How to INVITE a Man to Pursue You

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  • čas přidán 19. 06. 2024
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  • @ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

    If you’re interested in my new book and this bonus course, here’s the steps to take:
    Step 1: Before 2/17/2023 (11:59pm), purchase Christ-Centered Dating on Amazon in any format (paperback, eBook, audiobook) by clicking here: amzn.to/3Hc50Mv
    Step 2: Email your proof of purchase to here: bonuscourse@applygodsword.com
    (You can simply forward your Amazon receipt/confirmation email to the above email. Or you can also take a screenshot of the receipt/confirmation and send it to the above email.)
    Step 3: Within 24 hours, once your proof of purchase has been verified, you will receive an email with the 100% off scholarship code for the free bonus course (along with the link to enroll in the course).
    Step 4: Enroll in the course, 10 Steps to Meet The One. At check out, use your scholarship code. The course can also be found here: agwuniversity.teachable.com/p/10-steps-to-meet-the-one
    Step 5: Enjoy the book and free bonus course! And if you find the book helpful, it would be a big blessing to me if you could leave a review on Amazon. This helps other people feel more comfortable purchasing the book and learning the important truths inside of it.
    God bless!
    Mark

  • @Joe-ew7vv
    @Joe-ew7vv Před rokem +335

    1. Understand the difference between pursuing and inviting
    2. Give him your attention
    3. Respond positively when he does pursue you
    4. Appreciate his strength and masculine qualities
    5. Showing him what you could be in his life

    • @shellyp6451
      @shellyp6451 Před rokem +15

      And how do you show him what you can do for his life? Relationships are so complicated, how can one expect to know how they work? There is no manual to help anyone master relationships.

    • @blondielocks9642
      @blondielocks9642 Před rokem +28

      For starters, a woman can show that she can be an asset and not a liability.

    • @BB-ch9km
      @BB-ch9km Před rokem

      @@shellyp6451 I showed my male friend that if I made him a hot supper and have it ready when he arrives home tired from a long day at work, I just saved him 30 mins of supper preparing and he could eat as soon as he walked in the door. That left him extra time in the evening to accomplish his evening routine and work notes he had to finish on the computer. I also offered to help him with food prep on weekends and while I made my breakfasts for the week ahead, it was easy for me to make a double batch of it and split it with him. Him not having to cook breakfast in the morning saved him 30 mins and he can just heat it up in the microwave and head off to work. I hope to be a stay at home wife & mom someday (I run my own business from my home already) and this would be one thing that I could offer my future husband. My friend was amazed at how much this has helped his schedule already. 😄 And he is suddenly interested in what other qualities I might be able to offer him. 😉😅🥰 Time will tell what becomes of it!!!🤷😊

    • @danilaroche1156
      @danilaroche1156 Před rokem

      @@shellyp6451 Bible = manual of life

    • @danilaroche1156
      @danilaroche1156 Před rokem +19

      @@shellyp6451 I have found that most men hate drama. I know I have a strong personality. Very emotional at times. It's imperative to be led by the Spirit .Allow the Spirit to regulate emotions and feelings. Dating is hard these days. People are confused. Be led by the Spirit and of course, save sex 4 marriage. It only brings chaos.

  • @user-dr3rv8sg6b
    @user-dr3rv8sg6b Před 4 měsíci +24

    As a conservative man I do prefer to at least for a woman to clearly show me clues of her invite for me to persue.

  • @martinmartin6300
    @martinmartin6300 Před 4 měsíci +23

    "When you give him more attention, then he gives you more attention, too ..."
    As a man: Oh that is really true. Sometimes the interest of the man may even be started by the invitation. When a man begins to pay more attention to a specific woman, he often begins to see her inner beauty which he would have missed, otherwise.

  • @hawaiigirl8089
    @hawaiigirl8089 Před rokem +73

    Inviting isn’t assertive or, aggressive. It’s SMILING at the guy, strike up a chat while waiting in line …..give him a chance to respond & be interested

  • @georgiana7857
    @georgiana7857 Před měsícem +16

    It is truly incredible how I learned and applied all of these principles intuitively when I started Salsa social dancing. I never verbally ask men to dance, but I invite them nonverbally to ask me. It feels so much more natural this way, and we are starting off with the right energy. He feels like the man and I feel like the woman. He sees me smiling and making eye contact, but I let him take the lead, come to me, invite and initiate the dance - which later, of course, translates and continues in the act of the dance itself. I keep saying to everyone that dancing is the microexpression of relationships in real life:)) And it also amazes me how you have such a clear way of explaining something I figured out on my own and thought I was one of the few people knowing😂 And the fact that it is all literally rooted in God's word... How blessed we are and how perfectly God created us, only if we learn to see and understand that!

    • @CC-mc9dw
      @CC-mc9dw Před měsícem +1

      What other non verbals do you use?

    • @itsnygeria
      @itsnygeria Před 24 dny

      Yes!! This just happened to me last Sunday while a church.
      Story time!!! If you care 😄:
      A guy that I’ve thought was cute for almost a year but never PURSUED approached me.
      I never approached him #1 because to me personally it felt like pursuing him instead of giving him the chance to do so & simply letting him know (inviting him 😉) it was okay to do so in my body language.
      But, side note, this has taken so long & never happened before because I was getting ready to move to a new state since my family is church planting so I thought there was no point & he knew I was moving & didn’t think there was a point either.. (until he approached me for the first time last Sunday & told me he’s coming & that’s he’s gonna be doing an pastoral apprenticeship under my dad & on our core team 😅😭).
      So, at first after the send off service while I was talking to a friend at our seats, he walked from his chair across the room & past us & just looked at me & said “hey!” for the first time (which I already thought was strange considering we always just smiled awkwardly at one another but never spoke 😭🤣).. so I said hey back & he just kept walking so I continued to talk to my friend & tell her I’ve always thought he was super cute, but I turned around a couple minutes after he walked away & he was standing at the end of my row looking at me 😭😭 at first I wasn’t sure if he was wanting to talk to me or not because there were other people standing around him including my dad & he was looking around as well so I assumed he was waiting around to talk to him or someone else.. anyway, I got super nervous, so I just smiled at him so as to acknowledge him & invite him to speak if he wanted, but he didn’t approach me so I turned back to my friend & just kept talking.. 🤷🏾‍♀️ (that’s how you ladies, lure him in & make him approach you 😉😂) after about another few minutes at the end of another conversation with my friend, I turned around & he was still there so I looked around his area for a couple seconds & then he looked at me again so I made eye contact/smiled at him once me & he immediately got the hint after just a couple seconds, & he approached me 😌

    • @georgiana7857
      @georgiana7857 Před 23 dny +1

      @@itsnygeria yes, exactly, it is literally this simple. Although, when we are very attracted to that person and also a bit shy, it is very difficult to even make that eye contact and smile😅 But I can relate so much to this, personal story time incoming:)))
      There was this guy that caught my attention around my dorm, we were always seeing each other but never saying hi or smiling to each other, until one day when we met twice in the same day, very little time apart. Right then, I had to fight every inch of shyness and awkwardness in my body, I looked deeply into his eyes and kept smiling, almost laughing even - he knew why, so he started cracking a big smile and he finally said hi to me.
      We didn't speak more yet, because we didn't really see each other that much from that moment on, or actually we were never in the right context to do so - somehow we are always on the move, with somewhere to go, no time to stop, when we see each other. But now, when we do, we keep smiling and saying hi to each other, at least😄
      Regardless, I will continue to do my best and do my deepest cutest inviting smiling face everytime I see him, and maybe also stop a little in my feet. I trust that one day he will truly start that proper conversation:))) This chemistry and this unspoken bond has been happening for months between us, and the school year is almost ending so he'd better start that conversation soon, I hope😅, praying for it🙏
      From then on we'll see if he is a good guy or not, but I am really hoping so🥺🙏

    • @itsnygeria
      @itsnygeria Před 23 dny

      @@georgiana7857 this is so cute!!!
      I also haven’t had another conversation with my crush since our first one besides exchanging prayer requests once over text, but hopefully when he gets here in a few weeks we’ll be able to talk & connect more in person! 🤞🏾
      Wishing you the best of luck & would ask the same for myself!! 😅 but either way, God is good & He has a plan for us!!! 🤍

  • @tedschmitt178
    @tedschmitt178 Před 8 měsíci +31

    Mark, as a man, this information is solid gold. If the woman is doing her part as a woman should, it makes it easier on for the man to do his part, and it goes both ways. Women, take note here.

  • @shellyp6451
    @shellyp6451 Před rokem +211

    I have found men are turned off by women who pursue a man. Some see it as aggressive behavior and a sign of desperation.

    • @ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
      @ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger  Před rokem +77

      true, pursuing and inviting are really different

    • @jasoncrowder9106
      @jasoncrowder9106 Před rokem +38

      Exactly. Men are natural born hunters. Don't know too many who like to be hunted.

    • @Dj.D25
      @Dj.D25 Před rokem +23

      I don’t mind being perused too much, as long as it’s not desperate or love bombing.
      One girl in the past dreamed I proposed to her and she thought that was a message from God we would be together. We were just normal friends at the time, she didn’t seem that into me. After that dream, she looked determined to make that dream come true. But she was bipolar, very clingy, constantly wanted to call and talk all day, got jealous of me being with friends and there was plenty of other issues.

    • @blondielocks9642
      @blondielocks9642 Před rokem +2

      Love bombing is a sure sign that the relationship is fake and only a matter of time before it sours.

    • @lykan337
      @lykan337 Před rokem +15

      @@Dj.D25 Its clear to me that dream wasn't God's message for her

  • @aalyyy.
    @aalyyy. Před 9 měsíci +33

    God showed me who my husband is, thank u for this video!!! i don’t want to be throwing myself at him or do anything out of my emotions. Lord guide me 😭

    • @pierced4u636
      @pierced4u636 Před 8 měsíci +5

      How did he show you he is the one?

    • @aalyyy.
      @aalyyy. Před 6 měsíci

      @@pierced4u636 His sheep know His voice. God also comfirms his word with peace and comfirmations so we never stumble or mislead ourselves, He loves us and would never lead us astray or give us a broken promise. when i was having doubt God told me “if it brings you closer to me, it’s from me, if it pulls you away from me, it’s not from me” ❤️❤️❤️❤️ i dont want to get into any details but God gave me way more confirmation than i needed because of all my doubts.. 😂😂

  • @anneyoung2310
    @anneyoung2310 Před 8 měsíci +28

    Men love it when the woman invites him to pursue. I figured this out, as a new Christian, in my late teens. If you are interested, you can and should let him know. As a mature woman, when/if I am interested, it is evident. When I am not, I try to make that equally clear. We treat men we are interested in (romantically) differently than men we are not interested in.

  • @JoannA-sweetly
    @JoannA-sweetly Před 8 měsíci +16

    Also be clear with someone who you are not interested in. One man, I finally had to say, if you keep hanging around, how will I find my husband?

  • @joaniedabalsky6539
    @joaniedabalsky6539 Před rokem +63

    I find it very interesting learning about how a woman's femininity brings out a man's masculinity and vice versa. A beautiful song that really explains that concept well in the lyrics is "The Woman in Me needs the Man in You" by Shania Twain, y'all should give it a listen :)

    • @blondielocks9642
      @blondielocks9642 Před rokem

      Just watched. That song is trash 🤮

    • @mringer9129
      @mringer9129 Před rokem +2

      That song is very much like come to my country I make you a princess 😂

    • @Espina907
      @Espina907 Před 8 měsíci

      Love Shania❤

  • @sagenosnibor9173
    @sagenosnibor9173 Před rokem +50

    Even when I politely decline a guy's offer to take me out. I let him know that I know it took courage and I appreciate it.
    Rejection is scary for both sexes, I get it.

  • @lukewaldock6316
    @lukewaldock6316 Před rokem +114

    Mark, your one of the few people I've heard that are able to explain so clearly where you see the application from biblical principles. A real gift. Also, really appreciate you've done an audio book version of the book - me being dyslexic. Looking forward to reading it.

    • @shellyp6451
      @shellyp6451 Před rokem

      Do you find it difficult dating when you have dyslexia?

    • @lukewaldock6316
      @lukewaldock6316 Před rokem +4

      @shellyp6451 no, only reading books. I'm a slow reader so I'm grateful for audio books especially when read by the writer

    • @ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
      @ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger  Před rokem +10

      My pleasure Luke! God is good!

    • @nicolelang3109
      @nicolelang3109 Před rokem +4

      Haven’t stopped listening for 3 days thank you for sharing your gift

    • @evelyndoughan8643
      @evelyndoughan8643 Před rokem +2

      @@lukewaldock6316 😊 they all come together for our good. Bless you

  • @faradara5310
    @faradara5310 Před rokem +35

    🙋🏾‍♀️ if you scrolled to all the way through the end for the book once he said “the details are in the book chapter 7”👀 Mark your a blessing from God!

  • @bcrowder4958
    @bcrowder4958 Před rokem +14

    It also says he who finds a wife finds a good thing.

  • @GeniaHall-qb2ie
    @GeniaHall-qb2ie Před 3 měsíci +3

    It’s a man’s job to pursue .. it’s too
    Masculine to pursue a guy . I like my femininity. 😊❤️. If he isn’t in pursuing he isn’t into you . Who wants to be with someone who doesn’t desire you enough to pursue you .. ick!

  • @juliegonzales258
    @juliegonzales258 Před 8 měsíci +9

    Question. If men represent Christ in a relationship and the woman, the church. When will men begin to bring peace, heal, provide, die to themselves for the woman? Because these videos (like so many others) sound like the women having even more work and we are not hearing about what the men ought to do. Tbh I am tired (of especially men of God) always requiring more and more and more from women, especially in this day and age when women are already doing so much. Its time to shine the light more on men to be Christ-like, please make some more videos like that!

  • @tamaramichelle4326
    @tamaramichelle4326 Před 8 měsíci +31

    He who finds a wife shall receive favor from the lord!

  • @GabyDee7
    @GabyDee7 Před rokem +45

    Just got my book “Christ Centered Dating”. Looking forward to reading the book and to the chapter that discusses the difference in “pursuing” and “inviting”. Thank you for your dedication in relationship/marriage preparation.

  • @johndel2697
    @johndel2697 Před 3 měsíci +2

    I want this younger woman to be inviting .
    She shows all the signs she is attracted to me

  • @obsidian3406
    @obsidian3406 Před 8 měsíci +3

    I damaged the relationship between me and my future husband bc of unresolved trauma but he led me back to God.

  • @mirtadumancic3956
    @mirtadumancic3956 Před rokem +2

    Thank you Mark for this bonus course!

  • @lindazeisky3845
    @lindazeisky3845 Před rokem

    Thank you! I'm understanding the main concept of your points.

  • @maryl9180
    @maryl9180 Před 10 měsíci +22

    I have gone on dates with at least a dozen men since I healed from 18 year marriage to a narcisist (divorced) a couple of years ago. Every single man showed up for the date with the foregone conclusion that the date would end with sex. Most of them talked about their sexual experience & expectations within the first hour after meeting. I have zero interest in sex with a stranger or any man I am not in a monogamous relationship with. Most of them claimed to be christians wanting a longterm relationship. I am seriously questioning if there is any single man out there with self control. Has dating become a meat market for recreational sex?

    • @anneiconex1473
      @anneiconex1473 Před 5 měsíci +4

      @maryl9180 So true. Questions about sex, sex frequency, and even more private questions. From men that are Christians too.

  • @jasmineestafia
    @jasmineestafia Před rokem +3

    Definitely getting your new book! Yayy! 🎉

  • @desiree4239
    @desiree4239 Před rokem +3

    Yesss. Very Good stuff. Thank you!!!!

  • @daft_j
    @daft_j Před 8 měsíci +3

    I’m scared of inviting a man because my last bf walked away out of the blue and I haven’t seen him since then. Regardless who’s right for me, maybe I need to work on being more secure in myself. My last boyfriend wasn’t, so I gotta be more secure for God and to be inviting to whoever is right for me

  • @ruthc184
    @ruthc184 Před 6 měsíci

    Very good and solid advice! Thanks a lot!

  • @avieee507
    @avieee507 Před 11 měsíci +7

    Mark is really doing the Lord's work. These videos are giving so much clarity and preparation for my future husband

  • @user-bd9uo8dw3j
    @user-bd9uo8dw3j Před rokem +8

    Hi Brother Mark,
    I purchased the new book. Excited to read it. Thank you for sharing your wisdom for all of us. God bless you and your family!

  • @Growninfaith
    @Growninfaith Před 5 měsíci

    Thank you brother Mark!! What a wonderful offering with the purchase of your new book "Christ Centered Dating," the course "The 10 Biblical Steps to Dating" was one of my favorite courses. I can't wait to purchase your new book!!

  • @lubacalculli
    @lubacalculli Před rokem +7

    Wisdom🙏❤ thank you Mark! God bless you for blessing us in writing your book, it is definitely a manual for Christ centered life.

  • @Kim-yz3wi
    @Kim-yz3wi Před rokem +11

    Mark, your videos are so informative. It's such blessing to hear your talks and walk threw God's word for application.

  • @sarahmoorman6936
    @sarahmoorman6936 Před rokem

    Good job!

  • @TheFutureOfMen
    @TheFutureOfMen Před 9 měsíci +1

    I appreciate you Mark.

  • @BlessedbyGrace-rn8hl
    @BlessedbyGrace-rn8hl Před 6 měsíci

    *Through your CZcams channel, you are sowing seeds of faith and hope. May God's presence be with you always, guiding you to impact the lives of countless individuals.*

  • @gequitaroper1531
    @gequitaroper1531 Před 5 měsíci

    Great video

  • @lindaedeh
    @lindaedeh Před 8 měsíci

    Thank you so much Sir

  • @dianaaavula4306
    @dianaaavula4306 Před rokem +8

    Thank you Lord, I will be waiting for you Master still.

  • @sarahmoorman6936
    @sarahmoorman6936 Před rokem

    ‘Complementarian contrast’ lol - I like it

  • @maryakinbami1627
    @maryakinbami1627 Před 7 měsíci

    Love this topick

  • @evelyndoughan8643
    @evelyndoughan8643 Před rokem +1

    God bless you

  • @ThankyouJesusGirl
    @ThankyouJesusGirl Před rokem +5

    What a enlightening message😊. I wonder how to remain a lady of godly integrity when you are actually not interested in a (seemingly) godly man that is pursuing you. May I suggest this as a new video topic?🎉😃

  • @robertnutting4123
    @robertnutting4123 Před rokem +9

    Men and women only become equal scripturally when both are in Christ.

  • @agnesr.4664
    @agnesr.4664 Před rokem +4

    16:30 truth bomb right there.

  • @selenapequeno5399
    @selenapequeno5399 Před 5 měsíci

    This is really good as a woman to know

  • @semolinasemolina8327
    @semolinasemolina8327 Před 8 měsíci +2

    😂❤🎉oh thank god 😂 i just thought ... oh, i honestly dont have the energy to be 'ripe fruit' and imagine the effort of looking nice 😂😂❤🎉 and then you said "im not talking about physical attractiveness here" - phew 😂❤ *carries on with hobbies*

  • @jihyepark9473
    @jihyepark9473 Před 2 měsíci

    The whole video is about differentiating inviting from pursuing. It's interesting to see how some viewers think otherwise.
    If we women are too anxious even to "invite" the least we could do is to be kind to those men that interest us. Ideally, however, let us be kind to everyone including those who pursue us but whom we don't like in return.

  • @artemisia2340
    @artemisia2340 Před rokem

    I love this video. Great job!

  • @roxineus
    @roxineus Před rokem +3

    Doh! It’s 2/23/23….missed the offer DOH!

  • @chaneza
    @chaneza Před 6 měsíci +3

    is calling pursuing? or is it better to text and invite them to call you? how do you know if you're overthinking it?

  • @misslinda772
    @misslinda772 Před rokem +10

    I had a really good looking guy at the office and at my church wink at me. And in all all honesty I didnt know what to do. I just froze!

  • @arthurwilliams5220
    @arthurwilliams5220 Před 8 měsíci +1

    Thank God Almighty for So Supernatural in power from on high God Anointed shall be Blessed Exceeding in the Future with their Holy God Ordained Spiritual Spouses. Sealed by God. praise God Iam Excited for the Future Amen Amen Amen

  • @tracyoguntokun4284
    @tracyoguntokun4284 Před rokem +5

    Amen 🙏❤️🙏✝️

  • @heavenandbrokenthings
    @heavenandbrokenthings Před rokem +23

    Thanks Mark, this is something I've been trying to implement but it's really hard when one is super shy and the guy is very attractive and also shy. I seem to attract shy guys but the problem is two shy people means a lot of strange silence and tension haha. If the guy is confident I generally don't have a problem. And I'm afraid men (shy men who I find very attractive) think I'm playing hard to get when actually I'm just having a heart attack 😅😂. And when I have been confident with shy guys and say hello or start a conversation, the guy completely shut off and never talks to me 🤷🏼‍♀️ and when EVERY Christian single man is shy and passive, there's just no winning. What do I do?

    • @abooga8
      @abooga8 Před rokem +6

      Maybe give the situation some more time, and the man a few mor opportunities to act?

    • @pamelamckenzie5167
      @pamelamckenzie5167 Před 9 měsíci

      This is good stuff

    • @ms.LJones89
      @ms.LJones89 Před 8 měsíci +2

      This guy I met online is very attractive but he's shy and introverted just like I am. I'm starting to really like him. He has a great sense of humor and I love laughing with him. I told him that I'm interested in getting to know him. I told him he's attractive and I want to get to know him better. Did I overstep our friendship boundary? He's in North Carolina while I'm in Illinois but I'd still like to see if we could have a relationship one day. Right now, our conversations are light, witty banter and jokes back and forth but one day I'd like to see if we could actually have a relationship with each other. I'm trying to make sure we build up a solid friendship first. We haven't even video chatted yet but I'd love to do that soon.

    • @murahkami
      @murahkami Před 7 měsíci +1

      @@ms.LJones89Its a good idea to video chat soon and make sure he's not a catfish. There are SO many of those! 🙈

    • @kokoskokso
      @kokoskokso Před 5 měsíci

      ​@@ms.LJones89 have we met the same guy? 😂 NC as well 😅

  • @who4259
    @who4259 Před 7 měsíci

    Amen! 👏👏🙏🙏

  • @damnchilly
    @damnchilly Před 8 měsíci

    Hi mark, I'm wondering if its wise to invite someone i don't know of whether he is a follower of christ or not. Any advice? Thank you 🙏

  • @sarahkennedy1481
    @sarahkennedy1481 Před 8 měsíci +1

    Please do talks re online dating and why mwn chase then go cold and if a woman should ring to enquire why and why Christian men do this.

  • @nappyfries
    @nappyfries Před rokem +9

    What are examples of inviting to pursue? I’m friendly, smile a lot, generally warm & welcoming. Is that it? lol

    • @Shukke1992
      @Shukke1992 Před rokem +1

      Might be,I have a crush at my workplace she always smiles,seems friendly and all but she is like that with everyone,and my workplace is full of men,she is pretty and gets probably a ton of attention so I don't even bother approaching.

    • @Fiona_la22
      @Fiona_la22 Před 8 měsíci +17

      But in my opinion it is a good sign that she is friendly with everyone. That means she is not faking it just to get your attention and being rude to others. Being friendly seems to be in here essence. You should approach her. Maybe every guy things the same way as you and at the end nobody is approaching her actually.
      Give it a try. ☺️

  • @seekingforoo930
    @seekingforoo930 Před 8 měsíci

    🔥

  • @user-nv7se2ff4q
    @user-nv7se2ff4q Před 4 měsíci

    Interesting

  • @wendyhall1449
    @wendyhall1449 Před 5 měsíci

    What if you find out that the guy doesn’t believe things the way you do and he continues to pursue you even when you have repeatedly told him you’re not interested. I have gone no contact and that should be obvious to him that I’m no longer interested in a relationship with him.

  • @withinofwhat1083
    @withinofwhat1083 Před rokem +7

    Take a grain of salt. Some man doesn’t approach cause they might be shy

  • @M.M.49
    @M.M.49 Před 3 měsíci

    Had an encounter while I was in the hospital, how can I give attention without chasing now?

  • @loicen1635
    @loicen1635 Před rokem +7

    Hi Mark! I have a question about praying. Should we still pray even if we feel that God might not answer the prayer? I really need an answer because for the past 2 days I felt like I need to pray about something but deep down I feel like God would say 'no' to the prayer/my question so I haven't prayed. Please help, anyone can feel free to answer as well!

    • @donnasmith1403
      @donnasmith1403 Před rokem +7

      You never go wrong asking for God to reveal His will. But, you do have to be ready to hear something you want isn't His will for you. It really comes down to how submitted to God do you want to be. Being worried He'll say no is a sign you're hesitant about giving up your choice and pursuing God's choice instead.

    • @AmandaLaticia12
      @AmandaLaticia12 Před rokem +1

      Is that even a question? You should put this in your mind that every God’s plan is the best for you.. whether its a "no" or a "yes".. If it’s a no maybe at first you couldn’t even accept His answers but I’m very sure that in the future you’ll understand that it’s the right thing for you.. God bless !

    • @sthiel126
      @sthiel126 Před rokem +2

      My two cents to your honest question are-
      1- Trust. If the answer does end up being 'no' then trust God is expressing his love by saying the hard thing.
      2- Love. Love God regardless, a big way we build trust and affection is by communicating. The way we do this with God is through prayer and revelation. The more of it we do the more this tends to grow. Like Mark says in this videon give your attention. ;)

    • @fuzakali9083
      @fuzakali9083 Před rokem +1

      If you feel deep down God would say no, this is probably your intuition and God is already letting you know the answer. But pray on it and do not deceive yourself

    • @karinafoster6974
      @karinafoster6974 Před 7 měsíci

      Prayer is important. If His answer is no, then He has a reason and is protecting you. If you go and do/say something and you know God wouldn't agree with it, then to me it means you don't trust God. His timing is perfect. He has a plan for all of us. Just because you want Him to say yes and think He will say no, are you really trusting Him or just wanting Him to agree with you?

  • @karinafoster6974
    @karinafoster6974 Před měsícem

    I have shown interest and was going to invite a few different men to pursue me at church. But when i asked around about each man, I found out they were all married or engaged. So I have given up on inviting a man to pursue me. All weren't wearing a wedding ring. So is so frustrating. God is going to have to bless him with the courage to talk to me

    • @kgoropanemokgohloa3205
      @kgoropanemokgohloa3205 Před měsícem +1

      I first met this guy late last year and took a liking in him but I didn't think too much about it. I then met him again earlier this month and I think l really like him for real. We normally meet in groups because we have mutual friends and sometimes when he visits my church. I don't know how I can show him that I like him and I hope he likes me too. We hardly talk for a long time because we are always around people so it's hard for me to tell. He invited me to his church I'm not sure if he was just being friendly or what but I told him I'll go one day. I woul love to visit his church however, since he frequent our church we might cross paths. I told some of my friends that I like him and they encouraged I initiate group outings and invite him but I'm scared.

  • @db4419
    @db4419 Před rokem

    Do we get the course if we buy on kindle too??

  • @isabellaabigailow1478
    @isabellaabigailow1478 Před 11 měsíci

    The description of how to provide attention to a man was quite complicated. I couldn't qt visualise it. I think the explanation for that part could have been simplified. :)

  • @ItsSoarTime
    @ItsSoarTime Před 6 měsíci

    i was taught NOT to be "an invitational Queen." IF God is leading...HE will point out who i am to the man whom He wants to pursue me OR whom He is allowing to pursue me.... i can only think of one biblical example, but i'm going to assume there are more to support my point, that it is GOD who invites the man to pursue the woman HE has pointed out to him. He is the inviter. The story of Boaz... Ruth was minding her own business, NOT inviting Boaz in any way, shape, or form to begin his pursuit of her by approaching her. the approach, in my opinion, is the start of the pursuit. once approached, the female either makes it clear that she is not interested OR she ENCOURAGES the pursuit. no invitation to pursue. ENCOURAGEMENT to continue the pursuit.... what about allllll the other stories in the Bible where so-and-so SAW AND APPROACHED so-and-so while she was minding her own business?? Jacob saw Rachel, approached her and kissed her, right? she did NOT invite him to do that. on the contrary, I WILL WAIT TO BE FOUND BY THE MAN WHOM GOD HAS APPOINTED FOR ME. I WILL WAIT ON THE LORD ... my opinion.

  • @johnnahj343
    @johnnahj343 Před 8 měsíci +2

    Question?...What if a man shows you he is attracted to you and likes you...but does not pursue...how should that be viewed...how should that be responded to? Seeking an answer.

    • @sufficientsostrive
      @sufficientsostrive Před 7 měsíci

      Yes, or how do you invite a man who is “friendly” towards all (sometimes seems like he’s into you but the other girls are thinking the same)?

    • @kto1574
      @kto1574 Před 7 měsíci +1

      Ehh, I got the impression that men like to cast a wide net to see who’s attracted to stroke their ego. If they don’t pursue, then you weren’t their no. 1 choice..
      I’ve been told by male friends they don’t do subtle, and they’re pretty simple-minded. So I wouldn’t overthink anything you think they’re saying or doing if it’s not a straight out pursuit.
      Anyone of the male inclination, feel free to chime in!

  • @emilyagape888
    @emilyagape888 Před rokem

    😞🙏❤️

  • @Butterfly07949
    @Butterfly07949 Před rokem

    I have noticed how different unsaved none toxic woman pursue as apposed to the way Christian woman pursue.
    Christian are on the whole devoid of their unconscious body language for example or pre occupied with their friends that a man is intimidated to approach!

    • @austinroberts6229
      @austinroberts6229 Před 10 měsíci

      I've been burned by Christian women everyone I pursue them. They like me, them I pursue them and then they're gone. I think I need to find a nice atheist women.

  • @ceesevenhundred
    @ceesevenhundred Před rokem +11

    Number five is the pivotal point.
    All I hear as an American multiethnic man is how a woman can do bad all by herself and she doesn’t need a man.
    What makes women think they are needed also? I can change my fire alarm batteries, change the oil in my 750Li, change my tires, lift over three hundred pounds, shoot any target with any of my guns and not miss, work hard for my dollars (C.R.E.A.M.), remain true to the faith and work out my salvation with fear and trembling, and cook and clean for myself.
    This world system, empowered by Lucifer, has lied to the American woman.

    • @Mint-kj9kw
      @Mint-kj9kw Před rokem +5

      When women say they don't need a man....they are specifically talking about finances. I make 6 figures....a lot of my friends do as well. We don't need a man to financially support us. Men need women though more than women need men.

    • @cheryljohnson380
      @cheryljohnson380 Před 9 měsíci

      As a woman I completely agree. Teaching women that a career is better than marriage and children is an outright lie. Especially if it involves sacrificing your unborn to baal. I never bought into feminism or abortion back in the day or even now. To me it's anti feminism.

    • @acs1602
      @acs1602 Před 9 měsíci +3

      ​​@@Mint-kj9kwthat is completely unbiblical and wordly thinking,a son of God cant think like that,we yave different roles,one serves the other and help esch other equally,neither woman or man needs each other more,but all of us NEED THE LORD first,then man and women should be the ideal helper with each other

  • @Strongbear2013
    @Strongbear2013 Před rokem +2

    Should you pursue a woman you like if she never invites you or shows no discernible sign of doing so? Or should you just let that go and forget about her? And what if no woman ever invites you to pursue her? Does that mean you pursue no-one?

    • @kimcarr3741
      @kimcarr3741 Před rokem +10

      If a woman shows no discernible sign of inviting you, I think you should not pursue her. Here's a secret. When you are not getting any encouragement from a woman that means she is not interested. Examples of that would be going out of her way to avoid you, looking the other way etc... When a woman is interested she will put herself in your way and find ways to be around you try to talk to you and she may even get downright silly/flirty if she likes you already to give you some encouragement. In answer to your last two questions keep trying because since you desire to be in a relationship there IS someone out there who would love to be with someone like you.

    • @donnaspitler9911
      @donnaspitler9911 Před 10 měsíci +5

      I would continue to smile with eye contact and say hi !! She may be slow to realize you notice her.
      I noticed a guy around my neighborhood and he would do this and it took awhile for me to catch on even though I was already attracted to him since I seen him this summer. I hope he will stop and talk with me. Good luck if this is still relevant or for in the future 😇💞

  • @maknae4120
    @maknae4120 Před rokem

    3:11

  • @leigholding1397
    @leigholding1397 Před rokem +4

    I don't pursue cause I have no women in my life. Most at church want sin. And the word of faith movement church doesn't teach about sin. So I'm single, actually coming back home to a nice Baptist church, middle sensible scripture teaching church. I'm 44 and out of the sexual market. So I just shrug 🤷‍♂️ my shoulders at women because all they want is to lye down with me.

    • @catherineidenyi783
      @catherineidenyi783 Před 8 měsíci +6

      Not all women want to lie with you. There'd be a woman who genuinely loves you without wanting to lie with you before marriage.

  • @5566Yan
    @5566Yan Před rokem

    Email please

  • @lykan337
    @lykan337 Před rokem +1

    How is woman being inviting biblical tho?

    • @SunnyTeLight1
      @SunnyTeLight1 Před 8 měsíci

      Read the story of how Isaac and Rebecca got together.

  • @shelbymichaels
    @shelbymichaels Před rokem

    What if there was prophecy spoken over your life about you being with someone and you sinned while you with some else, now you don't want the guy thats pursuing you, you neglect him because you feel bad about your passed and you never get healed from you passed relationship, what do you do then, just leave him alone?

    • @ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
      @ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger  Před rokem +19

      prophecy that doesn't come true was not of God

    • @hadassaheritage
      @hadassaheritage Před rokem

      This is a bit more complex than a "how to" can answer. You said you feel bad; how would you describe this feeling? Is it towards yourself, towards him? If you feel that you can not show your true self (good, bad, and ugly) to this person but rather a version of yourself, are they really of God?
      Always, always, always test the spirits. The prophecy may be true, it may not be. God's Word is clear and restorative. I've had several "prophecies" over me about certain people I would marry 👀🦗🦗 I am happily married to Jesus Christ only 😂
      If you have unresolved feelings about your past, I would say take that to God first before entertaining any potential relationship. The Lord will wipe every blemish off, however we must seek Him and repent, renounce, and reconcile all things that do not honor God. The Lord loves you as you are, and He will not send you anything or anyone half-baked, or vice versa. Be at peace in the sanctification process and let Him do a new thing in YOU

  • @alexryan9869
    @alexryan9869 Před 5 měsíci

    Women should show a man she’s interested but in this day and time of hookup culture. Well he doesn’t know where she is coming from and what is her body count.

  • @forgotknot
    @forgotknot Před 7 měsíci

    Some time Jesus leads women to invite a guy to pursue yet timing things in off ...

  • @BBFLYRISEN
    @BBFLYRISEN Před 4 měsíci

    Or, more simply put… Adam did NOT pursue Eve. He was ASLEEP. God brought her to him, he liked what had been presented to him and he chose to keep her. So ladies present yourselves to someone you’re interested in. 🤷🏿‍♀️. And YES show him your physical best. The Bible says GOD considers the heart but MANKInD looks on the flesh.

  • @manseth2811
    @manseth2811 Před rokem

    Please is your name Mapagas or Ballenger?

    • @mringer9129
      @mringer9129 Před rokem

      Obviously Ballanger is an alias. Most people who work in the public use them. Think about it, would you want some psycho showing up at your front door?

    • @blondielocks9642
      @blondielocks9642 Před rokem

      His real name is probably Santucci lol.

  • @sensorysweetheart
    @sensorysweetheart Před 7 měsíci

    Offering a poem is considered "forward" or "pursuing." Poetry is how I process information. *SIGH* It's not love.

  • @carlaalegria3658
    @carlaalegria3658 Před rokem +11

    Man this days are too lazy to persue, even if you're inviting or try to make conversation, nobody wants to make the effort to get to know you.

    • @portallama
      @portallama Před rokem +6

      Then they aren’t the one

    • @abooga8
      @abooga8 Před 9 měsíci

      @@QuentinSanders-vw5yy exactly.

    • @carlaalegria3658
      @carlaalegria3658 Před 9 měsíci +1

      @@QuentinSanders-vw5yy I'm constantly pursued by non Christian, and I'm not interested in them.

    • @carlaalegria3658
      @carlaalegria3658 Před 9 měsíci +1

      @@QuentinSanders-vw5yy why are you assuming I'm not going to church enough? You don't even know the population at my church or anything about me🙄 , I'm sorry but if I'm saying that some man are lazy is because I've met them, even at church.

    • @abooga8
      @abooga8 Před 9 měsíci

      @@carlaalegria3658 so there are no men at your church? Or they are not pursuing you?

  • @EdwardEstacado
    @EdwardEstacado Před rokem +1

    I wanna date again 29 yr man anyone know any Christian dating sites that are useful 😅😅😅

    • @Bennysol
      @Bennysol Před rokem

      If you're in a western country either get a passport or hang it up

    • @ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
      @ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger  Před rokem +11

      Use paid sites for sure. Ultimately it's not about how you meet it's about who you meet

    • @EdwardEstacado
      @EdwardEstacado Před rokem

      @@Bennysol hang what up? A passport? I do hate flying 😔😔😔

    • @hadassaheritage
      @hadassaheritage Před rokem +8

      Trust Him to write your story

    • @lisab5619
      @lisab5619 Před rokem +12

      Stay away from dating sites. I found even Christian mingle didn't have true Christians. Best way to find a mate is church, get involved in groups, volunteering, being Gods servents, Those are the good people.

  • @MikeJones-or1tu
    @MikeJones-or1tu Před 7 měsíci

    Chase women and waste your time... ( I don't think so ) sorry...not me...

  • @ellaaa4480
    @ellaaa4480 Před rokem +1

    This humbled me so much.... I feel so incredibly convicted by the Holy Spirit right now. Thank you so much for this video