1. Stop endless question loop 1:15 2. Reasons asking questions, fantasies, trying to create a false sense of connection (break the false connection) 2:45 3. Memories, feelings, questions, stop it all to save yourself, move on 5:49 4. Emotions like sadness, grief, anger etc, don't supress at beginning.. let it all out.. 8:26 5. Start with small things (eat properly, sleep properly, take care of your most essential basic needs, get new friends, pet, do activities, find healthy relationship, etc) 10:53 6. End of process, once you feel better, start focusing on goal.. gym, plan, goal, meaning working on that, project, small business etc 12:09
You are worth and you deserve being loved and supported, keep that in mind always, and I am sure you will heal and raise your energy. You are not alone
These are great tips. What helped me process breakups is walking on nature trails. I make sure to not listen to music so I can be with my thoughts. I've also used the emotional charge from breakups to fuel my workouts, setting new goals like beating a speed record for each mile jogging. The idea is to leverage that emotional charge towards a goal, otherwise it can destroy you. It's kinda like surfing, you either ride the wave or it pulls you under.
Hi Francesca, thanks for the vid. There's a way I learned during my cognitive-behavioral therapy to stop the infinite question loop, it's to write on a sheet of paper every question and answer and the questions the first question brings until you're totally tired of writing, this will clear your mind, and it works!
There is a way to break free from burnout’s disengagement. It requires stepping outside the cycle of work that does not provide motivation and finding it from another source. The fact is, you are important. You are surely as important as all that you tend to. If daily tasks do not feed you right now, get your nourishment from those things that are most beloved to you. Be kind to yourself. Don’t forget to have beauty in your life. You are worth it.
Thankyou for this. I'm still hurt from being cheated on and wake up everyday with anxiety and depression. Could you give me some tips to do other than cleaning the house? I go for walks in the evening but still don't feel good once I get home 😢
Thank you. I am grateful to be a subscriber of this channel. Lovely lady and ofcourse you distract me in a good way always! Stay happy and keep smiling.
Ok. This has helped me like nothing else. Been kinda stuck without proper help. This affirms things I know plus since I feel like rock bottom, this gives me a game plan better than a close friend. Thanks a lot❤💙
Once a person have accepted that the relation has ended then moving on and returning to previous level of happiness can happen faster if the person is willing to focus on health and do the things she said in the video but sometimes in some cases that false hope is so strong that the person doesn't let go , it keeps their suffering alive in many cases. Parents should take test before having kids if they are psychologically ok to be parents because most of the times times the extreme fear which a person feels sensing the end of a love relationship is due to mistakes of their first caregivers like fighting Infront of kids etc etc .
Thanks for your explanation, your tips makes me feel better, u know loves come with emotion and goes with pain, like bread and knife, the first time that I remembered to fell in love a girl and after break up, I wasn't myself almost a year, now I'm just falling in love with someone that doesn't care about to give me a msg but thus feeling that you mentioned are exactly going happen to me, it's eating me from inner without someone notice, your words make me calm, god bless u 🙏
Just recently went through a breakup with whom I consider as my greatest love. It hurts and I really don't want to love anyone anymore. I'll try hard to apply the learnings I received in this video. Will get back to this once I'm fully healed.
Hi Francesca ❤ I really enjoy watching your content, it’s really helpful 😊 I would like to ask if you can please make a video with some tips for the high sensitive people, and how to overcome the intrusive thoughts during the day ❤
Thank you Francesca for your very basic advice. But that’s all about this. Keep it simple when going through a very painful time. Simple! At least try to keep it simple and run down your overexcited system. Most important. Thank you again 🙏
Me too. I'm 35 years old and have been alone for nearly my whole life. Every time I meet someone they end up hurting me so bad. I'm constantly having to heal from emotional wounds. It feels like a never ending cycle 😢
Hey Francy ... been watching your videos past weeks ... u r cuuute nd seen to hav a great Insight! ... , its very rare to find Beauty with Brains! ... keep it up 😃👍
you will be better, you can do this. i believe in you. feelings come and go. we will not feel the same forever. i dont know if this helps but i love you, we all love you. our hearts will heal just trust in God that hes always on our side no matter what.
Fell in love with my friend, that is taken, and I really fell some connection between us.. A month ago I confessed to him, and he confessed that he liked me first time when we met, but he js afraid to start relationship with me, if it won't work, he would think to cheat, and he would feel as the biggest sh*t if so. So I continued to communicate with him, and it was really nice feeling, till I realized than I am the only one who changed towards him, and he stayed the same. He is still in the relationship with his girl friend, and I never understood why did he continue to be my friend if it is right to say... we had nothing, nor kiss or anything like that as I would never be someone's second option.. it is hard to explain how I feel right now
@katarauchiha7332 I would not be his friend or will keep my distance since he’s already taken. Imagine how sad his girlfriend is not knowing you are always there waiting. It’s scary.
i hope and pray that ill get over this sooner.. God will get me through this very hard and dark part of my life.. Feeling come and go, i cant be sad forever. i love you all guys, ill pray for us all. we can do this. God will help us. ☝️
I can't help thinking if my decision was the real trigger for him to end the relationship all of a sudden. That's the reason why I enter the vicious question loop time and time again. I think that maybe it was all my fault due to my decision, my complaining my insecurity.
thank you so much. every little kind words helps me. i do believe ill be okay. not now, but in time i will heal. theres no storm that lasts a hundred years, after the storm, the sun will shine. how are you now my friend? i hope youre in a much better place now.
@@alexanderalzate8560 thankgoodness I am, after 3 months I feel better. I'm surprised that it took that quick because usually it takes me much longer to get over emotional pain. But I think it's because I went to my place of worship and prayed in peace so it really helped.
There's is lady i'm crushing on we've been friends for a year and she know i love her we talk almost all the time she shows her affection towards you but the end of the day she tells you she doesn't have romantic feelings for me but always want to be with me and it really hurt when she tells me she's has no feelings for me but her action is the opposite. What should i do?
Maybe use some of the tips from the video to implement in regards to her not wanting you in return. Maybe try to seek someone else who may want you and you will feel better that you eventually moved on? I know how you feel too, but back into the day when I went through this there wasn't youtube to help me
😢😢😢 mine is 3 months. i give up everyday. i cant handle the pain at all. i pray non stop. i cry non stop. i dont know how am i going to survive this.. i pray for your healing 😢
@@alexanderalzate8560 11 months now. I got a lot better mindset. Then small events trigger me back into the pain cycle. But hope never stops that ill one day meet someone better.
dont hope for someone to come to your life, otherwise you will never really be free from the pain my friend.. you can do it alone, only you. dont cling to the idea that you need someone to heal you.. we have to let go.
After breakup she is still with me on Instagram and WhatsApp what should i do ? Should i remove her after talking with her or not? if yes/No why ? Could you tell!
1. Stop endless question loop 1:15 2. Reasons asking questions, fantasies, trying to create a false sense of connection (break the false connection) 2:45 3. Memories, feelings, questions, stop it all to save yourself, move on 5:49 4. Emotions like sadness, grief, anger etc, don't supress at beginning.. let it all out.. 8:26 5. Start with small things (eat properly, sleep properly, take care of your most essential basic needs, get new friends, pet, do activities, find healthy relationship, etc) 10:53 6. End of process, once you feel better, start focusing on goal.. gym, plan, goal, meaning working on that, project, small business etc 12:09
@@alexanderalzate8560 I can honestly say that it does get better as time goes by for sure. I've been through this a few times in life, so sadly have repititive experience lol. You will honestly get through it quicker once you train your mind to not think of them at all and focus on something more worthwhile instead.
@@user-vu8pm4dw6d thank you so much ♥️🙏 this will help me a lot from getting over.. im in so much pain right now. i hope and pray that ill be completely healed in a year ( feb 2025 ) i think im only on step 2 in this video but i will definitely get thru all of it with God's help.. im glad that you gotten past that dark times of your life im happy for you.. thank you so much..
@@user-vu8pm4dw6d thank you so much 🙏🙏♥️ i hope and pray that ill get over this very dark time of my life sooner than later. i know theres no short cut to this. may God be with me and light my path until the end.. im glad that youve overcome this, im happy for you brother ♥️☝️
1. Stop endless question loop 1:15
2. Reasons asking questions, fantasies, trying to create a false sense of connection (break the false connection) 2:45
3. Memories, feelings, questions, stop it all to save yourself, move on 5:49
4. Emotions like sadness, grief, anger etc, don't supress at beginning.. let it all out.. 8:26
5. Start with small things (eat properly, sleep properly, take care of your most essential basic needs, get new friends, pet, do activities, find healthy relationship, etc) 10:53
6. End of process, once you feel better, start focusing on goal.. gym, plan, goal, meaning working on that, project, small business etc 12:09
Broke up 8 months ago.still hurts. Someday it will be better and I’ll be over it
You are worth and you deserve being loved and supported, keep that in mind always, and I am sure you will heal and raise your energy. You are not alone
@@katarauchiha7332 ❤️❤️
Working on yourself is the best way I think.. being there for yourself.. Be your own protector.
i hope you are doing fine now
😢 mine is almost 2 years already
These are great tips. What helped me process breakups is walking on nature trails. I make sure to not listen to music so I can be with my thoughts. I've also used the emotional charge from breakups to fuel my workouts, setting new goals like beating a speed record for each mile jogging. The idea is to leverage that emotional charge towards a goal, otherwise it can destroy you. It's kinda like surfing, you either ride the wave or it pulls you under.
Beautiful analogy
Waves analogy was a home run
imagine that person doesn't exist, just doesn't exist in this world, and watch how you feel?
Thank you Francesca, as always good video
That makes me feel depressed, but that could be because of the stage of grief I’m in
@@brittanysmith3716I'm so sorry 🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹
Watching this while crying over a breakup. I know i will be okay soon. Thanks for this!
Hi Francesca, thanks for the vid. There's a way I learned during my cognitive-behavioral therapy to stop the infinite question loop, it's to write on a sheet of paper every question and answer and the questions the first question brings until you're totally tired of writing, this will clear your mind, and it works!
Choose right words to describe events in your life. It is your illusion that breaks, not your heart.
Thanks Francesca yes men suffer from a broken heart . We trying to keep it hidden. Also a broken heart can be a death of a llove one
There is a way to break free from burnout’s disengagement. It requires stepping outside the cycle of work that does not provide motivation and finding it from another source.
The fact is, you are important. You are surely as important as all that you tend to. If daily tasks do not feed you right now, get your nourishment from those things that are most beloved to you.
Be kind to yourself. Don’t forget to have beauty in your life. You are worth it.
Thankyou for this. I'm still hurt from being cheated on and wake up everyday with anxiety and depression. Could you give me some tips to do other than cleaning the house? I go for walks in the evening but still don't feel good once I get home 😢
Omg...one of the best videos on 'how to move on after break up'.. I am going through a similar process that you just described! Thanks a ton dear ❤
Thank you Francesca for this video, it came at a perfect time for me.
Thank you. I am grateful to be a subscriber of this channel. Lovely lady and ofcourse you distract me in a good way always! Stay happy and keep smiling.
Ok. This has helped me like nothing else. Been kinda stuck without proper help. This affirms things I know plus since I feel like rock bottom, this gives me a game plan better than a close friend.
Thanks a lot❤💙
how are you now my friend?
This women changed me for good
Once a person have accepted that the relation has ended then moving on and returning to previous level of happiness can happen faster if the person is willing to focus on health and do the things she said in the video but sometimes in some cases that false hope is so strong that the person doesn't let go , it keeps their suffering alive in many cases.
Parents should take test before having kids if they are psychologically ok to be parents because most of the times times the extreme fear which a person feels sensing the end of a love relationship is due to mistakes of their first caregivers like fighting Infront of kids etc etc .
Thats what I needed. Ure and Angel. Thank you ❤
Is everyone getting broken up this month? Lol
I guess
Yes 🥸
Yep
😢 I still miss my ex
Apparently yes
Thanks for your explanation, your tips makes me feel better, u know loves come with emotion and goes with pain, like bread and knife, the first time that I remembered to fell in love a girl and after break up, I wasn't myself almost a year, now I'm just falling in love with someone that doesn't care about to give me a msg but thus feeling that you mentioned are exactly going happen to me, it's eating me from inner without someone notice, your words make me calm, god bless u 🙏
This really helped me. I'll try to watch it every time I feel down
Thank you Francesca! That was very helpful!
Thank you Francesca. This is so valuable
Just recently went through a breakup with whom I consider as my greatest love. It hurts and I really don't want to love anyone anymore. I'll try hard to apply the learnings I received in this video. Will get back to this once I'm fully healed.
ill wait for you. we can do this, you can do this. i believe in you. we'll get through this ☝️
we have our heartbroken the same time very very fresh.. ill wait for you.. we can do this. ☝️
I can't get past the second step. I'm trying so hard. But it's so hard.
How do you feel now? Did you feel hopeless when you wrote this, but now you're (hopefully) better?
I wish they see this and reply
It was very helpful. I couldn't breathe before I watched this
Hi Francesca ❤ I really enjoy watching your content, it’s really helpful 😊 I would like to ask if you can please make a video with some tips for the high sensitive people, and how to overcome the intrusive thoughts during the day ❤
You are very helpful. Thank you.
Very very helpfull !!!! Thank you soooo much!!!!!❤
Thank you Francesca for your very basic advice. But that’s all about this. Keep it simple when going through a very painful time. Simple! At least try to keep it simple and run down your overexcited system. Most important. Thank you again 🙏
If I have a guitar... And 4 decades... Easy mija... Tis' all I need... How smart and beautiful!
I really like your expressions and your voice. Your presentation of your information is always stellar
Best video so far. Thanks for the good tips ❤️
My heart was broken. I’ve been alone for 5 years
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Me too. I'm 35 years old and have been alone for nearly my whole life. Every time I meet someone they end up hurting me so bad. I'm constantly having to heal from emotional wounds. It feels like a never ending cycle 😢
someday youll find someone. dont lose hope. just ask God he is always there no matter what. we will be okay. our hearts will heal one day.
I broke up with my situationship almost 5 months ago, and i still feel so broken and i miss him everyday. I can’t wait to get over him 😭
how are now? i hope youre at a much better place now..
how are now? i hope youre at a much better place now..
It looks very helpful gonna try ❤😢
Thanks!
Thank you ❤
Thankyou for your videos, Francesca can you make a video about guilt and mistakes?
Creative thumbnail ❤
Great advice
❤awesome video
Her advise really worked for me
im happy for you. soon i will be healed completely.
You are the best
Can you make a video on Disorganized attachment style? and how to heal disorganized attachment style to Secure attachment style? please?
Hey Francy ... been watching your videos past weeks ... u r cuuute nd seen to hav a great Insight! ... , its very rare to find Beauty with Brains! ... keep it up 😃👍
Long Distance....😢 I had to go...I didn't want to but , my soul was lost.
Thank you. i need this now 😢
you will be better, you can do this. i believe in you. feelings come and go. we will not feel the same forever. i dont know if this helps but i love you, we all love you. our hearts will heal just trust in God that hes always on our side no matter what.
Fell in love with my friend, that is taken, and I really fell some connection between us.. A month ago I confessed to him, and he confessed that he liked me first time when we met, but he js afraid to start relationship with me, if it won't work, he would think to cheat, and he would feel as the biggest sh*t if so. So I continued to communicate with him, and it was really nice feeling, till I realized than I am the only one who changed towards him, and he stayed the same. He is still in the relationship with his girl friend, and I never understood why did he continue to be my friend if it is right to say... we had nothing, nor kiss or anything like that as I would never be someone's second option.. it is hard to explain how I feel right now
@katarauchiha7332 I would not be his friend or will keep my distance since he’s already taken. Imagine how sad his girlfriend is not knowing you are always there waiting. It’s scary.
This was fantastic
We will be alright guys
Very helpful
Much love❤
Thank you lady. You are so nice. But its not such easy. Its lonliness.
sahiden epey düzgün ve inci gibi dişlere sahipsiniz.
This is very good information
i love this video sm and youre really pretty ^^
Thank you 🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹
still stuck on the first step, because he can’t communicate clearly for months
7. Forgive yourself .
Visualizing myself take care of the little girl version of me made my cry my eyes out omgooodness
i hope and pray that ill get over this sooner.. God will get me through this very hard and dark part of my life.. Feeling come and go, i cant be sad forever. i love you all guys, ill pray for us all. we can do this. God will help us. ☝️
how are you?
💯 🙏
If your heart is still beating, it means your heart isn't broken.
beautiful eyes
Silent quitting 3months ago. We just ghosted each other and assumed that we broke up. It hurts to be abandoned and never spoken 🥺
I will speak about it for closure if I were you.
I usually eat dark chocolate to heal my heart
😢😢😢
how are you now my friend? its been 10 months, i hope that youre completely healed now.
Francesca ,i love you. Don't break my heart ❤️.
give us some book recommendations please
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I can't help thinking if my decision was the real trigger for him to end the relationship all of a sudden. That's the reason why I enter the vicious question loop time and time again. I think that maybe it was all my fault due to my decision, my complaining my insecurity.
Just ask him
I feel sick from being cheated on. I have really bad anxiety and depression every day. I don't know if I will ever get over it 😢
@@alexanderalzate8560 it's okay. You'll be okay. In time you will find someone better too!
thank you so much. every little kind words helps me. i do believe ill be okay. not now, but in time i will heal. theres no storm that lasts a hundred years, after the storm, the sun will shine.
how are you now my friend? i hope youre in a much better place now.
@@alexanderalzate8560 thankgoodness I am, after 3 months I feel better. I'm surprised that it took that quick because usually it takes me much longer to get over emotional pain. But I think it's because I went to my place of worship and prayed in peace so it really helped.
There's is lady i'm crushing on we've been friends for a year and she know i love her we talk almost all the time she shows her affection towards you but the end of the day she tells you she doesn't have romantic feelings for me but always want to be with me and it really hurt when she tells me she's has no feelings for me but her action is the opposite. What should i do?
Run from her. She’ll break your heart.
Maybe use some of the tips from the video to implement in regards to her not wanting you in return. Maybe try to seek someone else who may want you and you will feel better that you eventually moved on?
I know how you feel too, but back into the day when I went through this there wasn't youtube to help me
What about no one understands you at that moment, instead they’re judging…
😭😭😭😭😭😭4:08
Where to dm herr...
I wanna have a session
Im not broken heart :)
9 months...still awful pain everyday
😢😢😢 mine is 3 months. i give up everyday. i cant handle the pain at all. i pray non stop. i cry non stop. i dont know how am i going to survive this.. i pray for your healing 😢
@@alexanderalzate8560 11 months now.
I got a lot better mindset. Then small events trigger me back into the pain cycle. But hope never stops that ill one day meet someone better.
ill pray for you.. we can do this.. we have to. i hope and pray that well overcome this very dark part of our life.. ☝️
dont hope for someone to come to your life, otherwise you will never really be free from the pain my friend.. you can do it alone, only you. dont cling to the idea that you need someone to heal you.. we have to let go.
After breakup she is still with me on Instagram and WhatsApp what should i do ? Should i remove her after talking with her or not?
if yes/No why ? Could you tell!
Hey?
@@arvindjindal111talk to her
No voice 😕
1. Stop endless question loop 1:15
2. Reasons asking questions, fantasies, trying to create a false sense of connection (break the false connection) 2:45
3. Memories, feelings, questions, stop it all to save yourself, move on 5:49
4. Emotions like sadness, grief, anger etc, don't supress at beginning.. let it all out.. 8:26
5. Start with small things (eat properly, sleep properly, take care of your most essential basic needs, get new friends, pet, do activities, find healthy relationship, etc) 10:53
6. End of process, once you feel better, start focusing on goal.. gym, plan, goal, meaning working on that, project, small business etc 12:09
Here to help
I'm the kind of person that is six months hahahah
It takes me a year to get over being hurt by anyone anywhere 😢
@@user-vu8pm4dw6da year? im only 3 months now 😢😢 does it get better as time goes by? or the pain is the same all through out?
@@alexanderalzate8560 I can honestly say that it does get better as time goes by for sure. I've been through this a few times in life, so sadly have repititive experience lol.
You will honestly get through it quicker once you train your mind to not think of them at all and focus on something more worthwhile instead.
@@user-vu8pm4dw6d thank you so much ♥️🙏 this will help me a lot from getting over.. im in so much pain right now. i hope and pray that ill be completely healed in a year ( feb 2025 ) i think im only on step 2 in this video but i will definitely get thru all of it with God's help.. im glad that you gotten past that dark times of your life im happy for you.. thank you so much..
@@user-vu8pm4dw6d thank you so much 🙏🙏♥️ i hope and pray that ill get over this very dark time of my life sooner than later. i know theres no short cut to this. may God be with me and light my path until the end.. im glad that youve overcome this, im happy for you brother ♥️☝️
will you be my mommy pls
Lmao was this how your CZcams channel started?
A little climate catastrophe should do the trick.
Sorry to bother you, but do you have a facebook messenger. I have a question . I feel you will have a good answer. Thank you.