Losing My Unborn Child To Domestic Abuse | Minutes With
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- čas přidán 23. 09. 2023
- In this episode of Minutes With, we continue the journey of the incredible Nina Aouilk. Nina recounts her life following a narrow escape from an 'honour killing' attempt by her own family, a journey that led her into a domestic abusive relationship. She bravely opens up about her experiences, from becoming a mother and breaking the cycle of abuse, to her inspiring transformation into an activist.
Watch Part 1 here - • Why My Parents Tried T... .
You can find out about the work Nina does at www.ninaaouilk.com / www.endhonourkillings.org
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Thank you to Nina for sharing her story. You can find out about the work Nina does at www.ninaaouilk.com and endhonourkillings.org/
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It is cool to see that she is living a normal life on her instagram. I am so glad she is safe
Thank you for sharing Nina
What's the point of blurring the parents' faces?! EXPOSE THOSE MONSTERS
She wasnt raped by her father ??! Why did you write that?
Why would you divide her message into 2 parts? The first part completely skips the purpose of her sharing her story. It feels disrespectful to Nina.
That being said, thank you for giving her a voice so many people refused to.
If Nina isn’t worthy of a Nobel Peace Prize, I don’t know who is. What an incredible human being.
Agreed!!
Hear, hear!
I only hope every government body/police force/agency she speaks to truly listens to her words and commits to actually putting measures in place and finally stopping these horrific crimes!
No more tiptoeing around these issues.
Women and girls are worth so much more than this level of dehumanising abuse!
The more she speaks, the more amazed I am at what she survived. It makes me so angry that those horrible people did those atrocious things to her. She is a beautifully eloquent speaker; she deserves all the good this life has to offer.
Exactly she’s suffered more than Malala
Agreed 2!!
She has a part two? How much horror can one person go through? I hope the rest of her life is beyond joyful.
If you didn’t see part one I really recommend watching. It really tells her whole story.
@@BerryGood4U I saw it. It was crazy. I just didn't think there was going to be a part two.
This is the part 2@@GhastlyCretin85
I know! It took me a while to watch the second video, I just couldn't hear any more horrors in her life. I wish her all the happiness in the world, she deserves the world, it most be so hard to speak about what she went through time after time and she does it so she can help others, what a brave woman.
Part One was absolutely horrific. This woman deserves nothing but peace, love and serenity.
Her tip about putting metal on your body if you are being trafficked at the airport so you can get help is genius.
I hope you can pass it on as you never know whose life could be saved should they do that ❤
I agree. I said Oh wow! When she said that.
I thought so too......just her saying that one sentence well save lives....such a simple but clever idea....
YES!! This needs to be shouted everywhere!
Right!?
SHE HAS WON WOMAN OF THE YEAR with this interview. Let's make it happen. Share and spread it people!!!! 😊
I won woman of the year before this interview for my work with my non profit and as an activist.
I appreciate your support but for you to give that support to a stranger when you come across them would truly be a gift that I would relish in.
Can we replace the distance between people with love and compassion?
@@londonslifecoach Your an amazing women! Its people such as yourself that give others strength.
It makes me think about some of the communities in my own country who tend to keep to themselves and you see some of these control aspects in public at times but its rare. I could see these sort of crimes being hidden especially as they have gained wealth and influence but you hope they came here for better lives, Not to bring awful "traditions" with them. (We have had an increase in these sorts of crimes sadly, NZ)
Take care and Keep going! People like you helped my family when we needed it. Thank you.
@@londonslifecoach I have truly compassion for you, I genuinely sympathise. Myself, the girl I wanna marry a British Indian and she faces a lot through her life, not as bad as your story, but she feels a lot of pressure. Your story helped me to understand better now one of the things she is the most afraid of.
P.S.: In Africa, we don't do honour killing, I guess that it still exists, but it's a very, very small percentage compared to most of our cultures. Especially in my country and the countries around, we don't do that. I would love tho to meet you one day if I can, I truly admire your resilience. May you spend happy times with your kids. They're the most precious present you could ever get.
🙄 it really concerns me how people can watch a woman talking about a hugely traumatic life that highlights the biggest cultural problems in society and they instantly start thinking about some stupid, vapid, meaningless award. Like you think fame is a reward for a tough life. She's talking about the real meaningful human experience of losing her beautiful child at birth and you think she wants a dumb award, given by a bunch of nobodies.
@@harrydavey9884I don’t think they genuinely mean an award. Like saying „Wow this mother deserved mother of the year award“ cus there isn’t an award for mothers. It’s just something you say. It was a compliment I believe.
How can a woman experience so much pain in her life and stay this gentle. Nina is an extraordinary human being.
She has an extreme amount of empathy and compassion for people because of the things she has gone through, she understands what it's like to be at the bottom of the barrel and she doesn't want anyone else to feel like that.
@thezoldics7648 No. Patriarchy is definitely not worse in the west than in india. And it has everything to do with culture!!! Honor killings, acid attacks etc. are so common in india, why do you think that is? CULTURE
@thezoldics7648 This is at least the second time you have posted this message and I am going to call you out on this horse-dung . There has been misogyny and we all fight the Patriarchy but we do not tolerate anywhere close to this kind of abuse. Please stop with the false equivalency. Just because she is trying to bring light to this dark subject does not mean you have to take it personally. Support her.. You are undermining her plight here. Please stop.
@thezoldics7648In the last century, the west has overcome a lot of societal norms regarding the patriarchy. Whereas places such as Asia, definitely have progressed much slower.
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As a punjabi woman i am ashamed this happens in our community but it reminds me how fortunate i am to have a family like mine. My maternal grandfather would go around his village celebrating whenever he was gifted with a baby girl and anyone who disrespected his daughters would never be allowed to step foot in their home. He moved to Canada in the 1970s to make sure his daughters would have a good life and for that i am forever grateful.
@Ramneekfj 👍🏾💜
You are very fortunate with such family .
We knew a family from the Punjab in Germany, they had one boy and two girls. It was a loving, warm family, where all children were treasured. They told us they were wealthy in India, so we did not understand why they had come Germany. My husband once asked them, and the father answered, as he had two girls, he preferred to live elsewhere, and not in India. This was ten years ago and NOW I understand why.
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
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Why are you laughing? How can you have this reaction?
So utterly disrespectful!! Do you think this is not real?
Or do you think these are crying emojis? In that case you better change them for more appropriate ones. But unfortunately I think you placed this on purpose.
It struck me when she referred to her family dog as a person when she herself was treated like a dog her whole upbringing. That dog was kind in that moment and became more than just a dog. Kindness is our greatest trait.
Animals are never 'just animals'.
I was struck also how her dog gave her love and kindness!!! Its one of the beautiful stories about a pet!!!
I was struck in part 2, when she kept talking about how in the eyes of her family & culture that she brought shame on?!?! Just HOW UTTERLY sick & DISGUSTING that they viewed that she brought shame onto them, when they were the ones who should be SO ASHAMED of themselves!!! SHAME ON THEM!!!
People can be less then " dogs " it's the soul and how beautiful it is
Most people will never reach the level of strength and dignity this woman has. I can only hope the future holds joy and peace for her.
😊❤❤❤❤❤love u Nina
She was born a warrior.
Her father brought shame upon his family NOT Nina. A man who would do that to his own daughter is a pervert!
Yes, that man is a disgrace.
Pervert is a very mild way of putting it and giving that man far too much grace
A pervert sounds too decent .. he is a sick psychopath criminal who should be lost behind bars .. him and his sons and her waste of space partener for the violations commited against her .. I wish only peace and a joyful rest of her life
Pervert is a massive understatement!
@shireenedoo1978 You're right about 'pervert' in use here. However, wishing her well seems more like wishful thinking, really. You see, until a certain age, others are to be blamed for the suffering they inflict upon you. However, after a certain age, when you are responsible for the choices you make, there is really no point in blaming perpetrators to whom you have wilfully offered yourself. Imagine, she had allowed herself two opportunities to escape, but ruined both these opportunities totally by fleeing straight into the arms of one perp after the other.
How on earth is an honor killing ever considered anything BUT murder in the modern world? That’s horrifying!
The story is just beyond insane. Compounded by the fact that she lives in England, and nothing is being done. Simply beyond comprehension
Lots of people don't live in the modern world. Many people still have the same beliefs as their ancestors 1,000 years ago.
Recent story of honour killing in from her ethnic background Punjab,India. A father killed his daughter with sword, stabbed her many times and tied her to back of motorcycle and dragged her dead body to show his pride and ego that he had done a honour killing because daughter has romantic relation with a man.
Parents literally controls everything of a child here so it’s a blessing to be born in a place of freedom and with supportive parents.
You can thank religious dogma.
I am very admired you Nina, you are amazing.
It is ok NOT to have family like your parents, brothers, sister.
You must protect yourself when it comes to deal sick people like your parents. Please run away from them as far as you can.❤❤❤
How exactly she grew up this caring, intelligent and motivated is absolutely beyond me, what an incredible person
same, i cannot believe it. i am moved to tears and in utter awe
Yes that in its self is an absolute miracle.
As a serving British soldier, I shed a tear for this poor lady. It made me think of my own mum. What were the police and the hospitals doing?
Jesus, this woman has BEEN THROUGH HELL. She really is a strong woman. God bless her. 6k-8k A MONTH to a lazy man that doesn't want to work? Lord, please make the rest of her life the most beautiful life one could have. ❤
On her Instagram, it looks like she is. I am so glad she has escaped her horrible past and I wish her all the best in life
BRAVEISBEAUTI,
Yes, that worthless POS, was a complete parasite, he drugged and raped her, then lied to her about it, beat her regularly I mean wtf! I pray she will
Never put herself in a position to be harmed again, that she alone is whole and beautiful. Nothing worse than being alone in a relationship, so much better to be on your own where you can learn to nurture and celebrate what is the wonderfulness of you!
Amen.
It’s so sooo so sad! This is what is reality for so many women under sharia law
she speaks English and lives in England and blames for Asia, or Africa is stupid ..
I am originally from India. When my sister was born, my father celebrated by handing out sweets and inviting people for drinks. Everyone in the village called him an idiot for celebrating the birth of a girl. My father raised us right by making sure that we did not follow the idiotic ideas of passing on condolences on the birth of a girl. I have one son and one daughter. My brother has one daughter. My sister has two daughters and a son!!!! So yeah, we broke the idiotic thinking from back home!!!
What I don't understand is where do these female-hating people think children come from? If everyone has boys, they will literally die out.
It takes just one person to create a new pattern.
Bless your Father!
My grandfather told me that upon the birth of my mother, his second child and second daughter, his co-workers gave him condolences and told him that „maybe he‘d get lucky next time“. He very happily told them he was only planning on having two kids. And this was in the sixties, white community in the middle of western Europe.
Apparently your brother in law hasn’t broken out of that cycle, if I have to guess I’d say they had 2 daughters therefore had to have that son so waited tor the third one as is the case across north India. Me myself being from Kashmir after I had my two daughters many people outside of my family tried to tell me I should wait for son before throwing in the towel.
I find it utterly ridiculous that some of us are still stuck with old mentality which made sense back in the day because sons supported parents in their old age while the daughters were married off but for me I am man enough to make sure I build myself beyond the point where I am financially stable to retire and not receive handouts from my kids, if anything I’ll make sure I leave enough for my daughters retirement as well.
Guurrlll, you were a business owner and a millionare. Stayed going thru all of that with a dude that was broke and she was financially supporting 😱. Bless her heart!!
I don't understand why people think a material thing like money can fix some internal or spiritual like a broken spirit.
@@nunyabusiness3516I think it's more admiration for her success despite having probably the worst circumstances possible.
@@fruitloopbabe91EXACTLY that's what I couldn't believe!!!
Her mother probably doesn't sleep at night at all. That dog was something truly amazing. He demonstrated more compassion than any human in that household.
"She was a girl, which meant I could break that generational curse of not celebrating a girl"..."My mom had taught me what I should not be as a mom" ...Right there, that hit hard. This woman is the true definition of STRENGHT and RESILIENCE and the fact that in part 1 she said she forgave her abusers (people who literally tried to kill her) is just further proof of that.
Edit : Thank you All for the likes 😊👍
Honestly shout out to anyone breaking generational curses and generational sins. You guys are amazing!
Honour Killings are protected as a “cultural crime”? That is INSANE and completely unjust! The law around this needs to be looked at, addressed and changed as soon as possible. Murder is Murder. Women of different cultures shouldn’t fear being killed at the hands of their parents or partner. This is the UK and everyone should be protected and feel safe. I’m with you Nina and I’ll be doing research to help support your non-profit.
What else would you expect when countries like India boasts about its 'cultural' superiority and the modern-day western governments are all about placating them and pandering to their rather 'delicate' sensibilities? Gone are the days when the West called a spade a spade.
Protected as a crime against women. If this happened to boys, forget it. It would NEVER be tolerated.
Brothers, uncles, grandfathers and sons also. I've watched videos, documentaries and shows with all of these criminals. Often it's all the men in the family working together. There are a number of these cases in the U.S. where the men have been given the death penalty or sentenced to life in prison.
One is the case of teen sisters Amina and Sara Said, born in the U.S. to an Egyptian (immigrant) father and his American wife. The escape attempt failed. The father, Yaser Abdel Said, went on the run and avoided the police for about 12 years but he remained on the FBI Top Ten Fugitive list until his capture in 2020, the FBI was offering a $100,000 reward for information leading to his arrest. He is currently in prison serving a life sentence. I have watched all the parts in a series on CZcams and a number of documentaries also, It breaks my heart each time. As they all do. It's a travesty, a stain on humanity to allow this in any country or culture, Just evil.
@@emmef7970 I remember this case. Again, let's not forget, it is all thanks to the 'American wife' - the likes of whom, unlike their eastern counterparts, are ingrained with a better sense of justice and know better than to sweep things under the carpet - the case got the attention it deserved. Criminals from the Middle-east are infamous for doing a runner and escaping to their own countries where they know they'll be well protected, especially in cases of such nature.
I know in the US men have been prosecuted for honor killings.
Dear Nina, you may never see this, but please know that you are a beautiful person. I wish I could give you a hug and tell you in person that I love you. Thank you for sharing your story with the world. Your bravery, kindness, wisdom, and strength will shine through the ages, and has touched my heart though we have never met and are thousands of miles apart.
Shows me the kind of person she is because she cried the most so far for her child, not herself.
My goodness!!! Her father is a piece of work!!!! What a disgusting vile human being. Nina, you're an inspiration to us all. Thank you for sharing your story.
Nasty and vile. How he's not in prison rotting only God knows
@@snsn7251 right! I don't understand it.
Right. I found it weird how not only was her entire family not being arrested but especially the father being on the loose? Like how is the police okay with this again? Theres not even 1 info out and neither are their pictures.
I hope she sees this. She replied to a few of my comments so hopefully she sees this support
@@sakasusukThe reason is … drumroll please … MONEY. A lot of money, at the highest levels. The ‘UK’ never got out of the colonialism game, it’s just that now there are massive numbers of ‘collaborators’ who sell out their own people for wealth, status, and power. Same as it ever was; same as it ever was. World without end, indeed.
Nina is a really strong woman. She went through all of that as a teenager and then almost murdered in her 20s to then being abused ONCE AGAIN and raped by her unemployed partner who was living off of her money and suffering a miscarriage due to that partner's abuse. And then when she was in her darkest moment, she still strived to live and then learnt her unknown sister was sold as human trafficking at such a young age?? The fact that Nina still forgave her family members for what they did to her and that she is helping people get out of abusive situations, tells me all I need to know about her. Nina is an incredible human being and she survived the worst and she deserves so much more recognition
The rape & her partner are 2 different men.. she had 1 baby by the rapist and the other children from her good for nothing partner 😔
@@mtnewt1she got pregnant during the time she was being raped by her father and his friends but her parents took her to get an abortion. She had 4 children from her abusive partner and 1 died after he pushed her down the stairs.
@@mtnewt1 Thank you for clarifying. Wow that is even worse
@@Zhana808 from what i understand, she had an abortion from the child rape, then a child from rape , and 3 more kids from her abusive partner of which the second one was stillborn.
I appreciate your kind words 🙏🏼
I'm shocked this is happening in the UK. Nina, no one is you and that is your superpower. Bless you.
My colleague told me how she and her husband rejoiced for a healthy baby daughter and how she witnessed another young Pakistani woman's heart break over having a girl. Her husband and family despised her because of not giving them a boy. It was in London. A very sad situation.
This has to be one of the most gut-wrenching stories I've ever heard. I deeply felt every single word she said. May God protect and bless you 🙏🏾
I feel the same 😢
"God" was never there for her. But Dog was. (Part 1)
GOD IS ALWAYS THERE for us.
Sin is what makes the world the way it is.
@@anildakeliana8269there doing what? Where is the child’s rights, feelings or FREE WILL during all this torture… that your god sits back and lets sinners get on with?
@@debrahayes7631that’s because dogs know god is billshit and someone needs to intervene
Even after she escaped the brutal abuse of her parents and family, she still ended up suffering domestic abuse. This woman's life story is just so heartbreaking.
It is because most abused people don't know how a healthy relationship looks like or feel like. That's why they usually get caught with different people but the same cycle. I hope everyone who is in an abusive relationship can break free.
@@inspirowave101 true ,they simply don't know ,same thing with certain slaves ,they don't know they are slaves it's 😢
Unfortunately, this happens a lot with people who were victims of domestic abuse by their families. They never learned what a healthy relationship looks like. I hope she is (she probably is) getting therapy and learning what a healthy partner and relationship looks like. I just want her to have an amazing life now. No more sadness and pain. Her story broke my heart and there were some points where I had to pause and walk away because it was too much for me to handle.
Life long abuse.. barely escaping an honor killing attempt, getting abused and assaulted again.. and she still worked so hard, started multiple businesses and became a millionaire??? Wow. My jaw dropped when i heard this. You are truly incredible, Nina. You are the strongest woman i have ever heard of, and you have all my respect. I wish you and your children all the best!
What do you think? Is it her million bucks or her sufferings that has given her a voice?
@ninaballerina2807 - Does it really matter where she got her voice from...?
I think it really only matters to those who have no self-worth.
@jadapalmer4356 It does matter. But of course you wouldn't know it seeing that you are so full of yourself, or ,'your self-worth', as you put it. To those it matters, Money has never known to speak The Truth, it has always only served its own interest at the cost of compromising The Absolute, Infallible & Irrefutable Truth - who is also not without reasons symbolically known as 'The Man of Sorrows'.
@@ninaballerina2807 damn wtf is your problem
her father isn't a human, is the excrement of the devil.
It goes to show if you are abused as a child you go on to be in abusive relationships. This is my life but finally, in my 60s I am free!
I’m so happy to read you found your freedom ❤
SO HAPPY FOR YOU NOW - AND SO SORRY FOR WHAT YOU WENT THROUGH ....
This woman is too good for our world. I sincerely hope she comes to realize that the world is hers, not just for other people, but also hers. She deserves to be happy and to dance as much as she wants, she didnt deserve anything those disgusting people did to her. I wish I was her age and would've known her when she was younger... this tugs at my heart.
How on EARTH is it taboo to have a child out of wedlock when raping someone, let alone your own daughter, isn't taboo???! I truly don't understand this mentality! I'm so angry for her and every woman who has had to live through the same thing in their own family.
You must understand that anything a woman does in such culture is perceived as taboo, doesn’t matter what it is, because in their eyes she shouldn’t even exist
Because the female is always in the wrong in some cultures... they even get put into jail if they are raped.
Yes, I know. I'll just never understand why this is their mindset.@@SoleilMagica
@@SoleilMagica honestly, I wish these cultures would get their wish and only had boys. They would die out in a generation.
Although having a child out of wedlock is considered taboo in many cultures, what Nina's father did to her is not some negative aspect of the culture. It's his own depravity that would be considered depraved even in India.
It’s so remarkable that Nina can be so respectful when referring to her ‘partner’ and ‘parents’. She possesses such dignity and strength. A true hero.
Yes instead of calling them what they are, her abusers
Totally sick that people can do this to any one . Supported abuse . State, countrywide disrespect for girls. Woman. In 2024 people still practice this sort off lawlessness.
So sorry Nina.
She is an Angel among us.
I'm in the U.S.A., and I'm astonished that this is allowed to go on in the U.K.. I was in an abusive home as a youngster until I was sent to my grandparents in another state, and Grandma treated me like gold.
I'm so sorry you suffered to such a degree. Thank you for your hard work on behalf of other sufferers, and for the work you do to change the dynamic of abuse.
Abusers must be held accountable - commensurate with their crimes.
I lived in BOTH...USA is way worse then the UK
Poor people in Jail for profit
Children taken away for profit
Mass carceration of all US people
I wish I could just give this lady a hug and hold her tight. Such a strong woman
It’s Nina, thank you for extending love ❤
@@londonslifecoachnina i love you so much even if i've never met you. i hope you found peace and love
Failed unempathetic healthcare system, failed police authorities/justice system, failed school system, failed parenthood, failed partner--this women has been through A LOT. I commend her for her resilience. As a victim of SA and child abuse, I know how difficult it is to establish ur identity and gain freedom. Society needs to do better for little girls and women. #endfemicide #honorkilingsaremurder
@@thezoldics7648 what the hell is wrong with you?!?! YOU are the one who is shameful😡!!!!
@@thezoldics7648 The world would be an amazing place with less people like you. I can't even believe that there is someone sick enough to basically victim blame the woman even after everything she went through. You must have a very sad and miserable life to be drowning in so much hate.
She was hinting at the fact that the govt officials (in the uk, the healthcare system and police are both) didn’t want to get involved because of her еthniсitу/сulturе for fear of роlitiсаl bасklаsh. Unfortunately, this still holds true today. So, this “fеmсidе” as you call it? Not ending anytime soon. Especially with the amount of migrаnts we have that refuse to intеgrаtе
@@thezoldics7648it's not the Media who shows us, it's you People On your own
@@thezoldics7648atleast They weren't raped like those poor Indian Girls
Nina is the type of person that deserves a Nobel Prize, for all she's endured and still fights for others. If you're reading this Nina, I never met you but after hearing your story, you're an inspiration that I will never forget, thank you for sharing and for the work you do.
One doesn't get Nobel prize for suffering. Google it.🤦🤦🤦
@thezoldics7648 Are you saying there's a positive aspect to honor killing?
@thezoldics7648 bro do you even know the fucked up part in Haryana right now lol, there aren't enough females for men the ratio is fucked up. If it wasn't a big issue then there wouldn't be a govt. slogan of "Beti Bachao Beti parhao" (save daughters, educate daughters). Stop whataboutery lol
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@thezoldics7648don't justify ,she isn't representing anyone ,she is just telling her story .. btw some people felt proud to control their woman ,girls and female
Nina’s voice is so soft spoken.
Hello Nina, I watched your story and was very saddened by the way you had to endure life. You see I'm a Canadian woman who would never had to endure what you went through. I watched through tears as you unfolded your truth. Your determination got you through your nightmare. I'm so sorry that you had to live without love or any kind of nurturing. Please keep fighting for others who have to go through what you were forced to live b/c the lives of humans matter. I don't know you, but I admire your strength and you do matter.
Similar abuse will be occurring in some sick homes in Canada too. Domestic violence does not discriminate. Leaving an abuser is the main time the violence escalates and death often occurs. Sad but true the way that a human being can be objectified, exploited and treated like worthless, shameful possessions, slaves and vessels to absorb abuse from many inhumane, manipulative, monstrous and heinous people. This is a sickening, disturbing, distressing and sad story.
What an absolute warrior your son is, standing up to his father and fighting for you.
His mothers spirit
Ikr that’s the true form of good masculinity. Using your power and strength to stand up for those weaker than you (and ofc women can do this too, but we live in an age of toxic masculinity toxic femininity and whatnot)
Who and where are her parents? Her inlaws? Her brother? Her family? Everyone that abused her? If the law can't or won't put them behind bars, let the internet and the people bring justice into their own hands. This woman has been through hell and is still being harassed and haunted by those evil people. So let fire handle fire. Reveal them! This makes me so angry I just want them to experience all she suffered and MORE!
Met police were quick to jump on the Russel Brand bandwagon but can’t seem to be bothered by the atrocities this lady went through. Disgusting justice system!
agreed
@@melonmelon7427women don't matter and they don't care about the Brand stuff they are just claiming to care. Brand is an english white male also so they feel ok with pretending to care about his crimes (even though they don't) uk law constantly neglects women and girls especially in "cultural" instances.
Shes showing amazing restraint by not doxxing the hell out of those mfs. I could not be this noble. 😮
I'm damn sure lot more girls are going through this even now... I hope the law takes a serious look at these things.
You would NEVER imagine that this would be happening in the UK … attempted murder. Domestic abuse… and no one is in jail ? This is insane. This woman is strong ! What a survivor
Nina, i want to talk to you: you are not stupid, you are not ugly, you are not fat...but you are an Angel, a beautiful, sweet angel and your voice is like a spiritual music...i live in Italy (sorry for my bad English...) but I would consider myself very honored and lucky to be your friend. I would like to be that friend who offers you a sandwich with jam, that friend who hugs you when you are sad and who holds your hand in difficult moments. I'm so sad for all your pains. These things shouldn't happen to anyone and especially by our parents. I no longer have them, in two years they both died and after lives spent in illness and suffering and I miss them very much. But I had two wonderful parents and I almost feel guilty for my pain after hearing your terrible story.
I hope that today your life is more peaceful and that the love of your children can repay you, at least in part, for all the harm you have suffered. I don't have children, unfortunately, but I think they are a source of great and true love...
I hope my words reach you and can give you some comfort. Your sweet and graceful way of talking about yourself touched me deeply and I want to tell you that I respect you infinitely and that you would be my best friend.
Great and sweet Nina with a persuasive voice, I wish you all the best and thank you for the strength and courage you instill in those who listen to you.
If there is a Paradise and I believe so, the place for you is guaranteed and I hope you find one of your own here, on Earth too.
That terrible day of your attempted murder you didn't die because you had a job to do: help other people like you. This is the reason for your coming to Earth, you: high-ranking soul.
I send you a strong hug, the kind you give to children and the kind you didn't have. Thank you, your sweetness and your resilience are proof of the existence of God.
🤗🤗🤗💖🌹🌈🙏🙏🙏✨🩷
These two videos have been insanely distressing to watch as an indian girl. I am so thankful she got to speak out about her life and can be heard without being dismissed. Thanks Ladbible for that, you're doing a lot for the lesser heard. And to dear sweet Nina, I can't begin to imagine the horrors you've been through. It's as if life keeps pushing you onto the floor, but you still manage to get up and fight, many times at that. I cannot imagine surviving any single part of this. You are a fighter. and from one indian girl to another, I love you loads, and you are now one of my biggest inspirations to start fighting this society. i hope everyday for the rest of your life you are happy, safe and receiving all sorts of love and appreciation that you have deserved all your life and more. i hope one day you can step out of your house without fear, that one day you can walk around the whole country with all your children. As for every single person in your life that hurt you, i wish them the hottest burn in h3ll or any religious equivalent of it. I deeply hope you know how loved you are. Only the best for you sweet lady ❤
Since you regard Nina so highly and wish her the best, maybe you will honour her more if you will join her in her struggle to save victims of your culture?
@galhas537 unfortunately, I'm not in a position to be able to do something about it.
as a girl it’s upsetting period. shit like this happens in america daily. just under a different religion and race.
Yes you are, we all are
You could too my mate! Lots of men in general are extremely misogynistic and white people used to enslave women and treat them abhorently
Imagine her low self esteem that even with all her success, she still was not able to leave her partner. You are an amazing woman and I just hope you know this by now. All the best to you.
Cause she was used to it..thinking it is minimal abuse compared to the abuse by her family
It's mental and physical lifelong conditioning.
It's part what's just 97% lie probability.He save her life and giving her money for some buissenes,mostly Man pays for businesses of women,don't be so naive.mix of true and lies, sorry but its obvious or 1 on 10.000 to 1 woman in event indian culture.women lie more often.
Thank you Nina for showing us what REAL strength looks like. I see in front of me a powerful, self-confident and brave woman!
The fact she’s refers to herself in third person is so sad & speaks volumes of the trauma. Stories like these are so important. Glory to God that she made it through to share this story & helps other, I’m so sorry she had to experience this
One of the most gut wrenching stories I have ever heard. What a truly incredible woman.
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I'll never ever forget her.
I'm at 38 year old white man, born and raised in poverty and foster care mostly, in eastern Kentucky. I was tortured, beaten, starved, drugged and raped. All more times than I could count. Both in and out of foster care. It left me broken by the time I even could spell the word broken. I've been in mental health treatment since I was first placed into foster care, around the age of 4 1/2 - 5 years old. Watching the first part of her story, I could relate on so many levels. I was speechless clicking on this video to watch afterwards and finding out it's her all over again. It's almost like my life in a way, because even after I turned an adult, I too, ended up in horrible relationships with horrible women, or even good women that I, myself couldn't love, because I didn't love myself. Ended up in Prison, where the same traumas that I went through as a kid, ended up being done to me again, by both inmates and guards alike. Kentucky has both a broken and savage foster care system as well as jail/prison system. It amazed me while I was inside, and even amazes me now, how they get away with it. It's mind blowing how they break every human rights law in the world, and can still operate without being held accountable, while you sit in there, under their supervision, watching them do it, being held accountable for what you did. I got out after 10 years, completely served out my sentence, no parole, on a non-violent, non-sexual offense of burglary and theft. I dreamed of getting out, only to basically go into shock when I did. I went to stay with a penpal in Seattle, WA, to leave Kentucky asap. Only to find out he'd been lying to get me to WA, and so I left his place. Now I'm still in WA, and haven't had a single run in with the law or abusers since. Instead, I'm bed or chair bound, with a messed up back and mind, on welfare, fighting to try and get my disability. Meanwhile, everyone acknowledges that I have all these mental and physical problems, but my welfare insurance won't pay for the only medicine that gives me peace. So living off ramen noodles and mac n cheese, I live through the internet, dreaming while I live through others lives. Wishing I had gotten a chance to have a life anything remotely close to normal or being valued as a person, wishing someone would find me, help me with medicine, or just come visit me. Only good thing in my life, are my cat, dog, and fiance that I met shortly after getting to Seattle. She's so amazing, and I wouldn't be able to type out my story, if it weren't for her and her love and support through all my struggles and flaws. She helps as best she can, but like this young woman's story, sometimes you just have to wonder. When or if at all, does the suffering stop? When do I meet one of these kind souls I see all over the internet helping people, or being nice to people? Because I've only met my fiance, and that's it. 38 years of living, and only one person that noticed me and decided I was worth having around. I hope this woman was able to find the peace I crave so badly today. It's a process, and a very long process. Maybe in the next life, I'll be reborn into a normal life or something close to it haha. Thanks for reading, whoever did.
EDIT: I tried to reach out to her through instagram around the time I first posted this comment. Hoping to god, that she might be able to help me get the medicine I need. I just wanna heal my mind and spirit, and start helping others. I can't help people in need, if I can't afford to help myself. Ketamine works amazing for PTSD and Treatment Resistant Depression and Anxiety. Sadly, it's also very costly and my savings are drained out and gone now, because of it. It's really difficult to feel a one year break in your PTSD and Depression, after 30+ years of torment mentally, only to have to return to the mental hell, because a cheap drug to make is heavily priced by big pharma. I tried to start a GoFundMe to no avail.
Here is the link to the GoFundMe if you're at all interested in helping or even just sharing it, to get it some attention and traffic: gofund.me/8ba0b134
You are worth having around!!! Wishing you and your fiance the best!!!
@@linneasve8624 Thank you so much. Means a lot. Wish you the best as well. :)
I read everything and I’m at a loss of words. I’m glad you found your fiance. I wish you peace and love in your life 🤍
i truly wish you all the best from the bottom of my heart. you are worth it, never give up on yourself. for you to even type this on top of going through all of that shows the courage you have. you deserve so much more & i am so happy you found an amazing woman to love you & give you what you deserve. i hope you have a great day :)
You are worth every ounch of peace, joy and happiness there is in life. I wish you a life of abundant peace, joy and lafter. Its amazing what you have been through and im glad you share youre story - the world shall know of the abuse that happens to so many of us - God bless you ...
Dear Nina, I cannot fathom how people could not love you. I've been watching you for less than an hour, and already I love you. It's not pity, though my eyes are filled with tears; it is because you are so tremendously valuable, and you went through so much. I think you have done more for people who need help desperately, than I could dream of doing, and I am in awe of you. Thank you, a hundred times, for sharing your story one more time, so that I could hear it. You are an inspiration to anyone who hears you or knows of you. You have dealt with horror and evil and were alone. Now you know you were not alone, that people care about what you went through, and send their love to the child you were, and to the others who suffer as you did. Your path was so hard. It is ironic that anyone who tried to extinguish your light would believe they were attaining honor. I am far away, in distance and in time, from where you were lying alone in that brick- enclosed room, but I believe that hundreds of people will think of you and send their love and support over that time and space, and that it reaches out to sustain you during those years. Love is unconditional. It is real and it is forever, both past and future. Think how many people have heard you, and think of you, and send their love to you even as I sit here and write. You were not alone, not truly. We send you our love and thank you for sharing yourself with us. I will not forget you. -- Christine
Dear Nina, you humble us all with your intestinal fortitude, incredible compassion and desire to help others despite your horrific ordeals. You are one in a billion !
When she said "I was at that time a millionaire" after she detailed how she wanted both her children to only know love and that she wanted to break her generational curse, that's when I realized "this woman has everything to make it out, she has the mindset, the means, and the strength, all she needed at the time was to believe in herself." It's really heartwarming to see that, despite all the horrors one could face, they could be this resilient and persevering, learn who they are as a person, realize what their true worth is, and go on to become such a beautiful human being. I truly hope nothing remotely negative ever happens to this woman again in her life.
Yes... I was thinking she needs to make strategic decisions in her life not emotional ones, understandably so because of all the trauma she has gone through. But now and has done so, must break the barrier and change her life... I think she has finally done this... This story completely boggles my mind as a south African, that this type of behaviour is tolerated in civilised UK, what the hell has happened over there to their values. I thought SA was all messed up. It's a disgraceful story.
Amen 🙏🏾
It's difficult to imagine a family as revolting as hers. How do they reconcile their behaviour with their religion? This woman is amazingly strong.
They can very easily reconcile their behaviour with the Religion. They see it through the prism of Sikhism parental allegiance no matter what and tradition with which they are brainwashed. Happens even today in Muslim Sikh African and all Asians in the U.K. That's why they choose to live in areas where their communities dominate
I have seen people use religion , culture , race to commit crimes and somehow justify them in a twisted way. Human nature has an element of evil that shows up in different ways.
It's not even religion, it's culture.
@@MeMe-lx2jwwell, religion influences culture
@@Dog-bb8hr Yes, it does but not all people follow the religion AS IT IS🙃
So, so glad she is speaking out, and so incredibly sorry for all the pain her and others have had to endure
I am from a subcontinental country and grew up in a western country with a very strict upbringing and STILL had no idea about the UK statistic of 1 honour killing every month...that's truly shocking to me.
Thank you Nina for being probably one of the bravest people I have ever witnessed. For bringing awareness to this horrific problem and literally doing everything you can to fix it despite suffering so horrendously.
Thank you for sharing this painfully personal story and re-living the worst torture any human being can suffer. I would love to know how you approached trauma work or what your recommendations are for people who suffer cultural trauma. Even after escaping abuse, it's something that you carry in the form of PTSD and is almost a continuation of the abuse. Your ability to forgive is astounding to me, there are much lesser things I find myself unable to forgive.
I hope you have nothing but peace, joy and love for the rest of your life. You sound like you've raised some amazing children and achieved what most humans won't achieve in a lifetime. Thank you for everything you do, how lucky I am to come across this video and be inspired by you.
Imagine being this intelligent, successful, and driven despite this harrowing story of pain and trauma. I’m confident this story is not over. This woman will achieve so much more! May her abusers forever regret and suffer for these vicious actions.
The abuse I went through is nothing compared to what she went through. Her strength gives me strength. I’m sending this woman love.
What's yours like???!!! What more than this? Being raped, hit, chased to be killed...
you shouldn't compare abuse, you are also valid
@chililow please reread the comment. It means the opposite of what you think it means.
read it well@@chililow
You can compare abuse simply because some things are worse than others. Not to mention everyone is different and unique. I have trauma too. You don't have to discredit your trauma! ❤ no matter what you went thru, your trauma is valid, also on any level abuse is abuse. I wish you well.
Nina has gone through so much pain and trauma yet she is still so strong she still has softness.
Her story is so moving and she is an inspiration for the strength and determination just to keep going.
She's a survivor and she's very strong. May God bless her.
She is such a strong woman. She really has gone through hell and back and I am so glad she is safe and is in a better place now. She is such a brave woman for being able to relive all of that trauma to tell us her story and I applaud her for that.
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She’s so beautiful, eloquent, brave, courageous, graceful, and sophisticated.
I want to meet Nina one day. I want to tell her how much I care for her. How much she means. I want to be able to show her all the love and appreciation she never received, but always deserved. God bless you Nina, you are beyond amazing, an Angel in a world of demons. May your life be filled with nothing but happiness and joy ♥️
The way you honour yourself Nina by surviving to tell your story is inspiring and humbling. Thank you for sharing it, it can’t have been easy.
Nina, if you ever read this, you are an inspiration to people everywhere. I hope you find peace one day
She is a beacon of peace....
An embodiment of the concept, really.
I have never commented on any CZcams video but Nina’s story touched me so much. I can’t believe how she found the strength to keep going and I have nothing but praise and love for this woman. Onto an important question, how is it that nothing has happened to the parents yet? Can’t they be booked for any of the crimes? It is unfair that they haven’t been subjected to any legal or criminal charges for their horrifying actions
Thank you for taking the time to watch the video and that goes for everyone who has done that but more so that you never engage in conversation or to leave a message which shows how much compassion you hold for another human suffering, and that gives me hope inhumanity itself
@@thezoldics7648 Now I see you are obviously a bot.
@@thezoldics7648beeeeep! WRONG
Thank God she is here and able to share her story. The world needed her.
This is sad. Her story made me cry, she went through a lot. What most of us are going through thinking life is coming to an end is nothing compared to what she went through. We should all be grateful, I pray sh3 find peace and happiness.
“I love everything that nobody ever loved about me”
This is peak post traumatic growth. I am so incredibly happy for her that she’s come to a place where she loves herself for exactly who she is ❤️
I will NEVER say a bad thing about my upbringing again. What horrific experiences this beautiful woman had. She seems unbelievably kind and loving and I hope she finds so much healing and that her children are happy and healthy
Just because someone suffered more than you doesn’t mean that you didn’t suffer. Your pain is also a pain, even though small.
@@taranrandhawa5638agree. One’s suffering doesn’t invalidate another.
fr when i was a kid i ran away from home multiple times for less. Nothing even close to this. My parents love me and would never hurt me on purpose. I just felt ignored lol
@@Jblah your feelings are 100% valid
i know that, but compared to stories like this my life was a disney movie. I cant even relate to drama like what this woman went through@@taranrandhawa5638
Thank you for sharing your story. I can relate to your story. I have been through so much abuse since the day I was born. My earliest memories of being abused in all ways possible, being scared, and confused. I never spoke about it until recently. My sisters and I finally talked about it started our healing. I understand what you mean when you say you're glad you went through all that because it made you who you are today. I feel the same way. It really broke me down when I finally talked about it. It took everything in me to pull myself out of that dark place (depression). I admire your courage, strength, and determination to help others. One day I will do the same but now I'm still at the beginning of my healing. It took me 50 years to finally talk about my abuse. You're strong beautiful lady. Keep doing what you're doing. You're healing as you help others. Hugs.
You're an incredible person, and you're helping incredible people. Stay strong, Nina.
These sick cultures have NO place in this world! It’s sick, disgusting and horrific! Bless this woman. I hope she will have a nice peaceful life. ❤
Yes these sick cultures are disgusting. My son friend in his early thirties married a Sikh girl whose parents are from the Punjab and none of her four siblings and parents went to the wedding. They have now reconciled after several years. Another so's friend married a Cambridge Muslim girl from Midlands,only one sister attended the wedding no parents or four of her siblings either. Have plenty of experience as am Indian born and educated but deliberately chose to live in the U.K. Have challenged my grandmother in the seventies in India and it baffles me that Asians and Africans still never challenge their parents on religious and traditional issues. Like young girls aged five wearing the headscarf. Nina saw how different her school pupils were so sounds harsh but there are too many of these stories and it is time for them to challenge their parents.
@@agnescraig2912I think it’s pretty clear what can often happen if they challenge their family, this lady’s story shows that even though she was pregnant because her dad raped her, she became a problem that needed to be silenced
@@agnescraig2912 Totally agree.
I always say that culture doesn’t not excuse the abuse or murder of another human being or animal.
@@juliannecolwell500they call it "culture" when it's just evil
Nina's story illustrates how profoundly children are scarred psychologically from abuse and neglect. Even as an exceptionally successful business owner, she still didn't have enough self-worth to leave an abusive man.
I am speechless at how inspiring you are. You are a light to the world.
I want to send this woman so much love. Infinite amounts. This is the most heartbreaking story I have ever heard. What an absolute warrior she is and always was ❤
Nina, I'm moved speechless by you. What an HONOR it is to have you in this world!
I never cry during movies or during serious life events but her story made me cry several times. I hope you will have a life full of love after these horrors.
I hope that you understand that it’s a difficult memory to bring forward so naturally I’m upset but in the new life I have created I am living a life with purpose serving others ❤
@@londonslifecoach I'm so happy that you are living a life with purpose now and hopefully you are out of harm's way. I love you! Big hugs and many blessings!
@@londonslifecoach You are so very wise and brave. I hope you know you are such a savior to so, so many people. We are all moved by, and very blessed by the gift of your story. It is the story of an incredible metamorphosis. Godspeed.
I’m so sorry for your pain. I’m so glad you’re telling your story. God bless you.
All this woman has gone through I can’t even imagine. The resilience and strength she has shown god bless her, my heart just was breaking the whole time I watched. At the same time she is talking about a lot that is unknown to others and giving all who have gone through a voice
I’m a true crime lover. I listen to it to go to sleep. This woman’s story is so horrific I can’t stop crying. I didn’t realize her story continues in this way. I have never wanted to reach through the computer and hug a grown woman like this. The part where she lost her baby almost took me out.
I appreciate your extension of love and thank you for watching as I create these for awareness and change
I felt that intense need to give her a big firm hug as well. I’m just in an absolute awe of what she achieved in spite of everything. She is incredible.
Nina is the epitome of strength. Physically, mentally, and spiritually, this woman has prevailed through all. i truly hope this wonderful woman finds true peace and joy. I can’t imagine how hard that could be after everything she’s been through, but I hope she reaches it one day. She deserves it, and much more.
Thank you Nina, for being so brave in telling your story and doing so much to educate and try to change the laws to help prevent the same thing happening to others. I wish all the best for you and the people your non profit is helping.
Nina! It's you again, wonderful woman I have all the time there is to hear what you say.
The courage of a brave, the heart of a mother. Ten times a miracle.
I’m here crying my eyes out. How is something like this still existing in our modern western world. She must be one of the strongest women alive to speak about all the atrocities that happened to her. I respect her like no one.
Unfortunately, Nina is just one of many.
@@TurbopannerI’m afraid you are right. That is why women like her should keep speaking out once in a save place. The thing is that we (the West) went passed these strange religious rituals. Because that’s what it boils down to; religion and it’s backwards rules from long long ago. As long as there is religion there will be strange rules and regulations. As Jung once said: As long as people are afraid of death, there will be religion.
🙌🏼🙌🏼 I TOTALLY TOTALLY 💯 FEEL N THOUGHT THE SAME AS YOU…
@@Turbopannermy heart aches for l the girls that were made to feel less than and murdered
I’m at the point where she’s talking about how little Tyler died. I’m crying too. This is beyond what any living being can endure. I don’t understand how she survived all of this abuse. I will wake up in the middle of the night at times in the future, and wonder how this bullshit can go on. Absolutely infuriating! Beyond belief. Almost surreal. I cannot grasp it.
Sending loving and supportive thoughts to this beautiful, strong, superhuman woman. ❤❤❤😢❤❤❤
This woman is straight up a LIONESS! WOW!! Peace be upon her household & family forever!
Oh my God. Watching part two of her interview absolutely ripped me up. I'm so upset for her that I don't know what to do with myself. I've never wanted to hug a stranger so bad in my entire life.
I am in awe of you and your resilience. Thank you Nina for sharing your story. I pray for you and your childrens' safety and peace 🫶🏿🙏🏿
“I loved everything about me that no one ever love me for”- gosh I am in pieces. All we want is to be loved. Is that too much to ask for. I love you Nina. You are my hero
Her mother and the women of that cultural practice are pathetic. It’s bad enough the males do it, but how could you as a woman do that upon another woman, and your daughter?
Crappy people are seduced by crappy cultures.
The mothers are as u said pathetic, that's why they don't do anything and it most cases they agree with the arranged marages and honor killings.
i think the same thing. i always hated my Dad, but then i got older, and recognized that my mom was at fault. She had 3 previous children with my horribly abusive alcoholic father, why would she bring me into the world too? Women need to stop having children to give their lives purpose. if you cant afford a child, if youre not in a stable place economically, women...you are sentencing your innocent baby to life. And thats not fair
@@Augfordpdoggieits worth recognising that many women do not have the option of birth control. Blaming them for their inability to access safe birth control is just another form of sexism.
Yeah. It is crazy. As a Pakistani, people just believe that the culture is right and they blindly follow it (not to this degree of killings of forced marriages). I don't know how people could do stuff like this to their own children.
Dearest Nina, thank you for who you are.
This woman has endured so much trauma and pain and still maintains so much gentleness and poise despite it all. I feel so much for her for all her suffering!
We need another episode of her talking about her come up in her career, business etc. would love to hear about that
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Absolutely!
I felt joy when she said she's now a millionaire. Money can't buy love but its an indication of her strength and courage. Nina is a beautiful and admirable women. May the rest of your life be filled with genuine love and a continuous sense of purpose.
Now is the time for comment, and here I am speechless but full of emotion and grateful for her immense courage, beautiful spirit, and altruism. A success by every measure.
I just want to give this poor woman a hug. I can’t believe she is still sane, she’s stronger than anyone I’ve ever heard of.
They have destroyed this woman since birth. gang raped w/ her parents permission, beaten literally near death by her own family members, horrific and violent domestic abuse a forced birth of her child. It’s no wonder how she’s even still here.
Despite all her trauma this happens a lot in Britain. As the end line commented One girl every month is subjected to honour killing each year. Shocking
the partner was black to top it all. All the curses of the world
I cannot believe honour killing is not seen as murder in this "civilised" country. Smh
who called india civilized ? 😂 it’s the opposite
@@Alexandra-ng1ih Exactly my point. India is supposed to be a "developing" country. Yet it's laws have crept into "civilised society".
@@atarabat-yah2437this all took place in the UK. Indian culture yes but on UK turf. The fault is with UK governing bodies for not finally doing something about these horrendous crimes of which their have been far too many.
@@jj-gk6rj Exactly my point.
@@jj-gk6rjThat’s exactly what he has been saying since his initial comment
It's amazing how well you speak about such a harrowing story so brave and It's brilliant you help so many people
She’s the definition of strong such a brave woman all she’s been through and still has compassion for others
I’ve watched the previous video about her story… I just, couldn’t believe her own family did those things to her. And aren’t in jail!?? And they still continued to send her death threats, like- Please tell me they were finally arrested …
She’s a super woman, really. You have to have some kind of super strength; almost supernatural even, to get through that kind of trauma and abuse. 😢❤️sending love and virtual hugs to you 🫶🏾
Yeah and considering the abuse happened in UK, its so bizzare
They won't be arrested because of political correctness. Nina even mentions how nobody wants to touch these murders because they're called "honor killings" as part of culture.
@@kristymakeshift6260 idk, arrested by the police? Law enforcement? Lol who else. But it’s apparent now that they considered their attempted murder as “cultural”.
@@someonefromsomewhere6650 It really is !!
@@melstrr564neither of you live in the UK clearly, trust me there is no justice here!!
I have been anxiously awaiting part 2 of Nina's story... God bless this woman. What an unimaginable amount of resilience! Thank you Nina. The ability you have to share your experiences in such a raw form is truly heartbreaking, yet - deeply captivating. Please, continue using that beautiful voice to inform the world of what happens in plain sight.
Sending love from Canada!
This is part 2, part one came out a week ago
Sounds CIA planty! I honestly think that her adult story is sketchy! Yasmin Mohammed of Canada tells a story that is detailed and difficult to question!
@@gingerale496Why do you find her story sketchy?
God bless you for overcoming such terrible abuse and rising up to help others. You are super woman!