The TRUTH BEHIND Stress & Disease! EYE OPENING Speech On Trauma & Addiction! | Dr. Gabor Maté

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  • čas přidán 21. 09. 2022
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    How is it possible that, in a culture so obsessed with wellness, we’re dealing with more chronic disease, mental illness, and addiction than ever before?
    Today on The Dhru Purohit Podcast, Dhru talks to Dr. Gabor Maté about his new book, The Myth of Normal, and our crisis of separation, disconnection, and loneliness. They discuss the link between addiction, our profit-driven culture, and trauma and the first steps we can take toward health and healing.
    Dr. Gabor Maté is a renowned speaker and bestselling author and is highly sought after for his expertise on a range of topics, including addiction, stress, and childhood development. Dr. Maté has written several bestselling books, including the award-winning In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction, When the Body Says No: Exploring the Stress-Disease Connection, and Scattered: How Attention Deficit Disorder Originates and What You Can Do About It and has coauthored Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers. For his groundbreaking medical work and writing, he has been awarded the Order of Canada, his country’s highest civilian distinction. His latest book, The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness & Healing in a Toxic Culture, was just released. His next book, Hello Again: A Fresh Start for Parents and Their Adult Children, is expected in 2023. Gabor is also a codeveloper of a therapeutic approach, Compassionate Inquiry, now studied by hundreds of therapists, physicians, counselors, and others internationally.
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Komentáře • 64

  • @DhruPurohit
    @DhruPurohit  Před rokem +3

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  • @ruiyogafrance
    @ruiyogafrance Před rokem +35

    I am so grateful for the oportunity of listening one more time to the teachings of DR. Gabor Mate. They also saved me lots of money in therapy because with wise people like him I can go by my own, even if I still limp in this journey that is Life. Thank you Dhru for having such a guest. Rui

  • @cristinamellorodrigues6811

    As we say “ We were happy and didn’t even know it ‼️”

  • @mariadiez7165
    @mariadiez7165 Před rokem

    This man is a genius, I am a psychologist and I am still learning, as all of these are very complex and other scientists are still learning. I am fed up of the‘professionals’ who don’t know and they find me as a challenge, as a treat, just because I know that they don’t know and many don’t care and their enabling people around them in drug and alcohol projects even that are toxic.
    It is a real pleasure to listen and learn from Dr Maté. I hope that one day I will be able to study with him and go to his conferences.💪😊💕

  • @Ana-jt7se
    @Ana-jt7se Před 3 měsíci

    Si usted Sr Mate supiera cuanto le admiro...mi alma se queda sin palabras....desde España todo mi cariño y admiración.

  • @melaniering3712
    @melaniering3712 Před rokem +1

    I have all Dr. Gabor's books. Highly recommend. Life-changing!

  • @moniquelauzon3475
    @moniquelauzon3475 Před rokem +4

    I have autoimmune problems leaving me on a full disability. Gabor brings much light to my journey.
    Chefs kiss ! Thank you

  • @renzo6490
    @renzo6490 Před rokem +3

    Children don't know when an adult is damaged.
    They think that adults are strong, wise, mature and in control.
    When a parent abandons or is otherwise unable to love a child, that child assumes the fault is his.
    That child assumes she is unworthy of being loved.
    When I was in my 40's, my dad admitted to me ( his exact words) " I was cruel to you when you were a child “.
    I knew what he meant.
    He ignored me.
    He neglected me.
    He was embarrassed by me.
    Ashamed of me.
    Sometimes he pretended I was not there so he didn't have to admit to friends and acquaintances that this effeminate boy was his son.
    Yet I watched him be a loving father to my brother.
    I watched from the shadows.
    I have spent my entire life time seeking acceptance from other men.
    But no amount of approval or acceptance has eased the emptiness.
    I trust no one's love.
    Sometimes I wonder why this one man's opinion of me has been so important.
    After all, he's just another person on the planet... nothing special.
    But I didn't understand that when I was a four year old, a six year old, or when I was on the edge of budding sexuality and was left clueless and alone to figure out what was happening to me.
    It was quite a moment when he said that he'd been cruel.
    It only affirmed what I already knew.
    I just didn't ever realize that he knew it too and was able to admit it.
    That was something, at least.
    But it was too late.

  • @vaishalivaidya7978
    @vaishalivaidya7978 Před rokem +9

    Thank you so so much for this conversation. Its truly helping change culture.

  • @lynnmontag2417
    @lynnmontag2417 Před rokem +5

    Bless your open hearted sharing and touching insights…how refreshing to be able to safely validate our hidden wounds and the Self compassion for healing, forgiveness, and love! New Earth is ushering transformative energies and love will bring US, collectively, healing! XXOO Much grace sweet Soul ❤️🥰🙏🏼🦄☀️

  • @jamesbrad7182
    @jamesbrad7182 Před rokem +4

    This interview has changed my life. I was already along way down the fork in the road but this interview is remarkable. Thank you and thank you. Lotsa love from Cape Town

  • @khansherani
    @khansherani Před rokem +4

    Thank you Dhruv and Gabor for this wonderful discussion. Childhood trauma is major subject for sensitive person to unravel his present, know the core of your self is created by which powers and what impact it has on you.,.. if you want to live in present and get freedom from fixed patterns and inner pain..... I believe exactly knowing the source of your emotional baggage, the conviction about childhood hurt and acknowledging that tough period you have went through is healing. The true compassion for yourself comes when you understand the source of your pain and acknowledge it, and that is the real healing..... like real reconnect to your real core.. like integration at your core level.

    • @Eric-tj3tg
      @Eric-tj3tg Před rokem +1

      Well said. I am ambivalent after trying to understand, and to heal for quite awhile, and I admire your conviction. May you be well.

  • @luwmen3284
    @luwmen3284 Před rokem +5

    Really appreciate this episode Dhru… Time stamp 50:20-51:16 major mic drop moment🎤
    Puts me in the mind of 1 Peter 5:8 pulling back the curtain on the enemy. Good thing we don’t have to be victims

  • @heatherstephens9295
    @heatherstephens9295 Před rokem +2

    I so agree but please tell us how to stop this way of life & still put food on our tables?

  • @maryj.khalilian9018
    @maryj.khalilian9018 Před rokem

    My son tried to take his life, it is definitely due to his over all view of this life and the system.

  • @donnalee8699
    @donnalee8699 Před rokem +3

    Thank you for all you do Dr. Mate ❤

  • @barbaragood7844
    @barbaragood7844 Před rokem +3

    Such an interesting, helpful and very important conversation! Thank you very much 💛🌼

  • @MerrilyMerrilyMerrily
    @MerrilyMerrilyMerrily Před rokem +4

    The pushback to the idea that our society/economy is toxic to our psychic well-being was huge 40 years ago. Now it’s politically impossible for women to be fully supported in pregnancy and beyond but not get treated like breeding cows. Employment has enslaved women too, but it has given her independence.

  • @laithalewis9145
    @laithalewis9145 Před rokem +1

    Very interesting valuable information to every one...thanks both of you.

  • @fezzypepper8525
    @fezzypepper8525 Před rokem +5

    I love Gabor...but why did I know all this as an adolescent while most around me did not?

    • @elizabethfindlay5752
      @elizabethfindlay5752 Před rokem +1

      I feel like this too, I remember coming to parts of his conclusion a yr or two before I discovered Gabor Maté messages and the like who are trying to spread this message.
      Highly sensitive beings

  • @crystalfolse3208
    @crystalfolse3208 Před rokem

    God bless you both om peace om Shanti om peace

  • @linktotq7431
    @linktotq7431 Před rokem +1

    Dr Gabor looks like he has the weight of the world on his shoulders.

  • @crystalfolse3208
    @crystalfolse3208 Před rokem

    Trama conscious society. I am in😘

  • @kavitaluthra3104
    @kavitaluthra3104 Před rokem

    Please mention the name of your book🙏🌷

  • @aliceperes9664
    @aliceperes9664 Před rokem

    i remember one time i speak whit psychology man and he say to me ,you live to mooch in present

  • @KH-rj7wl
    @KH-rj7wl Před rokem

    Does he EVER give advice on how to heal from the childhood trauma??

  • @trentnicolajsen3731
    @trentnicolajsen3731 Před rokem

    Everyone has something to say and share, thats why a speech or a talk is professionally 10 to 20min. after that even if we say very critical information our time is just preventing others from being herd.!!!!

  • @andrearenee7845
    @andrearenee7845 Před rokem

    😇

  • @heatherstephens9295
    @heatherstephens9295 Před rokem +2

    I don’t think there would be many parents who just let their babies cry. I like this guy but regarding some aspects he talks about,
    like apes & primitive man I think he romanticises a lot. Does he just attack or does he supply any workable solutions?

    • @queen_minnieme8321
      @queen_minnieme8321 Před rokem

      You don’t *think*…. U use ur thinking. He uses facts, research and proof. U use assumptions. By the way this method of not picking up children is extremely widespread. But he is specifically referring to John Peterson’s advice of not picking up your child.
      U would learn more if you actually try to understand then assumption based on ur thinking rather thats facts

    • @heatherstephens9295
      @heatherstephens9295 Před rokem

      @@queen_minnieme8321 😝😝

    • @heatherstephens9295
      @heatherstephens9295 Před rokem

      @@queen_minnieme8321 I never hear him promote how to positively move on from a situation such as this. Only wallowing in self pitying talk.

  • @FlatStella1
    @FlatStella1 Před rokem

    oh yes.MS stress.

  • @lisafox5444
    @lisafox5444 Před rokem +1

    Climate change???

  • @renzo6490
    @renzo6490 Před rokem

    This sounds like an indictment of competitive Capitalism.

  • @pamelastewart1442
    @pamelastewart1442 Před rokem

    What you want to go back to the Victoria Ara.

  • @crystalfolse3208
    @crystalfolse3208 Před rokem

    Recognize allow investigate RAIN. What is the n

  • @vivi68
    @vivi68 Před rokem

    I sleep trained both of my boys. The half hour they cried the first night was them learning how to sooth themselves and put themselves to sleep. They were/are healthy as kids and great sleepers. They only time they slept with us was if they were sick or if we were away.

    • @testtest2609
      @testtest2609 Před rokem +3

      Sleep trained = neglect
      See ya when they grow up and resent you, manifest their dysfunction more glaringly.

    • @vivi68
      @vivi68 Před rokem

      @@testtest2609 yeah… NOT. They are grown up and they are strong, kind and compassionate and independent young men.

    • @testtest2609
      @testtest2609 Před rokem +4

      Your kids trained themselves in half an hour to soothe themselves!
      A skill that takes the whole of childhood and sometimes adulthood to successfully do.

    • @vivi68
      @vivi68 Před rokem +1

      @@testtest2609 they cried no more than a half hour the first night maybe less. After that when I put them in their cribs to sleep, they slept. No whining, no excuses for staying up, no crying, no climbing out of their cribs, they slept all night. They only time they would sleep with us is if they were sick with high fevers or if we were away and that was more for me to keep them close so I could keep close. I was a stay at home mom, there when they left for school, there when they came home, there if they needed to come home if they were not feeling well, etc. Taking a lifetime to learn to soothe oneself maybe because they were smothered. To say sleep training is neglect is such a judgmental and ignorant statement. You have to take into consideration the whole of the situation. I admire and follow Gabor’s work but to call it neglect without considering the whole picture is inaccurate and judgmental. No one parenting style is perfect so don’t be an idiot.

    • @testtest2609
      @testtest2609 Před rokem

      @@vivi68 Sure Jan.

  • @pamelastewart1442
    @pamelastewart1442 Před rokem

    To m

  • @pamelastewart1442
    @pamelastewart1442 Před rokem

    Worse than being born 8n the wild ?

  • @loucolo6101
    @loucolo6101 Před 16 dny

    Thank you . Excuse my opinion , but I do believe every society is toxic, whether western or eastern . Sadly, the eastern is often worse , & there is no help out there .M.

  • @shaneash1598
    @shaneash1598 Před rokem +1

    Good times breed weak men !!

    • @testtest2609
      @testtest2609 Před rokem

      The sloganeering that obscures the truth! Too much bad times creates "weakness".... literally the definition of trauma and trauma has been shown to scientifically (Feliti study) to be behind physical diseases like cancer, heart disease, obesity, etc. and mental health.
      Way to miss the point, intentionally or not.

  • @theperfectautumn8781
    @theperfectautumn8781 Před 10 měsíci

    "Racism", the new catch-all excuse.

  • @achsahkaleb4844
    @achsahkaleb4844 Před rokem +1

    Bereshit bara Elohim et, Hasahmayim va-et Ha-aartez. 7 words 7000 years. Evolution is a religion not a science.
    czcams.com/video/PIb4KNhHgME/video.html