I read 100 self-help books. Here’s what I learned…

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    I read 100 self-help books. From The Power of Now to Deep Work, to Daring Greatly and Awaken the Giant Within. You can say that I have a bit of a problem. But I learned so much from these books, and the lessons might change the way you look at self-help.
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  • @mattdavella
    @mattdavella  Před 2 lety +2698

    I’m just here for the comments about my new sweater.

  • @WalkinChristum
    @WalkinChristum Před 2 lety +4637

    "most people don't finish the books that they start" ... why you gotta attack me like that

    • @anapauladelima2376
      @anapauladelima2376 Před 2 lety +33

      Hahahaha 🤣😂🤣
      We all have been there, my friend. Eventually, it is just a phase. ;)
      Once you figure out what you like reading, you will never give up a book again.

    • @testtest-wy8mz
      @testtest-wy8mz Před 2 lety +13

      @@anapauladelima2376 absolutely believe in that! I’m still in the ‘Idk what I like to read’ phase…

    • @radicaldreamersteve5743
      @radicaldreamersteve5743 Před 2 lety +19

      @@anapauladelima2376 I dunno, I finish a lot of books, and I still stop in the middle here and there. Sometimes it just isn't the right time for a particular book, even if you like it.

    • @masterzeek21
      @masterzeek21 Před 2 lety

      😂😂😂 that’s what made me like the video.

    • @duncanrathband5492
      @duncanrathband5492 Před 2 lety +4

      That stat actually made me feel better. Thought it was just me being lame! Clearly not!

  • @HealthBookAffiliate
    @HealthBookAffiliate Před 2 lety +4722

    One of the lines that I've always liked from book 'Atomic Habits' is "You should be far more concentrated with your current trajectory than with your current results"

    • @majorpeg8534
      @majorpeg8534 Před 2 lety +134

      As someone deeply in self help that’s one of the most useful things I’ve read.

    • @mattdavella
      @mattdavella  Před 2 lety +197

      Love that one!

    • @basictoglamchictravels
      @basictoglamchictravels Před 2 lety +20

      This is eye opening, thanks

    • @HealthBookAffiliate
      @HealthBookAffiliate Před 2 lety +7

      @@basictoglamchictravels don't mention it, glad to help

    • @dumbdoggie21
      @dumbdoggie21 Před 2 lety +14

      hey...I dont quite get it can someone please explain it to me

  • @johncstory
    @johncstory Před 2 lety +1865

    Summarized points
    - take action
    * take 3 most important points from a book and just do it
    - take better notes
    * read and takes notes, highlight, underline, or have sticky notes, just annotate
    - One size fit all will not work
    * the best books will make you think critically, so it fits for your life

    • @sj4267
      @sj4267 Před 2 lety +2

      Thanks!

    • @johncstory
      @johncstory Před 2 lety +2

      @@sj4267 no problem bro

    • @basictoglamchictravels
      @basictoglamchictravels Před 2 lety +1

      Thanks

    • @johncstory
      @johncstory Před 2 lety +2

      @@basictoglamchictravels you’re welcome

    • @zeekaywalker9232
      @zeekaywalker9232 Před 2 lety +5

      Remember to take action and take action now(!) - Brian Tracy (Self Help Mentor and book writer)
      This summary you posted by the way actually reads like a Brian Tracy Video and Brian Tracy Videos do actually come along with far less distractions like the background music and cutscenes and are more clear and precise then here in Matt's Video which is ironic since Matt is the actual minimalist.

  • @RichPlusHappy
    @RichPlusHappy Před 2 lety +537

    "Slow Growth" soon on bookshelves, written by Matt D'Avella, edited by Mark Manson, foreword by Ryan Holiday, afterword by Tony Robbins, blessed by Dale Carnegie

  • @patrickt.6492
    @patrickt.6492 Před 2 lety +2697

    I feel like a lot of self-help books can be summarized in one sentence: "The secret to happiness is that there is no secret." I've read a few self-help books, but for me, real self-help comes from good stories. Whether fiction or nonfiction, learning about someone else's life and how they overcame obstacles is what really helps me improve my own life.

    • @andre_bastos
      @andre_bastos Před 2 lety +7

      feel the same

    •  Před 2 lety +31

      I feel the same. Watching a really impactful film/TV show can sometimes have a far bigger impact than a self-help book. That being said, I do think self-help can get me into a certain mindset that might help in some aspect of my life. For example, reading 'Deep Work' gave me a stronger appreciation of work ethic and focus. While I didn't apply any hard rules from the book, I did find myself really considering focus and work ethic every time I sat down to study or write.

    • @alflorrio
      @alflorrio Před 2 lety +46

      Some people need stories, some people need systems. A good book has both.

    • @bhsprinkle
      @bhsprinkle Před 2 lety

      💯

    • @swayx3657
      @swayx3657 Před 2 lety

      no there is, read on stoicism

  • @ryang94
    @ryang94 Před 2 lety +1144

    I've always liked these lines from Thoreau which I keep by my bookcase: "A truly good book teaches me better than to read it. I must soon lay it down, and commence living on its hint. What I began by reading, I must finish by acting."

    • @the.bonsai.samurai
      @the.bonsai.samurai Před 2 lety +6

      That sums self-help up perfectly! This is going on the white board! Thank you sir!

    • @hnnhml
      @hnnhml Před rokem +1

      Thats very well said

  • @lailaalfaddil7389
    @lailaalfaddil7389 Před rokem +208

    Thanks for this amazing information !! If you don't find a means of multiplying money, you will wake up one day to realize that the money you thought you had, has finished. Investment is key, I pray that anyone who reads this will be successful in life

    • @lailaalfaddil7389
      @lailaalfaddil7389 Před rokem

      Very true, I started investing before the pandemic and that same year I pulled a profit of about $750k with no prior investing experience, basically all I was doing was seeking guidance from *ROCHELLE DUNGCA-SCHREIBER* who's a guru in the game, you can be passively involved with the aid of a professional.

    • @susannnico
      @susannnico Před rokem

      It took me 3 years to stop trying to predict what's about to happen in the market based on charts studying because you never know. Please, i need the help of your Investment advisor.

    • @susannnico
      @susannnico Před rokem

      God bless you for sharing!

  • @EvolveNowYoga
    @EvolveNowYoga Před 2 lety +604

    "How to win friends and influence people" is the first book I bought by myself! It really got me into reading and made me realize that books are such a cool way to learn new things!

    • @raganick
      @raganick Před 2 lety +3

      Me too

    • @sunyalam4538
      @sunyalam4538 Před 2 lety

      same

    • @anapauladelima2376
      @anapauladelima2376 Před 2 lety

      Good memory! I tried to remember which book I bought for the first time.... 😅😅😅😅 and I have NO IDEA whatsoever 🤣😂🤦🏻‍♀️

    • @greenerpastures1000
      @greenerpastures1000 Před 2 lety +1

      In the 1980s, Dale Carnegie books were promoted in corporations as a way to improve your life and contributions.

    • @eduardochavacano
      @eduardochavacano Před rokem +2

      if it made you buy another book then it means you learned nothing or you have way too much money.

  • @PsicologiaBenessereOnline
    @PsicologiaBenessereOnline Před rokem +111

    SOME IMPORTANT NOTES:
    1) Taking Action, non matter how small, is the Key to making progress
    2) A good rule of thumb: pick at least 3 concepts from every (self-help) book and put them into practice immediately.
    3) Take notes and put bookmars when you read (probably actual books are better)
    4) We often flinch in the face of fear, BUT if we embrace the flinch (instead of suffering it and getting blocked): when we repeatedly expose ourselves at different kind of flinches, both big and smalles, we can start to overcome fear and build the life what we want.
    5) Avoid the mistake of blindy follow whatever advice is being shared (in self-help books): find what work for YOU
    6) If you ask yourself what will stood in the way of progress, and than you develop targeted strategies to change beahvior, the results will be far better
    7) The best self-help book ask you to think critical, the worst ask you to blindly follow a step by step plan: it's your responsability to question everything and ask yourself "how can I adapt this work for my life?". What's important is to be able to go in with an open mind, find 3 things that you can test, and hopefully find one thing that'll stick for the long run.
    CONCLUSION: Is important to remember that ultimately self-help is about the self, that's YOU: whatever piece of content you consume, consider how you can be an active participant in your own journey, by questioning, implementing and taking action in your own life (see #1): while it's great to take inspiration, you need to become your own "guru".

    • @tonyedgecombe6631
      @tonyedgecombe6631 Před rokem +1

      >Taking Action, non matter how small, is the Key to making progress
      You don't really need a book to tell you that though do you.

    • @alii514
      @alii514 Před rokem +1

      tysm

    • @hnnhml
      @hnnhml Před rokem +1

      Wow thank you!

    • @gsc113
      @gsc113 Před rokem +1

      Thanks a lot😊

    • @coursedatabase3790
      @coursedatabase3790 Před 11 měsíci +1

      Thanks

  • @JacobAndJamal
    @JacobAndJamal Před 2 lety +266

    There was a point when I read and listened to ALOT of self help books and podcast . In the years of mid 2000s to early 2015ish … But after a while so much of it became overlap and repeating the same message. “Face your fears, never quit on things you are passionate about, life is short” . A paragraph could summarize most these books … And the advice and “action steps” of many of these books was so vague and esoteric.
    Also I got tired of self help books from people , who’s only life experience was, self help .

    • @JacobAndJamal
      @JacobAndJamal Před 2 lety +11

      @Munaim Kayani My personal favorite book that impacted my life was Neil Straus “Rules of the Game” . It’s a social dynamics book that provides 30 days of challenges to go out and be comfortable socializing. I’m aware some will call it “PUA” and critique it for just talking to women . But if you’re someone who is an introvert, or awkward and want to meet people ; you need some tangible baseline task . “Be yourself” and flowery talk won’t cut it , IMO.
      Dave Ramsey “debt snowball” is a good book, As well as “richest man in Babylon” . Those are books that shine to me .

    • @serirayna2789
      @serirayna2789 Před 2 lety +5

      Then I lost it when they curse words to their titles....WT...

    • @aishahshamsul8642
      @aishahshamsul8642 Před 2 lety +23

      Right? Especially when self help CZcamsrs made morning routines taking up 3 hours...they didn't work full time like most people do. Makes it not relatable.

    • @thistree9028
      @thistree9028 Před 2 lety +12

      I agree! Self help books can be useful, certainly self awareness is a positive attribute, but also can be addictive. They can promote self-absorption. How many of these books does one need to read? Seems like it can be an obsession. Also, the more messed up and dysfunctional an author of some of them can convince readers that they are, the more profit for the next book in the works..it also makes for a profitable industry to repackage each other’s concepts over and over. I pulled back from reading these books awhile ago, after sensing a hamster wheel of sorts, and now I feel less anxious, more peaceful. A few key ideas were helpful I’ll admit and to maybe even hear repeated, but with a limit. It’s human nature to think ‘this is good more is better’ when it’s not..

    • @shuki1
      @shuki1 Před rokem +4

      @Sapiens I find that many good self-help gurus and consultants in general are the ones who failed at something(s) and then turned that into a profession. They are not talking theory rather actual from learning experience.

  • @matthewthompson0
    @matthewthompson0 Před 2 měsíci +108

    Such an amazing video, kudos! If you want self-improvement and you haven't read - the hidden truths of wealth ebook, stop everything you're doing now and find the book. You'll thank me later

    • @ryan-patel
      @ryan-patel Před 2 měsíci

      Where can i find it? it's banned from all sites.

    • @burmakara
      @burmakara Před 2 měsíci

      where did you find the book

    • @matthewthompson0
      @matthewthompson0 Před 2 měsíci

      borlest - thank me later

  • @MrsKuhliMuhli
    @MrsKuhliMuhli Před 2 lety +69

    For all who didn´t finish the books: don´t worry. I started a lot of them, never did the exercises, almost never finished one. But I loved to get into new self helping books and got more of them. And slowley my thinking changed. Maybe it took longer time, but it changed. And also my hole life changed.

    • @shuki1
      @shuki1 Před rokem +4

      I agree. Even if the person does not take the important action, the tendency is that the general mindset will change. I see this in a colleague who loves Ted talks. While they've not really acted on the ideas, they have become a much more positive person over the years, (and do have some good advice sometimes).

  • @theannareich
    @theannareich Před 2 lety +88

    My unoriginal yet effective 5 cents for finishing the books you start:
    1. Always pick a book that jumps out to you right at that moment (not one you think you should read)
    2. Don't be shy to skim through boring sections (don't force yourself to read them word for word)
    3. Attach reading to something you're already doing (for me that's drinking tea in the morning & commuting - I now read at least 1 book/week)

    • @melrmontez
      @melrmontez Před rokem

      🤔📖🖊

    • @goodfornothings
      @goodfornothings Před rokem +2

      I really like number 1, it's so critical 👍🏻

    • @BillPigg
      @BillPigg Před rokem

      *All the good stuff is usually at the end of the book. The first several chapters are usually introduction and background.*

  • @wearesatoshi__
    @wearesatoshi__ Před 2 lety +27

    I can totally relate when you said that books became your mentor. I feel the same way because there aren't too many ambitious enough people in my real life in which I could share ideas and have a edificial conversation.

  • @theacademicfix2210
    @theacademicfix2210 Před 2 lety +4

    Always remember:
    “Suffer the pain of self-discipline or suffer the pain of self-regret”
    -Love from a small CZcamsr

  • @kelly3824
    @kelly3824 Před rokem +28

    ‘The four agreements’ is one that changed me as well! ‘Don’t take things personally and don’t make assumptions’

  • @samcorey7468
    @samcorey7468 Před rokem +2

    I can always expect no BS from your videos, Matt. Thanks for all of the value you are providing.

  • @officialcalvinwayman
    @officialcalvinwayman Před 2 lety +2

    Matt, the storytelling in this video is insane. So good! And concise. Thank you from the all of us.

  • @Phenomenal268
    @Phenomenal268 Před rokem +39

    I have to agree. Started reading physical books again and I have a greater appreciation for them now compared to my ebooks and audio books. Being able to physically leave notes and mark pages is so much more satisfying.

  • @shatakshiaggarwal
    @shatakshiaggarwal Před 2 lety +74

    After going through quite a few self-help books/videos, I realised that, mostly, the answers are within us, unless we need help on specific, more technical, topics.
    Our mind knows already what it wants and what's right for it.
    Persistence and discipline is where most of us lack.

    • @shivigarg4158
      @shivigarg4158 Před rokem +2

      Yesss i don't think one needs a self -help book until and unless when someone is going through a hard time,trying to figure out himself . The solutions are within us. We just need to implement them.

  • @RB-yt6rx
    @RB-yt6rx Před 2 lety +1

    I listen to your videos when I'm working or cleaning my house. Thank you for breaking things down in such a compassionate and real way. No one has ever spoken to 'me' in a way I can relate to. So thank you. Keep doing what you do!

  • @piusgyagenda
    @piusgyagenda Před 2 lety +1

    Not only is the production is great but also the content is supper helpful thank you so much Matt

  • @gigielizabeth5636
    @gigielizabeth5636 Před rokem +4

    ‘Self Help’ is an old fashioned term. We call this personal development these days. I’ve read 1000’s of these type of books and LOVE them. I take what resonates and leave what doesn’t!

  • @aerka0s760
    @aerka0s760 Před 2 lety +27

    "And Surprisingly handsome CZcamsrs" with Matt smiling at us, it made me smile even more than him. Every time there is a simple and great joke that makes it worth it. Thank you Matt.

  • @femmenutritionau
    @femmenutritionau Před 2 lety +2

    The way you articulate the experiences with self help books… is just brilliant! Thank you for your thorough work and style of delivery about what we all have been thinking about the self help world 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼🙌🏼

  • @agustinbadariotto
    @agustinbadariotto Před 2 lety +2

    The direction of this video is insane, great production guys! Really a solid work of direction and investigation

  • @kartikverma8389
    @kartikverma8389 Před 2 lety +8

    I don't know how this happens but everytime I am struggling with something, I try to put it off by watching youtube and everytime I do this, something relevant shows up in the feed. Today I was struggling with taking actions towards my goal and as an avid self help reader, this thumbnail got my attention. Absolutely loved the video, by far the best one on this channel. Thank you Matt !

  • @nathanieljack9632
    @nathanieljack9632 Před 2 lety

    Thanks for everything you do Matt! You’ve been a positive role model for me for a long time!

  • @santoseducacionaleinformac4740

    Good work, brother! God bless you!

  • @intentional_nourishment
    @intentional_nourishment Před 2 lety +10

    Definitely the reminder I needed to take notes as I read! I always think I'm going to end up lending the books to someone so I always hesitate to write in them, but it really does add to the experience!

  • @lindadawson902
    @lindadawson902 Před rokem +68

    I use productivity tools like Tammy AI to help me learn anything faster on CZcams. Why spend more time than needed?

  • @FinancialShinanigan
    @FinancialShinanigan Před 2 lety +12

    Matt is the only self-help channel I need

  • @mohamed96091
    @mohamed96091 Před rokem +1

    Its very rare for me to search for an uplifting and self-develpoment videos, and I'm glad I found yours honestly. I'm actually surprisingly motivated, and hopefully will start reading books again. Thanks.

  • @sprintslow
    @sprintslow Před 2 lety +1

    Nailed it Matt. Another high quality great piece of content. Appreciate all the hard work you put into these videos.

  • @maherhasan4517
    @maherhasan4517 Před 2 lety +34

    Great Video Matt. and I absolutely agree with this one. I'm lucky that I started highlighting and taking notes after only reading 3 books without doing so because I felt like I was not able to recall any info from them. Now I highlight the key ideas in every chapter, and every Section or so I copy these highlights and try to rewrite them in my own words. It lets me recall the ideas and keep a small summary of the book to refer for later when needed.
    I'm not doing my best at taking action but I'm definitely trying to.

    • @pbear49
      @pbear49 Před 2 lety +1

      I do the same thing Maher.

  • @ogie86
    @ogie86 Před rokem +26

    Self-help books saved me from depression. The best lesson I learned is setting boundaries or just simply saying no to do certain tasks. I noticed more people (especially bosses) have given me respect and completely stopped effing around with me.

    • @frostyheaven8612
      @frostyheaven8612 Před rokem

      Hi! I struggle with setting boundaries. Do you have any self-help books that you would recommend?

    • @melrmontez
      @melrmontez Před rokem

      @@frostyheaven8612 Boundaries by Henry Cloud

  • @DrewSchollmeyer
    @DrewSchollmeyer Před 2 lety +1

    Another great & truthful video Matt. Appreciate you for contributing into helping others out! 🤝

  • @itsmevruu
    @itsmevruu Před rokem +1

    Your content is like a therapy. Be the sight, be it the script, be the "you". Presentation ofcourse matters in every sort and aspect. Indeed, you aced it!! Kudos 👍❤️

  • @Lousysuperior
    @Lousysuperior Před 2 lety +260

    I've started reading philosophy and honestly it's much better than any self help book I've read. I think it just puts me in a better frame of mind and helps me identity faults in my logic and ultimately helping me understand the world around me.

    • @MeinungMann
      @MeinungMann Před 2 lety

      What philosophers did you begin with? Niztche?

    • @Omar-ot8sz
      @Omar-ot8sz Před 2 lety +6

      Any good books you could recommend?

    • @5tegaysaurus
      @5tegaysaurus Před 2 lety +15

      in general i recommend to not instantly pick up books from philosphers themself, but a book from other authors, who expand on the background and other cirumstances about the philosophers idea to put things into perspective.
      Which book to to choose depends on what are u looking for. You can divide philosophy in 2 bigger categories: theoretical philosophy (for ex. what's truth, what's the purpose of life) and practical philosophy (for ex. what is the right thing to do, virtues)

    • @can3491
      @can3491 Před 2 lety +6

      @@Omar-ot8sz I recommend Seneca and Epictetus ( in Dutch there is a selection of essays Freedom which is good, don’t know whether it is in English, but you can take the whole collection and read ones that interest you to start with)

    • @Lousysuperior
      @Lousysuperior Před 2 lety +6

      I'm currently reading "the ethics of ambiguity" and although ethics themselves aren't THAT interesting. I think the larger point being made is that too often us humans fall into absoluteist thinking. I'm completely right and your completely wrong. I'm (X) religion so i cant entertain the idea of evolution. Even atheism is a form of absolutism. I've found that most truth lies between two extremes.
      Anyways. Simone de Beauvoir. She's super cool. First wave feminist, philosopher of sorts. And very intelligent.
      Also manufacturing consent by noam Chomsky.

  • @_peterlawson
    @_peterlawson Před 2 lety +9

    Really great advice. Taking notes has been the game changer for me. I personally like to keep it simple and I put a pencil like either side of a key thought or lesson from a book. After I finish the book, I’ll type them all up.

  • @natachabrachet1919
    @natachabrachet1919 Před 2 lety

    I really like your newsletter. The only helpful one I found, and a short amount of time to read. Thank you so much

  • @georgekolontaevsky1023

    Matt always finds a way to motivate me!

  • @howtosteve
    @howtosteve Před 2 lety +15

    I just realized exactly the same what you have explained. I like to read self-development books every morning for 10-20 minutes, but sometimes I forget things, so I'm getting serious about taking notes. What else what I have noticed, that not all the time you should take actions immediately after reading books like these. Maybe, you are already on the right path, but these self-development books will strengthen your belief, that you do the right thing already.

  • @oscarbull
    @oscarbull Před 2 lety +3

    Some very true points. I've had to start reading all of my favourite books again just to take notes and fully consume their insights, would have saved a lot of time had I read them that way the first time round.

  • @hieunguyen_design
    @hieunguyen_design Před 2 lety +1

    Hi Matt, i stopped reading self-help book for years since I knew your channel. Now your videos are my audio self-help books

  • @PatrickIrvinemusic
    @PatrickIrvinemusic Před rokem +1

    Thank you Matt. Keep creating 🙏

  • @jaggae9
    @jaggae9 Před rokem +17

    My favourite self-help quote I think is from The Minimalists: (paraphrased) Nothing changes if you don't change anything. Basically, don't expect a different result if you keep doing the same thing.

    • @GjaP_242
      @GjaP_242 Před rokem

      One disadvantage of self-help books and motivational talks by certain gurus is that, routinely, many of the claims made do not have adequate scientific backing. More advantageous, for example, would be to read books by the philosopher Nietzsche, the writers Goethe and Shakespeare and watch films by the filmmakers Kurosawa, Bergman, Fellini and Godard. Don't fall into the trap of trying to lead an unattainable lifestyle in the short to medium term. Plan your self-development and become a mentor to yourself. 0:15

  • @Goose61422
    @Goose61422 Před 2 lety +3

    Love the videos Matt!! Thanks for all you do sir.

  • @synergisticwillow1382
    @synergisticwillow1382 Před rokem +1

    Absolutely love your content! Thank you so much for all the time you put into this!!! It’s AWESOME!

  • @miguelpoky2
    @miguelpoky2 Před rokem +2

    Quick implementation of the lessons you learn are the key. Like you know it's good advice even if you only take away one thing from the book but, people don't normally even put the effort in to do what they just learned.

  • @danacagen9876
    @danacagen9876 Před 2 lety +7

    LOVED “How to Win Friends and Influence People". I was expecting it to be corny and cheesy but that book honestly changed my life.

  • @vaibhavi.singh.
    @vaibhavi.singh. Před rokem +5

    I had watched your FLINCH video a while back and I actually tried it. Turned out to be the bestest advice I've ever taken

  • @CeritaFandaVancouver
    @CeritaFandaVancouver Před rokem +2

    Very well said, Matt. I used to love highlighting the books I read and I agreed it's efficient when we need to look back. But then it looks unclean, so I started to take notes then I have too many notes. I like best taking notes and start writing and talking about it or simply listening to your vlogs as you have summarized what you have learned.

  • @OscarsPlaces
    @OscarsPlaces Před rokem

    Subscribed to your newsletter. Can't wait! Thanks Matt

  • @hannahbarber4752
    @hannahbarber4752 Před rokem +10

    For those E-book enthusiasts. I keep a journal of everybook I read now and note page and paragraph of an idea quote etc. I enjoy. So hopefully by the end of my 20's I will have a journal full of info that essentially is my very own self-authored self-help for dummies.

    • @aniaveblog
      @aniaveblog Před rokem

      Thinking about something similar. Do you use an app or something?

  • @yazeedfallatah6941
    @yazeedfallatah6941 Před rokem +3

    ''sure , the tactile feeling of reading a book is nice '' . That's not just nice , it is The beauty of reading .

  • @songlyrics4016
    @songlyrics4016 Před rokem +1

    Well that was the most succinct and concise overview, I don't know how the hell you managed to cram all of these gems into 9 minutes?! 🤯 Thank you so much for this video Matt!

  • @susan5661
    @susan5661 Před rokem +1

    Wow, this is such simple and such powerful advice! I love to read, and now I have tools to make them more intentional. thank you!

  • @YungLev
    @YungLev Před 2 lety +3

    I like the new format of your videos! Keep it up!

  • @jrgenespolinjohnson2469
    @jrgenespolinjohnson2469 Před 2 lety +409

    Lately I’ve found that fiction can be just a good source for inspiration to improve myself:
    I get inspired to do well at university while reading The Name of The Wind, more focused on paying attention to my conversations when I read Norwegian Wood and so on.
    Point is, I think fiction is an underrated source of self-help.

    • @_Just_Some1
      @_Just_Some1 Před 2 lety +3

      Agreed.

    • @pjfreeman4789
      @pjfreeman4789 Před 2 lety +2

      Definitely.

    • @booksandroses5307
      @booksandroses5307 Před 2 lety +33

      Yeah, it’s really annoying that he implied that reading fiction is not as useful as self help. If you ask me, most self help books don’t even take into account the material condition of most people and are riddled with toxic positivity that shames people for no taking action with phrases like “there’s no excuse” I usually like his content, but that was very disappointing and will not be finishing the video.

    • @victoriahill7218
      @victoriahill7218 Před 2 lety +8

      Agree, one is able to view life from a different perspective. All fiction comes from life experience and has truth hidden in the mix!

    • @revelations2044
      @revelations2044 Před 2 lety +1

      @@booksandroses5307 stay mad xD

  • @2023inbox
    @2023inbox Před rokem

    Thank you 🙏 you made it so comprehensive and provide a good perspective!

  • @and_vizion8945
    @and_vizion8945 Před rokem +1

    Simply fantastic video Matt!

  • @thechancellor-
    @thechancellor- Před 2 lety +5

    To the *worthwhile person* seeing this, your dream is not dead. Don’t allow the past and current pains and hurts stop and define you. You’re more than a conqueror. Rise up and put yourself together. Keep pushing your future depends on it. I wish you all the best in life ❤️.

  • @WiWillemijn
    @WiWillemijn Před 2 lety +109

    I don't know if you will be positive or negative about self help books because I haven't watched the video yet, but the best self help book about recovering from mental ilness is 'You are not a rock' by Mark Freeman. It's not a book to read and feel good about yourself, it actually provides really practical steps to fully recover from mental illness. (I sound like I am paid to say this but it just saved my life so I want to share about it)

    • @melmelexplores
      @melmelexplores Před 2 lety +8

      So happy that you got through it and I hope happiness comes your way! 💛💛

    • @bethmcmullan9872
      @bethmcmullan9872 Před 2 lety +7

      Glad you're here. Thanks for the recommendation.

    • @yunabrooks
      @yunabrooks Před 2 lety +2

      I‘m happy you’re here and tysm for the recommendation. I just ordered it and hope it helps me aswell 💗 I wish you all the best! ✨

    • @WiWillemijn
      @WiWillemijn Před 2 lety

      @@yunabrooks I am sure it will! If you have questions about the book, you can ask the writer on instagram. He is very helpful! ♥️

    • @mitzyannalee3942
      @mitzyannalee3942 Před 2 lety +5

      I'm going to look this one up! I suffer from depression and my little brother took his life last year. Mental illness is so hard to recover from so I'm always looking for new strategies.

  • @christianconnell6515
    @christianconnell6515 Před 2 lety

    Thank you for another one Matt we appreciate you!

  • @emarosegumaru
    @emarosegumaru Před 2 lety +1

    This is my most favorite video (as of today) of all of your videoes, Matt. ☺️❤️

  • @nafixer
    @nafixer Před 2 lety +32

    I have been experimenting alot with summaries lately and I think they are really worth it . You read more books and then the books you love you read the whole thing

    • @SJ-zv3jf
      @SJ-zv3jf Před 2 lety +3

      I have watched your Atomic Habits insights videos and it was really good along with Hell yeah or no summary on what's worth doing .

  • @tylerhawley2106
    @tylerhawley2106 Před 2 lety +75

    I strongly agree! I used to be obsessed with learning as much self-help and personal improvement as possible, especially going from video to video. But eventually realized that I wasn't seeing much benefit because I couldn't recall much of what I had "learned" and didn't put it into practice. Overall, if you aren't first covering the essentials (enough sleep, eating right, exercise, have a planner), then you'll see minimal benefits from other tips like email management techniques. First though, grapple with why and whether you should be pursuing self-help. In what way do you want it to improve your life? To what end does being hyper-efficient matter if it just means you can now do more work? What do we lose by trying to turn our imperfect selves into unreachable perfection?

    • @hnnhml
      @hnnhml Před rokem +1

      I totally agree!

    • @farismalik580
      @farismalik580 Před rokem +1

      The fact that reading many self help books didn't even made me sleep on time. And one day, walking in park, one of my old friend called me and i saw him, we talked, he was going to gym, he took me with him, i did workout, i came next day and going to this day and eventually my diet, sleep schedule, discipline, motivation, power to do boring and hard things, it all came out of nowhere from that call of my friend while walking, and not from dozens of self help books

  • @geaninaambrus2074
    @geaninaambrus2074 Před rokem +1

    You're simply awesome, Matt! 🙂I love your content!

  • @ahmedelkhateeb3716
    @ahmedelkhateeb3716 Před rokem

    thank you, mate, this amazing summary is so fruitful, keep going bro, you are awesome

  • @garamvolgyiandi
    @garamvolgyiandi Před 2 lety +21

    While I was translating Deep Work into Hungarian, I was mesmerized, started implementing many of its advice, but then it all started to fade away, despite the fact that I literally went through each and every sentence, so totally agree about note taking and relearning. :)

  • @mrxgamer7567
    @mrxgamer7567 Před rokem +3

    I started "The Power of your subconscious mind" as my first book, and literally I've completed 8 Chapters in three days and i implemented whatever the author suggested and it really changed my mindset.

  • @MRGNSMNE
    @MRGNSMNE Před 2 lety

    these shots are amazing. always so inspiring, Matt 🥳🙏🏽

  • @dontrinh7686
    @dontrinh7686 Před rokem

    Your video editing is great. Very inspiring to see the ideas you have and creativity when it comes to content creation.

  • @kerryfoster1
    @kerryfoster1 Před rokem +11

    I still have Dale Carnegie's book - read many years ago! The points made are still as valid today as then. Its all about human nature and perception. Brilliant book. Recommend you read it.

  • @malalalalalala
    @malalalalalala Před 2 lety +73

    Interesting that you mention the thing i found out about self-help books within the first minute - taking action! You can read 100s of these books and become the greatest expert on the topic, but if you never take action it doesn't matter.
    And most people will read these books and continue to not take action. That is why this industry is so successful. People have all the needed tools in their hands but when it comes to action they rather quit and read the next book hoping for the secret formula that will change their life.

    • @soundscape26
      @soundscape26 Před 2 lety +2

      Agree yes, most people basically _read_ those books as an end, rarely as a means that leads to acting. And besides, most of the information contained in them is available for free online in a ton of different shapes and forms.

  • @covertopfilms3751
    @covertopfilms3751 Před 2 lety +2

    Nice! Great video! I used to have the problem of taking toooooo many notes and couldn’t finish any book and had too many notes of little value. Now I don’t take hardly any notes, only important parts that affected me, and I read a lot more and benefit much more! Love seeing your process!

  • @PhilosophyWithLilly
    @PhilosophyWithLilly Před 2 lety +1

    This was a video I didn't know I needed. Loved the bit about notetaking while reading. Thanks!

  • @linedpaper5374
    @linedpaper5374 Před 2 lety +3

    fantastic video concept, beautifully crafted, and great utility. would love to see you share your list of the 100 SH books on goodreads or something. and/or a follow up video on your top 10 or so and why? great content as usual, matt! ty!

  • @imperial-gamer
    @imperial-gamer Před 2 lety +4

    Man you look awesome with the new sweater!

  • @antoniofernandes6526
    @antoniofernandes6526 Před rokem

    Excellent video, explanation, footage. Brilliant as always, Matt!

  • @bhsprinkle
    @bhsprinkle Před 2 lety +36

    Agreed. If you read all these self-help books without putting it into practice, it doesn't help much. It still put you in the right mindset but action is the most crucial place to start once mindset in in place.
    I'm the same about not wanting to ruin my books with earing pages and highlights. I am open to taking notes though.

    • @bjwilliams
      @bjwilliams Před rokem +2

      Self help books are more about changing your mindset. How you think determines how you will live your life. Its your life, not anyone else's. All about me.😘

    • @bhsprinkle
      @bhsprinkle Před rokem +1

      @@bjwilliams Yes. Mindset is a certainly a key factor in moving yourself into action.

  • @Daeven1
    @Daeven1 Před rokem +12

    I think it’s important to note: Everyone learns differently, so for some audiobooks can be just as good or better than physical books. When I listen to an audiobook I’ll glean most of the information, And I keep notes on my Google Keep when I hear something super important.

  • @danH_1999
    @danH_1999 Před 2 lety +2

    I've been going through a similar experience myself. I just graduated college and been focusing on how to prepare for the working world. Always more insight out there. Cool video!

  • @rob7509
    @rob7509 Před 2 lety

    Hi Matt , i am a subscriber to Angelo’s channel watch the first time you met one another excellent moment to hear you both talk about many issues .

  • @nemekSI
    @nemekSI Před 2 lety +13

    *I didn't think I would enjoy reading but I started about 6 months ago and now I cant stop! It is super fun to learn new things especially self help books. My current favs are dont believe everything you think, never split the difference, and atomic habits!*

  • @CottonCandy_Clouds128
    @CottonCandy_Clouds128 Před 2 lety +6

    I'm really interested into the list of self help books you've read. Is it available anywhere? And also...I'm always blown away from the quality of the b-rolls and how much love you put in every single video... I love u man ❤ greetings from germany 🇩🇪

  • @jdschramm6138
    @jdschramm6138 Před rokem

    This was surfed up to me while I was supposed to be grading my students' final projects. I'm glad the algorithm at CZcams thought I needed this. It was a welcome and fascinating short diversion. And...yes...I like the sweater.

  • @marciszabo2085
    @marciszabo2085 Před 2 lety

    I am speechless. Best yt video I have ever seen! Thank you so much!

  • @prismonthethehorizon5793

    1) Taking Action is the key to making progress. It's essential to take even the smallest steps.
    a) Embrace the flinch so we can overcome the fear and build the life we want! F**k the excuses just do it!
    b) Pick 3 concepts from each book that you read. Track the information. Take notes, highlight the best ideas, underline quotes, use post it notes.
    c)

  • @Gruso57
    @Gruso57 Před 2 lety +4

    I changed my life drastically by reading and implementing Atomic Habits. If anyone is new to Self Help I would absolutely start with that book as it will lay a foundation for you with everything in life.

  • @NurainTakuma
    @NurainTakuma Před 2 lety

    Love all these videos you produce. Really appreciate your efforts 💯 👍. Keep it up

  • @travisbalthasar9544
    @travisbalthasar9544 Před 2 lety +2

    Great insights. Def value note taking in order to get from the books

  • @iambinitadey
    @iambinitadey Před rokem +3

    1. take action, don't just theorize.
    2. pick three concepts from every self help book and put them into practice immediately.
    3. act to your flinch and just DO IT.
    4. take better notes while reading.
    5. don't blindly follow what worked for the author, question and adapt in your own unique way.
    6. from every book find 3 things that you can test, and 1 thing that will stick to you in long run.
    7. be your own guru.

  • @TheBiggestAlEver
    @TheBiggestAlEver Před 2 lety +5

    Great video, as always, my man! I also am too careful about annotating my books and I also fall into the category of those that only read the first chapter, or two, of probably the same 100 self-help books you’ve read all the way through.
    However, that changes today. From the vid I watched right before yours and then Seinfeld yours now, I’ll get back to the full read and notes, because I learn way better that way myself!
    Anywho, GOD bless and keep it pushin’ man!✊🏾🦉💯

  • @tspencer661
    @tspencer661 Před 2 lety

    I love the authors who will tell you which books they read on their journey, so I can read those books, too.

  • @whuspr
    @whuspr Před 2 lety +1

    Your production quality is insanely good.

  • @ErikStenbakken
    @ErikStenbakken Před 2 lety +35

    100.00% percent bullseye. I’ve read almost every one of the books shown in this video. And I was introduced to many of those authors via Matt’s previous CZcams work: The Ground Up Show. If you haven’t gone through those interviews, I highly recommend them. But even there, you have to take action ;-)

  • @Verah___
    @Verah___ Před 2 lety +3

    I love that point where you said not everything in self help books is true. I realized that some of the things said in some books didn’t feel right with my spirit. If it doesn’t feel right for you leave it alone. Authors are not perfect. They also still have a lot to learn and grow from.

    • @HannahMarieee
      @HannahMarieee Před 2 lety +2

      yeah i loved that too! hey btw verah, i recently started my own channel where i talk a lot about well-being, self growth and a healthy lifestyle, if you wanna check it out☺️

    • @Verah___
      @Verah___ Před 2 lety +2

      @@HannahMarieee okay.. let me check it out

    • @HannahMarieee
      @HannahMarieee Před 2 lety +1

      @@Verah___ cool thank you🥰