why do we GLORIFY struggle love?
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- čas přidán 25. 06. 2024
- when you glorify struggle love, you might normalize toxic behaviors and see red flags as necessary parts of a romance. relationships aren't easy, but you don't have to struggle to sustain one. you deserve a kind love xoxo
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c h a p t e r s
0:00 intro
2:58 media influences (and why we glorify it)
5:14 negative effects
6:10 call to action
8:33 outro
m u s i c
sinfonietta cinematica - cinderella ball night
sugoi - sutakuria
martin landstrom - a garden romance
franz gordon - nocturnal daydream
l i n k s
katie hood ted talk: • The difference between...
cinema therapy channel: / @cinematherapyshow
Q & A
how old are you? 22
what camera do you use? sony zv1f
what editor do you use? final cut pro
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girly i thought you were a big youtuber and 8 mins in i go to the comments and there are just 5 😭 got my follow, keep going!!
thank you so much! 🥹
this is hands down one of the best video essays i’ve ever watched omg. your editing style and commentary is just perfection!!
that is such a huge compliment thank you!! 🤍
I noticed a few years ago that I did this. I fought so hard for my toxic ex because this trope had me thinking that struggle meant we were soulmates lmao.🤦🏻♀️
yesss same. i love how it's a shared experience because it just allows us all to learn, grow, heal, and move forward together! 🤍
got the ick abt the notebook when the main love interest threatened to commit die if the main girl, WHO WAS WITH ANOTHER GUY ON A FERRIS WHEEL, didn't go out with him, major red flag
RIGHT! i used to think the movie was soooo cute in middle school, when i watch it now i'm like "oh no, absolutely not 😀"
@@texirratalks I KNOW IT WAS INSANE
and bro like sixteen candles. oh. my. gosh. so much wrong with that (rant warning lol). first, the main character sucks which is neither here nor there but it only adds to how much i hated this movie. second, the male love interest was a genuinely terrible person like actually awful. third, the only likable character is the "mean" popular girl who's literally just pretty and clearly traumatized. literally made me cry cause at the end of the movie she woke up in a guy's car and was surprised because said guy hadn't taken advantage of her. btw she got in the car cause she was blackout drunk and the guy she was flirting with (love intrrest guy) told the "nerd" character to take her and "have his way" with her. i cannot describe to you how many 50+ family friend RAVE about this movie and its like. have you watched it since you were 12?? that "rom-com" is not a relic of its time. also it had way more nudity than was advertised and i personally don't like that in movies so it made the veiwing experience all the more awful.
wait-omg?? (rant warning x2 hehe) sixteen candles is one of the few rom-coms i actually haven't seen which is surprising because i used to be obsessed with rom-coms growing up. based on what you said though, that literally sounds like a terrible movie. it's so unfortunate because a lot of people are blinded by their love for old movies like that because of the nostalgia and the movie tries convincing people that it's positive when in reality it's the opposite. like i mentioned in my video, i love watching the twilight movies but i can also rant all day about how toxic and unhealthy the relationships were. i wish there were more conversations about these sort of movies because it's so important! especially since younger people are more susceptible to being influenced and romanticizing movies like sixteen candles
@@texirratalks exactly, and the mentality stays in your head for your WHOLE LIFE. its a bias you have to acknoledge and overcome in every single choice you make.
and i totally get what you mean, i'm a sucker for a good rom-com, but i have recently started to prefer rom-coms with sweeter relationships (except for 10 things i hate about you- the stupid poem at the end gets me every time). usually that only really happens when the romance is the sub genre in the movie though, because you need conflict from somewhere.
idk, i've started breaking apart what i actually like vs what i learned to like because of society and a lot of stuff i thought bothered me doesn't anymore, and a lot of stuff i thought was fine makes me so mad now.
@@randomweirdo1639 right! it takes work, time, and effort to rewire that part of your subconscious that's so used to old beliefs/patterns that aren't healthy. and same i almost took out the poem from 10 things i hate about you because i love that movie 😭. if you have any reccs for rom-coms that show healthier and sweeter relationships i'd love to check them out when i find time!
i agree with you 100%! i'm going through the same thing honestly especially when it comes to my standards and relationships/friendships
Brooo the editing goes hard 😦
No, it's just like medical treatments. You have to be able to identify the problem first. The mistake is that parents aren't ensuring that the message is understood
identifying the problem is so important!
Everyone needs to watch & digest this 💙
girl your breakdown & analysis of this was so concise. omg i think about this constantly & i loved this!
thank you!! 🥹
the editing on this is so good wowowow
Girl loved ur content, keep going ❤
thank u!! i will 🥹🤍
the prime example of "would I allow my dream partner treat me like this?" would be Harley and Joker acid chemicals scene from Suicide Squad, it looks so good on screen and Gangsta by Kehlani playing, but you wouldn't want this in real life lol
omg yesss that is such a good example! i might have to include that scene in a future vid!!
the editing is actually so good
thank you!! (:
But im not sure if struggle love is still glorified now. The points are valid but those were of the past. Due to tik tok being quite famous and being able to view love of others, now its more of glorifying the extra mile and if he wanted to he would mindset. It is no longer struggle love that is trending but rather impossible love
i definitely considered that and i agree with you to an extent! i do still feel like there are people who glorify struggle love in the sense of doing things "for the plot" or being "delulu" and allowing things to continue for longer than they probably should. but i really like how a lot of people are starting to wake up and no longer tolerate or glorify struggle love. and i really like what you said about impossible love, so valid!
@texirra2.0 I think another angle that can be interesting to look it that may push back a bit on your comment, respectfully, are individuals leaving healthy dynamics due to feeling like "something is missing" or it not lining up with what their definition of love is or should be. This is exceptionally prevalent now due to social media, podcasts, and dating apps. I do think people still glorify struggle love because people tend to chase a fantasy instead of being engrossed with the reality of the person they're with who might actually be who they need rather than who they want.
i agree with you 100%! i feel like that could be an entire video in itself and i've definitely heard others mention this take before. there's that popular idea that "the grass is greener on the other side" when instead people could find that the grass can be greener where you water it. chasing a fantasy is how a lot of people end up hurting themselves in the end. i think this is why commitment is so important because a lot of people may think they're ready for something serious but aren't always willing to commit or grow with the person who could be great for them
@@texirratalks 1000% agree
struggle love is still very popular among teen girls watching kdramas, the majority of kdrama rom-coms portray struggle love and fans just constantly comment how they have great chemistry and want them to kiss and show more etc. , they consider narcissistic, violent women as "strong female characters" and completely dung on female characters that have self-esteem issues even though the show is about showing how the female character overcomes her insecurities
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thank you sooo much!! (: