Your Work Life Blossoms When You Heal These Symptoms
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Anyone who grew up with abuse or neglect knows how trauma wounds can leak into every part of your life. No matter how strong and resilient you are, certain trauma-driven habits can keep you from being seen, valued, promoted and paid appropriately on the job. In this "best of" compilation, I share some of my most popular videos on managing your CPTSD symptoms at work, deciding when and how to share about your background, and how trauma in your past can make you a wise and effective leader.
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For the last two years I’d been struggling with occupational burnout and depression. Climbing out now, feeling better. Doing better at work thanks to a lot of self-care and the daily practice. When you can call out your resentment and fear, it’s easier to approach your issues.
I'm so glad the daily practice has been helpful! Thanks for sharing this :) -Calista@TeamFairy
I told someone one time that the irony of growing up way fast was not being able to grow up.
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so true
I feel that
Yes!
Very true
I have been stuck in minimum wage jobs for over 20 years in customer service. I absolutely hate it, yet I am trapped. I am currently depressed and angry at going in tomorrow. 40 hours a week of demands and in return, I don’t earn enough to live. I am tired. This channel is very helpful. Thank you.
That sounds hard. I'm glad you're here. If you haven't already, try Anna's Daily Practice. It is the technique that led to Anna’s own healing, and she uses it to this day. bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice
Nika@TeamFairy
Hang in there, Stephanie!
Hope things have changed in someway.
Rooting for you ~
I decided that if North America wasn't working for me I would move elsewhere. I found a scholarship in Qatar and the rest is history.
@@sabak84 I hope it goes well for you - it seems like things are harder than they ought to be in many places, unfortunately.
I dont know if you are bondend with kids for example, but there are alot off customer service Jobs in Portugal 😊
Very recognizable that childhood traumas still effect me in my adulthood.
Big Time! It’s almost like it gets worse…JMO
*affect
It’s 10:30 at night and without going into the story of the reason why …I just wanted to tell you Anna , you have no idea how especially profound the timing of this video is. I don’t know if it’s too late or how much the world needs a 54 year old - but Thank You for stepping into what the world needs from you , Anna K. 🙂👍🏻
It's never too late. And your healing elevates you, and also inspires others around. Never underestimate what the wings of a butterfly can do.
@@Cuiositycola Beautifully said and so true.
I am feeling the exact same way, is it too late. There are so many missed or self sabotaged opportunities, it’s hard to believe I can make a good life for me.
It's only too late when you're in the ground.
Have you experienced that? Yes except that I never lash out visibly, I explode from inside, self sabotage and run away when I’m a step away from my ultimate goal and success. This is emotional and intense for me. Every word I relate to. Thank you thank you!
I never leave youtube comments because I feel like a lot of the times they are like shouting into the void and I also kind of assume most content creators don't read them often because they can (understandably) be really toxic. But I really felt compelled to leave a comment because I've been silently watching for years and really found a lot of help, encouragement, and symptom relief from your advice that even years of therapy and medication never quite seemed to stick (both important tools but it just felt like something else was missing). Today I was REALLY struggling with career troubles, and having really defeatist and dark thoughts like maybe a dignified, well paying job is something I will just never deserve or have, and I'm so stuck in the exhaustion and chaos of never having enough money that I got to thinking maybe its just not really worth living a life that will never get better. But the fact that this video was uploaded TODAY, talking about almost my exact situation, and your advice really gives me a lot of hope. The timing is so coincidental I just cannot express how grateful I am that you make this content and put it out there for free and that it somehow seems to come at exactly the right time. I guess there's nothing new under the sun and it makes sense we're all going through different flavors of the same thing a lot of the times, but when you're in a dark place it's so easy to forget that and feel hopeless. Hearing that it can be overcome, and that it's not impossible, really genuinely means so much, so thank you so much for what you do!
I see your comment! Thank you for sharing this. I had this really hateful person who posted a lot of ugly comments and it just takes one person to say it’s helpful to keep my spirits going strong. I’m glad you’re here. So many happy surprises are in store for those of us who heal the trauma!
@@CrappyChildhoodFairyhonestly your voice alone is so soothing. Amazing
Well said Amanda. Thank you for posting.
@@CrappyChildhoodFairy I'm sorry someone felt the need to do that. Your videos are so helpful and it feels almost like talking with a friend who always has your back (although it's obviously a one way conversation in terms of 'real time' lol). I watch a few different therapy type channels and they occasionally get trolls as well. They mostly seem to be the people who refuse to take accountability or aren't ready/able to heal from their own problems, and ironically think badly of others who do the work to improve themselves.
Hope everyone has a wonderful new year!
68 years old and this lady knows my entire life story.
You're not alone! Same here😅
70 here. Same thing. And tired.
CPTSD SYMPTOMS
13:08 #1 crap fitting
17:09 #2 getting into family dynamics at work
20:15 #3 parentifying people you work with and behaving like the child you were
28:20 #4 spending your energy convincing your boss that you are good instead spending it on your development
32:27 #5 your line of work is full of traumatized people
35:35 #6 delivering too strong trauma responses at work : flight, fight, freeze, fun/accommodating, f*
38:02 #7 controlling your trauma symptoms by keeping things small
39:09 #8 emotional dysregulation showing at work with, for example, shaky productivity
WHAT THINGS TO HEAL
44:06 #1 heal wearing your past (or your present) on your sleeve
48:35 #2 under- or overfunctioning (learn to set boundaries)
51:02 being overwhelmed
57:02 keeping things small as sign of underfuntioning
58:04 not asking for what we want as sign of underfunctioning
58:57 doing too much /overfunctioning (but not getting recognition)
59:45 #3 getting dysregulated at work: too emotional, sick too often, with productivity crashes and coming across as angry and conflictual, not able to take criticism, being vague about money, and about sexual boundaries - meditate/do the daily practice and learn to take lucid and unemotional decisions about every situation
1:12:14 #4 drama brought into your life by other people (partner, kids, boss, friends) who cause you emotional hangover and so derail your career
1:16:15 #5 choosing bosses, co-workers, projects, clients, and work environments who mimic your family and invalidate you: step forward, step up, step out
1:21:48 link to the exercise One Year to Heal
1:22:25 VIDEO "HEAL TRAUMA AND FIND WORK YOU ARE MEANT FOR"
1:40:30 From VIDEO "STOP CUSTOMER SERVICE TRAUMA AS WORKER OR CUSTOMER"
! bad customer service is the biggest CPTSD trigger and a cause for dysregulation: how to create a positive experience and path to CPTSD healing
5 tips for cs workers:
1:52:37 make a welcoming statement
1:53:23 use friendly words and tone of voice,
1:53:53 demonstrate empathy by acknowledging their problem
1:54:41 put things into positive by saying what's possible instead of what is not possible
1:55:35 offer options
5 tips for customers
1:56:47 great, make eye contact
1:57:10 use friendly words and tone of voice
1:57:30 explain the problem quickly and without blame or long stories
1:57:53 if needed, demonstrate empathy to the worker and assume they handle your request in good faith
1:58:51 treat the agent with patience and kindness even if the solution is not fully to your liking
you are awesome for putting this together!! thank you!!
I always thought that I would hate therapy, so I never went. Then I found this channel and a few other channels, and I realize how smart compassionate and experienced you are in many of the same things I went through. Today I’m going to my first appointment I wanna say thank you for opening up my eyes to the fact that there is help out there.
How did it go?
I've been with my organization for 5 years now, and it's like being in an abusive relationship. I wanted to quit shortly after starting, but none of the other jobs I was eligible for provided any sort of benefits besides health insurance (if that) and I was 35 and needed to start saving for retirement. This job has taken my time, energy and sanity, and I recently became a supervisor because I need to pay off my debt, but I'm so ready to walk away. I've wanted to quit so many times, and so many of my coworkers are just in this death march. I'm so tired of working jobs that take over my life. I shouldn't tolerate being treated terribly, working horrible hours just to make a living.
Thank you for this. I’ve always wondered why I haven’t held down a steady job since 1974. Except for when I was a stripper, that worked out pretty well. But the work was soul-killing. 😢
Me too.
Besides six years of the scourge of 1099 work ridesharing, I haven’t kept a job more than three or four years, usually one or two years. I totally get you.
I’m 61 now without pension or savings and I know I’ll be working until I die but throughout I’m going to live what time I have left the best way I can - why I’m here listening to Anna.
@@yonitznkc ❤️ We just have to keep moving in a forward motion now. No matter how dim that light of Hope seems.
One foot in front of the other, day by day.
I was ignored my entire career as a teacher unless I did something "bad" then it was magnified by administrators. I stayed in that district because my spouse didn’t want to leave the town. Once I left I knew I'd find better and I did.
My last job truly gave me workplace PTSD. Especially now that I’m in a career field and was recently diagnosed with multiple sclerosis I fear the unknown because I have a new supervisor who don’t necessarily understand my situation because it is a invisible disability and I don’t want to lose my job but I should not be spending my whole weekend with anxiety going to work tomorrow. I feel like life has really passed me bye, although I have accomplished a lot of things in my 44 years but I’ve been working through childhood trauma and brokenness
Prayers and love.
You’re not alone in that feeling xxxx
sending you good vibes for great outcomes, @Naturallydope6971!
Could you share /make a video about how you managed to build your own enterprise with C-PTSD?
I have always had the desire to work self employed and I do have ideas but somehow feel paralysed to start implementing them. I think that this is related to growing up with a narcissistic mother who punished me whenever I was myself (I have come a long way since then /made progress but am still dealing with anxiety /self-sabotage, in particular with respect to visibility to others) and who demanded nothing but perfectionism.
Thanks for telling us What To Do (like the being late example) after the Don't Do This. These things were never modeled for us.
My work life has consisted of unchallenging but relatively un-stressful jobs that fall far short of testing my capabilities. I'm finally starting to understand why.
Wow... I hope more people watch this video! Almost all of this hits quite a lot of my issues. I had realized I was being held back by childhood trauma but wasn't sure how it was really affecting me. I almost always blame it on my bipolar, so it's interesting to hear that it's also the PTSD from childhood. I am in the middle of a job transition due to a high tech layoff of that "easy" drone like job to going back to my old skillset. I just got a new job where I have to go back into the office 5 days a week and it's really triggering a lot of my anxieties, after working from home for 3.5 years. This video has really helped me re-focus and not be so freaked out about starting this whole new routine. Also, not currently having insurance or when I had insurance that didn't really cover mental health, these Crappy Childhood videos have been my therapist. You are fabulous in how you speak out these issues and letting us into your shared experiences of childhood PTSD. Please keep up the great work... thank you!
I'm not afraid of opportunities. My issue is that everyone sucks. My trauma is in not getting enough support with my work despite asking for help and staying my boundaries. I move to something else and have the same issue.
Become the one who doesn't suck.
This is a gold mine Anna, I wish you could do more of these, about money/business/career. Thank you for sharing your gift with us.
I feel frozen. I can't even clean my room. But I try everyday I m stressed and cry
Glad you're here. If you haven't already, try Anna's Daily Practice. It is the technique that led to Anna’s own healing, and she uses it to this day. bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice
Nika@TeamFairy
I am a new teacher and in my 2nd month of teaching. Honestly, it's incredibly stressful. Though I don't like the idea of quitting, I'm already getting strongly repulsed to go to work. I started the school year hopeful and full of spirits, but I'm already feeling burnt out, numb, dissociated. I've tried to stay calm but the students have triggered me a good number of times. I just don't even have the motivation or want to plan for the next day at this point. Sure, plenty of people will tell you you won't feel motivated to do your job just do it, but this is really hard when you're already struggling with depression and anxiety. I'm just not getting any enjoyment out of it. I'm just so tired.
I was a teacher a few years ago. I soon realized that having CPTSD and teaching in a school is unfortunately a vety bad mix, as the school environment is likely to trigger old wounds. I waited for 1,5 years before realizing that I need to quit, otherwise I will burn out. I might return to that profession some day after healing, but for now Im concentrating on other line of work. So I feel for you, I know what its like to be completely overwhelmed in that line of work. Best of luck and stenght to you in solving a tuff situation.
@matthiasamaderro6102 did you quit mid year? I ideally want to wait until the end of this year, but 2 months in im already mentally struggling greatly and don't know how far I'm gonna make it. I am starting a new program at my school, a news out let is coming to interview me this week about it, the community seems to be hyped about it so I feel a lot of shame of the thought of jumping ship this early but at the same time I know my mental health is really whats most important.
@@pault9544 I myself waited at the end of the schoolyear. I wanted to see if Id be able to adjust mentally and emotionally over time - which I didnt. But there were also a few kids who had taken a liking to me (including some troubled ones) and I felt it would be very unfair to them if I quit mid-term. Because of them, I still feel proud for staying until the end of the year before quitting, even though it felt like a prison sentence. In order to survive, however, I had to develop myself a daily meditation practice which I still use. Anna's technique is worth trying out if you havent done that already. And if you cant find that kind of breathing space - well, nobody will die if you leave mid-term. Like you said, mental health comes first.
Whatever way you deal with this, its good to know that there is going to be a way out, and more suitable lines of work are waiting for you after this one. You will survive this.
Thank you for watching. I hear you. Daily Practice is a good tool to help sort out things like this. Give it a try if you’re interested: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice
Nika@TeamFairy
Teaching is hard. Try to find enjoyment in the little things. Even if you don't see it your students are learning. Reach out for help. When administrators don't help it's hard. If you're already burn out maybe you thought that the job entitled somthing else. See if you can teach on a different capacity.
My last attempt at a job actually hurt me.
But, I wanted to share that one of the chiropractors loves watching you program 😄
Mine is feeling overwhelmed and calling in sick ( I wake CVup full of anxiety ) to regulate myself and go to bed - I’m working hard on it. I’m also the late person then I’m full of shame and set myself up that feeds into my I’m not good enough when I am very intelligent- every manager told me you’re an amazing worker smashing your targets but your sick days are becoming a problem. My mam snd brother passed this year and I’m interviewing so this is stuff I really need to work on and putting plans in place when I feel in regulated I’m like this years and was never fired - I’d set myself to feel not good enough - not good with people in power then I’d resign - that’s been my pattern and I’m in my 40’s I really want to change in my new job when I get one. I want to make mum snd CV my brother proud
This so describes me in my whole career. I wish I had 'met' you 40 years ago.
I really needed this!!-- thanks Anna. Actually needed it so long ago too. Lol
I can only handle a very limited amount of stress due to complex PTSD,Anxiety and Depression...
I think everyone can only handle so much this high usage of drugs alcohol and prescription
I got a promotion and I realized how it negatively affected my mental health. I stepped back and my life returned to normal. Got to agree wih Anna that fixing my past trauma should be my priority before taking on the next step.
Yup, this is where I’m at too. Getting a promotion was anxiety-inducing for me. I think I need to heal that before my next promotion.
Holy moly!!! These videos are opening my eyes at the places where I am stuck as an adult, I’ve settled in my career space, and I know I am worth so much more! You hit the nail on the head when it comes to working in teams, I got so used to self isolating And being a Lonewolf, even in my work that now it’s hard to work in teams, which is not a good thing since my main experience is in marketing. You’ve inspired me to break my old habits and to reach higher ….
Glad you are here!
Nika@TeamFairy
Thank you for this video. In the last 2 years, I've pushed myself to do the challenging jobs, but I didn't have the skills or the emotional regulation to cope. I'm between jobs right now and working on healing. It was nice to hear that I'm not alone in my work struggles and that positive change can occur.
Thanks for watching. Glad you're part of our community here!
Nika@TeamFairy
This is me. So much. Pretty much ruined my career when I unloaded on a bully of a boss. The company nearly went under, but was saved by an innovation of mine. Yet I was one of the many let go, and a few of my former coworkers are now being extremely handsomely rewarded building on the effort and hard work and ideas that I put forward. Unfair, and I am still resentful from it, especially when I see bystanders and investors praising them for my discovery. I wish I had seen this clip, and your channel 18 months ago.......
I fully agree!!
Along with healing my childhood trauma, I’m dealing with very real physical problems.
At 66 almost 67, it’s extremely difficult to find a good job to fit.
The real physical problem is possibly linked to the childhood trauma , a link that is often missed.
I've been falsely accused. I haven't worked for over 6 years. I'm 64. I can't do my old trade work because l can't lift heavy stuff. I've had 4 major operations. I was arrested applying for work 2.5 years ago and locked up in a mental home.
I've been eating rice with salt at night and honey and sultanas in the morning.
Good news is that I'm getting a bank loan to buy some apples and vegetables
Yay! As someone who *almost* became homeless a year ago I'm opened for all sorts of financial advice that take C-PTSD into account with arms opened up wide.
Omg I'm shouting YES every 3 seconds!!!!!!! THANKS FOR SHOWING ME HOW TO CREATE JOY FOR MYSELF
"Change the thing that's right in front of you," is good advice. And to pick something that feels simple and easy enough to tackle, then do the next thing. Important to make it manageable. I've found I tend to get overwhelmed by two things: 1) having too many choices, and 2) fear of making an irrevocable "wrong" choice because I was taught at an early age that my decisions were right or wrong, succeed or fail, with no alternatives available. Both lead to overwhelm, decision paralysis and ultimately not making any decision at all. I've dealt with the former situation very effectively, but am still coming to terms with the latter.
I’m in that place now where they want to promote me and that’s when my self doubt and noticing cptsd is having to be healed. I don’t lash out, I cry and I try to hide it. Not often but that is what lead me to this channel. I am on my 2nd day of the daily practice.
I STOPPED complaining about my job, getting mixed up with the other lins staff, and looking for what I could take from it while giving my bare minimum and I was promoted 3 wks. my current boss told me that he realises nothing bothers and I was so proud. I am not suppressing im just not onboarding in the 1st place. Now I can silently pray for ppl instead of resenting them.
...and myself
Whats really bad is having no idea what you want to do
Hating every line of work and spending most of your time doing work you hate and feeling drained and it goes on well into your forties
Thank you for watching. A good way to get clear about what you really want is through Daily practice. Here’s the link to the free course: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice
Nika@TeamFairy
O.M.G the description. I always question if I can blame the trauma for the way I felt blocked in finding my purpose. I do feel like I could've connected to it sooner if I hadn't had to go through trauma and lose myself first, but I always worry that maybe I'm just playing the victim and it was just all me. I always feel I lacked guidance, but also question if I can really truly blame them. In any case that description was so spot on and validating. That feeling of being outside of your life, waiting to jump in, for it to begin. I remember that WELL and it is so validating and crazy to hear someone describe the exact same experience
I never been able to keep a job. I end ip crying in the lunch room or bathroom uncontrollably. All my life. I’m 59. I gave up having any kind of career. It happens everywhere I go. It’s not others it’s me. I’m very jaded. When I’m not at a job I’m happy and live in peace but the workplace has been like my home life growing up.
Thank you for sharing. One good tool to help with getting regulated is the Daily Practice. You can try it in the free course: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice
Nik@TeamFairy
Again Anna has this AMAZING way of simplifying the difficulty of dealing w under earning, self esteem issues. Anna! Thank you 😊
Anna, you are a Godsend 🙏 The way that you describe various coping mechanisms and how they manifest in our lives is so eye opening. Your videos help me pin down my issues that I couldn't understand before. Your insights are brilliant and the best part is that your viwers can truly feel how passionate and heartfelt your advice is. Also, thank you for being vulnerable with us and sharing your own traumas and family history. Not many professionals are able or willing to admit to their own weaknesses and faults. Your stories help us relate and not stigmatize some of the dysfunctional behaviors we have. We're all a work in progress and we just want to be better. God bless you and your family and thank you for your amazing work ❤
Here here
I’m slowly but surely consuming all your content. It’s saving me. Really, it’s saving my life. The “experts” Don’t know what they’re doing most of the time, but you do. Thank you. You’re as close to an expert as I’ve found in this arena.
I'm so glad the channel has been helpful! -Calista@TeamFairy
OMG. My husband constantly watches violent dramatic shows and as I’m embarking on healing from CPTSD, I can’t handle it!
Mine gets drunk all the time and plays loud music into the night. When I complain about not being able to sleep he tells me to "shut the fphuck up". I love it when he leaves for work the next day, and I have a whole house to myself.
So true, Everyone has struggles, NO.matter how tough they may seem.
Wow Anna!! You really hit it out of the park with this one…. The whole work acknowledgment and trying to find a balance? SPOT ON!! I have struggled with this for years…. I am so happy you came up in my feed today. This is one of your newer episodes, I had been listening to a lot of your previous work and I have to tell you, I needed to hear this specific one today! I am starting a new season in my life after surrounding myself with narcissists for years!!! Ready to take responsibility for all my choices so I can live the life I deserve!! Thanks A!
I work for my parents 🤧 im just now getting ready for a career shift and SO much (jarring) emotion stuff has come up for me and about 2 days into my training I figured that I was living out my toxic and traumatic experiences. And the mental chatter and self-hate thatd bubbled to the top is really pushing me to continue working to heal. Thank youuuu so much for this video! 💌💌
We're all rooting for you :) -Calista@TeamFairy
100% you can do...!
Dear Anna
I want you to know that I Thank God for you and everything you have helped me with! I had cptsd and then it went into ptsd again from a abusive Marrage. I just want you to know I have started taking my life back.
After not working for more than 10 years. I stepped out of my comfort zone and went after a Job I thought I would NEVER HAVE AGAIN!
God Bless you for all of your help and love for those of us who didn't know how to love ourselves. ❤️
IM SO EXCITED FOR THE NEXT PART OF MY LIFE. I never would have had the strength to stand up for myself .
That's incredible! Thank you so much for sharing this :) -Calista@TeamFairy
Thank you so much again 💓 You are so welcome 🙏
Yup! I stayed an RN when I could have gone on to NP. It was both VERY healing working in this field, felt fulfilled, doing God's work, etc. HOWEVER, I also 'settled' for wicked management, and narcissistic bosses and I overstayed these places. I would stay, and fight to defend myself..... and it took me literally dying....to have to stop and regroup. This is SO dead on. Now I'm paralyzed. Getting there, but wowzer.
I'm also a nurse. Every nursing position has had jerks for managers, abusive colleagues, etc. When people ask me if they should become a nurse, I tell them what it is really like. (Most people glorify nursing.) They then choose a different career. Nursing is a burnout job. Maybe it was once a fulfilling job, but I don't think it is anymore.
Hi, I’ve heard (and read) a lot about the nursing field and how toxic it can be. Not unlike other jobs, but nursing seems to stand out in its own unique toxicity.
What are a few examples of how colleagues act/treat one another that fuels the toxicity? Anything to help me understand.
Thanks so much ❤
@@Job.Well.Done_01 If you're not well liked or a part of the float pool, you will be assigned the crappy patients. I once had two quadriplegics with many wound dressings to change plus trach care, a coma patient with trach care, and a respiratory patient with trach care. Normally, a nurse would only be assigned two trachs, but I was float pool. When asked why they assigned me them, they said their regular nurses needed a break. Since every unit thinks that way, float nurses never get a break.
I once broke up a fight between an oncoming nurse and an off going charge nurse. The oncoming nurse didn't like her assignment, demanded it be changed, and when the off going charge nurse said no, the nurse tried to punch her.
The nurse manager found out I am wiccan and put a Xmas card in my mailbox that said I was going to hell for not believing in Jesus.
Same manager kept bugging me about applying to the clinical ladder. I told her I had not fulfilled the requirement of serving as charge nurse. She is the one that determines who is made charge and she knew that I never was made charge. She just would keep rubbing it in that I couldn't apply for clinical ladder.
While doing charting, I saw the training nurse walking down the hallway with her trainee trailing behind. The trainer said to the trainee, "You're going to have to lose some weight to keep up with me."
Nurses are two faced. They talk nice to your face, but behind your back....
ER nurses hold patients until their shift change so that they don't have to take on new patients. Thus, at the beginning of second shift, the floor nurses are inundated with admits. Management doesn't want to deal with the problem. I have seen this happen in all the hospitals I have worked in.
There's a lot more of this crap, but you get the jest of it.
@@arenee118 I am so sorry your work environment is so awful (especially the comments on your weight and that disgusting Xmas card... yeesh. I hate how religious people can be so hypocritical, to espouse tolerance/love thy neighbour, yet spread hate to everyone who doesn't fit in their special little box).
Great topic Anna🪐 thank you! 🧚♂️
I am so happy that I found you. I am currently making a career move. For the first time, I am being very decisive about what I choose. So, having these realizations and shedding light on the trauma driven decisions I have made in the past is huge!
Thank you so much for what you do! I just sit here listen and like the good gospel, I keep talking to my phone with a "Yes! Yes!"
Thank you for your comment. Glad you are here and good luck with your career move!
Nika@TeamFairy
Thank you the videos, this is just what I needed to hear today. Watching your content gives me hope that I can start functioning in the world without having so much trouble getting along and being a part of a team. I appreciate you.
This came at the right time. It has inspired me to take all my creative skills and energy that I’m giving to an employer that doesn’t value it and my out-of-the-box thinking and apply use the skills to build my own business 🙏🏾
Wonderful! Good luck!
Nika@TeamFairy
I just want to say that your videos are so empowering. I’m 31 and I’ve fulfilled my childhood dream of becoming a healthcare professional, but it’s draining the life out of me. The daily interactions in the retail setting is not my favorite thing to do…on a long term basis. Working in this field had brought up so many of my unhealed childhood traumas, for which I’m grateful. But I want to change careers to something more entrepreneurial and where I can have and pick my clients. I love how you’ve spoken about this aspect of work… you have no idea how enlightening this is to me! Thanks so much for all your work.
I'm so happy to hear that Anna's videos have been helpful! Thank you for sharing your experience with us :) -Calista@TeamFairy
Some people find working with pre-school children is therapeutic, so reliving your pre-school years through the children's curriculum reprogramming your mind towards a healthy growth.
Expression of Values at work is also healing.
Just try to regulate your emotions if/when you meet more narcs.
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I am really glad I found these podcasts. I think it's amazing you put healing our financial trauma front and center. I have been really anxious around money all my life. Thank you for digging in so incisively.
Anna- I’ve only been watching your videos a few months, but they have truly changed my life. Your coaching and optimism have put me on the path to healing. Thank you for all you do.
I understand what you are saying about getting into college. My family was highly educated too. My mother, grandmother and great grandmother all had 4 year college degrees, but my mother was an alcoholic.
My childhood was extremely dysfunctional.
Once I got into college, I had no idea what to do on any level!
Such a great advices in your video! I've took a lot from it. Thank you! Please keep your work going 🙏
Oh my goodness!! This is hitting the spot and completely Divine timing to have your talk come in my feed tonight. I literally posted my first podcast interview in 4 years, 2 hours ago. I started to get scared after it began playing as I got super critical that I was way too vulnerable and shared way too much.
I am extremely grateful for your message tonight as I know I am stepping into my Destiny and calling…and it is extremely scary, exhilarating, exciting, beautiful, and I can’t hold back any more. It hurts and is so destructive when I hold back from my gifts, talents and abilities.
Thank you for being an amazing resource for me tonight. Wishing you many blessings!!!
Thank you Anna for doing these .....you explain things in a way that I understand and that I can hear!!!!!
Finding your videos is such a blessing for me. Thank you.
I am so grateful for your videos. It is really difficult to watch them, but what I can watch is very helpful.
Thank you so much for this video. ❤
I go for higher paying jobs but people do trigger me and I always feel inadequate. I feel broken and I don’t know what should I do most of the time.
Thank you for this video; I had an aha moment whilst listening. Your work is touching lives. ❤
I so needed to hear this. I'm so glad this channel exists.
The art part resonated with me beautifully, I adore your work 💖
Wow, you just released so much (without knowing how to phrase this more appropriately) emotional constipation in me. I love you for providing this content on your channel. Thank you.
You are wonderful. Watching this brilliant video is a joyful experience. Congratulations on your great success and thank you so much for helping us achieve ours.
Thank you so much! So glad you are here.
Nika@TeamFairy
I truly believe the best strategy is to isolate. Isolation isolation isolation. No people, no problem. Anything that comes out is what comes out. Isolation, no people absolutely no people, no living breathing people around you, especially family. That is possible. All it requires is patience. I dislike people, I dislike looking at people
Yep, all they do is use you.
Dogs are ideal, ppl not so much.
This video was so incredibly healing to watch. To be honest, I almost didn’t because it is so long. But it opened me up to so many questions and opportunities for self-expression and self-reflection. Thank you for sharing your gift with the world, Anna. I credit your content and wisdom to my own personal and professional success. ❤I’m grateful to share this lifetime with you, even if we have not met.
I'm so glad the video was helpful :) -Calista@TeamFairy
You are so good at explaining what’s really going on within us and how to navigate this stuff. I appreciate your videos immensely and the daily practice. Thank you ❤
Thank you for your kind words! I'm so glad the channel and the daily practice have been helpful :)
-Calista@TeamFairy
Thank you!
Thank you Anna for putting out your wisdom❤
This was soooo helpful! I didn’t even think I needed this and decided to listen anyway. So glad I did! Thank you! 🙏
Glad it was helpful! Thanks for your comment!
Nika@TeamFairy
This is so important and true!
Thank you Anna!
Thanks for your videos
Dear Anna! Thank you so much for the work you do and your wonderful channel.
There is something about your personality that is so balanced and calming. From the way you look and present yourself to the valuable things you teach people. You are my hero and as hard as it seems now I hope that one day I will achieve enough progress in my healing journey to be the best version of myself. ❤️
You’re very kind. I’ll make sure Anna reads your note. Glad you're here and ready for healing!
Nika@TeamFairy
I love you videos Anna. I can identify closely with mostly all of them. With me you’ve been a life saver, even though I’m well and truly down the road of life. Thank you very much for your work and May God bless you greatly for your compassion towards others.
Kindest of regards,
Bill
You are so welcome! Thank you!
This is very relevant and relatable
You are such a blessing, your approach and this work is helping me so much. Thank you.
We're so happy to hear that! Thank you for taking the time to comment, I'm sure Anna will appreciate this :) -Calista@TeamFairy
This was so good. I hope you do more videos on career related issues.
Glad you enjoyed it! -Calista@TeamFairy
Another helpful video. ❤
Thank you. I am teaching myself to make & edit You Tube videos so I can work for myself. Everything you said resonates as regards employers, especially parentifying bosses.. YES!!! working with traumatised people.
Every day was like the first day at every job I had. I was in total panic inside . I retreated inward . It was horrible.
Yaaaaas!! 100% you help people move past trauma AND FREE oneself. So very grateful, please know you've changed my life for the better. Ah ha moments every 3 seconds. Miss Anna THANK U!
I'm so glad the channel has been helpful! Thanks for taking the time to comment :) -Calista@TeamFairy
This is amazing
Anna, I love your origin story - it's so relatable ❤ My hope is that the artist who wrote you will re- watch the entire video. I was so resistant to changing careers - until a good friend helped me re-imagine my skill set. Now work is hardly work, yet so rewarding. 85% doesn't feel like work. This is my hope for everyone.
Wonderful! I'm happy for you!
Nika@TeamFairy
I knew some who used my ADHD diagnoses against me, to advance themselves. But, that was decades ago. As I aged, I learned to enjoy my life a whole lot more.
What bugs me about my "trauma" is not being able to convey the hell I went through without sounding pathetic.
Thanks for watching! Being emotional about what we have been through is a normal reaction (especially if the experiences were traumatic) but if you're interested in calming your triggers, try Anna's Daily Practice. It is the technique that led to Anna’s own healing, and she uses it to this day. bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice
Nika@TeamFairy
@@CrappyChildhoodFairy thank you
Anna! You have helped heal my dating life with your programs and now I’m finding your content about under earning! Thank you so much!
I'm so glad the channel has been helpful! -Calista@TeamFairy
This lady is amazing.
Incredible insight
I can relate.. I live this every day..
I love that “exercise choice”
Love your videos darling ❤❤
Wow what a series of messages straight to my heart. Very inspiring and practical too. I found comedy and film a path of growth as well. Degrees don’t help you if you are limiting yourself. Thanks for sharing this.
A very useful discussion for me, thank you for posting.
I'm glad it was helpful! -Calista@TeamFairy
I'm an artist too and I feel stuck too. But I definitely see myself teaching teens, or adults or even small kids. I remember how important and beautiful scape my art lessons were during all my life, how I could fly and distract from my family's disfunction and in the same time expres myself and connect to myself. This video has been an eye opener for me, I hope I will have the courage to do what I need to do. I'm 32, I do have a degree in industrial design but never in my life have had a job, now I'm a mom and my husband is who takes care of providing for us...thinking to change careers or do something, oh gosh...
Thanks
We're all sending you encouragement! -Calista@TeamFairy
Art therapy?
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I don't even know you and I want to root for you - do you think you could still do anything with the industrial design degree? I don't know anything about that, it just sounds intriguing to me!
I grew up in a poor divorced dysfunctional house. I didn’t feel loved from either of my parents. I was the assistant mother. My young adult life was shattered by an horrific accident. I was a doer most of my life. I divorced and became a single mom of three young traumatized kids. I am now in my 70’s. I have lost dear family and friends. I had several helpful therapists. My husband is a decade older than me and has health issues. I have survived it all but feel sad often. I had to react and get things done during the traumas and losses. I have become a loner. I have autoimmune diseases. I have tried 3-4 therapists but I cannot connect. My life is physically comfortable but lonely. Do you have any suggestions?
I am in my 40s. 90% isolated. The only thing I can tell you- rescue/adopt a dog because people don't change even with age. They'll suck the life out of you. Dogs are soul creatures.🩵
I love this video so much! I have been watching you for years and I am a young comedian :) That's so cool you used to do that too!
You learn EVERYTHING doing comedy!