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What’s astonishing is when they come back looking for sympathy 🤣. Not today Satan!
Amen my last narcissist relationship he would act like a sick puppy smh whatever mf
Agreed!!
Amen
So true. They want us obedient, and the minute we hold them accountable and stand to a boundary, we're suddenly "not supportive" of THEIR feelings. It' ALWAYS goes back to them.
YES LOLOLO
Narcissist’s never realize what they’ve done and never offer an apology for anything!
Yep....never their fault.
They confuse being domineering and controlling and emotionally abusive with self-esteem.
They know exactly what they are doing.
They do apologize but it's fake to try and manipulate us and boom they do the same thing again
I forced mine to say sorry to me several times and told him he needed to work on himself I mirrored him hard back to him
Never when the Narcissist is always the victim…..”NO CONTACT” is the answer. They will never change.
Some narcs actually do change but they need alot of teraphy and actually wanna change.
ALWAYS the victim, it gets old.
ThEY STILL DONT WANT TO ACCEPT THEY ARE WEAK AND MAKE YOU PAY 4 all even when its thier fault. and in the end they lose it all
They satan kids , they can’t ever go to Heaven
Ha they argue o. Past not present I do. Remember sorry hes said that but not for his. Controlling behaviour
Narcissists have no accountability because they have no guilt, regret, shame, remorse or empathy; this is due to the part of the brain that feels the array of human emotions does not function in their brain. Hence, they call it a personality disorder because they feel nothing. They learn to mimic these emotions but do not feel or suffer from them.
What they regret is GETTING CAUGHT
He never let's me talk never listens to me over talk me every time..never get a word in aways my fault.
Truth✔️Lived this too. U don’t matter. Just dirt under their feet.
Exactly…then she tells me I’m a stupid motherf¥cker
Don’t put up with it
Stop talking to him. And if he tries to make you call the cops or hurt him.
Or when they shush you or tell you to keep your conversation noise levels down !? 😂
Having a conscience isn’t a strong point of theirs.
I love that Anoushka referred to the Narcissist as "it." That captures the every essence - they have no Human Self. They are human animals. Very dangerous.
They are demonic, demon possessed individuals.
Thats very narcissistic language.
@@Wherethereisnodarkness They are worst then animals, they are demonic.
Actually animals are better! 😔
Animals have feelings and self. Narcs are a mix of human with a thing
The bad behavior is all the closure you will need. And if they attempt to come back, call the cops.
I’m just sick of everything going around the behavior of a narcissist. They negatively control everything, hurt others deeply, and make no amends or care. And we- are trying to analyze them?? And, they’re not going to admit wrong and change? They deserve nothing. Certainly not- our empathy. Because- their patterns will never change.
After her discard she realized it was a big mistake, o well, by by , we (with 5 kids) saw the truth.
It’s too late, 6 months into the healing journey 🙋🏻♂️😎✌🏽✌🏽✌🏽✌🏽 c ya narc
💪❤power to you!
These videos are a blessing I'm currently healing from a narcissist relationship ❤
Good for you! The Narcissist never take accountability for what they do. They can`t do anything by The Book it is to hard and difficult. They are very needy, lonely and painfully insecure folks. They can`t relate to you because you are too `normal`for their taste.
Me too❤
Same❤
You are not alone. So many people show up here with an abundance of encouragement and wish you self-love. Know you have worth.
"You are the issue!" 🗡 But I am not bad and won't accept the blame. Thank you Anoushka!
They put it back on us and blame us for their malfeasance!
Does a Narcissist even Think??? I dont think so, they seem impulsive
I never said that. I don't remember that. You're making it up.
Always
I need no “closure” from a narc! I know what I know, and went no contact, and am on the road to healing! She is still trying to get her flying monkeys behind her, and not getting anywhere!
So true… Just LEAVE!
Yep, they are D.A.R.V.O. Deny,Aattack,Rreverse role of, Victim and, Offender. You are not alone! I’ll pray for you.
While im watching this video my xnarc who i have had no contact for 2 months....just saw him walk into my building. Im shaking right now!! Literally my whole body...shaking. I didnt realize till now the effect he has on me!! Lord...i can see im not healed yet. Wow. My body went right into flight or fright mode!! Incredible. Now here come the my tears. This sucks!!
Get a restraining order
@@archiehendricks6093 cant get a restraining order. He turned my apartment building friends against me. Hes visiting them. But he hadnt been around my building for 2 months till today. Thought he had moved on to new sources. Out of sight. Out of mind. But i now see out of sight out of mind doesnt mean u are healed. I found that out today how my body went into a fright or flight mode. Ive got more work to do on myself. And that really sucks!! Lol just really sucks
It will get better sweetie
I remember that feeling when I just thought it was him! The panic is like back to square one. Feeling your pain ❤️
@@lisaedwards8286 thank you! A bottle of wine and a big long hug while i cried from a neighbour down the hall. Holy...my body hasnt gone thro that....i cant remember if it ever has?! I was sad for me....like i was outside my body...seeing myself...broken.
In their minds, just the fact that you moved on is their validation. In their minds, you are having the tantrum, interpreting your exit as the immature behavior..
Not a doubt in my mind
I know she was crazy, but drawing social security off my work record, she cannot possibly be sorry.
Lol
I left mine, and I've never felt better I'm not getting called names and being put down daily. And he never apologized, he was a cold person... I love hard but I got nothing back, and he's saying I'm the problem! Lol
I wasted 3 yrs I can't get back but it was good for me to recognize this
I wasted 2 years and 2 days. Today is day one no contact 😢
I wasted 42 years, so good to be free! I left 9 months ago, life does get better ❤
I wasted 24 years and I'm still in this situation with him. 😢 I'm feeling so sad in the moment
Be grateful, I lived it for 40 years. I hope you find a normal mate.
@@sabineenibas6051I had 40 years…it’s never too late to get out! Just do it. Initially it’s hard, but worth it. Trust me🙏❤️
Part of your message, as I understand: This is not fair, but use it to become stronger in your own time.
They expect you to come crawling back. . .I mean, the narcissist. The narcissist expects you to come crawling back.
Yup. My ex will die waiting for that as I’m NEVER going back! 18 months no contact and going strong 💪🏻
Never looking back 😥😥 my abuses have been so bad that I'm scared 😨to talk about them, even though I really need to 😢😢
A Lepord never changes thier spots💯 Yes, deflect 💯🙏❤️🕯️
Also after they. Talked and lied so bad on you ,they can't get back one minute. Cuz if you was so bad why would they go back.
When I realized how much I was looked down at for my behaviors in the past it gave me the motivation to change. I have been on the road to rediscovery since 2020. I have apologized to everyone that would listen and over time I hope I can undo the things I have done. My ego made me want to change. I had so much shame i had to.
I knew a narcissis her favorite words were I'm unapologetically not sorry, no remorse no empathy empathy just pure wicked.
Their apology means nothing and I wouldn't accept it anyway, good riddance, I am finally at peace, he ran off 10 yrs ago and remarried I think he's divorced again LOL.
Once the well of generosity closes to the narc they will see the error of their ways.
❤the narc has no accountability, they will never admit to anything, if they do that they fear looking weak and playable in people's eyes !!
They can't do any wrong in their own eyes!!
They don't have a pulse.
They are robotic like the T.3000 in terminator!!
They know exactly what they are doing.
They deserve no sympathy.❤❤❤❤❤
I almost ended myself, over a narcissist liar...
Im sorry to hear. Hope u are out & ok now.🙏 As much ok we can be aften years with such a devil. He almost got me. But im alive🙏❤
Goodness bless both of you! Sending love.💎💎
Omg don't do that
It hurts alot......my wife left me and I thought the world was over.....had dark thoughts also. Now I can see the light....it's been 9 months since she left me for a twice divorced dude. They were made for each other.
I'm glad you are still here. They aren't worth anything, especially not our lives
She would have her angry outbursts dissappear for a few days a week then hoover back to me with "false" remorse! She was only talking those weren't her true feelings. Say what she says to get what she wanted! Act a different way.
Their actions DON'T match their words. The sad part is they don't even realize it and think they're fooling us.
They seem to believe that by “punishing” their victims with the silent treatment it somehow magically erases all memories of their abuse. If you reject the eventual hoover, they’re genuinely shocked.
I found my wife with another man in my home a few months back . When I told her we were done she said " you're just jealous ", (DARVO) . I told her, I'm not jealous, I happened to be married to someone and trusted someone that is a cheat . Good riddance ,
You’ re just jealous oh sweet Jesus !!!😂😂😂
If often too late for them in serious circumstances. They are like a toddler. Who don't understand proper emotional reactions.. indeed. They push n push but yet don't understand and super angry and justified response due to the damage they have actually caused.
Don't worry about what they do stay on task.
No remorse whatsoever. I am the one with the dark and psychological issues which he suffered. Regardless of the fact that he spent 25 years of our marriage sexting , porn and link up sites being inappropriate with females no boundaries, violence , ni accountability. To his friends and family he's the calm kind person and if there's ever a problem in the relationship, people will think it's me. He actually believes that it is my fault, I do at times. Im not denying that I wasn't easy to live with either. He caused so much pain in so many ways and now physically I have an injury caused by him which causes me discomfort.I will not fall.
If he comes back l will just say NO they close my door.
If they realize it once, they ruminate about it every time they attach to a new supply, and they recycle this memory over and over for the people they "attached" to at any time in their lives because they have a "visual" in their mind about these "attachments." Like a human parasite or a human leech, their body yearns for the high standard of supply they lost or gave up. The bottom line, WE are free of the idiots. WOO-HOO!!!!
I'm not 😢😢😢😢
Fool me once....
You hit the nail right on the head ,my situation was exactly like that .
When he got diagnosed with cancer and he was close to being unresponsive he said
"I'm sorry that I put you through all this". I didn't know what he meant at the time because I didn't know what I had been dealing with for 24 years but after watching these videos and educating myself about these people I know now. What a nightmare! How I survived is simply GOD!!
According to my cheating covert husband, im the toxic one😂 So predictable. Hes been shacked up with the secretary from his work for almost 8 month's yet our divorce is being drug out due to him.
Guys, please note that this is a description of extreme pathological narcissists. Narcissism is a scale though and in some cases there might be hope. You jsut need to be realistic about it, watch them carefully and if they don't change and you feel you have given them too many chances - leave!
My adult narcissist son 42 years old, yells, the truth I show him he turns around with a complaint of a manufactured lie to put some guilt on me the mother, no respect for all the years I was putting up with his use , emotional abuse , sick and sad for us mothers to have this in our lives 💜
You are entitled to respect as a basic just for being "Mom"! No respect, no response. Silence is golden. I wish you well ❤️
I always told my narc he acts like a child.
detach from people who are parasitical and caught up in their defenses and cant see the harm and toxicity they carry, keep boundaries , stay true to my self ,and use my energy to keep taking care of my self, healing, and sharing with available people, im worth it in a good way...... God speed, with gentleness humor love and respect. and shining our true self with the world. Stay true to me, and take my space, and have boundaries to keep my self and rights safe in a healthy way and share with available people im worth it in a good way, were worth it ...... a good pat in the back for detaching and choosing self respect and healthy connections when we have to. Nice, cya.
This kid has an in-depth understanding of the inner workings of a narcissist’s heart and mind...or lack thereof, or lack thereof!😂
3 years divorced, 2 years 10 months no contact. Going on pension in 6 months. Know he is going to try to come back for the money. Will never take him back. Im done with him. Wife no 6 can put up with his bs
Your words are always so comforting to me
Mine likes to virtual signal me , the more I don’t give supply the more he grows insecure the more he virtually signals . Interesting to watch the process . I knew I didn’t imagine what was going on .
What do you mean by virtual signaling ?
They push and push until something snaps but then it wasn't them it's u that got the whole thing wrong.
After a very fun first day filled with good talk, laughter and light teasing and promise of another date, she sent me this message. "Our meeting was unfortunate." Then she cancelled our date. She could have said something nice like, "It was ok meeting you but it's not going to work out." I man can understand that.
The other thing. Three weeks later and me ignoring her, because "I'm an unfortunate.", she found me relaxing outdoors and approached me. Without so much as a hello she started yelling at me saying, "You don't know who you are messing with." I figured that out pretty quick and told her to go away which stunned her as she is so pretty, and no man is allowed to dump her.
She's a monster glad u dodged her.. 😊
Scary
8 years i've worked my ass off and now its all over
Thanks so much. I just worked that out no remorse or reson givin ever.
Master class on Narcissism right here!
Narcissist lack a soul. They will deflect any form of accountability, deny any wrong doing(and of course blame you for everything )and take great pleasure in being extremely hurtful any way that is possible even to the point of lying . This my family's personal experience with a narcissist. This man has a position of authority and he doesn't ever feel any remorse for his behaviour. Later this year we are going to court with him as he won't correct a situation that should never of happened. He clearly didn't follow the rules that are in place to stop situations like ours.
lmao, they could careless!. Do not kid yourself
You have to walk away and don’t get hoovered!
Very helpful as always. You give me a great deal of strength to carry on.
Glad to help 😊
I stopped talking to them. I mean I don’t call them anymore as I did before . If they call I will be polite but give minimal answers . I don’t reveal what’s going on in my life, I don’t think they deserve to share those moments with me.
Worked so far been a year . I don’t want to visit them anymore . It’s sad because they’re my siblings. 1 is the main narc and the others her flying monkeys . And I can’t see any of my nieces and nephews anymore unless I’m
willing to spend a week on holiday with them.
I don’t want them thinking I want a close relationship again. Once you let them in they will
Play the same control games again. I’m not a child to be trifled with, I don’t have time for the games anymore .
It's taken him over 15yrs when he got karma cos he hooked up with a worse narc than him.
I would argue that they know they're wrong the entire time. My soon to be ex wife tried saying that she "didn't understand " or was "confused". This after almost 20 years together.
My response was if you didn't understand or were confused, why did you lie so much?
Word salads ensued.
I just want to live my best life which is my new challenge
That will be great outcome.
Thank you so much for this video I needed to hear these things 🕊
She pushed me away just as my $UCCE$$ was ramping up. She would be set for life. Instead, she struggles with $5k rent, neighbors that hate her and frequent natural disasters. I bought a farm and got a dog 🐕🦺. Woof! Woof! 😂
I know when.
When she finds herself with 8 childrens and 8 different dead beat dad's.
Gaslighting 💯
Spot on !!
True you are so right
They don’t care Bottom line
Or they will apologize for something they know is not the issue or suggest closure to save face. Its still not taking accountability, its dodging accountability.
They blame you you know that you didn't do it why would they blame you after discarding you then come back to you and act like they don't know that you know that they're lieing?
I know exactly what this is Thank you
Appreciate your videos! It’s empowering when you realize you are being “targeted” because you are genuine, strong, healthy, honorable person! They are the opposite!! Trust me, when you will not engage or be their victim- That the karma cafe will serve them exactly what they deserve!! This won’t happen unless you cut the energetic cord between you!! Go NO CONTACT and never negotiate with a terrorist like this!!
🙏❤️💪
Mental health is real get to help that you need we pray for the Fallen have A life of Peace not grief
1stly day by day with God n these vids and these comments from you guys really helping.i didn't realize i was a victim in my covert narc rollercoaster ride until the peak of Covid 19 she jus left the house opened up the nxt day i saw on a frens status oh its so good to wake up in a new environment 😮i didnt get a call nuting couple days passed she came for clothes n left again came bak mocked me how i made her how i lost weight...i fell so dumb yet the veils of my eyes cant help but see the things i was blinded by b4... the silent treatment is deadly when she do talk only if its necessary no intimacy no caring no love no affection lies for days no comfort they turn who u let them know against u they turn every1 against u.. if i do something lets say go out with a fren her pay bak is more deadly she gone for hours no contact then reappear bathe n go to bed.... smh... im slowly moving fwd majority of ma things i took from her house tryna get a room to rent n start over no start a new.. stay bless ma peeps.. bless❤
They are demons that’s why they will never ever change
i have learned when you are not getting closure let the closure before your self let there be closure for your self and let them go it drives them crazy the more you ignore them
Thank You 😊.
Thanks!
Thank you 🙏🏼
By the time they realize what they've done, it's too late. Party's over and time to move on.
It’s always about them. Has to benefit them somehow They see they’ve lost the 24/7 supply. Perhaps new supply not good enough.
One thing ive noticed about females, especially female narcissists is they all say "Once you betray me im done," or "Once i move on i dont go backwards." My love intrest was a narcissist and she would always say yhese things to me as a warning. I would never say anything like this and have never to any woman ive been with or had inteeat in.
Mine used to say that too “once I’m done I never go back”
Yes!
Some say narcs have no soul....
Thank you. 🙂
😢 Tfs ❤ You And this video now is God sent 😘
A narc would spot the categories of your vid and conflate everything that was stated as : "oh it's my partner that is a narc"... xD
Pot/kettle sometimes the victim is the narc. As narcs love playing the victim right?
I walked 🚶♀️ right into it. I imeadeatly knew something was wrong with her. Such obseritys. But my life was already broken 💔 I had to take the ride. It was a love nuclear bomb 💣 and then I ran 🏃♂️ 😪 😫 I injured the mental case. 🤪 😜 😜 🤪 obviously, she is still trying 🙄 to 👀 get revenge 🙄 and I have lost the will to do anything 😢❤😢❤😢❤😢❤😢❤ I'm in big trouble 😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮
LONG AS SHE STAYS Away I DON'T CARE!!!
Narc coworker was so out of control I had to call HR. HR got involved so I’m no longer her paralegal. I’m sure she is plotting and planning how she is going to get back at me.
Very well said..Ive been going through this for the last 8 months… lol .. thinking if this was being done where it’s been going on like… texting behind closed doors…
online dating chats… not in front of me… kinda sneaky… when she thought perhaps she didn’t know that I was in the other room… lol… so now that she’s gone and did the things what people do behind closed doors… came back with S T D … it turned into a real game changer… so …
In the making of real change is in the making for sure… that day will be … better than it was before…
Thank you, sincerely
Mr. G 💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻
She'll never fully grasp what she did.
After a break of about 7 months my nacissistic Ex texts me. It's obvious she's on a fishing expedition. Happy New Year she says. So i take a nibble of the bait and reply, wishing her a happy new year and wishing her kids well. She replys later the next day, telling me her son is always asking about me and that she doesn't know what to say to him. Could be true, as we got along pretty good. So i tell her that i miss him. Two days later i get a thumbs up reply. I've known her for 13 years and she is still the most self centred person that i have ever met. Ice cold and without empathy for anyone.
The narcissist text game is top notch isn’t it? Every single text she sends and then we reply to, you can call it like clockwork, it will be ignored because they want to show you even though they reached out, they still direct the show . Never a timely answer from a normal person being concerned. Only a monster reasserting itself.
With a narcissist you don’t have to show any emotion. It is called catch and release game Narcissist does. She just want to check on you to see if she had you under her spell. By you saying you miss her son . She understands she can come and get you anytime and out you again on the back burner while she riding the D*ck carrousel. Then will Come back to you later one and play the same game again and again
I'm Just Annoyed Of Her Coming Back And Back And Back Yes It's My Fault For Answering But I Do Care But It's Just Dumb At This Point.
Darn straight
I’m no contact right now I’m going to tell her she is a narcissist and start drama just because she’s over ahead of herself