INFJs, INFPs, and the Midlife Transition

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  • čas přidán 2. 06. 2024
  • INFJ personality types and INFP personality types tend to have a different experience of the midlife transition than other mainstream personality types. Since the midlife transition is not something that is celebrated in Western culture, it can be a difficult period of life for mainstream personality types. These more traditional types may feel like they’re losing their youth, beauty, and status in society.
    INFJ personality types and INFP personality types tend to be less attached to youth and beauty, and they also don’t tend to value their status role in society as much as other types do. Instead, INFJ personality types and INFP personality types value growth and individuation. Since midlife is one of the best times to tune into the potential for growth and individuation, INFJ personality types and INFP personality types tend to go through big identity shifts in midlife, and they also tend to welcome these shifts.
    During the midlife transition, INFJ personality types and INFP personality types may quit jobs, end long relationships, move to a different city or country, and begin a new period in life of deep creativity. INFJ personality types and INFP personality types may feel isolated or alone as this happens, but they don’t need to be alone as they navigate this challenging and exciting period in life, because there are other INFJ personality types and INFP personality types who are going through the same process. When INFJ personality types and INFP personality types can find support and understanding in the midlife transition process, the experience becomes less confusing and much more illuminating.
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Komentáře • 29

  • @LaurenSapalaINFJ
    @LaurenSapalaINFJ  Před 22 dny +2

    Subscribe to Lauren’s newsletter: laurensapala.com/newsletter/

  • @happyarmadillofarm9026
    @happyarmadillofarm9026 Před 22 dny +17

    No lie... I think God sent me to this video.

  • @NeuroDivergentLatino
    @NeuroDivergentLatino Před 21 dnem +8

    INFJ Latino man, 52 here. Last year I discovered that I'm on the autism spectrum, I also have ADHD, I lost a sibling of a heart attack in December, lost my dad this February of cancer, no contact with another sibling, and recently ended a long distance relationship that was going nowhere. The past two years were probably the most challenging and difficult period of my life. And through shadow work, processing my childhood traumas, and accepting my past, I'm in the process of creating a new identity for myself. Easier said than done, but everything I've been through reminds me of my strength and resilience. I will make it through.

    • @lisadicaire871
      @lisadicaire871 Před 20 dny

      Thank you for sharing your story. I'm 48, autistic and I'm experiencing a lot of stress and trauma. Your comment gives me hope. God Bless You.

  • @ComplicatedSimplicite
    @ComplicatedSimplicite Před 21 dnem +3

    I’m about to turn 40 and I’ve always said I would NEVER care about this but it has literally sent me into an anxiety spiral. I’m an INFJ and I feel so lame feeling this way but I grew up with a mom who was OBSESSED with her looks. I can remember being 6 years old and me and my cousins playing and pretending we were adults and our idea was to complain about our looks. She would tell me when I was young that I better do this and that because I will hate it when I get old. I was determined to never be like her but despite my best efforts my anxiety has latched onto this and It has been SO frustrating!!!! Despite it all people mistake me for my 20s.

  • @mariannami8049
    @mariannami8049 Před 22 dny +10

    omg, I so much needed to hear this information and encouragement. Everything what Lauren is saying is so true, resonating with me so much. Thank you. I will try to register ❤❤❤

  • @ArtisticMysticSoul
    @ArtisticMysticSoul Před 21 dnem +2

    Sometimes I think I'm TOO introspective, and it's currently messing with my mental health.

  • @cledosliop4175
    @cledosliop4175 Před 20 dny

    Glad to see someone speak out about this, and I can totally resonate. Me myself is an INFJ, and in my experience, life becomes more friendly as I age. I don't mean to say that aging is good because it’s true that our physical functions decline as we grow old. What I mean is that my mindset and perspective on life have become clearer with age. The more I experience, the better I understand myself and the world around me. This process is precious to me, and I cherish all that I have accumulated, even if it may not seem valuable to others.

  • @slclick76
    @slclick76 Před 22 dny +3

    Oh wow, this is my current life. Thank you for saying exactly what I’m going through. Will stay tuned for more on this subject. Thanks again. 😊

  • @user-bg1eo7lo9u
    @user-bg1eo7lo9u Před 21 dnem +2

    Hi Lauren! By chance, I discovered your channel a couple weeks ago! I wasn't on the topic, but Personality types came up in the YT recommendations! 💡 It immediately sparked recollection of the MB test I took at a community college 17 years ago where I was attending as an adult while going through a divorce. Hadn't thought about it since then! I dug out the paperwork after 5 moves/3 states!! I'm INFP. Had NO time back then to focus on it, but now that I'm in this life transition phase, my head is clearer & I can finally discover Me! It was so affirming to hear you say that us INFJs & INFPs have an "easier" time of this phase than some others! It's true, for all the reasons you outlined! Also, my daughter gifted me your book last week!: "The INFJ Revolution." Thanks for your work.

  • @jennifercatherinekarel8925
    @jennifercatherinekarel8925 Před 21 dnem +1

    It's so exciting to have found someone who speaks my language. ThankYou. I have felt the midlife...hardcore experience, yet the maturity is Lovely.

  • @EpicWarDog
    @EpicWarDog Před 21 dnem +1

    I'm a male INFJ and have been with my wife for 30 years. She is my world and my best friend, If anything ever happened to her.I would just cease to be.

  • @midheaven_mimi
    @midheaven_mimi Před 22 dny +6

    This was GREAT Lauren! Like a big comforting, confirmatory hug letting me I’m on MY path & the BEST is yet to come!! Many thanks 🫶🏾 🤗

  • @Kelroxwel
    @Kelroxwel Před 20 dny

    This is SO on point with my life! Excited to check out more of your work and to follow your upcoming series on awakening 😊

  • @Mistiqsofaquarius
    @Mistiqsofaquarius Před 19 dny

    I am feeling my midlife transition at 25!

  • @howaboutno2023
    @howaboutno2023 Před 22 dny +7

    ❤️🙏🏾

  • @cinderling5472
    @cinderling5472 Před 21 dnem

    Sweetie! Was just thinking of you the other day! Very grateful for this video ❤ Timely as always, uncanny😸 will check out the class

  • @evamelendez5738
    @evamelendez5738 Před 4 dny

    I feel like I’m going through a mid life awakening. If that makes sense to anybody. I don’t know. It barely makes sense to me. It’s scary, heavy, and confusing but I feel like it’s what I make of it.
    I don’t feel like I’m past my prime like most people my age. I feel like I got plenty of life left in me but do have massive anxiety about f….ing it up

  • @MiloMcLaughlin
    @MiloMcLaughlin Před 20 dny

    It’s a challenging time for sure 😅

  • @helentaylor6375
    @helentaylor6375 Před 14 dny

    Thank you Lauren x😊

  • @r.o.b.480
    @r.o.b.480 Před 21 dnem +2

    My youth was an ineffectual pile of cringe. - INTJ

    • @matthale5388
      @matthale5388 Před 18 dny +1

      Feel for you bro...I felt the same infj

  • @cheribarkman1784
    @cheribarkman1784 Před 20 dny

    Thank you Lauren.

  • @rswfire
    @rswfire Před 21 dnem +2

    Those first two minutes had me concerned. 😂 I knew INFJs were not like that. I'm 47 and just a couple of months ago embarked on my midlife transition. I gave up my house and moved into an RV. Best decision I ever made! Challenging without a doubt. And I've been processing a lot of the dynamics in my life that led me here. Typical infj stuff. I've grown a lot during this time period!

  • @lindajones2918
    @lindajones2918 Před 21 dnem

    Such an insightful video Lauren! Thank you for sharing.

  • @keegankeepgoing
    @keegankeepgoing Před 21 dnem

    thank you

  • @michaelvenus2455
    @michaelvenus2455 Před 20 dny

    I can resonate

  • @jferkoi
    @jferkoi Před 12 dny

    the volume seems low on your videos ...I love listening though :)

  • @rabzi1972ify
    @rabzi1972ify Před 18 dny

    I don't need school in