I Was Married To A Monster For 30 Years
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- čas přidán 23. 08. 2024
- Join us in this episode as our guest Karen DeArmond Gardner recounts the time she was married to a violent husband for 30 years. Karen shares her journey and how her partner turned into a monster in front of her eyes.
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Married 23 years to my abuser but secretly planning my escape, pray for me please
Praying for you!!
Persevering in Prayers Psalms 1-150👍🇯🇲👋🤲🙏👑
Praying for you!
Delete this comment and keep your mouth shut. Good luck!
Prayers
I don’t know. I left my husband after 6 months of marriage. I was pregnant and left all my personal possessions behind. I didn’t want my daughter to witness abuse. Nothing mattered except my freedom and my daughter. 25 years later I have never married again. My last relationship proved to me that I’d rather be on my own. I’ve chosen to remain single. I’m alone but not lonely. It’s a very peaceful life. This is my story.
Your story is many a woman's story, thankyou
It is so very important for women to be economically independent...
You are very brave
Good for you! I grew up in an abusive household and I’ll NEVER UNDERSTAND why women stay when they don’t have to. The effect it has on kids never goes away.
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I'd like to bring to light that being a child of an abuser is just as difficult for many, too.
It taught me exactly what I WASNT GOING TO HAVE IN MY LIFE. my own father showed me what my future was NEVER going to look like.
I pray my adult daughter learns this too.
44 and still have flashbacks.
Thank you. This share is more powerful and helpful than you know - to other children growing up in abuse as well for mothers strategizing their escape.
Absolutely Darlin!! I came from abuse & married abuse & left abuse. Children have no choice! You have my heart!!!
Wow... I must say she looks great for 70. I thought about she was about 55.
I'm 35. Half way to 70. I'm not aging well. She is stunning and should be proud
same
Not just looks, the way she speaks sounds way younger.
Yes she's lovely 🌹
You must be very young to think this lady looks 55 :D She looks 60-65, sure. 55? no.
You're 70!? You're Absolutely Stunning! ❤
Wait what??? She's 70?? No maybe 50s but dang sure ain't no 70. I was just gonna comment how pretty she is I was trying not to get distracted listening to her story.
Ok so I double checked the video this is crazy she really is 70 wow. I would have said 55 my gosh. 😮😮😮😮
She's gorgeous 😍
I said the same she looks amazing
I came here to say that! Her skin is not 70! She must have never gone outdoors
I was married to an entitled brat cops kid. It took years to heal from. The abuse was death. Im alive again & escaped. Thank U God.
Thank God you got away!
Same here. His dad was a detective.
Grateful you got away. These abusers are monsters.
Grateful you got away. These abusers are monsters.
Grateful you got away. These abusers are monsters.
Can't believe what I am hearing! I lived with this horror for 50 years. I feel like such a stupid idiot. I identify with all of this. It can destroy you in so many ways. I was 70 years old when I finally left. Threatened to kill me me many times. Such a sad life. I wish could talk to you. Everything you're saying is what I lived. Thank you for sharing and this video! ❤❤❤❤
Me too. I got out after 10. Proud of you.
Your very lucky you got out, thank God you did. ✨🙏
You were not a stupid idiot, you were trusting😢😢
You were not stupid people don't understand the pattern of an abuser they actually brainwash you that's part of their control
Yes, I realized I had to forgive my (idiot) self before I could feel healed. I am so not yet healed. 🙏🏼
May all women in abusive relationships get the strength to leave. I pray for complete healing and restoration in all areas of your lives. 🙏🏽
You sound like a wonderful and caring person. God Bless You.
What about MEN in abusive relationships?
He sounds like a real saddist. I am so sorry you had to go through that. You deserve a beautiful life.
The babysitter for my handicapped daughter took this type of abuse from her husband for the better part of 35 years. He, too, would lock her out of the house, he expected to take care of HIS grandchildren, children of an incarcerated mother and deadbeat. Kelly was in constant misery. She died a couple of years ago. That angel of a woman died from cancer, but her death was slow. This should not happen to women!!
:(
He probably caused the big C as well. Long periods of stress can cause all kinds of havoc to the body, including inflammation, which could eventually lead to autoimmune diseases and cancer 😢
Bawlin my eyes out, she deserved so much better. Oh God l can't stop crying for her 😢
I'm so sorry to hear this. Awful.
Oh my so so sad I hope she's resting in peace now 😢😢
My mom says "Better alone than with a jackass!" She described Dad perfectly!
Both my parents are jackasses😮
I walked away after 45years of marriage. Two years after marriage when we had our twin daughters he became a monster because he was not getting the love he expected after the children was born. Evil evi and evil.
So you put your daughters through a life in an abusive home? SHAME ON YOU! Unless you live in a third world country, you have zero excuse for staying and letting your daughter witness an abusive husband and father. I grew up in an abusive home too and I clearly remember one night while my “dad” was beating the sh*t out of my step mother, thinking to myself “no way in hell will I ever stay with a man that hits me.” Lo and behold! I married an abuser! I made a plan and took my 2 YO and got the hell out of there and NEVER LOOKED BACK. No child should have to line like that.
How dare you throw Shame on her!
@@mariacarmelo8958 Proud of you. My mother not only stayed in a marriage where both of us were emotionally abused but she stayed married until the day he died because she wanted to get everything in the will. Then she turned her attention not to working on her broken relationship with me her daughter but on finding herself a new husband. My father was almost 80 when he died and my mother took off and remarried 5 years later.
Domestic violence It's actually, verbal abuse, hitting you putting you down, taking away your things, everything
I've been divorced for 15 years, he divorced me, and every day I still realize just how much he did abuse me. Emotionally and financially. I felt like I was nothing! There are still trigger for me to this day.
I get it. Sometimes God provides your salvation by your abuser leaving you. Best thing to ever happen to me and going completely no contact.
So glad you’re enjoying your life now. I endured very similar abuse for 17yrs. They make sure you lose every bit of confidence in yourself, until you’re at your absolute lowest. You only realise once you get out, that you are none of the things they told you.
Be happy & thrive!
Same. I was divorced 15 years, too. Remarried when my girls were 15, 16, and 17.
I give Karen DeArmond Gardner all the credit in the world for her courage in exposing the evil that she experienced!
You look fabulous for age 70. I'm so glad you got out of that toxic marriage and now you're rebuilding a life for yourself. You go girl 👍
AMEN! Been in the same place. Also 70. Divorced 8 years now and I thought I had to stay because God didn't like it. It was all a secret. I'm always working on the healing.
I'm only 3 mins in & im already in tears at the cruelty. I'm so sorry this happened to you😢 Psychological cruelty is so hard because the scars aren't visible.
I have goose bumps. I love how she acknowledges how God love us more than he hates divorce. I can’t imagine how horrible her life was during that time. May God continue to bless you and guide you to help other women
Thank you for this! You have helped many women!
Well I'm learning that now I used to think God don't like divorce so I stayed. Just got my divorce it took 3yrs cause I couldn't afford a lawyer
@@taisha9143congratulations.. sending you hugs ❤
Leaving is hard, but staying is harder.
Am so proud of you. For walking away from that abusive situation.
Its the forgiveness for yourself that's the hardest in healing
Yes, you're right! I have to remind myself that I simply didn't know what was happening...that I was in the clutches of the son of Satan.
I divorced the person who became abusive on year 22 out of 25 of being together. His behavior shocked the hell out of me. Looking back there were subtle digs that I used to ignore. The moment when someone puts their hands on another is the time to leave and never look back. My life also started over at age 50!!! Stay strong 💪
Do not tell him that you are leaving , just act normal and have a plan, sending love to you!
I agree! Some damaged people love to see reactions for validation. Very sad.
absolutely so. I learned this the hard way. thought we would discuss the issue of leaving him and staying amicable, as in an amicable divorce. little did I know then, that I would be punished emotionally in the most hostile and evil way. his endeavours to assassinate my character in the eyes of our children and whoever else has become more pronounced. eventually, we both got public housing separately and I am experiencing a kind of post-traumatic stress at times, still, I cherish my freedom, hopefully aging backwards as one described her experience, which you can see if you scroll back.
Well said
I understand your pain. I’m glad you’re away from that evil thing. I am getting ready after 4 decades.
Stand strong, Sweetie. There is LIFE after divorce! I'm living proof of that. To me the most important thing is to work on healing as soon as you can. This sets you so free. The Lord bless you and keep you 🙏
disgusting ...man..
I was raised by a mother who always said “never let a man hit you”. I left a relationship because I knew he would’ve abused me. My mother was abusive to me and always denied it. She would pick at me until I’d say something and that gave her permission to start hitting me. I learned to never treat my children the way she treated me. At age 15 she found someone to marry her and she left. My 19 year old sister then took over raising me.
You are so courageous. I've also been in a 33 year awful marriage. I wish I left years ago. I also made excuses. We separated at the beginning of the pandemic, but he's not divorcing me. A control freak still trying to mess up my life. Your testimony has encouraged me. Thank you
I had exactly the same marriage with my ex husband, moving far away from my family, verbal abuse, yes not been allowed to drive, ignoring me when he came into the house, would not allow me to visit my family, was married 14 years and it was enough.
Did anyone else age backwards when they left the narcisst?
Yes
Me!!!
Yes
Yes. Why is that. Maybe all the things, days moments that got stolen from you….yiu are ready to relive! I am doing this now….finally left 27 yrs of hell, starting over
Yep and gained a healthy amount of weight. I was anorexic and balding. Now I have a head full of hair and look healthy. He was draining the life out of me.
I know what you are going thru. I also secretly planned my escape. It was terrifying but once I left I became strong and stronger. BEST decision I ever made.
It doesn't matter how much you care for the abuser and believe your love will change them ,it will not .
Yes, the person’s unconditional love does not change or repair the abuser. Very true
I just ordered your book. I was in an abusive marriage, to a pastor for 50 year. It was so hard to leave, one year ago at the age of 72. It wasn't physical abuse, but as damaging! Learning to trust again is so hard. Thanks for sharing your story.
Are you still able to trust Jesus?
You Made it very brave
‘’Abuse deforms what we know about God.’’ Profound words.
That so resonates!
This is exactly what I’ve been struggling with lately. I feel like Gods mad at me or disappointed in me, for being angry at him, angry at everything. Not knowing what to do!
I feel like I disconnected from myself, my kids and God, and I’m trying to figure out how to pull myself back together. Just a few days ago I found out that I’ve got these health problems. I feel like, yelling at God, Why!? Why do you think I can take even more!!???
But I don’t want to be angry or feel angry, it is miserable.
Yesterday I was so overwhelmed and depressed with ever, I literally, slept most the day and night and took a nap today. I NEVER sleep that long. I’m feeling a little better, but I’m still so worried.
When I’m at my wits end I turn to God/Jesus. Now I’m too angry too. But, I did pray last night and I still feel distant.
Any good advice!?
@@dsmusicbird puedes seguir acercándote a Dios, a Jesucristo. Yo también viví muchos años en una familia con padre psicópata integrado y hermanos narcisistas, tengo estrés post tramático, me estoy recuperando poco a poco. Los primeros años sentía lo que tú sientes, sentía mucha cólera y le reclamaba todo a Dios, lo culpaba de mi dolor. Yo te entiendo. Sin embargo, acercarme a Dios me ha ayudado a sanar mis heridas emocionales. Yo veo muchos videos cristianos en CZcams y sigo canales de pastores cristianos que hablan en español, pero sé que en inglés hay pastores que pueden guiarte. Recuerdo en este instante uno que se llama Vlad Savchuk, es ucraniano y tiene prédicas en inglés. Yo oro por ti y te abrazo a la distancia, superaras el dolor como yo lo estoy logrando. Dios te acompaña, El te restaure y te bendiga con su amor incondicional y eterno.
My pastor recently said something during a sermon. After almost 42 years HOW he said “it wasn’t your fault” finally sunk in. He said “some of you have been abused but it wasn’t your fault. Someone committed a sin AGAINST you….” I never viewed it like that. I spent my life wondering why God hated me. Flipping it around and knowing that it really wasn’t my fault - it was a sin committed against me. God never hated me. Always loved. Romans 8:38
@@dsmusicbirdI responded to you above but forgot to “reply to you” ❤
One thing it took me way longer to learn than it should have: If they break your stuff, they'll physically assault you as well.
I cried when I listened to your story. You're a beautiful soul woman 😢
My mother accidentally broken an ash tray, my dad beat my mother up the stairs with his belt, and locked her in the bedroom.
He came back down, and shouted at my brother and i to shut up, stop crying or hed give us something ti cry about.
We both went numb, from that day on, never showing emotion, everytime he was violent, i was 2 and ahalf, my brother was one and a half. Later in lufe my brother took his own life
He literally killed 😢
😭😭😭
Oh my word. I’m so sorry for your loss. I really hope and pray that you are healing the best way you can may I ask happened to your mom did she get away?
The Owl Hawk....Blessings to You FOREVER...live well & Love inspite of what you lived thru. You are Worthy. You are valuable ...You are the Daughter of the Most High God. Believe it! So sorry about the previous Brother. RIP Son🙏💕
I’m so sorry to hear what you, your mom and brother went through. I pray your brother is at peace.
Your father will pay when he meets his maker. Don’t worry about that.
I was in marriage of 30 years with an abusive man, I understand every thing you are talking about. People ask why a person stays , it is called Trama bond! Even trips to store are Trama , being at work getting threats and mental games texting.I was 50 when I started over and career. I still at 53 can’t imagine another relationship! I’m still healing!After 25 years of becoming this stranger who took his crap I didn’t know to be myself..Your story brought tears to my eyes because you feel like you where the only one living such hell and it makes me sad others lived what you lived😢
It took 2 years to get over the marriage when u have been with the abuser for 20 years but God is good, I am healed, delivered and got married to a wonderful husband at 59 years old and I am 67 years old now. The Lord sure redeem my time, I am bless and we travel around the world.
Yes, the trauma bond. I read that the woman usually leaves (and returns) an average of 7 times. And that's exactly how many times I left before not going back to him. My peace and joy were immeasurable when I left.
Yes, trauma bond is right. The cycle of abuse gets us addicted and it is like a drug. The hope of them being in a good mood and being kind and loving and then in a split second they switch (Jekyll & Hyde) and are hateful and make us feel like we did something wrong.
I am now 49 and supporting myself and my youngest daughter the first time in my life have been no contact for 18months. Awaiting trial date for divorce in Aug 23 after Aug 19 marks 29 years of marriage. The hope that they will change and turn their hearts back to the Lord is what kept me staying and praying for 27years. I guess that’s enough wasted time spent if it didn’t happen in that time, it most likely won’t happen at all 😢
I'm so proud of you for leaving! This brought up so many bad memories for me hearing your story. But I'm so greatful I finally left. 8 years of abuse felt like an entire lifetime. I'm so happy now, I still get flashbacks often and it's been 5 years ago. My hope for anyone who is being abused is that they figure out they are absolutely worth more. Please make a plan and leave. No one deserves being abused. Thanks for sharing your story!❤
Oh Wow! You did the same as I and at the same age. I ran to Texas also! I was married for 31 years, not in love, questioned if I was being abused, had no one to talk to, was so trapped and didn't realize it. I was alienated from my "bad" family. I have been in Texas for 20 years dancing 15ft above the ground since I left him in secret.
Crying at your story. You are brave. I was abused for yrs.,
& starting over years ago has been a struggle. I love God and he has been my husbandman ever since.
I understand this. I was married to a monster for almost 5 years. He pulled me out of the shower and threw me outside naked. I used to hide in the bathroom from him. He broke a window trying to get at me. So many bad memories. A solid 5 years of hell. I left. He denies the abuse to this day.
Good you Made it out
These people are pure evil. I am divorced from mine. Thankfully the abuse lasted 2 months, of course episodic. Can't stand him
I graduated from marriage at 24 never to return here I am 56 , single. A partner maybe but marrying someone? The idea fills me with fear
I left at 24, married for 5 years……I’m now 77…….I could never get up the courage to marry again. The only place I have ever found peace has been when I’m alone in my apartment. Sometimes I just turn everything off….tv…radio…..and just enjoy the peace!
Same. In fact, when I hear anyone got engaged all I feel is anxiety for them.
I am 73years old and.i found Jesus and.i am.now in.ministry helping other people. I experienced all of this too..
What kind of god would allow this to happen? You did it to yourself. Own that.
@mia795
God does not allow abuse. We live in a fallen world. But what a nasty little person you are. No one does abuse to themselves.
@@mia795 it's God not god . Stop blaming God for your wickedness and other humans wickedness
@@kristenb5177 totalmente de acuerdo contigo.
@@kristenb5177totalmente de acuerdo contigo. ❤
I was married to an abusive PO also and I truly believe that most of them are abusive, but my brother was a PO also and he is one of the best men I have ever known.
Yes but do you live with your brother? Its entirely possible he is a good guy though
Policing attracts heroes and monsters.
I'm so sorry you went through this ma'am❤❤❤ I'm currently in an very unhappy marriage. The hard part is leaving. Hopefully one day i will be happy because right now i am very unhappy in my situation. I am broken mentally as well as emotionally. Just praying for better days 🙏🏽
I'm sorry the hard part is leaving, staying should be harder. I stayed 14 years not physical abuse, but financially unfair and a bully. This is why mother's tell their daughters to work. Those women who have good partners are truly blessed
Maybe you could find some support at shelters or family help centres in or outside your area? They are really good at keeping everything confidential for your own safety. They can help you figure out all your options and work out an exit plan if you decide to leave. They understand that abuse doesn't necessarily have to be physical, and it can be more financial, mental, threats, etc. I hope you wake up happier one day. Best of luck.
Give yourself a goal date, and gradually build up to it. Also try connecting with the universe. Picture a bright beautiful life when you leave him. It will be hard at first but do it every day, a little at a time.
When you do decide to leave, please do not tell him. That is the most dangerous time for you because they are now losing the control they have over you. Also when you do leave, never meet up with him one more time or at anytime afterwards because again that will be very dangerous for you...keep safe.
She look amazing. Glad she is ok. The part where she said she started a career at 50 was inspiring. 💜❤️💚♥️🧡
It's never too late to start a career for yourself 😊
35 years and he still finds ways to destroy me 42 years later
You are incredibly strong, brave, and beautiful. I am so happy you rescued yourself from torture. I hope you continue to have a wonderful life.
Marriage for 20 years , from 20 to 40 walked out with two teenagers moved out of state and left everything , the good thing was I had my own small business . I moved into there first to get things in order , sold my business and never looked back😄🌅🙏🏼
Wow… for me, at first, it was not leaving the radio station in the car on country music. Not putting the seat back where he wanted it. I had to explain everything on the grocery receipt. Then, he actually wanted me to work in a pizza restaurant. It was actually great to get away from home. But it was on his mail route and I finally understood. He could keep up with everything I did, along with picking up my check from my employer that he had gotten close to. There was only one escape. I got away with my two Daughters. They were so happy. Even their teachers asked why they were so much happier. I know I did the right thing. But now they won’t have anything to do with me. He has manipulated them and I don’t know what to do. Sometimes doing the right thing doesn’t seem like a win. But the fact that we’re all still alive is proof that I did the right thing. I can only hope that someday, they’ll understand. Until then, I’m holding my breath.
I sincerely hope you will get the strength to leave that abusing partner. As I understand from what I have learned is that the situation will escalate and you will become more anxious and depressed, your life is worth more. As your daughter’s life. Best wishes from Sweden 🇸🇪
Just let go. Maybe they'll come around, maybe they won't. You have yourself. My daughter hasn't talked to me in 5 years. We were once very close. The abusive relationship with her father has driven a wedge between us. He passed away in 2022.
Thank you for your testimony!
Thank you for helping these women. I escaped after 20 years.. Free since 2022!
Good for you girl.
I was married to a NARCISSE 47 years!!!14 years a Widow, I have my Peace in CHrist Jesus!!! HALLELUJAH🎉🕊🎉MB
Sounds like a narcissist
Yes ..
A typical textbook one at that. Been there. Smh.
I went thru it more than once thru the 80 s
You must be a psychiatrist 😅
Most definitely
So typical. The gradual escalation of abuse.
She STILL cannot say "I", she says "YOU" as if I was the one married to this man. It's great she is helping others.
Ive lived this.....Im a Survivor too ,over twenty years of torture and misery with that Evil Monster😴😪
Im out of Jail now ,so happy you lived to tell us your story ❤❤❤
Studies show now that these Sociopaths cannot be fixed or change so the ONLY thing that works is No Contact
I’m so sorry that you endured so much abuse. Thank you for sharing and I hope you’re living your best life.
I'm 52, starting my life over. Your testimony has helped me so much. Thank you, you've said everything i needed to hear, i cant tell you how much i relate...knowing what is real, thats exactly where im stuck ❤
So glad you were able to get out of the abusive marriage because the longer we stay in a relationship/marriage the more time it takes to walk out.
I feel bad that it took so long for this woman to leave this monster.
He sounds like my ex bf.. he was such a narcissist 😣 thank u for telling us your story.. your brave and soo beautiful ❤
These cases seem to be proliferating. I worked with a Laotian man who had five children. He was a thorough professional. I left that job in the early 80s. I forgot all about him...until I saw his picture in the news. One of his daughters was murdered by her obsessive boyfriend, who had followed her all the way to Maryland (from Stockton, CA) to escape him. She was barely 19 yo. How helpless the family must have felt through this nightmare.
Beautiful to hear of survivorship.
Your message is so strong! Thank you for sharing. I was going through domestic abuse, trying to come to terms with leaving my husband. Sitting in church, the priest said “God does not want you to be unhappy. I filed for divorce the next day.
70!!! 😮 you look amazing!!!
My Best Friend left her emotionally abusive husband. In therapy, she wrote a letter to explain why she wanted sole custody of the children. She had me read it. I told her I was so sorry. I had no clue just how bad it was. She said she honestly didn't know how bad it was either.
He killed her a couple of weeks later.
So sorry you lost your friend
@@kaylanewton4741 thank you.
Oh my God, that's hearbreaking.
So awfully sorry 😢
so sorry
Sounds just like my step father. As I got older I helped my mom fight him
It still took her over 20 years to leave
You are awesome. Loved this video. You went through a life of hell. I am sorry that happened to you.
I want to spend, what’s left of my life,in a new place and away from this house which holds many many negative memories.
He only hit me a couple times, but abused me emotionally with the silent treatment for years and something negative and nasty everyday. Only by the grace of God am still “okay.”
lots of love to you
I’m so sorry for you. Your poor kids growing up in this mess.
I'm glad you got out with your health, sanity, life, and children.
You are so courageous. I was married 26 years, my ex husband was an alcoholic but in denial. His behaviour was horrid the name calling hurt the most. My happiness is more important thank anything. Thank you for sharing.
I left an abusive marriage after 18 years of marriage by time I left he had psychologically turned my teenage children against me I left everything behind it's now nearly 20 years down the line I lost my children when I left when they were teenagers and haven't seen my kids or met my grandkids because of the situation
❤❤❤❤🎉
Today I feel ashamed for standing so much abuse as I did for 25 years. He tried to destroy my face and I still have those marks which didn’t let me forget all along. He died because he was an alcoholic but before, he went down the hill for the sale reason. When he died, I got very sad out of pity for what he also had done to himself...😮
Thank you so much for sharing your story Beautiful lady ❤❤
I can completely understand her!! I use to burn to where there was blisters and cut until there were small pools of blood. I did this for a few reasons. There's time I felt numb i would hurt myself to feel the pain, so I can feel like I am real, when a person that was close to me hurt me to where I wanted to hurt them, I would physically hurt myself instead and I hurt myself because I have no one and I'm worthless, so I would punish myself. I was abused, sexually, mentally and physically since age 4. It was done by family, foster care and then by men when I became an adult. So I can really relate and understand her from the bottom of my soul..thank you for sharing your story. I know there's people that's been through this or more. It still felt like it only happened to me.
I pray you found your peace and happiness ,thank God you found life and a rebirth again 🙏
They always get nice after they step over line. But they always go back to their evil ways. Never give them a pass because they can be nice at times. They always revert back to ALWAYS
I am only a couple of minutes in and everything you describe from being an emotionally, physically abusive cop to seeing my beloved family members STILl under his control.
Who I speak of is my brother-in-law, which I barely associate the scum with that title.
Over 30 years and my sister is still married to him and I wish she seen the light.
I left at 17 after being under their guardianship for many of my teen years due to some family tragedies, to which he never allowed me to grieve.
It was Hell but I am so glad to be free from his wrath for the past two decades, and creating a life for myself without being under this monster-in-law's mercy.
I only wish my sister and nieces could break away too.
I salute the women who were able to get out and overcome domestic abuse❤
I hid my husband’s abuse too. I felt ashamed. I was trying to do my best for our youngest son who was 15 when he finally left me for an internet girlfriend who would drink with him. I was released from the hell I had been living in for 30 years. Unfortunately, he had drained all our assets & put our home in foreclosure. I was able to save the house & am doing well. The only pain I have is that my daughter has been convinced by her father to hate me. My sons are supportive.
Thank you so much for sharing your testimony. I am glad that you are safe now.
Wow her words towards the end was so beautiful
Praying for your safety, courage and a peaceful heart.
My story is similar to yours it’s unbelievable. Every thing you said was so much what my horrible marriage was like. Sadly I was with him for almost 42 years. Thankfully I was miraculously rescued out of my prison March in 2023!! I’m glad you can say your story. My husband also claimed to be a Christian.
Now I’m truly a Born Again Christian and God freed from my heart of sin my worst prison, and the physical prison of our home, within 2 months. My story is so similar it’s amazing!!
I'm Glad You finally got strong and Left. sometimes it takes 30 years to wake up😵💫
left my ex 3 times women in my family talked me out of it. finally left.23 years
I left my ex boyfriend while living in Texas. I drove cross country to where I was from in Wisconsin. I knew I had to drive far so I wouldn't go back 😊 aside of leaving my ex husband after 25 years leaving my ex boyfriend was definitely one of most important things I've ever done
Oh my gosh this gives me the courage because I am living in a terrible place where a man who decided he will never get old and is as we all will is in a mental hell state and it's all my fault he got old. so happy you are free and you look amazing. I have courage now to move forward. hugs
Please......dint. tell anyone your plan to leave..........for your own safety..........get all legal papers together....birth certificates... bank statements....spare house keys. Car keys...phone numbers.....everything in one place...You and only You. Will KNOW TO GRAB and go
@@janetamplin7318 thank you very much
Thankyou for sharing your story. This certainly hit a few chords. What a wonderful woman you are for shining your light and supporting other women who have had to experience abuse x
I am single. I had this kind of feeling and emotion when I was in a relationship. It's not always a romantic relationship. I was aksing my self, "Is this love? Is this a punishment for my sins? Am I too sensitive?" I did not always trust my feelings. I numbed it down. I am still confused by now. I want to just be gone to a place where no one knows me. But it's not that simple. Many responsibilities I can think of. Sometimes I feel so lonely. But, I know that for now I am better be alone. Thank you for your sharing.
As a survivor of an abusive marriage too, I learned his “nice “ behaviour wasn’t evidence of a changed man but a facet of the abuse , it’s really just an advanced form of manipulation used to create confusion and stop you from leaving.
That's the truest thing I've ever heard re: abuse. Not everyone understands this.
Spot on....the nice mask
Auditing law enforcement, dealing with PD all the time, this unfortunately does not surprise me. I have one of any police Chiefs in Idaho that think they are above the law. They also let thier cops believe they are above the law as well.
Theres a saying cos don't t become psychopaths, Psychopaths become cops.
Im thankful you speaking out. God bless you. Keep advocating.
We know so much more about the signs to look for with someone that you are dating. Her first mistake was marry someone after only 2 1/2 months and he started isolating her from her family.
I married mine after 7 years of dating. He could be ornery and grumpy at the drop of a hat, but overall a decent guy. After we had a baby was when he became truly cruel because he knew he had me trapped (I didn’t want to see my son only half the time). Abusers use you as an emotional punching bag.
I here you loud n clear. 33 yrs for me. I'm so happy n free now! God bless you there is life out there!!!! ❤❤❤️🙏
Thank you so much for this video! You have just helped so many women| men. I am a survivor!! Watching from Isle of Wight in uk 🇬🇧 xxxx
Stay strong!💪 I am interested to hear your story. I am do happy you got away ❤
Thank you for sharing your story ❤❤❤❤
Your book is INCREDIBLE!!!!! It’s the best book I’ve read - I’m over 3 years NC and wondered if I could ever be free of the rumination and this book is already the answer I’ve been looking for! Fabulous! Thanks so much
Thank you so much for this....
Sounds exactly what happened to me except I escaped after 5 years and that was 34 years ago… we share a daughter and he came to stay with her for a while and I had to face him just recently and the sad thing is he is such a coward!! He hasn’t grown at all!! He still blames me for everything wrong in his life and it just is sad. Sad that he couldn’t have a relationship with his daughter or grandchildren because of the narcissist that he is. While I know he is not a danger to me anymore I am still having nightmares from the torment of the past.. thank you for sharing your story 🙏❤️
He sounds like a nasty coward! Glad ur away from him!
Never trust them even if they are never a physical danger to you. The lies they weave about you can be stunningly awful.