Planned an amazing beach getaway for my girlfriend's birthday. She ditched me for her friends and..
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- Planned an amazing beach getaway for my girlfriend's birthday. She ditched me for her friends and things got messy.
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You know, it's refreshing to see one of these "GF hangs out with toxic friends" stories end with the girlfriend choosing her man over the "friends."
agreed
It’s good to see character development
she prob. went out with the guy they suggested and he pumped and dumped her
Fugazzi
these types of women are updateable no matter how much they blame others
The first flag was she wouldn't say yes until her friends gave him the "ok". He should have just walked away.
At the end she did realize her mistake. Not everybody is emotionally mature right from the start. It needs growth
@@thelightedghostsince when females were mature?? Even at 40, they don't even know what they want
@@thelightedghostIf you aren't emotionally mature on your 25th, you have really big issues I am afraid
@@houseplant1016 there are some people who are like that.
@@houseplant1016must be tiring being so vengeful and unforgiving
Damn he actually saved her from those toxic so called friends. Thats rare.
And it's nice to see. She was good, just not surrounded by good. I mean, she was appalled at the suggestion of sleeping with someone to get back at him. No wonder those girls couldn't hold down a guy.
nah, she saved herself. OP was just the reality check she needed
Only time will tell. I wouldn't trust her yet.
@@ShiNijuuAKLin a way… true.
Dude, your girlfriend has a group of girl friends and never does anything without consulting them?? Congrats, you opened this subject with a massive red flag already
Guy was being a doormat
You just dont stick to this "groupie" girl that prefer her friends than the person she says "i love u" and than ditch later
Yeah that was a HUGE red flag that he completely ignored. Sure, in the end it seems like she cut them out of her life, but I would be very wary about that because chances are she will reach out to them in the future when OP and her hit a rough patch, and they will again poison her mind. Of course there's at least a chance that she won't ever go back to her former friend group, crazier things have happened, but I would be very wary if I were OP.
I was going to say the same thing. I would not want to date someone that can not make decisions on her own. I am looking to date not raise someone.
@@mannydcbianco nah! wolfpack mentality works that they will be also trying to ruin her if she came back. Trust me, this type of women still vindictive. In all fanus, OP should had a deep talk with her about this type of people.
@@Zerif69 and if she's being easily manipulated like that, who would guarantee if she won't be manipulated again 🤔🤔? Everyone knows that single females in group is similar to an encounter with a pack of hungry wolves or hyenas, which fits perfectly well their description and the dude in question was too Simp to realise with what type of crazies he was dealing with.
It's refreshing to read a story where the person who's in the wrong is mature and brave enough to do the right thing before it's too late.
It must've taken a lot of courage from the girlfriend to end her friendship with those toxic bullies, and I respect that a lot.
Yeah and not just end a friendship with one friend but an entire friend group, like damn that's some serious love she has for her boyfriend.
40 seconds in and I’m already shaking my head to OP decisions
Just listened to the full thing. The girlfriend coming around with those flowers and chocolates felt like a surprise plot twist for me😂
I can't help but think that the boyfriend isn't aware of half of the shit his woman does. lol If a group of friends is so determined to split them up, it makes me wonder if his girlfriend was talking badly about him.
She could also just be playing nice now because she realized she missed out on the planned trip and really wants to go still. Which he seemed to have rescheduled for them pretty quickly. I could be paranoid, though. lol Typically if there is red flags, which there was, then something was going on.
@@panspermiapancakes They weren't trying to break them up, just wanting the GF to be like them. Trash the guy, go out and ride another dick. Show him you don't need a man to be happy. It was made clear that they are superficial and can't keep a guy for more than a few months.
While this post has little info, the GF seems to have always been more empathetic than the toxic waste she was with. Likely staying with them because they were popular and liked her. Spending two days alone torn up about the birthday mishap, with her "friends" not even checking on her, and the resulting attack after getting back together with her boyfriend has clearly given her a reality check.
Some people are just in bad situations and they don't realize it. I can't say if the GF is a bitch or what her plan is. I can say it looks like she realized how shit her friends were. Only time will tell what happens, but I hope it's a happy ending.
@@panspermiapancakes I don't think she was talking badly about him.
I think the friend-group was threatened by how good he was for her.
He was a challenge to the power they had over her, which made him their enemy.
Yes, he's a bit weak (or possibly meek), which is why the friend-group probably 'approved' of him at the start. They thought he was someone easily manipulated like all the other guys they gravitate to.
But when he showed some spine, stuck to his guns and made his gf face actual consequences for her behavior, that put him in the enemy camp.
A guy that isn't so easily manipulated is a direct threat to their own ability to control their world--and the GF who was up to that point submissive to their group. It gave the GF a point of reference to compare the behaviors, and exposed their toxicity to her. And gave her the option to walk away from that toxicity.
@@panspermiapancakes so you think she ditched her whole friend group for a beach trip. yes, u are paranoid lol
@@JB-bb4sugirls don't talk bad about a chicks BF unless they've got the go ahead from her. More than likely they're echoing what she already said before. And going out every weekend? Yikes probably been doing dirt
Rare to see one of these where the girlfriend not only realizes she was in the wrong and sincerely apologized, realized exactly why she was in the wrong, and dumped her toxic friends to make her relationship with her bf work, but also apologized to him with flowers and a box of chocolates. Man, despite the initial red flags, I think you found a keeper.
That's not a girlfriend. That's a Wife with a capital W.
Finally, a story in this channel that isn't all about cheating. Please can we get more of these.
Also, I love how those girls were trying their high-school level drama, and OP told them they are adults and will deal with adult consequences if they did anything in retaliation
Honestly cheating stories are vanilla compared to how some of these people get screwed by family. One guys step dad sabotaged his relationship because he thought his stepson didn't deserve the girl.
@flexjohnson18 I know. The none cheating stories thend to be more "juicy" and I like that. I really hate these actually happen to people, but through an AI voice on the internet, I can just pretend I'm listening to a novel
there is no way op girlfriend is cheating
Wow. I went from "dump her" to "wow. She realized her mistake, apologized for her actions and even brought him apology gifts, cut out her friend group that she's been a part of for a long time, and is sticking to her guns and man" that's maturity in a person, realizing they are wrong, apologizing for it and fixing the issue. Despite what she did in the beginning what she did after is what a true mature adult woman would do. Keep her, you'll probably never find a woman who would do something like that these days.
We really need to normalize that abusive relationships can be in friendships too.
The gf was in an abusive friendship and now her abusers are going off the deep end because they don't have their victim anymore.
Had a long relationship that lasted for almost 8 years. The woman I was with chose to hang out with her friends instead of me more often. I saw her no more than 2 days tops each week. This lasted for 3 months before it all came crashing down. They manipulated her into cheating on me and after I had left our apartment and moved back to my old hometown she begged for my return. She really screwed herself. The only reason she came knocking desperately was simply because she had believed that her so-called friends had used her for their own entertainment. I had warned her of their blatant attempts, but she of course didn't believe me. It's her own fault and she has to live with her enormous mistake for the rest of her life.
I have a saying "a woman is a wolf to another woman" just because of shit like this. Women rarely have good true friends, but manipulative and jealous toxic people, who rather ruin the other ones chances for anything good because they can't have "competition", just because they are incapable of having anything good for themselves.
Sheesh. It’s a huge red flag when the single friends want her to hang out with them more knowing that they don’t have responsibilities and doing shady shit.
Then pumping bullshit in their heads and believing it.
being close with her friends isn't a bad thing in itself. It's actually a green flag, since it means she can form long lasting relationships. However being so close that she looses her own independence is a big no.
I'm glad they managed to fix things tho
I see it as a sign she tends towards a submissive, conflict-averse personality. The BF also demonstrates similar characteristics. That's not necessarily a bad thing, if it's not abused. Submissive-type friends can be a calming and peacekeeping influence in a group, because they're generally not adding to drama.
But submissive doesn't mean "weak". If pushed, they are capable and willing to stand up for themselves.
However, I do have some concerns for this couple moving forward. If they both tend towards submission, neither one is going to be comfortable being the "leader" in the relationship. They've already demonstrated communication problems due to this. And communication problems can be fatal to relationship health.
That was actually quite nice, the GF being an actual adult really surprised me.
Seems like those girls peaked in high school and OP's gf sold herself short.
It's nice to find one of these stories where the girl/boyfriend realizes their friend group is just toxic waste. "You'd be weak going back to him" after she gets upset over a surprise that was canceled because spending time with toxic waste like usual was more important. She realized she was wrong to get upset over something she technically said no to. I say technically because she had no idea what was going on.
Plus the dawning of the "Why am I taking relationship advance from a group that go through boyfriends like they are cookies?" They can't keep a guy for more than a few months, and are acting like they know how to keep a man. They're going to be walking around with a purse full of STD meds eventually.
My first girlfriend talked shit about about her friends for disproving of me even after we broke up because we were on good terms and we still are and she considers me a closer friend than them.
Don’t date a pawn who needs her friend group to puppeteer her around and tell her what she’s gonna do next. You ain’t dating her. You’re dating her friends at that point.
Breath of fresh air to see the person in the wrong realize their mistake before things are completely FUBAR
Damn, both of them turned savage at the end 😂💀 holy shit. Im wheezing that he said "loser alpha females" that got me 😂😂
"I know this sounds selfish" not at all dude. Youre a real one
This is the first story I've seen where the woman chooses her man over her friends.
This was frustrating to listen to these "friends" are going to be alone and I'm happy that OP reconcile with his girlfriend its not weak to say sorry I think it shows strength to admit you were wrong
Glad his girlfriend had the veil lifted on her friends, hope the Boyfriend takes good care of her, hope everything works out for them.
Idk why with the first couple sentences it sounded like a cult
I’m glad the girlfriend realised her mistake and didn’t listen to her friends. They clearly don’t have her best interest at heart and are very toxic people. Definitely dumb those friends and make new ones.
"She needed their ok first" -> their opinions are more important to her than her interest in you.
Red flag.
I would have expected her to choose their approval over her supposed feelings for OP and OP's feelings consistently.
Respect to her for making a difficult but good decision.
He would've dodged the bullet otherwise, but this way, she dodged several.
She definitely is a special kind of dunce.... As soon as he wasn't in the room she was checking his phone, She got upset because he complied with her wishes, and she cant think for herself.....yeah she shouldn't be in a relationship till she grows up
Here's the thing: gender-swap the friends, cause your heart did.
In other words, consider the situation as if she went out to get wasted around male friends without you. Or she might consider how she'd feel if you were hanging around girls other than her for your bday with the only comsolation being "we have been friends since forever."
Now that decision cost her a romantic getaway she couldn't have gone on anyways, and it is up to her to stand by her choice and not blame you.
Okay but like, hanging out with a bunch of males as a female is very different then hanging out with a bucnh of females as a female. It shouldn't be like that, but it is.
@@AriaRosetti it is, and that's why this works. If gender is your only argument why something is OK, then gender swapping is a good way to test your perception.
Here's another more obvious example: say she came back and said "they got me plastered and we fooled around a bit, but it's not cheating cause they are my girl friends." Would it be cheating? Would saying no not be disrespecting the mongomy of bisexuals? Or would it be understandable if the boyfriend was upset then?
In this case, they weren't fooling around, but she did reject her boyfriend from spending such a special day with her simply relying on gender as a free hall pass. In turn, those same friends were using gender to excuse being vile people.
@@ManinawigThat's an assumption not an example, it has nothing to do with the story presented. Also, gender swapping the friends and not the girlfriend's makes no sense because it's just natural for a girl to have girl friends. Spending time with girls is never the same as spending time with boys, no matter who you are, and if you think they're the same thing you're just stupid
I'm sorry, but how is this relevant? And how did he 'gender-swap her friends in his heart'?
@@Karen-uq3jy allow me to clarify: if one wants to try and see things from another person's point of view, they might be blocked by their own biases. I have always found that a good way to override such biases is to flip the script and see if the sentiment holds true. This especially works with emotional responses, such as figuring out why someone might be upset at you.
If the girlfriend cannot see the problem with saying "I would rather spend my birthday with my friends than with my boyfriend" because "they are all girls," then it is worth considering if the statement holds true by swapping the genders of the subject (such as if her bf said that, or if the friends were all male). It would sound wrong if a guy wanted to spend time drinking with a bunch of girls away from the girlfriend....
So that realization might bring about some self-reflection and discover that the issue is with the word "rather," and opt to change that to "I wanna spend my b-day with _both_ my boyfriend and my friends." Or, "I wanna hang out with my friends for my birthday, then have a more romantic celebration with my boyfriend."
In sort (cause sometimes my clarifications aren't clear), the issue isn't that girls shouldn't have girls nights or guys shouldn't have guys nights. Rather that flipping the script can help us uncover a bias we might be blind to.
Good for her for leaving that mean group. There’s an old saying, Misery loves company. All those girls were miserable and they were trying to spread theirs to both OP and his GF. It’s just sad that it took her nearly breaking up with OP to finally see her “girlfriends” for they truly are.
Sounds like they both need to work on their communication in the relationship. Good on her for getting out of those toxic friendships
I could never ask someone out multiple times and have them then finally say yes.. if I ask you once or perhaps twice and you say no both times then I’m not gonna force you or annoy you etc.. if only he had given up after asking her once 😂
Single women keep women single
Woman keep themselves single with their choices to be manipulated so easily remember in the end it’s there choice to agree with there friends or disagree with them and cut them out when there way out of line these women choose to be single then so be it
She doesn't do anything without consulting her friends first. None of them have long term relationships and they're mostly single. The first thing she does when they get in a fight is go to her friends and tell them about it. You have to know they are all trashing you. As much as she wants to say she doesn't partake in that, you know she is. The social pressure is strong.
This story ended up okay because she let them go and grew past them, but that was straight up luck man. Fellas, if you meet a chick like this, it isn't worth the trouble. That group of women will be keeping each other single for as long as they are friends because it's a feedback loop. The single ones have to trash relationships to justify to themselves why they're single. Anybody else in the circle that gets in a relationship will constantly be berated the more serious it becomes until they give in to the social pressure and break up and are single along with the rest of the crew again.
Having friends that are single is not a bad thing on its own, but if she doesn't have a balance of friends in committed relationships as well, then it's only a matter of time before her friends start causing problems for your relationship because she wont have the committed relationship friends to fall back on for help with the issues in her relationship. The only advice she'll be getting is from the single friends which will all say to break up.
"Single women keep women single" I think is the best quote to describe this story. Also, if they "approve" each other's partners and they never last, that's very telling.
She had a group of toxic friends in her ear and self reglected after she knew she messed up and chose to do what she thought was right after her friends told her otherwise. And for the guy he did what men are supposed to do by not apologizing for something he knows he didn't do wrong and forgave her when she knew it since it wasn't something unforgivable.
While some parts of this seem a little implausible to me... I'm glad it ended happily and that a certain someone realized that they were wrong.
Wish GF had thought to videotape what those girls had said and then posted it on social media to embarrass them for their evil ways
--- She didn't want to spend her birthday until she found out you canceled a day trip you had planned. NTA, don't apologized. These women are acting like they are in middle school. Glad OP ditched her girlfriends (turned out to be vicious witches) and apologized to him.
He obviously knows how to pick them. How unlikely is it for someone to be able to realize themselves they are wrong despite all their friends trying to enable them? He was simply a good person who stuck to his guns and he was rewarded because his GF showed herself to have true character.
The fact she wants her friends to approve her choices AND her boyfriends is a red flag. CRIMSON red flag.
Im glad the guy was at least patient, instead of instantly calling “red flag” and walking away
Woman logicc......... just the actual f
Male logic to make evrething about gender for no logical reason.....
I got one word for this guy "SIMP!!!!!"
That's not a friend group, that's a bucket of crabs.
That girlfriend is straight stuck in a circle of Yasslighting
props to gf for getting out of the mind control by herself
People here really be calling manipulative friend groups a red flag instead of realizing that many people are trapped in those groups and can't get out. Fuck's sake, guys.
ayo nice work OP, congrats, and you should be proud of your GF.
You have to put yourself first, when she puts her friends before you!!!
The best thing about the mean girl clique in highschool is that they've all peaked. At least this girl (through pure luck, it seems) managed to save herself.
This type of mean girl is the reason why I stuck to the nerd guys back in my student years. I'd rather be called a "pick me" and talk about Lord of the Rings than listening to this bullshit all day. They bring shame to women!
The first red flag is she needs her friends go ahead to do anything, their not her parents lmao 😂
Big ups to the OP, it would have been perfectly reasonable and justifiable to just say, "look you're a great person but I just can't handle the toxicity with your friends, we're done." But he didn't and stayed with her which is just really cool.
I want to know about how this relationship ends up, this girl displayed so many red flags and this guy is so manipulable there’s no way it ends well.
No accountability. Dump her now. She doesn’t care about you. She only cares about what you can give her.
Dont be in a relationship with people who still think theyre single!!
One word: RUN!
Finally an audio story with a truly happy ending 😂
I don’t know why, but this feels like a creative writing project. Or something written by an AI Lol.
Why do I see u on every comment section screaming FAKE!
@@user-mp8qg5tb5e because I don’t trust, Reddit
@@user-mp8qg5tb5e because I don’t trust Reddit lol
@@user-mp8qg5tb5e cuz I don’t trust read it lol
He needs to repeat every time she is trying to argue about him cancelling this "you chose not to go"
I was not expecting the second half of her actually learning. But okay. I like everything that happened in the story.
"Pick me" is the favored insult of the disgusting, unwanted, and unloveable.
Story 1. She had the veritable AUDACITY to call Op immature and selfish? That moment where the entire audience stopped and said "POT MEET KETTLE" !!
She was acting like a 8 year old. She needs to grow up and make decisions for herself. Dude is not the jerk, he should have broken up and moved on when she said no she wants to be with her friends. Aint worth your time my dudes.
They called her a "pick me"
I'd rather pick a gf like her than pick a million of you
Why are the OPs Always such simps 😂 ? She needed 3 days to think If she Takes you or the group of Girlfriends? And you still took her Back ? Like wtf 😅 its Not even your Girlfriend
Don't crap on somebody who knows where all your skeletons are.
Dude is a tool. She’s using him for a vacation.
What's so funny is this sounds like a bunch of 19 year olds fighting and the guy already has a lawyer. Like damn, he's been doing business transactions in high school.
GOOD FOR HER
rare to see someone go "oh hey shit this is toxic, peace yall"
Ahhhh, good old Crab Bucket mentality.
I never understand or understood this concept of "omg I expressed my feelings (which were correct) but now she's crying and I feel like a jerk". Why? I've never once felt like a jerk when I knew I was right. If the tables were reversed, would she feel like a jerk? Nope. She'd think she's right. So take the win. Order some food, watch your favorite movie, chill out and enjoy the peace and tranquility of expressing your feelings.
How many red flags did this bloke ignore in the first day here. Jesus
She wants her cake and eat it too! She is not ready to give her all to you. You will always be 2nd to her friends
Simping brings nothing but misery 😂
those “friends” are the same people who would be on tiktok supporting “maneaters”
A girl who sees logic atlast.
U dont want to risk losing her by telling her the truth when in reality u never actualky had her. Any girl hanging on every word of her friends who secretly talk about one another behind each others backs. This girl is never gonna change as long as her friends are still in the picture.
I like how this one ended
Wow. She's a huge red flag.
That was her fault .
Nah she ruined her own bday by choosing her friends over her man. Chances are this is why none of her relationships last, her friends are by themselves so they want her to be. Making your friends a priority over your mate will do that. Let her go, she sux, find someone youll matter too.
He should've dumped her and not look back.
She still had flings with other dudes which is a red flag in itself.
Remember, kids: you are not entitled to a gift. It's a courtesy and a privilege. Do not take it, and your loved ones, for granted.
An ending that's actually worth listening to
Best to let her go she isn't worth the pain.
Bro im not crying you are, it s beautiful :'(
You’ve been together for 8 months… so I don’t blame her.
1 &2
Run. They are not the right person for you.
All she wanted him to do was to beg her to let him give her a gift. Why is that so hard to understand?
She's fucking cracked.
Ok only watched through the first post so far, but dude those "Girlfriends" are a huge red flag. That whole relationship sounds incredibly toxic.
Dam it looks like all of the friends are airheads
She goes out with her friends on the weekends? You better check her for cheating. And you're not the a-hole.
Bro is literally the definition of "you walked the wrong path but got to the right place" like who in their right mind would date someone who doesn't breathe without consulting her friends? Then again she came around in the end somehow.
This guy is clueless in so many ways
crabs in a bucket mentality
The GF is acting like she is a young teenager, asking for permission from her friends before she can do anything like going on a date is stupid. You tried to get her to be with you on her birthday yet she denied it and went out with friends instead ao why wouldnt you cancel the break away. Im glad she eventually saw how immature and toxic her so called friends were and decided to pick OP over her so called friends, what her friends did proves that they are toxic and controling people.
Should have ran at the "friends have to give the okay" bit. Change the locks, block her number and never look back
Edit to add: good on her for escaping that pit of vipers
I think I don’t understand … she wanted to go drinking with friends instead of going with BF, and was mad he canceled the trip? How exactly did she expect to still go on that trip if she spent the day with her gfs?
She didn't know about the trip, my assumption is when she found out about it she a) felt annoyed she missed out on the beach trip, b) felt guilty she ditched her boyfriend and made him cancel it. Feeling annoyed and guilty and not liking those feelings she, like an immature arse, turned it round on him so it was 'all his fault' and she didn't have to then feel bad about it. This is why a lot of people say women totally lack accountability.
@@bythedead1 I see. It seems she fixed her mistake eventually
She sounds immature…you may want to run now before it’s way too late.