I have no family and my few friends deserted me when I went off the deep end after my father died,I felt and quite often still do feel trapped in a never ending blackness,but since I started watching you I have begun to see lots of things in a better and brighter way,being alone has not become so bad,Thank you so very very much,peace be with you,my friend.
When I feel lonely, I hug my dog. He is my dearest, closest friend. He cuddles up to me and I am at peace. One day I will have to face life without him.
I deeply appreciated your sentiments. I have lived inside a relationship with a person who refuses to share intimacy for many years. I spend all of my time alone within this relationship. And I had many times thought to run to other people who offered more. Yet something inside me stopped me every time knowing if I ran I would find myself once again within the situation. The universe repeats the lesson until you have learned it, the catalyst will not cease until you have faced its full fury. I spend every day alone inside a relationship and I have found what you have said to be exactly true and right. If we do not love ourselves we search for someone outside to show it to us. But the universe can only mirror our inside and we will never find the thing we search for outside ourselves. I believe that beneath all the fear inside and all the self deprecation, the unworthy thoughts deep down if we excavate all the layers and face them we will find that our monsters were merely kittens and that great love and peace are what we are and what we can offer to others. I thank you for your kindness and your sharing of your intimate self in this video it was beautiful.
Yes, l have many people say " l want children for someone to take care of me in my old age" l have fallen in love with the reality of my aloneness. It was in solitude that l was finally able to do the shadow work etc. When you face all parts of you the dark aspects of ourselves and down their is also the repressed gold we do not know about ourselves. T.G l never married or had children. Now at 60 l am free to experienceen me and the inner God in me. I am freeing myself from all programming to BE FREE. Wonderful. Thank you for these videos they are great company. Ireland.
that's really nice, that you had the courage to take the less usual way, it's sad how some people let themselves be influenced so hard by their close or not so close ones, that end up making life changing decisions, huge ones, as having childs for example, more because of what the rest told them and not so much cause of what they truly felt. each one has their own feelings and ideas on how to direct it's own life. great that you did that choice for you no matter what the others think or thought about it :)
You will be fine. I am 52 and I know I did not want children and it was just a personal decision. I have been called selfish etc but I have ignored it and focus on me. Having children or a significant other doesn’t guarantee you won’t be lonely. Just plan ahead and make great human friends and the universe will take care of the rest. I see so many people afraid to be alone. I enjoy my alone time and I treasure it. Being alone doesn’t mean that you are lonely. It is a societal issue like many things that have people thinking something is wrong with being alone. When you are at peace with yourself and you live beautifully others can feel the energy and they cannot understand how you are comfortable in your own skin. Love yourself, travel, read and live beautifully.
People often tell me that "I will have no one to take care of me when I grow old", when I explain that I do not want children, nor a traditional family life. Hearing this helped me stick to my core conviction despite others' remarks. Thank you for sharing!
I love your stuff. I'm in my 60's and know for a fact that this sense of loneliness is AN EXISTENTIAL loneliness...that has existed all my life. And I see it all around in others. And the only thing that turns the loneliness into an exquisite aloneness is experiencing stillness/silence within. On one side depression, On the other side pure inner peace and love. The HOW question, however, seems to elude just about everybody.
I definitely needed to hear this. I’m was used to being around a lot of people I had a big family but now I’m alone and it’s hard for me. I miss connecting with people but when I really think about it I never was able to be myself or express my feelings to those I was around. Now I m learning more about myself without the opinions or judgments of others. I also was always trying to please other people and a lot of the time it wasn’t enough for them. Now I’m just focus on pleasing myself.
This is just as OSHO said. One thinks other is emperor but in reality he is just a begger equally. In other to love others without expectations, one must be an emperor within. One must love himself than only he can love others. Greatly spoken by you.
From the time you started talking about this lonely journey, I just closed my eyes as i took it in deeply, I definitely was meant to hear this today. Thank you!
I'm ok with not being in a relationship or doing things by myself (most of the time). The thing i can't seem to get used to is the need for physical connection. I'm not talking about sex but hugs, affection, feeling someone else's warmth beside you. That's what hurts the most about being alone.
I hear you. Same here. I am coming to the conclusion that clearly we humans are also mammals & primates -- and as such we naturally desire & seek physical contact with others. I think tjis is both normal and healthy. What seems to be unhealthy is not being able to also find peace, joy, and other forms of fulfillment in aloneness as beautifuly expressed in this video. It's hard, I know. I am completely alone in this period of my life and also crave community, companionship, and touch. I am trying (often failing) to focus on learning to find satisfaction and peace in solitude. I figure that if i can get better at this it will help me be happier whetherI remain alone, or if and when I find myself in relationship with others (pets, friends, family, a partner, children). For now, I find it helps to go to a park or out into nature, to climb or even just hug a tree, to pet any animals I can get close to, to work with the earth in a garden ...
Just listening to you, Nada, helps lift me out of the mind's projected fears into a clear space of peace & sanity. I may have heard or read everything you said here, but something else is definitely being transmitted here as well. It is the very breath of Freedom. I can't thank you enough, dear friend, 🌈 💙 💐
I find spiritual teachings hard to follow sometimes. It teaches us to isolate ourselves from the crowd but at the same time be loving and compassionate towards them . That’s difficult for me sometimes. But yes , not all the time.
I have a definite and painful resistance to being alone and yet have lived alone for most of my life. My practice is sinking into it more and more deeply without closing myself off. I also think that healthy relationships make it easier to be alone.
That was truly gorgeous. It was so well-written, and as the observer, I could tell that you actually lived it. I knew With every fibre of my being every word was the truth. I think it's especially hard to live what is that Your talking about, to go from loneliness to aloneness, if you are already an "odd duck" or "square peg that doesn't fit in a round hole" or any of the other analogies that people have for people like me.There are some people that are just born different, have different perspectives, and do not fit in. When people like me find other people that actually get us and then lose them, it's especially difficult since no one really gets us to begin with. But I do understand what you are saying, and I continue to strive for it.
Beautiful explanation of our inward journey. Surely it will help many to understand the tricks of the mind, which include Attachments, Jealousy, Anger, Greed, Hatred, and Lust. Thank you dear one 🙏🏽🌹.
I'm wishing favor and healing for my lover of 28 years who worked opposite hours at the Casino and met someone new. I let go of her and now realize She needed what we all want. No more resentment I just ask our Mother Goddess Gaia to keep her safe and I have solitude and knowing she's ok.
A fear of being alone and then there is a fear of being replaced. What a mess. The Holy Bible says a relaxed attitude will lengthen your life. I concur
For me, I’m alone and ready for a change with human connections. Majority of my time has been spent alone but this new me is ready for a new life... Changes baby!!!
I feel weird because I'm not able to be with people, and I ended up not accepting myself for that reason. I keep questioning what's wrong with me. And I often hear that humans are social animals with the result to make me feel even more weird, sad and angry with society in general. I recognize I need some company sometimes, not very often, but an intimate friend or partner whom to share experiences. I miss that but at the same time I am not desperate. Most probably if society says that being alone it's normal I would be fine!
Hm. The kind of loneliness I experience is a bit different than the one you're describing. It feels like a profound, spiritual, existential loneliness. Hard to articulate with language. I spend quite a lot of time alone and I enjoy it, I can bask in it. And I try my best to be mindful not to use others to fill my void. I'm selective about the people I keep in my close circle, even selective about folks who I talk and share with. I'd love for you to talk more about spiritual loneliness - if you've experienced it - for someone who tries to sit with the loneliness with as much care and kindness as possible.
Lovely & true. I've experienced this state, albeit not often. It is a state, perhaps the state, of healthy, genuine fulfillment that so many spiritual guides & traditions speak of.
"Suffer the pain of aloneness" Osho "Watch yourself feeling miserable and do nothing about it." Robert Adams "What you resist persists" Anonymous Etc. 🙂
Men and women are different and have different needs. In the beginning of a relationship, hormones help us to clearly perceive the needs of the other. However, because the human brain cannot function long term with the level of hormones that comes with falling in love, we begin to give the other what we would want. For instance, a man might give support, acceptance, and appreciation to his wife, but fail to understand she needs empathy, time together, affection, and listening. On the flip side, being alone is painful because it does not allow us to produce the natural hormones that comes with human interaction, particularly for women. One way to find fulfillment, in relationships or otherwise, is to do things and think thoughts which naturally release feel good hormones and neurotansmitters. Interact with others, but do not depend on them for more than 10% of your happiness.
Thankfully, nowadays, more and more of our young women are realizing that they do not have to be slaves to their "hormones" or "femaleness"; we can enjoy a full and productive life without a partner, whether a male or another female. We are enlightened by these wonderful choices we have, which are becoming more and more of a common alternative to the old fashioned "marriage only" choice for women. PLease don't let yourself be ruled by outdated ideas on women"s "hormones" and what is or is not "needed" to feel fulfilled, by any means.
@@renysimone3312 your life and behavior is still shaped by your brain and hormones have a large influence on it. If you choose to pursue a career, you are releasing more testosterone, which is why you feel more independent and less dependent on a man. You may also be more open to casual sex. Or, you may choose a life of solitude, but you will feel alone at times. You may believe you are not directed in life by this biology, but you are, because you are human.
Marriage and children...was never your purpose...it is to reconnect with our true self and soul Spirt.. Majority sadly are programmed to produce and lose our selves. Alone is not scary...only our perception and others programme that in is ....false. it's wonderful and full of peace....if your strong enough as a rational logic adult who gets it. Most can't tolerate themselves. Hence one after another one looks for their soul in another and the next...yet never finds it. Wake up. I am and it's not always easy...but heaven is in me.. l am complete.
Yeah I had my own aunt that grabbed my privates then I was sexually assaulted twice as a man this makes me feel full of rage and anger at being betrayed so deeply by my family of origin It felt like I was a child that grew up in a holocaust camp and was some sort of work horse my achievements were always held above my head and used to shame me. My therapist when I was 17 said my parents were insane when I told him a few stories most from a normal house can never understand narcissistic abuse and just how deeply damaging and painful it was
Totally disagree. We are never alone. Human beings are communicative by nature. The time humans come onto being is the time they are never alone, even if they are only talking with themselves. Hermits are never alone, they are at least with their own thoughts. There is no escape.
I have no family and my few friends deserted me when I went off the deep end after my father died,I felt and quite often still do feel trapped in a never ending blackness,but since I started watching you I have begun to see lots of things in a better and brighter way,being alone has not become so bad,Thank you so very very much,peace be with you,my friend.
Sir just curious: how is your life now? Do you cope with being alone better?
Bless you. Sunshine & light from the Andes.
Yes, loneliness is a craving, an emptiness that's never filled. Aloneness is peace, even in the presence of others.
you said it so perfectly damn i wanna cryyy
Thank very, for understanding the difference between aloneness, lonelyness and the no emptiness because the world provides, right!
Solitude is a blessing
When I feel lonely, I hug my dog. He is my dearest, closest friend. He cuddles up to me and I am at peace. One day I will have to face life without him.
Yes, but he'll always be with you, in your heart. And hopefully, at some point, you will then be ready to open your heart to a new 4-legged companion.
You are your dog and your dog is you...Your never separate! Always together as ONE for Infinity ❤. I love you friend 👍
I deeply appreciated your sentiments. I have lived inside a relationship with a person who refuses to share intimacy for many years. I spend all of my time alone within this relationship. And I had many times thought to run to other people who offered more. Yet something inside me stopped me every time knowing if I ran I would find myself once again within the situation. The universe repeats the lesson until you have learned it, the catalyst will not cease until you have faced its full fury. I spend every day alone inside a relationship and I have found what you have said to be exactly true and right. If we do not love ourselves we search for someone outside to show it to us. But the universe can only mirror our inside and we will never find the thing we search for outside ourselves. I believe that beneath all the fear inside and all the self deprecation, the unworthy thoughts deep down if we excavate all the layers and face them we will find that our monsters were merely kittens and that great love and peace are what we are and what we can offer to others. I thank you for your kindness and your sharing of your intimate self in this video it was beautiful.
Beautiful sharing, thank you, bless you.
Yes, l have many people say " l want children for someone to take care of me in my old age" l have fallen in love with the reality of my aloneness. It was in solitude that l was finally able to do the shadow work etc. When you face all parts of you the dark aspects of ourselves and down their is also the repressed gold we do not know about ourselves. T.G l never married or had children. Now at 60 l am free to experienceen me and the inner God in me. I am freeing myself from all programming to BE FREE. Wonderful. Thank you for these videos they are great company. Ireland.
that's really nice, that you had the courage to take the less usual way, it's sad how some people let themselves be influenced so hard by their close or not so close ones, that end up making life changing decisions, huge ones, as having childs for example, more because of what the rest told them and not so much cause of what they truly felt. each one has their own feelings and ideas on how to direct it's own life. great that you did that choice for you no matter what the others think or thought about it :)
How wonderful ! I do wish that someone can take care of you in your old age!
You will be fine. I am 52 and I know I did not want children and it was just a personal decision. I have been called selfish etc but I have ignored it and focus on me. Having children or a significant other doesn’t guarantee you won’t be lonely. Just plan ahead and make great human friends and the universe will take care of the rest. I see so many people afraid to be alone. I enjoy my alone time and I treasure it. Being alone doesn’t mean that you are lonely. It is a societal issue like many things that have people thinking something is wrong with being alone. When you are at peace with yourself and you live beautifully others can feel the energy and they cannot understand how you are comfortable in your own skin. Love yourself, travel, read and live beautifully.
Thank you for the inspiring comment, it is difficult for some people to accept their aloneness. However, those who do, are truly heroes.
People often tell me that "I will have no one to take care of me when I grow old", when I explain that I do not want children, nor a traditional family life. Hearing this helped me stick to my core conviction despite others' remarks. Thank you for sharing!
I love your stuff.
I'm in my 60's and know for a fact that this sense of loneliness is AN EXISTENTIAL loneliness...that has existed all my life. And I see it all around in others.
And the only thing that turns the loneliness into an exquisite aloneness is experiencing stillness/silence within.
On one side depression,
On the other side pure inner peace and love.
The HOW question, however, seems to elude just about everybody.
in sixties too and feel exactly the same (including both sides)! Thank you for letting know and we are not alone
Sir you are named after one of the greatest comedians to have lived. Please could you elaborate on how to achieve that stillness.
I definitely needed to hear this. I’m was used to being around a lot of people I had a big family but now I’m alone and it’s hard for me. I miss connecting with people but when I really think about it I never was able to be myself or express my feelings to those I was around. Now I m learning more about myself without the opinions or judgments of others. I also was always trying to please other people and a lot of the time it wasn’t enough for them. Now I’m just focus on pleasing myself.
This is just as OSHO said. One thinks other is emperor but in reality he is just a begger equally. In other to love others without expectations, one must be an emperor within. One must love himself than only he can love others.
Greatly spoken by you.
To bad OSHO could not live by his words...90 rolls royce, girlfriends, drugs and destruction.
From the time you started talking about this lonely journey, I just closed my eyes as i took it in deeply, I definitely was meant to hear this today. Thank you!
Me, too!
Here too
I'm ok with not being in a relationship or doing things by myself (most of the time). The thing i can't seem to get used to is the need for physical connection. I'm not talking about sex but hugs, affection, feeling someone else's warmth beside you. That's what hurts the most about being alone.
I hear you. Same here.
I am coming to the conclusion that clearly we humans are also mammals & primates -- and as such we naturally desire & seek physical contact with others. I think tjis is both normal and healthy.
What seems to be unhealthy is not being able to also find peace, joy, and other forms of fulfillment in aloneness as beautifuly expressed in this video.
It's hard, I know. I am completely alone in this period of my life and also crave community, companionship, and touch.
I am trying (often failing) to focus on learning to find satisfaction and peace in solitude.
I figure that if i can get better at this it will help me be happier whetherI remain alone, or if and when I find myself in relationship with others (pets, friends, family, a partner, children).
For now, I find it helps to go to a park or out into nature, to climb or even just hug a tree, to pet any animals I can get close to, to work with the earth in a garden ...
Perfect in every way true to the soul and everything you have said really resonated with me I am deeply touched by your words thank you.
Just listening to you, Nada, helps lift me out of the mind's projected fears into a clear space of peace & sanity. I may have heard or read everything you said here, but something else is definitely being transmitted here as well. It is the very breath of Freedom. I can't thank you enough, dear friend, 🌈 💙 💐
I find spiritual teachings hard to follow sometimes. It teaches us to isolate ourselves from the crowd but at the same time be loving and compassionate towards them . That’s difficult for me sometimes. But yes , not all the time.
Been there completely and stil am (!) and the more and more with myself alone the better my soul thrives! Avoiding threatenings was not a wrong thing!
I have a definite and painful resistance to being alone and yet have lived alone for most of my life. My practice is sinking into it more and more deeply without closing myself off. I also think that healthy relationships make it easier to be alone.
That was truly gorgeous. It was so well-written, and as the observer, I could tell that you actually lived it. I knew With every fibre of my being every word was the truth. I think it's especially hard to live what is that Your talking about, to go from loneliness to aloneness, if you are already an "odd duck" or "square peg that doesn't fit in a round hole" or any of the other analogies that people have for people like me.There are some people that are just born different, have different perspectives, and do not fit in. When people like me find other people that actually get us and then lose them, it's especially difficult since no one really gets us to begin with. But I do understand what you are saying, and I continue to strive for it.
Gosh, amen. I sooo hear you!
Beautiful explanation of our inward journey. Surely it will help many to understand the tricks of the mind, which include Attachments, Jealousy, Anger, Greed, Hatred, and Lust. Thank you dear one 🙏🏽🌹.
Thank you for this, Beautiful Soul.
Thank you so much … your way of speaking is soooo comforting … hope you’ll have all the peace you always searched for ❤
I'm wishing favor and healing for my lover of 28 years who worked opposite hours at the Casino and met someone new. I let go of her and now realize She needed what we all want. No more resentment I just ask our Mother Goddess Gaia to keep her safe and I have solitude and knowing she's ok.
Loneliness is also being bored of doing stuff alone...
Calm and fine thoughts...
Beautiful words, pure heart 🥰
Needed this today. Thank you
Love all your videos! They resonate with me completely! Thanks ❤️
A fear of being alone and then there is a fear of being replaced. What a mess. The Holy Bible says a relaxed attitude will lengthen your life. I concur
That was very helpful.
Thank you,
J
For me, I’m alone and ready for a change with human connections. Majority of my time has been spent alone but this new me is ready for a new life... Changes baby!!!
I just fell in love. You have just narrated my journey.
Thank you guru
🌞 A Word
Self-sufficiency can be found in producing a YB channel teaching others selt-sufficiency.
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As if you would talk about my own experience! Thank you🙏
I feel weird because I'm not able to be with people, and I ended up not accepting myself for that reason.
I keep questioning what's wrong with me. And I often hear that humans are social animals with the result to make me feel even more weird, sad and angry with society in general.
I recognize I need some company sometimes, not very often, but an intimate friend or partner whom to share experiences. I miss that but at the same time I am not desperate. Most probably if society says that being alone it's normal I would be fine!
🌻🌻🌻❤️🌻🌻🌻
♥️♥️♥️
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Hm. The kind of loneliness I experience is a bit different than the one you're describing. It feels like a profound, spiritual, existential loneliness. Hard to articulate with language. I spend quite a lot of time alone and I enjoy it, I can bask in it. And I try my best to be mindful not to use others to fill my void. I'm selective about the people I keep in my close circle, even selective about folks who I talk and share with. I'd love for you to talk more about spiritual loneliness - if you've experienced it - for someone who tries to sit with the loneliness with as much care and kindness as possible.
Lovely & true. I've experienced this state, albeit not often. It is a state, perhaps the state, of healthy, genuine fulfillment that so many spiritual guides & traditions speak of.
Fulfillment in the loneliness? Could you please elaborate what you mean. @@leonstenutz6003
U help me thank you
"Suffer the pain of aloneness" Osho
"Watch yourself feeling miserable and do nothing about it."
Robert Adams
"What you resist persists"
Anonymous
Etc. 🙂
I have no one l just want peace and contentment
If we are healed a major extend, How to choose a partner?
Men and women are different and have different needs. In the beginning of a relationship, hormones help us to clearly perceive the needs of the other. However, because the human brain cannot function long term with the level of hormones that comes with falling in love, we begin to give the other what we would want. For instance, a man might give support, acceptance, and appreciation to his wife, but fail to understand she needs empathy, time together, affection, and listening. On the flip side, being alone is painful because it does not allow us to produce the natural hormones that comes with human interaction, particularly for women. One way to find fulfillment, in relationships or otherwise, is to do things and think thoughts which naturally release feel good hormones and neurotansmitters. Interact with others, but do not depend on them for more than 10% of your happiness.
Thankfully, nowadays, more and more of our young women are realizing that they do not have to be slaves to their "hormones" or "femaleness"; we can enjoy a full and productive life without a partner, whether a male or another female. We are enlightened by these wonderful choices we have, which are becoming more and more of a common alternative to the old fashioned "marriage only" choice for women. PLease don't let yourself be ruled by outdated ideas on women"s "hormones" and what is or is not "needed" to feel fulfilled, by any means.
@@renysimone3312 your life and behavior is still shaped by your brain and hormones have a large influence on it. If you choose to pursue a career, you are releasing more testosterone, which is why you feel more independent and less dependent on a man. You may also be more open to casual sex. Or, you may choose a life of solitude, but you will feel alone at times. You may believe you are not directed in life by this biology, but you are, because you are human.
are u reading?
Marriage and children...was never your purpose...it is to reconnect with our true self and soul Spirt.. Majority sadly are programmed to produce and lose our selves. Alone is not scary...only our perception and others programme that in is ....false. it's wonderful and full of peace....if your strong enough as a rational logic adult who gets it. Most can't tolerate themselves. Hence one after another one looks for their soul in another and the next...yet never finds it. Wake up. I am and it's not always easy...but heaven is in me.. l am complete.
Rember you are All going to Die.. Let go.. Dont du enything.. Life is a hox.. A dream.. Just rember you are All..
Yeah I had my own aunt that grabbed my privates then I was sexually assaulted twice as a man this makes me feel full of rage and anger at being betrayed so deeply by my family of origin It felt like I was a child that grew up in a holocaust camp and was some sort of work horse my achievements were always held above my head and used to shame me. My therapist when I was 17 said my parents were insane when I told him a few stories most from a normal house can never understand narcissistic abuse and just how deeply damaging and painful it was
Totally disagree. We are never alone. Human beings are communicative by nature. The time humans come onto being is the time they are never alone, even if they are only talking with themselves. Hermits are never alone, they are at least with their own thoughts. There is no escape.
You missed the point. Being with yourself, alone, is BEING with the most important person to know, and that is oneself.
@@renysimone3312 I'm beyond the solution then as I can't be with anyone else
You shouldn't be here brother, live in your dogma have fun, peace