WOMAN GOES VIRAL FOR DATING A BROKE GUY & GETS CALLED A 304

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Komentáře • 458

  • @Rosierose902
    @Rosierose902 Před 4 měsíci +1145

    I can’t lie as a woman I’m jealous of some of these men. Their really living their best soft life.

    • @missj5564
      @missj5564 Před 4 měsíci

      I blame these desperate women. Even if the man makes 50k, he should be able to contribute to the trips and dates. These men have no shame or integrity and are users.

    • @Dontgiveup964
      @Dontgiveup964 Před 4 měsíci +67

      😂💯

    • @sabias3932
      @sabias3932 Před 4 měsíci +128

      And you know they wouldn’t do it for another woman if they were dating one!

    • @missj5564
      @missj5564 Před 4 měsíci +91

      These men have no shame.

    • @Lastdayone
      @Lastdayone Před 4 měsíci +93

      Exactly lol can you imagine if we (as women) just had platonic friendships where we looked out for each other in this manner? Like roommates and with no malice or hate? Because these men literally live their best life while being loved and highly respected 😂. I don’t get it 😩

  • @sixteen.candles.4644
    @sixteen.candles.4644 Před 4 měsíci +671

    Yes for saying broke people shouldn't be having sex. SAY THAT!!!!

    • @catcoffee7958
      @catcoffee7958 Před 4 měsíci +24

      Broke Men

    • @youngbenfranksinatra
      @youngbenfranksinatra Před 4 měsíci

      Social media views got y'all acting like prostitutes

    • @TKOin2life
      @TKOin2life Před 4 měsíci +103

      No people. If you are broke you can not risk the chance that you could bring an innocent life in this world that you can not take care of. You should be focused on food, shelter and gainful or better 😊employment.

    • @sixteen.candles.4644
      @sixteen.candles.4644 Před 4 měsíci +53

      @TKOin2life yes. As a single mom of 2 providing is HARD. It's harder when you can only seek employment around your kids' daycare schedule that makes it even tougher and then you're stuck doing low end jobs no one wants. I'm trying to go back to school to fight my way out of this poverty cycle.

    • @speciosae
      @speciosae Před 4 měsíci +29

      Especially unprotected. Lawd...

  • @joyell821
    @joyell821 Před 4 měsíci +525

    Once u start paying for stuff, it never stops.

    • @MedusssssaChristo
      @MedusssssaChristo Před 4 měsíci +38

      I absolutely do not mind buying a lover gifts, & doing for him, but It just be mutual. I get bored If I am going all the effort & they can’t keep up with me sexually, mentally, emotionally & then some!

    • @Lisette121
      @Lisette121 Před 4 měsíci +8

      Nope

    • @everrgreen122
      @everrgreen122 Před 4 měsíci

      Never ever. In fact, you’ll end up like this woman: financially worse off or even in debt. I went from taking trips/going on vacation at least twice a year to hardly being able to feed my cat after I allowed my ex-bum to use me. Learned my lesson the hard way🫠.

    • @uzougwu1511
      @uzougwu1511 Před 4 měsíci +46

      ​@@MedusssssaChristoby the time you realise he can't match up,you'd have spent an equivalent of a student loan and more

    • @shanteli5970
      @shanteli5970 Před 4 měsíci

      It becomes a never ending cycle 🚲. They want bad bish treatment 🌚. Men today think they are the prize and should be spoiled 😩😭.

  • @Jigglypuffpuffpass
    @Jigglypuffpuffpass Před 4 měsíci +291

    Even a “broke man” will work a second job if they have to is all I’m saying…

    • @Jay_490
      @Jay_490 Před 4 měsíci +49

      He’s not broke. He’s just a cheap man.

    • @gringa23
      @gringa23 Před 4 měsíci +14

      Tight TIGHT!

    • @DoDahhhhhhhhh
      @DoDahhhhhhhhh Před 4 měsíci +8

      Yall so slow. He not into her. He even joked about her being a mean person

  • @ExpensiveFemininity
    @ExpensiveFemininity Před 4 měsíci +397

    Ladies, please do not help out broke men. You will only suffer along with them. Put yourself and your finances first or you'll regret it. Especially if yall are not married!

    • @whataboutdamendough
      @whataboutdamendough Před 4 měsíci +3

      Women don't care if a dude is broke. So long as he's good looking they don't care.... it's all about looks when it comes to women.....

    • @sixteen.candles.4644
      @sixteen.candles.4644 Před 4 měsíci +8

      Agreed. Totally done.

    • @ExpensiveFemininity
      @ExpensiveFemininity Před 4 měsíci +21

      ​@@whataboutdamendough to some women yes but not all

    • @whataboutdamendough
      @whataboutdamendough Před 4 měsíci +1

      @@ExpensiveFemininity not all but I would say the vast majority

    • @The-Oneness11
      @The-Oneness11 Před 4 měsíci +7

      ​@@whataboutdamendoughThat's not most women. I've never dated a man who looks better than me.

  • @shanieedwards917
    @shanieedwards917 Před 4 měsíci +141

    That man spending his money on his wife

    • @Nbayoungguh
      @Nbayoungguh Před 4 měsíci +17

      Say it tf again💯💯..he got something he just don't wanna give it to her..and he's not gonna do it bcuz she already letting him get by by doin the bare minimum.

    • @DoDahhhhhhhhh
      @DoDahhhhhhhhh Před 4 měsíci

      Nah. He don't like her like that. He thinks she's mean.

    • @Izlandprincess1
      @Izlandprincess1 Před 3 měsíci +7

      ​@@DoDahhhhhhhhhoh so ur on every comments lol. If she was mean she wouldn't spend her money on him. He is the one who is mean and don't like her.

  • @sakizaky9270
    @sakizaky9270 Před 4 měsíci +91

    Idc when men call me gold digger. Gotta pay to play. 😊

  • @rosalyndousley
    @rosalyndousley Před 4 měsíci +38

    Baby, NEVER again. I've dated a broke man, and he left me as soon as his money could get him a woman that had STANDARDS. Thank God for my healing and my Real Man now.

  • @hairinhd
    @hairinhd Před 4 měsíci +143

    Poor girl is getting used

    • @whataboutdamendough
      @whataboutdamendough Před 4 měsíci

      I find it funny that women It's fake complain about broke dudes... we all know if he's good looking they will have sex with him

  • @Jay_490
    @Jay_490 Před 4 měsíci +70

    He has more $$ than he’s letting on. Homeowner, good job, he’s running a nice game 😂😂😂

  • @MusicNumber11
    @MusicNumber11 Před 4 měsíci +415

    I understand that financial challenges do happen (it happens to the best of us). But for a man to stay broke? No girl. A man doesn’t have to aspire to being hyper-productive all the time 24/7, but a man who is unable to provide for their woman/family falls short… I’m so sorry. Something has to got to give.

    • @DoDahhhhhhhhh
      @DoDahhhhhhhhh Před 4 měsíci

      He has a house. She is complaining that he doesnt want to take her on vacations frequently

    • @Liz-uv3fz
      @Liz-uv3fz Před 3 měsíci +1

      @@DoDahhhhhhhhh from the sounds of it he’s not taking her on any vacations. She’s taking him on vacations and when it’s birthdays and holidays he will get her a little something when he can. But getting someone something is not taking someone somewhere. Also, if they’re not living together him having a house means nothing for her. Also, she said he has a house and a good job. It doesn’t sound like he’s broke it just sounds like he doesn’t want to spend money on her at all.

    • @DoDahhhhhhhhh
      @DoDahhhhhhhhh Před 3 měsíci

      @Liz-uv3fz From the sounds of it he dont like her and she cant get it through her thick scull. Neither can most of u female observers get throught your airheads, that the man doesnt like her.

  • @ayemad
    @ayemad Před 4 měsíci +60

    ‘Rich narcissist ex or broke nice guy ? ‘
    Girl, there are lots of options in between.

    • @dblr4931
      @dblr4931 Před 4 měsíci +22

      And to be honest, most broke guys aren't that nice so it's kind of an oxymoron.

    • @ayemad
      @ayemad Před 4 měsíci

      @@dblr4931 💯 facts

    • @tiahnarodriguez3809
      @tiahnarodriguez3809 Před 4 měsíci

      @@dblr4931 Facts. I learned this in high school. The “nice guys” are anything but nice. A lady wrote a book on them, and it’s actually a atactic they did to manipulate girls into getting with them because they know they don’t bring anything to the table.

    • @ayemad
      @ayemad Před 4 měsíci

      @@dblr4931 facts on facts on facts

    • @DoDahhhhhhhhh
      @DoDahhhhhhhhh Před 4 měsíci

      He not broke though according to her. She said he has a good job and a house. She's complaining its been 4 month and she hasnt went on a trip

  • @Barrymediagroup
    @Barrymediagroup Před 4 měsíci +273

    # Bring shame back, I would never let someone know I was dating a Brokie😮I would also never sacrifice my beauty maintenance for a dude I was dating.

    • @user-oe1jp3ob5l
      @user-oe1jp3ob5l Před 4 měsíci +45

      I say this all the time!! We need to bring shame back. No more safe spaces because this has gotta out of control 😂😂

    • @ddoubleu170
      @ddoubleu170 Před 4 měsíci +17

      😂 I have to say, I would also be too ashamed to admit this.

    • @LizettesB3autyChannel
      @LizettesB3autyChannel Před 4 měsíci +10

      @Barrymediagroup YES!!!! We do need to bring shame back

    • @babygirla5717
      @babygirla5717 Před 4 měsíci

      Well shame is in a lot of other cultures. She look like she’s Mexican or something and her people don’t play that lazy mess. So I’m surprised she’s not ashamed to be saying this.

  • @monicabrown712
    @monicabrown712 Před 4 měsíci +88

    She contradicted herself. She said a friend is telling her to cut dude off. Then, turned around and said she doesn't have anyone to talk to. The problem is that she doesn't have anyone who will tell her what she wants to hear... which is to stay with the dusty. She is going to have to learn the hard way, unfortunately.

    • @tiahnarodriguez3809
      @tiahnarodriguez3809 Před 4 měsíci +13

      Good eye. I had several friends like this woman. They don’t want to hear the truth. That’s why the complaint online in hopes that others will validate them and encourage them to stay because that’s what they want to hear.

    • @DoDahhhhhhhhh
      @DoDahhhhhhhhh Před 4 měsíci +2

      He is not dusty, according to her. She said he has a house and a good job. He dont like her. She said he calls her a mean person. Her complaint is she wants to go on a lot of vacations like the girls on IG.

    • @PGOuma
      @PGOuma Před 4 měsíci +3

      I hope she don't bring a kid into her "lesson" too...

    • @monicabrown712
      @monicabrown712 Před 4 měsíci +1

      @DoDahhhhhhhhh someone who has a "good job" and/or owns their own home can absolutely be a dusty. It's the state of mind and actions that makes one a dusty.

    • @DoDahhhhhhhhh
      @DoDahhhhhhhhh Před 4 měsíci

      @@monicabrown712 I lost brain cells reading that.

  • @annabella7188
    @annabella7188 Před 4 měsíci +174

    This is so triggering 😒 this is why I don’t believe in potential or trying to “help” him level up anymore. If he’s not go getter, forget about it!!!!

    • @Alpha_apex
      @Alpha_apex Před 4 měsíci

      And if hes a go getter, hes going to have multiple of you. Cause when the money goes down, which it always will cause this is life, youll be gone. So we keep backups for faulty women like you.

    • @DoDahhhhhhhhh
      @DoDahhhhhhhhh Před 4 měsíci +2

      She said he has a house a good job and she said he joked about her being a mean person. Maybe he doesn't want to spend money on her

    • @MONICA.911
      @MONICA.911 Před 3 měsíci +5

      I know that's right....A broke "grown man" shouldn't be actively dating. If he is, it's the woman's fault. A broke man would NEVER approach me.
      If a broke man finds himself attracted to me, I'm confident that he will quickly experience the "get the hell away from me" that I exude.

    • @Bribri356
      @Bribri356 Před 3 měsíci

      @@MONICA.911please continue to spread this message!! They shouldn’t even feel like they have a chance 💯

    • @Izlandprincess1
      @Izlandprincess1 Před 3 měsíci +2

      ​@@DoDahhhhhhhhhand that's why she should leave him...he doesn't like her one bit. She is just sex to him. If a man doesn't even want to spend a dime on you he doesn't like you.

  • @everrgreen122
    @everrgreen122 Před 4 měsíci +59

    Ladies, don’t do it! A man doesn’t have to be rich and he could even fall on hard times, but these broke man are perfectly fine with staying poor and dependent on you. I really had to take a good, hard look at myself for dating a literal bum. Couple of years later since we broke up, I heard he at 40 still lives with his parents, still doesn’t help with groceries, still has no plans to grow in his “career” and still rides his bike everywhere because he can’t afford to renew his license💀. Again, don’t do it. His great character alone won’t get you anywhere in real life. Also, most of the times it turns out they aren’t even that nice, because if they were, they wouldn’t leech of their women.

  • @InRediscoveryOfMe
    @InRediscoveryOfMe Před 4 měsíci +120

    He comes off more as stingy than broke. If he owns his home and has a good job then its his duty to be able to afford his bills and home repairs. He just may not be that into her and shes staying bc the dyck (personality) is good.
    She's literally contributing to struggle love by transferring/using her resources on him and going without. Like hes her damn child.

    • @jainell_all_day6887
      @jainell_all_day6887 Před 4 měsíci +13

      You right…. SHE is making sacrifices but he is not smh

    • @DoDahhhhhhhhh
      @DoDahhhhhhhhh Před 4 měsíci +2

      He dont like her. He told her shes a mean person. Yall cant be this slow

  • @cjanelle1
    @cjanelle1 Před 4 měsíci +19

    The moment you have to start downgrading your normal self care routine for a man is when you have to let him go cause no! 😂

    • @minarue
      @minarue Před 4 měsíci +7

      Girl fr this is big ICK

  • @jaicbacote3494
    @jaicbacote3494 Před 4 měsíci +37

    He’s using her to foot the bills so his money can go towards his debt. Then he is all set to date and spoil who he truly wants 🤷🏾‍♀️

  • @aspiring...
    @aspiring... Před 4 měsíci +69

    Oh no.
    Ain't no way in h3ll I'm paying for a man. That sounds like babysitting.
    Then my mind shut down when she said "females"

  • @voice-of-reason318
    @voice-of-reason318 Před 4 měsíci +159

    She knows what she needs to do. She just needs to go ahead and do it. And then she needs to sit down for a minute and do some reflecting. This was a totally avoidable situation. Gurl!

    • @bobbsthebuilder
      @bobbsthebuilder Před 4 měsíci +21

      She definitely knows what she needs to do, or else she wouldn’t have brought it to TikTok. Plenty people are probably already telling her what she already KNOWS, but she wants someone to say what it is she wants to hear. 😢

  • @simplyme1705
    @simplyme1705 Před 4 měsíci +133

    I feel liiiike...if you get to the point where you go on social media to talk about someone then you may as well throw in the towel. He will likely see this. Save yourself the embarrassment.

    • @tessy28
      @tessy28 Před 4 měsíci +23

      Like people don't understand how damaging it is to have to expose how badly your partner is treating you. At that point once you have publically revealed just how badly you are being used you can't really go back and pretend. That's why abusive relationships thrive in silence because once you start telling everyone and expose the abuse it all crumbles.

    • @Ibadaofficel
      @Ibadaofficel Před 4 měsíci +6

      Right! Like she knew what she was getting into why shame the dude? it's not like he tricked her into thinking he was a baller when he wasn't. She is embarrassing herself on the Internet this is a mess. 🤦‍♀️

    • @tiahnarodriguez3809
      @tiahnarodriguez3809 Před 4 měsíci +5

      @@tessy28 The types that post online don’t think like this. They think they’re going to shame their partners into acting better (they do temporarily), plus they love the relationship drama, so complaining online just gives them reason to stay because they know the internet has their back. I had several friends like this, and complaining to friends and online was a sick game they played to justify staying. They’d act all lovely dovey in front of their man, but in front of us it was a different story all in the name of loving the drama that came from the relationship.

  • @jojoone1099
    @jojoone1099 Před 4 měsíci +44

    She's tricking on him, while neglecting her basic grooming.

    • @iiceeglam
      @iiceeglam Před 4 měsíci +15

      This! Like girl huh? I’m LOST. So you can afford to do your nails and etc but you’re choosing not to so you can fly a man out?? 🥹

    • @MedusssssaChristo
      @MedusssssaChristo Před 4 měsíci +11

      He can stay, I’M not compromising on my self care for a man.

  • @cdubya752
    @cdubya752 Před 4 měsíci +78

    Is he a BM? I’m so curious. This sounds like how they move.

    • @tika2glamorous
      @tika2glamorous Před 4 měsíci +38

      I was just about to type this like I BET he black 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

    • @melizzamelizza
      @melizzamelizza Před 4 měsíci +30

      You know it is 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

    • @keittawhite9384
      @keittawhite9384 Před 4 měsíci +12

      He gotta be!

    • @amorelockster1023
      @amorelockster1023 Před 4 měsíci

      Lmao we all know he’s black or a biracial who’s one parent is black

    • @helloalexa5035
      @helloalexa5035 Před 4 měsíci +8

      She lives in Atlanta, he probably is 😂

  • @shanieedwards917
    @shanieedwards917 Před 4 měsíci +60

    Exactly he’s playing her that man has money

    • @Byebandit50
      @Byebandit50 Před 4 měsíci +25

      He’s obviously saving it for the woman he really wants lol

    • @seriously2798
      @seriously2798 Před 4 měsíci +3

      He's a home owner. He's 💰 🤑 💸 must be for mortgage and home expenses.

    • @dreameva1400
      @dreameva1400 Před 4 měsíci +2

      ​@@seriously2798 no he's not

    • @ousontmeslunettes9891
      @ousontmeslunettes9891 Před 4 měsíci +4

      More like she's playing herself. Sometimes we are our worst ennemy. That intuition we end up ignoring... I realize now how good were my intuitions but I let other people or my own fears get the best of me. Never again! Nunca màs!

  • @halliadams5987
    @halliadams5987 Před 4 měsíci +50

    If dude is in his "struggle" season, he needs to stop dating.
    She's being his door mat! If she can make money in this patriarchy, he should be making twice as much! Gurl......RUN! 🏃🏾‍♀️

  • @MzLena2You
    @MzLena2You Před 4 měsíci +53

    She said he works and he's a homeowner. While owning doesn't automatically make you financially stable, it can help bring some additional income in, if you're in a financial rut. She is being used. That man doesn't have a good personality. He is a finesser. A MAN with a good personality and character wouldn't allow a woman to foot his bill and fly him out. That dude is in his soft girl era.

    • @DoDahhhhhhhhh
      @DoDahhhhhhhhh Před 4 měsíci

      That man dont like her. She said he called her a mean person. She is not being used. She's pressing him to go on trips so she can have an insta relationship and he not with it.

  • @tataliciousdelicious9840
    @tataliciousdelicious9840 Před 4 měsíci +142

    Why is it that every single time a woman comes on SM to ask the internet for advice it's always regarding their relationship with a less than favorable man aka a "dusty"?

    • @kiddeath1302
      @kiddeath1302 Před 4 měsíci +17

      To go viral

    • @misslola007
      @misslola007 Před 4 měsíci +31

      Plus, I don't understand how they lay next to the broke dude they were complaining about. It's just weird and it's double L for her for dating a male who is OK being talked about like that.

    • @aspiring...
      @aspiring... Před 4 měsíci

      ​@@misslola007 this had me thinking these are made up to go viral

    • @tammykinstrue9849
      @tammykinstrue9849 Před 4 měsíci +22

      They need someone else to tell them what they already know on the inside.

    • @speciosae
      @speciosae Před 4 měsíci +7

      Because they actively deny their intuition because they're comfortable and don't want to have a conversation with themselves about why they're even in the situation in the first place. Somebody else gotta tell them but they won't leave until they're good and ready.

  • @DarthFurie
    @DarthFurie Před 4 měsíci +118

    What you accept is what you receive. What you allow continues. "Leveling up" is not just a meme- work out, get therapy, do your inner work, maintain strong boundaries, have your finances in order. Get yourself together and you WILL attract better people!

  • @Gelnailstookblackmenoutthehome
    @Gelnailstookblackmenoutthehome Před 4 měsíci +29

    She’s interrupting his karma

    • @cutlyfe
      @cutlyfe Před 4 měsíci

      How so?

    • @Byebandit50
      @Byebandit50 Před 4 měsíci +12

      @@cutlyfe financially, saving him instead of letting him fall on his asss as he should.
      The same man she can’t even rely on financially, if something happens to her

    • @peacejoylove8542
      @peacejoylove8542 Před 4 měsíci

      Yes. I choose not to believe in the evil eye that she mentioned, but being that she does, it's wild to me she still with the man.

    • @Gelnailstookblackmenoutthehome
      @Gelnailstookblackmenoutthehome Před 4 měsíci

      @@Byebandit50thank you

  • @NahlahontheMoon
    @NahlahontheMoon Před 4 měsíci +273

    The most surprising part of this video is seeing the black men responding talking about how no woman should be working harder than their man and schooling the boyfriend when I’ve seen some of them also go in on BM who wanted to be provided for. I was shook to see some of the men who were agreeing w her I have a feeling a BW wouldn’t get the same support from men

    • @Byebandit50
      @Byebandit50 Před 4 měsíci +139

      I’ll take your comment a step further and say that it self-hate. Black men see non-black women and automatically know they have to impress and show something.
      If she were black, they would be gaslighting her and asking why the F she think she deserves a provider to begin with

    • @NahlahontheMoon
      @NahlahontheMoon Před 4 měsíci +79

      @@Byebandit50 literally! Some of the BM I see responding have videos up as we speak telling BW why we need to understand that no one will take care of us. You’re so right self hate is a disease I’m glad I don’t have

    • @Byebandit50
      @Byebandit50 Před 4 měsíci +1

      @@NahlahontheMoon it’s all a farce lol
      In order for those women to have a different (better) experience the men would have to essentially be different men lol
      Thanks to this video we’re well aware that the preferences are getting the same black man black women get lol

    • @Lastdayone
      @Lastdayone Před 4 měsíci +69

      Nope she’d be called ungrateful, gold digger, told that she’s supposed to help him ‘build’… you know, the typical rhetoric

    • @prtdiva
      @prtdiva Před 4 měsíci +40

      @@NahlahontheMoon which is hilarious because no one is taking care of this preference either 😂

  • @ariahsavagesavage
    @ariahsavagesavage Před 4 měsíci +6

    Helping broke men is dangerous. I've learned the hard way. They have nothing to lose

  • @auroradreamcatcher
    @auroradreamcatcher Před 4 měsíci +38

    There is SO MANY MEN LIKE THIS OUT HERE IN FLORIDA!

    • @auroradreamcatcher
      @auroradreamcatcher Před 4 měsíci +10

      Just want to mention this is such a great video packed with wonderful advice ❤

    • @DesertShadowWarriorQueen
      @DesertShadowWarriorQueen Před 4 měsíci +1

      I'd believe it

    • @nikiasublett8916
      @nikiasublett8916 Před 4 měsíci +1

      I believe it my friend from Atlanta was dating a guy from Marianna Florida and he had these exact same characteristics

  • @Karla-op1gn
    @Karla-op1gn Před 4 měsíci +33

    Yeaaassssss!!!!!!! I told my friend that.... my ex didn't even know where I banked. Stop telling your ban account, stop telling your budget, don't even let him know when you paid or when your rent is due.

    • @seriously2798
      @seriously2798 Před 4 měsíci +13

      I don't even tell my career or if I've filed my taxes.

    • @leelee185
      @leelee185 Před 2 měsíci

      well said sis, I dated a guy, and we were close, and I told him my bank info, and at the time saw nothing wrong with that, so I got my tax refund, and I told him because I was excited about the money. A few days later my bank card was missing. Come to find out my boyfriend took my bank card without my permission and withdrew money to fix his car. I learned the hard way not to share your financial info with anyone not even family.

  • @generationzmedia
    @generationzmedia Před 4 měsíci +21

    I did it once, never again. He quit his job 2 weeks after we started dating then didn't look for one until 6 months later when I told him I was leaving him. You had 6 months to get it right. How do you even feel confident as a man with your girl going to work and you just sitting at the house doing nothing????

  • @smileyglitter852
    @smileyglitter852 Před 4 měsíci +27

    Both men and women should keep a tight lip on finances....There are scammers everywhere.

  • @amilllion1
    @amilllion1 Před 4 měsíci +30

    When I say this man said to me that he just got laid off, his last 2 years have been rough and 💩 just keeps happening to him! 🏃‍♀️ Oh no, can’t even break bread 🥖 with u bro!

    • @TKOin2life
      @TKOin2life Před 4 měsíci +10

      You got that right.😂 We can't even split a piece of gum.

  • @angiebae8125
    @angiebae8125 Před 4 měsíci +8

    "she is an unhealed woman dating. that is a terrible combination."
    say that 👋🏾 u talking about me

  • @cpcks18
    @cpcks18 Před 4 měsíci +76

    I feel bad for her. Her nervous system is in shambles but she doesn’t get why. Sounds like her ex was a traditional narcissist and the new one is a covert narcissist.

  • @bethany_irl
    @bethany_irl Před 4 měsíci +23

    “i need broke people to understand…” has me D.Y.I.N.G.😂😂😂

  • @Nitra813
    @Nitra813 Před 4 měsíci +57

    First 3 minutes sounds like a fast track up getting caught up in a situation-ship. Her dude needs to be friend-zoned until he gets his life and bag together. This is not grown woman mentality. Girl get up. Get your life together first. Neither one needs to be dating.

  • @MuseandherFeelings
    @MuseandherFeelings Před 4 měsíci +8

    Girl just leave him😂if you gotta ask the internet baby, just leave

  • @paulacurrie2441
    @paulacurrie2441 Před 4 měsíci +7

    No ma’am. Why is she paying for dates if he’s a HOMEOWNER! NO!!!

  • @RiriLove88
    @RiriLove88 Před 4 měsíci +24

    You had me cracking up 😂😂 She sounds like she has the savior complex along with codependency issues. I was once there. She’s pretty much playing the masculine role and he may view her that way.
    Another thing is, even kind people can take advantage if you don’t learn to set boundaries and say no without guilt. She’s enabling him so he may not be so motivated to fix his finances.
    The fact she’s been around this mountain a few times already, there’s a lesson in it that she’s not getting. As you said, she needs to choose herself.

  • @Ibadaofficel
    @Ibadaofficel Před 4 měsíci +8

    Years ago there was a girl who was living with her boyfriend for years he was paying for rent and she was paying for bills and utilities, fast forward later she found out he was the owner and was not even paying the rent. Do not trust anyone but your standards and boundaries. If you are uncomfortable doing something don't do it, and always always trust your intuition it's there for a reason.

  • @briolivia
    @briolivia Před 4 měsíci +23

    The crazy thing is that people would say this take supports "eugenics"🤦🏽‍♀️...like...no...you cannot afford YOURSELF...he couldn't afford you TO BEGIN WITH...why risk putting an innocent human in this condition??

    • @NamasteInYourLane
      @NamasteInYourLane Před 4 měsíci

      People who believe in having children just for the sake of "keeping the race going" are demonic. Especially when they don't care about the well being or quality of life a child will receive.

  • @itsmerandome
    @itsmerandome Před 4 měsíci +47

    Chiiile she definitely being played! I'm willing to bet that he calls her with LIES AND SOB STORIES asking for help! That's why she's like "why is this stuff always happening to you" I feel like stuff happens but not at the rate he's portraying

    • @katnap7157
      @katnap7157 Před 4 měsíci +2

      At this point he’s he sugar baby 😂😂😂

  • @SONGAMA
    @SONGAMA Před 4 měsíci +12

    So I'm living with my boyfriend soon to be ex. And although we're more so roommates right now until we both move back to our home states.he is still paying for all the bills . I pay for some groceries and my own personal bills.. I don't nor can I imagine taking care of a grown man.. smh

  • @Balgees24
    @Balgees24 Před 4 měsíci +5

    Last time was that woman with 3 jobs and her man doesn't help her, and now this? It's 2024 ladies please do better.

    • @wellknown1204
      @wellknown1204 Před 4 měsíci +7

      Exactly!!! Like ladies, we can do struggle life by ourselves as a single ladies than attached with someone dusties son

  • @alwaysmep
    @alwaysmep Před 4 měsíci +11

    How can you have the best personality but you are not hard working, ambitious and can't see that a woman who loves you is struggling to love you inspite of it. Men already have the luxury of out earning woman in the same industry. It's not fair.

  • @Gelnailstookblackmenoutthehome
    @Gelnailstookblackmenoutthehome Před 4 měsíci +12

    You ain’t lying about those demons Yanie !!!!

  • @sharicebryant8149
    @sharicebryant8149 Před 4 měsíci +5

    He’s a homeowner but he’s broke?

  • @Peace_And_I
    @Peace_And_I Před 4 měsíci +12

    "If you get pregnant, your life is oooova!" Lmfaooooo Yani girl you're hilarious 😂

  • @kamieyonce
    @kamieyonce Před 4 měsíci +15

    She even has a masculine job, free her!! She knows she is tired but she has to get sick and tired before she lets go😅

  • @sonyasees1022
    @sonyasees1022 Před 4 měsíci +17

    PERSONALITY DONT PAY BILLS!!! That man will display his best performance to you to get to your money(housing, food, pampering w/gifts). And the dustys just love the holidays(free housing, dinner, clothes,presents, and parties).
    Spicemammy, yuzaful!!!!
    You dont feel comfortable-that is all you need to get the hell outta that foolishness. F/O and F/O, being desperate.

  • @ACurry444
    @ACurry444 Před 4 měsíci +9

    It’s definitely triggering.

  • @superkitty1777
    @superkitty1777 Před 4 měsíci +19

    Firstl.y, sex was not created for people with money, it was created for married people; secondly, TYLER PERRY WOULD BE PROUD!

  • @misslola007
    @misslola007 Před 4 měsíci +17

    Shes taking two L. How is she saying all of that and laying next to him at night. Naahhh.

  • @NamasteInYourLane
    @NamasteInYourLane Před 4 měsíci +27

    You look really pretty, Yanie. I love the natural look. 😍
    Less is truly more with black women. 🥰

  • @andudontstopyo
    @andudontstopyo Před 4 měsíci +16

    This girl needs to leave this bandit. The longer she stays attached to him the worse it will be for her. When this girl is living in a cardboard box with this dusty and the temperature is 25 degrees and the wind chill factor is like -10 degrees she will see where she went wrong!!!!🥶🥶

  • @ryanegoe7579
    @ryanegoe7579 Před 4 měsíci +24

    It can happen to anyone. I just left my similar situation of four years. I’ll be 23 in March, still loving that person but having zero choices but to leave is hard but worth it. &agreed broke people needa stay abstinent🎉

  • @Aliensanonymous_
    @Aliensanonymous_ Před 4 měsíci +10

    This man is giving stingy .idk. About broke

  • @FreeVoni
    @FreeVoni Před 4 měsíci +13

    I follow that girl. She usually dates guys that she’s too good for. I wish she knew how awesome she is and how much better she can do

  • @arthuryoung9652
    @arthuryoung9652 Před 4 měsíci +25

    My opinion, you are either in love or getting some good love. If he is an able body person, he can get a job to assist you financially. Love doesn't pay any bills. If you decide to stay in this relationship, you will definitely have to deal with money management to stay afloat. Love the video and commentary.

    • @tessy28
      @tessy28 Před 4 měsíci

      Relationships like this if the woman stays and has kids with the man she better not get sick because if she does her and her children will starve. The man WILL NOT PROVIDE

  • @NotGoing.BackandForth.WithUHos
    @NotGoing.BackandForth.WithUHos Před 4 měsíci +4

    I hate when guys refer to me as "big money" etc. Red fckn flag.

  • @BlkOnyx0508
    @BlkOnyx0508 Před 4 měsíci +4

    A lot of men lie about their finances. Most of the lies are about having money and not the other way around. Too many men are awful with finances. Toys, drugs, gambling, side piece etc. Ask the average long term relationship women, married women or divorced women this question and see what they say…

    • @DoDahhhhhhhhh
      @DoDahhhhhhhhh Před 4 měsíci

      She's clearly awful with money. How many trips in a year does she need to go on?

  • @jennifernabrahamable
    @jennifernabrahamable Před 4 měsíci +4

    My fiancé has money, but I'm not flashing all that on social media! Move in silence ladies, regardless of your dating habits!!!!

  • @beepink86
    @beepink86 Před 4 měsíci +13

    A broke man will give you his last if he loves you

    • @ousontmeslunettes9891
      @ousontmeslunettes9891 Před 4 měsíci +6

      He would go out there to work harder, stronger, smarter to provide or leave you alone because he knows you deserve better. That type of love.
      I was having lunch with men and one said "I love my gf ambition because it put a high standard to thrive for to be with her." 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

  • @ACurry444
    @ACurry444 Před 4 měsíci +16

    Talk to her yaannni about that karmic debt! Her story so close to my old story i swear! Since i walked awaaay life been so much better! Haven’t had a financial issue since! You spot tf on! That whole spill was a word!

  • @Lanaee1207
    @Lanaee1207 Před 4 měsíci +10

    Absolutely love Yanie, she’s like another Big Sister with all the right advice. I dealt with a guy who I’m still hurt by now, and didn’t properly heal before I went and dated another and he treated me exactly the same like I was nothing. I only attracted that type because I never healed myself from the first heart break. Chile she better explaining things to me, than the Therapist I had 😭

  • @miriam9908
    @miriam9908 Před 4 měsíci +5

    YOOOOO IM SO HAPPY YOU DID S VIDEO ON THIS. Saw clips on twitter and the convo in the comments weren’t enough

  • @irb611701
    @irb611701 Před 4 měsíci +1

    Yanie girrrllll your reaction was cracking me up. What you said about the spiritual aspect was spot on. Keep giving it to us straight! All love and support from Kansas City, Mo ❤

  • @summer_glazed2818
    @summer_glazed2818 Před 4 měsíci +17

    I remember I was recently dating a man that said he enjoyed the fact that I really enjoy being in silence…
    Only to get upset that I wasn’t speaking enough about myself. Because in actuality, he realized that he was telling me more about himself than I was telling him about myself 🤭
    You can’t make this shit up 🤣🤣

  • @ClaireHaire
    @ClaireHaire Před 4 měsíci +5

    *Women settle financially but, do not and will not settle on appearance. I promise his good personality will not help you, when it's time for you to pay bills.*

  • @kiddeath1302
    @kiddeath1302 Před 4 měsíci +12

    I honestly think it’s a skit . If not I’m sure she just found her exit .

  • @asmlove32
    @asmlove32 Před 4 měsíci +15

    I said he was manipulating her tbh. And if she likes him that much I said they should separate and he build himself up and they get back together after some months. That’s all

  • @Blaquebarbgamer
    @Blaquebarbgamer Před 4 měsíci +4

    Lol “Happy Valentines Day Babe”…and that’s all you got for Valentine’s Day 😭😭🙌🏾😂😂😂

  • @NotGoing.BackandForth.WithUHos
    @NotGoing.BackandForth.WithUHos Před 4 měsíci +4

    Lol, I don't even like to mention to men about packages that I'm waiting on, things I order/just bought etc. I don't even want em' to hear what I'm ordering at the drive thru 😂

  • @texasg55ify
    @texasg55ify Před 4 měsíci

    Yanie you’re speaking directly to me right now.

  • @barbaraayarza5352
    @barbaraayarza5352 Před 3 měsíci

    You really bring some valid points that I had not realized. I have dated broke men that were amazing. But never for too long

  • @ladystarfish531
    @ladystarfish531 Před 4 měsíci +2

    Great content Yanie!! Thank you

  • @maleeamckinney559
    @maleeamckinney559 Před 3 měsíci

    Eye opener !!!! Thank you I needed this video. Had me paying for him and he had a savings and didn’t want to touch it , but was okay with me running up my money and getting further in debt. I blocked him and it’ll stay💋…. Omg he use to hate the way I dressed and that was after he “ got me” how I use to dress was a problem so I changed and stopped feeling pretty.

  • @Padel78
    @Padel78 Před 4 měsíci +9

    Been there done that 💅🏾

  • @melizzamelizza
    @melizzamelizza Před 4 měsíci +18

    I have said some of this on Facebook. YOU HAVE TO JUDGE LADIES AND YOU CANNOT JUST ALLOW EVERYONE IN YOUR SPACE.
    Energy is everywhere. Ya "well give him a chance" women will always find yourselves struggling.

    • @Blacklilithexotical
      @Blacklilithexotical Před 4 měsíci +7

      I agree. The reason a book has a cover is for you to judge if you wanna read it.

  • @monts5283
    @monts5283 Před měsícem

    Listennnn. Yanie im a fresh 27 & when I tell you I watch your videos thinking why couldn’t she be my big sister . You can tell a MAN was active in your life. The fact I’m almost out of my twenties and literally am getting GAME anytime I watch you things I should’ve been taught but was shortened on coming up going from house to house etc. The talk about sex not being for the broke hit me so hard like Yanie you out here doing community service😂 re- teaching a grown ass woman that should’ve learned this years ago. Chileeeeeee 👏🏾👏🏾The worth and value I’ve given myself since finding you a little over a year ago is INSANE !🤎

  • @CossandraCastle
    @CossandraCastle Před 4 měsíci +5

    18:24 I would go one step further and say don’t divulge this information to anyone. Keep it between you and the bank.

  • @ms.s8718
    @ms.s8718 Před 4 měsíci

    Thank you Yanie❤ I feel like no one understands when I say I’m not interested in dating and I’m very guarded about bringing new people in my life because God’s favor is on me so strong and I just want to continue to live like this forever.

  • @mika9883
    @mika9883 Před 4 měsíci +4

    I think she will do what she needs to do… it sounds like she’s looking for confirmation to not deal with him and be unstuck on how nice he is, but he may not actually be a kind man. She seems so sweet and I want her to keep winning. Protect your energy!

  • @MedusssssaChristo
    @MedusssssaChristo Před 4 měsíci +4

    You have to be able to walk away.

  • @carinebelle4356
    @carinebelle4356 Před 4 měsíci

    Great video with good tips, thanks for sharing ❤

  • @erobinson5942
    @erobinson5942 Před 4 měsíci +1

    This is so sad.

  • @AdoseofAlana_
    @AdoseofAlana_ Před 4 měsíci +5

    My ex husband sucked all my luck away. Lol. When i got with him i got on bc gained weight lost my sex drive got depressed lost my job. Then got another and lost that one then we split in 2011. I was doing bs jobs for the next 2 yrs. He kept the house and i had to move bck in with my mom. When my current husband and i met in 2013 we both were unhappy in our jobs and were applying. We both got offered new jobs the same week after our first date. And altho we had hardships in between he supported me thru them. He manned up. And now we both almost make 6 figures we are both gm's and we are living good praise god. Sis does manual labor i see why she wants a mans man! She dont wanna come home and be the man too!!!! Damn. What dont men get about that?

  • @PGOuma
    @PGOuma Před 4 měsíci

    I didn't even think about the doctor appointments and testing costs. They better have some good health insurance because yeah...

  • @annmariegood37
    @annmariegood37 Před 4 měsíci +1

    This is so sad

  • @ieyona
    @ieyona Před 4 měsíci +2

    It just kept getting worse

  • @j.m.edwards1183
    @j.m.edwards1183 Před 4 měsíci +4

    First off, the best advice sought should occur before you made the decision to date someone not on your level financially. At this point she has made her bed, do lie in it or leave him.

  • @j.m.edwards1183
    @j.m.edwards1183 Před 4 měsíci +6

    I am trying to figure out why is she complaining? The man according to her was ‘broke’ when she met him. She knew the challenges she would face going into the relationship. She took over the male role of provider, so she should go out and do what we tell other men to do if a change in finances occurs, go out and seek the resources required to continue the life style she willingly created for the both of them.

  • @a.r.9779
    @a.r.9779 Před 4 měsíci +1

    It sounds like he doesn’t have a plan for so she wouldn’t be on here because she would see some fruit from his plan. She needs to run from this she will grow resentful and he is already causing her to shift her mindset to expect less in life. When she could be living a better life alone. It’s 2024 if it’s not adding to your life it’s subtracting from it and being down will get you nowhere. Yanie you spot on!

  • @ohhaiJess96
    @ohhaiJess96 Před 4 měsíci +1

    This is crazy 😭

  • @cerromeceo
    @cerromeceo Před 4 měsíci +11

    He has a house and a good paying job but somehow he's broke. Naw I got a feeling she is not telling the whole story