i had to UNlearn some things to STOP being stuck, broke, and unhappy | how i changed my life

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  • čas přidán 5. 09. 2024

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  • @Only1QueenOfEverything
    @Only1QueenOfEverything Před měsícem +57

    Sadly or gladly…..I realized being SUPERmom is not a flex!!! I need help, I want it, I ask for HELP! Letting go of some mindsets, thought patterns, CONTROL, and perfectionism has helped me tremendously! 💛

    • @kristidoingthings
      @kristidoingthings  Před měsícem +4

      Love this! It’s something I tell my sister often- she’s doing amazing, but feels so bad when she can’t be Supermom.

    • @kenpatterson7742
      @kenpatterson7742 Před měsícem +3

      The unfortunate thing is that we are bombarded with the idea that we even have the ability to be more than human… thus the term super mom or super dad or super employee. We were never intended to be more. We were intended to be human with a reliance on the Lord for MORE! Give yourself grace and enjoy being a mom. No super needed!

    • @MysticalDe
      @MysticalDe Před měsícem

      This!!!!

    • @Heyu7her3
      @Heyu7her3 Před měsícem

      People give terrible help... if they give it

  • @TheMaxymama
    @TheMaxymama Před měsícem +16

    8:30 This!!! I read a book that said, if you're determined to be self sufficient, you have to keep your life and goals small enough to manage single handedly to make suree you never need help.
    This changed my life!

    • @kristidoingthings
      @kristidoingthings  Před měsícem +1

      Oooh, I like that! What book was that?

    • @NaturallyTi
      @NaturallyTi Před měsícem +1

      Wow that blew me away and validated me so much. I actually felt bad about how small my life is but it’s what I can manage on my own because I don’t have a lot of friends and family. Thanks for sharing.

    • @jacquelinezavodny2181
      @jacquelinezavodny2181 Před měsícem

      @@kristidoingthings “A person who is determined to be self-sufficient has to keep his or her life and their goals small enough to manage single-handedly. To make sure they never need help.”
      - Alison Armstrong (The Queen’s Code)

  • @brighterwithnzu392
    @brighterwithnzu392 Před měsícem +17

    Mindsets to get over.
    - Everyone is in competition
    - Working harder will lead to better results - feeling of not being good enough. What God has for me is mine...😊
    - You don't need to be perfect to get results or greatness.
    Working smarter not harder
    - Compartmentalizing my life- prioritizing one area too much that you totally slack in other areas that bleed into each other.
    - Having more is better
    Can keep you stuck, because you can't let go, declutter, being able to afford without impacting my life. Rather pay to get exactly what I want
    - I don't need help - even with the simple things, trying to act like you have it together🙏🏽, not asking for what you deserve, not advocating for yourself in critical areas, no pride.

  • @Deebanup
    @Deebanup Před 24 dny +1

    "Doing our best and being the best are different" really resonated with me. It's hard not to compare but like you mentioned I have to remind myself that I am killing it!

  • @emily28038
    @emily28038 Před měsícem +3

    This really encouraged me to accept myself as I am now, be proud of my accomplishments but keep striving. Rather than feeling negative about where I am now, and think I need to be there before I can expect any of the positive things. Thank you, you always have a good message.

    • @kristidoingthings
      @kristidoingthings  Před měsícem +1

      Amen!!! I love this. We can work on improving different parts of ourselves in love.

  • @williamrobinson4513
    @williamrobinson4513 Před měsícem +6

    First of all, I am relating with NUMBER 1. My ONLY competition is the person I was YESTERDAY. I am also relating with THE SECOND. I AGREE with the saying I DO WHAT I CAN AND LET GOD DO WHAT I CAN'T DO (NO ONE IS ON THIS EARTH IS PERFECT). Number 3, as someone who has moved to a new place, I am in the process of learning No. 3. As a NEW SUBSCRIBER, this video has come in handy for me. Glad to meet YOU, KRISTY😊

    • @kristidoingthings
      @kristidoingthings  Před měsícem +1

      Nice to meet you too, William! Welcome- I'm so glad you're here! I am happy that you were able to see yourself in different parts of the video.

  • @DetangledbyDesign
    @DetangledbyDesign Před měsícem +6

    Good points. Type A too. I rationalize much of it as "leading by example", as opposed to just being driven for ambition sake. Actually, I never expect more of people than I am willing to deliver myself. I set high personal performance standards for myself so that when it is time to ask, I have skin in the game. I am often referred to as "intense", and known to operate with a sense of urgency though 😂. Age is helping me calm down.😅

    • @kristidoingthings
      @kristidoingthings  Před měsícem +2

      lol, I totally hear you! Type A leaders can be both easy and difficult to work with bc we clearly outline what and how we want things done and “lead by example” but we have high expectations for others actually mimicking that example 😆

  • @jenbhikes
    @jenbhikes Před měsícem +3

    Great list! ❤ I definitely have to keep an eye on myself regarding a sense of competition, asking for help, and settling for less! I really like that idea of what God has for me is mine. Thank you!

  • @purplescorpnaturale
    @purplescorpnaturale Před měsícem +5

    I might need to put this video on an automatic loop because I am guilty of all of it. I am trying to do better thought. A work in progress.

    • @kristidoingthings
      @kristidoingthings  Před měsícem +1

      Do what you gotta do, girl! Don't beat yourself up. We are all a work in progress. 😉

  • @mothersoul1
    @mothersoul1 Před měsícem +2

    So happy I found you.
    nice, gentle advice. Not the run a hundred miles in the morning, starve 19 hours. and die in ten minutes 😢
    Not here, thanks

    • @kristidoingthings
      @kristidoingthings  Před 24 dny

      Hahaha!!! Nah, I'll only make you run 99 miles in the morning 😂 (j/k). I'm so glad you're here!

  • @missejlouie
    @missejlouie Před měsícem +4

    yessssss can't wait! see you tomorrow queen 💗

  • @krissieg7862
    @krissieg7862 Před měsícem +2

    Thank you for this ❤ your energy, your content is so inspiring
    Sending love from Michigan

  • @StarBucks600
    @StarBucks600 Před měsícem +2

    Thank you for this. I definitely took notes and tapped into what you were saying

  • @veganoptionsplus3374
    @veganoptionsplus3374 Před měsícem +2

    ✨🌿🪻Thank you Kristi for this video… more like this wld be great …your service is certainly appreciated 💐

  • @JusDrawBraw
    @JusDrawBraw Před měsícem +1

    Love your advice so far. Thank you

  • @Bestdayever2020
    @Bestdayever2020 Před měsícem +7

    I too wish I would have accepted the help I was offered.

  • @Llenaejp
    @Llenaejp Před měsícem +2

    Wow! Your videos are so refreshing! You make me really want to change the way I view things. My limiting beliefs. And you know what? I am going to 😅 thanks to you pretty lady! Know it’s easier said than done but I will keep your videos on repeat until I learn! You’ve got a new subscriber 😊

    • @kristidoingthings
      @kristidoingthings  Před měsícem

      Awww, thank you! 🥹 I’m so happy you’re here and part of my CZcams family 🫶🏽 The lessons don’t come easy. Like you said, it’s something you have to keep focusing on growing in. But you recognize the limiting beliefs and that’s such a fantastic start. You’ll get there!

  • @sagenosnibor9173
    @sagenosnibor9173 Před měsícem +1

    Appreciate this content, thanks!

  • @ramahh979
    @ramahh979 Před měsícem +2

    Geesh! Why did I see advocating for myself as begging? Great tips! New subbie. Thank You for sharing the wisdom

    • @kristidoingthings
      @kristidoingthings  Před měsícem +1

      Welcome, friend! I'm so happy you found your way over here. And get it- we can be SOO uncomfortable with advocating for ourselves. It's definitely a muscle that needs to be worked out.

  • @shalayzizo
    @shalayzizo Před měsícem +1

    Thank you so much for this video! I definitely needed to hear this! ❤❤❤

  • @shandranorman4710
    @shandranorman4710 Před měsícem +1

    This is really speaking to me right now, thank you!

  • @loisb2873
    @loisb2873 Před měsícem +1

    Really helpful video for a fellow type A

  • @Olliemillz124
    @Olliemillz124 Před měsícem +3

    I LOVE your videos.

    • @kristidoingthings
      @kristidoingthings  Před měsícem

      Aww, this makes me so happy! I’m glad that you’re here!

  • @kenpatterson7742
    @kenpatterson7742 Před měsícem +1

    Great video hon! Continually proud of you!

  • @a_la_drinah
    @a_la_drinah Před měsícem +2

    This video was on time!

  • @me2609
    @me2609 Před měsícem +1

    Kristi, I love you! 🫶

  • @brittsjustwingingit2732
    @brittsjustwingingit2732 Před měsícem +1

    This was SOOOO GOOD!! ❤

  • @tiffanycherry6483
    @tiffanycherry6483 Před měsícem +3

    Hi everyone 😊

  • @latriciacreates
    @latriciacreates Před měsícem +1

    Great video Kristi!

  • @mothersoul1
    @mothersoul1 Před měsícem +1

    I will ask and ask

  • @meltallicaofficial
    @meltallicaofficial Před měsícem +1

    I relate to this so much ❤

  • @me2609
    @me2609 Před měsícem +1

    Amen!

  • @jadalevi
    @jadalevi Před měsícem +1

    Hey Kristi girl, what did you go to school for? I’m thinking about going back to school soon.

    • @kristidoingthings
      @kristidoingthings  Před měsícem

      I went to get my PhD in Education. What are you wanting to go to school for?!

    • @jadalevi
      @jadalevi Před 29 dny

      @@kristidoingthings Radiolody Tech. It’s a 3 year AS. It’ll bring me the stability that I beee right now. But I am a little conflicted because I want to do social media. Something similar to what you do. I want to impact women to healing and becoming the best version of themselves so I was thinking communication of psychology is in more alignment but I don’t want to go to school for 4 years. Can you give me some honest feedback. Thank you! 😊

  • @aemsiw3798
    @aemsiw3798 Před měsícem +3

    YT keeps unsubscribing me

    • @holamissmusica
      @holamissmusica Před měsícem +2

      Same! 😢

    • @kristidoingthings
      @kristidoingthings  Před měsícem +1

      Oh no!!! I thought y’all were just leaving me 😭 Hmm…I guess just keep resubscribing or hit the notification bell!

    • @kristidoingthings
      @kristidoingthings  Před měsícem +1

      @holamissmusica I think they have been having some system glitches. 😞

  • @Only1QueenOfEverything
    @Only1QueenOfEverything Před měsícem +1

    Looking forward to this! 🫶🏽