My Photo Was Used to Promote Transphobia
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- čas přidán 16. 07. 2024
- I'm mad that my photo was used in this way, so I wanted to talk about why it's so wrong and how I'm feeling. Please don't give these platforms anymore attention, I really just needed to take back that image for myself because I feel so frustrated it has been used to promote this message.
Ty Turner's video about the book: • Transphobic Book Targe...
Noah's video about Abigail Shrier's interview: • THE WORST TERF INTERVI...
*Please note some words from their posts are blurred for TW and sensitivity reasons
I don't know why anyone would say "transgender agenda" when they could say transgenda
Because it sounds like they're saying transgender anyway lol.
a nigerian saying "transgender"
Ay, Bada bing, bada boom, da transgenda. That’s all i can think about when I see it, and yeah I agree
LMFAO
So you are a, transgenda
Transphobes: iTs BaSiC BiOloGy
Jammi: what about *advanced biology*
You just activated my trap card
[spongebob voice] this isn't your average everyday biology
Because transphobic people friccing can't understand anything more than basics because they have small brains
Wait till they find out a cis man can have XX. And I know it is possible because I have XX and I am cis man. They are such idiots that they cannot even research that chromosomes mean nothing. I mean if you are XY it is most likely you were born with a pen/is.
It isn't about science to them, its about winning an argument.
These ladies: Look at this "woman" she's so unhappy
Jammi: Literally the happiest guy ever
Lel
He looked really unhappy as a "girl" lol
The only thing that makes this man unhappy is assholes being assholes
Radiates optimism and potatoes
how does one radiate potatoes
So, they are using a topless photo made by someone they are claiming as a “woman”
....using his topless photo....
Exactly! He can literally sue for that, it’s called revenge porn, if someone shares your nudes (they wouldn’t be nudes as he is a man but they’re calling him a woman so that means they’re nudes now) without your consent you can sue and I think they can get jail time for it, hes just gotta use their own logic
@@SpairM yeah, it's big brain time
@@qwertyuiop.lkjhgfdsa lol
@@SpairM transphobes just backed themselves into a corner
Being transphobic = possibly getting sued
Not wanting to be sued = has to validate Jammie
@@Ezzy1331_ exactly
“Congratulations, you played yourself”
You know as a feminist, using someone's post-op pic without their consent & refusing to take it down is awfully anti-feminist of them
It's also illegal!
Even more so... Feminism is literally fighting so everyone has rights on their body, the right to choose. And if a woman chose to be a man, that choice should also be respected and supported. As a feminist I fight for all people to have the right to choose, informed choices of course, but choose nonetheless.
Equality*
just for cis, white, and straight people*
@@Edenistics Yep...unfortunately that's how most "feminists" think. But true feminists like myself just want the whole human race to co-exist somewhat peacefully so we can at least go down together when this world goes completely to crap.
is good to see actual feminists speaking the truth
“The transphobe, the book, and the podcast... a horrible version of ‘The Lion, The Witch, and the wardrobe.’”
I laughed for 5 full minutes at this. {hug}
‘The lion, the witch, and the audacity of this bitch’ (not mine, but very fitting)
@@carolinlaube9495 OML I LOVE THAT GUY SOO MUCH lmao
The liar the bysh and the transphobe?
“The transphobe, the book, and the stupidity of this fool.”
@@joshuawilliams4383 Silence, transphobe
"These girls are in distress" but that is only because people like her call them "girls"
“Lol trans folks keep killing themselves” like, gee I fucking wonder why
Almost as if misgendering is a god damn fucking problem, huh
"tHeSe GiRlS aRe In DiStReSs" my butt. The only reason these MEN are in distress is because bigots like the people who say this exist.
They are not men though
The thing that pisses me off when TERFs refer to transmen as "girls" is that they're doing the exact same thing misogynistic men do to women.
Using "girl" in this way is infantilising, suggesting that we're too stupid to make our own decisions and understand what we want.
I have spent years trying to better educate people to stop referring to adult women as "girls" Because it's patronising. And now they're doing it to transmen!!
Which adds the double whammy of not only being degrading, but actively harms their mental health by triggering their dysphoria. It's almost as if bigots don't actually give a shit about the happiness of other people.
"They want to make assigned sex as malleable as assigned names!"
Man I wish that the legal name change process worked the way that cis people think it does. DXD
*Laughs in aliases*
I’d say that species is as real as biological sex, as in it’s not the way it’s taught at an elementary level but actually a complicated concept that constantly is being revised with research.
sorry this is stupid, but what's the not-lesbian flag in ur PFP?
@@goobigi nah, it's cool. The right half of it is the lesbian flag, and the left half is the flag for maverique, which is a nonbinary gender. x3
I wanted to show that I'm both nonbinary and a woman, but lately I've been thinking that it's a little bit busy with the other details (you can't even really see the little genderfluid flag dot over my head), so I might switch it soon. :P
@@exogender7687 Oooooh! Ok ty for telling me
These people thinking their teenagers "suddenly" became trans and not that they were hiding it their whole lives and finally felt comfortable enough to come out..
@Matt Brown Did you watch the video? He said less than half a percent of people who transition regret it. Saying that "so many" come out and say they "deeply" regret transitioning is not accurate.
@Matt Brown Look, I'm not saying there aren't people who regret transitioning, but people put a disproportionate amount of concern on that aspect and use it to hurt actual trans people. Doctors are going to make really extra sure you're sure before doing anything irreversible to you and they're not even going to operate on a teenager. So even if a teenager does mistakenly think they're trans it's not going to hurt them to experiment and then decide it's not for them.
You obviously just clicked on this video to argue though judging by the first line of your comment.
This is what JK Rowling was catching a lot of flak for; her anti-trans commentary on the situation where a group of girl friends all convince themselves their problem is being trans. It sounds preposterous, but if it were true, I'd understand Rowling's concerns.
But according to Jamie, the info came from anti-trans parents of kids who might be trans who were found on anti-trans websites! No trans kids were involved! When a report sounds phony, it's a good idea to check the claimant's sources. I'm glad someone did. Rowling should have known better.
Literally I realised I was nonbinary because I read fanfic with a non binary character and was like "Damn,,,,wish I could be that,,,,free from the prison of gender,,,, too bad this is just what every (insert birth gender here) feels like and that's just what gender is...........wait"
I think this whole "suddenly becoming trans" thing comes from the fact that the shitty parents didn't actually teach their children about being transgender and what that meant etc. This has the effect of when these baby-trans kiddies start watching trans creators on CZcams, they go "oh damn, that's what I am", and they finally have the language to put to how they feel. These anti-trans parents are just so dumb.
Jamie Steals Transphobes Kneecaps, A Saga
I wanna help him do that
I would pay to watch that
2D's Peppermint tea: Roxanna me too
*pulls out intricate slicing machine*
Let’s get these kneecaps
Anarchist Gamer Ocelot YES!!!!!!!!!!!!
Jammie: Here's a pic of me after my harmless surgery that makes me feel so much happier about myself and i've never regretted it a day in my entire life
Transphobes who think trans people regret getting surgery and want to stop them: *Hippty Hoppty this is now my property*
I lost a couple of braincells reading that,,, but yeah 💀 they fr want everything for themselves
I see a lesbian pose in your pfp 👀
@@idiotsandwich1045
and i see your office pfp
@@grayskyee nice
"[uses picture of someone after just transitioning, with no suggestion that they're unhappy, and in fact outside evidence that they're happy as a clam] transitioning doesn't make you happier."
makes perfect sense. it's all a conspiracy to make everyone trans!
DISCLAIMER: this isn't my actual viewpoint; i'm just mocking transphobes.
9:10 a slightly older tran here. transitioned back in 2009-2010. there was literally so little trans rep in the media that i had never even heard the word "transgender" or knew what it meant. i just knew that i was male and i took every opportunity to preface my relationships and friendships with that information, but no one ever took me seriously. they just assumed i meant i was a tomboy asking to be treated like one of the boys. before even seeing a therapist and getting a "diagnosis", i knew who i was and what i'd wanted for myself, i just didn't have the words or know the path. there are so few people out there who would be willing to transition when you can so easily just adjust your gender expression--wear less or more makeup, wear a wig or cut your hair, make changes to your wardrobe--and see how you feel about it. i've only met ONE person who detransitioned, and she insisted to me that she didn't regret transition and didn't want her story to be used in ways like this. She was like "hey, i thought i had it right, but i didn't, and i understood going in that there'd be consequences. i'm an adult and i made an informed decision based on the information provided to me by my therapists and doctors. just because it wasn't for me doesn't mean this isn't a vital process for others."
That quote from the person who detransitioned is so vital to understand.
Your friend is a great person. Your story and hers are important. Yours for obvious reasons, and hers for proving these transphobes wrong.
“Just because it wasn’t for me doesn’t mean this isn’t a vital process for others” I love that so much
Transphobes think it makes perfect sense to claim these 'women' are abused and then steal his basically naked photos without his consent, which is abuse.
edit: coming back to this comment 4 months from now, and man. i completely forgot about this situation. hope you're okay, jamie. also thanks for 6.2k likes? holy shit??
So if they think this guy is a woman... They seem to be saying it's ok to post naked photos of women online without their consent... Interesting...
@@gwendragon6419 I know right? It's almost as if they abuse women who don't fit their political agenda...
AMEN...Their hypocrisy is dizzy-ingly mind blowing!!
Exactly.... this whole thing is really uncomfortable. Jammie doesn’t deserve this
And especially if they're using pictures of minors, it's very illegal. With or without consent.
The reason "the amount of trans people is increasing", is because being trans is more widely talked about and accepted, so more of us are coming out, how do they not know this? It's not because of a trend, it's us feeling more safe. I know it's not really to do with the topic of the video, but it relates to the theme, and the book.
Like yeah, now we fucking know thats an option, instead of drinking ourself to death on the street curb.
So you mean to tell me that a society where transgender people are a thing that is being talked about creates an environment where trans people could look at other trans people and decide "That sounds about right." as well as society moving towards being more acceptable of transgender people making it safer to be openly trans will lead more people to realize they're trans and come out?
Nah no way it's something that complex, it has to be something simple like the chemicals in the water that turned all the frogs gay!
It's the exact same argument ppl tend to use for the increase in ADHD & ASD diagnoses as well so I am not surprised at all that this is the logical fallacy transphobes would trip over with trans people.
@@katiebrice1894 do u are have stupid
Yuppp, the same reason any other gender/sexual orientation has "increased" in the last decades. People Feeling Like They Won't Literally DIE from being honest about themselves. But no, other people would just like to be lied to, so that they don't have to realize the world isn't like they were told in the Middle Ages. This might be my salt coming out about the topic, but oooohhh, it's as if propaganda and just blatantly "telling the version of the truth you're comfortable with" has existed since the dawn of time and wasn't invented during the last century? Sorry, I just get ticked off at people just putting hands to their ears like little children so they don't have to hear stuff that they don't yet know about, instead of trying to learn 😅
Quote on ad: there’s no long term proof that people are actually happy after transitioning
Jammi: is literal proof of a happy trans person
"there's no long term proof that people are happy after transitioning" have they... Tried asking them?
@@Epsicronics them: There's no evidence their happy after surgery... 😔
Trans guy: Well, actually I'm-
them: THERES NO EVIDENCE AT ALL.
Did they see the video of his transitioning journey?
@leet man on average trans people are happy after transitioning,they were saying the very evidence they used wasn't backing up their claim
I'm a cis teen girl in great "psychological distress" as I guess some might word it. And I honestly have a very low self esteem and I hate the way I look. However, I have never, NEVER considered "becoming trans" or transitioning to become a male. Why? Because that's not a thing! Trans people are real. Its not a trend. Its not teen girls being confused and looking for a magical solution. It is simply Trans people existing. And that's all there is to it. I give my love to every single Trans person that may read this. You are valid and so so loved
Thank you, Izzy, for these warm and generous words. You also are valid and valuable, and you are loved. ❤
Thank you for your words, as a non binary person your support means so much to me❤️❤️❤️🙏
Please get emotionally well eventually!
You have much more empathy, maturity, and common sense than a large portion of adult Americans. You're wise beyond your years. We're all luckier for having you. Thanks 🏆
You clearly haven't read the book which shows the statistics and science.
Also they are censoring the medical professionals and encouraging and seducing young girls into it, when it was unheard of for girls in just 2012.
If it's real, why are multiple girls in each grade, in certain schools, in certain states (always in clusters) turning. . .and way later than traditional gender dysphoria historically comes on?!
For feminist they sure do like using and objectifying this guy's body...
or even more ironic by their views, objectifying a woman’s body
They're not real feminist you've probably seen this comment a lot but real feminists care about everyone and don't want to belittle anyone we want equality for all
tisk smh
That's because they're not feminists, they're terfs
@@klitzy nah, theyre TE
I think the proper terminology for those idiots are "Terfs"
the fact she is referring to trans men as “these girls” is genuinely triggering and harmful in itself and that’s the least harmful thing she’s done
Yeah, it's annoying as fuck.
Trans.
Guys/Boys.
Not.
Girls.
Fuck transphobia.
One who requires others to say or do things in order to have surety of self and peace of mind will never have it. Choose who you want to be. Be that identity no matter what others do or say. It's irrelevant to you becoming who you want to be. Your identity is your choice whether people agree with you or not, and no one has the power to change your mind unless you give it to them.
Im going to have to refer to her as "This idiot" lmaoo
but she isn't actually wrong
@@plaguedoctor6008
She is wrong.
(New coming out/news down by edit)
I'm a trans man, and when I did come out to my mum and my sister, my mum kept on crying every night, which made me very upset, also looking at the wrong type of research about transgenders (she was looking at stuff like how transgenders will never be their gender, just stuff mainly focused on how they apparently will never be the gender they are), and my sister just pretends I never came out.
It's been over 6 months from then, I educated my mum a bit more on it of the parts of where she was wrong, she still sometimes dead names me, but tries to use my name, she still doesn't want to call me he/him yet, she said that it will take her a year or a few to get used to the pronouns. My sister on the other hand, completely ignores that I'm trans, she blames me and says that "I just think I'm trans cause of my autism", which didn't help when I first came out, she keeps on talking like how she would talk to her other girl best friends saying stuff like "ooo can I do your makeup?" "lets go shopping for some clothes, dresses, heels" and just about stuff I do not feel comfortable wearing/doing and I highly doubt she will ever really call me by my preferred name and pronouns but I'll have to live with it cause she is my sister after all and that can't be helped.
Edit:
So for the past 4 or so months I've been questioning my gender, and I have (finally cause it ws starting to bug me) come to a realisation that I identify as demiboy.
I've had a lot of thought about it and have spent time focusing on my feelings about it and to try to see if my gender identity is actually demiboy, and I did a lot or research about it cause I wanted to find out what my feelings were, and demiboy fit the puzzle piece perfectly.
And over the past few months 1, my partner broke up with me do to things happening to themself and 2, I've also come to the realisation (with help from my counsellor) that I don't really say what I'm actually feeling just so I can make other people happy and ever since my partner broke up with me its helped me realise my actual feelings as when I'm either close to people or dating someone I hold back my true feelings to make them happy but I'm fed up and just done with not being fully MYSELF and holding my feelings back for others.
So this edit is basically me coming out to you guys and making my feelings known to myself as this is the only way I can actually get my feelings through to my head.
I identify as a male, I love it when people use he/him and masc pronouns on me, it makes me feel happy but I don't want to FULLY be a guy. I just want to identify as one but not fully become one. I've had a major sit down with myself and thought of stuff that I do and don't want. and I realised that I don't know if I actually want to go on T. I might not go on T. My voice has gotten deeper due to me purposely practicing my voice to speak in a bit lower tone and its now become normal and I'm happy with the tone of my voice currently. I still want top surgery and I 100% know that I do NOT identify as female, any female pronouns on me makes me feel weird and uneasy.
Also just to finish this up, me writing this has relieved me and made me feel more at peace with myself. Hopefully in the future I don't change myself just to make others happy.
Hi, I just wanted to say stay strong and be yourself ❤️. I hope everything goes well for you.
In case you weren't aware, you are allowed to cut toxic people out of your life. I asume you live with your sister right now, but that won't be the case forever, and you don't have to interact with her after you move out. I have a brother I haven't seen or talked to in almost 15 years, and I don't regret it one bit.
@@evonnagale3045 I don’t live with my sister, she was saying those things through texts and calls, I don’t really talk that much to her but whenever I do try to cut her out of my life she complains to my mum saying that I blocked her and then (as she’s very sensitive) starts to cry about how I blocked her number and that, then my mum forces me to unblock her. I’ve tried to block her number 3 times but I always get forced to unblock her.
Luckily I try to not communicate with her that much, I only talk to her like once a week and that’s only for 10 minutes at most
That’s the minimal communication I try to have as my mum wants us to talk
@@Aszuyuu There should be services that allow certain calls to be forwarded elsewhere or a ringback service. Soft blocking could work too. Screen calls/text without answering sort of thing. Then again, it looks like you have low contact as it is, but you don’t have to tolerate anyone like her at all. In more extreme cases, a restraining order/harassment charges could shut toxic people up too. Let her cry. She has no problem distressing you and her lack of respect should have consequences.
Heyy another gay trans jammi fan hereee!)
Transphobes seeing a man living their best life: kalm
Transphobes seeing the trans flag on their backpack: PANICK
It really shouldn’t affect you so much, cis-
“These girls are in distress” yeah because they’re guys and you exist
Yeah, that just about sums it up
YUPP
YOOOOOOOOO *air horn x3* haha roaaaaasted mfs but yeah
also like calling these guys girls is just creepy, like they're adults
Lmao
One of the worst parts of this book is how, because of the methodology and lack of reliable sources, it wouldn't even get a passing grade in a high school setting
🙄🙄🙄
Lmao it wouldn’t get a passing grade in Middle School, let alone HS.
Yea🙄🙄🙄
Kaitlyn Kittle It couldn’t get a passing grade in a Nursery, let alone a school
I don't even think teachers would accept it as an actual assignment at all
Deadass
I hate the "one person came out as trans so all their friends did too to be cool"
No dumbass, they were friends because they all related to each other. They felt different from everyone else because they knee they were different. Having friends that felt like that too was a comfort and when one finally found the right word for it, they were educated on why they felt the way they did.
just because you haven't transitioned, don't want hormones, and don't want surgery, doesn't mean you aren't valid! ❤ whether you get the validation or not, you still deserve it.
and to all the cis-people.. please just be good friends and supporters to people like this, and people who do want a full medical transition!❤
Thank you! I've thought about getting hormones and surgery, but honestly, if I could just get a haircut or new clothes and flatten my chest (more a social transition) I honestly don't think I'd need anything more. Doesn't make me less trans because I'm not medically transitioning.
@@adrianbristol1471 that's pretty much the same for me except I just want to look more neutral. I don't want to medically transition just have a hair cut or something
@@taramcgettrick8464 I hope that the both of you can get your haircuts!
@@minawashere8575 thank you
No.
"...trans people are literally the last people who would ever want to force somebody to live as a gender that they are not, because we know how it feels." That made so much sense, like I can't understand how cis people can't figure that out 😑
THIS.
@@amberandrews6692 they aren't saying _all_ cis people... mostly just like transphobes and really ignorant cis people :/
As a Cis person: TRUTH!
@@amberandrews6692 they mean cis people tm
@@amberandrews6692 I could have written 'some', but I figured that much could be inferred. So, to be crystal clear, I meant cis people that have a problem with understanding/accepting gender diverse people. Which sadly, is a lot of cis people.
if they think you’re a woman, they’re showing that posting naked pictures of women without their consent is okay. there’s no way they don’t look bad here
and they call themselves feminists like wtfffff none of this makes any sense
Because they don't see trans men aas women as much as they wanna say they do. They don't see us as people period.
@@cofeejoe2882 They don't see trans people as people because they can still use us as puppets. Which is stupid.
@@cofeejoe2882 they think anyone lgbt+ is a pedo in a dress
Yeah, but posting naked pictures of MEN without their consent is just as bad.
It's so horribly invasive to use a photo of someone's naked body without their knowledge and permission.
If "those girls are in distress," why TF are you knowingly adding to their pain? Just shows how dishonest these people are.
Also; can there be no legal action against that? Especially for those used in the book. I have a feeling Legal Eagle might volunteer to represent you...
States very in how long someone has to sue for stuff (statue of limitations) if OP didn't find out till after that window ranging from months to 2 years then there is nothing OP can do because it is lawsuit worthy.
"jamie we respect you so much we are going to use your image without your consent to deny your existence!"
They respectfully cropped out his head to respectfully dehumanize him further.
The fact that his scars aren't even visible now.....
And he looks fantastic too!
I didnt even know that they fade away! This makes me way more comfortable with the prospect of top surgery
What enrages me even more is that not all of those that go through mastectomy are trans are well. This "irreversible damage" reaction is extremely harmful to breast cancer survivors and, guess what, misogynistic to say that an AFAB's worth is determined by their genitals, so they can be further sexualized and dehumanized.
ANGELVS XIII Hello! What does AFAB mean? I’ve never heard this word before 🤔
@@pompom4458 Assigned Female At Birth
I don’t know why but the way he says transgender agenda is just so satisfying to me😂
Probably cuz they ryme
the transgender agenda is listening to jamie saying “transgender agenda”
its the -transgenda-
TheSuperBlockyGamer THE TRANSAGENDA
"transgenda agenda"
My rule is: if somebody calls themselves a certain gender, and they can drink water, they are valid
oh boy u are not ready to hear about water allergies
@@deflect9085 I mean, their gender would still be valid, but *that* would be a whole other story.
@@boomyanimations4714 d-dead people cant drink water either. they're kind of too not alive for that 🙃
As long as they don't play sonic 4 theirs valid
Oh hylia I meant as long as they don't like sonic 4 their valid
Not play
My mom participated in the ROGD "study", it was really heartbreaking to find out ✌😔 also funny in a sad way is I've been diagnosed with GD multiple times so it was a verry narrow study when my mom didn't mention those things.
For those who also went through this, I want you to know I and my mom have come a long way, and she is the reason I'm getting top surgery in a few months ❤
Sorry if I sound ignorand But What is a ROGD and GD?
@@DayDreamingWriters No worries! ROGD stands for rapid-onset gender dysphoria and GD stands for gender dysphoria.
i hope ur top surgery goes (or went) well :-)
@@INSANEASYLUMPSYCHICS thanks! It went fantastic 😄 currently 2 weeks post op and button up shirts look sO GOOD
@@birdio9831 I’m so happy ur top surgery went well!!
The transagenda is Be Yourself, respect pronouns, and be valid.
Yup, and I see absolutely NOTHING to hate. The transphobes need to chill out because they will never win through hurting other people. Time to accept the trans community bigots.
@@mds67991 Honestly, with all this transphobia and homophobia, and the LGBT people who think that EVERY cis het is a homophobe. Why can't people just get along? Everyone is acting like they're hitler, with their master race/gender/sexuality.
P.S. I'm bi :>
And maybe trans, haven't figured out yet.
You forgot world dominati- i mean buy milkshakes
@@ventusray6892 what does that have to do with anything they said?
@@gliscorpropagandaaccount1764 I was replying to someone else?
I L O V E how they put it in black and white and throttled the contrast to make his scars look as visible as possible, aside from the very recent surgery time in the photo.
RookRegent they probably upped the contrast, black point, clarity and definition as well 🙄
yes it looks exactly like my 2 weeks post surgery pic lmao, in fact i think that is the exact time of the photo in relation to surgery. as with any form of surgery healing time is needed. I had a very easy (toughest part was insurance not covering it, 5,200 dollars from my minimum wage job) top surgery and 2 years later my scars are nonexistent now and I am the happiest person alive.
It's like they don't know what removing a huge chunk of your chest will look like. Or like they don't know how scars heal ??
I literally got her prager u advertisement on one of Jammi’s videos. I was like, google, you are not reading the room
“These girls are in distress”
Why yes I am
Transitioning is hard
these people act like clinics are grooming young children into transitioning, meanwhile last week i got misgendered by my nurse while i was taking my t-shot.
also therapists have done nothing but question why i want to transition, nobody suggested to me that i was trans, i had to prove that to others, i’m still trying to prove it.
t has made me much happier already, it’s the phobic perceptions of others that hurt the most.
edit: didn’t expect any likes, i hope all of you are having a good day though - and if not, remember to take care of yourself, even if you feel alone. you’re gonna need any strength you can muster, even if it’s just feeling a bit better about your appearance after brushing your teeth, taking a shower, styling your hair, etc - someday it’ll all pay off, dear stranger. 💙
and, if anyone is worried, i’m doing well despite it all, and *to spite it all* . :-) everything is shit right now, but i’m keeping my chin up so i’m not completely incapable of seeing the light when we do get to the other side of the tunnel.
Exactly
I'm sorry dude :(
Also you're valid as heck have a nice day
“Everything is sh*t right now", can I quote you on that?
I want T so badly but my mom doesn't want me to get therapy so I don't become male 🤧
By their weird logic Jammi is a woman right? So technically by leaving up his image in their own logic they are literally spreading the half naked picture of a “woman” and going against that “woman’s” wishes to not be exposed and are not taking the “woman“ seriously when it comes to what “she” wants. Not very feminist.
Its ridiculous how they don't see how dumb they are
Yea, not feminist at all lmao
Exactly. Trans rights is a topic which falls under 4th wave feminism. So you cannot be transphobic and feminist at the same time.
More than that, you cannot be transphobic and be a decent fucking person at the same time
@@raerohan4241 T H I S
Extreme quote-un-quote vibes
Coming out as trans improved my life so much! I’ve now become more open about things and a lot more confident in public. I get more sleep and are a lot healthier it just feels like a massive weight has been lifted off me! So much happier now, I’m proud of who I am!
❤❤❤
One time I met a girl who said, "What's the point of gay trans people. They could be normal." It took all of the power within me to not punch her.
@Futuristic Laundress What?
@Futuristic Laundress
we don't want you here either if you're just gonna be hateful and ignorant, bye
My parents used the “you met a nice trans person and they brainwashed you into thinking you’re trans” because I did come out fairly soon after I met a trans person for the first time. Here’s the thing, I knew I wasn’t a girl for a very, very, very long time before this, but I didn’t know that trans people existed. (Stupid overly conservative, religious, bigoted environment I was raised in) So yeah, I met a trans person, she told me what trans was and I went “oh, there’s a term for what I am and I don’t have to stay miserable.”
I had only ever heard of trans women and had never had a reason to know that was an area I should be looking so ofcourse I came out when meeting another transdude. I'm sorry your parents weren't supportive.
for me, they think it was the internet and my sister that brainwashed me :/
Omg I’m so sorry if things have been hard for you! I’m happy for you that you’ve been able to come out and be comfortable about who you are now hopefully :)
@Valentina Yela you seem like the sweetest person ever :)
@Valentina Yela youre doing great :)
In terms of legalities:
1. That is considered NOT fair use
2. It’s slandering ones identity
3. It’s using someone’s image without permission which is totally illegal unless in some states filming in a city owned place like the street or sidewalk of which this is not.
That’s only three counts of illegal use and I’m sure I can find more if I did deeper.
I sincerely hope that Jamie follows up with some legal fighting
@@WalkingDeadProducts agreed
@@Bownimations01 It's a breach of GDPR right?
@@LaurArt_UK not too familiar with British law tbh ^^’
@@LaurArt_UK Probably not directly, but definitely against all EU countries' privacy laws, in general it is illegal to post any photos that are slandering on the internet
My friends friend is a trans man my friend is non binary will i become trans!?
No
Yeah, its not like you choose
Its more of a birth thing, good on you and your friends though on recognizing yourselves!
@@vod7280 (:
Period.
fuck 69 likes i just ruined it i apologize
@@nikittan.4863 no need to apologize lol
She has brought shame upon all Abigails.
Tell me about it. My cousin Abigail is distraught.
ONE SCHOOL DISTRICT in ONE STATE changed TWO WORDS and she’s sitting there whining about transgender people
I am also from fairfax county. I am proud of my county for changing those two words.
I mean, I saw a grown man have an absolute fit when Monopoly changed a couple of its pieces. Some people just can't handle anything that goes against what they're used to, it's... kind of sad.
It's almost as if that school district realized "biological gender" doesn't make sense, since sex is biological and gender is social, and decided to NOT have something so embarassingly inaccurate connected to a learning system!
Yep, they are hopeless snowflakes as their alt right ilk tends to be.
6 year old thought processon their behalf
I bet she'd be pissed if someone posted a picture of her chest to criticize women's rights. She has no empathy.
My entire Friend group after one of us comes out as trans nonbinary: **rapidly develops the big trans**
They seem to think that being trans is like catching Covid
First four minutes
Caption in video: can cause permanent infertility
Me, a closeted ace looking for a socially acceptable excuse:𝘠𝘦𝘴 𝘐 𝘸𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥 𝘭𝘪𝘬𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘱𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘴𝘦
First off, yes, awesome, but second of all, would that really work? I mean, wouldn’t that just get rid of the risk of pregnancy? Then it would actually get rid of a socially acceptable excuse.
Also tho, same 😂
You don’t need a reason. It’s okay to be ace.
the argument I hate the most from transphobes is the whole "you're a woman who hates being a woman because society told you being a woman is wrong" because like. I grew up literally SURROUNDED by ideas like "girl power" and "women are smarter" and "girls rule, boys drool", my parents made it so so so clear constantly that they wanted me to explore what it meant to be female and how masculine I wanted to be and that they wanted to see me grow up a strong and smart and successful woman who was independent and free, my school had girls clubs where we would talk about female empowerment and workplace equality, I literally never ever got bullied for my gender, and I *somehow* still ended up displaying signs of gender dysphoria at as early as 6 years old. I grew up in an extremely female-positive environment that any girl would love, and I still ended up a trans man. as it turns out, nobody is going around tricking children into being transgender!
I had a thematically similar situation growing up. My parents were gender-lax and intentionally gave us access to gender-neutral play and never admonished us for being masculine, and I was clotheslined by girl power in all childhood media. My mom was a bit misandrist too, and my dad was a bit androgynous (turned out he's actually a he/him agender person). At no point did I ever think that men were better. I just thought they were slobs. I actually had a panic attack when I figured out I was trans, because I didn't want to be a man. I honestly could have ended up a terf. But I accepted myself and moved on, and now I'm a happily transitioning nb trans guy. If I can be trans, anyone can be.
@Julia Dudziak thank you!!
Don't worry! You'll definitely find a conservative transphobe who will tell you that this is exactly the environment that results with "confused females". There's no winning with phobia
@@angelikaskoroszyn8495 TRUE hfjfg
Besides, what does ANYONE gain from forcing their kids to be trans?
*Shudder* yeah... stealing photos is so cringy.
Edit: god this was so much cringier than I thought it would be... Its awful how many people steal images/videos and then use them in ads for something that the original person would be 100% against
Also... The whole transphobic aspect too
“rapid onset gender dysphoria” is actually just trans people being able to sense each other. i would know; i manage to find all of the lgbt people and become friends with them very quickly :D
"These girls are in distress."
Yeah because your calling them girls and exisiting.
@@Cha4k no I'm pretty sure the *transphobe* is referring to all trans men when talking about this very small percentage of people as that's what transphobes tend to do
@leet man These women used it to target trans men so no in this situation it was not a joke and the trans struggle and hate is not funny. You need an open mind instead of thick skull
@leet man so your a woman?
@leet man nah I'm pretty sure your a woman. Real short one, probably like 4 foot 11 or something like that. Pretty sure your a woman my gal.
@@Cha4k those basically dont exist
you should totally sue them for using your image. the law is on your side 100%.
in fact, any one whose image was used in the book or in the advertisement for the book, could all sue as a group and that would make an even stronger case also less expensive for each individual
The sad thing is our society is so messed up that it is likely judges would be bigoted against any of them who tried.
Most sites have fine print regarding the images you post; it often becomes the property of the parent company etc.
If it’s in the public domain I don’t think he can I’m not 100% sure
@@shaggyrogers607 Just because a photo is in the public domain does not mean anyone can use it for any (particularly commercial) reason.
People just have too much free time to be hateful, sorry Jamie. I hope you're feeling alright
You as well
5:00 I have been told by so many transphobic people I know to not transition because 90% transitions back and it made me feel like shit because all I want is to be in my own body. Thank you for doing what you do, it really helps. You're amazing
yeah no it's definitely not 90%, in fact i'd bne surprised if it's even 1%
@@ZenganTheFool I think it's between .4 and .5%
Why was my first thought “someone prolly used his photo to say ‘this man thinks he is a woman’”
Because he's clearly a man, that's why.
Same
@@0XBlondie96X0 Yep. And 'cause that kind of thing does happen. I heard about it happening to a trans woman on Reddit. I don't think I'll be able to find it again, but as I remember: she had submitted her picture to an anti trans group, with before and after transition photos (for context, she looked androgynous, younger, and miserable in the first picture, and feminine, older, and happy in the second - and could totally pass). She had labeled them that in the first one that she was pretending to be a boy, and said that she had been miserable and suicidal, and that in the second picture she was embracing her true self as a woman and was very happy now. They shared it thinking she was cis, which she then shared on Reddit thinking it was hilarious. Edit: I just remembered - the group titled it something along the lines of "She's so beautiful in her natural femininity, why would she want to be a guy?". So I think that's what was so funny, as they were actually confirming her gender, but I mean how attractive someone is is so not the point, mind you.
Conlon fucking boss move right there
Conlon I saw the post I think you’re talking about. It is on r/accidentalally
Someone also used one of your selfies in an anti-trans post on tumblr. A "what trans men think v. what they really look like" thing, where you were used against a fat, feminine trans man. The entire trans man/masc community went BALLISTIC bc the OP didn't seem to think you were a trans man.
Instant karma. Also, as a fat feminine trans man, I'm somehow flattered. Maybe people think I have tits, but at least they know they're trans tits.
AYO??????
figures. transphobes arent that smart
That entire post is basically “congratulations you played yourself”
Dear Sir,
I am learning alot about trans from you
but what I dont get is what does it matter
I am gay, and I fought against it most of my
teen age and early 20's. Read affirmation cards
to try to fix myself.I am gay, it is who I am,
since I accepted that I am good. You are a man
if that is what you believe (dont want to get
into the word believe, I just have no better one)
yourself to be.
I also love your calling your follwers Spuds,
you say it with such joy and kindness. Keep
up your good work
Thank you
I went on testosterone at 14 because I was so dysphoric and depressed I was suicidal. I'm 16 now, I've got top surgery a few weeks ago and I am the happiest I have ever been. Transitioning saved my life.
i’m late af, but congrats!!
Me, a cis straight woman: *checks to see if I'm now trans from watching Jamie's videos*
Transphobes: ...well?
Me: Nope! Still know who I am. Maybe, I enjoy watching Jamie's videos because it further educates me as an ally, and I find pride in the wonderful diversity there is in humanity. What a concept, huh?
Edit: and y'know what? I can still be a feminist AND an ally! Why is that so hard for these transphobes to understand that???
I know right? if anything is great for teen girls who have doubts about their identity to come find these channels and get all their questions answered.
Maya Owen AGREED! In my eyes these terfs cannot call themselves feminists, because to be a feminist you support and validate all women, including trans women.
Agree agree agree! I'm a cis woman, and I love watching Jamie's videos and hanging out with my Trans friends. Why should that be bad for me?! Love and respect everyone, life is way too short for all the hate! ❤️🙏🏻
Where can I sign this post? XDD
@@Rachelhappyface hey, please dont use the term terf, cause it gives a bad name to rad feminists, just use transphobes, a real feminist would not use their feminism to say a hateful speech like the one in the video ♡
My kid made a trans friend and now they're trans! More likely is that your kid made a trans friend BECAUSE your kid has always been trans, and this trans friend supported them.
EXACTLY!
bro trans people are like magnets and attract other trans people even if they are closeted and the person they're attracting are also closeted
It's almost like people form bonds with other people that they share interests and life experiences with.
Or, through they’re trans friend they realize they’re trans themself. You’re not just magically turned trans.
@@toastandbutter7367 I'm a trans guy and I made a friend that didn't know they were trans, we became best friends, and I had helped her figure out her identity and her dysphoria, now we are in a straight relationship and still best friends and I love her so much ❤
It's amazing how people like Abigale are painting young trans men or "girls" as they would call them as incredibly stupid and gullible. These teens know how to get help for what they feel and how to explore it.
Just because they're young and AFAB, doesnt mean they're lost about who they are.
It's really sexist.
My BF came out of surgery crying bc he was so happy to be rid of the boobs... his scars looked SO gnarly at first but healed so well, if someone wanted to they could make his results look really scary but in context you can see how happy it’s made him
hi ! i openly identified as a boy between the ages of 12 and 16. in those 4 years, i suffered from severe mental illness. however, this started at age 10, and i’m still in the process of healing. while i now happily identify as female, and am far happier as a person, “being trans” or “thinking i was trans” wasnt the issue. it was how i was treated socially and by medical professionals that made everything worse. i am not trans, and of i had physically transitioned (which im still not legally old enough to do) i dont think it would have effected my identity in any way. i guess in summary, no “ex trans person” or whatever holds any ill will towards the trans community. trans men are men, trans women are women, they/them pronouns are valid, and TERF’s are just sexists who do more to oppress women than they do help them. lookin at you JK R*wling.
(also i’m a huge fan, and i hope you have a nice day )
I'm so glad that you're happier, that's all that matters. Your journey is just as valid♡
It's almost as though our experiences are complicated and nuanced
Amber Richards as if we’re all,,, different,,, and all ,,, human beings with our own thoughts and feelings,,,
Hey, thanks for talking about this and not using your experience to be a dick to trans people lol. I went through something similar, although my questioning and public experimenting was a lot shorter than the four years. I think the heavy questioning and experimenting only lasted around a year or less, but I’ve had little questioning periods around gender before hand and after actually. I feel like I have some sort of undiagnosed mental health problem, or at least had one in the past, but I’ve never been able to visit a doctor.
It’s nice seeing other people question and come out the other side as happily cis, as I didn’t see that much when I was questioning and felt very lonely. I hope that doesn’t sound weird - trans people are valid and I respect them/try to be a good ally, but idk it’s nice seeing someone I can relate to as I imagine a lot of other people would understand.
Lost Otter if anything, my experience has made me a more fierce ally . it’s shown me that people should be allowed to experiment and work out who they are without fear of social stigma. gender is a fluid spectrum that we should be allowed to explore and feel comfortable doing so.
I got here five seconds ago, looked at this title, and said "Yikes, what?" out loud
Jamie you are literally the sweetest kindhearted guy ever and your videos make me feel safer and seen❤️ thank you for what you do and stay amazing✨
what always makes me laugh is when they suggest that we transitioned to get away from sexism or because we were gay and wanted to get away from homophobia. it's like... sorry to break it to you but that makes no fucking sense, being trans has gotten me bullied and harassed more than being a girl or just gay would have
The fact that there are even transphobic ads, podcasts, books or anything is INSANE to me. People going out of their way, and spending a whole lot of money- just to spread hate on a community of people that they know nothing about...it’s so stupid.
I know right. And the fact that there are books published about it, which I have no idea how it was allowed by the publishing house or the laws because there are laws against discrimination based on gender, and defamation too.
If anything you should be used to inspire everyone to accept trans and help baby trans :)
Helped me. Seeing a trans person in a beautiful loving relationship gave me the hope and courage to go forward.
Y e s
@@GrimMortbane thats nice to hear :) it does with me also, im closeted enby and watching james makes me so happy :)
Though, I’m not trans this still gave me hope for being in a great loving relationship one day
@@dannsdead same im closeted too and jamie helps me feel happy :D
Jamie, I am so sorry they are doing this. You have taught me so much. I am a 65 year old cis woman who wants to know how to successfully be inclusive and you are an excellent teacher. There is only a tiny thing I can do to help you educate people and that is to subscribe and comment so you can continue to reach out and educate us.
Me, showing up late to the trans meeting: Hey guys! What's the agenda again?
On the board: Who’s going to bring the snacks for the pride parade?
More on the board: what’s the best way to take over the world?
Ur a legend Jamie and I used ur photo for a hero project in school because as a 13 year old trans guy u r my hero
Aww that's realy nice
That’s sweet
That's literally the sweetest ever
I'm in high school and we don't do stuff like that cuz "YoU'Re NoT FiVe AnYmOrE"
I'm sure knowing this will make jamie feel very proud. I hope all is going well 4 u. ❤❤
@@vani7579 i felt that lmao
In my high school say the same lol
isn't it illegal to use someone's image without their consent and to defame their image?
Yes
Yes it is
Yep
Yep
Very illegal
Using a photo that was basically a symbol of progress as a way to put fear in others eyes to support your hateful ideas just makes me sick. I’m so tired of transphobes and anytime I interact with one I just sigh in my head because it’s gonna be the same shit.
I’m talking about the people that used Jamie’s photo of that wasent clear
It’s cool to see all the pictures of your chest all healed-up! I’m looking to get top surgery, and I’ll admit that seeing mostly unhealed chests in pictures has made me nervous. It was never enough to make me feel I shouldn’t get the surgery, but seeing those pictures and assuming the scars would always be prominent did worry me. So this is really reassuring.
Great video! So sorry that transphobes are disrespecting you like this.
4:40 wait, a surgery leaves scars that don't fade instantly? O U T R A G E /s
Johanna Weichsel woooOOOW
these transphobes are gonna be showing pictures of people who got their appendix removed advocating against surgery next 😭😭
Send them a cease and desist and demand an apology. You are an online influencer, taking and using your image without your consent could arguably impact your reputation and income. Honestly, I think you could easily find a solicitor who would send the letter on your behalf very cheaply or if it has to go further, they would probably do it on a no-win, no-fee basis because of the clear cut nature of the image, it has your face, they have altered the image without your permission. It would come under IP laws. EDIT - Found it on Instagram and reported it for you.
So basically they had such a hard time finding a picture of a regretted surgery that they used a picture of your successful surgery that literally made your life way better (that's the OPPOSITE of regret!) and made up an entirely untrue backstory and then claimed this was fair use? Talk about evil idiots! That must be so awful to deal with them doing that 😔
A couple of weeks ago I came out to my grandmother. She seemed really supporting and i was happy to finally have an accepting and supporting family member, as the rest of them (besides one of my cousins) hate me for it. Hate is a strong word, but i don't know what else to use to describe slapping me hard enough to cause me to bite my cheek and bleed, to yell at me constantly until I'm gagging blood and crying, and continuously saying that I'm doing everything wrong with my life.
Earlier today, i wanted to make an orange smoothie and i had a saved recipe on my mom's phone so I asked if I could use it. She let me. And i took advantage of it since I already had suspicions.
I snooped through her texts (i know that's bad).
It turns out my grandmother doesn't support me and she only wanted to make a good impression.
Now i feel sad, empty. And it also turns out my counselor doesn't support me either.
I'm sorry for ranting, but you are one of my idols. I only found you about half a week ago, but you've really made me feel better.
Wow
That’s just awful-hope you’re doing better now!
Ah yes, the transgender agenda of "become my true self and change nobody else's life while massively improving my own" is very scary and threatening!
@@Cha4k I seem to find you everywhere trying to defend that transphobe so uuh, that's not cool
How is it threatening??! What are trans people doing to you?
@@axanthiccrestie2460 it's sarcasm
WHAT?! self love? Feeling comfortable in your own skin? Heresy! *Offended bigot noises*
Given that transphobes are almost always locked into rigid gender binaries and proscribed gender roles, often based in deeply misogynistic views justified by patriarchal religious beliefs, yeah, it would be scary and threatening to their entire worldview to find people who have the strength to be true to themselves.
I JUST CAME OUT AS TRANS TO MY FAMILY TODAY yeah sorry i just needed to tell someone have a good day
I hope it went well for you! You are valid!💕
That's amazing. I hope it went well. I bow to you
Congratulations. I hope it well
Ooo howd it go
Hope it went well
One of my best friends is MtF and is receiving hormone blockers currently until she can receive female hormones. Most people were very supportive of her when she was coming out but her brother often mocks her for being trans and even sometimes deadnames her. It is very harmful for her and we are all hoping that she will be able to move on and be accepted.
Jamie can grow a better beard than them, they just jealous.
Honey, it's YOUR picture. So in no way are strangers allowed to use it without your consent.
Free use applies. I'm not sure if its valid in this specific circumstance, but there are definitely times when other people can use photos you posted on the internet without your permission. Also, presumably someone else took the photo, so they would actually be the one to own it, not Jamie
You could definitely sue them for this, non consensual use of your image, potentially slander, copyright, medical misinformation, that kind of thing
That's not how it works. Once you put your pictures on social media, you have granted a license to the site to use them and that means anyone can do so.
@@champigranja1179 that's not what google says. Can you provide a source for where you got your information?
Mine is from an article by PressGazette called "Taking photos from social media: what publishers need to know" and legal choices website (can't link because of youtube)
@@champigranja1179 Eeh, not exactly. Using just any photo or other media on the internet in anything else besides personal use (a personal moodboard or something, for example) is illegal and a copyright violation. In my country you can get both kicked out and sued for using copyrighted material (material, that isn't marked as free for use) and not giving your source.
Since it’s seen as a woman’s body and bare chest, it could potentially be viewed as non consensual pornography. It would either be seen that way in court or would blow up in the transphobes’ faces
All these people: oh look at this “Woman” she’s so unhappy because she regrets changing to the opposite sex.
Jammi: the happy guy I have ever seen and is clearly very happy with his life now
Like bro people need to stop with all this transphobia like what does it affect you if someone’s trans, guess what IT DOESNT.
To anyone who is trans or not completely sure about there gender like me, you have my FULL SUPPORT I LOVE ALL OF YOU 🥰
Oh, my dear, I'm so sorry that this happened to you. My wonderful daughter did some photos--which I have never seen--for friends who needed that kind of information. (I researched photos of what post breast cancer looked like and am eternally grateful to the women who brave enough to show that.) If her photos got snatched by transphobes, I would be incandescently angry.
That's illegal right? Stealing photos?
Yes
If they're not already publicly available, yes. If it's available and you don't get consent, yes. Otherwise, no. You're allowed to share photos.
I don't get why no one is talking about getting the justice involved
I mean... SUE HER cmon
He has the copyright to that image by default. Getting it taken off instagram should be as easy as reporting it as his image. He'd need to take actual legal action about the book. I think he should.
@anyone whos is binding, remember to bind safely! dont wear your binder for more than 8 hours, and make sure it isnt too long! and remember to use proper ways ways so bind- dont use duct tape or plastic wrap! stay safe
thanks!!!❤️❤️❤️
Well thx but I don't even have a binder..😔
I would love to bind, but I don't own a binder. Can I just use two sport bras instead?
I can't get one at the moment, but where could I get one?
@@frainium8644 gc2b is a great website to get safe binders from! however they are quite expensive.
I need to convince my parents for a binder and then figure out how to bind
OMG, this literally happened:
Jammi: "So Abigail Shrier said some lovely things such as" -
*advert interruption*: I see a world where there's no pollution😂
And "Keep the vibe going with CZcams Premium" - twice in a row lol x)
Lol, I got "inspired by 70 years of breast milk research..."
me, a cisgender girl, watching because I'm a super ally and seeing repressed people be happy makes me happy but trans"phobes" make me boil: *angry grizzly noises*
same!
*slams Hands on table* LAW SUIT
Katja Macabre ELECTRIC CHAIR
Katja Macabre BLEACH
Katja Macabre TRANS RIGHTS
Nath AMEN
*slapping them with* LEGAL
Can’t you sue them or something? Maybe slander? (Idk I know nothing about legal crap)
I'm pretty sure he can since it's his photo and he owns the rights, so they technically broke copyright laws by using it.
@@fluffymonster396 they did change it a bit though so it may be covered under free use.
Timetravelinfool that’s still breaking copyright law.
Just because you edit some else’s picture doesn’t make it yours.
So Jamie can sue them for theft and illegal use and edit of his photo if he wanted.
Demon Ascended thx, you guys are way better at this then I am, hope Jamie finds a way to stop them
I really hope he can get them into legal trouble
1. I didnt know u had surgery and im sorry and glad ur living ur best life!
2. They had no right to use ur photo.
You're fantastic. Thank you for bringing reason and sense to the senseless hysteria over transgender issues.
Side note: I'm a product of Fairfax County Public Schools and I'm queer and pro-trans rights. Please keep doing what you're doing. It's important and valuable.
Best to you and Shaaba! ❤️
Eugh- everytime the transphobic woman said "teenage girls" or anything like that I cringed so hard-
Miles Aguayo S A M E
Ughhh same
I almost shat myself when she started speaking it was so bad
So what about the fully grown adults that come out? Are they also just following a trend?
The logic failure here is at critical levels.
@@OriginalCreatorSama No they just couldnt come out till then
even as a scare tactic/"eww gross" fallacy, the picture doesn't work. i wish my body looked like that.
(and also, you can use pictures like that to try to discourage people from any surgery at all)
yeah, even if it did look that way forever, scars just make people look cool. like battle scars.
It encourages me. I want surgery more after seeing the changes it makes
Imagine using a post knee surgery image and claiming that people should just be imobile because the scars looked ugly. Doesn't make sense now, huh?
@@queer-ios3155 EXACTLY
Jamie sitting here like "I amm the hapiest of boy,"
Hearts 💕
Headspace ads are now my favorite thing to have interrupt a Jamie video...
Transphobe: says something really triggering
Me: starting to get upset
Headspace: breathe in, hold....
"When one kid in a friend group comes out as trans, suddenly they're all trans"
This actually kinda happened in my friend group? For some reason closeted trans/enby people seem to attract each other then one by one discover they're trans/enby until there's like 2 cis people left.
I think it may have something to do with people who feel like they don't belong in society or that they need to repress parts of themselves, are often attracted to eachother. Also, when you form a tight knit group of accepting people, you're more likely to feel comfortable enough to accept and look into certain parts of yourself and come out.
That's what happened to me. My best friend and I are both trans
they are cis (for now) :P
One of my friends came out as trans (female to male), then I came out as enby/genderfluid (still confused), and my other came out as a demi-girl
Yelp
The only friends I've ever made were LGBT, before any of us could know and they are not related to each other. I'm the gay magnect on the group (I'm nb pan)