Are we Having A Baby?
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- čas přidán 11. 06. 2019
- On this episode, we are exploring our most asked question, the topic you've all been waiting for....are we having a baby? Find out where we stand with our hard no on having babies.
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Don't even need to listen to the whole thing to hit like. Y'all said years ago you didn't want to have kids. Respect. Change your mind? Okay, respect. Y'all do y'all. Y'all are great people and would no doubt make great parents. But it's YOUR choice. Whatever y'all wanna do, RESPECT.
Raising kids is a real life roller coaster ride. There are tough parts but other times are truly amazing. Kids are super hilarious too. But don’t have them if you don’t want them. Love you both!
Something to think about that might resonate with your hearts - foster and/or adoption? Also takes the time pressure off the ovaries :)
That is excellent advice!
You can tell by his body language and how he looks at her that he’s a really good listener and respects and loves her so much.
Noooooo.. u can tell by his "body language" & the way he "talks & looks at her" that he's G-A-Y as F**K!!!!!
I chose not to have children and I have NEVER regretted it. I'm in my mid-forties so it's pretty much too late for me. It just came down to the fact that I knew that I did not want to give birth or raise children. I have been able to get my education, build a career, and travel, unlike many of my friends and relatives with kids. Like you, I have been blessed with so many children in my life to love...they just aren't my own.
Rita O. Mad respect to you! I'm 24 and feel the same way! I've never wanted to have kids. I'm literally focussing on my education right now, booking heaps of trips overseas and just being happy! Here's to the future! 🍺🍻🍸🥂🥃🍷🍾
@@RangaRussian That's great, Hayley! The decision to have kids is really personal and it comes down to what is right for you. I am proof (and you are too) that a woman can be happy and fulfilled without being a mother.
My youngest daughter was a little girl when she told me she never wanted kids. She's 26 and still firm with her convictions. I am cool with it because not everyone is parent material. Besides her sister and brother have already given me 6 granddaughters.
I had a child and I still was able to get multiple degrees, travel around the world, and build my career. Having a child and stop that, for me it enhanced it.
@Jessica Bly yes! Im 36 had my only daughter at 17. (Shes pregnant now) i didnt want more kids. I even told god- "God, I think I wasnt born to have kids and to raise them." I regret those words so much everyday. Its my biggest dream to be able to have 1 more baby of my own. Just one. I havent been able to conceive.
my husband and I waited 20 years to have a baby! Not entirely by choice, we finally had to turn to IVF because it wasnt working naturally for us. For us, we didnt adopt a dog, we adopted a kid! so we have a 10 year old :) and now a baby on the way! it is so worth it to have kids. All the fears aside, they are awesome!!!
I never understand why people feel so strongly about couples not having children. Not everyone has to have children to be happy. I have 4 children and I always just wanted to be a Mom and I have been a stay at home mom for over 19 years. You guys do you! 💜💜💜
That's how I feel...i don't have kids I am happy u don't need them to be fulfilled n happy.. I love being an aunt to me that's awesome...
That was so perfectly said. Society needs to stop shaming ppl for having kids and for not having kids. Once your pregnant your pregnant but whatever you use or do to prevent pregnancy is your choice.
If they want to have a kid, cool!! If they want to adopt, cool!! If they don't want kids at all, cool!!! It's their choice, period!!!
Because that's the purpose of marrying in the first place?
@@lisamorand9607 and there is always adoption or abortion if you accidentally get pregnant and are not in a position to be a good parent for ANY reason.
The best and scariest part of having a child is how much you love them!!! You can’t see your life without them in it ever again and that is hella scary and you never realized that you could ever love someone with everything you are and beyond. So if y’all do decide to or not I wish you the best!
💯!!!! I literally have ANXIETY worrying about my daughter.... AND SHE'S ALMOST 29! If I text or call her and I don't hear back from her, I go into panic mode and OVERTHINK and WORRRRY that something bad is gonna happen. I try and try not to worry, but I can't help it. 😕
Exactly! I have called having children a tender trap. You are trapped by your love for this child for the rest of your life.
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“I want to want kids.” You spoke my truth right there. I’m not in a relationship, but I have never wanted to have kids. I wonder sometimes what that feeling must be like.
Sometimes it takes being with a person. The right person and all of a sudden that just changes
First, my wife is Diana Maria Riva's niece, just sayin'. :D
Second, we have struggled for years to have children, but we never gave up hope. We fostered 2 little girls, and adopted them in 2013, and they are happy and healthy. If you worry about having them naturally, there are thousands of children in foster care just waiting for parents to step up and love them. That's all they want, I promise, is a home where they can be loved, and kept safe.
My wife and I have been married 8 years this month. I work at an elementary school, which is the greatest birth control known to man! We'll stick with our puppy.
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I had the same fear of my husband dying and I was listening to Joyce Meyer and she said something like “presume that God is good.” Supernaturally that phrase comes to me when I start playing the scenario of my husband dying in my mind and it gives me peace.
I think you have the perfect prayer. “God, if kids are something you want for me, please change my heart.” I’m 36 and am pregnant with our second. I never wanted kids and God changed my heart and gives me the grace and wisdom I need.
No pressure if He doesn’t change your heart. :) He will take care of you.
Take delight in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart.
Psalm 37:4
No offense, but this is the same story we always hear. How come y’all say y’all don’t want kids and have them? You might have been on the fence all along. We need more example of people who don’t want kids, because the world does not support them.
Zechariah Cameron thank you for your reply. I’m also fine with people who don’t want kids and don’t have them. I agree the world does not support them. If fact, I believe the enemy is out to destroy them.
I’m curious what your spiritual background is because my answer won’t make sense if you have a different world view. My belief is that Jesus is the life giver and sustainer. I had children in a broken world because God gave me the desire and what I need to raise two beautiful children. (I’m biased :) I pray they will shine the light and hope of Jesus in a broken and sad world that doesn’t support them.
Also, marrying an amazing man who makes a great father helped change my mind.
All I have to say is, "Me and my Kids LOVE you". Your talent has brought us sooo much joy. Just thinking of your role in Mom's Night Out makes me smile.
There is something really special about having a child that you both make together. It’s another level of marriage bonding per day. But everyone has different plans. My wife and I have 4 boys and have been married for 23 years. Love my boys to death.Mi Familia❤️☺️
Hands down the most beautiful experience I have ever had. And like you I had a nervous breakdown when I first found out I was pregnant with my first son. But the moment I met him I knew without a shadow of a doubt that this little person was going to be the best thing to ever happen to me. And with children, there is a love that you will never ever feel with anybody else accept your child. It is a love beyond measure. I wish you both the best of luck, you're beautiful! Much love from Missouri!!
It's amazing that you both know your hearts but are open to God's plan. Blessings to you and your journey together and as individuals.
Having your own child is the most wonderful thing EVER!!!! The first time my daughter’s baby laughed she started crying. She was very touched and happy.
We've always wanted kids. We have 2 girls. I always wanted 2 girls. We waited 4 yrs before our first. I wish we had our first at 25 not 29. Then 33 our second. Now I'm 41😉
Just like you...look young but get tired easily. And I don't drink coffee don't help😉
Pray (trust in God and don't fear) and make sure you wanna have children. No one wants to be not wanted:/
Clock is ticking!!! Decide soon😉
Blessings to you both💝
Honestly, it is none of OUR business what the two of you decide.
I'm with you 100%! I've never had the urge to have kids and I'm sticking to it :). Also, I love your love of each other! You guys are such a good example of a healthy and respectful relationship.
I tried it once, I never did it again 😂. I love my daughter. But, don't get me wrong, kids are F O R E V E R. The worry never goes away. It's not easy being a parent. I divorced my ex, her father cause he had problems. I was able to raise her without her getting into trouble and she graduated high school.
On the other hand-
You'd be a 2 parent household. Which is the most important foundation for a kid.
If you both don't feel it, don't push it.
I hear a lot of anxiety over scenarios that may not even happen. Life is bittersweet. Shit happens, but the fact that you wake up and get through whatever happens is Life.
You can only handle what's before you and not "what if"
If you don't feel it, don't do it.
I have the utmost respect for the two of you for being honest.
I decided when I was a child that I didn’t want to get married or have children. My reasons changed as I grew into an adult, but the decision didn’t change. I’m now a 69 year old woman who doesn’t regret that decision I made as a child. I was told by many people as I grew that I would regret not having kids, they were wrong. Do your own thing, whatever it is, you’re good people.
I feel the exact same way Anjelah! I don’t want kids either and it’s a constant struggle to justify to people why I don’t want them, as if I owe everyone an explanation. It’s a lot easier for men to say they want them but at the end of the day we have to do most of the work and go through the hard stuff. I’m also getting to the age my ovaries are dying so it’s more pressure to decide and sometimes I doubt my reluctance too but I think deep down many of us know whether we want them or not and it’s ok not to want kids.
I had my first baby in 2017 at 39 after 11 years of being alone with my husband. For many years I just thought we would never have kids. It's awesome having a son love him with all my heart but my life without him was also amazing. Not an easy decision but definitely do it for you not whatever anyone else thinks.
Anjelah! You’re beautiful too! Stop putting yourself down next to your husband. He’s handsome and you guys make a good couple! ❤️
Yeah plus he's soft.
What are you talking about? Where did you get that she's putting herself down next to her husband from? ? ? You smoking? Cuz you definitely tripping!
I agree! Stop saying "yeah but" when he compliments you!
She does look a little uncomfortable with her movements.
Jessica Ramirez,I've noticed she didn't take the complements the best to,but i get it,cause i used to be bad about that,still working on it i think😀 What makes it so hard also,is if you Do take the complement,then it gets turned around,to- (you have a big ego) haha. (It's a damned if you do,damned if u dont),type of thing! She reminds me so much of me in some ways.
anjelah you have a point with regards to how you had to work for what you wanted vs what your lifestyle is now;
I totally get you, I felt the same before having my first kid but being a mum is the best part of my life. Love yoy guys.
Lol! "I have man hands" 😂😂 I just love you both. Hands down a power couple. Many blessings to you both. Much love from San Antonio, TX.
Thank you!
Do it! You guys would be great parents, plus bonus - new material!
hahahaha
Worst reason but best comment lol
@Anjelah I think your kid would be the coolest kid lol! You guys are awesome!
Hey! What you both choose is what is best for y’all. 💜
Had no idea another couple has the same thought process as my marriage does around kids. So comforting. Thanks for being open with us
Fears are there even when u plan on having kids. When your ready or not ur choice and blessed either way.... kids are wonderful but u have ro be ready in some way. So dont feel pressure and trust in what u want ... bless u both
Whatever you do, do it for the right reasons. May God bless you in all your righteous desires.
Having kids is a blessing
I don’t regret it
I was a young mom
My kids are now older
Hopefully you decide what’s best for you
The baby would be almost perfect lol!!
All the fears you have now wouldn’t even be once you start. You would be great at it. It starts to come naturally. Your baby would be YOUR baby and that bond is unimaginable until you’re in it. It’s a beautiful thing! Go for it!
You really make my day Anjelah. You've helped me with my anxiety depression insomnia - put a smile on my face thank you! 😍🥰😍🥰😍🥰😍🥰
I feel the same way about kids , I’m a worrier Too and I always say stuff like “what if they got sick or died “ so I completely get where you’re coming from Anjelah . You guys are so awesome and I really love watching your videos . God bless you both !
I'm 25 I have a 8 year old boy my gosh if you have both learned so much as a couple there just isn't anything that compares to what a world in a child's eyes brings to your life. We get first hand what the youth will become from what we teach these kids in our home. I really love that you guys were both so open of these fears and worries and mainly just living the life you have now because of what you both faced growing up. But what I see in you both is the values that you both hold are priceless and any child of yours would be blessed having being taught in a home with such security to be free to be who they are. Much love missed your videos.
Not sure how you both feel on the topic of egg freezing, but that would be an option if you feel like your ‘clock’ is putting extra pressure on you. I knew I always wanted kids, so I can only say that I felt the love in my heart expand, when I had a child. It’s true that you never stop worrying, and yes, bad things can happen; but I’ve always been told “you will never regret having a child, but you might regret never having a child...”
Good luck on your journey and I know you guys will do what will be best for you!
I'm a mother of five. My son died 9 months ago. It was my biggest fear. I'm so glad I had 20 years with him though. Don't let fear guide you. You will raise a wonderful human.
I am sorry for your loss.
Im a mom and I’ve thought about it like that. Sorry for your loss. We give our best to our kids, and I’m glad for the moments on this planet. Hug’s.
I had one child , a daughter, & I lost her 27 years ago (brain tumor). It changes you as a person. Really sorry for your loss!
My son was the biggest and best surprise of my life! Your fears are real; I think about the same things all the time (I’m sure that’s not comforting but it’s true). Kids keep us young, and even make us feel “old”- they’re tricky like that 😂 with all the worries out there about kids, there are many more joys that outweigh them. What is meant to happen, will be. 💗
So instead of having a kid that's your own why don't you become a blessing to a kid that's already in its own trials and tribulations and struggles just a thought
Or let them have a kid... Stop living through others lives....
I want to foster/adopt older kids. 10+. Help them get to adulthood.
JustBe FuckingReal what if they don’t want any?
Watching them succeed is the greatest feeling. Looking at the tiny bundle and thinking, I made that! Children are little miracles. Your children would be beautiful. Trust in your heart. Whatever decision you make is right for you. Don’t let us sway you.
Anjelah/Manny...this prayer..."Your will LORD , not mine/ours for you purpose of having children, your gift to us""...
Being a parent allows you feel Joy and a Type of Love you can't experience any other way. The Love you will feel for that child can't be put into words. It is the most difficult thing you will ever do in your life. I think you would be great parents. Side note: your kids will be beautiful and talented. Best wishes and continued success to you both. Love your videos. Thank you for all you do.
We love you first of all Anjelah! We decided when we were dating to not have kids. Then we got married and we still felt the same way. We,too, love kids. We love our nephews, our nieces and our friend’s kids. We just chose not to have our own kids. We were both physically able to have kids. We just chose not to. We are in our 50’s now and have not regretted our decision. My wife is a hospice nurse and her patients are her “kids”. I am a human resource director and the employees I care for are my kids. We are no lost, we are not sad, we are not crazy. We have chosen this lifestyle and are truly happy. We love and respect anyone who has chosen to be parents. We also love and respect anyone who has chosen a life like ours. Wishing you and your husband the best Anjelah 💕😊
God did not give you a spirit of fear but of power ,Love and a sound mind..let God give you as He may... love you two with no falsehood...be Good Raiderette..
Kids are 24/7 responsibility, at the end of the day you can’t return them home 😂
Loved this video! I love how honest and candid you guys are about it! I became a mom at 19 and it was the scariest thing. It was not planned nor was I ready. Fast forward to present and I’m now 29 w/ two kids and one on the way! Those fears you talk about are definitely real. My husband and I have those fears all the time and they never go away. I think faith has a lot to do with how I cope though. I know God has purpose for my life and that I need to have faith. It is so incredibly hard to be a parent and more and more I get why some choose not to have them. However, as they get older it’s such a rewarding thing to see them grow and to watch as their personalities and talents come out! My favorite thing about being a parent is watching that little version of you and your other half grow and become these amazing little humans!
I’m in my late 30’s, had my first son, reason being the best thing for my case is that it opened up a reality that I suppressed of keeping up with the image of an independent woman with multiple jobs, partying and being at all the friend parties. I found that I love being more at home and creating balance time with family will be ever changing, an experience where I truly feel I have brought together a family of my own when your quiet times start becoming available. Your child will be a person so you will find yourself trying to see the world through your child’s eyes, they see the world with wonder and they’ve got you because no one will love them more than you do. You will surprise yourself what new drive a child injects you, tireless material. You will be amazed how much you appreciate your child than if you were 15 or 16 with child. I’m not saying if you had kids very very young you wouldn’t love them, you will just struggle more because the young mom/dad are still making sense of the world. Anjela, you’ve got this, but if it happened that you come with child, you’re smart enough to have a game plan to make you the ultimate Anjela. Somehow I feel like you will have a big new thing on your plate but you’ll love it because it is an unconditional love that comes about in this rite of passage that moms/dads go thru when becoming a mom. One thing it won’t be is calm, easy going and will not make you less of a target for judgmental comments from all sorts of people. It is also okay to sidestep this decision and continue your career and life the way it is, my regards to you and hope that you will continue strong with your career choice with or without a baby.
I have 5 kids and absolutely love it. My oldest is 25 and youngest is 12. And now I also have 4 grandkids and honestly that is the BEST!!!
Yes, raising kids is hard but like Your hubby said, seeing them succeed at what they love is so rewarding. We never told our kids they needed to be drs or lawyers, they just had to do something to support themselves and a family if a family is what they want. ❤️
love the candidness, nice ideas too. relevant fears & hesitations, all indications of excellent future mommies n daddies. (if u choose) thinkers, not just doers
I’m late in the game 🤷🏽♀️
First of all ... I love you Anjelah!!
Everyone has their reasons for having or not having children. It is your business whatever decision you make. I have 4 kids ... 27, 24 and 21 year old twins. I did the best I could as a mother. They are not perfect, but they are amazing kids who never gave us issues ... buuuut ... at this day and age (TODAY), I couldn’t have kids ... this world is just insane so I’m glad I had them then. Aaaand the worrying never stops 😩
Y'all just do you!!! I initially didn't want kids, but I was surprised with my son, he has been my biggest blessing in life!! Having the honor of watching him grow up into the amazing man he is today has been amazing, awe inspiring, humbling, and has had my cup overflowing!! Has it been hard, yes, I almost lost him in infancy, there have been many tearful nights, terrifying moments, and yes, sometimes anger!! But there has also been amazing joy!! I wouldn't change it for the world!! But you guys HAVE to DO what's right for the BOTH of you!! And if that means remaining child free, then that's awesome too, it's your lives, your choice!! Just do you lovies!!!
Pregnancy is the most beautiful thing and having children is all about love, its like a token of love between you two. But if you're ever ready, you will be, there will be no doubt. Just wait for it, if it doesn't come, you're not meant to. 😊💛
But what if they don’t want kids though? Some people don’t.
I feel you Anj, I am single and have those same fears about marriage and kids! Whatever the Lord wills for your lives, I am praying for you both. Love Mariana x
Thank you!
Just discovered you a couple months ago and think you are so darn funny. I hope to see your show live some day. The best thing about having children is when they grow up and give you grandchildren. 😊
I totaly undestand your fears, i have them everyday all the time. But i will say this, there is nothing better than to have a little human that loves you, that runs to your side when they see you. Kids are a pain on the butt sometimes, but the happy moments make it all worth it. Its all a risk that some want to take and some don't. Don't let the pressure get to you, because at the end of the day you and only you are racing that child...
You said it, everyone is different. The minute you have your own baby it’s a totally different story. The love is instant and the parental skills kick in. I wish you the wisdom to make the right decision for you both. Love you 💕💕💕
My husband and I have been married for 10 years now. At first we wanted to wait and enjoy ourselves. I was so scared to have kids first of all because of the pain and second because I don’t know how to take care of a baby and EVERYTHING that comes with kids. Lol. We hadn’t tried for a long time but within the last year we didn’t try stopping it from happening since we were only getting older. Now we are expecting our first baby and we turn 38 this year. I’m so nervous!
Congratulations! You have everything you need to be a great mom.
Rebecca Christopher thank you so much!!!☺️
Be encouraged, you got this! God bless you and your family! :-)
Sounds like y’all wanted kids all along though. We need to hear from those who never wanted them though, because they are misrepresented by society.
You waited for a reason! Your generation conquered the pain issue! Epidurals are the real deal!
Loved your comedy for years and Just stumbled onto your show and I’m loving you both!!! Yaaaaayyy I’m about binge. Keep ‘‘em coming.
I have a 15 year old daughter! I was not prepared at all, but it’s been a blessing and the best 15 years of my life. Although, I do respect your decisions and feelings. You have to do what’s best for you. Hugs
I'm watching this about 20 mins after I just had a "life" talk with my son who will be 23 yrs old on Monday. When I had him at 22 yrs old, he was not planned. However, once he was born, I could not imagine my life without him. It is a joy I am grateful the Lord allowed me to experience. I wish you both the best with whatever decision you make, but I will leave you with this... Y'ALL WOULD MAKE SOME BEAUTIFUL BABIES!!!😍💜 And this entire conversation you just had proves you would be wonderful parents. 💜💜💜💜
I have a 16 & 14 year old and I also had and still have some of the same fears. But you don’t let fear stop you from experiencing the blessing of being a parent. The reality is you will not know until you have your own, the true meaning and feeling of having kids until you do. My husband and I waiting to have kids for 5 years after marriage. 1st child was planned second was not and I don’t love any of them any less because they are our babies. My old next door neighbor who I knew since I was 10years old was an old retired military man who served our country for 40 years. He loved it and chose not to be married and have children. When he was near the end of his life at 87 he would tell me that his biggest regret in life was not having children. He loved my kids and we all saw him like a grandfather. But my heart ached for him that even though he had a good life he never got to experience that and that was his biggest regret.
If you do decide to have a child he/she will be very lucky to have amazing parents as yourselves. To have as parents 2 people that deeply love each other is a blessing ❤️
If it happened, you would be great parents. It's amazing how God prepares you and gives you so much love.
The world needs more wonderful humans like you! Please bless us! Children are a blessing from God! They bring meaning and rhythm to our lives! The best job you will ever have and the hardest job you will ever have!
I'm 35 & have been married almost 9 years and while my reasoning has more to do with health, mine and the kid's, my husband and I feel exactly the same way. Thank you for sharing. It is nice to know there are other people who feel this way, because it can be hard. Peer pressure is real with this too. My thought is unless they are coming over to take care of the kid in the middle of the night then the decision isn't theirs to make. Never feel pressured yet I know what you mean, you don't want to miss out on blessings God has for you or the kids. It's hard to know what to do but just remember, you can't give them back if they're yours. You're never too old to foster or adopt if you decide you want them later. Honestly, if you're starting to have this debate, I'd start praying that God would make it abundantly clear as to what you are to do and that He would guide both of your hearts in that direction. Personally, being the cool aunt of 19 is my fav. Good luck to you both as you seek God's will for your lives.
Awww thank you I feel the same way thank u for sharing
I feel you!! That was me!! I was terrified for a long time after my son was born but it’s so AMAZING!! Y’all would be great parents!! As long as y’all are happy, kids or not that’s what matters.
Here's an additional bonus... kids make for FANTASTIC COMEDY!!
I hear all yall's points... it's the miracle of birth that makes all these questions, fears, and over thinking go away- seeing a little someone that has pieces of both of you.. it's amazing. And if you can experience being a mom and a dad (not just a mother or father) but having a beautiful, respectful, fun relationship with your son or daughter, it's beautiful and worth it! Pray over the baby, even before he or she is here and know that all will be well.... And it's not hard raising a child or taking care of them. You get into your own swing of things, you have to do you even in taking care of the baby..and because you've worked to get where you're at, a baby will come natural and the adjustment will be smooth.. for real. yall will do great!!!
The best description that I have seen about the decision to have children and in my experience it is true! “Making the decision to have a child - it is momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body. ” Elizabeth Stone
I've been watching your stand up shows since I was little I love u and ur husband and baby so much I'm very glad your doing well and u guys look very happy! This made my day sending much love 😭💌
You would have beautiful children and they would have wonderful parents. I struggled as a kid too and it was nice that she didn't have to go through what I did. She still learned respect and responsibility. Don't stress just enjoy your life.
I'm 39 with 2 kids I had early. I do feel that clock but I realize that is just something some women feel innately. My friend who has 2 doesn't feel it at all. I totally get where yall are. If it happens but not trying to make it happen. Keep living yall!! Live however you please!!! Those fears and worry never leave.
the best feeling...seriously. I love it. I also had fears like this, but don't let this overshadow you. Make some beautiful babies. I had 4 and I don't regret it at all.
You two seem to have much in common. I enjoyed this video. I also used to have fears of my parents dying when I was younger. They lived to a ripe old age, and when it did finally happen, I was able to handle their deaths a little better than I thought I would. On the subject of children, I like them also, but never had that maternal instinct, never wanted to have my own. However, I became a foster parent, and ended up adopting a couple of kids, which was not my intent in the beginning. But when a child calls you “Mom” from day one, and you keep him long enough, it’s kind of hard to send him to live with another family. Anyway, I’ve never been married and never worried about my biological clock ticking, so I guess I cannot help you in that area. As long as my heart keeps ticking, I’m fine with that. However, if you and your husband want to have and to hold a living being that is a part of both of you, that is a beautiful thing. Do it, but be responsible. Make absolutely sure, beyond a shadow of a doubt that this is what you both really want. There are too many unwanted children in the world today,and the child is the one that suffers the most with all kinds of emotional and mental health issues because of their parents. If you decide to have a child or children, I’m sure he or she will be beautiful, because you are a beautiful couple of people. If you teach your child correctly, they will be well behaved and a joy to be around. Please do not allow the child to be a brat. We have enough of those already. The parents are the key to making sure the child is not an unholy terror.
As a fan, bringing more beauty and talent into a world that needs it desperately.... go for it!
I lost my baby girl at 8 months pregnant, just enjoy every moment no matter what!
You are who you are today because of your experiences. When you have children, you will also change as a human being. There is no other love like the one you have for your children. It’s the best experience ever.
Sadly I only had one son...he died at 16 yo...10 years ago... Having him is the best ... do not regret it, I will see him in heaven soon ❤️
But I think there's no heaven..it is an imaginary place.
My deepest condolences
Oh my goodness yes!! My husband and I are going through the same thing!! We got married later in life which only adds to the difficult decision because we are still enjoying life as just us! We are thinking possibly adoption in the future when we are more ready, but only if God leads! Praying for Gods direction for us all ❤️
I started very young and have 3 grown kids now. (I'm only 43). My oldest is about to be 23 and I worry SO MUCH about the bad that is out there in this world that would potentially hurt my babies...BUT, I have to remind myself that we are in the here and now and trust that God is protecting them always. They are truly a blessing but the worries and fears never cease. I say Go for it! You both would be amazing parents.
I have to boys 4,2 they were both premises 4 year old. At 32weeks weight 2pounds 12oz and the 2year old 26 weeks weight weight 1pound 12oz . So grateful to God that He let me keep them .and they get to be a great testimony .
I see how you are loving that dog and I understand that after having 6 children, all grown now .
I have one like yours ❤️
Hi, Anjelah and Manwell! Thank you so much for sharing this video. My husband Chris and I have been married for 16 years, and we have never wanted to have children and still don't. There have been glimmers in our marriage where we talked about it, but we love our freedom. We also love our nieces and nephews and love giving them back! We know the Lord has other purposes for us. We are old enough now that people don't ask anymore! Lol! It's y'all's choice! God bless y'all!
I think you guys will make the right decision for YOU GUYS. Whatever you choose, be proud of it. I know couples who are happy with or without kids. You'll figure it out and the people around you will have to respect your choice.
I have one daughter who never wanted kids, and just decided last year she wanted to share this experience with her husband. My son and his wife have been having trouble conceiving, and the sadness is so heavy on them, it rips at my heart everyday. All parents worry about what you mentioned being fearful of in this video so I understand that for sure.
You two will make great parents because you have a work ethic,you are both intelligent and you both have and share love.
We didn’t want to have kids either but after 4 year and me almost 40 we decided on itt. Best blessing ever! We both wish we had at least 3 more! You can’t understand the joy kids bring not only to you but the rest of your family and even your friends. They are a lot of work and sometimes it’s very frustrating but every single second is worth all of that because nothing will fulfill you as much as to see your child grow. You do need to invest time on them if you want to make sure they grow up to be a confident adult. So if you are not willing to do that don’t do it but you will never understand what is one of the biggest joys of life: being a parent! Praying that God puts that desire in both of your hearts!💝
They are already dope. Imagine them with a child ❤️👀
OMG Anjelah! You speak exactly my words, fears and thoughts about kids, and we are same age:) I even have a friend with three kids and that's her oldest who makes me wanna have kid! I love her as if she is my own child... But when I see other people with kids, in most cases I go like: "no no, I don't want that madness in my life on a daily basis!". And I feel kinda happy with what I am and what I have right now.
NEVER think you need to be on anyone's journey but your own! Having kids is a unique experience and whether natural, adopted, surrogate, whatever, when they're yours, your love for them is endless. Never doubt that. And never doubt the choice you make together!! ❤
People should not be “advising” you what to do or criticize you! It’s your uterus and your lives. You decide what you need to make your family perfect. I love the way you two communicate with each other!
Had my first child at 32, then 35, then 41....never regretted these decisions. The love for a child is indescribable.
I found having kids at 30 and 31 gave me the patience with them when it came to problem solving, discipline etc... I think also having them later in life because I'm more grateful and appreciative about things it has rubbed off on my boys. They are 21 and 22.
And think of the new comedic material!!!! Pregnancy and parenthood!! Holy crap it's insane. But SO worth it.
Im a mother of two boys and honestly I don't know what I would do without them ... Children teach you a lot lol and have a different perspective on things you normally wouldnt have a opinion on lol good luck with whatever you guys decide