Stop Asking Women On Dates - Do This Instead

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  • @xonlytyrek3601
    @xonlytyrek3601 Před 2 měsíci +185

    I don’t even ask girls out on dates, it’s either let’s chill or I’m good, I’ve had girls ask me out and to hang etc, if the girl is REALLY into you, you won’t have to take them anywhere, they’ll just show up, experiencing all this really opened my eyes to just how much women really play games, you’ll never want to deal with a low interest girl again after being with women who truly desire you.

    • @adday.
      @adday. Před 2 měsíci +18

      It's true. I drove across boarders for my BF to get with him, heck, many years later now and I still jump through hoops foe him. He got lucky with me though, he's just "it" for me. He didn't have much luck with women before me.

    • @mel-el5862
      @mel-el5862 Před 2 měsíci +25

      Facts, every girl I smashed I got to them draws without dating at all. If they like you they do so much rule breaking for you.

    • @xonlytyrek3601
      @xonlytyrek3601 Před 2 měsíci

      ⁠@@mel-el5862 not only will they break rules, but they’ll literally lie to themselves and be delusional to be with you, I’ve had a girl travel to my city, pay for the hotel, food, rental car etc, just to spend a week with me, Reality kicked in HARD after that crazy experience.

    • @ForceField9
      @ForceField9 Před 2 měsíci +4

      ​@@adday.You're the lucky one, not him

    • @adday.
      @adday. Před 2 měsíci +4

      @@ForceField9 I'll remember that when I cook and clean for him while he plays pool, thanks 😅

  • @EllieM_Travels
    @EllieM_Travels Před 2 měsíci +31

    My man texted me after we met through mutual friends and asked how my day was going. I was having a bad day and said that, so he said, “Well hey, I’m out fishing if you’d like to join me.” Fresh air is always a good thing, and he seemed like a kind person, so I joined him. We’ve been together eight years. No “date” required.

  • @davidflors1448
    @davidflors1448 Před 2 měsíci +108

    If she’s sending you pics you’re just part of the distribution list

    • @LFA
      @LFA  Před 2 měsíci +30

      Not gonna lie, I do the same stuff to them. When you’re single you might as well play the field.
      And if you’re just “dating” someone, you’re single.

    • @Agentyre
      @Agentyre Před 2 měsíci +3

      @@LFA What an insanely Manly take, Sir. A Man like you deserves variety anyhow!

  • @LFA
    @LFA  Před 2 měsíci +24

    Example: instead of "I'd like to take you on a date"
    Use this: "My cousin is having a bbq this sunday afternoon, since you said you didn't have plans that day you should stop by.. it's going to be a lot of fun... I'll send you the details later tonight..."
    The emphasis is on the tempo and the communication. Regardless of whether you want a one nighter, or a rest of your lifer.

    • @ItDoesNotMatterWhoIAm
      @ItDoesNotMatterWhoIAm Před měsícem +3

      Hello, my cousin is having a BBQ this weekend. If you don't have plans this weekend. You should stop by.

    • @mikeg2491
      @mikeg2491 Před měsícem +1

      To further add to this, women love this stuff because “stop by” tells her she is free to leave soon after if she decides she isn’t feeling you. Women feel more comfortable meeting up if they know there’s an easy way out. Also to be more cynical, more people there means if she knows I’d doesn’t like you maybe she’ll go for your cousin instead LOL

  • @ImranPangilinan
    @ImranPangilinan Před 2 měsíci +82

    I am a Muslim man and this CRAP IS REAL… I noticed women being shocked when they realized how “real” I am… it is as if they expected me to behave like ‘other’ men. My sister even called me a “Unicorn” in modern society. One woman even accused me of “hiding” something the hell?

    • @JAMES_IS_COOL1227
      @JAMES_IS_COOL1227 Před 2 měsíci +4

      Are you hiding something? 😂

    • @ImranPangilinan
      @ImranPangilinan Před 2 měsíci +8

      @@JAMES_IS_COOL1227 thing is I am not. Like I told her who I am, my hobbies, but this woman already knew me for YEARS. SHE was the one originally making moves on me for quite sometime, then when I became direct she started freaking out lol when I asked her out. Now I am dating another woman and this one HAS CONFIDENCE. Dating can still happen if there is some "spark" somewhat. I do admit it is quite chaotic

    • @rodan2852
      @rodan2852 Před 2 měsíci +6

      Hey I wish you the best brother. Im a baptist, but at this point it don't matter to the enemy. My dating life stopped when I stopped committing fornication

    • @ImranPangilinan
      @ImranPangilinan Před 2 měsíci +2

      @@rodan2852 it is quite taxing... funny thing is, Islam does not allow dating lol. But at the same time, I don't want to get married to someone who I clearly do not know. Usually families of both parties talk if marriage is on the table... I am not sure if that is STILL the practice today.

    • @mistermiyagi6073
      @mistermiyagi6073 Před 2 měsíci +7

      same here. I had a coworker literally put her number into my phone and I never messaged her once. Later at work she said "guys now are using PlayStation too much" she assumed I'm playing video games instead of dating women LOOOL

  • @TimezUp23
    @TimezUp23 Před 2 měsíci +64

    Tell her to come over. If she says no, find another girl to ask, and stop talking to the one who refused. If you waste time and money, she knows you’re to be taken advantage of….

    • @TheOlzee
      @TheOlzee Před 2 měsíci +4

      Relax

    • @TimezUp23
      @TimezUp23 Před 2 měsíci +2

      @@TheOlzee ?

    • @TheOlzee
      @TheOlzee Před 2 měsíci +4

      @@TimezUp23 don’t just invite them over with trying to create attraction / comfort etc and there’s nothing wrong with a date. Keep it cheap and simple where you can get to know each other. Chat her up then invite her back.

    • @TimezUp23
      @TimezUp23 Před 2 měsíci +6

      @@TheOlzee I’m just talking from personal experience. I met a girl. She gave me her number. We chatted a short period. I asked her to hang out, she said yes. Every time I asked her to hang out, she said yes. When I first asked her to come over, i thought to myself, I’m not wasting any time. She can say yea or I’m out. We are still together. The point is, if she is down for the man, she will make it easy.

    • @awle
      @awle Před 2 měsíci +1

      So to do instead is: asking her to come over to my place even if we for example just met on the street and exchanges numbers?

  • @Anleifr
    @Anleifr Před 2 měsíci +14

    If you just hangout, you are not on a date so therefore you should not be expected of paying for anything either, like most men do on a date. This is actually brilliant!!

  • @jorgeloya6420
    @jorgeloya6420 Před 2 měsíci +78

    I still have a old school mentality but reality is that the world is different now.

  • @darrenupton5500
    @darrenupton5500 Před 2 měsíci +171

    You are not the only bloke that your chicks seeing. When you are making a chicks cheeks clap and she says " i dont usually do this on a first date."YEAH RIGHT!

  • @JarinXeno
    @JarinXeno Před 2 měsíci +35

    I have found this to be 100 true and it took me forever to figure it out. After I got divorced and started talking to women again I would meet women that would seem interested, they would give me their numbers, but then when I tried to set up a date they would completely flake. I eventually realized that women today don't really even like going on dates. Now I just invite them along to do whatever I am going to do anyway or I just have them come straight over to my place.

    • @fuzzypanda1684
      @fuzzypanda1684 Před 2 měsíci +6

      Does that actually work? I usually can't even get a reply when I hit them up after getting their number.

    • @AnthonyManzio
      @AnthonyManzio Před 2 měsíci

      @@fuzzypanda1684 All bs you get very low value women does drugs, tattoos, single mom, drinks and smokes heavily. No thank you. 80% All trash out there.

    • @WhiteGhost21
      @WhiteGhost21 Před měsícem

      @@fuzzypanda1684 give them yours. those that txt are interested.

    • @Rykerz_
      @Rykerz_ Před měsícem

      @@fuzzypanda1684see if she actually choosing on you before getting their info. Will save you a lot of time

    • @cool08player
      @cool08player Před měsícem

      @@fuzzypanda1684 If you're good looking enough, yeah, it works.

  • @Anleifr
    @Anleifr Před 2 měsíci +22

    "The wild wild West", it is so hard for older men in their 40's (maybe mid 30's) and up to grasp all of this because we actually grew up and was raised with the old way of courtship/dating whatever you want to call it. So if your in your 40's and single, especially if you were married the last decade or two, it is a strange new world out there to navigate now.

    • @jarodorla6949
      @jarodorla6949 Před 2 měsíci

      I totally agree with you, though I was never married, I nearly got engaged because of love but I didn't have the finances. Looking back I'm glad I didn't marry the woman. In present day if we replicate the courtship aspect though the woman might appreciate it and may even perceive you as a low-key beta and she's not likely to reciprocate the kind gesture

    • @P1983sche
      @P1983sche Před měsícem

      You are right! I was married for 20 years. I am 40, single, successful and it’s HARD to date. My dating game is way OFF.

    • @ConsidertheCrows
      @ConsidertheCrows Před měsícem

      47M. I never dated the old way anyway. Even to me that was something kids did in the 1960s. In the 80s and 90s I heard kids talking about house parties. Or they just got together after talking on the phone all night. When I did start hanging out with girls at age 18 in the late 90s it was a hook up thing. Get some food then hook up. And that's all I've ever known.

  • @MrByTheMile
    @MrByTheMile Před 2 měsíci +156

    Most of the men on here talking tough are 100 percent wishing they could act the way they claim they act with women.

    • @MrAmbrosse
      @MrAmbrosse Před 2 měsíci +6

      Lol true

    • @nopaininjahlove4812
      @nopaininjahlove4812 Před 2 měsíci +3

      most likely true

    • @lloydeelloyd
      @lloydeelloyd Před 2 měsíci +13

      Actually true, what I see out there and what men say on here are two completely different things

    • @godsbruh
      @godsbruh Před 2 měsíci +4

      possible when u get burned too many times. complete calm

    • @kmarie7051
      @kmarie7051 Před 2 měsíci

      I think a lot of these red pill type guys have a lot of psychological and emotional issues themselves. They seem to view women as objects to control and possess. I think a lot of that comes from them having no internal self control or trust in themselves. People who lack internal control will often try to control external things and other people.
      At the end if the day other people are going to be who they are and no point in trying to micro manage your relationships because you have no control over other people. You cannot live your life hypervigilant of things that haven't even happened yet and super jaded just because you may have had a bad relationship in the past, that's no way to live and will just end up robbing you of experiencing life and having healthy relationships moving forward. There are still many decent, compassionate people out there. It's just a question of creating a life where you are comfortable and healthy enough to see them. When you practice good self-care, own your mistakes and accept yourself for who you are, you are taking control of your life. You are living more intentionally and acting upon the world, rather than waiting for it to act upon you. There's no better way to bring good things into your life. Anger at being abused and treated unfairly is normal. However, allowing it to fester into bitterness and hatred is not good for you. It poisons your thoughts, casts shadows over future relationships and prevents people from moving on. You have to let go of the hatred and move on.
      Many of these men seem to have a very immature and dichotomous view of the world and seem to be projecting their own negativistic view onto everyone else(usually all women). Their perception is so skewed by negativity biases that they are out of wack with reality and see things worse than they actually are. You have to look at the whole picture good and bad and decide if the positives outweigh the negatives. Many people out there have great relationships and are living happy fulfilled lives. Some of them don't want to believe that because it makes them feel better about their own miserable life if they can believe everyone else is living just as bad. Just because some people have bad relationships doesn't mean everyone does, or just because you have one bad relationship now all your relationships will be bad. If you work on yourself to become a healthy whole person you are going to attract more like minded people that will want to stick around. If you are unhealthy yourself them you are going to attract other unhealthy people.
      Listening to some of these guys view on the world I'm not surprised they can't have good healthy relationships. I can't imagine any healthy minded person would want to spend any real amount of time in such a negative persons company. Happiness is a choice and it's up to us how we want to view things and to break negative thinking patterns. You can either look at the situation in all or nothing view, or see the world as it is which is not black or white. They view women as all bad and men as all good and perfect (especially themselves) No one is all good or all bad, we are all fallible human beings and no two people are exactly the same. Nobody could ever meet the impossibly unreasonable expectation of being perfect.Yes there's not very nice people, but that doesn't mean it applies to everyone else, that's a cognitive distortion know as global reasoning. They could really do with working on their own thought processes as they seem to be having a lot of issues with cognitive distortions and splitting.
      it's easier to be a victim. When someone is a victim, they don't have to take responsibility for anything. They can never grow or change or learn because they can never acknowledge their role or responsibility in a situation. They are doomed to making the same mistakes and doing the same wrong things over and over and over again with no way out of it because they are in total denial that they are causing all of these problems in their own lives. Everybody makes mistakes. Everybody does stupid things. Everybody is a part of things they probably shouldn't have been at one time or another. Everybody has ignored their gut and done something they knew they should not do. We are all human and nobody is perfect. When we know better, we do better. If you now know better, you can now do better. The important thing is to learn the lessons you can learn from bad experiences, acknowledging your role in the situation and addressing the issues it has exposed. It's important to try to view things as realistically as possible and be really honest with yourself about your role in the situation. Sometimes talking with other people can help put things into perspective. Blame as a practice is really only useful for as long as it takes to figure out responsibility in a situation. Thereafter, it's useless and serves no purpose except to stop progress.

  • @KristopherStidd
    @KristopherStidd Před 2 měsíci +5

    Thank you for the video LFA ❤🔥

  • @130000toocool
    @130000toocool Před 2 měsíci +5

    Love the videos LFA

  • @tysonrolls9713
    @tysonrolls9713 Před 2 měsíci +27

    Relationships = drama and depression every time EVEYTIME !!!!

  • @gregorystinette8271
    @gregorystinette8271 Před 2 měsíci +195

    There's nobody worth dating now

    • @prussiansocietyofamerica
      @prussiansocietyofamerica Před 2 měsíci +41

      100% the truth! Most are NPC's.

    • @RETROSHADOW2999
      @RETROSHADOW2999 Před 2 měsíci +12

      Completely agree

    • @Freedom-Fighter1
      @Freedom-Fighter1 Před 2 měsíci

      They’re either too masculine or the f*minism indoctrination has ruined them.

    • @nomadman5288
      @nomadman5288 Před 2 měsíci +9

      So, out of hundreds of millions of people, p there's not one good one? C'mon.

    • @CelestialTrieye
      @CelestialTrieye Před 2 měsíci +14

      @@nomadman5288 2-3 % have some potential to be trained, maybe.

  • @ImNotMito
    @ImNotMito Před 2 měsíci +7

    The last few minutes was pretty deep man. And I totally agree!

  • @nawfalourimech8974
    @nawfalourimech8974 Před 2 měsíci +36

    I dated a girl which looked like my "soulmate" : from the same country, born one day after me. We had amazing time during our first date, she said she wanted to see me again and I've done everything to not overwhelm her ( not texting since that day ; letting HER message me ) One day before my birthday, she reacted to my story saying " good luck :) " and blocked me a few hours later. I had the worst birthday of my life. I'm not doing this anymore. I quit. Acted tough : got destroyed..

    • @vvsreupload5130
      @vvsreupload5130 Před 2 měsíci +22

      Holy crap man, I also met a girl, she actually even wrote on a nice piece of paper a very nice message about me saying that she wanted to see me again and even draw a heart and everything, we met in a week-end camping trip. After that we started talking, exchanging videos and selfies, and she was so into me and I was into her. And even planned for a date at the beach that was very good actually, the only thing she started feeling bad at the end (stomach pain and headache) so she went home. And that was it. We kept talking trough the weeks following but she started taking more and more time to answer back, slowly loosing interest. Then she would only answer like 3/4 days later. Eventually she stopped talking to me completely and blocked me.
      I think what happened is that, you know with social media she was constantly getting attention from unlimited men, and with that it's just a matter of time till someone "apparently more interesting than you" comes along...
      I didn't feel that bad afterwards because you know this is Satan's world and these types of things are happening more and more.
      But still don't let these things get to you like that, and remember that you have value, honesty and integrity. Something that these females that do things like these don't have.
      So be proud of yourself and arm yourself with the Armour of God and keep moving forward.

    • @Anleifr
      @Anleifr Před 2 měsíci

      @@vvsreupload5130 just remember, their day is coming... right now they can have their cake and eat it too but one day, when they start to hit around 40... ALL of this will disappear from them ALL of it. Only thing they will be left with is simps. Not trying to be mean, just pointing out facts and women know it. As shallow as it is, once their beauty fades they are nothing to men anymore, Chad is with that 25 year old THEY used to be.

    • @j.du6
      @j.du6 Před 2 měsíci +7

      Don't act tough, be tough

    • @symboIiq
      @symboIiq Před 2 měsíci +4

      She was talking to another guy, hence why she blocked you. None of these girls are in your owner ship bro, don’t let it heart break you.

    • @xavier2541
      @xavier2541 Před měsícem +4

      You didn't give news during days so she thought you were not interested in her or had someone else. That's why she sent this message. Put yourself in her shoes : she had a first date and then no news anymore.
      If you are interested in her you should contact her again saying you had a great time and don't know why you still didn't meet for a second date. Maybe it is not dead yet. Be honest, that's manly.

  • @kek6905
    @kek6905 Před 2 měsíci

    So true I've been walking on slow motion, im so glad i found your channel. Im going to be more direct from now on.

  • @yellowquantum4240
    @yellowquantum4240 Před 2 měsíci

    Spot on keep it casual with the hypergemista. Get in the flow no drama just fun.

  • @weotalks2810
    @weotalks2810 Před 2 měsíci +9

    💯 SPOT ON TRUTH....THE GAME HAS CHANGED...

  • @TheJereld
    @TheJereld Před 2 měsíci +14

    8:23 😂😂😂 I love the Nate Dogg impression!! Thanks for the latest vid dude!!

  • @Andrew_406
    @Andrew_406 Před 2 měsíci +3

    Video hits at the perfect time! 💯🔥

  • @user-wi1kl5bw5m
    @user-wi1kl5bw5m Před 2 měsíci +3

    This Dudes Awesome.Right on the money Guy. Keep it goin.

  • @imkafka9572
    @imkafka9572 Před 2 měsíci

    Your contents just keep getting better! Keep up the great work!

  • @rosscofox
    @rosscofox Před měsícem

    Love the Doggystyle album! Some great lyrics like you said

  • @martinbouchard7032
    @martinbouchard7032 Před 2 měsíci +1

    Very informative.

  • @BobbyRock710
    @BobbyRock710 Před 2 měsíci +20

    It all comes back to the fact that they shouldn't be taken seriously." Shall we?-Yes.- Good."; "Shall we?-No.-Okay, bye."

    • @maijensen3317
      @maijensen3317 Před 2 měsíci +1

      So it's ok when men treat your daugther like a thing they can use and dicard?

    • @BobbyRock710
      @BobbyRock710 Před 2 měsíci +1

      @@maijensen3317 It depends on how old she is.

    • @maijensen3317
      @maijensen3317 Před měsícem +1

      ​@@BobbyRock710 treat people how you want them to treat you

    • @BobbyRock710
      @BobbyRock710 Před měsícem

      @@maijensen3317 Really? I'm going to treat them well when they treat me badly. It means not having self respect.

  • @mikec1945
    @mikec1945 Před 2 měsíci +70

    The world. What's happening is the evil is being exposed. It will get worse this year before it gets better than anyone alive has seen.

  • @guacamolechips2158
    @guacamolechips2158 Před 2 měsíci

    Thankyou brother for the advices , idk where imma end up but you give me hope not not to be stupid great, but just enough 🙏

  • @al-bsure4284
    @al-bsure4284 Před 2 měsíci +1

    Pure facts!

  • @shek7403
    @shek7403 Před 2 měsíci +27

    “It ain’t nooooo funnnnn if the homies can’t haveeeee none”

  • @ThaUnseenTruth
    @ThaUnseenTruth Před 2 měsíci +13

    This is definitely what I needed to hear - the thought of having to go on a date, is not only what has prevented me from going on a date, but has also prevented me from getting with girls period. Everyone around me seems to be hooking up, but for some reason, perhaps being a "nice guy", I felt that I had to go on dates with girls (the whole thought of booking somewhere, dressing up, just seemed cringeworthy/corny, and especially knowing that this same girl would happily hook up with with a Chad or Tyrone for a pump and dump...

  • @williamchevalier2224
    @williamchevalier2224 Před 2 měsíci

    Great talking point

  • @JonJon-pj9ly
    @JonJon-pj9ly Před 2 měsíci +76

    35 old male, Im fit and ripped, I speak 5 languages, I like the intelectual side of stuff and that led me to Roman Catholicism. Thats the only and true only path I see to Go by. The degeneration Just gets worse. I dont Hook up, from time to time I was weak and I did It and It did nothing for me. Some girls I have on my social media that are hot but they started to disgust me, because I know what they are doing. Population collapse is a reality, its all over the world and its well explained on this vídeo. Accountability have been removed from society and Thats no good.

    • @ultrasone8450
      @ultrasone8450 Před 2 měsíci +9

      i kinda feel the same brother

    • @clintdavis7434
      @clintdavis7434 Před 2 měsíci +8

      As a 68 year old ex catholic who also values the intellectual aspect, I'm curious as to how you see Catholicism as Intellectual? I was an altar boy for 9 years, was the outstanding student in Catholic studies from 8th to 10th grade, knew the Latin mass and was recruited by the seminary in Cincinnati. Perhaps I might know some things you don't. Study the Bible, not read but study. Now that is intellectual.

    • @EE12CSVT
      @EE12CSVT Před 2 měsíci +4

      That disgust is why I don't do much with women, including those who try to latch on to me. I'd be stunned if I met one who didn't make me feel nauseous through her behaviour around me or from what I know about her life.

    • @JonJon-pj9ly
      @JonJon-pj9ly Před 2 měsíci +1

      @@clintdavis7434 Long story short, I have degree in both economics and then literature. I felt something was very wrong througout my studies, and I found that the college system in most of the west is very corrupted and biased, but it kind of always been that way. What really changed me was Thomas Aquina, Saint Augustine, Plato and Aristotle. Of course, the Bible as well. This was after I graduated. But not only the college system, everything is intellectually corrupted, this is one of the root problems. You wouldnt believe what France and Europe has been "producing" over the last century or so. Actualy ever since the Iluminism. What Ive come to realize is that intellectuality, ideas, have a profound impact on society. This is a very very short answer

    • @clintdavis7434
      @clintdavis7434 Před 2 měsíci +5

      @JonJon-pj9ly I agree with what you said. I think IMHO that the more you study the Bible and compare it with Catholicism , you will find a host of inconsistencies that a person with your intellect should have no problem identifying.

  • @od33bn
    @od33bn Před 2 měsíci

    Thank you sir 🙏🏽

  • @silentwalk1768
    @silentwalk1768 Před 2 měsíci

    How is good points from the man with goood vibes👌🏼✌🏼😂💯

  • @Anleifr
    @Anleifr Před 2 měsíci +1

    100% this is your best video yet that I have seen! I had no idea about the dates thing, I literally have had the last two girls flake out on me as soon as I said let's meetup and go to X. X being the place of the date.. I thought they just weren't interested but I also thought it was strange because ALL of the other guys on here claim girls just want a free dinner blah blah blah yet that is NOT what I am seeing. I think the shift has been made and like you said they would rather go out and have fun than go on some boring date with a stranger. Thanks for the advice!!

    • @ZE_TRVTH_NVKE
      @ZE_TRVTH_NVKE Před 2 měsíci

      You are better than the guys that handout free dinners. Just don't force *anything*, let your relationships be spontaneous, tell your girl where you plan to go and if she follows, cool, but if not, you have nothing to worry about, after all, you want to go where you want to go.

  • @weskerEverKnight
    @weskerEverKnight Před 2 měsíci

    Thank you Brother! 🍺👍

  • @mnstark3342
    @mnstark3342 Před 2 měsíci +18

    What’s up LFA, good to see you again

  • @HerboSwervooo
    @HerboSwervooo Před 2 měsíci

    You never fail to blow my mind with your insights

  • @jamesdoss1211
    @jamesdoss1211 Před 2 měsíci +2

    This is one of the most helpful videos i've watched on this topic so far. I'm having the issue of my old friend group either being dead or alcoholics/i don't want to associate with them. And since i don't meet women naturally because of this, I've had it in my head i need to date, and start focusing on dating. I'm just gonna do this, once i get a number, i'll chat for a bit, then invite them over. I seriously don't have time for it. It takes so much effort and time, either she likes me, or she doesn't. Also, feels weird to go on a date in public with someone i haven't been intimate with or hung out with or anything.

    • @Anleifr
      @Anleifr Před 2 měsíci +1

      first dates are basically blind dates now, esp dating app dates. You are right though, dates suck.. so much time and money just to get rejected LOL

  • @SuperQdaddy
    @SuperQdaddy Před 2 měsíci +21

    Been on hundreds of dates..usually its something i want to do or go..so im ok with it...but second dates are rare cause i didnt feel chemistry or they dont communicate back..

    • @garnetdavey8776
      @garnetdavey8776 Před 2 měsíci +6

      Youve been too many free meals man

    • @brando7266
      @brando7266 Před 2 měsíci

      ​@@garnetdavey8776nothing worse than that, 😆

    • @SuperQdaddy
      @SuperQdaddy Před 2 měsíci +1

      Not all meals...drinks only

    • @brando7266
      @brando7266 Před 2 měsíci

      @@SuperQdaddy Never buy food, until u have gotten some kind of sex,lol

  • @sandecoffey9125
    @sandecoffey9125 Před 3 dny

    It's not an intellectual Pursuit but the Precision of timing. This Old Man can tell you a thing or two about timing!

  • @lloydeelloyd
    @lloydeelloyd Před 2 měsíci +9

    You make a good point at around the 3:30 mark. I met a girl in a bar one night and was able to take her home that night, little did i know she was out on a date earlier in the night and the man had spent £200 on her and she was saying she wasn't feeling it, so she went to this bar to find his replacement off the bat , which eventually was me that night

  • @jinkazama2555
    @jinkazama2555 Před 2 měsíci

    Interesting takes

  • @Alpha0371
    @Alpha0371 Před 2 měsíci +2

    I'm 59 yrs old, and I think your right. I gave up relationships and even dating a long time go.
    .

  • @jennamarie982
    @jennamarie982 Před 2 měsíci +2

    Truth. Ty for sharing this it’s about time a real man said something about this sh*t show. Everything is all messed up. Men are leveling up. Time to go to the grocery stores church ect not clubs either.

    • @henlofren7321
      @henlofren7321 Před 23 dny +1

      Church is where all of the club girls go after they hit the wall, but you might get lucky if you go after the jail bait

  • @the_raging_tomato
    @the_raging_tomato Před 2 měsíci +29

    Short term gain, long term loss. For both parties involved.

    • @LFA
      @LFA  Před 2 měsíci +27

      I personally think that dating is the number one reason why the majority of people are single nowadays.
      When I met my ex, we exchanged phone numbers, talked on the phone for a couple of weeks, and our first meeting was at the lake with her family on a holiday weekend. Our second time meeting ended up being her going shopping with my sister and my mom. And then me and my sister’s husband met with them that evening, and we got dinner. After that we just expected to hang out with each other routinely.
      About a year later, we moved in together, And shortly after that, we started going on dates every Friday night.
      Had we spent our first six months going on dinner dates or out for drinks, I don’t think we would’ve even taken each other seriously.

    • @Freedom-Fighter1
      @Freedom-Fighter1 Před 2 měsíci +3

      Not really, by the time my divorce will be finished. She will get 50% plus of all assets and I will come out with about 30%. I would say she won. Never again.

    • @EE12CSVT
      @EE12CSVT Před 2 měsíci +3

      ​@@LFAI never got with anyone through dating, or after having been on dates with her. It's typically been after an ONS and we continue to see each other, then slowly get introduced to each other's family and friends, and then go out on dates with each other. The other way is to hang out in groups, you get to know her part of the grouo and she yours, then start spending time alone together.

    • @the_raging_tomato
      @the_raging_tomato Před 2 měsíci +1

      @@LFA Sounds like your situation is the exception to the rule. So you’re saying that you and I could meet for the first time.. talk on the phone a couple weeks-not take the time to hang out/date and see how you interact.. and then you just get complete access to my family? I dunno… sounds a little backwards. Meeting the friends is level 10 in relationships, meeting the family is level 42. Just the same as meeting somebody’s kids-you don’t expose them to someone you haven’t vetted first. BUT.. I think for a young lady introducing a new suitor to her father before advancing into dating him later.. letting the father vet the suitor out on her behalf.. okay, I can see that angle a little more.
      Or even more so if you started off as friends in a social circle first.. that makes sense too. But not if I just met somebody.
      Let’s test the theory and submit the results. I’m sure my father would think you’re awesome. I’m kidding.. I’m kidding… 😏

    • @innavision1920
      @innavision1920 Před 2 měsíci

      @@the_raging_tomato relax

  • @kingfred3755
    @kingfred3755 Před 10 dny

    This guy described my dating experience so succinctly.

  • @retrogamer82
    @retrogamer82 Před 2 měsíci +74

    Who’s asking women out? The only ones are the simps at this point but these 304’s are realizing the sinp economy is dying off as well

    • @james---b
      @james---b Před 2 měsíci +8

      What’s wrong with asking women on dates? What should guys do instead?

    • @HenryHoolington
      @HenryHoolington Před 2 měsíci

      Asking women out is not simping. You’re more of a loser not talking to women

    • @hotmiclegend
      @hotmiclegend Před 2 měsíci +13

      @@james---b self invest! be the one she wants to take out!

    • @james---b
      @james---b Před 2 měsíci +2

      @@hotmiclegend that sounds good.

    • @finality4795
      @finality4795 Před měsícem

      believe it or not, most girls won't sleep with a complete stranger

  • @JF-xm6tu
    @JF-xm6tu Před 2 měsíci +1

    This is very true guys. I have been on both ends

  • @BillyTheBuffalo34
    @BillyTheBuffalo34 Před 2 měsíci +60

    Moral of story is be CHAD THUNDERCOCK at all times

    • @kyleklmondwa9042
      @kyleklmondwa9042 Před 2 měsíci

      Just be born with a 10 inch D bro...SIMPLE.

    • @WhiteGhost21
      @WhiteGhost21 Před měsícem +1

      youre born chad ie. looks. you cannot become him,

    • @BillyTheBuffalo34
      @BillyTheBuffalo34 Před měsícem +2

      @@WhiteGhost21 well that’s funny I did. I had zits all over face up till 20, bad environments at home and school, awkward all the time, coke bottle glasses. I looks maxed in gym and became a “male stripper” type of look or “Ken Doll”. Got myself into fitness magazines and I was swimming in 🐱 I wanted my type as a challenge by mostly had women throwing themselves at me. Any man can become Chad in some form. I am also got an insane work ethic which is the key to 📦 in the long run in my opinion.

  • @mariovaldez3147
    @mariovaldez3147 Před 2 měsíci +2

    Whole lot of red pill for y’all 💯

    • @Agentyre
      @Agentyre Před 2 měsíci +1

      He completely overwhelmed my beta bluepill senses

  • @ElFknKronos10
    @ElFknKronos10 Před měsícem

    The American version of James Bond. I like you bro, you're like the kind of father I would've loved to have. Subscribed.

  • @idolbass
    @idolbass Před 2 měsíci

    Good advice, so easy to fall into the illusion spending money on dates is a good ROI. I fell into that last year and thought, wtf am I doing? Back to hanging out.

  • @brocklanders3616
    @brocklanders3616 Před 2 měsíci +2

    Another good video LFA. I rarely took women on dates as what most would consider a good looking guy, but i can tell ya. The ones i did, rarely ever worked out or ended with sex. However, my very best experience with a woman and GF of 3 years did start with a dinner date. I had sex with alot of women before and after her, but i have yet to find a woman with the amount of sexual chemistry we had together. The point is, if you do decide to go on a date make your intentions clear and go for a kiss at the end of the night if you're feeling her. It lets her know from the jump, what you want. You get a hug or a soft rejection, walk away and move on to the next.

  • @P1983sche
    @P1983sche Před měsícem

    This guy gives good advice. 🤙

  • @joesillamanrs7189
    @joesillamanrs7189 Před 2 měsíci +2

    Appreciate the Snoop and Nate Dog reference!

  • @rygarzz7650
    @rygarzz7650 Před 2 měsíci +7

    What you describe in the video rarely if ever happens. Over 99.9% of women will never ever go to a guys house who they just matched up with on a dating app without first meeting them in person in a public place first. If a guy matches up with a women on an app and tells her come over to my house for any reason I guarantee you 99% of women are not going to do it.

    • @CDRFINANCE
      @CDRFINANCE Před 2 měsíci +2

      During Covid they came straight to my place, I just kept it going after that.

    • @rygarzz7650
      @rygarzz7650 Před 2 měsíci +1

      @@CDRFINANCE Congratulations on your success. 99% of men do not have it so easy.

    • @CDRFINANCE
      @CDRFINANCE Před 2 měsíci

      @@rygarzz7650 looking back it still sucked, only thing I got from it is to stay away and that I can do it again in a more hospitable environment. I had to learn it and earn it, admittedly my genes co operated with my optimisation efforts as previously I was part of the 99%. The was from age 45-50, previous married, previous to that I had probably below average man’s experience. There were reasons for that I had to solve.

  • @excripto1
    @excripto1 Před 2 měsíci +50

    I don’t have to ask women on dates because they always asking me first before I even get a chance to ask them.

    • @CorfeCastle.
      @CorfeCastle. Před 2 měsíci +13

      😂😂

    • @djurius
      @djurius Před 2 měsíci +43

      yeah I go on dates with my right and left hand too all the time

    • @Babygirlly555
      @Babygirlly555 Před 2 měsíci +2

      ​@djurius Too much info bud.

    • @markholton4663
      @markholton4663 Před 2 měsíci +19

      Then why r u on a channel like this?

    • @dingdong6005
      @dingdong6005 Před 2 měsíci +7

      😂😂😂😂😂 you must work for Biden 😂😂😂

  • @colabrodo3872
    @colabrodo3872 Před 2 měsíci

    So real

  • @MrSergio608
    @MrSergio608 Před měsícem +1

    Met my exe a few years back at Target. Invited her to Apple bees. A few drinks later we were at my place. Girls these days move FAST. Don’t pursue women, just get better at noticing choosing signals. Don’t waste time with low interest women. Keep it moving and have plenty of female friends with common interests to hangout with. That will get you more noticed and socially confident. Social proof means a lot to women.

  • @ZOJSimpson
    @ZOJSimpson Před 2 měsíci +6

    Bwuahahahahahaha😂 I died at 6:58 💯💯💯

  • @ervisbekteshi5695
    @ervisbekteshi5695 Před 2 měsíci +2

    "Leave yo number on the cabinet,
    And I promise babe , I 'll give you a call " 😂😂😂

  • @mustangmatt7605
    @mustangmatt7605 Před 2 měsíci

    I agree 100%

  • @kingkatic
    @kingkatic Před 2 měsíci +1

    Respect

  • @dannypacini9820
    @dannypacini9820 Před 2 měsíci

    What's up brothers !

  • @yeee321
    @yeee321 Před měsícem

    This man speaking facts

  • @badgerproductions3786
    @badgerproductions3786 Před 2 měsíci +7

    Sounds like it’s better to just be single I think I’ll just stay away from them all together

  • @emmanueldavis1872
    @emmanueldavis1872 Před 2 měsíci

    I love this! True! All relationships should start out as a friendship or however the piss you'd want to call it. That's where getting to know each other starts and it evolves into something if the friendship will last. I just love the way you put it. Ask a girl if she wants to go bowling. If she says no, ask another girl. If she says no, call your brother up and say, "Hey, bro! We going bowling tonight." 🤣

  • @JoeBrown-bt4qg
    @JoeBrown-bt4qg Před 2 měsíci +13

    The "first meet" conundrum is what discourages me from approaching women in the first place. Alot of women from a dating app want to 1) meet me in public and 2) expect dinner or drinks for their time. This implies that not only does she not trust me, but is expecting compensation for her time. Already from the get go, i am in the hole and fighting an uphill battle. If I don't spend money on her, she thinks I am being weird or cheap. It's too bad because all the best relationships i ever had started out when the woman came over to my house sooner rather than later and without monetary enticement to do so. I almost always met these women through work where they got to know me first.

    • @leewill3036
      @leewill3036 Před 2 měsíci +1

      Dude you have to view it from their perspective. It’s a safety thing on meeting in public for them. You’d do the same thing. As far as the drinks thing, it’s a cost of doing business. If you don’t want to then don’t but it’s not going to help your case. I usually go for drinks or a cheap meal for first dates. Always pay.

    • @JoeBrown-bt4qg
      @JoeBrown-bt4qg Před 2 měsíci +3

      @@leewill3036 Skyrockets your chances of getting ghosted. Good luck with that approach.

    • @leewill3036
      @leewill3036 Před 2 měsíci

      @@JoeBrown-bt4qg I’ll let you know when that happens.

    • @JoeBrown-bt4qg
      @JoeBrown-bt4qg Před 2 měsíci +1

      @@leewill3036 let me clarify - that approach of buying drinks and dinner for a woman on the first date actually can work, but with women that are at least one point beneath the guy. So if you as a guy are an 8, you will be able to hook a 7 about 65% of the time.

  • @wb2499
    @wb2499 Před 2 měsíci +2

    What’s up brothers😎

  • @goonies80s98
    @goonies80s98 Před 2 měsíci +5

    Welcome to the wild Wild West baby!

  • @troymcdaniels-tm1dr
    @troymcdaniels-tm1dr Před 13 dny

    Lol you actually made that cool!!!! How'd you do that????

  • @Ciclopea2
    @Ciclopea2 Před 2 měsíci +14

    "I wanna take you to Los Cabos" could become a meme template lol

  • @williamchevalier2224
    @williamchevalier2224 Před 2 měsíci +1

    As a traveler I enjoy meeting and hanging with women in different places around the country.

  • @Brandos_channel
    @Brandos_channel Před 2 měsíci +2

    The fatherly advise every son should have

  • @user-mq1od7fx5l
    @user-mq1od7fx5l Před 2 měsíci

    LFA ft. a torch on a porch. LFG.

  • @sidgoyari6931
    @sidgoyari6931 Před 2 měsíci

    Hlo brotha!💪

  • @vigalantyleyba
    @vigalantyleyba Před 2 měsíci +3

    What’s up, brothers 😂

  • @tankthepitbull520
    @tankthepitbull520 Před 2 měsíci +5

    Chest is looking Buff LFA

  • @lucasbricker4434
    @lucasbricker4434 Před 2 měsíci +2

    What’s up brotherssss

  • @TheGuesteMC
    @TheGuesteMC Před 2 měsíci +1

    You're right, there's no way to make that sound cool

  • @ATHENS15
    @ATHENS15 Před 2 měsíci +2

    Just work on yourself put yourself first and the rest will fall into place.

  • @MrHDProd
    @MrHDProd Před 2 měsíci +3

    All I have to say is if you are not chad it’s over for you 🙏💯

  • @cking5630
    @cking5630 Před 2 měsíci

    Yup

  • @ahlmost
    @ahlmost Před 2 měsíci +2

    Woop woop

  • @Trrinx
    @Trrinx Před měsícem

    I’m a single woman from Africa, a citizen in USA . I watch you to understand men but also be a good partner. I enjoy your content

  • @Agentyre
    @Agentyre Před 2 měsíci +2

    6:57 i instantly followed your order, Alpha

  • @beoneofus355
    @beoneofus355 Před 2 měsíci

    Ive seen that t-shirt before but never understood it. What is the deal?

  • @702TifosiGambler
    @702TifosiGambler Před 2 měsíci +1

    sang that shit bro!

  • @winnerwinnerchickendinner8809
    @winnerwinnerchickendinner8809 Před 2 měsíci +3

    Man, you gotta ask in order to get some of that tight cookies

  • @paulcosta8297
    @paulcosta8297 Před 2 měsíci +3

    But the ONLY place to meet hot girls now is as an absolute stranger in public during the DAY. So we get the number and follow up with an immediate "come over tonight"? Seems like damned if you do, damned if you don't.

  • @liverfailure1597
    @liverfailure1597 Před 2 měsíci +1

    Hang out, have fun, hook up

  • @melaniebelk75
    @melaniebelk75 Před měsícem

    Awe. This so sad.....

  • @Smashm1k389
    @Smashm1k389 Před 2 měsíci +12

    My respects Brother, something I don't understand why when I ask a single lady for a date, I get rejected, on the other hand, I attract lots of married women, and that makes my frustrations grow bigger, why is that happening? Greetings from Texas!

    • @josuegarduno7154
      @josuegarduno7154 Před 2 měsíci +10

      I recall he did touch on that subject some time ago. Basically, married woman just want to get validation, want to confirm they still got it.

    • @Freedom-Fighter1
      @Freedom-Fighter1 Před 2 měsíci +8

      The reason they’re doing that is because deep down inside they’re all 304s.

    • @EE12CSVT
      @EE12CSVT Před 2 měsíci +2

      I'm in the UK. Greetings to you in great TX! I'm in my early 50s, the vast majority of the attention I get is from married or taken women. The hilatious thing is that if a woman is with a guy, she'll chase me and proposition me but won't do it if she becomes single. If I had no morals and I lived in a big city, you can guess what I'd be doing. Out here in the countryside it's a different ball game. One thing you don't do is have affairs with married women who live in the same small town. These married women in my locality are VERY persistent.

    • @EE12CSVT
      @EE12CSVT Před 2 měsíci +1

      Why does it happen? Boredom, basically. They want the thrill of novelty, so if they see a guy they perceive to be an improvement on what they've got at home, they'll give him signals. Whether or not they scare themselves off when they realise what an affair would entail is another matter, because wanting an affair with a confident guy who dresses well and is in shape is very much different to the practicalities of doing it without getting caught. And that bit is hard.

    • @EE12CSVT
      @EE12CSVT Před 2 měsíci +2

      The sad thing is how widespread it is. I can guarantee that if I've gone out and spent some time among people, like in shops, stores a cafe, or even just walking around town, I'll get attention from at least one - typically several - much younger woman who's out with her man because when she spots me, in that instant she wants me rather than be with that guy she's with.

  • @kovar2344
    @kovar2344 Před 2 měsíci +5

    The point about pro stitution is true and scary. Once it gets legalized at this current social climate its probably going to be the end of society and relationships as we knew it.

  • @MaximilianFord
    @MaximilianFord Před 2 měsíci +2

    Without the dating aspect you also don't get screwed over because you don't have to pay for anything.

  • @oafleming
    @oafleming Před 2 měsíci +1

    Soundin pretty Red Pill 💊 now there "Brutherr"