
You changed my life, I had no idea how much I've been struggling with this, I was crying on how much your going to change my life, Love you and ty Cole Hastings.
I relate a lot to you bro. I appreciate you sharing your perspective & how to get out of that toxic mindset. Gonna try this out!
thank you man , you are literally changing me to the best version of myself . love and respect .
You definitely got it!! now the hard part is always to actually do it, great video, all the key parts were included in a very short period of time! keep up the great work!!!
Finally, I can reach my full potential.
Iâm actually somewhat failing school for the single reason I wonât focus on my work,
I have multiple things I still need to finish and I canât convince myself to finish them sometimes.
So thank you for this video, because know I can finally get my life to be more efficient.
I really needed this today. Thanks so much!
Amazing Video dude. I'm disciplining myself a lot this week, as well as the past month. You gave great advice in this video that I really appreciate, thank you.
Iâve always been a person with relatively low self control. Not the worst but Iâve definitely felt like itâs been holding me back. Thanks for sharing videos like this.
Wow, not only does it affect your own life when you give into those negative thoughts, but it affects the lives of others & ultimately the world. I discovered your channel earlier this year & you have become one of my favorite CZcamsrs. Your videos really help me out, and Iâm sure they have helped many other people to gain perspective & grow as individuals. If you gave into the negativity that tried to distract you, I wouldnât be watching this right now. Thank you for another awesome video! â€ïž
Wow! I have seen hundreds of videos like this but this one really is a game changer! Thank you for the actionable tips, wish you all the best
thank you, itâs like you opened my eyes
I need this video today! Thanks for the amazing content brodie đđ»
Thanks for this man,
This came at the perfect time...
I am really struggling with my purpose and spritual journy,
So thank you for giving me motivation.
This was a great video. Realizing I am not my thoughts is something I've never put much thought into but wow its an amazing piece of advice.
This video is so good, youâre great keep going !!!
awesome video Cole, very relevant for many in this day and age, something im constantly working on, love this self improvement journey
Thank you Cole for these types of videos, I always come back to these when I forget who I am sometimes.
Thanks Cole,you help me through your vids.
I love itđ„đ„
Thank you for this, I appreciate this greatly.
This guy makes some serious content and deserves some extra recognition already.
This is exactly what I needed, thank you
Cole,
Your video came at the perfect time no pun intended. Iâve been struggling with the negative self talk and will be using the meditation practice you suggested. Your really motivating me so much and giving me real tools to conquer the ego. Thank you for all you do đđŒđđŒđđŒ
Okay, it was really nice to hear this cause I have that back and forth momentum. When you talk between yourself and people look at you weird. I'm not crazy, I talk to myself cause I'm sane.
Thank you, Cole, for this video so, so much. It helped me during difficult times when I thought I just couldn't do the right thing.
So I've been fighting thoughts of procrastination rather than separating myself from these thoughts. I love how every single one of his videos teaches me something. Should start taking notes :)
I usualy never like a video or an insta post but you really deserved it man thanks for this valueable info
Wow... Dude just summarized my whole life. I love this content and how it has helped me on a self control journey
I love you man. Thanks for this solid video!
What i needed to hear today. Thank you đđȘ
Thank you for this cole!
One of my favourite CZcams videos of all time it shows that you put in the work to create this
This really spoke to me. thanks for the new perspective.
Man I needed to see this today, great stuff đ
Thank you for this advice!
So inspiring. You are changing culture and this world for the better! Keep going đđ»đđ»
Thank you, I really needed that
Wow. This is exactly what I was looking for, thank you.
Man, I donât know what to say about these vids. Itâs just so helpfull, I appreciate that!
One of the best channels I am subscribed to. Thanks.
you reshaped my mind bro the amount of self improvemnt ive done in this year becuse of you and outher pepeol is insane thx you
i watched this video 5 times and i am still doing this sometimes cause this is one of me favourite videos on your channel
i hope u know that you literally gave me the answer that i have been looking for. tysm
This is a gem of a channel. I'm glad I came here
I needed this video. Thanks!
Best Iâve ever heard on the subject!!! Loved the quote âfront door-back door open to let thoughts come & go! Just donât serve them Tea!!â Thatâs the Best!!!
you are just amazing..... i really love the way you explained and appreciate your hard work ... god bless you ...
Thanks alot for this video đ
Awesome man just shared kinda about this at my aa meeting this morning but u elaborated way better keep it up
"The first act of freedom is to not submit to that which is not free within yourself. It is not only Knowledge that will hold you back. You must hold yourself back. This is a daily practice. The personal mind will do what it does. Don't get entangled with it. Your job is to know when to hold yourself back."
Marshall Vian Summers
Love that
Thank you, Ivan.
Thank you
Thank you for this Great video!
I love the way you give these micromanagement tips in steps to accomplish
I keep trying to wake up early to do this productivity schedule I made but I can never get myself to get up out of bed because I stayed up so late that I feel terrible. So itâs a never ending cycle of waking up late, staying up late, trying to get up early, but falling back asleep due to the lack of sleep I had that night.
Just what I needed thank you sir
Wow thank you cole. Thank you
Thank you so much for this videođ
This is exactly what I needed thanks
Thanks for this video!!â€ïž
I let my thoughts control me for such a long period of my life, but I know better than this. Thanks for the quality content man, I'll not let my thoughts control me much longer.
i love this channel every video hits the mark!
Brilliant video man. Thank you
Another amazing video.
Thanks man
Thanks so much â€đ cole.
Thank you for this video, it was very helpful
This video is awesome and 100% on point!đ
Thx for changing my life coleđŻ
Damn. You just blow it with every video I watch.
As you said it, we let our minds control us. Being truly aware on a deeper level is the only way to overcome it. The voice is your ego, which is a much broader term than people think. Everyone has this voice, and it very often goes into something bad because it loves to consume and identifiy itself with the things on the outside(sex, drugs, social media, money, status, etc.) so in the absence of your awareness where you just monitor your ego and thoughts.
Edit: okay, sorry, I wrote this comment before I saw the full video. Damn, this channel is something else. You got my respect and my subscription brother, because you're spreading the message.
I learned all of this from a book called "The Power of Now", but never did I think that someone is gonna make a YT channel and try to enlighten the youth.
Bro, your videos help me a lot, you are an example for me. Thanks
thanks for an awesome video mate!
love this content mn keep the good work.will always support u .///your fan
wow such an amaizing video rlly have a different persective now THX!
Subscribed! Great advice, thank you
Stunning! Pple have to understand that for themselves though, in their own way. I feel like we gotta learn to say yes to ourselves all the time and go with the feeling.. and this means saying no to someone.another thing we were conditioned to do is to define ourselves... And we are undefined... So love your way of saying this ;)
For real I think this video is one of the most important video that you did, like it's the key to have if you want to apply everything you said before
Thank you
Always glad to take time out of my day to watch Coleâs vids :D
Thank you so much
Great video! very well explained
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS VIDEO, YOU RLLY CHANGED MY LEGS đŻđ„đ„đ„đ„
That video just made me look at everything completely differently. I was sitting on the floor for 15 minutes just thinking about this, swear to god.
amazing video as alwaysđ„
Love to hear that!
This is exactly what I needed to hear.
Hope it helped brother
I like your videos man! Theyâre actually helpful :)
'you are not your thoughts'.
I really needed that, thank you.
@Genn Jeets you are the person observing your thoughts.
Great video, thank you!
You are the greatest! All your videos are just a life Bible!
Spot on vid..
This kinda reminds me of that vid by Better Ideas YT in which he says that whenever we wanna do some work like hitting the gym and stuff, a resistance occurs in our brain resisting us from doing that thing, suddenly we feel our feet getting heavy and we feel like we should lie on our bed and sleep for sometime and that's when we gotta recognise that resistance and go against it.. Another great thing he said was the reason we don't become the version of ourselves that we've always imagined because we overthink it, our lives are cut into 24 hours days including sleep time and if we wanna do something, then the best time is now, and it brought a ton of sense into me and helped me out of that victim mindset..
Keep up, Cole!! đ„