Does It Feel Impossible For Things To Change? (Watch This)
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- On today’s show, we hear from a man seeking change after admitting to being a terrible husband and father, a woman wondering how to support her best friend who’s dying of cancer, and a woman tired of protecting her mom after she gets burned in abusive relationships. Then, we get a to talk to a former caller’s husband who’s been struggling with suicidal thoughts.
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John's compassion with every one of his callers is astounding. His ability to reach out to every single caller and make them feel like they're the only person that matters is such a blessing. Can't tell you how many times I've sat and listened to him reach out with love to every single person and get choked up. Every time. God bless you John Delony. Don't ever stop what you're doing. This hurting world needs you.
I couldn't agree more!
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I’m a student who just started clinical psychology. My practicum site is at the VA and it’s honestly a nice prison. The way they treat our veterans is horrible. Not to mention… they are having students (me!) who know little to nothing about therapy TREAT veterans who are homeless, have addictions, PTSD, have been incarcerated, and have a whole bunch of other issues. INSANE!
I've been binging this show for a week now as I just found it. It has helped me so much and is a great resource for anyone needing help. This show hit hard today.
Dr John, you truly are a good and beautiful human 🥇
Wow!
So wondering how this first caller is doing with his avoidance, lying and infidelity ~ feel for his wife and kids 😢. Love to hear his wife's side of the story. It's a nightmare living with this.
Glad he wants to live better and do better. But is that a lie too--ugh! ?
First guy loves the sound of his own voice
Right? He is the center of the universe.
Man...teared up at the last call. Your compassion is amazing and he needed to hear someone care that much
Cancer patients are hard for all of us! Just think if it were you! You would need her! Been there! Love and prayers!
Thank you Dr. John
You has a huge heart. I hope more people are like you. You are the hero.
I feel for the friend with cancer. Crying while listening. Make more memories with her while you can. Be there for her children afterwards!!
I can’t always agree with John’s take , but today he certainly was FANTASTIC AND COMPASSIONATE- Also vets should get priority service/ cut the line service for mental help-WELL DONE JOHN- so proud to be a listener of a show cuz today you showed true compassion like no one I’ve ever seen on tv or radio-
What you said to this gentleman was phenomenal. You were direct but healing. Everyone needs to hear this! Thank you for sharing.
Hanging out with this guy is such an awesome thing John D. I am super proud of you extending yourself to help out a fellow military. The VA is severely dropping the ball. They need to do better. Thank you both for your service.
I love manly advice that is deep feeling and life respecting. I so appreciate that. I am female and middle aged and just so happy to hear y’all. Thanks for giving hope and caring out for all to hear and receive.
Caller 1 is a narcissist who is definitely going to play this back to his wife to entrap her further.......nothing genuine about him
Every time Dr John commented on how the V.A. has been failing this guy I almost lost it. I agree, we pay the taxes that fund these programs and people are lost every day because they are not getting the help they need.
It don't seem to help the families a lot of times either........
Dr John you are such an incredible human being. So glad you walk this earth with us. I have learned so much from you. Thank you for giving the world a lesson on loving others and compassion. Saving lives you are. Grateful for you. Inspired too..
The VA will pay for inpatient at some rehab centers for mental health! I work at one! It’s so great that they do at least that for them.
Good luck getting them there.
"Some" is the keyword. I appreciate everything you do and your efforts. But if they were doing their job, your comment wouldn't be necessary. Help would be so easy to access and available, no one would have to wonder.
Throw a like guys! It helps him reach out to more people!
People can change..... like picking your sox up off the family room floor, most times people will faulter and end up repeating ever bad behaviors until you get told you are slacking again. Imagine being with someone that the repeating slacking behavior is lieing and cheating.....🤔 people...... leave the relationship if the bad behaviors are not harmless.
The Vagus Nerve is a major component of the body’s alarm system. Chronic stress can cause deregulation and disrupts the whole system. There are ways to reset the Vagus Nerve.
Good comment. I use frequencies on youtube to help.
Yeah, leave the one who demolished your vagus nerve.
I wonder if men know they don’t actually, have to get married….like just be single and do what you want if that’s what you prefer. But I love Dr. John’s compassion yet straight forward delivery so much ❤
Wow, what an hour. Great work John!
To the guy who has a bad habit of lying to his wife: I have a similar trauma in my past and had developed a habit of...fudging the truth. Not lying but definitely not the full truth. I realized it was happening and I was able to correct it. Some might say I've over corrected though. At this point in my life, I don't really have very much off limits for the public knowledge. I don't talk details of my marriage's sex life, and I'm aware that talking toilet details are obviously unnecessary!
To my husband, I told him my tendencies, though it's not been a big issue. And if I realize I've been been lying, I immediately corrected myself. Which at first frequently happened in disagreements, because I wanted to "win". After learning I could trust him completely through time, I now have no problem saying everything to him! And it's not about winning anymore.
So you can do it, it completely doable, to give up concealing things.
I usually don't comment, but I really hope the last caller reads this. I am a mother with autism, ADHD, and a chronic condition that causes aches and pains. I'm aware that we like everyone are individuals and function differently, and need support in different ways. Some of us don't need support. But as a mother with autism I can tell you: just because we have a diagnosis, it doesn't mean we can't make decisions. It doesn't excuse our actions. We're individuals like everyone else. My heart breaks for you because I have a daughter myself and I pray to God that my daughter never feels the need to do for me what you did for your mother. I may have executive functioning issues, issues with depending on sponteneity to relate to people instead of my brain, or have sensory issues. But I choose to structure my life in such a way that my daughter is not responsible for my wellbeing. Quite the opposite, I am HER mother. She screams loudly? I use ear plugs when I get overwhelmed but hug her anyway. Social anxiety? I make plans to meet up with one friend with a child instead of many people at once. I've also "saved" my sister (who's also autist) from many a bad relationship also to come to the conclusion that she is an adult. She can make decisions on her own. Please don't let people tell you that their diagnosis, whatever it may be, excuses bad behavior. Because frankly: endangering your child and not putting her in first place, and being her mother in your best capacity, is exactly that. Negligent. I send you all the love. P.S. Dr. John you're amazing. Your books ans podcasts have started to turn my life around. Thank you!!! ❤
When I took the intense suicide prevention training, it was based on a curriculum that insisted that you "ask the 'dam' question", and that's precisely what John did in this interaction w/ a veteran. I think we all need to ask the dam question more often!
Dear Jesus, what a show. Just that last call alone.
They need to clip this last call, video by itself!
So many Ex Military fight everyday a Mental Battle!
Great show. Wow
54:15 Excellent explanation! Thank you!
Your addiction is deception. That so explains my last relationship. It was devastating.
I almost died 4 months after my oldest son was born, a year and a half into our marriage, at 21 years old, due to a stroke from an AVM. Thankfully it was then a year of numerous invasive procedures and craniotomy’s followed by a few years of rehab. I will say about the friend with cancer, please ask. I certainly wouldn’t have been able to handle any jokes or goofy comments, especially during the first year of procedures when my future was entirely uncertain. It still bothers me 20 years later. Our mortality is a different experience for us all.
Testosterone replacement therapy has been enormously effective for suicidal veterans that have had traumatic brain injury. That and extremely high doses of Omega 3 right after the TMI.
That’s crazy. I just looked into that and they said 80% of men with TBI & PTSD have low T. Sad thinking that simple hormone regulation could be the difference of life or death for some.
Does anyone know where is the show where the wife called? I'm curious to see what he also said to the wife.
1:00:25 The fear is that you end up suffering forever and you can't sustain it 🥺
Science Fiction. Great album. Great band
“We’re going into mile 28…” 🥺💔
How is the last phone call guy doing?
My ex did this same thing .cheat an then confess an spill his guts , but then does it again .its a cycle .i broke up with because this kind of person doesnt change .the second wife still marries anyways .the big mistake women says ,that they are the ones that will change an they are thr special ones
For Ashley. You can only change yourself, your attitude, your reaction because you cannot control what other people do. You cannot read her mind to know what she is thinking.
Thought you were talking to me but I receive this wisdom thank you.
Somebody needs to start a call with how that makes you feel John that your mum likes better dr Phil's show than yours? 😂😂😂😂
Michael sounds a bit like my ex. In our case, I was putting up with the porn, texting women, Instagram "models"and the multiple female friends that were too familiar with him (even thou he used to say there can't be friendship between opposite sex) I would say how I felt and most of the times he would just say "she's like that, can't help it" or "there's nothing I can do about that" or he would be more careful so that I wouldn't find out (receiving pics from other women). I put up with this because of our 2 boys (one with multiple disabilities), but I keep finding more n more of these activities from his part, and something broke in me. He said he was a good dad n a good husband, but I busted his bubble. Now we r just a broken home. 😢 Hope Michael n his family can pull it off.
I'm so sorry. How are you now?
@blueseptember2174 He's helping with the boys and seems sorry for his behavior, but our relationship is unfixable. I hope any couple that faces any kind of trouble could find good counseling. My resentment also added to our problems. If I had sought a mental health professional or a counselor, we may still be together.
@aries3744 sounds like you are doing the best you can. I'm glad he's being helpful a bit. Please don't think that of you could've got counseling it would have saved it. You did all you could. It was his problem to fix dear. Only he had that ability with his personal lust addiction(hopefully one day he will get help). I'm sending you a big hug.
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I have been listing now for some months. Your recent program on "How to Pick a Therapist" was 100% timely for me. I had been struggling with that myself. You helped me to take the next step. Thank you.