Leviticus is referring to pedophilia. Mathew 19:12 Eunuchs that are born that way are transgender. Eunuchs made that way by others were molested and something inside of them blocks off a certain type of body but it doesn't happen to everyone that is abused. Those that CHOOSE to live like Eunuchs for THE SAKE OF THE KINGDOM OF HEAVEN are bisexual people that choose partners of the same sex-characteristics but opposite in regards to gender. GENDER is determined in the brain and designated at birth and has nothing to do with sex characteristics. Notice, God PREFERS for people to be in LGBT relationships. You know rapture occurs right HERE on earth right? Malachi 4:2-3 It is when God's true people shine like the sun with the glory of the Lord right here on earth. Jesus comes back to rule. Some people will live forever. The rapture teaching inside the fake churches is mostly LIES. The new heaven and earth will be made here. Do you get it? The ones taken are NOT good. WW3 will bring down all government institutions and they are ALL corrupt. 1/3 of all people will die at least. I am Elijah of Malachi 4:5-6 and Acts 3:22-23 says it will come to pass that anyone that fails to listen to me will be utterly destroyed from among the people. Anyone that continues to teach the LIE of monetary tithing or sells anything at all using the gospel CHOOSES to DIE with the wicked. It's their choice. Same-sex marriage is NOT a sin. Mathew 19:12 says God PREFERS for people to be in LGBT relationships. Anyone that teaches it is a sin when it is not also CHOOSES to perish with the wicked. WORLD PEACE IS COMING! Asking questions is okay, but anyone that rejects the messages from the messenger of Malachi 3:1 rejects Jesus Christ Himself and that means they will also not be here when Jesus comes back. Pretrib rapture is LIES, false teaching... ***.... Anytime someone deletes the messages from the messenger of Malachi 3:1they reject Jesus Christ Himself and that means they will not make it to heaven. Its your choice.*
For Men, Smile, yes just smile. Every single chance you get. Smile in front of your wife. Let go of the Hurt and Pain. Make her feel Happy in your presence. God has to be your source of Love.
@@kelseybarrett3560 Because I am Man, and only speak from a Man's Experience. I mean if it fits for Women, by all means. Sounds like you need to smile more 😊.
If you are separated, just hit pause. Don’t push for divorce. Use that time to dig deep into your own personal behaviors that are contributing to the conflicts. Stop trying to fix your partner. Focus on what you can change. Not unreasonable things - healthy things you need to change to show up as your best self. Choose to love. Make the choice to love your partner no matter what they’ve done wrong or how they hurt you. We are all beggars and need forgiveness. When you choose to love your heart will be turned back to the needs and concerns of your partner. You will be better able to see their pain and mourn with them. Make these changes before it’s too late.
I'm so happy having my former partner back , after being separated for months . All thanks to Mr Ehijator whom help me to get back my ex again , I will suggest y'all to get help from him and it works within 48hours
I'm so happy having my former partner back , after being separated for months . All thanks to Mr Ehijator whom help me to get back my ex again , I will suggest y'all to get help from him and it works within 48hours
Same! Married 37 years. She's left me for another man. I can not find words to express the pain, loneliness, betrayal and soul wrenching hurt that consumes me minute by minute, every day. I am crushed!
I’m currently separated from my wife! I did many things that were wrong. My wife doesn’t trust me anymore! She doesn’t think I can be better. She wants to move hours away from me. However, we are talking now. And she does want to be around me more. I’m trying to be the best version of myself
I’m in the same place my guys it’s the worst pain I’ve ever experienced!! I pray everyday me and my wife will work this out , but it seems she’s ready to just let me go after 15 years! 😢😢 I pray that all of you find the strength to get through this I know all we can do is put it in gods hands
Hey Beryl Steindl, Just out of curiosity, have you taken advantage of our free mini course? We know times are tough and want to provide as much as we can to you free of charge. That's why we created this free mini course. It will teach you how to get your spouse back and give you a plan moving forward! You can get access to it directly by following this link: your.marriagehelper.com/how-to-get-your-spouse-back-mini-course
As a man I just remember how calm & peaceful it was being separated from my wife's drama. Being away allowed her other man to have her full time & even he got tired of having her & the kids full time and left.
lack of a 'safe place' when communicating might have had a lot to do with why the separation happened. Difficult to re-set how both interacted for years, but I'm sure it's possible. Men are seldom given a safe space to express feelings or their view of what's happened. .
My husband of 35 years left me for a younger woman and I am devastated and heartbroken. We were together nearly 38 yrs more than half our lives 😢 I can’t forget him and our family has been torn apart. I am trying to get on without him but it’s difficult.
I came home Friday and he disappeared with no conversations about him wanting to leave. Took everything and sent a text. I am so lost. Hope things work out 🥺
We are in the middle of a separation n a divorce .. we never stopped talking we talk everyday n see them every week day. Court will order visitation n we will agree on child support joint custody
My wife has separated. My heart hurts bad. I've made changes. She won't give me a chance to prove it. We had such a great relationship or so i thought. She masked her feelings. Then, she dropped the hammer.
My wife is never coming back. No matter what I do, I know in my heart she's happier without me. My self on the other hand, this has been the most difficult experience of my life. She played so many roles, she was my lover, my friend, my motherly support, she is still my other half. 😭
Hey Epic Prince, so sorry to hear you are going through this. Because of the complexity of this situation, we would strongly advise you reach out to us directly! You can call us at 1 (866) 903 0990 and be connected with one of our Client Representatives who will guide you to the best resources we have available for your situation. You can also schedule the call yourself for a time that works best for you by following this link: marriagehelper.com/marriage-strategy-call/ We look forward to speaking with you directly if you will allow it!
Focus on becoming a better man. You know where that starts. Jesus Christ. Learn what God's Love is. It's when you come to the conclusion that your Source of Love can't come from yourself not can be determined by your Wife's conduct. No it comes from God. It's perfect Love. No matter how angry she makes you, how hurt, etc. You just simply show her love in return. Once you let the Holy Spirit inside of you. You will become a new Creation
Amen to that don’t give up brother with man it’s impossible but with god every thing is possible god can soften the heart of the most hardened as they come keep faith an walk by faith not by sight brother
We are in the same boat. Right now, I have a pit in my stomach. I can't eat, sleep, or socialize. I just need to know if she has someone else. None of this makes sense.
Been seperated for over a year now, we havnt spoken over a year now. She doesn't respond to me. Has me blocked on social media. Just found out she's now moved on to another city far away. She seems to be enjoying her new life, while I feel so lost
I have a feeling that the longer I'm separated, the less likely we get back together because she is getting more and more comfortable without me in her life. 😞
@@captainn3105 how did things go? I'm on 2nd day of my wife suddenly leaving with zero warning and she says she doesn't want to reconcile. I'm gutted, I never cheated or abused her.
It's a good time to invest more in yourself. Whatever will be, will be. Just be the best version of yourself. You'll get better over time. Mine left 28th of August, I nearly went mad... But today, something happend and we're talking again. 😊
My wife wants a separation,but doesn't want a divorce. She says she needs time to work on herself, as I haven't been the nicest with my words. We stay in the same house, but different beds. I can tell she wants us, but is afraid things will be the same as they were before. I changed everything, a week before I found out she was able to get an apartment without me.
My wife wants to speand time with me and she wants to stay in contact.... she doesn't say "I miss you". Two out of three is a good average. I think with some time she will come around. Just need more time!!
Heck yeah! I am working on these little bit victories, too! Three weeks ago she asked for a divorce and while the first 36 hrs were rough, we started communicating, we went on a day date this last weekend, and other various things. Her deep genuine laughter is like music to my hear and I haven't heard that in a couple years it feels like. Enjoy each and every little win and keep it up!
Twenty six days until the Divorce is final.... Unless he decides to not mail in the final papers. He feels uncertain and afraid to try again. We've only been Married for a year and a half. We're both older, in our sixties. We both have a lot of past hurts from previous relationships and this current relationship to navigate. Will we make it? Our future is in our hands, I'm praying that we both will make Decisions that will honor God.
Hey Colleen Cook, Just out of curiosity, have you taken advantage of our free mini course? We know times are tough and want to provide as much as we can to you free of charge. That's why we created this free mini course. It will teach you how to get your spouse back and give you a plan moving forward! You can get access to it directly by following this link: your.marriagehelper.com/how-to-get-your-spouse-back-mini-course
What if you had the chance to do all this but didn’t do it and now your husband left and he won’t talk to you at all unless it’s about your daughter??? I kept asking and pushing for a divorce and he finally left and I didn’t mean it… is it to late??? I messed things up even more by taking his key away to the house even tho he has another key.. he said he was tired of playing childish games.. so is my marriage done and over with cause I kept pushing?? I also don’t know how to get him to talk to me because he ignores me.. I text him a lot but he doesn’t respond. So he is doing the no contact rule on me😭 what do I even do..
What if the spouse that left, moved over 1k miles away. There are positive signs, but spending time physically together is impossible, and I don't know how to get past that.
Leviticus is referring to pedophilia. Mathew 19:12 Eunuchs that are born that way are transgender. Eunuchs made that way by others were molested and something inside of them blocks off a certain type of body but it doesn't happen to everyone that is abused. Those that CHOOSE to live like Eunuchs for THE SAKE OF THE KINGDOM OF HEAVEN are bisexual people that choose partners of the same sex-characteristics but opposite in regards to gender. GENDER is determined in the brain and designated at birth and has nothing to do with sex characteristics. Notice, God PREFERS for people to be in LGBT relationships. You know rapture occurs right HERE on earth right? Malachi 4:2-3 It is when God's true people shine like the sun with the glory of the Lord right here on earth. Jesus comes back to rule. Some people will live forever. The rapture teaching inside the fake churches is mostly LIES. The new heaven and earth will be made here. Do you get it? The ones taken are NOT good. WW3 will bring down all government institutions and they are ALL corrupt. 1/3 of all people will die at least. I am Elijah of Malachi 4:5-6 and Acts 3:22-23 says it will come to pass that anyone that fails to listen to me will be utterly destroyed from among the people. Anyone that continues to teach the LIE of monetary tithing or sells anything at all using the gospel CHOOSES to DIE with the wicked. It's their choice. Same-sex marriage is NOT a sin. Mathew 19:12 says God PREFERS for people to be in LGBT relationships. Anyone that teaches it is a sin when it is not also CHOOSES to perish with the wicked. WORLD PEACE IS COMING! Asking questions is okay, but anyone that rejects the messages from the messenger of Malachi 3:1 rejects Jesus Christ Himself and that means they will also not be here when Jesus comes back. Pretrib rapture is LIES, false teaching... ***.... Anytime someone deletes the messages from the messenger of Malachi 3:1they reject Jesus Christ Himself and that means they will not make it to heaven. Its your choice.*
Has MH done a video on perimenopause and if that can play a role during a divorce, separation or otherwise decision of one's spouse? Would there be lots of emotions in this process if it were? Do women respond differently when this process begins that may lead to her having emotional swings?
I'm so happy having my former partner back , after being separated for months . All thanks to Mr Ehijator whom help me to get back my ex again , I will suggest y'all to get help from him and it works within 48hours
My Sarah will not talk to me, at all... how can I get her to talk with me when she won't hear me, period? I'll view your free training this coming week; thank you.
Donovan Bailey, Thank you for your comment. The first thing we try to teach people is how to have healthy communication with their spouse to avoid making the situation any worse. One of the main tips is to stop PUSH Behaviors. This is anything you do (or don't do) that tends to push your spouse away from you. We teach you 4 other rules you need to follow to help with this situation in our free e-book! You can download it here if interested! Free Ebook here: bit.ly/3BSuzRo We hope this helps! We are here for your friend! There is ALWAYS Hope!!
I am right in this with you man, remember this: You are a human being with flaws, just like her. Every person deserves forgiveness and love. You have to start by forgiving yourself. You are carrying a heavy load, no need to carry that weight as well. You are not defined by what you DID, but only by how hard you work to be a better person. It is your ACTIONS not your past that define you.
Do you have a mini-course on how to reach a separated spouse through a third party? My wife separated from me in September last year, and then blocked me on every media, including telephone. So now my only hope is to reach out to her through her mother. But I am not sure how to convince the mother to agree to be a mediator ... do you have a mini-course on how to do that?
Hey Clement, we actually discuss this exact situation in our SMART Contact Toolkit! It is part of one of our bonus videos in the course. You can learn more about that here: marriagehelper.com/product/smart-contact-toolkit-product/ You may also find value in a previous episode of Relationship Radio that discusses "How To Show Your Spouse You've Changed" in which we discuss what to do when you are separated. You can find that video here! czcams.com/video/N1AIQpiZRzY/video.html
I don't mean this to offend or anything but it's nice to see someone else going through something similar. I know your pain and feel for you. My wife left me last June for a guy in our friend group. She started lying about me to the group and her aunt who is the only family she has left and cut all ties with me and blocked all communication except through attorney's which she then blamed me for getting when I got one only after hers contacted me about signing separation papers giving her our house. I hope things get better for you and know you aren't the only person dealing with something like this. I felt that way for months until reading your response, thank you.
Leviticus is referring to pedophilia. Mathew 19:12 Eunuchs that are born that way are transgender. Eunuchs made that way by others were molested and something inside of them blocks off a certain type of body but it doesn't happen to everyone that is abused. Those that CHOOSE to live like Eunuchs for THE SAKE OF THE KINGDOM OF HEAVEN are bisexual people that choose partners of the same sex-characteristics but opposite in regards to gender. GENDER is determined in the brain and designated at birth and has nothing to do with sex characteristics. Notice, God PREFERS for people to be in LGBT relationships. You know rapture occurs right HERE on earth right? Malachi 4:2-3 It is when God's true people shine like the sun with the glory of the Lord right here on earth. Jesus comes back to rule. Some people will live forever. The rapture teaching inside the fake churches is mostly LIES. The new heaven and earth will be made here. Do you get it? The ones taken are NOT good. WW3 will bring down all government institutions and they are ALL corrupt. 1/3 of all people will die at least. I am Elijah of Malachi 4:5-6 and Acts 3:22-23 says it will come to pass that anyone that fails to listen to me will be utterly destroyed from among the people. Anyone that continues to teach the LIE of monetary tithing or sells anything at all using the gospel CHOOSES to DIE with the wicked. It's their choice. Same-sex marriage is NOT a sin. Mathew 19:12 says God PREFERS for people to be in LGBT relationships. Anyone that teaches it is a sin when it is not also CHOOSES to perish with the wicked. WORLD PEACE IS COMING! Asking questions is okay, but anyone that rejects the messages from the messenger of Malachi 3:1 rejects Jesus Christ Himself and that means they will also not be here when Jesus comes back. Pretrib rapture is LIES, false teaching... ***.... Anytime someone deletes the messages from the messenger of Malachi 3:1they reject Jesus Christ Himself and that means they will not make it to heaven. Its your choice.*
Leviticus is referring to pedophilia. Mathew 19:12 Eunuchs that are born that way are transgender. Eunuchs made that way by others were molested and something inside of them blocks off a certain type of body but it doesn't happen to everyone that is abused. Those that CHOOSE to live like Eunuchs for THE SAKE OF THE KINGDOM OF HEAVEN are bisexual people that choose partners of the same sex-characteristics but opposite in regards to gender. GENDER is determined in the brain and designated at birth and has nothing to do with sex characteristics. Notice, God PREFERS for people to be in LGBT relationships. You know rapture occurs right HERE on earth right? Malachi 4:2-3 It is when God's true people shine like the sun with the glory of the Lord right here on earth. Jesus comes back to rule. Some people will live forever. The rapture teaching inside the fake churches is mostly LIES. The new heaven and earth will be made here. Do you get it? The ones taken are NOT good. WW3 will bring down all government institutions and they are ALL corrupt. 1/3 of all people will die at least. I am Elijah of Malachi 4:5-6 and Acts 3:22-23 says it will come to pass that anyone that fails to listen to me will be utterly destroyed from among the people. Anyone that continues to teach the LIE of monetary tithing or sells anything at all using the gospel CHOOSES to DIE with the wicked. It's their choice. Same-sex marriage is NOT a sin. Mathew 19:12 says God PREFERS for people to be in LGBT relationships. Anyone that teaches it is a sin when it is not also CHOOSES to perish with the wicked. WORLD PEACE IS COMING! Asking questions is okay, but anyone that rejects the messages from the messenger of Malachi 3:1 rejects Jesus Christ Himself and that means they will also not be here when Jesus comes back. Pretrib rapture is LIES, false teaching... ***.... Anytime someone deletes the messages from the messenger of Malachi 3:1they reject Jesus Christ Himself and that means they will not make it to heaven. Its your choice.*
Do you know it’s really annoying if someone is separated and I don’t wanna be how can I not want to be and how can I be positive clearly you’ve never been separated people are separated for many different reasons I just think you don’t know what you’re talking about to be completely honest I just want people to click on your videos again
She filed for this, I went to the house Saturday and we went and got her something to eat together and we sat and talked until almost midnight, I went over yesterday to do the yard and afterwards I said how about we get a pizza and eat, my son was there also. He went and got the food and we talked, I stayed until 10:30 and left. I am trying to hold on to her but I don’t want to “push” her away…HELP!,,..
ROB C have you considered joining our free Facebook group? facebook.com/groups/783603618395431/ The Save My Marriage Course is the course I used to help Save My Marriage a few years ago. You can learn more about the course here: marriagehelper.com/save-my-marriage
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I agree with the signs and the point of putting in effort for your own changes. But some of the phrasing/framing used in this video sounds slightly manipulative. Not all of it, but a couple times my ears perked up. HOWEVER, I do agree these things can help keep the door open for them to return and both hearts open to healing.
Leviticus is referring to pedophilia. Mathew 19:12 Eunuchs that are born that way are transgender. Eunuchs made that way by others were molested and something inside of them blocks off a certain type of body but it doesn't happen to everyone that is abused. Those that CHOOSE to live like Eunuchs for THE SAKE OF THE KINGDOM OF HEAVEN are bisexual people that choose partners of the same sex-characteristics but opposite in regards to gender. GENDER is determined in the brain and designated at birth and has nothing to do with sex characteristics. Notice, God PREFERS for people to be in LGBT relationships. You know rapture occurs right HERE on earth right? Malachi 4:2-3 It is when God's true people shine like the sun with the glory of the Lord right here on earth. Jesus comes back to rule. Some people will live forever. The rapture teaching inside the fake churches is mostly LIES. The new heaven and earth will be made here. Do you get it? The ones taken are NOT good. WW3 will bring down all government institutions and they are ALL corrupt. 1/3 of all people will die at least. I am Elijah of Malachi 4:5-6 and Acts 3:22-23 says it will come to pass that anyone that fails to listen to me will be utterly destroyed from among the people. Anyone that continues to teach the LIE of monetary tithing or sells anything at all using the gospel CHOOSES to DIE with the wicked. It's their choice. Same-sex marriage is NOT a sin. Mathew 19:12 says God PREFERS for people to be in LGBT relationships. Anyone that teaches it is a sin when it is not also CHOOSES to perish with the wicked. WORLD PEACE IS COMING! Asking questions is okay, but anyone that rejects the messages from the messenger of Malachi 3:1 rejects Jesus Christ Himself and that means they will also not be here when Jesus comes back. Pretrib rapture is LIES, false teaching... ***.... Anytime someone deletes the messages from the messenger of Malachi 3:1they reject Jesus Christ Himself and that means they will not make it to heaven. Its your choice.*
When you treat your husband like a child, emasculating him because you want to dominate and contol (out of fear of loss and personal insecurity and unhappiness with yourself), you will drive him away. You bash him and are not a wife, and then are clueless why he doest want to be with you. Start first with immediately accepting responsibility for your hostile and dishonest action breaking your vows to him, and maybe you have a chance. It is not about communication, it is not about him opening up his emotions and being more feminine, it is you not being emotionally mature. All of this behavior to cope with your feeling about yourself, leads to your sorrow- forever
😞 my sweet husband has been away for three months, he did not even take his clothes, he complains exactly about it, and rightfully so, I have a personality disorder and my emotions are deregulated, however it’s not excuse.
Leviticus is referring to pedophilia. Mathew 19:12 Eunuchs that are born that way are transgender. Eunuchs made that way by others were molested and something inside of them blocks off a certain type of body but it doesn't happen to everyone that is abused. Those that CHOOSE to live like Eunuchs for THE SAKE OF THE KINGDOM OF HEAVEN are bisexual people that choose partners of the same sex-characteristics but opposite in regards to gender. GENDER is determined in the brain and designated at birth and has nothing to do with sex characteristics. Notice, God PREFERS for people to be in LGBT relationships. You know rapture occurs right HERE on earth right? Malachi 4:2-3 It is when God's true people shine like the sun with the glory of the Lord right here on earth. Jesus comes back to rule. Some people will live forever. The rapture teaching inside the fake churches is mostly LIES. The new heaven and earth will be made here. Do you get it? The ones taken are NOT good. WW3 will bring down all government institutions and they are ALL corrupt. 1/3 of all people will die at least. I am Elijah of Malachi 4:5-6 and Acts 3:22-23 says it will come to pass that anyone that fails to listen to me will be utterly destroyed from among the people. Anyone that continues to teach the LIE of monetary tithing or sells anything at all using the gospel CHOOSES to DIE with the wicked. It's their choice. Same-sex marriage is NOT a sin. Mathew 19:12 says God PREFERS for people to be in LGBT relationships. Anyone that teaches it is a sin when it is not also CHOOSES to perish with the wicked. WORLD PEACE IS COMING! Asking questions is okay, but anyone that rejects the messages from the messenger of Malachi 3:1 rejects Jesus Christ Himself and that means they will also not be here when Jesus comes back. Pretrib rapture is LIES, false teaching... ***.... Anytime someone deletes the messages from the messenger of Malachi 3:1they reject Jesus Christ Himself and that means they will not make it to heaven. Its your choice.*
Have you seen this video from Marriage Helper? marriagehelper.com/can-a-narcissist-change/ Here's another great reference: marriagehelper.com/married-to-a-narcissist-cbw/
His new partner? Allows zero contact with me. In any way. Family business or kids. What do I do? The business is in financial difficulties. I need his contact, denied.
Hey Claire Brown! It sounds like something that could be extremely beneficial to you would be our SMART Contact Toolkit. This will teach you exactly what to do to start rebuilding healthy communication with your spouse! Highly recommend you consider checking it out here: marriagehelper.com/product/smart-contact-toolkit-product/ We truly hope it helps you.
I'm so happy having my former partner back , after being separated for months . All thanks to Mr Ehijator whom help me to get back my ex again , I will suggest y'all to get help from him and it works within 48hours
It’s always about what she wants… us men has no say in anything. Folks separation does not make an marriage better and it does not make the relationship work period. Separation adds up to a divorce. Anytime a woman say she wants separation just ask her what day she wants the divorce cause most separation ends in a divorce and the system is set to only let the woman make the decision but not the man.
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Leviticus is referring to pedophilia.
Mathew 19:12 Eunuchs that are born that way are transgender. Eunuchs made that way by others were molested and something inside of them blocks off a certain type of body but it doesn't happen to everyone that is abused. Those that CHOOSE to live like Eunuchs for THE SAKE OF THE KINGDOM OF HEAVEN are bisexual people that choose partners of the same sex-characteristics but opposite in regards to gender. GENDER is determined in the brain and designated at birth and has nothing to do with sex characteristics. Notice, God PREFERS for people to be in LGBT relationships.
You know rapture occurs right HERE on earth right? Malachi 4:2-3 It is when God's true people shine like the sun with the glory of the Lord right here on earth. Jesus comes back to rule. Some people will live forever. The rapture teaching inside the fake churches is mostly LIES. The new heaven and earth will be made here. Do you get it? The ones taken are NOT good. WW3 will bring down all government institutions and they are ALL corrupt. 1/3 of all people will die at least. I am Elijah of Malachi 4:5-6 and Acts 3:22-23 says it will come to pass that anyone that fails to listen to me will be utterly destroyed from among the people. Anyone that continues to teach the LIE of monetary tithing or sells anything at all using the gospel CHOOSES to DIE with the wicked. It's their choice. Same-sex marriage is NOT a sin. Mathew 19:12 says God PREFERS for people to be in LGBT relationships. Anyone that teaches it is a sin when it is not also CHOOSES to perish with the wicked. WORLD PEACE IS COMING! Asking questions is okay, but anyone that rejects the messages from the messenger of Malachi 3:1 rejects Jesus Christ Himself and that means they will also not be here when Jesus comes back.
Pretrib rapture is LIES, false teaching...
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Anytime someone deletes the messages from the messenger of Malachi 3:1they reject Jesus Christ Himself and that means they will not make it to heaven. Its your choice.*
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For Men, Smile, yes just smile. Every single chance you get. Smile in front of your wife. Let go of the Hurt and Pain. Make her feel Happy in your presence. God has to be your source of Love.
Dude! Yes! This!
True... but... letting go of hurt and pain is different from confronting sin. If you don't confront sin, then smiling will only get you so far
@@sonnyh9774 👍 agreed
@@kelseybarrett3560 Because I am Man, and only speak from a Man's Experience. I mean if it fits for Women, by all means. Sounds like you need to smile more 😊.
Thank you brother
If you are separated, just hit pause. Don’t push for divorce. Use that time to dig deep into your own personal behaviors that are contributing to the conflicts. Stop trying to fix your partner. Focus on what you can change. Not unreasonable things - healthy things you need to change to show up as your best self. Choose to love. Make the choice to love your partner no matter what they’ve done wrong or how they hurt you. We are all beggars and need forgiveness. When you choose to love your heart will be turned back to the needs and concerns of your partner. You will be better able to see their pain and mourn with them. Make these changes before it’s too late.
I’m trying but it’s so hard
It's been 12 days and each passing day alarms me. Keep me in your thoughts and prayers, please.
I'm so happy having my former partner back , after being separated for months . All thanks to Mr Ehijator whom help me to get back my ex again , I will suggest y'all to get help from him and it works within 48hours
Try almost 6months brother :/
It hurts so bad
@Gandalf M. Student I hope your still alive and thuggin it out brother.
Did they come back?
I miss my wife so much, it's tearing me apart. My heart feels so empty.
I'm so happy having my former partner back , after being separated for months . All thanks to Mr Ehijator whom help me to get back my ex again , I will suggest y'all to get help from him and it works within 48hours
Me too. She’s gone and says she’s never coming back 😢
I miss my husband. I feel like I lost my best friend.
Same! Married 37 years. She's left me for another man. I can not find words to express the pain, loneliness, betrayal and soul wrenching hurt that consumes me minute by minute, every day. I am crushed!
@@timkobe487 I’m so sorry. It’s the most painful thing I’ve ever gone through. I can’t imagine it happening after 37 years. Praying for you.
I’m currently separated from my wife! I did many things that were wrong. My wife doesn’t trust me anymore! She doesn’t think I can be better. She wants to move hours away from me. However, we are talking now. And she does want to be around me more. I’m trying to be the best version of myself
I’m in the same place my guys it’s the worst pain I’ve ever experienced!! I pray everyday me and my wife will work this out , but it seems she’s ready to just let me go after 15 years! 😢😢 I pray that all of you find the strength to get through this I know all we can do is put it in gods hands
Did u guys get back together ?
@@The1277game816did you work it out?
I miss my husband. I pray one day he will want to reconcile. 😢
Hey Beryl Steindl, Just out of curiosity, have you taken advantage of our free mini course? We know times are tough and want to provide as much as we can to you free of charge. That's why we created this free mini course. It will teach you how to get your spouse back and give you a plan moving forward! You can get access to it directly by following this link:
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Has he come back?
As a man I just remember how calm & peaceful it was being separated from my wife's drama. Being away allowed her other man to have her full time & even he got tired of having her & the kids full time and left.
lack of a 'safe place' when communicating might have had a lot to do with why the separation happened. Difficult to re-set how both interacted for years, but I'm sure it's possible. Men are seldom given a safe space to express feelings or their view of what's happened. .
I’ve only really seen my husband come home more.
He doesn’t make an effort to talk or open up to me. He keeps his distance, but he is home more often.
My husband of 35 years left me for a younger woman and I am devastated and heartbroken. We were together nearly 38 yrs more than half our lives 😢 I can’t forget him and our family has been torn apart. I am trying to get on without him but it’s difficult.
I am so sorry.
Not impossible pray God is key. Restoration is possible
Im so sorry
I came home Friday and he disappeared with no conversations about him wanting to leave. Took everything and sent a text. I am so lost. Hope things work out 🥺
Do what she’s saying. I’m seeing all these signs.
We are in the middle of a separation n a divorce .. we never stopped talking we talk everyday n see them every week day. Court will order visitation n we will agree on child support joint custody
More videos on separation please!!!
My wife has separated. My heart hurts bad. I've made changes. She won't give me a chance to prove it. We had such a great relationship or so i thought. She masked her feelings. Then, she dropped the hammer.
Yes all 3, I was going hopeless but now I see how there is hope for our family.
My wife is never coming back. No matter what I do, I know in my heart she's happier without me. My self on the other hand, this has been the most difficult experience of my life. She played so many roles, she was my lover, my friend, my motherly support, she is still my other half. 😭
Hey Epic Prince, so sorry to hear you are going through this. Because of the complexity of this situation, we would strongly advise you reach out to us directly! You can call us at 1 (866) 903 0990 and be connected with one of our Client Representatives who will guide you to the best resources we have available for your situation. You can also schedule the call yourself for a time that works best for you by following this link: marriagehelper.com/marriage-strategy-call/
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Focus on becoming a better man. You know where that starts. Jesus Christ. Learn what God's Love is. It's when you come to the conclusion that your Source of Love can't come from yourself not can be determined by your Wife's conduct. No it comes from God. It's perfect Love. No matter how angry she makes you, how hurt, etc. You just simply show her love in return. Once you let the Holy Spirit inside of you. You will become a new Creation
Amen to that don’t give up brother with man it’s impossible but with god every thing is possible god can soften the heart of the most hardened as they come keep faith an walk by faith not by sight brother
We are in the same boat. Right now, I have a pit in my stomach. I can't eat, sleep, or socialize. I just need to know if she has someone else. None of this makes sense.
Been seperated for over a year now, we havnt spoken over a year now. She doesn't respond to me. Has me blocked on social media. Just found out she's now moved on to another city far away. She seems to be enjoying her new life, while I feel so lost
I have a feeling that the longer I'm separated, the less likely we get back together because she is getting more and more comfortable without me in her life. 😞
I hope everything worked out for you. I am currently in the same situation, and I feel the same way.
Stay Strong Brother💯 I relate to that feeling
Same
@@captainn3105 how did things go? I'm on 2nd day of my wife suddenly leaving with zero warning and she says she doesn't want to reconcile. I'm gutted, I never cheated or abused her.
It's a good time to invest more in yourself. Whatever will be, will be. Just be the best version of yourself. You'll get better over time.
Mine left 28th of August, I nearly went mad... But today, something happend and we're talking again. 😊
My wife wants a separation,but doesn't want a divorce. She says she needs time to work on herself, as I haven't been the nicest with my words. We stay in the same house, but different beds. I can tell she wants us, but is afraid things will be the same as they were before. I changed everything, a week before I found out she was able to get an apartment without me.
Yes my husband do come ocer to see my daughter,but since he hurt me really bad its hard to open up,so i asked him to cut the visitation short
I love m’y husband so much I pray one day he forgives me
how do i know if my husband wants to be around me when he left in the first place because he said he wanted freedom? please help!
Yes we are working things out wondering how quick or slow it should be we have kids
My wife wants to speand time with me and she wants to stay in contact.... she doesn't say "I miss you". Two out of three is a good average. I think with some time she will come around. Just need more time!!
Heck yeah! I am working on these little bit victories, too! Three weeks ago she asked for a divorce and while the first 36 hrs were rough, we started communicating, we went on a day date this last weekend, and other various things. Her deep genuine laughter is like music to my hear and I haven't heard that in a couple years it feels like. Enjoy each and every little win and keep it up!
Twenty six days until the Divorce is final.... Unless he decides to not mail in the final papers.
He feels uncertain and afraid to try again. We've only been Married for a year and a half. We're both older, in our sixties.
We both have a lot of past hurts from previous relationships and this current relationship to navigate. Will we make it? Our future is in our hands, I'm praying that we both will make Decisions that will honor God.
My miss my husband I feel like I don't know who he is now
My husband asked me for a divorce and that is not what I want he said I have to much drama Iin my life Trying to keep my marriage alive
Hey Colleen Cook, Just out of curiosity, have you taken advantage of our free mini course? We know times are tough and want to provide as much as we can to you free of charge. That's why we created this free mini course. It will teach you how to get your spouse back and give you a plan moving forward! You can get access to it directly by following this link:
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What if you had the chance to do all this but didn’t do it and now your husband left and he won’t talk to you at all unless it’s about your daughter??? I kept asking and pushing for a divorce and he finally left and I didn’t mean it… is it to late??? I messed things up even more by taking his key away to the house even tho he has another key.. he said he was tired of playing childish games.. so is my marriage done and over with cause I kept pushing?? I also don’t know how to get him to talk to me because he ignores me.. I text him a lot but he doesn’t respond. So he is doing the no contact rule on me😭 what do I even do..
I wait 4ever to reconcile with my husband ❤♾ (he led by jealous frenemy 4herself as we suffered deep grief/money/health worries hard2bear)
What if my wife has been gone a month and is already living with another man?
Yeah…I was told to never speak to him again. So now what?!?
I been separated for four months I think she not coming back I’m going to file for a divorce, she doesn’t even talk to me anymore
What if the spouse that left, moved over 1k miles away. There are positive signs, but spending time physically together is impossible, and I don't know how to get past that.
Leviticus is referring to pedophilia.
Mathew 19:12 Eunuchs that are born that way are transgender. Eunuchs made that way by others were molested and something inside of them blocks off a certain type of body but it doesn't happen to everyone that is abused. Those that CHOOSE to live like Eunuchs for THE SAKE OF THE KINGDOM OF HEAVEN are bisexual people that choose partners of the same sex-characteristics but opposite in regards to gender. GENDER is determined in the brain and designated at birth and has nothing to do with sex characteristics. Notice, God PREFERS for people to be in LGBT relationships.
You know rapture occurs right HERE on earth right? Malachi 4:2-3 It is when God's true people shine like the sun with the glory of the Lord right here on earth. Jesus comes back to rule. Some people will live forever. The rapture teaching inside the fake churches is mostly LIES. The new heaven and earth will be made here. Do you get it? The ones taken are NOT good. WW3 will bring down all government institutions and they are ALL corrupt. 1/3 of all people will die at least. I am Elijah of Malachi 4:5-6 and Acts 3:22-23 says it will come to pass that anyone that fails to listen to me will be utterly destroyed from among the people. Anyone that continues to teach the LIE of monetary tithing or sells anything at all using the gospel CHOOSES to DIE with the wicked. It's their choice. Same-sex marriage is NOT a sin. Mathew 19:12 says God PREFERS for people to be in LGBT relationships. Anyone that teaches it is a sin when it is not also CHOOSES to perish with the wicked. WORLD PEACE IS COMING! Asking questions is okay, but anyone that rejects the messages from the messenger of Malachi 3:1 rejects Jesus Christ Himself and that means they will also not be here when Jesus comes back.
Pretrib rapture is LIES, false teaching...
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Anytime someone deletes the messages from the messenger of Malachi 3:1they reject Jesus Christ Himself and that means they will not make it to heaven. Its your choice.*
That makes two of us!! She has been gone for over 10 years now, ...no communication at all..nothing.
The question is how long before you see these signs?
You are awesome Kimberly
It takes two.
If change isn't by both, there isn't room for growth.
I just made that btw 🙂
Has MH done a video on perimenopause and if that can play a role during a divorce, separation or otherwise decision of one's spouse? Would there be lots of emotions in this process if it were? Do women respond differently when this process begins that may lead to her having emotional swings?
I'm so happy having my former partner back , after being separated for months . All thanks to Mr Ehijator whom help me to get back my ex again , I will suggest y'all to get help from him and it works within 48hours
My Sarah will not talk to me, at all... how can I get her to talk with me when she won't hear me, period? I'll view your free training this coming week; thank you.
I wish I knew about your program years ago
If there is any abuse (physical or emotional) towards either party or children, walk away. That will not change. 🙏
I love her so much. I hope she forgives me for being such an ass. Not sure I deserve forgiveness but I want to keep trying.
Donovan Bailey, Thank you for your comment. The first thing we try to teach people is how to have healthy communication with their spouse to avoid making the situation any worse. One of the main tips is to stop PUSH Behaviors. This is anything you do (or don't do) that tends to push your spouse away from you. We teach you 4 other rules you need to follow to help with this situation in our free e-book! You can download it here if interested!
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I am right in this with you man, remember this: You are a human being with flaws, just like her. Every person deserves forgiveness and love. You have to start by forgiving yourself. You are carrying a heavy load, no need to carry that weight as well. You are not defined by what you DID, but only by how hard you work to be a better person. It is your ACTIONS not your past that define you.
Do you have a mini-course on how to reach a separated spouse through a third party? My wife separated from me in September last year, and then blocked me on every media, including telephone. So now my only hope is to reach out to her through her mother. But I am not sure how to convince the mother to agree to be a mediator ... do you have a mini-course on how to do that?
Hey Clement, we actually discuss this exact situation in our SMART Contact Toolkit! It is part of one of our bonus videos in the course.
You can learn more about that here:
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You may also find value in a previous episode of Relationship Radio that discusses "How To Show Your Spouse You've Changed" in which we discuss what to do when you are separated.
You can find that video here!
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@@MarriageHelper Thanks I shall try that video first. Thanks!
I don't mean this to offend or anything but it's nice to see someone else going through something similar. I know your pain and feel for you. My wife left me last June for a guy in our friend group. She started lying about me to the group and her aunt who is the only family she has left and cut all ties with me and blocked all communication except through attorney's which she then blamed me for getting when I got one only after hers contacted me about signing separation papers giving her our house.
I hope things get better for you and know you aren't the only person dealing with something like this. I felt that way for months until reading your response, thank you.
Leviticus is referring to pedophilia.
Mathew 19:12 Eunuchs that are born that way are transgender. Eunuchs made that way by others were molested and something inside of them blocks off a certain type of body but it doesn't happen to everyone that is abused. Those that CHOOSE to live like Eunuchs for THE SAKE OF THE KINGDOM OF HEAVEN are bisexual people that choose partners of the same sex-characteristics but opposite in regards to gender. GENDER is determined in the brain and designated at birth and has nothing to do with sex characteristics. Notice, God PREFERS for people to be in LGBT relationships.
You know rapture occurs right HERE on earth right? Malachi 4:2-3 It is when God's true people shine like the sun with the glory of the Lord right here on earth. Jesus comes back to rule. Some people will live forever. The rapture teaching inside the fake churches is mostly LIES. The new heaven and earth will be made here. Do you get it? The ones taken are NOT good. WW3 will bring down all government institutions and they are ALL corrupt. 1/3 of all people will die at least. I am Elijah of Malachi 4:5-6 and Acts 3:22-23 says it will come to pass that anyone that fails to listen to me will be utterly destroyed from among the people. Anyone that continues to teach the LIE of monetary tithing or sells anything at all using the gospel CHOOSES to DIE with the wicked. It's their choice. Same-sex marriage is NOT a sin. Mathew 19:12 says God PREFERS for people to be in LGBT relationships. Anyone that teaches it is a sin when it is not also CHOOSES to perish with the wicked. WORLD PEACE IS COMING! Asking questions is okay, but anyone that rejects the messages from the messenger of Malachi 3:1 rejects Jesus Christ Himself and that means they will also not be here when Jesus comes back.
Pretrib rapture is LIES, false teaching...
***....
Anytime someone deletes the messages from the messenger of Malachi 3:1they reject Jesus Christ Himself and that means they will not make it to heaven. Its your choice.*
Does this include if spouse left for affair partner but is still unsure if that's what they want?
I was wondering the same thing. Im dealing with the same issue as you right now.
I would say yes. Limerence is temporary.
No
Leviticus is referring to pedophilia.
Mathew 19:12 Eunuchs that are born that way are transgender. Eunuchs made that way by others were molested and something inside of them blocks off a certain type of body but it doesn't happen to everyone that is abused. Those that CHOOSE to live like Eunuchs for THE SAKE OF THE KINGDOM OF HEAVEN are bisexual people that choose partners of the same sex-characteristics but opposite in regards to gender. GENDER is determined in the brain and designated at birth and has nothing to do with sex characteristics. Notice, God PREFERS for people to be in LGBT relationships.
You know rapture occurs right HERE on earth right? Malachi 4:2-3 It is when God's true people shine like the sun with the glory of the Lord right here on earth. Jesus comes back to rule. Some people will live forever. The rapture teaching inside the fake churches is mostly LIES. The new heaven and earth will be made here. Do you get it? The ones taken are NOT good. WW3 will bring down all government institutions and they are ALL corrupt. 1/3 of all people will die at least. I am Elijah of Malachi 4:5-6 and Acts 3:22-23 says it will come to pass that anyone that fails to listen to me will be utterly destroyed from among the people. Anyone that continues to teach the LIE of monetary tithing or sells anything at all using the gospel CHOOSES to DIE with the wicked. It's their choice. Same-sex marriage is NOT a sin. Mathew 19:12 says God PREFERS for people to be in LGBT relationships. Anyone that teaches it is a sin when it is not also CHOOSES to perish with the wicked. WORLD PEACE IS COMING! Asking questions is okay, but anyone that rejects the messages from the messenger of Malachi 3:1 rejects Jesus Christ Himself and that means they will also not be here when Jesus comes back.
Pretrib rapture is LIES, false teaching...
***....
Anytime someone deletes the messages from the messenger of Malachi 3:1they reject Jesus Christ Himself and that means they will not make it to heaven. Its your choice.*
@@jenniferstewart3062 same situation currently 😞
How can i have a coach
@Gulcan Kilic What for arrange marriage.
Do you know it’s really annoying if someone is separated and I don’t wanna be how can I not want to be and how can I be positive clearly you’ve never been separated people are separated for many different reasons I just think you don’t know what you’re talking about to be completely honest I just want people to click on your videos again
She filed for this, I went to the house Saturday and we went and got her something to eat together and we sat and talked until almost midnight, I went over yesterday to do the yard and afterwards I said how about we get a pizza and eat, my son was there also. He went and got the food and we talked, I stayed until 10:30 and left. I am trying to hold on to her but I don’t want to “push” her away…HELP!,,..
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Those are really positive signs, how are things going?
@@el1te1984 well, she doesn’t want to see me or talk to me now, all went downhill….she has become mean and hateful.
@@robc3887 sorry to hear bro, going through something similar. Keep your head up and get in the gym
Love that shirt!!!!!!
I agree with the signs and the point of putting in effort for your own changes. But some of the phrasing/framing used in this video sounds slightly manipulative. Not all of it, but a couple times my ears perked up.
HOWEVER, I do agree these things can help keep the door open for them to return and both hearts open to healing.
Everything we teach is 100% NOT manipulation. Which part made you feel that way? We may be able to address it.
THANKS TO DR Greatest Ehinoma
Is she filed for divorce not one?
Leviticus is referring to pedophilia.
Mathew 19:12 Eunuchs that are born that way are transgender. Eunuchs made that way by others were molested and something inside of them blocks off a certain type of body but it doesn't happen to everyone that is abused. Those that CHOOSE to live like Eunuchs for THE SAKE OF THE KINGDOM OF HEAVEN are bisexual people that choose partners of the same sex-characteristics but opposite in regards to gender. GENDER is determined in the brain and designated at birth and has nothing to do with sex characteristics. Notice, God PREFERS for people to be in LGBT relationships.
You know rapture occurs right HERE on earth right? Malachi 4:2-3 It is when God's true people shine like the sun with the glory of the Lord right here on earth. Jesus comes back to rule. Some people will live forever. The rapture teaching inside the fake churches is mostly LIES. The new heaven and earth will be made here. Do you get it? The ones taken are NOT good. WW3 will bring down all government institutions and they are ALL corrupt. 1/3 of all people will die at least. I am Elijah of Malachi 4:5-6 and Acts 3:22-23 says it will come to pass that anyone that fails to listen to me will be utterly destroyed from among the people. Anyone that continues to teach the LIE of monetary tithing or sells anything at all using the gospel CHOOSES to DIE with the wicked. It's their choice. Same-sex marriage is NOT a sin. Mathew 19:12 says God PREFERS for people to be in LGBT relationships. Anyone that teaches it is a sin when it is not also CHOOSES to perish with the wicked. WORLD PEACE IS COMING! Asking questions is okay, but anyone that rejects the messages from the messenger of Malachi 3:1 rejects Jesus Christ Himself and that means they will also not be here when Jesus comes back.
Pretrib rapture is LIES, false teaching...
***....
Anytime someone deletes the messages from the messenger of Malachi 3:1they reject Jesus Christ Himself and that means they will not make it to heaven. Its your choice.*
These are really obvious positive signs, I don't think these are particularly helpful
When you treat your husband like a child, emasculating him because you want to dominate and contol (out of fear of loss and personal insecurity and unhappiness with yourself), you will drive him away. You bash him and are not a wife, and then are clueless why he doest want to be with you. Start first with immediately accepting responsibility for your hostile and dishonest action breaking your vows to him, and maybe you have a chance. It is not about communication, it is not about him opening up his emotions and being more feminine, it is you not being emotionally mature. All of this behavior to cope with your feeling about yourself, leads to your sorrow- forever
😞 my sweet husband has been away for three months, he did not even take his clothes, he complains exactly about it, and rightfully so, I have a personality disorder and my emotions are deregulated, however it’s not excuse.
What if the spouse that wants to stay is a narcisist and a psychopath? Should the other one stay?
Leviticus is referring to pedophilia.
Mathew 19:12 Eunuchs that are born that way are transgender. Eunuchs made that way by others were molested and something inside of them blocks off a certain type of body but it doesn't happen to everyone that is abused. Those that CHOOSE to live like Eunuchs for THE SAKE OF THE KINGDOM OF HEAVEN are bisexual people that choose partners of the same sex-characteristics but opposite in regards to gender. GENDER is determined in the brain and designated at birth and has nothing to do with sex characteristics. Notice, God PREFERS for people to be in LGBT relationships.
You know rapture occurs right HERE on earth right? Malachi 4:2-3 It is when God's true people shine like the sun with the glory of the Lord right here on earth. Jesus comes back to rule. Some people will live forever. The rapture teaching inside the fake churches is mostly LIES. The new heaven and earth will be made here. Do you get it? The ones taken are NOT good. WW3 will bring down all government institutions and they are ALL corrupt. 1/3 of all people will die at least. I am Elijah of Malachi 4:5-6 and Acts 3:22-23 says it will come to pass that anyone that fails to listen to me will be utterly destroyed from among the people. Anyone that continues to teach the LIE of monetary tithing or sells anything at all using the gospel CHOOSES to DIE with the wicked. It's their choice. Same-sex marriage is NOT a sin. Mathew 19:12 says God PREFERS for people to be in LGBT relationships. Anyone that teaches it is a sin when it is not also CHOOSES to perish with the wicked. WORLD PEACE IS COMING! Asking questions is okay, but anyone that rejects the messages from the messenger of Malachi 3:1 rejects Jesus Christ Himself and that means they will also not be here when Jesus comes back.
Pretrib rapture is LIES, false teaching...
***....
Anytime someone deletes the messages from the messenger of Malachi 3:1they reject Jesus Christ Himself and that means they will not make it to heaven. Its your choice.*
No
Have you seen this video from Marriage Helper? marriagehelper.com/can-a-narcissist-change/
Here's another great reference: marriagehelper.com/married-to-a-narcissist-cbw/
His new partner? Allows zero contact with me. In any way. Family business or kids. What do I do? The business is in financial difficulties. I need his contact, denied.
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We truly hope it helps you.
I'm so happy having my former partner back , after being separated for months . All thanks to Mr Ehijator whom help me to get back my ex again , I will suggest y'all to get help from him and it works within 48hours
It’s always about what she wants… us men has no say in anything. Folks separation does not make an marriage better and it does not make the relationship work period.
Separation adds up to a divorce. Anytime a woman say she wants separation just ask her what day she wants the divorce cause most separation ends in a divorce and the system is set to only let the woman make the decision but not the man.