Do INFs Live Odd Lifestyles?
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- čas přidán 6. 06. 2024
- INFJ personality types and INFP personality types tend to be accommodating when young, and then become more unconventional with age. As they ease into the midlife transition (also known as the “midlife awakening”) many INFJ personality types and INFP personality types may explore polyamory or unconventional partnerships with others. INFJ personality types and INFP personality types may also travel or move more than other people, or live on the fringes of society.
For many INFJ personality types and INFP personality types, it’s common to cast off more of society’s programming and expectations as a normal part of the aging process. This helps us become more of who we are, and deepen our relationship with self and spirit. However, it can feel confusing or threatening to others, and so our circle of relationships may dwindle as we go through this shift. This is because friends and family only see the changes from the outside, and so the shifts may feel sudden to them, too abrupt, or they can’t understand why the shift is happening at all. From their perspective, the person they knew was a certain way for a long time, and now that person has suddenly changed with very little explanation.
It can be extremely difficult for INFJ personality types and INFP personality types to communicate the details of the inner shifts we experience as we go through the midlife transition, and so it’s important to get to know other INFJ personality types and INFP personality types who are on the same journey, so that we don’t end up isolated and alone.
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Short answer: Yes
Long answer: *YES*
I have long since stopped listening to people who say that my lifestyle is weird. In fact, I have found it for most people the word "weird" means ""You're not like me."
Hi Linda - if you are comfortable sharing - what parts of your life do people think us "weird"?
INFJ - 36F. No partner, no kids, no home, no car, no TV but lots of friends/cousins, audiobooks, and 6 figures in investments; in 5 years, I will have enough to reduce work hours and do more travelling. Love my unconventional life!
Ha ! Old student, MA in Education, worked in 8 countries, gave up teaching to raise goats in North Africa. Life is interesting.
Approaching 50 is now a "not too far", and I preach and sleep alone in my car; loving the outskirts, loving my leather skirts, loving the Barry's, the Bob's and the Burts. And you've got me here right down to a T, you've dotted i me, laid the way for my Z. So, onwards! Upwords! My midlife "break-free..."
Wee, wee, wee, wee, wee, wee, wee, wee, wee, weeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!
Thank you! ❤
I reached age 35 and now this time is for me. Divorced, learned a lot. No apologies.
As an older (66) INFP guy who also identifies as bi+, finding this discussion is the universe smacking me upside the head with a 2 x 4. I would say that I've lived the "odd" lifestyle just like my orientation--from the neck up--for 50 years. Trying to move some of my weirdness into the world is a huge challenge. It's so much more comfortable inside my head! Hoping to get in on the class.
YES. When I was younger it was more apparent to others, and I was often ostracized for it. Now I'm older (64) I just don't give a *uck, and other don't seem to care and accept me for who and what I am.
I work full time as a manager and i live in my 2004 Chevy Suburban. So cool. If you can manage it, I highly recommend it.
I'm a mature INFP (over 50) and this is spot on. I am very unconventional and always have been. In an introverted way when I was younger, as you have said. I could say a LOT about this topic another time. I just discovered your channel, I've subscribed!
A few years ago I took the personality test and got INFJ. I’ve recently tested a few times and keep getting ISFP. I feel like more of an INFJ but I don’t know anymore. All I know is that I was such a quiet kid, got bullied frequently even in college, have always been able to tell how others feel. I’m 36 now and I have very few friends, and I probably isolate too much. I’m not on the spectrum. I was tested last year. I have always felt different though.
I'm an INFJ and I have red hair. So I've always stood out. But I love my hair and would never dye it. No tattoos, ever. I'm happily married and he's my one and only, forever. He feels the same (INTJ). We do have 12 acres on which we grow our own food. We absolutely love it and worked very hard to get to where we are today.
I love your story. Glad you are happy and living an enjoyable life. I am iNFJ. I am in a transition. Worked for many years as a chemist. Took care of my elderly parents. They have passed away and now rethinking my life.
Lovely insights Lauren...as always. I'm 62...now totally happy in my own skin having done the midlife crisis in my 50s. Painful but so worth it. Just finished a novel on the subject too which is so,close to my heart. Lovely to dip into your videos Lauren. 😊
Wow, so much of this video resonates with me! No one understands why I do not want a house or car or other standard acquisitions. Luckily, I have been able to find positions abroad that provide free housing and my boyfriend lives in the U.S. so I am able to have an apartment (I pay part of the rent and utilities throughout the year) when I visit during summer and winter breaks. Having what I perceive as too many things mentally weighs me down and overwhelms me. Luckily, I am strangely unsentimental and have almost no need to hold on to objects as memories. Self development through reading and travel is the most important to me. And trying to help animals and nice people with fewer resources than me. Thank you for such an insightful video!
I feel that like with autism. It may depend on how strong you are on the spectrum. I just read an article on the topic ten books presently banned in schools here in the United States. And then proceeded to find and buy all of them to add to my unconventional library. 😀😀😀😀
I'm an INFJ and have been seen as weird and odd my entire life lol.....but I'm also ASD so I've got a double whammy 😁
Hy Trina u are here😂
Infj Audhd here....
Hello Tribe! Infj ADHD here….
I think there’s a big overlap🙃
I have a very unique name, like to wear unique and memorable clothing, have niche hobbies and tastes and love every bit of it from this vantage point at 47. As a kid, definitely wanted to blend in, but clearly did not. It hurt a lot then, but yes, grew into my “weirdness” and actually love myself because of it! INFJ life!
I admire your dedication to sharing your knowledge about this topic.
Perfecting timing for this class
haha I wonder if I will go mad for tattoos when I hit fifty.. only eleven years to go! 😘
Love this kind of content.
I'm 64 and have no tattoos, peircings or jewellery of any kind. I prefer plain. However I do love black nail polish. That's my only expressiveness. I never had a large circle of friends and still don't. I'm sure most would consider my lifestyle to be odd because i don't go out much and prefer books and movies. I have had long term relationships but now seperated for 6 years. I do miss having a lover. I'm not sure if i've had a mid life crisis or maybe for me that's still to come?
This is exciting, looking forward to moving on from people pleasing, getting clearer about what it is I want and like
I’m kinda tired of people. I just know what they are gonna say, do, and what they are thinking. What their intentions are. I have adhd, anxiety and depression on top of being a rare infj has been a lot. I notice I can’t do motherhood or be a wife and I want to learn all day. I gotta get back on meds because i chose to be a wife and mom and take care of a house. However now I do feel guilty a lot for not wanting to be like everyone else I even want to be like slightly overweight because society tells me to be thin things like that. Whatever society tells me to do I now really don’t want to do it.
💯💯 yep ! I can testify
Wow, this was so poignant for me exactly at this moment. I really needed someone to verbalize what I was going through. I hope to one day be able to help others as effectively as you are…🙏
So true.. unorthodox, but makes sense to us
Process of enlightenment, awakening and further self-discovery.. insightful clip
Just missed it!!!! :(
I feel seen.
Hunter-gatherer brains
True, but:
INFP's like to stand out
INFJ's prefer to blend in
As an INFP, I have never wanted to stand out purely for the sake of standing out. I realize this may not be true of all INFPs. Living authentically - self-actualization has always been the ultimate goal.
@@sharonfuszard8861 this. 100%.
We don’t prefer to stand out, we are willing to stand out in order to be true to who we are even if that means it makes us stand out
@@Flx-zh8ze Exactly. If INFPS do stand out it is because we have stripped away the inessential; everything that we know is not authentically who we are. Our 'standing out' is a byproduct of embodying our inner truth.
I will never get a tattoo. As if. My life is mine not a joiner. INF extreme. insert heart shaped image here
INFJ. Don’t care for tattoos or piercings, they make you look average in my opinion - so many people have them these days. I prefer clear skin and simple and comfortable outfits, don’t want any attention at all. But when it comes to my unique ideas and perspectives, that’s what I want people to notice and appreciate. Rarely happens, but whatever, I feel content anyway 😊
Polyamory what would make you say something like that?
I’m an INFP dating a poly INFJ man so there’s that.
A few years ago I took the personality test and got INFJ. I’ve recently tested a few times and keep getting ISFP. I feel like more of an INFJ but I don’t know anymore. All I know is that I was such a quiet kid, got bullied frequently even in college, have always been able to tell how others feel. I’m 36 now and I have very few friends, and I probably isolate too much. I’m not on the spectrum. I was tested last year. I have always felt different though.