Heal These Trauma Wounds and Watch Your Productivity Soar
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Have you ever struggled to get even basic things done, like get to work on time, put wet laundry in the dryer, or make a phone call? Everyone procrastinates sometimes, but for people who were abused or neglected in childhood, procrastination can take over your life and hold you back. In this three-video compilation I share some of my most powerful videos about CPTSD, productivity and procrastination -- why it happens and what to do.
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I have immense respect for you and your team. Your channel, content are awesome. Thank you for all you do. I shared this one on fb.
We thank you! And thanks for spreading Anna's content to the world!
Nika@TeamFairy
†you are so incredibly intuitive and brilliant! Seriously I don't think any of us could get better advice from a professional psychologist or psychiatrist!. You just hit the nail on the head so often it's incredible! Thank you for being here
Maybe a more to the point vid for people talking themselves off ledges? I've lost interest in small talk format. I'm honestly s8ck of blinking.
Good đ done menarussell, that's fantastique đđ
Maybe another channel for you?â@@IamKai8947
I cant go and talk to ppl about anything related to cptsd bc of their reaction ( victim card and etc ) ppl with cptsd are so lucky to have a channel like this , to hear from someone who understands us thank u
Seriously! It's the worse
Family and people I think of as mentors are so unwilling to attempt to empathize or support us in the ways we need, itâs disturbing and ultra hard to recover from. aka the spread of cptsd which often gets diagnosed inaccurately as bpd. Either way growing up neurotypical and then becoming neurodivergent bc of the stormy atmosphereâŠđ€âŠyes this is a good place to land. I love this đ§đ©”đđ©·
Absolutely, but I try to believe one of these people, someday, may understand my pain.
Extreme C-PTSD. Isolated.
@LHydro I think I understand what youâre going through. I now know what I have suffered through is cptsd all my life, which it has almost ruined. When it re-emerges I start feeling like I canât do anything anymore. The bad childhood fairy has been a god send and helped me to realise that Iâm not crazy, but Iâm dealing with neurological disregulation brought about by my negative childhood experience/trauma.
what exactly do you mean by the term "victim card"?
If I ever doubted I have CPTSD, then the section about procrastination and crashing got me.
I hear you. I'm in my fiftys and wish I learned this decades ago. But it's never too late. Be well.
@@justincase6588 67 here
Yup, same. This video 100% confirmed it.
Iâm a huge procrastinator, but Iâm a little better now that I started eating better. I stopped wine, carbs, sugar and all processed food. I think stopping these things healed my brain or maybe in the process of healing my brain.
I can't imagine the self-control it would take for me to stop sugar. But I bet this alone would improve my symptoms đŹđ„Ž
Thank you for sharing this.
â@@PracticalChristianWarfarewhat I try to do is _delay._
If you can eat some carrots or healthy leftovers before that bowl of ice cream, then you're making progress - and it's real progress! The less sugar you eat, the less your body will be addicted to it.
I've not beaten it myself, however, when I fall back into old ways, this is what pulls me out - small steps.
Thank you Suzie, helpful informations đđ
@@kikijewell2967 when I crave sugar, eating protein always takes the immediate desire away and itâs filling.
My procrastination is part âwhatâs the point anymore?â
My entire life anytime I had something I cared about or was proud of it was was either destroyed or taken from me.
I wish the excellent counselors we have here would say more about that. How we can fear to try to accomplish anything because we know there are people who we're related to who will do their best to destroy whatever we create -- because they've done that before. đźđąâ€
@@amarbyrd2520 because they're wounded too and don't know it, so don't try to learn to regulate ?
Trauma-driven thinking can be discouraging. But never forget: Healing is possible! The Daily Practice can help with procrastination by giving you clarity about what tasks are most important to do today. You can try it for free here if youâre interested: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice
Nika@TeamFairy
@@CrappyChildhoodFairy so true. Thanks to your sharing your journey and truly wanting to help, we can get to a better place.
I know that
I struggel to be good with me.
That's why I had to go no contact with my family, because they feel good more I destroy my self and I feel it less strong over the time, without them... I need to learn to give me the permission to take care of me.
Treating me bad makes me less anxious đ„, I feel tired....
It helps me sometimes by setting a timer for 15 minutes and tell myself I can at least do that. You can get a lot done in 15 minutes. Then the timer goes off and you are now into the project and set it for another 15. Music definitely helps! I have a list of 20 things to do all the time because I take care of my parents and their bills and I get VERY overwhelmed. I am afraid to pay my bills because the money is low. We had some structural repairs on the house. I KNOW I feel better when I cross things off of my list. It's getting started that I dread. I do the same thing about going to bed or take a shower. Once I am in, I'm good. It's getting there..... Thank you for being here fairy!!! Loveyoumeanit!!!
Thanks for sharing! You're doing a great job!
Nika@TeamFairy
I relate so much to what you've said here Lisa! I like knowing I'm not alone so thank you for sharing. This channel is really helping me and I'm really grateful.
I think setting a timer may help me. Thank you for the tip.
This is my safe space for all things CPTSD. I feel like most people dismiss this concept quickly or downplay it. On the outside I appear as if I have it together but inside Iâm stuck in freeze mode and unable to show up in the world as I like and live my purpose. Thanks so much for these videos â€ïž they have really helped
I know what you mean, sending loveâ€
Thanks for watching! Glad you are here!
Nika@TeamFairy
I find it difficult to not compare. I find it through others that a horrible thing to do. Money is a problem for most trauma survivors. It's important to try pt work whatever to survive in this world.
I don't find learning easy either but I am trying.
Yesterday I thought to myself:" At Least Im moving".
Moving in a disconnected mode, but at least Im moving. I even did something very important but ScAry: switched my high rate credit card to one with 0% interest for 15 months. Im resigned to pay it off by paying My Own Way and not much else.
Why does CPTSD sound so much like ADHD? Iâm late diagnosed ADHD, but I KNOW that I still have childhood trauma wounds to work through because of my dad. These are such interesting similarities.
Yo, same! Diagnosed with adhd like 2 years ago, but I feel like I have a lot of trauma from being a glass child growing up. Not diagnosed, and donât want to self diagnose myself with that, but I feel like a lot of what she talks about hits home, especially regarding procrastination. And honestly, the j my thing I have found that really works IS just doing the thing, even if it means sitting at my computer and writing like one sentence for work. That eventually leads to more sentences, and after a while of painful and slow progress, it finally motivates me to finish
I am so glad you took the step up. I don't have childhood trauma, I have developed this deregulation paralysis, loss of executive function over the past 3.5 years from grief, carer burnout. My little bother, Mother and Father all dying, plus other stuff. Going from a high functioning person to the extreme opposite. You made me laugh today, I thought is she here somewhere as you describe me to a tee. All the time I spend frozen and procrastinating I could have done all the things I'm avoiding. As I was watching, I got up and started clearing up, my problem is that when I do get energy I get distracted and start a side quest and end up with a bigger mess as I am sure so does everyone else. Anyway your delivery I really resonate with. You're a star. I will make my way through your links and episodes (whilst doing stuff) because I always feel positive after watching. Thank you.
worrying about what others think is wasted energy. being you is beautiful
I literally have zero people I can talk to about anything. So Iâve just been slowly learning and applying things to heal my own self. Itâs hard having noone to vent to or cry with.
If youâre interested, Anna has a whole course on connecting with people called âConnection Bootcampâ. Hereâs a link if you want to check it out: bit.ly/CCF_Connection
Nika@TeamFairy
I just want to add that there is something so emotionally comforting and real/authentic about you and your videos. You have wonderful energy and thanks for all you do. You have been a safe and informative haven and hugs to you and everyone here in the comment section.
What a kind thing to say! We appreciate it!
Nika@TeamFairy
I am a queen of criticism, and most people who have heard me say anything will verify that; BUT, I can find NOTHING in any of your videos ( I've seen at least 20) to criticize. Rather, the opposite. Anna, you truly are, for me, the Functional Adulthood Fairy. Thank you, thank you, thank you. đŻđ
Thank you for your kind words! I'm so glad the video was helpful :) -Calista@TeamFairy
Happy Mother's Day !
procrastinating has been my worst fault my entire life
You're in the right place :) -Calista@TeamFairy
Itâs not a fault. It can become a character flaw when it becomes part of personality but it didnât start out as a âfaultâ. We didnât choose it.
@@khalida02 Thank you. I thought about that too. It's a symptom and I've been working on it. Making progress with Anna's pomodoro technique and just doing the best I can. I appreciate your comment. What a great community!
@@OneryDunBeinNice thatâs wonderful! Iâm just starting to work on this⊠Iâve been aware of how cptsd affects our environment as far as disorganization, and knew it affected procrastination, but I wasnât ready to work on it I guess. We receive information when we are ready for it.
I want to watch the one about organizing, again.
Iâm sending Love and Hugs to everyone who resonates with this episode
Where have you been all my life. Seven decades later.....đđ
Glad you're here now! -Calista@TeamFairy
Right? I payed for so much therapy. Why are her videos the first time hearing these things?
đ i was going to say the same then i realized it's just 2 decades for me â€đ i suddenly feel grateful
Wishing you all the best â€â€â€â€â€
My thought exactly!đ
You have a lot of guts you are as brave as any special force soldier fighting a war!!! Because thatâs what this feels like!!!. I am so grateful to you. I canât put everything in a text, I just wanted you to know that. And as a mother, look what a model you are to your sons, and grandchildren, and how this will carry down. Happy Motherâs Day, Anna.đđđ
Thank you for your kind words! I'm so glad the channel has been helpful :) -Calista@TeamFairy
I don't usually comment, mostly a lurker here but... This video (watching currently) might just help me get off rock bottom and get my life back together. Thank you for taking the leap and having the courage to make this channel :)
It really is a blessing for those of us struggling. I used to be a high achiever but lately I have been very down. When people ask me what's wrong... I had no idea how to even begin to explain what I was going through. But this video puts things into perspective. Again, thank you so much for your work and dedication đ
Thank you for your kind words! I'm so glad the channel has been helpful :) -Calista@TeamFairy
Here's an example of what I do to myself: my dentist complimented me re how good I am at taking care of my teeth. I could almost feel something click inside myself. So- yeah, I stopped taking care of my teeth. Procrastination is part of my self- destructive stuff. I don't know what to do if I feel good. I have to ruin it for myself.
When I get a compliment ( which is rare) I usually donât feel as if I earned and deserve it. I say thank you out loud but internally I dismiss it.
I donât trust the complimenter and therefore I donât believe the compliment.
CZcams Dr Ellie Phillips
â@@pilarq7886 Thank you â€
Procrastination is a parasite.
"cPTSD feels uncomfortable when you ascend to a new level." YESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS I just accepted a new job as a supervisor but I keep on regressing to negative thinking. It is so difficult for me to not think in the negative because of the stuff I have going on but your videos help bring me back to reality!! KEEP THEM COMING!!!
Anna, one of the things I really like about you is that you talk about the exact things I struggle with. Like feeling the need to vacuum the entire house when what I know I should be doing is recording and editing my first CZcams video. I've been preparing, studying, and thinking I want to do this for months. Thinking, "I can do it!" but then this weird hesitation kicks in and I really need to clean something, or go outside and work in the garden. What IS that? Sigh. The struggle is real.
Happy Mother's Day.
Your stories about how people sabotage you really hit close to my heart. Itâs a shame people like that really exist.
I live in florida and I definitely feel like being outside was used as punishment when I was younger. This makes sense to me now because whenever people talk about going out in nature being relaxing i literally panic
Thank you for sharing. I encourage you to try The Daily Practice free course. It is a great way to process fears and resentment and it can help with getting regulated: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice
Nika@TeamFairy
Virtual hugs to you. Be gentle with yourself. You are important and You Got This. đč
đđŒ so timely. (Actually could have used it 55 years ago đ) Just think of what could have been accomplished.
Same
Ohhh that one is hard to swalow, but it's pointlessđą
I have a future and a year ago I was in desperation
I feel Happy smelling frech cut grass, Happy to be able to feel it.
I was so numb for decades and I never felt like this.
Thank you for the daily practice, I went from 10 min ones a day to 15min, than 20min and after I made twice a day every two or three days.
I did the same as too stuck to it, that's the most important part for me, I need to practice every day or I won't have the chance for the life I deserve.
To go for twice a day I gave me a challenge of two weeks, twice a day 20 min. I'm in day 6 and I feel that much benefits that motivation won't be a big challenge đâ€â€â€
How can I thank you for saving my life đđŒđ I never felt that much supported, empowered validated and so much more
They are no Words Strong enough to Express my Gratitude đđŒâ€â€
A year ago I was in desperation and now I have faith that it's reacheble to have the life I deserve and be capable to give my participation to the community â€
@@DavesFitLife for me too
I had the informations a year ago with 53 and the menaupose yeay... The menopause and the anxiety are weired toogether and I stop slowly my xanax and morphine, impossible to do without the daily practice đ§ .
I take half less xanax, now 8mg and 200mg less morphine, now 400mg and they gave me 1g morphine at the begining.
But even when I was clean I felt so numb and over stressed all the time, with 40 I began to fear for my life and decided to medicat till I found an other way and I found it đ§đđŒđđđŒđ
I feel I come back too life like never befor and that's the most important too me, because without feeling life has no taste or color and nothing realy matters
It's one of the worst symptĂŽmes I know đ„
Too feel that I feel again coulden't be a better signe of healing.
I do the daily practice for around three monthes, regulary but not daily twice a day and since six daiys I do twice a day 20 min meditation and I'm amazed by the differentes after only six days and feeling come back to life, litteraly I was not Here and three monthes, that's very short for a result I didn't get and I tried so many things...
Thank you Anna, without YOU đ§ đ by by me.... đ€Ż
@@DavesFitLifesame here too.
Glad you're here now! -Calista@TeamFairy
I feel mighty foolish. I actually saved this video to my "watch later" and "from surviving thriving" folders! I had to admit this foolish stumble to someone.
But, more importantly. A Very Happy Mother's Day to all you Moms out there.
I love this, channel but it's difficult relating to this topic too completely. But putting off this video on procrastination is actually funny.
I've learned to laugh with myself. (Not at...)
Thanks Doc. You're exactly what I need. Amd I'm grateful.
†A fan from Canada.
Ok well PTSD came around in my late 30s early 40s not as a child, however I have a hard time even bathing. I function just enough to go to work, but everything else is toast. Soul sickness is the perfect terminology. Just to have someone to talk about this gives me more hope.
Hello Celena, that's so hard. I know that too well, don't shower ower monthes, my hair don't look durty and i wash my self, but can't even shower, wouldn't share that else than here.
That sommer i'll have to, because of my nerves that needs cold or i go stick, menaupose and cptsd whire together and fier together. Now i know why i loos my appetite every sommer and feel much better when it's cold, i want to work my self up to eyce bathe, that must feel so good on my nervous systeme . I know what i need but have to work my self up to it.
Do you know the daily practice, did realy help me a lot and you have free accĂšs two zoom meditation and learn the daily practice. Go easy, lissen to you đđ
We are fighting sisters đ
Iâll finish watching this video, I swear I will. Right after Iâm done procrastinating.
This is why itâs best not to tell others when youâre starting something new. There will always be jealous people and saboteurs.
I am working so hard on being victim no more. Iâm taking control. This video was well timed. Many thanks.
Wow, "squandering time", is my inner critic's favourite term for how I've been living my life. Knowingly squandering my life, my time. Definitely want to do better yet...
đ I'm going to go for a walk in the sun. Thanks so much.
We're all rooting for you! -Calista@TeamFairy
Remember to get vitamin D if that sun's not shining and, if you can, a little b vitamins and magnesium. Sometimes the combo of those two lifts my mood. †Wishing you well
Iâve always found that doing things for myself (and the procrastination associated with those things) comes from my lack of self-worth.
Itâs difficult to do things for yourself when you donât feel worthy. Doing things for others: easy. Iâve always been too much of a giver. But doing things for myselfâŠ.
For me, the thing that has really helped has been to imagine âlittle meâ, telling myself that âwe are worthyâ, whenever I need to do anything.
Iâm not just doing it for me. I do it for both of us; and thatâs makes it a little easier.
Iâm doing it for that little girl who had so many hopes and dreams that I was never able to follow though with.
0:36 .....and then I made it stop.
And I started bawling at you saying this. There's an answer!?!?!
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Pushing through for you doing these videos makes you happy....
Could it be there's something IN us that doesn't want ourselves to be happy? Maybe we feel guilty for being happy?
Happy Mother's Day â€ïžđ
Happy Mother's Day! â€ïž
Thank you!!
Here's what I did: I made a poster board of post-it notes, one per task - just getting all the tasks out of ny head made a huge difference.
Next, I chose no more than 3 items per day. Sometimes 1 was enough, sometimes the task was taking an item and breaking it into smaller tasks! (And I counted the tab as done!)
Through this method, I got over 300 must-do items done in 6 months!
Then I "fell off the wagon."
I think an important step in any organizational system is an easy way to get back on the wagon.
I'm trying to start my list again, but it's hard. I think planning a "get back on the wagon" system is an important piece too.
Thank you for sharing! Good job!
Nika@TeamFairy
This is all me. I am a hardcore procrastinator. All of the above
Thanks for watching! The Daily Practice can help with procrastination by giving you clarity about what tasks are most important to do today. You can try it for free here if youâre interested: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice
Nika@TeamFairy
Happy Mothers Day.
Freeze mode⊠yup . Thatâs the name for my days of the week.
Yep. Iâm here to learn how to not be frozen.
I never knew this existed until yesterday. The more I watch my adult children struggle with depression & irritability just like me. This has made me so sad, but this video has enlightened me.
You mentioned something I never really thought about. " What if I succeed, and have to keep doing this forever!"
I always thought I was afraid of failing, now I am thinking about, just maybe, I am afraid of succeeding.
There is always something pulling me back or down when there is something i want to do...just doing dishes or work on the car....etc...
Yep, that can be procrastination. The Daily Practice can help by giving you clarity about what tasks are most important to do today. You can try it for free here if youâre interested: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice
Nika@TeamFairy
For the longest I called it laziness until you saw how badly it was affecting my life but it felt like I couldnât do anything about it. I procrastinate with almost everything and say oh I like doing things last minute because it gives me a rush and then I get it done fast but then I would get upset at myself when things took longer than expected (ie homework, work assignments, etc). I just found out I have CPRSD and paralysis is the worst
You should be proud of yourself, your videos are awesome, and help so many!
Boy oh boy, paralysis is a word I can identify with! Add adhd to it, and I spin as well, fun timesđđđI appreciate what you have to say, I've learned to bite off smaller chunks to avoid the overwhelm, and I'm so proud of myself, I can now accomplish by small actions.
Can't thank you enough, It makes me feel so much better, not staying in frozen mode, by taking baby steps of action really helps!đđ
I also learn alot by reading the comments from the people who comment here, cheers!
Wonderful! We're so glad to hear Anna's channel has helped you. You do have reason to be proud of yourself! Keep up the great work!
Nika@TeamFairy
It really upsets me to know that you gave up so many dreams for the exact reasons that you're helping me through daily - I really want you to know how important your work has been in even getting me out of bed - I'm leaving the house for the second time today and I wouldn't be if i didn't understand my dysregulated emotional patterns just a little better then i did yesterday, and the day before - thank you for being so open and vulnerable with your personal experiences it's so easy to see myself in the letters you read and the experiences you share, and I truly hope you manage to reclaim ALL AND ANY creative power that may have been relinquished on your journey - I want to see your movie! Please make a video directing us to some of your personal endeavours, I'd love to read your book as well!!
And sabotage.... ouch. I truly believe in being there for everyone and supporting the community talent pool so when people sabotage and compete it hurts me to my core... I think it's more of a reliving of trauma then anything elseI've had similar experiences, but I've always been able to create boundaries surrounding that particular subject and I'm sorry you didn't feel you had a voice.
Your voice is globally powerful and you save lives - thank you.
This insightful video sheds light on how childhood trauma can manifest as procrastination, a crucial revelation for personal development. đ Embracing small, consistent actions can effectively break this cycle, enhancing personal productivity.
When the algorithm works, it's a beautiful thing. I needed to hear this right nowđ Keep spreading this message.
Thank you for watching! Glad it was helpful!
Nika@TeamFairy
Listening to this on a cleaning binge. Tysm! â€â€â€
For many of us, we donât strive to do big things, we work to survive. The striving can cause mental problems that complicate CPTSD. Itâs constant hustle and comparing yourself to others thatâs produces more difficulties.
I am suffering tremendously from procrastination. I literally have not been able to make myself move forward with work because I'm suffering again from a physical injury which brings up all the other painful stuff in my life. I joined today with the annual membership. It's a step in the right direction.
It's a great step! We're so glad you're joining the membership community :) -Calista@TeamFairy
I have CCF videos in the "watch later" list. That's how hard I procrastinate. đ
From Madrid ( Spain)
You are a live savior.
Uso mi idioma : entre lĂĄgrimas: Gracias.
Hi. When you began to talk in this video, I felt as if you were describing me to the T. I felt as if I was the only one. I felt as if you have watched me all my life and telling my story. Of course I'm not the only one. There are millions of people just like you and I in this situation. I appreciate you talking about this and helping us find solutions to our problems. Also, as you began to describe the symptom, it was very overwhelming and exhausting. Even though I'm trying to help myself, feels as if whatever little or a lot I do to help myself sometime feels as if I have made no progress because the problem still there. The way I cope is by taking baby steps and not look back. Only look forward. The image came to me of a horse that has those things on the side of their eyes to help it look forward. Lol, funny but true I have to stay focused. Not easy, but doable. Thank you for helping us. One day very soon, I hope I can help others in whichever area they need help. You have no idea how much I appreciate you. Thanks again.
Thank you for sharing. You're not alone and we are here to support you!
Good luck on your healing journey!
Nika@TeamFairy
At 67 I still battle everyday with this problem. Isolating myself since 94
Procrastination has absolutely ruined my life. This is all exactly me! All of it
We understand as few others can! Iâm glad youâre here. -Frida@TeamFairy
Wow. I've loved your content, but this might be the best video you've given us.
I'm so glad the video was helpful! -Calista@TeamFairy
Agreed :)
I'm glad you published your book. :) Be proud of that.
Freeze mode that is it. My son's all have it as do I Recovery came slow and I am sober and benzi free for 710 days
Boys are grown, my oldest died suddenly 6years ago prompting us to heal.
Smart lady I feel blessed to hear you.
This was the 1st time I've ever listened/watched a video from you, Anna.
Thank you for sharing this - I've much to learn about C-PTSD (which helps, since I've friends who struggle with it).
I think one thing that I've found helpful here was the various techniques to get the nervous system back online.
Time to add breathwork and alternate stomping to the mix.
Thank you for what you do. I ordered your new book, RE-REGULATED.
Looking forward to read it and annotate/note-take it!
~ AP McIntosh, 2024/5/31 (Friday) | 7:20 AM EDT.
Thank you for your wonderful insight!
Thanks for watching and taking the time to comment! -Calista@TeamFairy
OMG I really, REALLY love these longer compilation videos. They're awesome because we get to hear related information but presented at different times and in different ways. OMG by the time I reached the 3rd segment, with Anna in a white shirt, I was so clicking with EVERYTHING she was sharing!! My heart relaxed and I was able to find such a gentle, compassionate attitude towards younger me.....the me from 30 years ago.
I remember in my mid 20s getting a job and feeling like it was so wrong for me because I wasn't happy. My brother, also my boss, said "You don't know what you're talking about. This is a great industry, oil and gas, and you don't know enough about it to judge it. So you need to commit for 5 years then make a judgement." SO I did and found ways to force myself to do a job I hated. It was ONLY when I refused to go on without anymore until I HONORED my own deeply held desires that I found a better path for me, computers.
BUT I STILL struggle with this path because it too has some very negative aspects for me. This video helps me feel like I'm not so bad for feeling the way I'm feeling and that I have found ways to take care of my needs while also finding work. I've been crashing for 8 years over and over again and living off of savings. It's unsustainable but I'm now turning 57 and terrified that it'll continue but I keep trying yet again to find work that I can do, sustain and feel energized and passionate about because everywhere I look, it's just more of the same.
Disgruntled people, working in businesses, suppressing others, only in it for the money, stress and more stress and "We're running a business here not a daycare" kind of mentality.....just many bosses upon bosses that are like Anna's old boss that suppressed her writing and I can't help but think "NO!" and then get down because that's the majority of what I see when imagining going back to work because it's such a common issue. And then my brothers voice comes crashing back in saying "You don't have to like work. It's work afterall. Most people hate their jobs. Doesn't matter....get up and do it anyways" and I just think....."No I can't" and that's a crash then I start the cycle all over again. Ugh I want to be free from this but not sure how and where to start....it all seems so damned complex, complicated and confusing.
I decided to cook the yellow broccoli. I consider this progress.
Iâm paralyzed too, this is so real.. itâs horrible canât function.
Stay "proud" "doing your bliss" its beautiful†thank you so much
This is totally me.
Thank you for putting words to it.
Makes sense as to why I could not get myself together to complete my final project.
Thank you for this topic!! Wow!! This is GREAT!!
I'm so glad the video was helpful! -Calista@TeamFairy
I VE BEEN TO 3 THERAPISTS WHO WHEN AFTER ASKING ME WHY I WAS TAKING
MY MEDICAIN VATION I TOLD THEM THAT I WAS DIAGNOSED WITH PTSD 20 YRS AGO. 4THERAPISTS, 2 PSYCHOLGISTS AND A PSYCHIATRIST WALKED ME TO THE DOOR! THIS ALWAYS HAPPENED WHEN I NEDED SOMEONE TO TALK TO -- FOR
INSTANCE I WAS BADLY TRIGGERED WHEN MY BROTHER PASSED SUDDENLY AFTER SPENDING 38 DAYS IN INTENSIVE CARE AT MAYO WHCH IS DOWN TH STREET AND NEITHER HIS WIFE NOR SON TOLD ME UNTIL 2 WKS AFTER HE PASSED - I CANT FORGIVE THEM....WHEN I AKED IF HE EVEN ASKED FOR ME, SHE SAID "NO".....HE WAS MY ONLY HELP AND SUPPOR I HAD,,,,,
Yes! You nailed it!
Thank you!!â€ïž
Thank you for all you so freely give. God bless you truly
Thank you for being a part of our community :) -Calista@TeamFairy
I just came across your channel, you are heaven sent.
Glad you are here!
Nika@TeamFairy
I really enjoy all of your videos! I like your voice and style. You should be proud of yourself. You help me to do just that. Keep up with your passion.
I have CPTSD, PTSD (war), chronic depression, anxiety, TBI or traumatic brain injury and I have made a great recovery so far. I lost my career in film/video because of my procrastination. I have worked with the secret service protecting Bush, Cheney and First Lady, worked with a navy seal team on a short mission, alone my childhood, brother hated me, mom is a narcissist messed up by her parent and my dads death in the line of duty and yet, somehow I believe my story isnât worth telling. 12:22
Anna I rejoice each day because it's thur You that I Am Saved
So basically it's from Fight or Flight to Freeze to partly / complete Shutdown...
Happy Motherâs Day! †Thank you for what you do :) I really needed to hear this!
I'm so glad you're here :) -Calista@TeamFairy
Im the opposite. No one took care of me so im stressed about everything.
I even make sure the birds, squirrels and raccoons that visit my backyard want for not.
I'll have to convince myself to skip a workout if my back hurts.
I think procrastination happens when we have filled our lives with stuff we don't want to do.
There's never an end to the bs, so why bother?
We have to reward ourselves after we work hard. We need something to look forward to.
Exactly! I have a very healthy and strict daily routine that I have been increasingly realizing is causing more stress than relief most days. Trying to find a balance between positive actions and learn the ability to relax, something I have NEVER been able to do as there is always something else on the to do list and I have 'failed' if I don't get it all accomplished.
And yes, the birds, raccoons, possums and whatever other critters want to visit ALWAYS have food and water available...I really get it.
And it is soooooooo difficult to function in a typical 9 to 5 corporate job, can not keep a stable momentum.
Thank you Anna for so much, including saying so many absolutely right on target CPTSD realities that I have never been able to articulate.
@@5KAT I can totally relate. Wishing you calm and relaxing energy.
I think this is it. I think procrastination is the psychological trauma that gets developed in the psyche when our boundaries have been crossed too many times in terms of what to do. It feels like we have no say in what we are being asked off and that creates anxiety.
You reakky have such great incite and are to give examples rhat are so reai. So accurate.
This was awesome. I made changes to stop hard crashing. I can actually see the signs now and do more self care. In my situation I was a workaholic for years but no more!
I'm so glad you talked about crashes. I've become more and more aware of it, but had no idea how to put it into words or how to describe it to someone. I had a very traumatic experience recently with a sibling and it really threw me for a loop for days/weeks. I truly felt traumatized. It was hard to stop thinking about it or know how to process it. It still bothers me, but I'm somewhat better. Your teaching on these things helps me understand why it's so hard for me to not internalize that kind of experience.
You described my life right nowâ€
Thank you for watching. You are in the right place.
Nika@TeamFairy
Thank you for Sharing your personal Testimony ! I Believe it Helps others So Very much !!
You are so welcome
Well, thank you. I really really needed hear this. You just described so much of what Iâve been going through for the last few years now I understand why.
Itâs also very helpful just to listen to other comments. Thank you so much.
-Working very hard on my mindfulness and it's starting to kick in. I'm recognizing when my ego is taking over and I'm thinking irrationally and from all fears I avoided everything that caused me any frustration because I felt like I just couldn't take it. It hit me like a ton of bricks one day that IF something bad is coming down the pike that I cannot handle but it's not here now, why not enjoy this moment? why waste a moment of happiness when eventually sadness is coming. I'm suffering for something twice this way. I understand what suffering means now and I choose not to as much as possible. Thank you so much for helping me find my way. Peace.
Thank you for sharing your insight with us! Peace to you too!
Nika@TeamFairy
Glad to have found this as I've noticed since having Long Covid Vaxx( but not entirely z) increased procrastinating! Helping me figure it out and gently start..blessings
Thank you, thank you, THANK YOU for these videos.
Thank you for being a part of our community :) -Calista@TeamFairy
Parts of your video made me feel so uncomfortable. I think it's a sign that it's an area I need to do some work on. I love your analogy of diabetes. Helps me reframe how I view my issues. Thank you so much.
Yes, focus on strengths! đ„
I have cPTSD and guess wut I'm a chronic procrastinator.I can't escape that or may be rather dont wanna escape that cuz the imaginary world I build in my head is far more better than the real world I live in.I always felt lile Alice in wonderlandđź
Here i am watching this in my pjs
One respectful suggestion: Type I diabetes is an autoimmune disease that attacks the pancreas and prevents the body from making insulin. It is _not_ currently reversible. It is exhausting for people with diabetes to have to deal with it 24/7/365 without ever having any possibility of a vacation from it. Suggesting that people can take care of it and maybe even reverse it just perpetuates misunderstandings and confusion and it is frustrating for people who have no choice but to live with it. I say this with the utmost respect and I hope this suggestion will be received in the helpful spirit in which it is intended. Thank you for what you do CCF. Please keep up the great work!
You are truly so very gifted at what you do. Thank you so much for this video. Your videos are the only things helping me truly understand why I behave as I do. I feel extremely stuck despite heing told how smart I am. I am going to watch this video over and over again let the information solidify in my mind. Could you *please* do a video on how to actually organize yourself with a schedule to create routine? Everything is so messy, cluttered and chaotic, inside and out, without organization. It's overwhelming.
Thank you for watching, we're glad Anna's videos are helpful for you!
I encourage you to try The Daily Practice. It can help with procrastination by giving you clarity about what tasks are most important to do today. You can then create your own list of tasks and start from there. Here's a link to the free course: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice Good luck!
Nika@TeamFairy
Happy Motherâs day đđŒđ§żđ
This is such an important topic. Thank you for delving into crashing and reminding us of the importance of routine!
Thanks for watching and taking the time to comment! -Calista@TeamFairy
Thank you.
You're an inspiration Anna. I have this summer to come up with an at home business and it's hard because of procrastination. I feel like such a lazy bum. This video really explains it. I gotta do the work plain and simple. Thank youâ€
You got this! -Calista@TeamFairy
Wow!!! This is where I live at most of the time.
Thanks for watching! The Daily Practice can help with procrastination by giving you clarity about what tasks are most important to do today. You can try it for free here if youâre interested: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice
Nika@TeamFairy
You are changing lives out here. Truly, you are a godsend. Best of all things that come to you and your team.
Thank you! You too!
Thank you for this. It's all so true.
Thank you for being a part of our community :) -Calista@TeamFairy