10 Toxic Things Parents Say To Their Kids
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- Have you ever wondered whether you have toxic parents? What are the signs of toxic parents? What are the things toxic parents say? Many parents say emotionally harmful things that can have lasting negative psychological effects. A toxic environment at home can lead to many detrimental self-esteem and mental health problems. Do you find yourself or someone you know relating to these? If so, consider sharing this video to help us promote awareness on this topic and community bonding.
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Citations:
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“Child Emotional Abuse.” Prevent Child Abuse America, preventchildabuse.org/resource/preventing-emotional-abuse/.
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“Age of Majority.” Wikipedia, Wikimedia Foundation, 4 Jan. 2020, en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Age_of_majority.
Shorey, Hal. “Dismissing Parents and the Rejected Adult Child.” Psychology Today, Sussex Publishers, 7 May 2019, www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/the-freedom-change/201905/dismissing-parents-and-the-rejected-adult-child.
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Sure!!!! 😊
yes please
Psych2Go Yes please
Yes because I want to show my brother that I'm not toxic
Yessssss pleaseeee
Don’t forget the “when I was your age...” and “why can’t you be like other kids?”
"When I was your age.."
-It's a completely different time now you're like in your 50's and I'm a teenager
"Why can't you be like other kids?"
-If you want you can have them instead since it seems like you want them more as your child than me
I hate those... They are so freaking annoying like DUDE. We are in the 20's not the 90's!!! Kids are changing!! Why do you expect the world to stay at ONE point
I've once said, "why can't you be like my friend's mom?"
She replied..
"Then, go make their mom as yours"
@@ainakarmila6205 what the hell, that's relatable oh god.
My mother likes comparing me to my ex best friend
To be honest ."parents are expecting us to act like adults while they are treating us like children".
Lk Gaming 64 then when I child says something they are like you are a child you don’t know anything
My mum once said to me I should understand her, not the other way round. She acted as if I have more wisdom than her. I was 12.
they expect us to treat them like adults when THEY act like children
Maeli Sayrath why is this so true
I'm still treated like a child at 14.
One of the worst things that they say is “I raised you, put you under a roof, give you food and water, and you ask for more?” It makes children think that they will only ever need the bare minimum and causes them to hide their needs.
“I gave birth to you”
Did I ask to be born?
@@extremity5462 Fo real
@@extremity5462 That's an awesome roast over there bro.
"spoiled child"
How ironic we share the same last name, and your comment is nearly verbatim to my utterances.
“Your so ungrateful, I’m pretty sure you’ll be a failure later on”
“You just want to kill us don’t you ??”
“Why are you so annoying”
These words kill me everyday
“You just want to kill us don’t you ??” yes if continue treating me like this
@@Lucy5456b this hits way to close to home for me
@@Lucy5456b
I shall help!
I honestly can't believe that a parent could ever even THINK such things about their children... Remember that if family makes you feel like crap, there's Always random people on the internet understanding your feelings and wanting to support you ♥️
I feel sorry for you 😭 stay strong
Scolding you or calling you disrespectful for “talking back” when you’re stating your opinion to them or defending yourself from their incessant accusations
Ducky Momo yep I always get grounded for that :(
i just want to know what ‘talking back’ even means ?? like when you had children, did you not expect them to speak ? or have opinions ? or desires ? i’m confused ?
That pisses me off so much. I got that a lot as a kid and I was particularly mature for my age so it was like, why does my young age mean I cant respond or defend myself?? I'm 20 now and I still dint get why people say that to kids
I get slapped for expressing myself
My mom "talks back" to me as well, and when I ask why I can't do that, she says it's because she's "my mom."
"The way we talk to our children becomes their inner voice."
Well that explains a lot
Oh man
No wonder
soooo true. i still have the inner voice of my dad telling me whenever something i like is too girly
My god
And they ask me all the time that "why are you depressed? You have everything to be happy." And this video is my life lol
My mom: Why are you always so problematic and argumentative!?
Me: What makes you think I like being that way?
You made me realise how good my time in the boarding school was daily living life with friends and without toxic parents is just heavenly
And they threaten to ship us off like that’s a bad thing 😂💀 Half the time I wish I could join a boarding school too
What y’all don’t understand is that shows that your parents don’t want to raise you, & that they will be better off without you. That’s why a parent should never say something like that.
@@THECREW781some humans are just heartless.
@@ArifumikoParents are the devil themselves
Kid: brings up actual good point in a calm tone
Parent: "I'm not arguing with children"
This is an A B conversation C your way out of it.
@lafayette le baguette Absolute madlad
"Have we finally agreed on something?"
My parents just call me dumb
Vanessa Loperbz same
"Stop crying or I'll give you something to cry about" oh, I'm sorry mom, I didn't realize my emotions weren't important
it's like saying "who asked" to an important notice
I always got this one. The only reason I'm so "well behaved" now is because of shit like that.
My parents do this a lot
Awww man, funny part is my mom made a game called the woop in game, where we played hide and seek, once she found us we would get a be beating until we cried. The thing is we had to cry to get out of the game. Man I was Petrified, but dang it reminds me of tht. Good times (*´︶`*)ฅ♡
@@d--kx8km that's horrifying
My parents used to call the cops on me whenever I “talked back.” Thankfully, I was never arrested, but it really made me afraid of what to say. There are even times I’m hanging out with friends and they talk about their parents, and I’m just sitting there dumbstruck because their parents sound so nice, not toxic at all.
Thankfully I moved out, living my own life now. If I ever have any kids, I’ll do my best to be the best parent ever to them.
If your mom called the cops on you so many times about talking back? If it's not a serious case the person who called the cops could get arrested...🤷
If I ever have kids, and they’re angry, I’m gonna let them yell at me. So they don’t have to hold any anger inside of them like I did.
My parents have probably threatened to call the police on me millions of times but thank god they actually didn't. I don't know what I would have done in that kind of situation.
@@Killua_Zoldyck3407 Exactly how come cops don't get angry when they are called for timepass to threaten a little kid, which can make them miss out bigger actual cases of theft , burglary or alike
@@apersonwhohasnothing my mom did that to me when I was a toddler just trying to defend myself from her dragging me down a hallway like girl which one is worse hitting your child or hitting your parent 😖
live with parents give 2 consequences:
- You are still too young
- You already grown up
I like how adults tell us to be respectful when they are never respectful to us
Marla Stanfield in my opinion respect should be earned, not given.
I think what some of them mean is... "Kiss my feet, I am superior to you".
Or if they are sincere, well some adults never grow up with the lesson of respect
Marla Stanfield your adults should always be respectful to you.
Ember Neko yeah I agree, but even if u haven’t earned it, they still should be nice
Ember Neko well yah but some parents believe that they are always right no matter what. I always got in shit if I ever was right and my dad turned out to be wrong.
the real question is "how should children handle toxic parents"
It doesn’t necessarily mean you have toxic parents. A lot of parents say these things unintentionally and not on purpose to actually upset you. It’s so incredibly common. I’m not saying it’s right, but I’m saying it’s so common where loads of people say these stuff and don’t think it was mean
Becca Rose The way you describe it is like radiation. Every now and then won’t be too harmful, but too much can screw you over.
J C in some ways what you said is actually kinda true. It depends on the person really. For some people, every now and then won’t be harmful. But others, can upset them only if it’s done once. However there is a difference between it being done constantly, and things being said as a one- off as a mistake, and people do say things as a mistake, and that doesn’t mean they have toxic parents. But If things are being said constantly, that is no longer just a mistake.
That’s the real question facts 💯💯💯
@gameplayz seems legit.
Most hurtful thing my mom said to me was “I thought you were stronger than that.”
My parents never gave me place to talk about my emotions. They unintentionally make fun of me and say things that I just didn’t appreciate. I’ve always been so insecure and overthinker so I learned it very young that talking to them about my emotions and mental problems is just another ways to gain more hurt. So since I was in preschool, I always acted tough tho I really wasn’t. These kinda kids who don’t share their emotions will someday have breakdowns. And I did meaning I’m emotionally very fucked. One time I was involved in friends drama and I just didn’t wanted to go to school anymore so I had to talk about it with my mom. Because I was crying like a baby about this stupid kids’ drama, she told me that I’m not as strong as she thought I was in a very manipulative way. That one sentence still hurts me till this day because that was the moment I realized my own mother doesn’t even know how emotionally fucked up i am. How I acted that day was literally how I am inside till this very day. The fact that the person who caused my emotional mental whatever problems say things like that to me was just…. awful. My parents are only horrible when I focus on the bad side of them but I do love them. It’s just hard to focus on good when there is bad.
Showing your emotions is a very hard thing to do.
@@yaellevi5448 yeah. It’s really hard.
I also learned at a young age that my feelings were at the bottom of the totem pole
I learned they don't care and never will I raised myself because no one else was going to after my grandma died
O thnx for the warning about the mental breakdown tho
Its so sad to know that the strangers on social media understands you better than your parents 😢
True 😖
anyone else hate the phrase “talking back”? like my parents use it to stop me from saying my opinion. whenever i try to voice my point they automatically categorize it as “talking back” and get offended. even if i’m trying not to raise my voice.
Yep
Yeah, so relatable..
My sister used to do that 🙄
Yes, but sometimes people don’t realise they are actually sounding rude. You may think you wasn’t raising your voice, but it can also mean talking with an attitude. And then a lot of teenagers will reply back with the typical “whaaat..I didn’t do anything.” When they were clearly talking rude in the first place, they just didn’t realise it or they deny it.
Becca Rose that’s true...tone is important but regardless i’m talking about just completely shutting down and refusing to have a conversation about an issue by just chalking it up as “don’t talk back” like you just want to say “listen to me. hear what i have to say. look at this from my point of view.” but instead they make you feel inferior by not even giving you the chance to explain yourself. if someone is making you feel that way it’s only natural to get defensive, upset or passionate.
"You should be grateful that we feed and clothe you"
No, thats litterally your obligation as parents.
Yes that is their obligation, but it’s still important to be grateful for it. Sometimes it’s important to realise what you have and realise what people do for you.
@@kyrahampton7417 i respectfully disagree. no one should ever be grateful for _basic human parenting_ and it's extremely unfortunate that there are children who've been deprived of those things as a result of their circumstances.
with this said, however, telling your children outright that they need to be grateful for BASIC THINGS indicates that the parent views the child as an outright _burden_ and the parent has a need to be _validated_ . often these remarks are more about the insecurity of the parent projecting onto the child and not about the child at all, nor about world views.
yes, everyone deserves to be appreciated, but not at the expense of blaming someone for not being "grateful enough." it only makes the child feel guilty and makes them believe that they are not good enough at expressing how they feel, and/or makes them deny their owns feelings of resentment towards their parents' toxic behavior(s).
with all these factors taken into account, i think this type of obliged gratefulness condones more "i need to please my parents" toxic behavior. no child should have to be asking their parents for approval and acceptance. ever.
if a parent wants to properly express to their child that they should be grateful for basic things, they should be educating their child on various worldly events like poverty, abuse, and cultures from around the world. naturally, the child would begin to see their own world differently and begin to become grateful of their surroundings.
Theres a difference of being grateful and parents using it as leverage against their child in arguements.
Nicia Navarro I only agree with the last paragraph. And I think that „Kyra Hampton“ meant exactly that, what you said in the last paragraph. Yes, everyone needs and has a right to basic things like food and shelter. But its always good to appreciate those things and be grateful for it because not everyone gets to experience those ‚basic‘ things. I think its just disrespecting towards people who have nothing, if we are not grateful for what we have.
@@_chapternumberone_8782 Appreciating what you have is different from appreciating who gave it to you. I'm grateful that I don't have to worry about basic things like food and shelter. But I'm not grateful to my parents for that. They chose to have me. That was their job.
That "you don't realize it's unhealthy since it's normal for you" is something serious. I remember realizing my mom was the bad guy after watching Tangled. All the gears started turning.
BRUHHHH! Ever since realizing my mom was abusive in 2011, I literally can't watch Tangled the same way again! My friends call my mom 'Mother Gothel without the magic'! LOL! Glad you get it! (But also, sorry you get it! Internet hug!
"You're just a guest in our house" was something I heard quite often (along with a pattern of always thinking the worst of me). It birthed in me an insecurity that's still troubling me in my late fifties.
So trueeeeeeeeee, and it is even said to biological kids,lol
You are,safe here, cos we are tolerating you, we haven't thrown you out, and that is your past birth good karma that u got parents who let u live inside vebtilated warm roof , with food 24/7, potable water, school and tv set, otgerwise what if you were orphan homeless begging on footpath with no good food to eat
You should lick our toes , for you are always under our obligations, you are akways n always will be seen as LOWER than us, and should always bow down with shame as you are younger
Parents: Shut up you’re not the grown up here
Also parents: Behave like an adult
Bruh
Bruh.
Bruh
Chain broken lmao, New chain BRUUUH
BRUUUH
“Your opinion isn’t valid because you’re a child.”
Also forcing children to talk to toxic family members, accusing children of things they DIDNT do”
Ive been there its made it harder for me to share my opinion
And your opinion isn't valid because I should be making my own desicions to grow as a human being, mother
This reminds me of the garbage line spewed by Matilda's narcissistic father and the narcissistic Ms. Trunchbull in that book/film:
'I'm big, you're little....I'm RIGHT, you're WRONG'. Describes narcissistic parents to a T.
Ok, but children’s opinions for the most part aren’t valid. A 9yo doesn’t have enough perspective to form their own opinions.
EY Arcane ok but I’m talking about teenagers, I’m 15, and I know a lot about politics, so I’m not allowed to have a political opinion because I’m a child?
My mother and I had a lot of fights and I was always blamed even when I'm standing up for myself.
I honestly love this video. I wish people talked about these things more often and didn't get so offended when pointed out. Toxic parents forget their children are people too and they deserve to be treated as so.
W
*me:*
Brings up actual facts.
*parents:*
Sorry, we doesn't speak disrespect.
this be hittin' different
This is very inaccurate
They would never say sorry
LITTERALY
m i n o ë , I know right! My parents are like that all of the time
You may think you have “actual facts” but it’s not always true. People tend to always believe they are right, but forget its just an opinion, not actually a fact.
My favourite is “you can’t take a joke, you are so sensitive”
Day6 Fan Yeah my Mom would say just a joke just a little joke after she insulted me.
Especially when you have ADHD with hypersensitivity
I’ve been told that one so many times...
Day6 Fan // I know right. They don’t eve apologize, just say “It’s a joke”. :(
Day6 Fan usually comes from a hyper sensitive parent. Turn it back on them and see what happens 😂
"once your 18 I'm kicking you out, I don't care if you get pregnant or do drugs or whatever you are horrible" damn this is bringing back a lot of memories
I was raised by a deeply narcissistic family, so... Yes. I'm related. My blood-relatives do every single toxic shit you can imagine.
@Warpig I'm non english native speaker so I'll try to explain myself as clear as I can.
They've arguing, screaming and throwing things to each other for their entire lives. I can't recall a single day with both parents at home without a fight.
When growing up, I was se**ally harassed by two uncles (One by marriage, the other was my mother's brother). When I did tell, everyone (My parents and my grandma) turned against me and made it my fault for "provoking them". I was 12 when I told and always have been an hyperlexic autistic who only wanted to be left alone and read.
After that, everything spiraled down. More fights, suddenly I was guilty for every shit in the family even when I was not there, everything my youngest aunt (She is my age) did was my fault, they also parentified me a lot using me as their trashcan or messenger every single day they fought, never was allowed to have my own money, never was allowed to have privacy (They even took my door away a couple of times). She used to search all my stuff and throw them in a regular basis when they fought, jailed me without any clothes but what I had on for a week twice, beaten me several times (The first I can recall I was having a meltdown and my father took me by my hair and hit my head against the floor).
These are just examples.
More recently they tried to take my daughter away from me, they took me to the court, harassed me, harassed my political family, threatened my ex-husband with riding over him with their car, tried to take us out of the road three times when we coincided in the same place (We were living in a small town at the time). She tried to kidnap my daughter in the street waiting for us at our building entrance hiding behind the thrash cans (They are out on the streets on my country and they are massive). Tried to kidnap her from the school at the end of the classes. Harassed us (My ex and myself) when we opened our own business at the point we ended closing it. Tried to hit us at the court door couple of times.
All of that, of course, while they tried to make the show of a perfect family with a problematic child and trying to gaslight the shit out of everyone around me (Friends, any family member, judge, lawyers, police, social workers, they tried even with the forensic therapists. Telling tales, using their money inviting them to coffee, lunch, whatever needed).
Even with all of that, I win. But for almost 25 years of my life, my only wish in my birthday was to sleep and never wake up again.
Do you need more elaborating?
Can you open up a bit more if you dont mind? I hope your alright tho, it has been 2 years
@@LazyArtyz Yeah, I'm doing good now, thanks. I went no contact w/them for 6 years already and keep going, the best thing I ever did. As for some details, well... From turning a blind eye to SA, substance abuse (Drugs, alcohol, just name it), fat shaming, slim shaming, bullying, physical violence, harassment, tried to take me to the courts to take my own daughter away from me, harassing my ex-in laws to the point my ex and I decided to split 'cause my ex-father in law had a heart attack due to a particular harassment from my father, tried to run their car over me three times, came 1000 kms away following me to harass me at my job (I was in the military) to the point that my lieutenant had to coordinate security just to allow me to take my daughter to the school, tried to kidnap her several times (Even my mother popped out from behind a trash can once), bullying and laughing at you if you cry...
You can name it. As I said, every toxic trait anyone can have, the have it.
Sorry if I misspell anything or if my grammar is not so great, I'm spanish and english is my third language. 🤗
"parents make mistakes too."
"it's for the best."
"i give you food, clothes, a place to live, and this is what i get? some kids don't even have a home to go to."
"when i was younger, i never talked to my parents like this."
"your friend never talks to their parent like this, why do you?"
That’s true though... parents do make mistakes. Also when they say I give you food, clothes, place to live- although that is a parents job, it is still nice to be grateful for those things.
@@bethanh5347 it's a different story to be grateful than it is to have it thrown in your face as a child. A child has no control on those things, they simply can't just go out and get a job and live on their own. A parent should never make their children feel like a burden.
Autumn yeah I understand what you are saying, it’s not nice for it to be thrown in your face, and a child shouldn’t feel like a burden. But all I was saying is it’s nice to be grateful for things, because a lot of people take things for granted and never really think or appreciate things they have or the amount of effort people do for them. But yes I understand a parent shouldn’t guilt trip or throw it in their faces. But from a parents point of view it’s normally said out of anger because of how kids walk all over them and they feel used. Parents have feelings too. But yeah I understand what u are saying too. :)
@@bethanh5347 yeah they do but when their abusive and always say those hurtful things to you it's not a mistake then it's intentional
Flauschekissen yes true
"don't talk back to me!!"
"don't smart talk me!!"
"I only didn't listen to you because you were disrespectful"
I hate when my parents say this.
How did they know it was disrespectful if they weren’t listening, anyways?
@@annaobrien7323 they hear it, then don’t do anything about it
comebacks:
1. that's how a conversation works
2. then why do you take me to school
3. no its because i'm right and you know it
They say it to me..
@@dizzyolivesxox7751 many parents say it i should have added that
My mom used to threaten to take me back to the foster home, since I’m adopted. She once faked a call in front of me, pretending to talk to the foster home and telling them to come take me back. I think that kind of messed me up. I grew up feeling like I needed to prove that I was a good kid, otherwise I’d be tossed aside.
Holy shit, That IS messed up! I'm SO sorry she did that! ;A; You DID NOT deserve that! Hell, NO ONE deserves that!
More common than it should be, sorry that happened to you
2:42 THIS. THIS RIGHT HERE.
When we were toddlers they want us to
STAND UP AND TALK.
When we are grown ups they tell us to
SIT DOWN AND SHUT UP.
This comment is so underated factsss
😭
Fr tho
😭😭😭😭😭😭
Well said!
strict parents: why don't you have friends
kids: because i'm not allowed to
strict parents: who said you couldn't
kids: you did
my parents after removing all my privacy and cuts off my internet: why doesn’t she have any friends?
@@shaniaannfernandes9599 same
@@imyourhoff7482 i also do have friends it’s just hard to keep them if i can’t respond to their messages
That also happened to me because of my grandma
I don't have any friends because of my parents
Warning • Long story inbound
I noticed a while back that my aunt (who me and my younger sister stayed with while both our parents worked) would make notes that my hair was beyond oily and I smelt of cats (we owned two, and she's only ever had dogs) and she would make me bath the moment I got there, she also prefered to trust my younger sibling over me (so if my sis broke something and said I did it, our aunt would believe her a put me in timeout) and my aunt played the, "I'm older and wiser" card and tried to dress me in girly things even though I was more of a tom boy. I'll never forget the day she told me to wear a skirt because, "then I'll actually look like a girl for once" what she didn't know is that hurt me, all the things she said is probably why I try so hard to look good (in a tom boyish way) and I always second guess my clothing choices.
(PS: Sorry for ranting like this, I just wanted to get all this out since the video brought back old childhood memories)
Thanks for your story.
My parents split up when I was about 9 and most my self hate and suicidal thoughts from that time.
Grew up with my guardian, “I'm going to send you to boarding school.” she really did because she felt that I'm “indisciplined” at home.
I definitely feel like I got emotional trauma from the time I spent living with my aunt and her husband. 😔
my personal favorite is when they start to insult me because they’re bored “as a joke”
Haaa, being the punching bag because you can't talk back and "it's okay because we're family", a classic!
Seriously, I hate it when some persons in my family make rude or mean comments toward me, but when I make a joke about them, suddenly I'm the one who's crossing the line! >:(
Exactly my dad always calls me fat it makes me think horribly about myself
Dude I hate it when my mom makes fun of my weight, I wore this dress and it really showed how fat my arms were and she was laughing at me and even recording a video of me and showed it to my brother and they both would always bring that video up and make fun of me and then title it as a "joke"
@@akitoentt exactly my family is a huge part of my anxiety and whenever I try to talk to them about it they say
Your too youn
That’s my favorite too.
These kinds of parents when their kid moves out at 18: “why won’t my child ever visit me? I did nothing wrong!”
Exactly,after years of abuse they suddenly play as the victims
Sadly most play victims we can only learn from bad parenting what not too do
I never experience that like from my parents like im 18, my mom still feeds me and give me money. So i'll gonna visit her or my mom will live in my house when i have one.
@@thepink3798 Good luck my friend
This is literally how it is. My family may not be verbally abusive but my mother has definitely said some things. I am not currently old enough to move out but my older sister is almost 19. The reason she hasn’t moved out yet is because my mom won’t let her. She has to wait until right before the college year starts. I think that is bullshit bc of what my older sister has dealt with. She has been diagnosed with depression and anxiety. And at one point her anxiety was so bad she couldn’t go a day without puking. It took my parents WAY to long to figure out that she wasn’t okay. And even after trying to treat her depression my mom still has the guts to say, “then don’t be sad.”. I just don’t understand people like that. My mom has made many terrible remarks but I am just going to have to live with it for the next couple of years. (Sorry about the rant I just wanted to say something.)
whenever I try to explain to my parents that they say harmful things they say 'you don't know anything about abuse or fear!'(funnily enough I have an anxiety disorder), 'you don't know what it's like to be scared of a parent', 'because you haven't been hit or scared for your life because of a parent you dont have the right to tell me I'm abusing you!'
Thing is my family stopped saying “Your immature.” And “Your weird.” After I got diagnosed with ADHD. They are a good family don’t get me wrong we like to tease each other but I have noticed that they (that being just adults in the family) changed ALOT when around me.
Stopped saying things they used to say in a teasing way. Which now makes me think they think “Your a freak.” Every time I’m around them TwT
" You're so useless"
" Why don't you do something useful for once?"
" Im right and your wrong."
" Respect me."
" If I die, how are you going to take care of yourself? You have nobody."
" Shut up, Im talking."
Yep toxic parents...
My mom is exatly like that...
I feel so sorry for you guys! I hope everything gets better. Just keep trying, okay?
Dina jjk damn I’m sorry
my mom
Wow, got flashbacks!
Parents when we’re having an argument: My House
Parents when they tell us to do our chores: *Our House*
Whenever my mom says that i can just hear my own neck going *snap*
omg YES I CANNOT EXPRESS THE AGREEMENT I FEEL THIS COMMENT COULD NOT BE MORE ACCURATE ISTG
*communism song intensifies*
If i had 1USD for every time i have heard that phrase I'd be able to afford rent for a month.
TRUEEEEE
@@bustergundo516 (when ur parents make u pay rent even tho ur still in full time education and cant legally get a job...)
3:00 This sounds like the parents are only keeping you because it’s illegal not to, like they LOOK FORWARD to you leaving.
*4 common things parents say & why they're invalid*
i hope parents read this.
1. "don't talk back"
it's called communication. you've had your turn, now it's time to hear out the other. if something is wrong with what they said, explain why, don't just shut them up with that excuse.
2. "show me some respect"
your child is not obligated to respect you for literally no reason. your actions and words make you a respectable person, and being a parent doesn't mean you don't need to earn it.
3. "i've been through more stuff than you/you're too young to know"
this straight up invalidates your child's feelings and makes them feel like they don't matter. actually listen to their problems. this is why they likely won't open up afterwards. remember that they're a human being too.
4. "why can't you be more like [___]?"
comparing your child to someone 'better' utterly destroys their self esteem. praise them for how they're doing currently, and help them out with things they can't solve by themselves instead of ruthlessly judging them, because they're trying their best.
MUM AND DAD READ THIS COMMENT
Its like the saying
"All kids deserve parents
But not all parents deserve kids."
Edit from 3 months: thank you for the likes, i seriously just forgot about this comment i wrote, and i come back to 3 thousand people liking it, thank you again.
"All kids deserve a happy childhood." That should be the motto of our species
Not a abusive one that makes it so that the society gets worse when the next generation takes over but hey who knows maybe instead we can atleast put up some laws to make sure that the next next generation doesn't get abused aswell
all the replies above me are correct
Like “all pets deserves somebody, but not all people deserve pets”
1000th like pog
It’s sad actually that 99% of the viewers are the victims: children
I'm 12 and I have two older brothers one is 19 (Kai) and other is 28(Colton) Kai was suicidal and all she did was send him to an insane asylum and he lives with his dad now Colton has ran away when he was younger a moved out soon as possible (17) and well me I was sick for 6 weeks and when she FINALLY took me to the doctors they said to much stress and fear it was all her fault and they said I have showing signs of depression and she said oh kids at school ik I'm young but this is a lot and ya sorry I typed all of this to u ig I needed to vent oh and my and Colton have the same dad but he's never been in our life and Kai has a diff dad and she blamed the divorce on him and my mom has a bf rn and they were gonna break up and she said everything was my fault
Alexis Swim OMG you’re going through so Much!!it shows that you are a strong person so keep fighting because the bests are waiting for you :)
@@yasnataghavi669 THABK U SO MUCH
yasna taghavi I am but I’m also a parent and I’m listening carefully. I think my girl hung the moon. I want her to think that too.
@@jade_swim ....
Watching these and hoping and trying every day to be a better parent for my baby girl. Break the cycle!
Whenever my siblings and I made a mistake, my father would say, "Why don't you just pray that I'll die? That way no one will tell you what to do and no one will scold you." Does he not know that it makes us (especially me) feel terrible? Hell, I sometimes think that I should just die instead of him, so he'll feel less burdened.
Sometimes I wished I’d just die so my family really sees what I’m going through. All I hear is “you’re fine.”
Child: *Calmly explains something or defends themselves in any way*
Parent: *Screams and throws a tantrum because of their unbearably argumentative child*
Feel that
They act like toddlers Jesus..
if i ask them something more thank two times they throw a temper tantrum
Literally what I have to go through... and then I just end up walking away and staying in my room for the rest of the day
@@evilkermit4795 Dude I hate that so much. If I ask once I'll never get an answer, but ask again (even days later) and she'll say I'm "asking too much" and "won't get it if ( I ) keep nagging like that".
Also if I ask a month in advance it's "too early to talk about that, ask me next week" but if I ask the next week it's "too late!" and I "Didn't give enough time for a decision to be made".
Don't forget the classic "until you get out of this house, you have to do what i want you to do"
Oooh yes
My parents don't want me to move out and they won't ever let me
Omg yes girlll periodtt
Yep
That has some basu
Is tho
One of the worst feelings in the world is feeling like you can't be yourself in your mama's house 😪
I'm crying rn. This is so relatable. I just wish my dad would listen instead of saying that we are lucky that I don't have divorced partants, that's all I need rn. Just sad I used to have a better relationship with him too. But he just only knows how to bottle things up and say something insetive when trying to help. :'(
Parents love to torture you and when you defend yourself, suddenly you’re “Talking back” or being disrespectful.
What they don't know is that talking back doesn't necessarily mean being disrespectful and it is really stupid
Conversation is talking back and forth
🙃 me : that's how conversation works
Yes one time had had talk back to my mom it something I have never done before but she wouldn't not listen the next thing I know I yelling because I wanted to be heared but she still dismissed me and said that I was being disrespectful all I want was to be heared
Mmm yummy
Respect shouldn't be automatically given to adults, it should be earned.
Actually you should have respect fur your parents automatically but if they are bad parents you should lose respect for them
Uhhh,no. You should respect your parents...
demented moose you don’t get it
Tell that to my mom's side of the family.
YES!
I hate how my mom has gender expectations in me, she always says “ACT LIKE A MAN” and “Why are you acting like a girl” and I feel like I’m not manly enough. I am a cisgender but she doesn’t let me do anything cuz of my gender
your not a cisgender..your a girl
im just saying so no hate
@@goblin6000 I’m a dude
My mother did definitely send me to boarding school for 3 years and when I turned 18 I learnt the kind of mother I had. She never wanted me around and always blamed me for my younger brother turning into a drug head. I moved out and when I moved out everything my mother was doing to me she turned to my younger brother and it continued.
"I'm older you should respect me" this just rubs me the wrong way, I understand you are supposed respect your elders but, it's feels like they don't even respect us at all. Respect comes from both people.
Respect should be earned, not given freely for being a few decades older than you. And the ones who say "Respect your elders" often do so because they have done nothing to justify any type of respect.
Or "I'm older. I'm above you. How dare you compare yourself to me"
@@nxteaaa FRRR
The only thing hurts when your father scold you for cracking jokes and being happy all the time because I'm useless and worthless so I should be quite and shameful of my self
@@dubeyjifitness2003 im so sorry :(
Mom: stop comparing yourself to others
also my mom: Compares me with my brother 👁️👄👁️
Lol my mom told me I am the least favourite child 😗✌️
Mom is always right... 😂😂😂🙈
My mom: Stop seeking unhealthy relationships and take care of yourself!
Also my mom: Raised me while having an unhealthy taste in men due to her being an alcoholic, and the only other couples I've been raised around has been toxic abusive ones as well😅...
I hope you are soon able to leave your mom's nonsens! It helps enormous when you get the chance to have your own space and choose when you want to speak to her and see her 😊🌟
EDIT: Not that our mom's self-loving advice ain't good, but they have to live by them for them to work the slightest😅
Or their friends kids/your friends
My mom : Cousin brothers and friends
Me (on the outside) : 😒
Me (on the inside) : 😳👅✌
bruh my mom compares me to strangers
Not my parents, but my 18 year old brother is exactly like this. I didn't even think that's toxic, I thought it was normal so I just accepted it. He has changed a bit but it still hurts to know I was treated like that by my own brother, and if you're going trough that from your loved ones too, know that you're loved by everyone here, including me :)
I’ll always stress the fact that although these videos are very informative, it’s also true that the only way to confirm you’re being abused is talking to a professional. Don’t assume it by yourselves, you might be in a confusional state of mind and perceive things in an extreme way. You’re not alone, ask for help if you need it.
“You don’t respect me. You better show me some respect.”
I’m sorry.
But you can’t hit or beat respect into a child, at least you didn’t do that with me.
You didn’t teach me to respect you, you taught me to fear you.
If someone beats me, I'll lose even more respect. My mom used to beat me so much that I would flinch every time she got near me but she wondered why cuse she was "Only teaching me how to respect her."
To anyone who does this, you're not making them respect you. You're making them fear you. If they do something for you, it's not cuse they wanna be nice. It's cuse they don't wanna get hurt.
exactly
Exactly
Exactly, im scared of my dad because of that because i dont know when I'm going to do something wrong.
Yeah, my mom demands me respect for not agreeing with her in something, meanwhile she screams, cursed me, hit the table and put her finger on my face... Wow great way of earning the respect of her own child...
Now she doesn't hit me, cause I'm an adult and she knows I'll defend myself, but she have raised her hand to me in several occasions. It's impossible to have a stable relationship with someone that constantly degrades you.
My parents are constantly saying
“We’re adults, you’re a child, we’re not equal, I’m above you”
Everyone Is Equal No Matter How Old You Are ✊
This brings a whole new meaning to the phrase, 'age is just a number'
Same bro, same.
Whenever I got in trouble as a young child(I never knew what I was doing even) my dad would always yell that at me and lecture me
@@eternal-ex8ej same
I got 6/8 on the previous video and 9/10 for this one... it's a pity I didn't recognise these behaviors 20+ years ago (still had hope that I could have a good relationship with my parents) . how you present these complicated and very subjective issues in such an easy format on a very accessible platform is truly wonderful. please please keep it up :)
Anyone ever feel guilty for thinking your parents could be partially to blame for how you feel about yourself?
Ot the infamous "stop crying or I'll give u something to cry about"
We can never forget that one😎
my grade 7 teacher used to tell me stuff like this and it's still screwing me up even though im a freshman in high school now
shinkleihh I’m in the 5th grade now, but my 3rd grade teacher used to THREATEN me with a ruler
wtf so true
My parents always say that to my siblings 😑
What they say is "just" one aspect. There's the tone of voice, their eyes, body language, laughing at you when you're upset or scared, ignoring you, punishing you and much much more.
My mother allways said "I love you" but her actions showed that she hated me. This confuses a child.
And PS. That's part of the gaslighting.
@Elsa Wretblad I agree tbh
@Elsa Wretblad wow i have never relate to anything more in my life.
omg same my mom tells me she loves me and says that I'm beautiful and the next moment she tells me that I should change my hair and lose weight. She constantly manipulates and insults me and wonders why I have depression
Elsa Wretblad this is exactly the situation I’m in and I feel like i can’t grow as a person because I am completely aware of what is holding me back (parents) but they can also be very great and have always provided me with what I need.
Agreed
Another comment of mine and again this was posted 2 years ago and still some words my parent told me as a kid are still here. I cant remember them all, but some of them have been heard. I also really love watching your vids because they help me with my life problems! And also helps me for the future! Sadly the past stays the same.. I hope some of you guys are fine !
My father began giving the "when you're 18 you're out!" comment to me on my 5th birthday. there was some nuance that further developed his power structure and honestly, him receiving hospice care for months before succumbing to sepsis felt like the world physically gave back to him an intense measure of what he did to his children...
I still love him - he was my father. I was so relieved when he died.
- Parents are always says we talk back when we are trying to talk about the point.
- Dont tell us to act like adults when you treat us like kids
- if we are hanging out with different genders doesn't mean we are dating
- parents have to think before they said a word to you bc words can hurt
@Saranya Kasichainula same, I walked home from school with my male friend. My mom saw, and asked me (when he left ofc) "do you like him?is he your bf?"
Bruh he's just my friend smh
Exactly. Its like we are told to go to bed at 9ish and they continue to watch tv for 9 more hours. Hypocritical much?
You need to learn to be more respuctful, they say. Oh, because your older and your my parent? So? Your are technically the same as everyone else. A human.
Hey we have pfp!!
@@dogeplier2321 first point might be because they want you to sleep early which is better for your health
But I agree the second point , I’ll give you the respect due if I think you make sense, don’t act like you will always be the one correct because of your age
@@nlmo1828 Ok for the first point i get that but like shouldnt everyone need to sleep at around the same time for good health? I mean its not like just befause you were working doesnt mean you have to go to bed at 4am. If anything im pretty sure thats why they are tired.
After my brother committed suicide, my dad went “You must be happy now. You wanted your brother to help out with the family, and now he’s dead.” Yes, I wanted my adult brother, who lived freely in my parents’ basement, to take on responsibilities, but who in the world would rejoice over the death of a family member?
What kind of father is that ?
WTF?
YOUR DAD SUCKS
Haven't your parents thought that their behavior must've had something to do with his decision? I am so sorry for your loss. And for everything it must've gotten you from your parents. ♥️♥️
So sorry for your loss that’s a pure narcissistic father.... stay far far away from him... I’ve cut all ties with my father... he’s exactly like that! Stay strong! I wish you all the very best in life 🥰
My english is not great so i just need to say try to stay okay idk if you understand but..💗💗;))
“You’ll miss me when I’m gone”
Dad, chill. I literally think you’re amazing- like, I can think you have issues and still love you geeeeez
All of the statements stated in both videos except for the last two in this one were all said to me. My parents raise me how they were raised, with yelling and threats to get me and my siblings to do what they say. All I feel for them now, approaching my leaving by mid-June, I hate them for not only these things, but also being highly abusive my entire childhood. My relationship with my parents affect my romantic relationship by making me break down in front of them. They do comfort me and help me calm down.
Especially when they say “grow up!” But then you try to do something more mature, and they go, “aren’t you too young for that?”
They should adopt an anime character
Looks 30, is 12
spaghetti lmao
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Ikr
I know, right? I tried doing that too, being more responsible. But they end up scolding me for failing or just straight up do it for me, leaving me no chances to actually learn.
When you realize that your parents only were loving cause you were everything they wanted you to be. The second you start growing as an individual and try to make your own decisions all their love fades away. They should've just gotten a dog instead.
True..
For anyone wondering what this guy HANZÉ Productions is saying,
"If you really love (for us) to race then breed horses dammit, why give birth to children???"
Yes.
@HANZÉ Productions can i know which movie is this
Whenever I do what they want they always say that "good boy, you should always be like this!" and whenever I be independent and do my own decisions it feels like all their love faded away into nothingness.
Then I hear all the time, that its good to be independent. Even my mother says this, yet when I do my own decisions they dont even follow their own advice.
One of my most negative moments with my parents was when they forced me to keep piano lessons my whole childhood. Since the end of kindergarten, they made me practice lessons even though I didn't ask for them. Throughout my childhood they kept telling me that practicing the lessons would help exercise the brain. There was never one time they considered how it was making me stressed out because I had problems at school sometimes yet they would get angry at me for not practicing. No matter how many times I kept telling them that I didn't want them, they kept telling me I should be grateful for having them because they didn't have such an opportunity when they were kids. I really didn't see why they were so obsessed with piano lessons in the 1st place because it made me feel like they wouldn't let me explore new hobbies. They still forced me to keep the lessons even after finding a different hobby that I really liked. It wasn't until my sophomore year of high school when they got me out of it because they finally realized I really didn't have time to practice the lessons anymore when schooling became more important. I really don't know what they were thinking while I still had those lessons over the years because there was no legitimate impact on me as soon as I was finally free. I've stayedaway from the piano since then. If I ever plan on having at least one kid it, I definitely would allow him/her to get out of a certain hobby that doesn't feel like is his/her own character, and I certainly would not pick that hobby for him/her without permission.
I can totally relate to being forced to do a hobby you don't want to, but they make do it anyway. I was forced to do scouting when they allow girls in, and I didn't have a good time with it and I even ask my parents if I can quit. However I get told scouting is good for you and it would make you a better person. Which it didn't work for me, even though I got both eagle scout and girl scout gold awards. They still don't consider how I feel and it's putting more stress on my younger members of the family who are also forced into scouting just because they want their whole family to be eagles scouts.
Same- I want to take culinary classes but I don't tell my parents because they already want me to take python/java classes and if I don't want to they'll just start questioning me.
I've never said anything like this to my kids but I have lost my temper or gotten short with them when I shouldn't have. When I have done this I apologized and gave them a hug. I tell them that daddy makes mistakes too. Nobody is a perfect parent but if you try your best and you show your children more love and encouragement than not then you're doing your job.
Mom: says something stupid
Me: calmly explains that she is wrong
Mom: “DONT ARGUE WITH ME”
Me: “I’m not”
Mom: “STOP WHILE YOU’RE BEHIND”
True.
lol my mom has OCD, and if ONE TINY thing is wrong with my room, she'll go off. She'll get mad and complain. ( which is kinda understanding, since I eat upstairs. ) but if I say, hold up, or can you wait a second? she'll go crazy or if I "talk back". IDK why she does that, but I feel like I'm doing something wrong.
Tania Zuniga Chavez I can relate my parents also don’t believe that science is correct and that the government is to blame for everything
Tbh that's really childish
every frickin time!
"why are you always on your phone?!"
"I'm talking to my online friends..-"
"wtf is that supposed to mean? get real friends"
*in a slight annoyed tone* "mom,these ARE real friends."
*yelling* "DONT RAISE YOUR VOICE AT ME!"
"Don't raise my voice at you? How about you stop being so ignorant?"
{Night_time Demons} same
I wouldn't have the ability to tell my mom I have online friends.
lαzу _вlσѕѕσм Yesh my dad doesn’t allow me to have online frienss
@@hzannahh Same.
i wish i could show these kinda vids my parents... they do all these thimgs which make me feel the worst... im just tired of living with my parent... atleast thanks to this channel i found out my parents are toxic af.. i was literally crying as i saw the whole vid and while reading comments... i dont have anyone for me not even me sibling cuz they are same as my parents.. the support atleast from online is wonderful..thanks a lot!
Something my mom says in the morning is "HURRY UP OR I WILL LEAVE YOU TO WALK TO SCHOOL!" It usually makes me hurry up so she drives me to school, and the main reason it works is because we live on the opposite side of town than my school.
"Once you're 18 I'm kicking you out!"
I heard that one from my parents, so I moved out at 16 in spite.
Smooth
Cha cha real smooth-
My mom's fiance told me (and told me something like this) that he can't wait when I'm 18 and can move out. I know that I don't think of him as a father and shouldn't but, it really hurt me, and I should have known better, but he's been in my life for 8 years. I used to think that we were close, or maybe... that he loved me, but he couldn't wait to start a "family" with my mom. Couldn't wait. 👎
Omg I have heard it like it was a catch phrase
Got any money tips to help me out? I'm 14
Thank you for this. My mom once told me that if we were still living in slavery, I wouldn’t make it. She also told me at at Christmas parade that if Santa threw some candy, I wouldn’t have the sense to pick it up. These statements hurt me to this very day.
I love theses videos because they help me reflect and deal with those phrases. My dad loved to tell me how much he regretted letting my mom homeschool me and how he should’ve sent me to public school. Or how i should stop eating because I’m “the heaviest weight” I’d been in awhile.
Address please, I have a person I need to kill 😊
I hate when parents say, "Put down your phone, you're getting addicted to the internet."
But actually *THEY'RE* the ones who are addicted to mobile devices.
I know how that feels...
FACTS
Relatable.
My mom is an amazing parent, dont get me wrong, but if i had a dollar for every time she blamed electronic devices for a bad grade, i'd have lots of money
@@Salma-in2ny Well same...
Dad: "How old are you?"
Me: "11...?"
Dad: "When I was 11 I was already living by myself!"
Mom: "When I was your age I was already taking care of my siblings and the house while my parents were gone out for work."
So true. I could relate. It's frustrating.
Dad :*asks how old I am
Me:14
My dad : wHeN I wAs yOuR aGe I wAs 15
@@Virgo_vibes_ tf LMAO HAHA
It's also sad how some parents dont care enough to remember their child's age.
“We’ll it’s not a competition, isn’t it, luv?” ☺️
You are going to boarding school is horrible but even worse when you are an adopted child. The amount of pain that this still give me it's off the charts 😢
I can relate to a lot of this, it hurt me a lot as a kid and no matter what I promised to be the best supporting parent I can be for my kids.
Those dislikes are just toxic parents not admiting their mistakes
edit: thanks for the 1k likes
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Dont worry someone pressed it accidentally
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yeah very true
I love this
I swear I’m not going to be like this to my kids, because that shit hurts ngl and I don’t want to my kids to be in their rooms heartbroken late at night or something in their room and not knowing how to deal with it.
Ngl, I don't plan on having kids, I just wanna end this family bloodline
Lana Lee same, that’s why i am afraid to have kids too. No one deserves to be treated like this
I make sure I don’t talk to my son the way I was talked to, I actually talk to him and explain what’s going on and ask him what he’s thinking/feeling. Little difference why he responds to me much more positive than my parents.
Research some of those first, though, because a few of them are misconstrued into sounding 100% bad for the kid. Like #8, if you leave off the "or else", then it's good to have the kid learn to obey the parents & do chores that are not harmful to them & are age-appropriate. They learn that they have the ability to work & can get a job to rely upon themselves instead of someone else to pay their living expenses. They learn to clean up after themselves, to do chores to be a part of a team, & that it's good to help everyone sometimes.
Obviously the name-calling is bad, but re-word a few of these things & they're good reminders to the kid that they'll be independent of you in just a few years, like change "Once you're 18, I'm kicking you out!" to "Well, when you're 18, you can move out & make your own rules for your place." That gives them something to look forward to; they refocus.
Also, whether your Mother Mary or Medusa, your teenagers are probably going to end up in their room shutting you out. It depends on the kid & their way of expressing their need for independence. It's not always a reflection of the parenting style. Also, try really hard to live by the rule, "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all." It gets really hard, especially during those teen years when some teens hate you just for existing & may tell you often. And, expect to fail sometimes, but you'll do better than if you're not consciously trying.
@@lanalee580 Figure out what leads them to act in ways that you see are harmful. Then you take the mystery out of it & you can plan to take a different path. My father was an alcoholic. That's why he said & did a lot of what he did. My solution--I don't drink alcohol at all & I educated my kids on what alcohol does to a person & a family.
Of my four adult kids, one has a couple drinks a year, at celebrations with friends. One drank a lot when he was 21, but decided to stop at about 22 (after feeling like crap all the time), another one never drinks, & my fourth one may try beer when he's old enough, but generally seems uninterested in it. They saw, in me, how life can be lived without it.
My dad used to drive my brother to the juvenile detention centre in our city and threaten to leave him there whenever he did something my father deemed "disrespectful."
For me, he would play victim whenever I was upset and blame me for making him "look like the bad guy."
'I'm going to send you to boarding school'
When I was 5, I was already at the threat of being separated from them, almost forced to live with people I'm unfamiliar with.
I still have that trauma and I'm glad i'm not the only one out there (not that it's a good thing, it just brings comfort towards me).
Also, I get blamed for everything and I feel like i must give respect to them whenever, unable to express my own ideas...
And I was always the slowest in my class on sports day, it got to the area that even if I did get 1st in something, my parents wouldn't be there to see it because they eventually stopped coming to watch. It makes every child feel like their own parents don't want them anymore, sending your friend's parents to watch you doesn't feel the same as seeing your own parents showing support towards you.
Sorry for the vent.
Stay safe out there everyone!
When you've been suffering it for such a long time that it somehow doesn't hurt anymore...
Like when you jump in a cold creek and it goes numb after a while
Me too
Haha exactly.. My mother is super duper toxiccc
Yes happened to me
Ya true
Anyone else get scared when your parents say “come here!” Or “I’m not gonna hit you” honestly scariest shit ever.
K C 😂😂
When I was with them I was. The way my name was said told me whether I was going to get a mild scolding or the effects of a rainstorm of hurtful feelings.
I'm 21 and haven't seen my mom for 4 years now but my heart still makes a jump whenever I hear some call my name in a certain way
Yk whats gonna go down 😬🤧yikes.
yah 😥
Long story short i moved in with my mom a couple of months ago. I was cooking for the family and she asked me about my ex them she said. Which one? You had so many.... Then whenwe were having dinner, i told her that i need to be careful where i move next. She said just go anywhere. Then of course i have demons in me since i like wearing black and don't listen to gospel music 24/7. Its been 2 months and I'm still hurt. Parents say the worst things sometimes.
I love watching ur vids at night :)
I just hate it when parents say that they know who you are (emotions, attitude, etc.) but in reality, they don't. They only see what WE wanted to show them. If you really do know me, when will you ever realize that I cry every night and that I have some mental issues??
Sometimes I'm even afraid of telling them things that bother me because I have a feeling that they are just going to judge or insult me instead of comforting me or giving me some advice.
Edit: I do love my parents and they're amazing. But sometimes they make me feel this way. I know that they're not perfect and all. But they don't realize that the things they say has a huge impact on me. I was telling my mother about my phobia about frogs and the time that I was dissecting one. She told me that I was so dramatic and that I'm really not scared of them. "It's all in your head, don't think of it".
Leanne Lim have you ever tried talking to them about seeking help? I was always afraid but once I finally opened up I got the help I needed.
This comment is so hypocritical. How do you expect your parents to really know who you are, if you hide it? They are only seeing what they see. They aren’t wrong for that. It’s your problem that you decide to hide it, nobody else’s.
And we haven't even had normal conversation without screaming in the last 7 years, and they claim to know you, like what ???!
Honestly they don't know me at all bc I'm afraid to talk to them bc i know they wouldn't understand, they would either laugh at me,say it's "just a phase and I'm sad for no reason" or tell me "you're too young to be depressed"
I know what that feels like. 😑
"What is wrong with you"
"You're making me do this"
"You forced me to this"
"Melodramatic"
"Weak"
"Ungrateful"
"You're better than this"
"I raised you better"
"Why do you act like this towards me"
"Don't be sorry, be better"
"Always on your phone"
"Do you save your bad behavior just for me?"
"You don't love your dog."
"Irresponsible"
"You should know better by now"
"I don't want to hear it"
"Attention-seeking"
"Lazy"
"Messy"
I understand they can seem hurtful but they aren’t real bad.. people seem to forget those catchphrases are so common, they become normalised and accepted to say. I’m sure you have said some of them from the list.. Like I bet you have said “what’s wrong with you” or “I don’t wanna hear it.”
@@kyrahampton7417 parent to a child to a child that is very hurtful coming from a person they should look up too
WhyTho? It may be hurtful sometimes but it can still be important to realise that they didn’t actually intend it to be hurtful, because of how common the phrases are, they are accepted to say.
also “if you forgot it then it wasn’t that important” **forgets whole conversations who are about their child’s needs or forgets to pick their kid(s) up etcetera **
oh yeah dont forget
"useless"
"No one's gonna take care of you when I'm gone" That sentence... Is what really broke me the most, it's like they're saying that they hope that I'm gonna be alone in the future.
Something hurt me was when my parents said "your so annoying" or "can you stop touching/messing with stuff"
These hurt the most bc it's stuff I can't control, things that are caused by disorders.