Why You Can't Stop Thinking About The Girl You Just Met or Know & How To Get A Grip On It!
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- čas přidán 16. 04. 2017
- Mehran Dadbeh (Author)
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Why You Can't Stop Thinking About The Girl You Just Met or Know & How To Get A Grip On It Is the topic of A Friendly discussion about how not to be obsessed about someone who you just met or got to be introduced to or saw and be able to move on and focus on your life and not be so pre-occupied with thoughts of her or desiring her!
Mehran glad I found this video. Everything turned around with this girl, but I can't get her out of mind. Throughout the day I'm constantly obsessing over her & need to turn this around to where I can go about my daily life without doing this. The thing is, I'm not trying to move on from her I'm trying turn this in to something plus I've already made a connection with her.
you're giving good advice! 👍👍
Very nicely explained. I needed this. Thank you!
I am glad you find them helpful Walter. Please feel free to visit and like my FB page : facebook.com/mindthatseekstruth/ where I have my announcements for Live Q & A Talks, and place supportive posts and videos. Please let me know from which country you are watching the videos and which age category you belong to. It would be wonderful if you would share the videos you like on your social media to help others know that there is support after break-Ups and bring more exposure to what I do. Be good to yourself always. With Thanks, Mehran
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I needed to hear this today. Thank you for a great explanation. I started going out with a girl that is a Perfect 10 and can’t stop thinking about when we will date again.... now I know how to start.
Same here
Thank you. Right answer. Nice example, fruit
Doing this right now, found a girl I like and everything about her seems perfect and stressing over her and not trying to ruin it.
Do this if feel like someone is trying to play with your emotions
(helps to declutter very nice practice) thank you sir.
Some girl at my school who I liked in the past and kind of just forgot about because we’re in like no lessons and now I’m beginning to have feeling again after talking quite a bit but it’s different than last time and I can’t stop thinking about her and I’m not confident enough to ask her out because I don’t want to get rejected and ruin our relationship 😳😥
There’s this girl, from tiktok I’ve never met her before. But I can’t stop thinking about her, she’s like the perfect girl. And I am keeping on imagine how Nicely she would fit in my life, she’s that type of stress free girl, and I need that type of girl due to me somtimes being stressed over business. And she fits perfectly into it. She’s beautiful plus she has a kind heart, it’s like I can feel and sense how pure hearted she is resulting in me thinking about her all the
And even dreaming about her
Changed "fruit". Now I can't get the next "fruit" out of my head
I tried to do this for the last 2 years and talked to many girls ... but it didn't work at all, the same stays in my head 24/7
Dany, you can not forget the taste of the grape by thinking about other fruits while you still keep the grape in your mouth! You can not forget about a picture by looking at other interesting pictures while you still keep that other photo that you want to forget or move on from, in front of your face as well. You can not help yourself to forget about that girl you saw or hope to meet again or get to know her ( but no more opportunity) while you keep her in mind constantly while talking to other girls. Either accept and chose to move on or this will not happen as you have tried to trick yourself before you accept that there are genuine other opportunities and there are girls just as nice or even better than this one you like. As long as you do not have sincere hopes and belief that yes there are other women that you can and will like and love and that the opportunities will present themselves, then you can not move on and enjoy your life with a free mind from what you have been hoping to meet again or get to know her and have a relationship with her. Its all in the mind, first you must "want to" move on, "want to" find other opportunities and then start talking and enjoy talking with other girls. You can not forget about something or someone by keep thinking about her and thinking about what you are trying or wanting to forget! Do search for other videos on this channel like how to forget any girl, Why we feel like a loser when a girl does not want us and many others as we have over 1200 videos on matters of the mind, thoughts, thinking, relationship break-Ups... You will be fine. Be good to yourself always.
Thanks for that lesson I'm going to try that now.
You are welcomed Charles. I have a live stream coming up at 1 PM Vancouver time, you are welcomed to join in and ask a question or two.
@@MehranDadbeh Thank you
@@MehranDadbeh If you can't stop thinking about a certain woman can you start thinking of other things besides another woman?
@@chuckhines459 come to live stream and explain what you mean and I will respond Charles.
So what's the solution?
It's a full time job in my mind, it never ever goes away.
Thank you
Thank you, I'm hungry for lots of fruit now
Oh your cat Is cutee
But what if you don't like any other fruits besides grapes
Hello Ethan,
1- learn to like them for better survival rate and opportunity to get nourishment 2- you will like it when focused on the flaws of the grape, spoiled marks, notion of bad quality, bitter taste of the kind of the grape you have in front of you, possible worms due to bad quality of the grape..... but if you condition yourself that grape is the best regardless of how it has changed and now has spoiled portions or spots in it, sourness, or rotten corners then you will actually believe that grapes are the best and you only like grapes regardless of the actuality of the quality of the grapes! Watch other videos to help yourself to move on and build a happy mood and life for yourself.
Merry Christmas, be good to yourself, Mehran
Well u have just explained about the reason from one point of view. But am sure there could be lot many other reasons too. And not just the grape and fruits obsession theory.
My own exa can prove my point. A girl flirted hard towards me but Lloyd the time I just avoided giving out any possible positive signals from my side..even though I admired her for her beauty intellect and her uptown upbringing. The reasons I didn't want a relationship was because am already married and have kids. Despite knowing this she flirted and even gave me other signs that she was interested and desired a relationship.
Okay cut the story. A week long acquaintance and she left for her own home town. But let me tell you. The moment she boarded airplane( I dropped her at the airport) I started thinking about her. Now its more than two months. And still haunting me on a daily basis ..her thoughts.
This I didn't experience hen she was around for a week. And the present thoughts are nothing as what u said. Like craving or infatuation. But I don't know just something that I need her badly. No sexual in it.
So why my I think in about her????
last man standing MJ charles Twin Flames
But what if you can't forget about the grape, and realize that you'll always like the taste of the grape best?
I have the same problems except it's for a guy. I can tell that I'm interchangeable to him. I love his eyes and mouth and smile and arms and voice and everything. I love his intelligence. I love his competence and confidence. But he doesn't care about me. I've dated other guys to get him out of my mind but I can't. And now I just feel like a fool.
This is how every one thinks because they think the grape is still good. But what if you know for fact that the grape is spoiled then you still think the grape (your desire) is more important than the very thing that you want the grape for? the very thing that you want to fulfill the desire for ( the grape for)? "YOU". This all is for "The Me" ( Which is you) . So "The Me " Is The Most Important thing and yet you want to say that the grape ( the guy) is more important than "The Me "( YOU ) for whom you want the guy ( the grape ) for? Think about it. If you need more help go to my site www.mindthatseekstruth.com and make a Skype consultation appointment with me and together we will explore it further. Mehran
I feel like an asshole because I can't leave this woman alone. I haven't approached her in years after she rejected me. But she still haunts my dreams. I want to win her over. But that's not love. I don't want a woman who doesn't want me. But I'm just tired of thinking about her. I wish that I found someone I care about more already . But every time I try to she lingers on in my memory. None of these other women matter. I'm sick of this.
How bout now bro?
@@GorillaCrusader64 lol honestly bro…I’m still single . But I came across some books and studies that have helped me work through this psychological issue I’ve been having with the ladies. I’ve also been more productive with my time. Landed a couple gigs working security and plumbing. Have my own place and car. I bought a passport and am considering doing some traveling abroad as well . But Ultimately though, if a woman wants to be there with you . She will be and without any excuses. And her rejection of you does not mean that you are unworthy of love. It’s her loss. And your gain.just be proud of the fact that you had the courage and bravery to be vulnerable and truthful with yourself and the woman of your affections. You can’t control how she responds. And the silent treatment she has shown to me shows a lack of good character a lack of empathy and thoughtfulness and a level of toxic manipulative narcissism on her end. So in the end, through the pain and sorrow I see That I dodged a bullet and should count my blessings. Better to have known what the cards were before the game was played. And it’s better to have lost a love than to never have loved. Peace and blessings to you brother on your journey.
Lol yea right! If only it were that easy. The cold hard reality is, sometimes certain people just stick in our minds for millions of different reasons (biologically, psychologically etc) and if you’re already prone to obsessive thinking your crushes will become another obsessive endeavor . It’s not as simple as “just think about others”. That technique has been tried and mostly failed since the beginning of mankind. All that usually does is make you think “damn when I try to think about all these other men/women all I want to do is compare him/her to all these other beautiful people and it makes me realize just how special they are compared to everyone else”
Then you need to recognize the idea of comparison between your ex and the others is lob sided and not on even grounds as there is a matter of time and energy and interaction that was involved in the knowing and experiences you had with your ex but what you compare the ex with( others) have not had the same chance of time spent , energy exchange and interaction so it is important to consider that in your comparisons if you do that. But not every one should be comparing as this is your recipe and you seem to think this is the only outcome from the points that was mentioned in the video in regards to noticing and considering others. You have made the video as one conclusion as per your perception and then you are so quick to refute it with all such data as the beginning of the mankind as if you want to convince yourself that this video has no point to share and it must be refused to be considered for a helping to get over the experience you are going through. But if you think deeper you can see that there are tangents involved that you are not considering and have just boxed it in a frame that you feel is the only box these points could be gathered in and have titled the box useless. If you are watching something with the mission of proving that nothing can work and defeating the suggested content than no topic would work for you as you wish to be so loyal to the old flame that there would be no chance for you to accept any advancing technique as you are looking for a magical formula which demands no effort on your part and just gets you out of the human feelings that you might be going through and need to move onward from. You have to want to move on and get help from all logical pointers rather than dismissing them all together so you will be able to claim that " you are right and that your love was special and nothing is comparable and nothing can work". There are so many things that you can do but first you must want to move on to bigger and better things otherwise everything would seem to you as unworkable and useless.
See...let's say I could somehow forget about the grape. With me, the only way for it to happen, is to just be attached to something else...like an apple. Sure I forgot about the grape, but now I'm just stuck in the same spot again. Just a different fruit (or female)
The idea is to introduce and affirm that there are other opportunities out there and what you desired or wished for is not the only game in town or the only wonderful or beautiful thing in the world. Usually one thinks that the girl you have met, seen or somehow saw, came to know or desired is the best of the best and the only one. When we think this one is the only one ( for one reason or another) then we get attached more than just a recognition of a certain beauty or infatuation. This is why you need to show, prove or convince yourself by example or actually witnessing or coming to be aware of the other lovely women's existence and possibilities in the world.
This acknowledgement is what helps you to detach yourself from the one that was occupying your mind and making you think that you can't detach yourself from desiring her and you have to get to know her. This will create an understanding in you that unless you build a relationship with someone, these infatuations are not something to keep you from moving on as there are always others who are also qualified, beautiful and great possibilities so you learn that none of such infatuations are anomalies and that you can safely move on from this lovely experience as there is and always will be others!
I don’t want to move on want to move forward correctly
David, there are many many videos addressing what you are interested in. Please search on my search engine and you will find all kinds of discussions about why you feel the way you do and how to move forward. There are over 1500 videos on this channel. I also have live talks ( free) on Fridays, Saturdays and Sundays most weeks. Hope you will find the support you are looking for and I am certain that you will.
i could marry a baskeetball honestly
i want that forbidden fruit though
LOL, just replace it with another fruit available! It is your mind that has made that fruit seem so special, find another! :) But before your continued search make sure you Subscribe!! :)
im trying sir i met this girl at my friends wedding 2 days ago and i cant stop thinking about her....she's from vancouver canada and im from new jersey .....seems like anything u want in life u have to work really hard for
In a wedding ceremony/ party settings, is not a neutral place to get serious on newly acquainted friends as the environment is naturally romantic and your senses are focused on romance and your mind is not focused on much more! :) So everyone who is meeting even some of your expectations could seem a perfect choice as they are all well presented aesthetically and emotionally ( happy), and are being cheered by the atmosphere which creates a perception of family, love, loyalty, trust and psychological security. So perhaps you might want to take a step back and focus on many other girls around you in Jersy and be patient and see if this new friendship will move to anything more than an infatuation in a romantic and celebratory setting.
thanks for your help i completely agree
You are welcomed, Cole. You will be fine, there are over 1,200 videos on my channel now and I am certain that they will be helpful beyond expectations! :)
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