Emotional Healing | My Experience and Advice
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- čas přidán 2. 08. 2024
- This is incredibly personal, but I truly believe my experience with healing and self-love can heal many other people that may be going through something similar. Sending you so much love. This too shall pass. x
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"If this is really my person, this wouldn't be happening": this is such a good sentence to remind yourself when you feel like you want to go back to someone who hurt you...
@@SR-ql9he About as much of nonsense as your statement is. If your love is hurting you, it's not love, it's a delusion and/or the fear of being alone. This is situational, but telling someone they should suck up hurt, because "people make mistakes" and "love is not a fairy tale" it not only stupid, it's reckless and possibly dangerous.
@@SR-ql9he lol ofc not everything is a fairytale, but it's almost always true that if someone dumps you out of the blue while you're wedding planning, they're probably not going to be your person for life...
I totally resonate !!
You don’t know how much this has helped me, thank you for sharing this video🙏🏽
@@SR-ql9he I think this is difficult to judge without all of the information. Love isn’t always a fairytale and sometimes it does get messy and you push through but given we don’t have (nor are we entitled to) the whole story, I think Niomi is completely justified in saying that her “person” wouldn’t be hurting her like he did. None of us know what happened behind closed doors.
this was the most important video you have ever made
I agree. I think seeing the reality of getting over something traumatic let’s people know they can get over anything too. The more we see how all of us go through similar experiences helps make working through them possible
Agree! I still come back to it... and ive sent this to friends going through simillar situations and it helped them too
I can't believe he waited until you were at the stage of trying on wedding dresses before saying anything. You're right that he is definitely not the one.
Can you explain what actually happened? I guess I haven’t been paying attention to what’s going on on the internet these past months so I completely missed what happened. If you know could you please help?
@@ayseturkoglu1061 same
@@ayseturkoglu1061 yeah I’d like to know too I’m nosey
@@ayseturkoglu1061 Her and Joe broke up and are no longer engaged. She explains it in the video.
@@360shadowmoon I got that part, I meant like what were the circumstances of the break up, what did he do?
Seeing her go from talking about her insomnia during the worst of the heartbreak and then burst out laughing bc of a mud puddle was so beautiful to me. She has come so far and has such strength
she is incredible
This is the kind of content that resonates with people; raw, real and less curated. Carry on. 💕💕
Yep she’s brave and amazing. Goodluck for your future. You’ll met the right man one day. X
Yesss i feel the same ❤️👌
I agree
Totally agree. I really felt truth and connection in this video which is so rare these days from influencers.
“My heart is at ease knowing that what was meant for me will never miss me, and that what misses me was never meant for me” - Imam ash-Shafi’i
I really hope your healing journey continues and your happiness doubles 🙏🏼
Thank you 🙏!
True I love this saying
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That's beautiful! 💚
Amazing !!!
One thing I found really helped me through trauma was going to the local observatory and looking through lots of telescopes at stars, galaxies and planets. The scale of space. The insignificance of earth. The insignificance of time. It helped me so much to put perspective on my life and my existence. It is such a miracle to even exist. Life is unpredictable and we have no control.
So interesting because when I was going through a break up, I always looked out the window at night and took a few deep breaths. And I thought very similar things as you: how small this world is and how fascinating space is.
i agree about not being in control, we think we are in control of our paths but there is definitely a 'higher plan' for us all.
What a beautiful concept 💖
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Dont be apologetic about being philosophical or spiritual, it is part of the process of healing
I love the Mary Shelley quote "there is nothing so painful to the human mind as a great and sudden change" I feel like its kind of relevant to you rn ❤️
Wonderful quote
When she was talking about trying on wedding dresses and then two days later the breakup happened I started sobbing 😭 you’re so brave Nims ❤️❤️
Why did they break up?
That’s when I started too!! 😢💕
@@kdlee3316 it may be that he wanted to go back to India?..as they meant to be there for 1,2 years before covid happened?
@@kdlee3316 he was hungry
@@yestovanilla he actually lost his job due to COVID I think!
I cannot begin to imagine how traumatic it was to go from trying on wedding dresses with your family watching to such a major breakup within a couple of days. You are so strong and the way you have addressed the situation publicly has been done with nothing but class, respect and sensitivity. Super inspirational for so many people. Keep prioritising you 🥰
I’m still in shock that he would would break your heart like that. You packed up ur whole life and moved to India for him. This proves that ur an incredible strong person to be a strong as you are. I just hope he had 100% realised there’s never going to be another you. His loss xx
Exactly, his loss 🎄
Gosh his loss!!!!! Your amazing and this has helped me a lot
You're at this point where you're telling yourself it wasn't meant to be and that's why it ended ... I'm coming from the future and telling you one day you'll figure out exactly Why it wasn't meant to be. Not only will you be completely over it, but you will be SOOO incredibly thankful it ended, and if you were taken back in time you would have ended it yourself, maybe sooner, with a big smile on your face and a lot of peace in your heart 💞 It will pass
I was with my ex for 7 years. I was utterly in love with him. For the past 2 years he neglected me and withdrew from me. He left me and I had to sell our house on my own and he didn't want to see our dog either. He came to collect his belongings whilst I was at work, leaving all the rubbish behind for me to clear. He was on dating websites within 3 weeks. Trauma is an understatement. It's been exactly a year since he left and I'm doing better now. For the past year, the pain can only be described as heart cracking. Remember rejection is redirection. I wish you well...you are not alone x
Really hope you’re doing well. If it helps, it would have been a longer waste of your time if he hadn’t left. So in perspective, it’s was a victory. Stay strong ❤️
As heartbreaking the situation is, imagine if you’d got married and then this happened, always got to look at the positives x
“Inhale love, exhale surrender” you too are worthy and you too are loved niomi.
Thank you for opening up and being vulnerable. Most can relate to this kind of pain. Thank you for showing there is a light at the end of the tunnel and people can heal. This was so genuine and heartfelt
That was really powerful. Your maturity and soulfulness are so admirable. I’m glad you’re truly and fully living for yourself.
@@pinkrainbow1 even if she did it, do you blame her? We are human and she is human as well. Stop speculating about her. You are writing crap about her in every comment
@@pinkrainbow1 I’d of broke more than a mirror
my boyfriend died in a motorcycle accident around 2 weeks ago..
praying for healing for all of us in pain..
Sending love x
So sorry 💛
@@Mimi-gy6vk thank you mimi..
@@user-rb4lv4if9q much appreciated..
so sorry for your loss, cannot imagine. Please be well
Niomi, you will never understand how much I needed to hear this from you during this time. I've been experiencing THE heartbreak of my life, but your vulnerability and honesty in this video have just been so unbelievably encouraging and refreshing. To know that you are okay and that I too will be okay puts me at ease. THANK YOU for being brave and sharing your very personal journey. It truly means so much. I also feel so much more connected to you, oddly enough, and I love that you've helped so many others out there as well. You have such a gift for bringing peace to people. Never lose that bright light inside of you ❤️
Natalie Lee I hope you will be doing better very soon! You are not alone in this 🥰
@@CarolinedeLeeuw thank you so much!! appreciate the support🥺😊
I hope you’re feeling better and you will come out the other side of this ❤️ stay strong and one day this will all be a memory
That physical pain...yes I remember that pain. I thought that my heart could be hurt, but my God, the heart pain I actually felt it was ....hard core pain I never felt in my life.
But here I am, with all that cracks in my heart, light manage to get through and someone came to my life and I knew....all I suffered, it was ALL worth it. Ten years after, 2 kids and a right person that I love, yes, totally worth it.
Love this!!😊
I went through a breakup at the same time as you. Really nice to see someone on here being open and vulnerable about such a relatable experience.
Sending lots hugs x remember you are truly an amazing person 😍
me too, same time! how are you doing now? X
"When God is showing you that somebody is not for you & you continue to pursue them. He will make them hurt you until you have no choice but to leave." Author Unknown. I read this today and thought this might bring you and others some peace. Niomi, he didn't deserve such a beautiful soul as you... your King is yet to come, and when he does, you will see how glad you are that this came to pass. xxxxx
Yes! I have trouble letting people go and I’ve found God often intervenes and forces them to walk away from me in a very permanent way.
Finding that out.
God is good
Wow where did you saw that quote? ☺️
@@danieller9778 it was on my friend's facebook.
Loosing someone as you have is like a death. The pain the shock the numbness and the attachment of an invisible string of love is unbearable. Time really is the greatest healer indeed the beat is yet to cone
As a Muslim we believe that whatever is meant for you will never miss you and whatever isn’t for you will never find you no matter what. And if god takes anything away from you than he will replace it with something 10 times better than what you’ve lost tht wasn’t good for you in the first place ❤️
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"If something is meant for you, it will be yours even if it is between two mountains. If something is not meant for you, it will not be yours, even if it is between your two lips."
1980sbk how beautiful ❤️
@Sophie Hart This is such an ignorant comment. Firstly, arranged marriages are a cultural practice, and not religious. Secondly, arranged marriages are not forced marriages. They literally refer to a situation where someone suggests that someone might be a good match for you and then you go and find out if they are. People set people up all the time.
@Sophie Hart there are NO arranged marriages only forced marriages and those are happening in every single religion. You’re incredibly ignorant. We call that a nazi over here btw
Your sense of perspective after such a short period of time is really inspiring!
“These moments will make you who you are, but they won’t define you.” Truly beautiful, Niomi. Thank you for this video :)
No healing can start without self realization. Otherwise we are stuck in a cycle of making the same mistakes over and over again.
I completely buckled when you mentioned your stepdad and mum 💔
Thank you Niomi for being so vulnerable ❤️
I know me too 🥺🥺
Me too 😢
Yep xx
Yes I was crying too - it’s funny, when you cut a tree back it grows back even more complex and stronger than before. Maybe we are the same..
Same here, resonates so much with what I'm living currently
you are healing quite gracefully niomi. as someone who went through the same thing all i can say is to keep going. cheers
@@pinkrainbow1 well it’s from her point of view and the point of the whole video was how she went through the dark time also we actually do not know the whole background story of why they breaking up so as for me I wouldn’t harshly say she’s blaming him entirely as they must’ve their parts of why it ended.
@@pinkrainbow1 and what?
@@pinkrainbow1 clearly the engagement ended because of something he did so I don't think it really matters how he feels..
@@pinkrainbow1 well, if a guy dumps you the day before the wedding than she has the right to blame him. Why would you remain silent? I think she handled it very well, without telling too much.
@@pinkrainbow1 you must be Joe's mate. Literally spewing hate all over niomi's channel. Do one.
Six days after this video came out, I left my relationship of almost 7 years. I went from planning my wedding one day (he asked if I wanted to get married in the spring on Halloween, only to rescind it the next day because he said I needed to lose weight) to realizing I deserved so much better. The day this came out, I went out and got a journal on grief. It took 6 days until I was able to break up with my ex (he was away for work) but I resonated so much with what you were saying that I knew it was time. I started reaching out to family and friends. I started making plans. This was the first deep breath before I jumped into the deep end. I came back to this video almost a year on because I wanted to remember where I was when this video came out. If you think you want to leave, that's enough to leave. You all deserve so much love in your life.
Thank you so much for this. 🥺 I too was engaged to be married. I'm 30. We hadn't planned the wedding yet but my fiancé went abroad to work where his parents lived and then couldn't come back to the UK due to Covid. We were planning on buying a house together and we were saving up and everything. But then his parents got ill and his father had to have quite a serious operation and because he was the only son his mum said they needed him there as Covid had impacted their finances. His parents also said it wouldn't be wise for him to settle in the UK as they both needed care and wouldn't be able to care for themselves.
So he broke up with me and he literally told me via text the day after our anniversary which was mid November and my world crashed. He hasn't been in touch since then and I don't expect him to but it just hurts so much and I just feel absolutely broken. 😔
Haven't been able to eat, sleep or get on with any work even though I'm working from home. There really is nothing worse in the world than going through true heartbreak. And just like you, I felt and do still feel physical pain in my body. I'm trying to be good to myself and just accept it for what it is. I too am trying to change my mindset and it's true if that man was truly for me then this wouldn't have happened. It doesn't make it any better and I hated life and hated 2020 but now I'm trying to focus on the good things I have in my life and practise gratitude. But it is slow going.
If anyone else is in a similar position please don't hesitate to reach out. Having people who truly understand really helps. And like Niomi says if it was truly meant to be for me or us and if this was the right path then it would have happened and part of self love is understanding and accepting it wasn't meant for me or us. Reflection is really important and trying to understand why it has happened.
I am trying to be positive and looking to the future is really difficult but it's a slow process and taking each day at a time is seriously important. We will be fine girls. We will absolutely grow stronger and develop but it just means taking it a day at a time. Much love to everyone feeling heartbroken right now. ❤❤❤
You talking about collapsing in your parents’ arms made me cry a little 🥺 Well done for really taking care of your physical and mental health right after the traumatic event happened. You’re showing a very good example! Also, you were gorgeous in this video 🤍
Dear Niomi,
Everything happens for a reason. Like you said if he were your person, this wouldn’t be happening. It will take time but you’ll get there.
Lots of love
Well said,yes you will get there
I don’t think there is a worse feeling than feeling like the rug was pulled from under you.. I admire your courage and positivity! May we all find the strength to trust again. xo
Love how real you were...Sending you lots of love 💗 your so strong! 💗
Naomi.. I’ve been following you for years, always find you very likeable and elegant. This video make me respect you too, how you handled everything and still expressing your experience and feelings ...so inspiring. you have all my best wishes and prayers.
It was so brave of you to actually make this video, Niomi. Sending you lots of love and happiness... This too shall pass 🙏
Thank you so much for this, you have a wonderful soul and it’s so kind of you to be so open to share your moments. It truly does help.
This was truly beautiful. Sending you warm wishes and light to you!
Probably the most selfLESS video you can make, thank you a million stars. Keep going and well done for getting here Xx
Thank you for uploading this Niomi 💗
You’ve just described everything I’ve been through as well! Thank you for sharing xxxx
Gosh, I can’t tell you how much I needed to hear this. Thank you ❤️
You’re a beautiful soul. Thank you for sharing this.
best thing on the internet rn.. you're amazing and so inspiring.. everything you said in this video is so helpful. THANK YOU
so much love for you Niomi. thank you xx
Doesn't feel selfish at all. There is such fruit in what you've shared. So grateful you've put such vulnerable, personal thoughts. Healing is everything, nothing is selfish about what you've shared.
Thank you so much for your honesty, just thank you
This has been one of the most useful videos I have ever watched. I have learned a great deal! Thank you so much for sharing such a personal story! ❤️
I really feel so proud of you, you are a brave girl. Thanks for sharing this story with us.
Thank you for sharing being so open. Your words warmed my heart.
You are so amazing!!! I think you are so incredible, I hope your life continues to get better 💗
Thank you so much for sharing this video and your story 💜 I needed to hear this x
This is so wonderful, Niomi. Stay strong!
Thank you for being so open. I loved hearing your words, you're such an inspirational woman! Xx
Thank you for being so vulnerable and open! Sending you so much love, you are incredible :)
Such an honest and brutal talk. You’re amazing. Thank you for this! Xxx
You are amazing ❤️ sending you so much love and light xxx
Totally understand what you mean by “being pleased that this happened”. Being single and not knowing where you’ll be next year or even in a few months is one of the most exciting feelings you can have as a young woman. You’re doing so great niomi ❤️❤️
This is probably one of the most honest videos you have ever made. I really respect you for posting this ✊
I’m so glad you shared this!! I wish I’d known all this when it happened to me so I know you’re helping other people cope and heal. Years later and it’s a distant memory xx
You are so brave. Felt every word of what you said, sending lots of love your way. ❤️
This is so difficult but so beautiful to find others who share the same pain and instead of convincing us that everything is OK, it's so empowering to feel uncertain about future and admit the weaknesses so everybody sees it's OK to struggle. we all are human. We all feel and we all hurt. Thank you for sharing.
Absolutely beautiful video. You have such a good head on your shoulders and a wonderful, healthy outlook on life!!❤️❤️❤️
Thank you so much for sharing this! It's so helpful! Just knowing what you've done in hard times will help me have new things to try when i'm going through another hard time
Thankyou for making this video, just what I needed. Lots of love to you and your loved ones ❤️
You are incredible. I know what you mean when you describe the physical pain you felt as I have felt the same. Sending lots of love and healing your way. x
You have dealt with this ... so in incredibly well 🤍✨
I can't even imagine going through what you've been. This is such an empowering video. Thank you for this 🤍 Know that we are rooting for you, For your happiness and peace of mind and heart.
Thank you for this! I relate so much. You're such an inspiration ❤️
I love your honesty in this video.
Appreciate this so much. Thank you for sharing this, it must have been incredibly hard❤️
You’re truly an angle inside out, thank you for this xxxx
Thank you, Niomi!! So honest and uplifting
Thank you for this honest, vulnerable video! I recently have broken up with my partner and took inspiration to your previous video and now this one. It really makes you appreciate your support network so much xxx
I’m so grateful for this video, thank you so much for helping myself and many others through sharing your experiences. We love you Niomi! 💜
This is beautiful and so helpful Niomi, I went through something similar this year and it’s been so inspiring to see how you put yourself first and accepted the changes with a positive mindset. Thank you for doing this!
Lovely to see you laugh when your thanking people. Glad to see you pulling through. I hope to see your vlogmas content xx
It did help, Niomi. Thank you for sharing such an incredible personal journey
Absolute angel girl. Sending you so much love and continued healing. So pleased you have a phenomenal support network Xx
thankyou for this video, I really needed it today. its been really incredible to watch you evolve over these past years never thought id relate to you on such a level x
This video is literally like talking to a friend. I love the honesty and rawness of it, my favourite kind of videos are the unplanned ones
love you & your authenticity. Excited to watch your next journey & chapter!
Thank you for being so open. Sending so much love and healing Niomi x
Sending so much love to you - so much of this reflects your incredible strength and I love your 'spiritual' approach, really resonates with me xxx
Thank you so much! This video came at the perfect time! Your healing is inspiring mine❤️✨
You really are an inspiration! Thank you for sharing your experience! Sending love from Estonia!
Such an inspiration for many people ❤️❤️
This was so comforting thank you. Hearing that you’re going through the same thing hearing that it’ll get easier some day 💞
So beautifully said, “it’s like a physical pain”. I’m glad you are happy Niomi, it’s a journey! ♥️
Genuinely one of the most helpful things I’ve ever watched. Thank you💞
i feel like this has been a video where you've shown us your soul truly, thank you for sharing and being so open. sending love :)
thank you so much for this video! I'm going through a tough time myself and this really helped me look at it in a different perspective. thank you thank you thank you!! such an inspiration.
This was absolutely beautiful and heartfelt. I appreciate this video and it has given me some tips to help heal from my past. Thank you for being so open and honest even though you didn't have to!
Niomi, you're amazing and you've got this girl
What an amazingly powerful video Niomi !!! The way you have handled yourself through all of this is incredible, and i know for a fact you will be helping so many people who are experiencing similar !! You are amazing xxx
Loving your content more than ever (and have been following you for years), just so genuine and pure hearted. You deserve the world, sending you all the good vibes ❤️
Awe my dear Niomi, you are so brave, you made me shed tears. Well done in doing this very difficult video, it is without a doubt going to help many people in the future.
You are such a light in this world, Niomi! We’re all here supporting you and cheering you on. Can’t wait to see what 2021 has in store for us 💫