Annoying Things ISTJs Say and Do
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- čas přidán 14. 07. 2024
- ISTJ Most Annoying Traits - we all have annoying traits. There are amazing gifts we have that we shouldn't try to change, and there are also some edges that need refined. In this series... we're focusing on the edges.... with a fun tongue-in-cheek title.
✨ "We are all works of art and artists working on ourselves." ✨
If you'd like to see a video where I point out the ISTJ strengths: • ISTJ, we know you're s...
I've known some AMAZING ISTJs!! I had so many phenomenal ISTJ coworkers when I was a math teacher. Overall they have a higher degree of excellence than any other type I've worked with.
0:00 About This Series
0:56 What we like about ISTJs
3:45 Functions overview
6:38 Si Annoyances
13:00 Te Annoyances
17:43 Fi Annoyances
20:45 Ne Annoyances
22:43 Growth Tracks
*I'm loosely putting out these videos in order from least viewed types to most viewed types on my channel. So it will probably be SJs, SPs, NJs, then NPs. So don't worry... all types will get their turn.
I am an ISTJ. In the "if it's not broke don't fix it", because we fear that it would be bad. But if you are sure that you can make it better, DO IT, make it more efficient, make it perfect. And we're just a bit bossy because we don't want chaos but order for efficiency. And I , as a student, I want to make the most perfect homework as possible, as a result I perfected my grade for a whole semester. Perfection have been pleasing me.
Really? When it comes to attention to detail, there's always that infinitesimal that I just CANNOT shake.
As an ISTJ, I say the phrase “if it’s not broken, do not fix it” not because I do not want things to be better, but because I get annoyed when someone wants to perfect something while there are many other things broken. I like to balance priorities. However, I can say I am the type of person that loveessss perfection, so to me, things are not fixed if they're not perfected.😅
You hit the nail at the head many times.
I would like to add some typical ISTJ lines:
“The way I was raised…” or “The way we do things over here…” before the ISTJ lectures someone how to behave.
“With all respect…” before the ISTJ criticizes a person.
An ISTJ will get stressed if you want to do something spontaneous.
ISTJ’s don’t like surprises.
I usually forget to preface with the "All due respect" 😆
"The way I was raised..." only works on ISTJs who were taught how to behave. If your parents were laissez faire like mine (still caring and loving but not really very disciplinary) then one tends not to use that phrase.
I use "With all 'due' respect" when criticising, cus it's often used to mean the same as what you said, but literally it can mean something quite different, which I find to be funny.
Staying in a relationship that they shouldn’t because they are loyal to a fault….
Oo that hits home
Easy on me now. Will you?
This was excellent! It revealed many blind spots that I have as an istj. Now I'm more aware.
Thank you for this! Definitely on point 👌
~ ENFP seeing an ISTJ
"If I'm presented with logical evidence to change, then I will change" This called me out so bad 🤣
- non-risk taker true
- I had a laptop for over 10 years until someone stole my bag. I also had a java phone from 2003, but my parents forced me to switch to an android phone in 2013 and I am still using that. So traditional in this case make sense to me.
- How can you be optimistic about the recession, war, diseases, protests, feminism corruption, and stuff like that? What does keep you optimistic at all?
- Scared?! I just try to be safe, but hopefully one day I can take more risks and leave the door of my apartment open!
- Staying in a job that I hate, is totally accurate. How did you come up with that? I also studied in the fields that I hate and I have two master's degrees in those fields -.-" (EDITED: they say, try to love what you do, not to do what you love!)
- bossy without authority - bah you nailed it! some people called me dominant, ambitious blah blah blah! it gives me a satisfying feeling!
- anal 3/4"? I did not get the point, but we ask normally questions since we would like to say, hey we are here too. Other than that, it is the way we express our sense of humor. We try to be goofballs and more talkative like that! So either we want to prove ourselves or we want to attract the attention of a specific person!
- rather be right than happy! goddammit! how can I fix it? Everyone thinks that I am a very critical person when I point out the matter in the most unemotional way!
- non-emotional or non-expressive? anyway, I would love to show more, but when the situation pops up, I just watch and pass like I have not seen it!
- depressive and the life is meaningless, very true! and I have a ton of logical excuses, but how can I change that attitude? changing without planning perfectly may result in failure and losing all I have done in years!
- no facial expression! I am a serious man and everyone knows me like that. I have tried to change my attitude, but it turned out to be very creepy. the reason is that I have not trained enough, or it has been years that everyone perceived me as what I was. Anyway good point!
- no hobbies at all! it was always like eating, exercising, working, exercising, and sleeping! and in the past 15 years! I keep that in mind though
thanks for knowing me better than me. I wish I had friends like you by my side! (just don't criticise it!)
what an essay mate
It's easy to be optimistic about "recession, war, diseases, protests, feminism corruption, and stuff like that". Once you realise things have always been like this, that you are expendable and at the end of the day just a bag of meat, and that the things you mentioned aren't necessarily that bad, then you become less pessimistic. Also keep in mind that you are tiny, you have very little control over these big things (what person in the world has control over disease, mass movements, the economy, and war? war is a byproduct of human emotion btw, they are always enabled by a collective). And even if they happen, the effect it will have on each person will vary drastically, you might even be untouched by most of it.
I would also add that a pessimistic outlook is stupid. A cautiously optimistic outlook is ALWAYS superior. Not reckless, but optimistic. Our present prosperity is not the natural state of things, it requires constant effort by every person to maintain. Those things you mentioned are NORMAL. There is no point being pessimistic about normal things, be neutral and look for improvements.
@@venmis137it is like to say to hungry person that the food is good for your health, if you eat food, you won't feel hungry anymore. I get your point, but how can I putem into practice?
Remember, as human we gather around the people with the same mentality and attitude, because the way that they feel or think about a matter is the same as ours leading to satisfaction and self confirmation, keeping a person to the same position for ever. And changing everything around one requires changing everything inside first. And changing everything inside demands sometimes the right people outside essentially. So, how to get out of this loop?
let's say, you (I am saying to myself) need to think rational first! As a learner I need to see someone who thinks like that, see the results and learn from them and slowly trust the path of changing and leaving the path of chaos. But due the way that human are, I probably do not attract such a person and such person may not want to be someone like me.
Anyway thanks for your reply 🙏
I'm an ISTJ and clash with family member who are always trying to get me to replace things, just because there's something never out there. I definitely fall into the "If it ain't broke, don't fix it!" category. Why get rid of something that works perfectly fine, meets my needs, and that I'm happy with?
Hit the nail on the head there. I'm the same way.
"staying in a job they hate" 🙋
soon as I get my 3 month runway I'm F***in OUT. I think in the last few weeks I've tapped into my Ne function. I think this is the second time it's happened.
First time was at the beginning of COVID and I saw 240 on the scale. So I bought a jump rope and a kettle bell, started tracking my calories, and ended up losing 40Lbs in 3 months. Wanted to lose 60 but I gained more muscle than I expected. And I managed to figure out how to do all that without cutting down on my beer consumption 🤣
As an ISTJ, I gotta say I feel called out.
Very
I can't say I agree with a lit of what they say. Most if their thoughts seems to be to the extreme sides. With me, its More like, if it makes sense why not give it a try.
I as an ISTJ am very anxious about things because I am very sensitive and very small things that others maybe never notice throw me off. then I tend to go into "just survive mode" and retreat from social life. And all the time there's something. Like an eyelash in the eye for 5 days in a row. Burning your finger while cooking, mildly hurting yourself in any other way. And feeling the tiniest things that are not right with your body. So i am almost never truly ok. Its little things but to me they feel bigger. Thats why I am anxious and careful about everything I do. Because I want my body to feel well.
Yes! Totally! give me facts and evidences.Then let's make the changes.
I'm Istj but mistyped to an Intj once
The sad truth about personality is that, some personality is totally different which makes relationship harder for some people, in this case like when ISTJ person talking about morality with an INFJ, the conversation can be very heated to the point it feels like you hate ISTJ because they just ignore an Fe things which makes you questioning if he is really a good friend for you. As INFJ who have ISTJ i could say our friend relationship is very weird, we can get along when playing games, but when it talking about personal life he makes me totally dislike him, i honestly think being friend with ISTJ is the further relationship could go, i never feel can be best friend to him no matter how hard i tried.
It's sad but this is reality about MBTI personality, not saying everyone must hate ISTJ person but by learning their personality we can understand what we can do and what we can't.
I totally get you
I have a crush on a ISTJ Hungarian girl, I’m a ENFP man, are we compatible???
Hey, did you connect with your crush? 😍 Opposite letters = same cognitive functions but in a different order of preference. So, while you'll be very different in the way you experience the world, (e.g. ISTJs thrive on routine/predictability, whereas ENFPs enjoy being unpredictable and a little chaotic so they would find that constraining), you'll also bring some fresh perspectives to each other, which would be fun! 😊
It lasts for awhile, however, they better be insanely hot or you’ll kill each other. I’m married to an ISTP and I’m ENFP
The emotionless face is just when I am concentrated on work or when I am by myself in public. I got a very expressive face when talking to people. Sometimes I get comments like "look at the face istj makes". I dunno i've somehow mastered putting my thoughts to facial expressions, because then I don't have to speak and people know what I'm thinking about that topic (just me beeing an introvert I guess) xD. I just like to make people laugh. It works quite well - mostly with sarcastic comments on things that are happening in the moment, so everyone knows what the comment is about :]
I don't have time for hobbies. I'm too busy checking off my to do list. lol sad but true story.
I got a lot of hobbies, and I am trying new things when I get the chance to do so. Also one of my best friends is an ENFP :D
Thanx for this input, guys. Good to know which areas I might pay attention to. Married to ENFP, I couldn´t understand at first, what was wrong with him, but then I learned its just Ne 😂😂😂
I'm an ISTJ...could this be the reason I got rid of all the kitchen gadgets and just have a knife and a cutting board? Yes., I am nervous about driving...I always plan out the safest less traffic heavy way to go.
I know that learning about the types isn’t supposed to make you hate them, but it has taught me Which aspects of peoples personalities never change, so it has made me lose hope certain people in my life
@Moondust agreed / and we’ll that’s the basis of the theory anyways !
I would say each cognitive function can be developed and brought into a healthier balance. Things you're worried about never changing I'm sure could grow through balancing the opposite side of the axis. For instance, in ISTJs, Si can look unhealthy (being too routined, inflexible, focused on the details to the detriment of big picture), but it can be balanced with Ne to show up a lot better in the world (routine WITH possibility and new ideas, detail oriented AND big picture focused.
@@garrettijohnson OK let me try to articulate my thoughts on this. I understand what you were saying. I just do not believe that we are able to modify our cognitive functions. We can modify our behavior, But I do not believe we can modify her cognitive functions. It’s hard to articulate but I hope that makes sense
@@louern123 Gotcha makes sense! I think I just see thoughts and behavior very intertwined, so when I think of behavior modification, most of the time that indicates a shifting in thought process and beliefs. Maybe the cognitive function itself doesn't change, but your use of that cognitive function shows up in a healthier way with better understanding and development?
Hmm... I don't think of it as never change... more what takes over in extremes and what you do by default.
I'm ESFP, wife of 28 years ISTJ ... finally going through divorce (it's been rough). Anyway, at 16:50 this is something I use to say to her all the time, "Do you want to be right, or do you want to be happy?" This obviously a problem with relationship but absolutely horrifying in social situations as she'd literally make words up to not be wrong. Earlier your "bossy w/o authority" was another BINGO. She'd be completely OK with walking into Beatty Crocker's kitchen and then telling her she was making cookies wrong ... another horrifying social thing that cause many fights (that I clearly lost, all of them, LOL)
And yes, I am bossy, because SOMEONE has to be the boss and get things done. It's just the way it is, get used to it.
Is it possible to get INFP or INFJ test results for several years (both in MBTI and socionics) and be ISTJ in reality? A lot of ISTJ descriptions resonates with me.
I identified as an INFP for years and was shown that I'm actually ISTJ recently. I think I am often in an Si-Fi loop and it made me over-identify with Fi. My favorite art is all very Fi oriented and I thought my Te is very weak. Turns out all of these can align with ISTJ better.
Test results don't mean anything
Yes, absolutely. That's been my story, the 16 personalities test continues to mistype me to this day. Try the one of crystalknows, that might be more accurate.
Be true to yourself when taking the test.
I am an ISTJ and I prefer old models of motorcycles to new models 😄
I am istj, am I so horrible,😂 that hurts. One thing wrong : I did leave bad jobs. Ne items are all wrong for me
Your husband is beautiful.
I took a personality inventory testing and found out that I'm an ISTJ
0:48 Weirdly the only decades I don't feel nostalgic for are the 80s and 90s. 50s, 60s, and 70s were all decent decades looking back (if you overlook the tumult a little). 2000s were the golden age of humanity, and also when I was born. 2010s was pretty mixed. People have a grim outlook on the 2020s right now because they're a bit stupid (people always get swept up in the moment, understandably the pressure can feel overwhelming and it's only through metacognition that I can hold at least try to remain reasonable) but personally I think that by the end of the 20s things will be on the up, at least in America (Political violence will rise, but it won't threaten the integrity of the State, and the energy breakthroughs that are starting to come in will change everything, soon we'll have the best energy prices in history, which will revolutionise the economic system). I'm more pessimistic about things in Europe, the incoming Labour government here in the UK will do at least some things to clear up the current state of things, and Starmer is generally a responsible leader. But the British State is in chronic decline, it has been for 2 centuries, and Labour certainly isn't capable of the reforms that need to be made to ensure its survival. If we leave things as they are soon the State will be reduced to London and maybe Bedfordshire. The EU's lack of balls seems like it will continue to plague it, though I confess that my knowledge on the EU is lacking. Regardless, prosperity in America will reach us over here, especially if it's technological in nature. Something to keep us satisfied while our States continue to rot.
Um, so to summarise, I'm an ISTJ but I don't think there's one particular "back in the day" that we need to return to. There are periods of history that I like and that I might wish we were more like now, but there are also things I like about now that did not exist back then. My horizons are far larger in this era than they would've been in any other time, and that at least is worth something. And the culture of this time period isn't entirely so bad, and I think once people realise that a downturn doesn't mean the end of the world and grow out of their doomerism the cultural environment will become generally more pleasant and enjoyable.
That being said, fuck the 80s and the 90s. The only good part of these decades was the late 90s.
So it's f*** the 80s & 90s all because you don't feel nostalgic of them? How about f*** you because you don't know how to separate your emotions from your opinions?
How about you try separating your emotions from your opinions & then you'd make a little more sense
@@llezmollah217 I agree with you, but you could've phrased it in a less confrontational manner.
Could you go into more detail about why I didn't make sense?