I agree with you, Mike. This situation is definitely just a personal moral decision. Whether it’s your live in girlfriend or your wife, I would believe there would be some kind of heartwarming generosity and consideration to help out the family. Even if there’s no legal obligation 🐸🙌
There are three things that come to mind 1) Are we 'helping' by 'giving,' or enabling? 2) Is there any kind of reciprocity, should we also be in need (so we might give without resenting it later)? 3) Did we disparage the poor in our home country, or was our attitude kindly to them as well (which would border on hypocrisy)? If we're honest with ourselves, we're giving, mainly, to keep our younger gf/spouse happy, and for the conjugal rewards that go along with that.
As a single (divorced) man, the only law that concerns me is rape. All that needs to happen is for a pissed off girl to point her finger at you, and you ARE going straight to a Philippine jail. No bail. May not even get to see a judge for several years. Do you need meds? Too bad, unless you have someone on the outside bringing them for you, you don't get them. You will almost certainly be offered an extortion offer for her to "settle" and drop charges. Refuse to pay up, and as a retirement age man, there is a very real possibility that you will die in a Philippine jail/prison. This has happened many times that I've seen over the years.
You have seen it many times? You have personal knowledge name all these times you have knowledge of? If you believe what you say happened, are you saying none of these sexpats NEVER did what they were accused of? Maybe STOP going to Asian countries to exploit the women of a 'poorer' country.
@@mikesphilippineretirement Ice, ice baby, rolling the dice, dice baby is what happens for most. Actually, while we believe we're doing the picking, for the most part, we are being picked. We find out later about their true character. If true, the best we can do is not show all our cards, and have an 'escape plan' should things go south.
In 2007, I took my two boys to a mall in/around Makati. They were 11 and 9 I think. People saw a tall white guy with two Fil-Am kids with dark skin. Shortly I was approached and stopped by a police officer. He had 3 other officers a short distance away within sight. He questioned my about being with the boys. When the boys and I identified our father/son relationship, he was not satisfied. Luckily I happened to have both mine and the boy's passports on my person to prove it. The officer even told me without that proof, he would have taken me into custody (arrested). This can happen, although I think it's very rare. It was clear to me this particular officer did not like foreigners by the way he spoke to me, but honestly he was very professional about the encounter. Bottom line, don't do anything wrong and you pretty much have nothing to fear. Out and about in multiple locations over the years, I have always felt much safer in the Philippines than in any city in the US.
This is a Civil Statute not Criminal. It would take 7-10 years to go through the court system. The Barangay can only conduct a mediation and it is not binding. This is basically non-enforceable.
If you pay the black mailer he will keep coming back. Paying for a broken window is totally different from paying a black mailer. If the window cost $200 to fix and the store owner is asking for $500 than that is blackmail.
Listen, it's on a case by case basis, I lived in Ph for 6 years and my ex had many siblings and before I knew it, there was always someone in her family who needed financial help from helping to pay off for a motorbike that they couldn't afford as it was being repossessed, to giving giving a distant cousin pocket money to go to college, and many other "loans" actually I got fed up because I came to Ph thinking that I would get peace and quiet (the dogs and roosters didn't bother me) but it was just the opposite, I just got fed up and left, and since then I travelled around a bit and now I feel "free" from the burden of my ex's family. Should the expat support his girlfriend/wife's family? To each his own, It's Filipino culture to support the parents but that's good for Filipinos not for some expats.
My friend, common sense is a scarce commodity not only in the PH but many other countries. On the whole human kind is running low on common sense. Look at so many nonsense conflicts around the world.
My Filippina's Family are Farmers and her Mom's getting old. To get around all of this we purchased some Land for the Family to farm adding 25% more land to the Family. It's Our Land, but they can farm it and take 100% of all of the profits.
I have not seen my filipina wife in 8months but she just missed her period so why would the guy that impregnated her not be responsible? why does he get off the hook? police in phillippines explain how they won't charge her with adultery?
@@mikesphilippineretirement For you, as foreigner, is only one way traffic. Be sure ;-) Your bank account (in your home country) should have always enouh funds to let you relocate back to your country. Many old foreigners are so badly extorted by GF & her families, that they can't even afford to buy ticket to fly home. I was lived in PH for 6 years and know what I talking about.
I helped out my dad for several years before he died. I've helped out my 80 year old mom and even younger brother for over 30 years. Anyone who would turn their back on family if they can afford to help makes no sense to me. How can you expect your girl to be any different?
I couldn't agree more. My parents are no longer with us and I would give anything to be able to help them now. You can just imagine if you are in a position to help your struggling parents but your wife forbids it. What would your thoughts be? Congratulations. You have just tried on the shoes of many a filipina
Mike, do you realise that if the husband catches his wife in the act of infidelity and he kill them both....... he won't be imprisoned. Exiled from the area for 5-10 years but that's about it. A wife having sex with another man is adultery The term for the husband having sex with his mistress is called concubinage Both carry a custodial sentence You are not correct about not going to jail for adultery. As a matter of fact it carries a 7 year sentence. It happened to me and I spent 3 weeks banged up in recto awaiting a hearing in 2011
I agree ☝️ some videos are a conspiracy act for views and advertising that attorney as well. Anyone will help family 😊 but it’s also if you marry in the Philippines. They are also raised as children this family way. You also have people knocking girls up and leaving them, so they should go after them.. I thank god my Filipina is a great girl. 🙏
An attorney there was on the Filipina Pea's channel and explained the law you're referring to. There is a law, and that law works both ways, the parents are equally responsible to support their children as the children are to support them. There is a cultural thing involved too, called "Utang na loob", the parents tell their children "you owe us everything".
Yes I know the meaning and it is the way Filipino Families have taken care of each other for a very long time. No need for expats to think there is jail time is you do not help
Don't watch the Pea either but did watch that video with her attorney friend because of the thumbnail on the sidebar.. Thanks for your advice on this, was concerned but now am okay. Common sense advice, thank you, Mike...Jim
Second Post, A way to protect everything is incorporate, So you only own into it. Many Wealthy do it, You may own 45% I believe, Pick the good members and wife for the rest, Then your wishes may be granted after You and wife gone, Thats so far what i have found best option. At worst Corp sells out snd you get 45%. But everything here seems to grow in Values fast. God Bless
@@mikesphilippineretirement You get well over 100k invested you want to protect it for sure, I’m about 160 total, Going on 3 places now. In USA easy one ranch, Here harder. Spread out differently. God bless
you're right, Mike. Legally, there's none. It's a cultural practice that often abused by the receiving end. If you extra to give or to help, I suggest to give in kind. For instance if you can only afford to give a certain amount equal to, for example paying for a past due electric bill, then pay the electric company directly for them. There are some who, if you give cash, they'll spend it for drinking or take it to a cockfight to bet. Lol! Believe me, I know because I am a Filipino but now living in the U.S. as a citizen. Good luck and keep up the good work.
I very much doubt that the Filipino Pea woman’s friend is NOT a solicitor as claimed. It’s very unlikely that a genuine solicitor would use a Gmail address for the legal work as it’s advertised in the description 😂 the Pea woman deleted my comments (and others) about the subject
Important disticntion, if the Filipina is your girlfriend then you are not resposnible for her family. But if you marry her, then the local government views 50% of your income as hers as your spouse. So they can legally pressure her to take care of her family with your money. The Filipina Pea just did a great video on this with a lawyer. I would urge everyone to listen very carefully to what the lawyer says. Also, be careful about your girlfriend geting pregnant since that can come with not only child support concerns but also implied ‘spousal’ support if you were living together since they view that as ‘living together as if married’.
I wouldn't worry about getting sued for support. Most families can't afford to hire an attorney. If they can, they have no need. Help out if you can. A little kindness goes a long way here.
The financial responsibility law in the Philippines does require the a husband support is filipina spouse even if there is a breakup and separation. It;s similar to alimony or child support.
But in Phils an education is considered to be essential...SO.....the brothers & sisters are the filipinas responsibility. If you marry a filipina and she owns the property SHE WILL USE YOUR MONEY because the property is an asset.
Ypi are wrong about the law with minor in the care of a foreigner.. The last President was so peoud of this law that says no filipino citizen is allowed to leave a child under the age of 12 in the care custody or control of a foreigner even in child care faility the parent can be charged with this offence and the foreigner can be shown the door out of the Phils or if there is a crime then Jail time first... Fact checking Mike.
let's be clear here, Pea's video (with the lawyer) was specific about this ONLY being a potential in a marriage situation. The attorney on Pea's video was very clear.
I think some people need to go back to school and work on their listening comprehension skills. What was said in the video is the family can sue their DAUGHTER, NOT the foreigner. If she is MARRIED to a foreigner and the family sues her and SHE has to pay the family, then the amount she is "worth" is determined by a judge both on her AND the foreigners assets, which in most cases would make her "worth" more and have to pay more than SHE can actually afford to, IF there was no pre-nup. NO, the foreigner is NOT ordered to pay the family, ONLY the Filipina is, but because the judgement would be more than she can pay, the foreigner would end up paying, not because he is ordered to, but because he wants to help his wife. She can also be sued by biological/half brothers and sisters for EDUCATION ONLY. Her extended family (Grandma/grandpa/aunts/uncles/nieces/nephews) can NOT sue her for support.
@@mikesphilippineretirement I didn't say it happens. I said that is what was said in Pea's video. Seems some misunderstood what was said in that video which is why they're making such a big deal about that law, when they don't need to be. It was also said that it is an old law that most don't even know it exists.
Are you kidding me? Six brothers and six sisters, and everybody will pay their share? Not a chance. They will expect the Filipina who is married to a foreigner to pay it all. Or maybe a sibling who is overseas can pay (again all of it). May not be a law, but it is definitely a family expectation. Mike, you are better than most, but the problem with western expat CZcamsrs is they don't often disclose the negatives. It's a real disservice to the viewers.
My understanding is that the law relates to the assets that you have in the Philippines (property etc) , rather than any assets that you have back in your home country. Of course that would change if you were also married to your Filippina back in your home country!
Thank you my friend for positive videos and positive information because there are a lot of logos on here that do nothing but bash foreigners and bash everybody else so thank you thank you
Like you said the law may not pertain to a foreigner but in your situation, if Janet was made to help support her family, you being an upstanding man would assume the burden that Janet might not be able to handle. So in this situation it would then become a foreigner's issue. Me, I can't believe any of us would allow our inlaws to be starving or homeless.
HELPING EA OTHER MAKES SENSE BUT BEING ABUSED HARASSED SOUNDS LIKE BEING ABUSED OR USED OR BOTH. THATS SCARY AN IF BROTHERS COME AFTER YOU UNSAFE VIOLENT
This is what i see and it has nothing to do with expat! Article 195 of the philippine code list the order of family responsibility. It starts with the parents being responsible for the kids when the parents get older the kids are responsible for them. Without getting and reading that code i don't know if it is enforceable or only enforceable in like a divorce cord or something. Hope this help some
I think it is about a parent or child with nothing no money no job no place to live the family must try to step in and help. As there is no welfare system here like in the US
I knew Pea was way off on that I married my wife not her family I help with small niceties of my choice . Thanks for the great clarification to this law ❤
So what if i have kids with a filipina and i take my kids to the local mall how many times will i get the cops called on me? Man that sounds like a horrible way to live, so many risks involved not worth it, i dont think ill ever go back to the Philippines again.
Thank you Mike for addressing this issue. I was certainly concerned when I heard the podcast relating to marriage and responsibility to the family. Thanks , it certainly was informative. Thanks for another excellent podcast Mike.
Hi Mike. Thank you. Pea's video was with her attorney friend. Family support is the law in the Philippines. The recommendations from the video was to get a prenup declaring the expats participation in family expenses.
Well, as Mike said, the law regarding the family support is enforced upon all of just the immediate family members, BUT it is only enforced if the person needing that support can be either mentally ill and is just freely wandering the streets, or maybe that family member is helpless, like someone who is paralyzed or someone who is physically disabled or incapacitated that nobody wants to hire him for a job, and so, he is living in the streets.
The law that Pea brought up is not a criminal law. So no, the police won't come for you. But it is a civil law and that means that a close family member could sue your filipina for the financial help in question.
The old saying I’m not mad at you if your parents are poor, but I’ll be mad at you if you don’t marry a woman with rich parents ❤ the Asian way of life love is money and money is love.❤️ that’s for all of you foreigners 😂
200,000 and the time is not normal, one month after we filed there was a bad earthquake in Davao where the court was and shut down for 8 months and reopen and a few months later we had covied for 3 years so bad luck so 5 years, such a pain
Hi Mike, I just returned from Cebu where I became engaged to a wonderful woman that I met several months ago on Christian Filipina. She has a 10 yo daughter and I am proud and thankful to have both of them in my life. While I was there, there were several times that I was alone with the girl in public. Usually in one of the malls while her mother was shopping in another store or getting her hair/nails done. I was aware of the law about being alone with a minor, and while I didn't worry about it excessively I was aware of the people around us. I will say that even though no one ever approached us, I did notice people paying close attention to the two of us together and even a few dirty looks. I suppose I should get used to negative disapproving looks even when they get here to the US where we plan to live. I am many years older than my fiancé and age gap discrimination is common in many places. Enjoy your videos Mike, thanks! Dennis
I remember when i travelled from Iowa by way of amtrack to los Angeles california to meet my fiance when she first arrived in the states. She had a brother in Riverside california we stayed at a few days. Before we left he spoketo me and said that the kids here in the USA, now three including my fiance gave their mom and dad a $100 each a month for support. Even though we wernt married yet and I did after all take the oldest and last daughter from them who took care of them, i agreed to send support to them even befor my fiance was employed. Now we have a little home we had built over their that her mother stays in and my wifes brother is basically the caretaker of the house and my mother inlaw. We now send $200 a month to pay bills and buy food as the house is completed except for cetral air which we will have installed before we return to stay there 6 months out of the year.
@@mikesphilippineretirement Mike, With Both working it is a big help. I will only have S,S, when I retire but my wife has a 401K plus what little SS she will have as shes only been working since 2012. I figure not having to worry about rent will help us even more when we retire.
I appreciate you covering this Mike. When I heard it on Pea I was somewhat concerned. The way you present this is probably accurate it's just common sense. Thanks.
Do yourself a favor and watch the Filipina Pea video. She actually had an attorney who knows the law explain it rather than a foreigner who only knows what he signed with his immigration papers. Imagine a foreigner in the United States saying none of the immigration papers I signed said I couldn’t commit wire fraud. No one ever mentioned that to me. Everything indispensable for sustenance includes dwelling, clothing, medical attendance, education, and transportation. If they have reasonable needs, and the Filipina has the means to provide, then the law is applicable. It doesn’t say only if they are destitute. The family member just needs to bring a case under article 195.
Yeah, thank you Mike. I watched the Filipina Pea video about that and it definitely became a concern and put a seed of reluctance in my head. On the flip side, doesn’t that encourage a girl to want to be with a foreigner boyfriend if her family is “dirt” poor?
Mike, I'm speaking from personal experience. A man married to a Filipina can be arrested and put in prison for up to 12 years if having sex outside of the marriage under the violence against women and children act. The wife can bring a case of Concubinage and a case of emotional abuse. If you are a foreigner and are found guilty you will serve your sentence first, then afterwards you will be deported and blacklisted. Fortunately I was able to resolve things with my wife before the case went to trial. But I did spend a week in jail before I was able to pay the bail of 70,000 pesos cash, there is no bail bonds for foreigners you have to pay cash also my attorney fee was another 70,000 pesos and 3,000 per court appearance.
Cow and the calf. I do think it's more based on morality. Reading the thumbnails, and doing the research, there is no legal obligation to you, but it's a moral obligation. I'd also think one will have the conversation on how much support would be given. As others have said, in my words, wolves and sheep. If your companion is given the opportunity, she'll be a wolf. Ine cannot be suckered inti total support of her parents, but morally, there will be some support, no matter how small.....great subject...an eye opener 😮😮
After 20 years there I can tell you that there are plenty of old people who have children that have nothing to do with them. They will let them live in squalor and poverty they simply do not care period sometimes it because that maybe the parents treated them partially when they were young and so they think they will get back at them by not giving them any of their success. I myself took care of my wife's mother and father and even all of her brothers and sisters for a while. Right now though I don't have the money to do it but when I do get it of course I will still help them because I'm a nice human being. Whereas I've seen plenty of Filipinos just they don't do anything for their brothers sisters or your parents. one of my biggest mistakes was helping everybody who came and asked for help any loan always turns into a giveaway you will never see that money again... and if by chance you need help they will not be there to help you CHISMUS then the nasty chismis begins that's OK though when people show the....rs then you can leave them far behind .. .
When I was still married to my Filipina wife, I often took our nieces and nephews (who were all minors at the time) for a swim or an ice cream. I never had a problem. The only way you are going to have a problem is if their parents report you for "obducting" their child. If you have a normal relationship with your in-laws and they know they can trust you with their children, this is never going to happen.
The wife handles what is send back home each month,, I knew that heading into the marriage,, It does not break our budget and makes a difference for the province.Tho she does scrutinize when things arise outside the monthly before she commits..Ill be honest, if you are making USD do not expect the siblings to pay as much when emergencies come up since they are making Pesos... Good topic,,
I don’t need laws to keep my moral compass pointing correctly. My family helps each other, because it’s family. Fortunately, most of the family members do okay on their own. But we’re still family, and help, when needed
What happens if your Filipina GF/wife isn’t working or has no money? The pressure is on the foreigner to help out. What if her siblings are broke or make little money? As you suggested, you need to be aware of their situation. Personally, I wouldn’t get involved in a potentially bad situation. I don’t need the stress at my age.
Mike, good content, thank you. You might want to be aware of camera placement. In this video, the focus got messed up by your hand gestures being in the foreground and pulling focus. Maybe place camera higher or hold your hands lower, or just record from farther away.
Article 195 Philippines Family Code Article 195. Subject to the provisions of the succeeding articles, the following are obliged to support each other to the whole extent set forth in the proceeding article: The spouses; Legitimate ascendants and descendants; Parents and their legitimate children and the illegitimate children of the latter; Parents and their illegitimate children and their legitimate and illegitimate children of the latter; and Legitimate brothers and sisters, whether of full or half-blood.
Hi Mike, I’m afraid you’re giving out wrong information, regarding one of the laws. Gracie, the Pea’s friend ( that’s an attorney ), makes it crystal clear, that the “NEW” law makes it clear, that if the Filipina is “married” to a foreigner, he “IS” financially responsible, for “financially assisting”, towards his wife’s immediate ( her parents, & siblings), needs. The Pea’s attorney friend Gracie, specifically quoted the “NEW” law, that makes the foreigner spouse, financially responsible. Gracie said, the parents & siblings probably “won’t” try to sue the daughter & foreigner husband, because they don’t have the funds, to hire an attorney, to sue the daughter. But according to Gracie, the “NEW” law, “IS” in the books. I’ll send you the “Pea’s & Gracie’s” blog, explaining this “NEW” law.
thanks Peter instead of her Blog how about the copy of the Laws with the words "Foreigner and wife and responsible". Please show me in writing what the Law said That I'm so wrong about. Thank again for your comment and sharing what Pea and Gracie had to say
How you doing, Mike? Very good information, could you tell us how much a peso is? Compared to the American dollar end as of June 9th 2020 four, there's no more The king of, Saudi Arabia. That the petrol dollar, it's no longer accepted, so if you could break down the difference between what are pesos compare to the American dollar? Thanks again, Mike, very good information from the guy from Texas. I wouldn't help them with anything disrespectful. That's good to know about getting a fixer. Someone to help you, what's wrong with paying a consulting fee? Thank you very much, Mike .
Just read the Civil Code. It's not that hard to read, and you don't have to go very far in to realize that there is no legal claim on a foreign husband.
Mike, I think this is your best vid yet. I agree 100%. The Barangay Capt. knows or will find out what is going with a family that is not taking care of an member especially and elder. The community will expect the Filipinos to take care of their family first - a western spouse of a daughter won't be involved. Before a western man marries into a Filipino family he should find out if his girlfriend's sibling are working and taking care of their own families. Or if they are younger they may need support to get into college. That will give an idea how much family pressure will be exerted onto the girlfriend/wife later. Does the Filipina have enough backbone to hold her family inline and distinguish between want and need? I saw some westerners panicking on Pea's channel about these laws and I thought permanently relocating to another country is not for the timid. So those terrified folks should just stay where they are.
I can adopt a filipina abandoned child but my own australian children living in phillippines they won't let me see. cause my wifes cousin is chief of police her uncle is barangay captain and rhe mayor is her uncle and dswd is her aunties theres no legal impartiality for me
Michael you should have just slept in in your new rental house??, you guys wake up trying to find content for your channel I feel sorry for you enjoy your retirement I don't believe for a minute especially in Dumaguete that the bloggers out there are doing it because they enjoy it 100% they do it to get their spouse or girlfriends to get a channel to make a few bucks and then it helps you as well making a few cents here and there... We watch a lot of shows you know that from day one... We totally get it.. enjoy the house!
the laws cannot force a foreigner to take care of the filipinas family, BUT, the filipina normally will be the force in the relationship to push for assistance but asking and making life difficult. It is cultural, and most not all most filipinas have a loyalty tie to their family that is greater than their foreigner partner. Trust me, 12 years living here in the PI, and brgy cpt, the entire process is a zoo and most doesn’t even know the proper way to deal with a brgy summons. DILG circular covers (in english) how the brgy process is supposed to work. the more you learn how it is supposed to work the more frustrated you will become.
I give my Fiancé 58000 pesos ($1031 USD) per month. It is one of my pensions. I tell her it is hers to do what she wants with (help her family if that is what she wants) but I won’t be spending any of my money for her family. I pay our living expenses from savings and Social Security . This way there is a set upper limit of spending on relatives (58000 pesos)and if her relatives ask me for money I direct them to my Filipina. It then becomes her responsibility or guilt.
This is not a moral decision. Mike hammered planning and thinking things through in his earlier videos and now it is a lot feelings and white knight savorism. Filipinos are resourceful they will do what they have to do to make ends meet. They will live as comfortably as possibly. If a family member finds himself or herself homeless. The immediate family should be the first to reach out to assist. If the family can't be bothered to do that or if the family member has a bad track record that should be taken into account. But overextending yourself by moving someone else in to your home. Or renting a place for them is too much.
I appreciate the video but one thing I will tell people...follow and understand the LAW in the place you are. Don't listen to someone saying what is or what isn't. Laws supersede opinions or beliefs. Like here in the USA...ignorance is no excuse for not knowing the law. I saw that episode of the Filipina Pea. I'm more inclined to LISTEN to a Filipino attorney and someone who lives there since birth. Dating someone does not make you financially responsible but if you marry, what's yours is hers. That's even a fact in the USA. What it resolves to is FOLLOW THE LAW.
No,...after you move to the Philippines you should take all your money with you,..bank it there,..afterwards find a Phillipino girlfriend/wife,...THEN sign all your cash and assets over to her and her family, that way THEY'LL ALL KNOW that you REALLY love them❤. Now, that's the right thing to do!!
Mike, for a foreigner being with underage filipino children, carry around a wallet pic of the kids, the mom, yourself at a police station or similar. For double protection, have a short video on the phone with a police officer verifying all is OK.
I hope you are correct when you say the laws in the Philippines are enforced with common sense, because, unfortunately thatnismOften not the case in the USA
I like you Mike, but you should have watched the video. Pea had a lawyer on who explained the law. She never said the foreigner was responsible under the law. However you Filipina wife or girlfriend most definitely can be sued for support under the law.
I agree with you, Mike. This situation is definitely just a personal moral decision.
Whether it’s your live in girlfriend or your wife, I would believe there would be some kind of heartwarming generosity and consideration to help out the family. Even if there’s no legal obligation 🐸🙌
Just so no one ends up wanting to make laws out of morality! Then you can end up with all kinds of crazy laws
Pea's video (with the lawyer) was specific about this ONLY being a potential in a marriage situation.
@@CharlesFuh5pt4nd7z It like mixing religion and politics in states
There are three things that come to mind 1) Are we 'helping' by 'giving,' or enabling? 2) Is there any kind of reciprocity, should we also be in need (so we might give without resenting it later)? 3) Did we disparage the poor in our home country, or was our attitude kindly to them as well (which would border on hypocrisy)? If we're honest with ourselves, we're giving, mainly, to keep our younger gf/spouse happy, and for the conjugal rewards that go along with that.
Sounds like a foreigner is STILL taking a chance if he does not have an iron-clad explanation. I would want to have more proof on my side legally.
As a single (divorced) man, the only law that concerns me is rape. All that needs to happen is for a pissed off girl to point her finger at you, and you ARE going straight to a Philippine jail. No bail. May not even get to see a judge for several years. Do you need meds? Too bad, unless you have someone on the outside bringing them for you, you don't get them. You will almost certainly be offered an extortion offer for her to "settle" and drop charges. Refuse to pay up, and as a retirement age man, there is a very real possibility that you will die in a Philippine jail/prison.
This has happened many times that I've seen over the years.
pick who you sleep with carefully
You have seen it many times? You have personal knowledge name all these times you have knowledge of? If you believe what you say happened, are you saying none of these sexpats NEVER did what they were accused of?
Maybe STOP going to Asian countries to exploit the women of a 'poorer' country.
All true a minor argument could result in fake rape charges, and you will get extorted by corrupt cops.
@@mikesphilippineretirement Ice, ice baby, rolling the dice, dice baby is what happens for most. Actually, while we believe we're doing the picking, for the most part, we are being picked. We find out later about their true character. If true, the best we can do is not show all our cards, and have an 'escape plan' should things go south.
@@user-zu5tv7zt6vWhen I watch my Filipina eating rice I say “Rice, Rice Baby”😂
In 2007, I took my two boys to a mall in/around Makati. They were 11 and 9 I think. People saw a tall white guy with two Fil-Am kids with dark skin. Shortly I was approached and stopped by a police officer. He had 3 other officers a short distance away within sight.
He questioned my about being with the boys. When the boys and I identified our father/son relationship, he was not satisfied. Luckily I happened to have both mine and the boy's passports on my person to prove it.
The officer even told me without that proof, he would have taken me into custody (arrested).
This can happen, although I think it's very rare. It was clear to me this particular officer did not like foreigners by the way he spoke to me, but honestly he was very professional about the encounter.
Bottom line, don't do anything wrong and you pretty much have nothing to fear. Out and about in multiple locations over the years, I have always felt much safer in the Philippines than in any city in the US.
I agree about the safety in the Philippines. I have no worries being with PJ with out Janet. I took PJ and his cousin to Ayala Mall and had no issues
Wow, I know the law but that is scary none the less. When out with my asawa's nieces etc I always make sure she's with me
This is a Civil Statute not Criminal. It would take 7-10 years to go through the court system. The Barangay can only conduct a mediation and it is not binding. This is basically non-enforceable.
my point
Lots of guys if they find out a girl has 5 or more siblings or has children don’t want to date that girl for fear of financial obligations.
that is ok some guys like chubby girls others like skinny one. Just be honest with yourself and the girl and they should have no problems
@@mikesphilippineretirement that's not what he said at all. Its about paying for your girlfriend's children. Has nothing to do with skinny or big...
If you pay the black mailer he will keep coming back. Paying for a broken window is totally different from paying a black mailer. If the window cost $200 to fix and the store owner is asking for $500 than that is blackmail.
Listen, it's on a case by case basis, I lived in Ph for 6 years and my ex had many siblings and before I knew it, there was always someone in her family who needed financial help from helping to pay off for a motorbike that they couldn't afford as it was being repossessed, to giving giving a distant cousin pocket money to go to college, and many other "loans" actually I got fed up because I came to Ph thinking that I would get peace and quiet (the dogs and roosters didn't bother me) but it was just the opposite, I just got fed up and left, and since then I travelled around a bit and now I feel "free" from the burden of my ex's family. Should the expat support his girlfriend/wife's family? To each his own, It's Filipino culture to support the parents but that's good for Filipinos not for some expats.
Thanks for sharing
It's for the siblings that has to help out their parents .I heard the lawyer when she told the pea about the law.
I know that but thank you @williomjackson1065
Breaking a window and bedding another mans wife is a pretty big stretch to be comparing the two but I think we all get the picture. 😂
hahaha best I could come up with
Thank you for your enlightening perspective.
Im a filippina our parents if they cannt afford it we helped them .theres no law but its my conscience. 😊😊😊
thank you for clearing that up
I believe that is a good law. In USA they should make such a useful law, instead of the ridiculous laws they come up these days. Thanks Mike.
Thanks for sharing Dukeman
FYI: the eldest sibling usually has more responsibility. If you marry the eldest sibling count on her/him helping/scolding the younger siblings.
This video is super spot on thanks for clearing it up and making these knucklehead doubters learn.
Glad to help. Thanks Andy
Mike I watch your CZcams videos often. You provide great advice and information. I'll continue to watch so you don't become homeless. LOL!
I can stay in your house. hahaha
My friend, common sense is a scarce commodity not only in the PH but many other countries. On the whole human kind is running low on common sense. Look at so many nonsense conflicts around the world.
My Filippina's Family are Farmers and her Mom's getting old.
To get around all of this we purchased some Land for the Family to farm adding 25% more land to the Family.
It's Our Land, but they can farm it and take 100% of all of the profits.
good job Joe
YOU CAN NEVER OWN THE LAND ONLY LEASE IT. DONT UNDERSTAND HOW THEIR LAWS WORK
I have not seen my filipina wife in 8months but she just missed her period
so why would the guy that impregnated her
not be responsible?
why does he get off the hook?
police in phillippines explain how they won't charge her with adultery?
Will they reciprocate if you fall on hard times?
I am counting on that
@@mikesphilippineretirement For you, as foreigner, is only one way traffic. Be sure ;-) Your bank account (in your home country) should have always enouh funds to let you relocate back to your country. Many old foreigners are so badly extorted by GF & her families, that they can't even afford to buy ticket to fly home. I was lived in PH for 6 years and know what I talking about.
Hahaha
You explained it very well. Thank you.
You are welcome!
I helped out my dad for several years before he died. I've helped out my 80 year old mom and even younger brother for over 30 years. Anyone who would turn their back on family if they can afford to help makes no sense to me. How can you expect your girl to be any different?
Totally agree
you need a golden ribbon helping out your family,
I couldn't agree more. My parents are no longer with us and I would give anything to be able to help them now.
You can just imagine if you are in a position to help your struggling parents but your wife forbids it.
What would your thoughts be?
Congratulations. You have just tried on the shoes of many a filipina
Mike, do you realise that if the husband catches his wife in the act of infidelity and he kill them both....... he won't be imprisoned.
Exiled from the area for 5-10 years but that's about it.
A wife having sex with another man is adultery
The term for the husband having sex with his mistress is called concubinage
Both carry a custodial sentence
You are not correct about not going to jail for adultery. As a matter of fact it carries a 7 year sentence.
It happened to me and I spent 3 weeks banged up in recto awaiting a hearing in 2011
@@gerbourke1952 Excellent point about missing your parents. I would give anything for just one more day with my dad.
I agree ☝️ some videos are a conspiracy act for views and advertising that attorney as well. Anyone will help family 😊 but it’s also if you marry in the Philippines. They are also raised as children this family way. You also have people knocking girls up and leaving them, so they should go after them.. I thank god my Filipina is a great girl. 🙏
Thank you for sharing @GringoFilipino
It's the culture I love and that's part of the culture.That's why i'm married to a filipino
Same with me Leroy
An attorney there was on the Filipina Pea's channel and explained the law you're referring to. There is a law, and that law works both ways, the parents are equally responsible to support their children as the children are to support them. There is a cultural thing involved too, called "Utang na loob", the parents tell their children "you owe us everything".
Yes I know the meaning and it is the way Filipino Families have taken care of each other for a very long time. No need for expats to think there is jail time is you do not help
WHAT. IS. PEA ?????
Thanks Mike and Janet ❤. Common sense rules.. I agree with you. Keep the great videos coming 😊
Our pleasure! Herb
Don't watch the Pea either but did watch that video with her attorney friend because of the thumbnail on the sidebar.. Thanks for your advice on this, was concerned but now am okay. Common sense advice, thank you, Mike...Jim
No worries
Second Post, A way to protect everything is incorporate, So you only own into it. Many Wealthy do it, You may own 45% I believe, Pick the good members and wife for the rest, Then your wishes may be granted after You and wife gone, Thats so far what i have found best option. At worst Corp sells out snd you get 45%. But everything here seems to grow in Values fast. God Bless
something to think about
@@mikesphilippineretirement You get well over 100k invested you want to protect it for sure, I’m about 160 total, Going on 3 places now. In USA easy one ranch, Here harder. Spread out differently.
God bless
Remember, it's not what they would do, it's what they could do.
well said Don
Agreed. Always look at what their capabilities are, not their intentions and plan accordingly.
Very enlighting. Enjoying most of you vidios. Thanks
Glad you like them! sorry to hear only MOST. hahaha just kidding thanks for watching James
Your girl takes that responsibility, if she doesn't take care of her family they she not the one you want.
I agree with you Leroy
Thank you for making this video! Filipina Pea is creating drama
Our pleasure! Filipina Pea like myself and many others make videos we think the viewers would enjoy
you're right, Mike. Legally, there's none. It's a cultural practice that often abused by the receiving end. If you extra to give or to help, I suggest to give in kind. For instance if you can only afford to give a certain amount equal to, for example paying for a past due electric bill, then pay the electric company directly for them. There are some who, if you give cash, they'll spend it for drinking or take it to a cockfight to bet. Lol! Believe me, I know because I am a Filipino but now living in the U.S. as a citizen. Good luck and keep up the good work.
thanks for sharing
Actually the PHRASE was. "WHEN YOU TURN 18 DON'T LET THE DOOR HIT YOU IN THE ASS"..
hahaha now the stay at home until they reach 40
"Don't let the door hit you where the Good Lord split you" 😂😅
I very much doubt that the Filipino Pea woman’s friend is NOT a solicitor as claimed. It’s very unlikely that a genuine solicitor would use a Gmail address for the legal work as it’s advertised in the description 😂 the Pea woman deleted my comments (and others) about the subject
Important disticntion, if the Filipina is your girlfriend then you are not resposnible for her family. But if you marry her, then the local government views 50% of your income as hers as your spouse. So they can legally pressure her to take care of her family with your money. The Filipina Pea just did a great video on this with a lawyer. I would urge everyone to listen very carefully to what the lawyer says.
Also, be careful about your girlfriend geting pregnant since that can come with not only child support concerns but also implied ‘spousal’ support if you were living together since they view that as ‘living together as if married’.
thanks for sharing
@KingRat71 - get a vasectomy before arriving in the Philippines. Solves the child problem with all of its expenses in currency, energy, and time.
I wouldn't worry about getting sued for support. Most families can't afford to hire an attorney. If they can, they have no need. Help out if you can. A little kindness goes a long way here.
just be a good person and give help when really needed
The financial responsibility law in the Philippines does require the a husband support is filipina spouse even if there is a breakup and separation. It;s similar to alimony or child support.
But in Phils an education is considered to be essential...SO.....the brothers & sisters are the filipinas responsibility. If you marry a filipina and she owns the property SHE WILL USE YOUR MONEY because the property is an asset.
no no no
Ypi are wrong about the law with minor in the care of a foreigner.. The last President was so peoud of this law that says no filipino citizen is allowed to leave a child under the age of 12 in the care custody or control of a foreigner even in child care faility the parent can be charged with this offence and the foreigner can be shown the door out of the Phils or if there is a crime then Jail time first... Fact checking Mike.
show the code or the law as written Check your own facts Sir
let's be clear here, Pea's video (with the lawyer) was specific about this ONLY being a potential in a marriage situation. The attorney on Pea's video was very clear.
yes she was. My point is no one is going to jail over this law in my opinion
@@mikesphilippineretirement gotcha
I think some people need to go back to school and work on their listening comprehension skills. What was said in the video is the family can sue their DAUGHTER, NOT the foreigner. If she is MARRIED to a foreigner and the family sues her and SHE has to pay the family, then the amount she is "worth" is determined by a judge both on her AND the foreigners assets, which in most cases would make her "worth" more and have to pay more than SHE can actually afford to, IF there was no pre-nup. NO, the foreigner is NOT ordered to pay the family, ONLY the Filipina is, but because the judgement would be more than she can pay, the foreigner would end up paying, not because he is ordered to, but because he wants to help his wife. She can also be sued by biological/half brothers and sisters for EDUCATION ONLY. Her extended family (Grandma/grandpa/aunts/uncles/nieces/nephews) can NOT sue her for support.
love for you to show me one court case that had the family sued a daughter for support in the last 10 years
@@mikesphilippineretirement I didn't say it happens. I said that is what was said in Pea's video. Seems some misunderstood what was said in that video which is why they're making such a big deal about that law, when they don't need to be. It was also said that it is an old law that most don't even know it exists.
Are you kidding me? Six brothers and six sisters, and everybody will pay their share? Not a chance. They will expect the Filipina who is married to a foreigner to pay it all. Or maybe a sibling who is overseas can pay (again all of it). May not be a law, but it is definitely a family expectation. Mike, you are better than most, but the problem with western expat CZcamsrs is they don't often disclose the negatives. It's a real disservice to the viewers.
My understanding is that the law relates to the assets that you have in the Philippines (property etc) , rather than any assets that you have back in your home country. Of course that would change if you were also married to your Filippina back in your home country!
I did say keep some money back home and not let everyone know what you make
Great video, common sense prevails if your not doing anything wrong , well done Mike. 😊
Thanks 👍Guys
Thank you my friend for positive videos and positive information because there are a lot of logos on here that do nothing but bash foreigners and bash everybody else so thank you thank you
enjoy life thank you
Like you said the law may not pertain to a foreigner but in your situation, if Janet was made to help support her family, you being an upstanding man would assume the burden that Janet might not be able to handle. So in this situation it would then become a foreigner's issue. Me, I can't believe any of us would allow our inlaws to be starving or homeless.
very true.
HELPING EA OTHER MAKES SENSE BUT BEING ABUSED HARASSED SOUNDS LIKE BEING ABUSED OR USED OR BOTH. THATS SCARY AN IF BROTHERS COME AFTER YOU UNSAFE VIOLENT
This is what i see and it has nothing to do with expat! Article 195 of the philippine code list the order of family responsibility. It starts with the parents being responsible for the kids when the parents get older the kids are responsible for them. Without getting and reading that code i don't know if it is enforceable or only enforceable in like a divorce cord or something. Hope this help some
I think it is about a parent or child with nothing no money no job no place to live the family must try to step in and help. As there is no welfare system here like in the US
I knew Pea was way off on that I married my wife not her family I help with small niceties of my choice . Thanks for the great clarification to this law ❤
You explained it very well😊😊😊
thank you
Actually he is 100% correct
So what if i have kids with a filipina and i take my kids to the local mall how many times will i get the cops called on me? Man that sounds like a horrible way to live, so many risks involved not worth it, i dont think ill ever go back to the Philippines again.
Thank you Mike for addressing this issue. I was certainly concerned when I heard the podcast relating to marriage and responsibility to the family. Thanks , it certainly was informative. Thanks for another excellent podcast Mike.
your welcome
Hi Mike. Thank you. Pea's video was with her attorney friend. Family support is the law in the Philippines.
The recommendations from the video was to get a prenup declaring the expats participation in family expenses.
OMG
Well, as Mike said, the law regarding the family support is enforced upon all of just the immediate family members, BUT it is only enforced if the person needing that support can be either mentally ill and is just freely wandering the streets, or maybe that family member is helpless, like someone who is paralyzed or someone who is physically disabled or incapacitated that nobody wants to hire him for a job, and so, he is living in the streets.
The law that Pea brought up is not a criminal law. So no, the police won't come for you.
But it is a civil law and that means that a close family member could sue your filipina for the financial help in question.
The old saying I’m not mad at you if your parents are poor, but I’ll be mad at you if you don’t marry a woman with rich parents ❤ the Asian way of life love is money and money is love.❤️ that’s for all of you foreigners 😂
In the US girl are told to marry a Doctor or Someone with a great Job so they will be taken care of
Good advice, I was worried about that years ago, but now she has her annulment and we were married 2 months ago
god bless your marriage
Hello, how much was the annulment and how long did the procedure take? Thanks.
200,000 and the time is not normal, one month after we filed there was a bad earthquake in Davao where the court was and shut down for 8 months and reopen and a few months later we had covied for 3 years so bad luck so 5 years, such a pain
@@johnbergeron9997 Thanks John. That covid messed up lots of plans.
Hi Mike, I just returned from Cebu where I became engaged to a wonderful woman that I met several months ago on Christian Filipina. She has a 10 yo daughter and I am proud and thankful to have both of them in my life. While I was there, there were several times that I was alone with the girl in public. Usually in one of the malls while her mother was shopping in another store or getting her hair/nails done. I was aware of the law about being alone with a minor, and while I didn't worry about it excessively I was aware of the people around us. I will say that even though no one ever approached us, I did notice people paying close attention to the two of us together and even a few dirty looks.
I suppose I should get used to negative disapproving looks even when they get here to the US where we plan to live. I am many years older than my fiancé and age gap discrimination is common in many places.
Enjoy your videos Mike, thanks!
Dennis
I remember when i travelled from Iowa by way of amtrack to los Angeles california to meet my fiance when she first arrived in the states. She had a brother in Riverside california we stayed at a few days. Before we left he spoketo me and said that the kids here in the USA, now three including my fiance gave their mom and dad a $100 each a month for support. Even though we wernt married yet and I did after all take the oldest and last daughter from them who took care of them, i agreed to send support to them even befor my fiance was employed. Now we have a little home we had built over their that her mother stays in and my wifes brother is basically the caretaker of the house and my mother inlaw. We now send $200 a month to pay bills and buy food as the house is completed except for cetral air which we will have installed before we return to stay there 6 months out of the year.
$200 USD is a very fair amount and if your both working in the states it won't kill the budget
@@mikesphilippineretirement Mike, With Both working it is a big help. I will only have S,S, when I retire but my wife has a 401K plus what little SS she will have as shes only been working since 2012. I figure not having to worry about rent will help us even more when we retire.
True common sence dont judge or jump into conclucion we are not what you think
thanks for the comment
I appreciate you covering this Mike. When I heard it on Pea I was somewhat concerned. The way you present this is probably accurate it's just common sense. Thanks.
thanks Michael It is an old law but still interesting to talk about
Are you going to trust an American tourist living in the Philippines about the Philippines laws? or a local Philippines attorney in the Philippines?
@@marcus22771
I wouldn’t trust either one
Do yourself a favor and watch the Filipina Pea video. She actually had an attorney who knows the law explain it rather than a foreigner who only knows what he signed with his immigration papers. Imagine a foreigner in the United States saying none of the immigration papers I signed said I couldn’t commit wire fraud. No one ever mentioned that to me.
Everything indispensable for sustenance includes dwelling, clothing, medical attendance, education, and transportation. If they have reasonable needs, and the Filipina has the means to provide, then the law is applicable. It doesn’t say only if they are destitute. The family member just needs to bring a case under article 195.
I did watch the video after I posted this video.
Yeah, thank you Mike. I watched the Filipina Pea video about that and it definitely became a concern and put a seed of reluctance in my head. On the flip side, doesn’t that encourage a girl to want to be with a foreigner boyfriend if her family is “dirt” poor?
of course a poor man or lady would always want to have a partner who can support them in any country
Absolutely rightknow the background 😊😊😊
ok
Mike, I'm speaking from personal experience. A man married to a Filipina can be arrested and put in prison for up to 12 years if having sex outside of the marriage under the violence against women and children act. The wife can bring a case of Concubinage and a case of emotional abuse. If you are a foreigner and are found guilty you will serve your sentence first, then afterwards you will be deported and blacklisted. Fortunately I was able to resolve things with my wife before the case went to trial. But I did spend a week in jail before I was able to pay the bail of 70,000 pesos cash, there is no bail bonds for foreigners you have to pay cash also my attorney fee was another 70,000 pesos and 3,000 per court appearance.
so your wife paid a lawyer to have your charged? hard to believe
@@mikesphilippineretirement yes.. I have the court documents still..
Mike it ok mate don't worries you don't have to look after you inlaw
no worries here mate
Great clarification of those laws Mike!
Great subject matter. 👍🏽
Glad you think so!
You won’t be busted Mike. As long as you keep making great videos Adsense will sponsor you.
Hope so! thanks Johnnie
4th commandment - honour your mother and your father.....
yes no law needed
Cow and the calf. I do think it's more based on morality. Reading the thumbnails, and doing the research, there is no legal obligation to you, but it's a moral obligation. I'd also think one will have the conversation on how much support would be given. As others have said, in my words, wolves and sheep. If your companion is given the opportunity, she'll be a wolf. Ine cannot be suckered inti total support of her parents, but morally, there will be some support, no matter how small.....great subject...an eye opener 😮😮
Thank you for the comment. You need to have the talk about life and money with your future wife. Set some ground rules
After 20 years there I can tell you that there are plenty of old people who have children that have nothing to do with them. They will let them live in squalor and poverty they simply do not care period sometimes it because that maybe the parents treated them partially when they were young and so they think they will get back at them by not giving them any of their success. I myself took care of my wife's mother and father and even all of her brothers and sisters for a while. Right now though I don't have the money to do it but when I do get it of course I will still help them because I'm a nice human being. Whereas I've seen plenty of Filipinos just they don't do anything for their brothers sisters or your parents. one of my biggest mistakes was helping everybody who came and asked for help any loan always turns into a giveaway you will never see that money again... and if by chance you need help they will not be there to help you CHISMUS then the nasty chismis begins that's OK though when people show the....rs then you can leave them far behind .. .
a law no one cares about and how about child support??
When I was still married to my Filipina wife, I often took our nieces and nephews (who were all minors at the time) for a swim or an ice cream. I never had a problem. The only way you are going to have a problem is if their parents report you for "obducting" their child. If you have a normal relationship with your in-laws and they know they can trust you with their children, this is never going to happen.
yes I agree
The wife handles what is send back home each month,, I knew that heading into the marriage,, It does not break our budget and makes a difference for the province.Tho she does scrutinize when things arise outside the monthly before she commits..Ill be honest, if you are making USD do not expect the siblings to pay as much when emergencies come up since they are making Pesos... Good topic,,
Thanks Rick
I don’t need laws to keep my moral compass pointing correctly. My family helps each other, because it’s family. Fortunately, most of the family members do okay on their own. But we’re still family, and help, when needed
Yes do what is right and feels right in your heart
Expats do it anyway, its just not law😂
thank you
Time for you to climb the coconut tree Mike LoL
hahaha. hard time climbing out of bed
What happens if your Filipina GF/wife isn’t working or has no money? The pressure is on the foreigner to help out. What if her siblings are broke or make little money? As you suggested, you need to be aware of their situation. Personally, I wouldn’t get involved in a potentially bad situation. I don’t need the stress at my age.
thanks Rustynail
Mike, good content, thank you. You might want to be aware of camera placement. In this video, the focus got messed up by your hand gestures being in the foreground and pulling focus. Maybe place camera higher or hold your hands lower, or just record from farther away.
thank you so much Great advice. I will do that. I need all the help I can get. Thanks again Kevin
Article 195 Philippines Family Code
Article 195. Subject to the provisions of the succeeding articles, the following are obliged to support each other to the whole extent set forth in the proceeding article:
The spouses;
Legitimate ascendants and descendants;
Parents and their legitimate children and the illegitimate children of the latter;
Parents and their illegitimate children and their legitimate and illegitimate children of the latter; and
Legitimate brothers and sisters, whether of full or half-blood.
thank you for that info
@@mikesphilippineretirement Your welcome
Back grounds check. yes then no surprise
who will do the background check?
@@mikesphilippineretirement I will
Im retired whythe hell am i helping a family hell no maybe once and awhile
It's all about enforcement there's laws here they don't enforce like jaywalking! It's nice not to have police all over the place
I do not think they enforce that law. I still say no expat has gone to jail over that law
Hi Mike,
I’m afraid you’re giving out wrong information, regarding one of the laws. Gracie, the Pea’s friend ( that’s an attorney ), makes it crystal clear, that the “NEW” law makes it clear, that if the Filipina is “married” to a foreigner, he “IS” financially responsible, for “financially assisting”, towards his wife’s immediate ( her parents, & siblings), needs.
The Pea’s attorney friend Gracie, specifically quoted the “NEW” law, that makes the foreigner spouse, financially responsible. Gracie said, the parents & siblings probably “won’t” try to sue the daughter & foreigner husband, because they don’t have the funds, to hire an attorney, to sue the daughter. But according to Gracie, the “NEW” law, “IS” in the books. I’ll send you the “Pea’s & Gracie’s” blog, explaining this “NEW” law.
thanks Peter instead of her Blog how about the copy of the Laws with the words "Foreigner and wife and responsible". Please show me in writing what the Law said That I'm so wrong about. Thank again for your comment and sharing what Pea and Gracie had to say
How you doing, Mike? Very good information, could you tell us how much a peso is? Compared to the American dollar end as of June 9th 2020 four, there's no more The king of, Saudi Arabia. That the petrol dollar, it's no longer accepted, so if you could break down the difference between what are pesos compare to the American dollar? Thanks again, Mike, very good information from the guy from Texas. I wouldn't help them with anything disrespectful. That's good to know about getting a fixer. Someone to help you, what's wrong with paying a consulting fee?
Thank you very much, Mike .
Just read the Civil Code. It's not that hard to read, and you don't have to go very far in to realize that there is no legal claim on a foreign husband.
Mike, I think this is your best vid yet. I agree 100%. The Barangay Capt. knows or will find out what is going with a family that is not taking care of an member especially and elder. The community will expect the Filipinos to take care of their family first - a western spouse of a daughter won't be involved.
Before a western man marries into a Filipino family he should find out if his girlfriend's sibling are working and taking care of their own families. Or if they are younger they may need support to get into college. That will give an idea how much family pressure will be exerted onto the girlfriend/wife later. Does the Filipina have enough backbone to hold her family inline and distinguish between want and need?
I saw some westerners panicking on Pea's channel about these laws and I thought permanently relocating to another country is not for the timid. So those terrified folks should just stay where they are.
Thanks for the comment and if you like to move and retire to the Philippines do not let a you tube video change your mind
One should help your family, if you can afford to.
I can adopt a filipina abandoned
child but my own australian children
living in phillippines they won't let me see.
cause my wifes
cousin is chief of police
her uncle is barangay captain
and rhe mayor is her uncle and dswd
is her aunties
theres no legal impartiality for me
Some people really should stop watching The View and CNN.
And don't forget MSNBC
watching American TV in the Philippines
Michael you should have just slept in in your new rental house??, you guys wake up trying to find content for your channel I feel sorry for you enjoy your retirement I don't believe for a minute especially in Dumaguete that the bloggers out there are doing it because they enjoy it 100% they do it to get their spouse or girlfriends to get a channel to make a few bucks and then it helps you as well making a few cents here and there... We watch a lot of shows you know that from day one... We totally get it.. enjoy the house!
hahaha ok But we do slept in the new house.
@@mikesphilippineretirementdon't just lo e when someone you don't know tell you what your thinking.
From my understanding this requirement is only for basic needs. Extravagant wants and desires are not included.
the laws cannot force a foreigner to take care of the filipinas family, BUT, the filipina normally will be the force in the relationship to push for assistance but asking and making life difficult. It is cultural, and most not all most filipinas have a loyalty tie to their family that is greater than their foreigner partner. Trust me, 12 years living here in the PI, and brgy cpt, the entire process is a zoo and most doesn’t even know the proper way to deal with a brgy summons. DILG circular covers (in english) how the brgy process is supposed to work. the more you learn how it is supposed to work the more frustrated you will become.
thanks for watching
I give my Fiancé 58000 pesos ($1031 USD) per month. It is one of my pensions. I tell her it is hers to do what she wants with (help her family if that is what she wants) but I won’t be spending any of my money for her family. I pay our living expenses from savings and Social Security . This way there is a set upper limit of spending on relatives (58000 pesos)and if her relatives ask me for money I direct them to my Filipina. It then becomes her responsibility or guilt.
you give more than most expat get in a month. Good for you
This is not a moral decision. Mike hammered planning and thinking things through in his earlier videos and now it is a lot feelings and white knight savorism. Filipinos are resourceful they will do what they have to do to make ends meet. They will live as comfortably as possibly. If a family member finds himself or herself homeless. The immediate family should be the first to reach out to assist. If the family can't be bothered to do that or if the family member has a bad track record that should be taken into account. But overextending yourself by moving someone else in to your home. Or renting a place for them is too much.
I appreciate the video but one thing I will tell people...follow and understand the LAW in the place you are. Don't listen to someone saying what is or what isn't. Laws supersede opinions or beliefs. Like here in the USA...ignorance is no excuse for not knowing the law.
I saw that episode of the Filipina Pea. I'm more inclined to LISTEN to a Filipino attorney and someone who lives there since birth.
Dating someone does not make you financially responsible but if you marry, what's yours is hers. That's even a fact in the USA.
What it resolves to is FOLLOW THE LAW.
If I move to the Philippines should I keep all my money in a Bank in the US and just transfer what I need every month
many do that
No,...after you move to the Philippines you should take all your money with you,..bank it there,..afterwards find a Phillipino girlfriend/wife,...THEN sign all your cash and assets over to her and her family, that way THEY'LL ALL KNOW that you REALLY love them❤.
Now, that's the right thing to do!!
@@steloneil6699 I feel very sorry for you lol
Fine, but Can you explain why.
I'll wait.
Mike, for a foreigner being with underage filipino children, carry around a wallet pic of the kids, the mom, yourself at a police station or similar. For double protection, have a short video on the phone with a police officer verifying all is OK.
I hope you are correct when you say the laws in the Philippines are enforced with common sense, because, unfortunately thatnismOften not the case in the USA
I really believe that
They should direct some energy into reporting kids alone with their filipino uncles, brothers etc etc
I like you Mike, but you should have watched the video. Pea had a lawyer on who explained the law. She never said the foreigner was responsible under the law. However you Filipina wife or girlfriend most definitely can be sued for support under the law.
after I made the video I did watch it. I think she said if your married and your wife is 50/50 then if she is sued is half of your money up for grabs?