Kill your Excuses and optimize your life with Doug Bopst | Ellen Fisher Podcast
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- čas přidán 24. 10. 2022
- Your mindset is a key to overcoming adversity and empowering ourselves from victim to victor. How we think and speak about ourselves is a strong determinator of our reality and this episode is all about using your disadvantages to your advantage and overcoming anything In life.
I sit down with Doug Bopst, a former drug addict and convicted felon who found transformation while serving jail time. He turned to drugs at 14 years old as a way to cope with an emotionally dysfunctional and broken home life including abuse, severe bullying, and the challenges that come with parents of divorce. This lead him down a spiral of addiction and selling drugs, and he was eventually pulled over and caught with drugs in his car. What seemed like the worst day of his life, turned out to be his greatest blessing. Doug speaks a powerful message in this conversation to help others harness the power within them to “kill your excuses” and live life to their greatest potential.
In this episode we cover:
- Doug’s background and how the narrative about himself growing up shaped his reality
- Self talk, mindset, and sense of sense being hugely important in life
- How we can get to the root cause of behavior/feelings in childhood before it becomes self destructive
- Being a victim of something versus living in victimhood mentality
- How Doug’s cell mate in jail deeply impacted his mindset and what was instilled in him that he never herd before
- Life is a lot of times about perception and how you look at a situation makes or breaks you
- How do we learn how to be comfortable being uncomfortable?
- Creating your own reality
- If “pulling yourselves up by your bootstraps” is a privileged mentality. What about those living in extremely hard circumstances?
- How to turn shame or regret from your past into purpose
- How can people set goals and stay inspired to show up consistently?
- Advice for those who feel stuck in their circumstances and have a hard time believing in themselves and their capabilities
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website: dougbopst.com
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Love hearing from people who just get it. What a healthy, real conversation. I also love the variety in your guests Ellen!
I really enjoyed this episode. His testimony was so encouraging. I love your positivity Ellen and how well you listen to others. A true example in our world right now ♥️
im so glad you loved the episode and thank you for your encouragement and kind words!
I needed this in a huge way today, immediate aha and mindset shift while watching this, thank you Doug (and Ellen) for the reminders!! Love and gratitude ❤️
im so glad to hear that, thanks for tuning in!
Thanks for having me on Ellen! Really enjoyed the convo!
Ellen, you really shine on these episodes that touch on prison/criminal justice issues. You have a kindness about you that lends itself well to those kind of tough discussions. By the way, you should read "Just Mercy" by Bryan Stevenson if you haven't, and also "The Sun Does Shine: How I Found Life and Freedom On Death Row" by Anthony Ray Hinton. I think you've mentioned before you like nonfiction books and I think you would enjoy both of them a lot.
wow that's so kind of you to say and thank you for the book recommendations!
I really enjoyed this episode Ellen, thanks.
One thing I don't hear in these conversations or stories is how these people deal with having to still maintain a relationship with the people that brought them so much pain and trauma. The family members that continue to not self reflect, that still are in our lives. You want a close family bond and to love them regardless, so you do all this work on yourself and then you still have to interact with them and see them and so on. Obviously you would do those thing a lot less, but what if you still wish you didn't have to, if they weren't so triggering. Are the people with these stories just distancing themselves from their families to a point of comfort? Is that all? No one talks about how difficult THAT is. When you sympathize and have some compassion for your abuser, and they don't see how they need to work on themselves too.
I am also sober almost 6 years and I have actually distanced myself from those people of completely cut them out depending on the circumstances. If someone doesn’t bring value in your life, or worse brings harm, you are more than allowed to walk away from those relationships.