I think "the list" is a defense mechanism because she's not ready yet. When the right man comes along she will know, and none of those requirements will matter. Best of luck to you Chilli...I hope you find your true love :)
Hearing her story here as well as watching the TLC story movie made me understand more about Chilli's decision and why she regrets it to this day. Although she can't change the past, she did what was best for her. I praise her for being more mature after her decision and she is still a good person and has her own kid who is raised well. I just hope she finds the right guy someday.
absolutely..what the therapist said was on point. The list is definitely to safeguard the heart from being hurt again. I agree in due time the right man will come and she will just know :)
What I got from this episode is that she was in love, young, and scared when she was pregnant the first time. We know that Dallas did not want the child but made it her decision. It seems she made a decision that she thought he wanted, knowing that she wanted the baby because she loved him and did not have someone to tell her it was okay to keep the child. Her mom should have been someone that supported her decision to keep the baby but I have no idea if she hid it from her mother. I know Pebbles would not have wanted her to keep the child and stay in the group. I believe that her decision is haunting her still to this day and now she refuses to allow her heart to open up in fear that she will lose herself and make bad decisions again. I understand the fear that she feels and unless you have totally lost yourself with someone and made poor decisions then you cannot truly understand where she is. Counseling and self help books truly helps if you are open to it. However, I know how it feels to not trust your heart.
Phoenix, I'm pretty sure her Mum would have helped her raise the baby the same way she helped her raise Tron. She sacrificed that baby for fame and now feels guilty
I know chili n tbozz had a hard life n all n I can relate in so many ways too .they both are beautiful n smart women ..n I admire their charisma n their strength ..n I thank God for TLC..REST IN PEACE LEFT EYE...MISS YA CRAZY GURL..
See it through her eyes before you start judging. Im a christian and of course im against abortions but that dont give me any rights to judge her or make a nasty comment. Shes still on the road to forgive herself and let it go.
Love Chilli she so open about herself even as a superstar she is human. No one is perfect. She definitely had some issue internally she had to deal with before she loosing up. I pray one day she will find true love. In her heart she loves Usher but other wise Usher not made for her. Usher and Chilli might have a great friendship but may not be able to be husband and wife. SAD
Instead of having this list, Chili needed to continue being in therapy and working on herself. She has issues that no man can fix. She's the only one who can fix them and she needs to be further along in her recovery process before she pursues a romantic relationship.
Sorry, I don't like Tiana. She makes things into a competition-I'm right and you're wrong. When people do that, they're not helping anyone out. They just want that thrill of winning. If I were Chilli, I would get rid of that girl.
Tiana is correct in much of what she says but you are right, she is also determined to be right and won't give in when she is wrong. She is only 25...which is pretty young (to some of us).
I also thought her standards were too high and that she was too picky and honestly a bit annoying but after hearing her story ,I now understand why it's so important to her.
Her coach is extremely ignorant. She could have gotten someone more professional and experienced herself. She doesn't look like she can get a decent man herself!
Watching this part of her show after seeing CrazySexyCool hurts me a little bit.. when it comes to the abortion part and the way she felt, dealt with it! It's tough..
Wait a minute pause. How did she cry for 9 years when she was in 20 in 1992, but had tron in 1997 , thts less than 9 years... She cried after tron?. So lost
I can't believe this abortion episode of her life had place exactly at the time TLC was coming out with Oooooohhh... In the TLC Tip - which main theme was safe sex. I totally understand her decision, I wouldn't act different, I'm also 20 years old.
She sacrificed that baby for fame and now it haunts her. Later on she sacrificed Lisa Lopes for the fame to continue and for her to have more of an upfront role since Lisa overshadowed her. She thinks too much of herself and has a huge ego....that's why she can't find a man to stay with her
With abortions i'm always judgmental about that because to not give a kid a life is a big deal. It's not a religion thing i'ts called being a human being. I bend when it comes to rape because that is hard thing to go through and health reason if having the baby is dangerous to you or if the baby isn't healthy and it's life will be extremely difficult. I don't do the i can't afford to keep it or i'm not ready to be a mom, or i have to put my career first, that is what adaption is for. But have to say that I am more understanding about it when people don't take it lightly. Like i'm not happy to know that Chilli felt guilty for years and stayed in a relationship that she should have because of the guilt. But i'm happy that she didn't get the abortion and just go on with her life like nothing happened, not thinking about it and just sleep around and end up getting pregnant again. Cause that is what pisses me off is when girls don't take it serious and don't learn from their mistakes.
I think "the list" is a defense mechanism because she's not ready yet. When the right man comes along she will know, and none of those requirements will matter. Best of luck to you Chilli...I hope you find your true love :)
Hearing her story here as well as watching the TLC story movie made me understand more about Chilli's decision and why she regrets it to this day. Although she can't change the past, she did what was best for her. I praise her for being more mature after her decision and she is still a good person and has her own kid who is raised well. I just hope she finds the right guy someday.
absolutely..what the therapist said was on point. The list is definitely to safeguard the heart from being hurt again. I agree in due time the right man will come and she will just know :)
What I got from this episode is that she was in love, young, and scared when she was pregnant the first time. We know that Dallas did not want the child but made it her decision. It seems she made a decision that she thought he wanted, knowing that she wanted the baby because she loved him and did not have someone to tell her it was okay to keep the child. Her mom should have been someone that supported her decision to keep the baby but I have no idea if she hid it from her mother. I know Pebbles would not have wanted her to keep the child and stay in the group. I believe that her decision is haunting her still to this day and now she refuses to allow her heart to open up in fear that she will lose herself and make bad decisions again. I understand the fear that she feels and unless you have totally lost yourself with someone and made poor decisions then you cannot truly understand where she is. Counseling and self help books truly helps if you are open to it. However, I know how it feels to not trust your heart.
Phoenix, I'm pretty sure her Mum would have helped her raise the baby the same way she helped her raise Tron. She sacrificed that baby for fame and now feels guilty
Wait, Tianna sent chilli to therapy but proclaims she herself has never been because black people don't go to therapy. wow
I know chili n tbozz had a hard life n all n I can relate in so many ways too
.they both are beautiful n smart women ..n I admire their charisma n their strength ..n I thank God for TLC..REST IN PEACE LEFT EYE...MISS YA CRAZY GURL..
her show was good.. I feel so bad for Chilli she is so beautiful !
Chilli has Matthew Lawrence now. I just hope he does right by her.
I agree
The big girl whose helping chili out looks and acts just like a New Yorker
Lol she is a New Yorker. She’s from Brooklyn
See it through her eyes before you start judging. Im a christian and of course im against abortions but that dont give me any rights to judge her or make a nasty comment. Shes still on the road to forgive herself and let it go.
I feel you CHilli I felt the same way and was drawn away from everything in my life. I stop watching TV just went to work and Church.
Dont Cry momma! We Love you.
Love Chilli she so open about herself even as a superstar she is human. No one is perfect. She definitely had some issue internally she had to deal with before she loosing up. I pray one day she will find true love. In her heart she loves Usher but other wise Usher not made for her. Usher and Chilli might have a great friendship but may not be able to be husband and wife. SAD
Instead of having this list, Chili needed to continue being in therapy and working on herself. She has issues that no man can fix. She's the only one who can fix them and she needs to be further along in her recovery process before she pursues a romantic relationship.
Nigga
She still in therapy....🤔 but I wonder did she cry when she put her and usher daughter up for adoption
Someone pointed out that there were no tears-dont forget that this isn't live tv. From experience, the editing process can do a lot!!
Sorry, I don't like Tiana. She makes things into a competition-I'm right and you're wrong. When people do that, they're not helping anyone out. They just want that thrill of winning. If I were Chilli, I would get rid of that girl.
Tiana is correct in much of what she says but you are right, she is also determined to be right and won't give in when she is wrong. She is only 25...which is pretty young (to some of us).
I also thought her standards were too high and that she was too picky and honestly a bit annoying but after hearing her story ,I now understand why it's so important to her.
It's hard for a woman who had an abortion especially if ur young especially with no support
Black poeple dont do councling they go 2 church (Living Single moment)
Tionna was a liability to this entire process.
Her coach is extremely ignorant. She could have gotten someone more professional and experienced herself. She doesn't look like she can get a decent man herself!
i hearing from Singapore
i chill for you , ChiLLie
i can feeL yo deepest inside
my sister friend girl was like you too
now understands
If Usher had not been a womanizer he would have been a good fit for Chilli.
Well at least she left after she had her rainbow
Watching this part of her show after seeing CrazySexyCool hurts me a little bit.. when it comes to the abortion part and the way she felt, dealt with it! It's tough..
The episode is listed wrong
Wait a minute pause. How did she cry for 9 years when she was in 20 in 1992, but had tron in 1997 , thts less than 9 years... She cried after tron?. So lost
Dont judge her of what she did years and years a go. See it through her eyes before you say something fucked up like that. That fucking cruel.
Usher cheated.
😭😭
Ok is chilli listened to her heart her and usher would still be together today
They would not. He would have cheated on her many times, just as he has with EVERY woman he has been with since her.
@@believensee8621 sad but true 😿
When she says first time... Does she mean she was a virgin until she got with dallas?.. Or the first time she slept with dallas she got pregnant?
I thought she meant her first pregnancy.
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She has her mind confuused with her heart....if she would. Have listened to her mind she would still be with Usher
She did listen to her mind… that’s why she not with him lol.
She literally said that
Who say's Chilli was a Christian then? :/ If she was a Christian, she might not have been a practicing Christian.
Chilli got pregnant before TLC came out. She also was young. She chose her career over the life of her unborn child.
I can't believe this abortion episode of her life had place exactly at the time TLC was coming out with Oooooohhh... In the TLC Tip - which main theme was safe sex. I totally understand her decision, I wouldn't act different, I'm also 20 years old.
She sacrificed that baby for fame and now it haunts her. Later on she sacrificed Lisa Lopes for the fame to continue and for her to have more of an upfront role since Lisa overshadowed her. She thinks too much of herself and has a huge ego....that's why she can't find a man to stay with her
With abortions i'm always judgmental about that because to not give a kid a life is a big deal. It's not a religion thing i'ts called being a human being. I bend when it comes to rape because that is hard thing to go through and health reason if having the baby is dangerous to you or if the baby isn't healthy and it's life will be extremely difficult. I don't do the i can't afford to keep it or i'm not ready to be a mom, or i have to put my career first, that is what adaption is for. But have to say that I am more understanding about it when people don't take it lightly. Like i'm not happy to know that Chilli felt guilty for years and stayed in a relationship that she should have because of the guilt. But i'm happy that she didn't get the abortion and just go on with her life like nothing happened, not thinking about it and just sleep around and end up getting pregnant again. Cause that is what pisses me off is when girls don't take it serious and don't learn from their mistakes.
I guess TLC didnt want teenagers to have kids
Whats she says at 0:15 its true. Black people dont do counseling hahaha..
lucecita19 As a Black woman who is a therapist, I love that this is changing.
Lol
look suck i gotta say something lol did anybody else notice their was no tears .