why you aren't loving yourself

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  • čas přidán 8. 04. 2023
  • let's continue the discussion in the comments! what do you think self-love means? do you agree? disagree? how can you love yourself?
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Komentáře • 136

  • @Rachel-zb4xe
    @Rachel-zb4xe Před 6 měsíci +14

    "I love me but I don't love me back" that hit

  • @clio5880
    @clio5880 Před 9 měsíci +27

    I finally
    found my rhythm
    when I realized
    That even
    The steps backwards
    Were part
    Of the dance
    love this so much. thanks for sharing the poem nil

  • @foreverPriscilla
    @foreverPriscilla Před rokem +110

    you’re so well-spoken, mature, deep, & just intelligent. keep shining Nil❤

  • @user-ft7gs9xd5e
    @user-ft7gs9xd5e Před rokem +25

    Being a perfectionist I always put pressure on myself to always feel, be and look my best. I recently turned 22 and felt emotionally overwhelmed trying to explain why I feel that way so I can "fix myself". My sister then told me that it is completely normal to feel that way sometimes AND so important: That I don't always need to try coming up with a solution but instead to just "be" without constantly overanalyzing myself and let go of that fixing mindset. Because oftentimes we think that it is not acceptable to have these off days, so we tend to blame ourselves for feeling that way. But in order to grow through things you have to go through things. Some things you just can't control right now but trust me everything is temporary ☀️🌻

    • @NilSani
      @NilSani  Před rokem +6

      THIS!!! it's okay to not have the answers all the time. Not everything needs a solution, like you said we just need to "be"

  • @ay3sha235
    @ay3sha235 Před rokem +25

    Love this new style! You’re so eloquent and it’s always interesting to hear your thoughts on stuff!

  • @apoorvapatwardhan
    @apoorvapatwardhan Před rokem +3

    okay, but Nil we need more of these! I think you are so full of these insights and observations which your audience would love to hear about💗

  • @ayla1849
    @ayla1849 Před rokem +9

    agreeing throughout this entire video... I can tell you've already grown so much since your last few videos and I'm very proud! you nailed it within the first minute, self care has already become commoditised and a trend/aesthetic on social media but those actions are basically useless unless you commit to building that foundation of self esteem and self worth like you mentioned. one thing I wanted to add about validating your emotions and experiences - we definitely need to do this for ourselves, but hearing someone else (my therapist lmao) finally validate what I'd been through was completely lifechanging for my healing as well. also you made me remember that the most deeply content time in my life was when I was writing those I am statements daily. so happy you are on this journey and I'm looking forward to more videos like this!

  • @sandravasquez7199
    @sandravasquez7199 Před rokem +2

    i love the fact that you’re changing up your content, it’s super interesting and helpful, so excited for whats to come

  • @annaymous
    @annaymous Před rokem +2

    Thank you for this Nil! I appreciate your academic interest and your critical thinking to this instead of just your personalized opinions.

  • @mo.yanaaa
    @mo.yanaaa Před 4 měsíci

    im so comforted to know that someone out there has experienced the exact same thing that i have. thank you for sharing your journey and knowledge you’ve gained by managing hardships THE RIGHT WAY! ❤️❤️❤️ really hard to find the right path to dealing with depression as an overthinker but videos like this makes things sm easier ❤

  • @callie3422
    @callie3422 Před 11 měsíci

    Literally saved my whole day. I was feeling so down, but your words really lifted me up. Thank you so much

  • @ron1397
    @ron1397 Před 3 měsíci

    fav video ever

  • @anotherfanatic9000
    @anotherfanatic9000 Před 9 měsíci +2

    You need to accept both your good and bad self to experience true self acceptance

  • @tuana1988
    @tuana1988 Před rokem +6

    thank u nil!! even that short clip on ur story was enough for me to be curious about my self-love!! im willing to change my mindset with you thats why im here to watch the full video and start my loonngg self-love process 🤍🤍

  • @mskennyjune1470
    @mskennyjune1470 Před rokem +26

    This was wonderful, Nil. I was smiling the whole time, thank you for delivering this information 🥹🤍

  • @dorixyz
    @dorixyz Před 5 měsíci

    OMG GIRL- THIS IS LITERALLY THE WHOLE ANSWER TO WHAT I'VE BEEN FEELING LATELY????this is so good and helpfulllll so grateful that i came across this video today and your energy omggg ilyyyyy

  • @fraulienlopez
    @fraulienlopez Před 2 měsíci

    Thank you! I needed this and I love it! I'm gonna go start an affirmation journal now!!!❤❤❤

  • @zehraaa_7489
    @zehraaa_7489 Před rokem +6

    love this new format

  • @cihanmtunc
    @cihanmtunc Před rokem +2

    I love this new podcast format ❤

  • @nicoleabrukwe
    @nicoleabrukwe Před rokem +1

    loved this so much..this is the most raw and authentic video I’ve watched today..please post more content like this

  • @miowytla
    @miowytla Před rokem +2

    I love you Nil I really needed this!

  • @carlavrh8465
    @carlavrh8465 Před rokem +1

    i loved this video so much and related a lot!!! thank you for making this.

  • @VC-or4iv
    @VC-or4iv Před rokem +2

    Very much needed, thanks Nil❤️

  • @abbyklake
    @abbyklake Před rokem +1

    Nil I missed you!! Glad to see you again - loved this video and you are so right💖

  • @outlander1939
    @outlander1939 Před rokem +1

    Glad to have you back, I've missed you. Hope all is well. Enjoy another spring in the city.

  • @gcar25
    @gcar25 Před rokem +2

    this hit really hard today, thank you

  • @AmarieLetrece
    @AmarieLetrece Před 9 měsíci

    thank you sm for this! it's helped me a lot with how i view self love, and i would love to see more self love/care related videos from you!

  • @emiliaespinoza7503
    @emiliaespinoza7503 Před rokem +6

    Thank you SO MUCH for this video Nil ❤ I’ve been struggling with these lately, happened the same thing to me that I thought I was great until I started going to therapy and now I’m opening the bag that kept me numb and allowed me to pretend I was doing great by rationalizing my feelings, this video made me feel less alone in this process so I cried a lot, but this felt like a hug 🫶🏻 thank you infinitely

    • @NilSani
      @NilSani  Před rokem

      Awe I'm so happy you could find comfort in my video! You're never alone ❤️❤️❤️

  • @tyagrd3204
    @tyagrd3204 Před rokem +2

    such a beautiful and interesting video thank you so much Nil!

  • @marinafernandez5312
    @marinafernandez5312 Před rokem +1

    Thank you nil🥺❤️

  • @parkhimahajan935
    @parkhimahajan935 Před rokem +1

    Loved listening to you! Needed this.

  • @morenaailin2470
    @morenaailin2470 Před rokem +1

    Absolutely loved this video, please do more like this one. ily

  • @sansaadams4509
    @sansaadams4509 Před rokem

    yes please make more of these videos!! this is so much different from what other people in social media talk about and i respect you so much for giving us this version that we all need 🫶

  • @SalwasTalks
    @SalwasTalks Před rokem

    Keep going girl with this type of videos! Your advices are really great!

  • @saara1344
    @saara1344 Před rokem +1

    i liked this before even watching omfg i NEEDED THIS

  • @imgekarakus
    @imgekarakus Před rokem +1

    love this new format.I am waiting the other videos for that. love u so much babe💕🥰

  • @suhani2259
    @suhani2259 Před rokem +2

    NIL!!!! thanks a ton girl! i've always known that you've got great insight on things( from your videos where you talk about things other than your daily routine). i REALLY REALLY think that you should do more of these sit down videos, your knowledge is crucial. although i wouldn't mind a few vlogs here and there BUT a 100 % yes to more sit down videos concept you're trying

  • @layan6479
    @layan6479 Před 5 měsíci

    Most realistic vid in the internet , loved and subscribed

  • @jocelynkissezz
    @jocelynkissezz Před rokem +1

    please continue this series!! seni seviyorumm

  • @clio5880
    @clio5880 Před rokem +1

    Absolutely love this!

  • @yuh8717
    @yuh8717 Před rokem

    I loved this so much and a lot of things especially the foreign perception part of self really resonated with me

  • @biplavhelllord
    @biplavhelllord Před 11 měsíci

    This is highly spiritual and the most intelligent state of mind. This is what all great thinkers and philosophers say when they say enlightenment.

  • @rosna2109
    @rosna2109 Před rokem +7

    Damn Nil... this video came in like a sign for me!!! While listening to you, I started to realize, that was what was happening to me these past few months... I'm gonna write the "I am ..." statements. Thank you for this very informative video

  • @charlie-ee7vk
    @charlie-ee7vk Před rokem

    I really enjoyed this content. I agreed throughout the video. Thank you for your sharing thoughts I’m looking forward to more content like this. wish you all the best Nil

  • @shambhaviyadav2905
    @shambhaviyadav2905 Před rokem +1

    This video is powerful. Trust me, Nil.

  • @yasarnilay2596
    @yasarnilay2596 Před rokem +3

    I loved this video! I hope you keep posting videos like this. It was really interesting hearing your thoughts and learning something new.

    • @NilSani
      @NilSani  Před rokem

      Thank you so much!! I'm so glad you enjoyed it

  • @maz_azizi
    @maz_azizi Před rokem +1

    love this video concept!

  • @restuaulia6305
    @restuaulia6305 Před 6 měsíci

    When I want to love myself and know our shortcomings, then we will fix them. For example, inside me, I feel like there are a lot of things that I haven't fixed, but I can still love myself now. Sometimes I'm confused about where to start. I can only look at people. What seems perfect in every way makes me more insecure, and I try to start improving to be better at what I can't do.

  • @rutuluhar4981
    @rutuluhar4981 Před rokem +3

    loveeeed this video Nil. missed you so much. you and Hailey are such genuine and inspiring role models. thank you 💞

  • @souna5468
    @souna5468 Před 7 měsíci

    THIS IS VIDEO IS AN ABSOLUTE GEM!! You're literally speaking everything I have in my mind I LOVE YOU😭❤️

  • @cengizsani2229
    @cengizsani2229 Před rokem

    Probably the greatest pleasure in the world is to be useful to others while doing his job. I'm proud of my daughter too.

  • @nehashahi7634
    @nehashahi7634 Před 7 měsíci

    Helpful thank you for this

  • @bhawnaaa122
    @bhawnaaa122 Před rokem +1

    NIL BABY IS BACKKK

  • @mariamk4849
    @mariamk4849 Před rokem +3

    Listening to this at the gym i love it so much specially the ( loving yourself vs loving being yourself) 🤍🤍🤍ily nil comeback with another videos we missed you 🫶🏻

  • @skloise
    @skloise Před 7 měsíci

    You're very insightful and wise beyond your age 🤍🤍🤍

  • @tuana1988
    @tuana1988 Před rokem +1

    give us more of these IM BEGGIN

  • @noos4425
    @noos4425 Před rokem +2

    i loved this vid ! definitely more enjoyable imo and looking forward to seeing similar posts🩵l

    • @NilSani
      @NilSani  Před rokem

      Yay! Thank you! ❤️❤️

  • @Oldwoman6285
    @Oldwoman6285 Před 6 měsíci

    Wow i loved this video. Gonna watch it again and take notes i found it that helpful man

    • @NilSani
      @NilSani  Před 6 měsíci

      Glad it was helpful!

  • @SabinaVivacheLai
    @SabinaVivacheLai Před rokem +1

    Thank u for making this video. it just came out at the right time for me 😅 the universe power though ❤ Your vlogs always cheer me up in some way and this video really makes me feel so much better. Thanks again ❤ much much 💕 love

    • @NilSani
      @NilSani  Před rokem

      It makes me so happy to hear that!!!!

  • @livelife1012
    @livelife1012 Před rokem +1

    podcast pls 😍 this was amazing

  • @mimiguetta7281
    @mimiguetta7281 Před rokem +1

    So well spoken it’s incredible ❤

  • @annaymous
    @annaymous Před rokem +1

    Love this!❤

  • @anriema_sley7509
    @anriema_sley7509 Před 10 měsíci

    Thank you❤ I love this video

  • @Bukett._
    @Bukett._ Před rokem +12

    Finally girl, missed u, ur content even ur friends 🩵 Im still waiting for the video of u,mandy and sarah playing we are not rlly strangers and it would be nice to watch a book video as well 🌸❤️ (also we need a life update)

  • @DestinieLo
    @DestinieLo Před 8 měsíci

    I almost cried watching this 😭❤

  • @univuniveral9713
    @univuniveral9713 Před rokem +1

    My new guru.

  • @nadachahbouni1811
    @nadachahbouni1811 Před rokem

    MORE . OF . THIS . PLEASE

  • @magdalenaarias3753
    @magdalenaarias3753 Před rokem +1

    nil please start a podcast this is amazing

  • @user-ey8so5ow6c
    @user-ey8so5ow6c Před 9 měsíci

    I need this kind of video 😻🥺❣️

  • @aura.ripoll
    @aura.ripoll Před 9 měsíci

    I wish you could do more videos like this!! 🩷🩷🩷

  • @MariaLaura-tk1ld
    @MariaLaura-tk1ld Před rokem +11

    Please do more videos like this! Also if you could attach your findings just to read and have a better understanding in order to apply it more thoroughly. Thank you Nil

    • @NilSani
      @NilSani  Před rokem +3

      Absolutely thank u for the feedback!

  • @aniconicnadia
    @aniconicnadia Před rokem +1

    I feel good about this video. Hope you do more of these. I’ll think you’ll enjoy Lana blakely

  • @kathlenemontes4019
    @kathlenemontes4019 Před rokem +1

    Your aura is glowing 5:57🖤

  •  Před rokem +2

    What you are doing is great and I think that you should also upload this video to your Turkish channel with subtitle so more people can benefit from your knowledge. Love you and take care

  • @CaptainVideo100
    @CaptainVideo100 Před rokem

    You're really pretty!

  • @sumjkn
    @sumjkn Před rokem

    I looooove itt pls do one about being ok being alone

  • @mohibquadri4053
    @mohibquadri4053 Před 5 měsíci

    Too Good !!
    What's some best books to read for Self belief ?

  • @bellagrandic
    @bellagrandic Před rokem +1

    Brilliant vid nil!

  • @eliikaaa
    @eliikaaa Před rokem +1

    Thats great keep going we want more like this videos

  • @benedetta8001
    @benedetta8001 Před rokem +1

    I need your podcast 🫀🙏🏼🤧🔆🫶

  • @hopeclutch7499
    @hopeclutch7499 Před rokem +9

    Talking about your past emotional experiences and putting your thoughts out to public is not easy.
    I'm so proud that I know you (as a CZcams artist at least.

  • @bubeudeh
    @bubeudeh Před rokem +1

    i love you ...thank you

  • @Onlocationtours
    @Onlocationtours Před 7 měsíci

    Great video!

  • @carolina_mp
    @carolina_mp Před rokem +1

    I wish I had this on a podcast format 🤓

  • @Nisanurrr766
    @Nisanurrr766 Před rokem +1

    Bu video kesinlikle Türkçeye çevrilmeli,bu tarz videolar çok etkili ve bu seriye devam etmelisin✨

  • @azagimaayan1928
    @azagimaayan1928 Před rokem +1

    so amazing and inspiring, I feel seen

  • @nilbalajayeva
    @nilbalajayeva Před rokem +1

    You're amazing

  • @Realityscopee
    @Realityscopee Před rokem

    the title 💯

  • @avinajilse6516
    @avinajilse6516 Před 4 měsíci

    can i ask something about how to go about doing affirmations? does ur subconscious absorbs the things u repeat to urself even if u dont necessarily feel wholly what ur saying about urself?

  • @stellar4304
    @stellar4304 Před rokem +3

    you absolutely slayed this episode, coming from someone who went to school for neuroscience

    • @NilSani
      @NilSani  Před rokem +1

      Thank you!!! I researched a lot before filming so it feels really nice to hear this :)) ❤️

    • @stellar4304
      @stellar4304 Před rokem

      @@NilSani happy to hear!! kinda insane how much of this stuff isn’t broadcasted to the world the way it should be. KEEP THE CONTENT COMING 🫶🏻

  • @sanafarssi7764
    @sanafarssi7764 Před rokem

    U re just amazing ❤

  • @ayla1849
    @ayla1849 Před rokem +1

    and now I can't stop thinking about "I love me but I don't love me back" whoever wrote that really did something there omg

    • @NilSani
      @NilSani  Před rokem

      Fr spent 20 days just thinking ab this

  • @bubeudeh
    @bubeudeh Před rokem +1

    8:53 yes

  • @miowytla
    @miowytla Před rokem +1

    yess yeesss more videos like this please 🥵

  • @sofiademitri3178
    @sofiademitri3178 Před rokem +2

    i need you to make a podcast

  • @carolsomerhalder7
    @carolsomerhalder7 Před rokem +1

    Love it

  • @anneanne5191
    @anneanne5191 Před rokem +1

    Hi nil, any advice on how to deal with atrocious men in public? Men have been draining my energy for as long as i could remember

  • @galacticknight55544
    @galacticknight55544 Před rokem +1

    I'm having a really hard time believing that I'm worth loving. I have weird kinks, I'm extremely socially inept, and I've had people call me whiny, entitled, dishonest, creepy, narcissistic, and a lot of other things. The worst part is that I'm worried they might be right. Sometimes I wonder if it's a good thing I'm perpetually single, because I don't deserve to be loved.

    • @nakalyangomolly7828
      @nakalyangomolly7828 Před 7 měsíci

      We all deserve to be loved , just love yourself with mantra : Love yourself the way you want others to love you 🎉

    • @galacticknight55544
      @galacticknight55544 Před 7 měsíci

      @@nakalyangomolly7828 Are you sure we all deserve to be loved? There's some real scum in the world.

  • @alyssamarie8197
    @alyssamarie8197 Před rokem +1

    drop the podcast

  • @callie3422
    @callie3422 Před 11 měsíci

    Pls make a podcast