@@miasancto It’s very common for wedding planners to be asked to keep certain people out of a wedding or make sure everyone stays in line. The bride and groom don’t want to have to stop their big day to tell somebody to get it together, or to kick someone out. They probably just assumed that’s what the bride wanted But yes he or she definitely should have asked before taking on this role.
My entire immediate family was late for the ceremony (mom, dad, brother, me) and they said we have to wait until she walks down the aisle. They still allowed us to attend the rest of it though
@@ilovemusic2543 maybe ask beforehand. People running late isn’t an uncommon thing, and she said in the video that others were late and the location was hard to find. Just have a guest list
It’s the fact that the friend didn’t get let in AT ALL. To me at least it would make sense to hold late arrivals until the Wedding Party has made their entrance
It sounds like THEY should've asked this question. It's not something that you would necessarily think of and you're hiring a planner because they are supposed to be the experts. They should've run this by you beforehand.
As a former wedding planner I would for sure chat with my clients about something like this prior because people are constantly late. But honestly most of my brides did not want latercommers to be allowed in because it is super disruptive during the ceremony. I would however frequently quietly sneak people in through a side door who were late. As a guest I would recommend leaving a bit early if you are unsure of where you are going or to account for traffic. Wedding day timelines are usually super tight due to venue restrictions.
That tells a lot about your brides… I invited people who I wanted to be there, especially for the ceremony. Their presence in the important moment was more important then any distruption caused by being late…
That's so crazy to me because weddings are all about connection and friends and family. I hate how selfish so many brides are. All the people there went out of their way to be there for you.
@@eleonora6980 many Americans see being late as very rude and disrespectful especially to such an important event like this. Honestly I don’t think it’s selfish some people don’t care about lateness some do. Also personally I think weddings aren’t for friends and family they are for you and your spouse so if I felt disrespected in some way I would kick them out too. Weddings are kind of an inherently selfish event lol so people acting entitled and bratty when often tens of thousands of dollars are spent isn’t all that crazy to me.
That’s 100% the norm because in churches it’s SO LOUD to come in late & everyone will look at them and be disruptive/take attention away from the couple! This is always the rule unless you state otherwise !!
I instructed our planner to not let anyone in during our walk thru. Until bridal party and me we’re down the aisle , late comers could come in . I felt it was disruptive
That’s understandable. But he didn’t get to come in at any point. I wouldn’t know to ask for something like that. I feel as an event planner that’s something they should have asked the bride and groom if they wanted.
@@meks194 Exactly and if they didn't ask her common sense says to allow people in at any time because if she wanted them NOT to she would have TOLD them that specifically. That's just stupid. A wedding is not a bday party or shopping trip where you can catch the next one so for them to do that was absolute trash
You don’t have to tell your planner that. I am in the business. It is customary to hold people until the bride gets down the isle and than assist in seating them. I am sorry this happened to you.
Damn, I feel like this needs to be talked about more! Thank you for sharing, I’m sorry that happened to your and your friend… and the fact that he stayed and just waited 🥺
I always let people slide in late if it will clearly not disrupt anything. There are planners, staff, photogs, videographers, allllll walking around constantly. No one would really notice someone skipping in late. The planner just sucked.
Considering we're having a Filipino wedding, the venue coordinator would be lucky if the worst thing I did was deny her a tip for pulling this. My in-laws would murder me if I were a tight-ass about the timing!
Same here. As half the venue is gonna be late anyway, it's a bad start of your marriage with the groom's family, and even ur own family, if my life long best friend was stoped by the planner I would freaking pause the wedding to let her in, this is just ridiculous.
oh lord.. i m so grateful that I live in India.. this is not a thing at all to let or not let.. Door is open 24/7 and we appreciate the thought of theirs to get ready n come to venue all the way..
There’s be a bigger scene if they didn’t let me than if they just let me slide into a seat. While someone is walking down the aisle I understand the no. Once everyone’s in place ima be moving toward a seat. If I miss the wedding my gift misses it too.
Your last line is just being bitter because it was YOUR fault you were late and if you left early enough and were STILL stuck for reasons beyond your control it's not the bride and groom's fault either. Generally they would already let guests know if no entry after starting the ceremony was a thing and if they didn't then the venue did it without their permission. Either way you'd be the AH for withholding your gifts just because your tardiness wasn't catered to
They should have asked but also guests should adequately prepare in case they can’t find the venue. Being late to a wedding ceremony of your childhood friend is WILD!
I had an equestrian event on the same property and the bride told the wedding coordinator to bring us in after the event. It was fun just didn't expect to be invited day of to an Indian wedding
As an Indian, I dislike this so much. Like people have a budget for their event so stop gatecrashing. Guests should be asked to show the invitation card or a photo of the invitation card right at the entrance.
This is something the wedding planner is responsible for bringing up..not the couple being married. Something like “Hey so my typical policy is to not allow anyone to come in after the ceremony begins, what are your thoughts on that?”
That’s not on you, at all. Your planner should have asked and since she didn’t the better bet would’ve been to guide them very quietly to the nearest empty seat after the processional. Particularly, because it was a destination wedding. That’s a long way to go to not be let in. I’d bring it up to the planner just so she knows to ask the next couple she’s planning for.
Oh hell naw. This is why a trusted I mean 100% trusted family member will be on watch cause they know who people are (aka my stepmom) she knows everything and can let people in if needed
They definitely should’ve asked you. I do wedding coordination on the side, and that’s something we would definitely check with you about in order to make sure your wedding day happens just as you’ve envisioned it
I can’t believe this is a thing. How do you stop someone from coming to a party they have an invitation to even if they’re late? It’s not school or work where you have to give your attendance or log in. Lol wtf people are really mental!
... I didn't know they do that. Most weddings I go to, people are always allowed in late. It's just a matter if you get to sit or not cuz first come first serve.
Most hilarious memory of my wedding is seeing my lanky little cousin sprinting through bushes and across the back of the field as I’m preparing to walk down the aisle 😂
Tbh I definitely would allow it at any time because I wanna see who is the most fashionable and how manic they are for being late and the reasons. I'd just find it funny. As long as it was expected 😂
I literally already know my family would be late asf so I would say the wedding starts at 4pm when it reality it’s starting at 6 or 7 so that gives them 2 extra hours
I didn’t realize wedding planners doubled as security 🙄 but I can’t say much because I’m planning my parents renewal and considering my dads family is EXTREMELY disrespectful to my mom, anyone that doesn’t follow the rules on the invitation (no one under 16 and semi formal) will be turned away at the door, only exceptions are for babies under 2.
Oof. Showing up late to an event. I did that. But to a *funeral.* It wasn't my fault, I was set to get there early, but realized that future FIL told me th wrong time and I was now an hour late... I'm the fiance of the grandson of the deceased. I got to the church and was going to just watch from the doors, but the men that run the funeral home said, "He wants you up there. Go." So I kind of got shoved into the church and had to walk down about 50 rows of pews on a marble floor in high heels *while the priest was talking.* 😳😳😳 ANYTHING is better than that. The whole church turned and watched me the second my heel clicked on the marble, so I literally stopped using my heels and only used my toes 😂 I PANICKED.
I can’t be the only person who thought wedding planners were just there to help plan and not guard the doors. Tbh I didn’t know that they even came to the weddings.
That's pretty standard practice by default, the majority of people don't want anyone barging in on the wedding, ruining shots and distracting guests. Especially in venues where sneaking in is near possible. "Its hard to find" is not exactly a good excuse for a close friend to be giving anyways.
I specifically asked my wedding venue coordinator to not let people in late. They could go to the reception area and still view the wedding though. Then I told my guests to arrive at 3 but the ceremony began at 3:30. I had snacks and drinks while people waited because some came crazy early.
You know who was late to my best friends wedding? All four of her bridesmaids. Why, because the planner (who was her mom) had a written timeline for the whole day, but didn't share it with us. I wish she'd hired or worked with a real planner, because the four of us were RUNNING through the venue, holding our shoes in one hand our dress hems in the other to try and meet my best friend and her groom after carriage ride because we were supposed to be photographed as she came out. of it. We missed her getting out of it, but came into the room as she was coming in the door. No one had told us where we were supposed to be so we had to figure it out on our own.
That’s the job of the planner, they should have this question asked n discussed how to handle. N even by common sense if someone came all the way for my wedding to not let them attend is ridiculous, but they needed to discuss n plan that as a planner with u
It wasn’t his fault! The wedding was in a foreign country in a bit of a remote spot and his cab got lost and took him to the wrong entrance of the venue!
frankly is should be a special request for the other way around. like.what if you just default did that to like the mother in law or some shit. unless the bride said otherwise they should easily be able to slip in the back.
This is crazy! How could they not let guests in? Ok maybe it was wise to not let guests in while you were walking down the aisle, but why not let them in before of after the walk?
What's this stupidity. I hope i never get invited to such weddings. Here in India a wedding is for everyone to enjoy. Its like the biggest celebration a family can host. And anyone can come in or leave anytime they want because family members coordinate the wedding not some paid worker.
In conclusion, your wedding was a damn disaster 😂🤣😂 Expensive ass heels fell apart, you got too drunk, couldn’t get up for your honeymoon, not letting late guests in, your bf from kindergarten wasn’t at the ceremony etc etc 😂
Those were small things! Didn’t overshadow the time at all! Only one guest was not allowed in late and everyone had an amazing time and honestly weekend because we had 3 days of events since it was a destination wedding! The love was all there and that’s really all that matters
You’re way to nice. It’s a no from me, If you didn’t arrive early then no you won’t be allowed to ruin the big moment. It’s ok if you decided not to attend. The show must go on
AND YOU should have stopped the planner long enough to say your friend since grade K, can come & sit down !! There's NO GOOD REASON to not allow her in. I would have left & never see you again! Some friend you are!😨 You could have & should have prevented that fiasco from happening. Shame ON YOU!.
In the middle of my wedding ceremony? They didn’t tell me until after that he wasn’t there and they wouldn’t come in and they never told me that it was a policy that they don’t let people in mid way through the ceremony! I had no idea that something like that would be a thing and never heard anyone say they have experienced that with a planner so I could not have known. There was no way I could have prevented it because I didn’t know it was a discussion I needed to have with the planner but I am helping to warn other people to have that discussion.
I didn't realize planners had to also be bouncers
I wanna know why the planner was acting as a bouncer 😳
@@miasancto It’s very common for wedding planners to be asked to keep certain people out of a wedding or make sure everyone stays in line. The bride and groom don’t want to have to stop their big day to tell somebody to get it together, or to kick someone out. They probably just assumed that’s what the bride wanted But yes he or she definitely should have asked before taking on this role.
There’s lots in that type of job but if all is smooth you won’t notice
We usually wait until the bride gets down the aisle then we let late guests find a seat so they don’t ruin pictures like these ❤
I feel like they should have asked you about that...
100%
Definitely should've
My entire immediate family was late for the ceremony (mom, dad, brother, me) and they said we have to wait until she walks down the aisle. They still allowed us to attend the rest of it though
How are they going to ask her when she’s walking down the isle and reading her vows in front of everyone
@@ilovemusic2543 maybe ask beforehand. People running late isn’t an uncommon thing, and she said in the video that others were late and the location was hard to find. Just have a guest list
It’s the fact that the friend didn’t get let in AT ALL.
To me at least it would make sense to hold late arrivals until the Wedding Party has made their entrance
An outdoor venue, a seat in the back… pretty sure after you were down the aisle and things were settled he could have snuck in without disruption
He definitely could have and it’s terrible that they didn’t let him in
It sounds like THEY should've asked this question. It's not something that you would necessarily think of and you're hiring a planner because they are supposed to be the experts. They should've run this by you beforehand.
As a former wedding planner I would for sure chat with my clients about something like this prior because people are constantly late. But honestly most of my brides did not want latercommers to be allowed in because it is super disruptive during the ceremony. I would however frequently quietly sneak people in through a side door who were late. As a guest I would recommend leaving a bit early if you are unsure of where you are going or to account for traffic. Wedding day timelines are usually super tight due to venue restrictions.
That tells a lot about your brides… I invited people who I wanted to be there, especially for the ceremony. Their presence in the important moment was more important then any distruption caused by being late…
That's so crazy to me because weddings are all about connection and friends and family. I hate how selfish so many brides are. All the people there went out of their way to be there for you.
@@eleonora6980 many Americans see being late as very rude and disrespectful especially to such an important event like this. Honestly I don’t think it’s selfish some people don’t care about lateness some do. Also personally I think weddings aren’t for friends and family they are for you and your spouse so if I felt disrespected in some way I would kick them out too. Weddings are kind of an inherently selfish event lol so people acting entitled and bratty when often tens of thousands of dollars are spent isn’t all that crazy to me.
That’s 100% the norm because in churches it’s SO LOUD to come in late & everyone will look at them and be disruptive/take attention away from the couple! This is always the rule unless you state otherwise !!
I instructed our planner to not let anyone in during our walk thru. Until bridal party and me we’re down the aisle , late comers could come in . I felt it was disruptive
That’s understandable. But he didn’t get to come in at any point. I wouldn’t know to ask for something like that. I feel as an event planner that’s something they should have asked the bride and groom if they wanted.
@@meks194 Exactly and if they didn't ask her common sense says to allow people in at any time because if she wanted them NOT to she would have TOLD them that specifically. That's just stupid. A wedding is not a bday party or shopping trip where you can catch the next one so for them to do that was absolute trash
This ain’t yo video Emily lol
@@Aced84 This is a comment section. People share their opinions, experiences, and thoughts. Like you're doing now
@@goldflower6892 oh lawd get you some friends lol
You don’t have to tell your planner that. I am in the business. It is customary to hold people until the bride gets down the isle and than assist in seating them. I am sorry this happened to you.
I'm planning my wedding right now and your wedding regret videos are making me consider things I hadn't even thought about. Thank you!
okay that is sooo important because i would’ve been PISSED like mad mad if they didn’t let someone in
Damn, I feel like this needs to be talked about more! Thank you for sharing, I’m sorry that happened to your and your friend… and the fact that he stayed and just waited 🥺
I always let people slide in late if it will clearly not disrupt anything. There are planners, staff, photogs, videographers, allllll walking around constantly. No one would really notice someone skipping in late. The planner just sucked.
Considering we're having a Filipino wedding, the venue coordinator would be lucky if the worst thing I did was deny her a tip for pulling this. My in-laws would murder me if I were a tight-ass about the timing!
Same here. As half the venue is gonna be late anyway, it's a bad start of your marriage with the groom's family, and even ur own family, if my life long best friend was stoped by the planner I would freaking pause the wedding to let her in, this is just ridiculous.
oh lord.. i m so grateful that I live in India.. this is not a thing at all to let or not let.. Door is open 24/7 and we appreciate the thought of theirs to get ready n come to venue all the way..
There’s be a bigger scene if they didn’t let me than if they just let me slide into a seat. While someone is walking down the aisle I understand the no. Once everyone’s in place ima be moving toward a seat.
If I miss the wedding my gift misses it too.
Your last line is just being bitter because it was YOUR fault you were late and if you left early enough and were STILL stuck for reasons beyond your control it's not the bride and groom's fault either. Generally they would already let guests know if no entry after starting the ceremony was a thing and if they didn't then the venue did it without their permission. Either way you'd be the AH for withholding your gifts just because your tardiness wasn't catered to
They should have asked but also guests should adequately prepare in case they can’t find the venue. Being late to a wedding ceremony of your childhood friend is WILD!
You should come to an Indian wedding, we even have strangers coming in!
I had an equestrian event on the same property and the bride told the wedding coordinator to bring us in after the event. It was fun just didn't expect to be invited day of to an Indian wedding
Oh my God I am so happy to see this comment 😂😍. That is so true
As an Indian, I dislike this so much. Like people have a budget for their event so stop gatecrashing. Guests should be asked to show the invitation card or a photo of the invitation card right at the entrance.
This is something the wedding planner is responsible for bringing up..not the couple being married. Something like “Hey so my typical policy is to not allow anyone to come in after the ceremony begins, what are your thoughts on that?”
That’s not on you, at all. Your planner should have asked and since she didn’t the better bet would’ve been to guide them very quietly to the nearest empty seat after the processional. Particularly, because it was a destination wedding. That’s a long way to go to not be let in. I’d bring it up to the planner just so she knows to ask the next couple she’s planning for.
The wedding planner was totally out of line if someone is invited they should have been let in.
Oh hell naw. This is why a trusted I mean 100% trusted family member will be on watch cause they know who people are (aka my stepmom) she knows everything and can let people in if needed
They definitely should’ve asked you. I do wedding coordination on the side, and that’s something we would definitely check with you about in order to make sure your wedding day happens just as you’ve envisioned it
I can’t believe this is a thing. How do you stop someone from coming to a party they have an invitation to even if they’re late? It’s not school or work where you have to give your attendance or log in. Lol wtf people are really mental!
right some of these weddings feel like work. I love the weddings we have in our country. It's just a celebration.
... I didn't know they do that. Most weddings I go to, people are always allowed in late. It's just a matter if you get to sit or not cuz first come first serve.
100% the planner should asked you before hand on things like that. They are legit there to plan your wedding...
Most hilarious memory of my wedding is seeing my lanky little cousin sprinting through bushes and across the back of the field as I’m preparing to walk down the aisle 😂
Tbh I definitely would allow it at any time because I wanna see who is the most fashionable and how manic they are for being late and the reasons. I'd just find it funny. As long as it was expected 😂
I literally already know my family would be late asf so I would say the wedding starts at 4pm when it reality it’s starting at 6 or 7 so that gives them 2 extra hours
I didn’t realize wedding planners doubled as security 🙄 but I can’t say much because I’m planning my parents renewal and considering my dads family is EXTREMELY disrespectful to my mom, anyone that doesn’t follow the rules on the invitation (no one under 16 and semi formal) will be turned away at the door, only exceptions are for babies under 2.
There would have been no stopping me😂😂😂😂you better move out of the way Wedding Planer Person👊🏻
This is...a good point that no one ever talks about. So that's new 👍
So they just decided on their own that this is what you wanted... nice, professional.
I’ve been to hundreds of weddings and have never heard of someone being made to wait outside.
I had a few people show up late they just had them go around to another door I'd be pissed if they stopped someone from coming in
Oof. Showing up late to an event. I did that. But to a *funeral.* It wasn't my fault, I was set to get there early, but realized that future FIL told me th wrong time and I was now an hour late... I'm the fiance of the grandson of the deceased. I got to the church and was going to just watch from the doors, but the men that run the funeral home said, "He wants you up there. Go." So I kind of got shoved into the church and had to walk down about 50 rows of pews on a marble floor in high heels *while the priest was talking.* 😳😳😳 ANYTHING is better than that. The whole church turned and watched me the second my heel clicked on the marble, so I literally stopped using my heels and only used my toes 😂 I PANICKED.
My planner is going to be our bouncers. We have video and photo so sneaking in isn’t so easy.
I can’t be the only person who thought wedding planners were just there to help plan and not guard the doors. Tbh I didn’t know that they even came to the weddings.
i would be LIVID. if i invited them, let them in.
That's pretty standard practice by default, the majority of people don't want anyone barging in on the wedding, ruining shots and distracting guests. Especially in venues where sneaking in is near possible. "Its hard to find" is not exactly a good excuse for a close friend to be giving anyways.
I feel like this isn't even something anyone would think or worry about. Like who is ur wedding planner to deny your own guests 😭 I'd throw a gaskit
That would’ve ruined my day. Seems like someone was on a power trip.
Why do i have such a strong distaste for wedding planners? I have never had a good experience with one.
just out of curiosity, how many wedding planners have you met?
I specifically asked my wedding venue coordinator to not let people in late. They could go to the reception area and still view the wedding though. Then I told my guests to arrive at 3 but the ceremony began at 3:30. I had snacks and drinks while people waited because some came crazy early.
I was late to my wedding. They god they let me in.
You know who was late to my best friends wedding? All four of her bridesmaids. Why, because the planner (who was her mom) had a written timeline for the whole day, but didn't share it with us. I wish she'd hired or worked with a real planner, because the four of us were RUNNING through the venue, holding our shoes in one hand our dress hems in the other to try and meet my best friend and her groom after carriage ride because we were supposed to be photographed as she came out. of it. We missed her getting out of it, but came into the room as she was coming in the door. No one had told us where we were supposed to be so we had to figure it out on our own.
It should be the opposite. You should only have to tell them to keep people out if you care about that.
I feel it is not that big of deal! The whole ceremony is not that bog of deal! What you do with the marriage in the coming years is what matters🤷♀️
That’s the job of the planner, they should have this question asked n discussed how to handle. N even by common sense if someone came all the way for my wedding to not let them attend is ridiculous, but they needed to discuss n plan that as a planner with u
I would have been pissed 😡
This was really for the late guest wasn’t it 👀😂 “Idk why the heck she wouldn’t let you in” 🥹😂
That wedding coordinator is also a bully...come on!!
The ex bf trying to make a dramatic entrance to object to the marriage:🤺
This wedding planner:🤺
Him being late is unacceptable.
It wasn’t his fault! The wedding was in a foreign country in a bit of a remote spot and his cab got lost and took him to the wrong entrance of the venue!
i would call their manager and companion they ruined such a special moment
frankly is should be a special request for the other way around. like.what if you just default did that to like the mother in law or some shit. unless the bride said otherwise they should easily be able to slip in the back.
well feel like Indian wedding are so much better 😅
why am I seeing her vids pop up constantly now
If your friend wanted to be there on time, they would have been. For such an important event you plan to be early, not on time.
Planner acting like a little jobsworth in my eyes
What is a planner? 😂🙈
Uhhh isn’t the planner suppose to ask u if u want that or not?
Wedding planner who? You ain’t the bouncer. I would still walk through lol If they touch me, they get sued.
This is crazy! How could they not let guests in?
Ok maybe it was wise to not let guests in while you were walking down the aisle, but why not let them in before of after the walk?
Urrmmm the more I listen to your regrets I realise that you had some mad sketchy planners tf
Why are American weddings so uptight?
What's this stupidity. I hope i never get invited to such weddings. Here in India a wedding is for everyone to enjoy. Its like the biggest celebration a family can host. And anyone can come in or leave anytime they want because family members coordinate the wedding not some paid worker.
That's a huge anomaly that should not have happened
It was your wedding planner's fault for assuming that.
🙄
Planners are not, nor should they be acting as, bouncers. Your planner shouldn’t have done that whatsoever 😮
Ummm
Your wedding planner had no common sense.
Please drop the name so nobody uses this person
That was not your mistake that was there
In conclusion, your wedding was a damn disaster 😂🤣😂
Expensive ass heels fell apart, you got too drunk, couldn’t get up for your honeymoon, not letting late guests in, your bf from kindergarten wasn’t at the ceremony etc etc 😂
Those were small things! Didn’t overshadow the time at all! Only one guest was not allowed in late and everyone had an amazing time and honestly weekend because we had 3 days of events since it was a destination wedding! The love was all there and that’s really all that matters
@@rendagrella good for you, on staying positive!!! This commenter is a negative Nelly lol
That's horrible
You’re way to nice. It’s a no from me, If you didn’t arrive early then no you won’t be allowed to ruin the big moment. It’s ok if you decided not to attend. The show must go on
Not being rude but who cares ….
she does, she posted the video
You sound crazy
I was actually a very chill bride which is why a mistake like this happened 😅
Nah she sounds like a lady who’s excited to be a newlywed and talk about her wedding
How is it crazy for someone to be upset that one of their best friends since childhood didn't get to see their wedding?
AND YOU should have stopped the planner long enough to say your friend since grade K, can come & sit down !! There's NO GOOD REASON to not allow her in. I would have left & never see you again! Some friend you are!😨 You could have & should have prevented that fiasco from happening. Shame ON YOU!.
In the middle of my wedding ceremony? They didn’t tell me until after that he wasn’t there and they wouldn’t come in and they never told me that it was a policy that they don’t let people in mid way through the ceremony! I had no idea that something like that would be a thing and never heard anyone say they have experienced that with a planner so I could not have known. There was no way I could have prevented it because I didn’t know it was a discussion I needed to have with the planner but I am helping to warn other people to have that discussion.
Did you even listen to what she said? She clearly didn't say he wasn't allowed in.
Did you just not watch the video or...? How was she supposed to know that somebody is outside the venue when she is in the middle of getting married??
lol i cant tell if ur trolling or not but u seem like a joy to be around
You're rudely commenting on a video you obviously didn't even bother to watch or listen to. Shame on YOU.