Detransitioner: "My Penis Is Gone Forever & I Regret it" | Emotional Interview
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- čas přidán 24. 07. 2024
- This is my intense, emotional interview with a male-to-female-to-male detransitioner who goes by the screen name ShapeShifter. The full episode of this podcast airs on @TheBlaireWhiteProject the day after this video goes live, as well as on Spotify + all streaming platforms.
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Thanks Blaire! I 💗 you!!
Funny story... about a year ago I was on the ask transgender reddit (concerned parent of a trans identifying daughter here:-)).... a young person was on there asking for recommendations on who to have his mom watch for good information about trans issues. He mentioned his mom had been watching you, and several ppl were saying he should give her OTHER ppl to watch and that you were horrible and a transphobe.
Ha ha suckers!!
Those comments are what piqued my interest in checking you out. Silver lining to the hater clouds my dear!!
Oh, and I love Shapeshifter too💕 I'm sorry for the losses he's had, truly heartbreaking.
I want to tell him something in case he hasn't heard of it.
Oxytocin is the bonding/love hormone that is produced by many physical activities, including sex. It sounds like Shape has been robbed of his ability to orgasm or even enjoy sex. BUT he can still get the feel good emotions that we get after sex by physical closeness, massages, etc. There are other "feel good" hormones too (dopamine, serotonin, endorphins). When ppl talk about the potential risks of SRS and it's impact on sexual function i feel like they leave out the part about how sex gives us both physical AND EMOTIONAL well-being and without it.... we can suffer in multiple ways. I grieve for the loss Shapeshifter has and I hope someone can help guide him in ways to nuture his body and his mind.... and how he can achieve the feelings of intimacy and love and bonding even with his limitations 💗💗💗
You’re a class act, Blair.
If I had to formulate maybe the most important question to ask a feminine biological male who wants to transition it would be this:
Are you transitioning because of gender dysphoria or are you depressed that as a feminine man there seems to be certain men you can’t date and you want to date them and you think if you transition you would be able to…for me this has to be asked. It’s the elephant in the room.
We know gay men generally are attracted to masculinity. So clearly feminine gay men are desiring to be loved by a man who is attracted to your femininity not your masculinity so your odds of finding a gay man who is attracted to you is low. So clearly you need to find straight men who once you had a sex change wouldn’t care…or men who like both biological woman and trans woman.
I can say that there are masculine men like myself who I guess you could say are bisexual or just those that are attracted to femininity. It’s funny cause you called the men that didn’t want you to get the full sex change tyranny chasers. But in sense that shows the sense of self hatred that is buried. The ones that are genuinely are attracted to who you are as you are just those with a fetish. And yet you want the guys who would only like you if you chopped your dick off. That just shows you how our society makes people hate those that have your back and are drawn to those that don’t.
Hello Blaire you're amazing. As a straight women I totally support you. Much love.
‘They didn’t protect me from myself’ has to be the saddest confession ever
Ikr 😭😭
This broke my heart
He's not a child .... His parents failed to teach him how to protect himself from himself and others ..mentally emotionally and physically
@@aureliemariesimacourbe7220 and he rejected his parents' attempts to protect him from himself.
@@aureliemariesimacourbe7220 I totally agree, I mean we can’t police everyone
The fact that the Trans community would label him Transphobic tells you everything you need to know!
We all know how hostile cult members can be to people outside the cult, especially those who were part of it then abandoned it.
Edit: I am referring to the Woke cult not transgenderism, my apologies I can see why people would misunderstand.
@@crimsonshinobi5281 You are so right.
It’s is literally a Cult/religion of hate.
@@crimsonshinobi5281 being trans isn’t a cult…
@@xhappyponyxwasmyoldname1395 not in a formal sense... but those who follow the beliefs act the same as those in a cult
“They affirmed me into self harm.” WOW. What a powerful statement.
I keep hearing de-transitioners say "I wish someone had just told me I needed therapy and a hug." Ok, but when we tried to do that in the earliest stages of the trans movement gaining social traction, you got angry, threatened us, threatened to cancel us and get us fired for transphobia, and you called us all the nasty names in the book. YOU stopped us from giving you what we knew you needed.
Say that again!! I'm getting you a microphone.
Well it depends fr ofc you’re not gonna be able to take that in from strangers telling you that on the internet bc they don’t know you but he wishes his family, knowing all he’s been through, would’ve stopped him and made him think past the influence of the internet or doctors pushing transition and dive deeper into himself/ what unresolved trauma is causing him to feel the way he does
Yup
That is a harsh but sad truth. And most of these people who claim to be trans, pan, binary etc............are just attention seeking.
This is why children should be made to wait til adulthood to make that decision.
“The bitter truth is better than a sweet lie.” Great line.
This needs to be heard by everyone in the left.
A lot of people with gender dysphoria need to hear the truth but instead they are being lied to by affirming their mental disorder. We don’t normalize schizophrenia, we help them. I actually feel for these people, they need our compassion and help.
roflmfPPo
Hes a eunuch..
Also, you cant change bone structure
No the “truth” sometimes is the lie like for example religion
When I was 13 I was diagnosed by my therapist that I had gender identity disorder and went on for six months thinking I was a trans man. The fact is that I’m just a tomboy and 8 years later I’m more feminine. Why do they just jump to that when a kid says they feel like a boy or girl
That really does suck how people are so quick to call femboys n tomboys trans just because their more masculine or femine then average
When I was a young child in the 70s, I wanted to play with hot wheels, Tonka trunks and cars, explore creeks, dig in the dirt etc….if I was growing up today I would be “transgender”.
@@ladycaticorn2950 Well real trans people exist and shouldn’t be punished for what a few confused people do
The bottom line here is that kids don't have the maturity to decide to transition. That is a decision that should be made by adults only. ALL CHILDREN should be encouraged to wait until they grow up to make these decisions.
@@calebmurdock2028 Teens do though when it comes to medical transition but kids have the maturity for social transition.
As a 44 year old woman who had a double mastectomy and failed reconstruction, I feel terribly sad for this poor soul. It's hell losing something due to cancer, knowing you have done this to yourself has to be living in hell on Earth.😪😪😪😪😪😪😪
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Im sorry to hear about that. Both my grandmas had to get mastectomies. One a double one a single. If you dont mind sharing, what went wrong with your reconstruction? It should have just been implants right?
“They didn’t protect me from myself.” 💔
This is why it isn’t loving or kind to lie. Don’t be rude or mean, but don’t lie. Regular therapist are stuck with bosses that are telling them to lie or leave. However, there are Christian counselors for Christians going through this stuff that I actually will be honest and give actual support, including deliverance and Christian soul wound therapy, ministry connections.
"They affirmed my delusions." "Transitioning is a huge industry." "It's like a sexual lobotomy." This video needs to go viral
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The social experiment part was scarily true as well.
I got banned from Twitter for saying in the very near future we will regard these trans surgeries the same way we regard lobotomies.
I feel so sad for him :(
"Sometimes a bitter truth is better than a sweet lie." Too. That was powerful, and exactly why I stopped lying to myself and other people about gender ideology.
"They never dove into my childhood trauma." I feel like a lot of people who are gender confused need to do this before anything else, especially anything permanent.
I fear most are running away from trauma
trauma and gender dysphoria go hand in hand
They can't do anything but affirm or else they get fired
@@owl3650 So you are saying no one is allowed to delve into their childhood trauma as a natural course of their therapy?
Oh, definitely...and what they are doing is putting a band aid on when heart surgery is in order. They are only fooling themselves and others who are just as disillusioned. @@britishroyalfamilyvideos
Thank you both for your vulnerability and courage to share your heart and your experiences ❤🙏🏻
Here is the problem, you did this to yourself.
Your who ever you want to be your sill beautiful
@@justiceseekerbe in a body for one second, then hate it so much you wanted to kill yourself, then double this two times over! These people are not like the new wave of ‘I’m trans’ they are trans people … true trans people..xx
It’s a message for people to stop messing with the natural way of things! Accept who you are, embrace your uniqueness and try to understand that changing your body, gender or pronouns, is not going make you feel happier. Love and acceptance comes from one’s self first.
You are loved ❤️
I agree with most of what you said. Except for these ladies wearing makeup and dresses etc. That is 💯 % fine and good if it makes them happy. And it's not harmful like Rx & surgery can be.
“I wish somebody hugged me a few years back…”
Such a powerful statement! Yes, they need help and love not mutilation.
But most people discriminates them and pushes them away
@@Ishnunez because the LGBT has an agenda, and it isn't to help people, especially children.
@@Ishnunez yes its our fault not whatever it is
stay out of MY genitals ...people detransition not because they are no longer trans but because of pressure from the haters and christians, you wouldnt know that becuase you never asked the questions world eg LOOK AT THIS GIRL TALKING SHE'S UNHAPPY WITH THE SURGERY RESULTS NOT WITH BEING TRANSGENDER...YOU ARE THE PROBLEM GURL
They, themselves inflict themselves mutilation and somehow it is somebody else's fault ...🤯
Besides if he/she/they transitioned "male-to-female-to-male", how come she looks and dresses like a woman?!?!?
The fact that therapist and doctors just “drop” their patients after these major surgeries is disgusting. You are altering these people’s lives permanently and they need continued help after these surgeries.
That’s how surgeons are. I had weight loss surgery and they just didn’t give a f*** about me after the procedure. I had major complications and got down to 79 lb (I’m 5’7) and they just didn’t care about me because I wasn’t a success story blowing smoke up the surgeon’s butt. They just told me all my complications like constant puking blood and agony for 2 years were ‘good for weight loss’ and to drink root beer and see my normal doctor when I called and called for help. The truth was, I wasn’t that big to start with, (167 lb) and should never have been operated on, but I was in a bad place and they saw $$$$. It’s an industry just like selling cars.
Yes so they can make more money
@@blondesense1708 OMG!! I would love to weigh 167!! My problem is with my pancreas and being able to secrete enough digestive juice not eating! I weigh 196 but it's mostly muscle and if I got the surgery I would just be worse I know it
Yep. Spend five minutes on r/transgendersurgeries and it's nothing but post after post after post of people with wound dehiscence, necrotic tissue, and a rotten meat smell describing how their surgeons were suddenly impossible to get a hold of and/or didn't care about a surgical wound that warranted IMMEDIATE medical care.
And all the other commenters are like "oh ya girl it's totally normal for your "clit" to fall off. Your kitty looks AmAzInG!!!1!!!1!1!!!"
Grown men calling vaginas "kitties" and pretending actual dying tissue is notmal... All in the day of a neovagina I guess.
@@blondesense1708 I'm sorry that happened. I can't believe they dismissed the fact that you were vomiting blood. I thought that was a medical emergency. Are you in the US? The healthcare industry there seems to be seriously messed up.
The courage it must take to have this conversation in public is unbelievable.
He is so well spoken and I feel truly sorry that this happened to him
We will be seeing a lot more people like this in the years to come.
De transition rate is rlly low
@@nyomic.7341 Because it's nearly impossible to reverse the damage done. Exactly what has been said by the very depressed individuals who transition before the frontal lobe is developed.
@@alissahhodges5854 that’s not why de transitioning is a low rate, not everyone who transitions gets things surgically done IST extremely expensive. It’s low because ppl are making the choice that best suits them. Younger teens that want to transition are not getting anything done that is irreversible they will be fine
@@nyomic.7341 they are thou! I know of several teens who had top surgery..their boobs are gone forever 😢, their uterus is not grown properly and they can’t have pregnancy..it’s frankly fucked up. 😢
@@MrsStevenBrown younger teens are not eligible to get top surgery, you have to be 18 at that point they are an adult. Anyone younger would have to prove that they are in an extreme state of mental distress and have to be signed off by a mental health professional. We have a small percentage of ppl who are trans, then we have an even smaller percentage of teens that’s are trans, and then an even smaller percentage of families that can afford a $10,000 surgery. And within all of that you have only a small percentage of ppl that regret transitioning. It’s not fucked up if that’s what they wanted for themselves
“They never tackled my childhood traumas… they affirmed me into self harm” oof. This breaks my heart for him and also for other people who are struggling with trauma or mental health issues and being pushed towards such medical extremes
Because how would random people on the internet know how to deal with trauma
When the average mental health professional isn’t even trained in trauma related mental illnesses
Use your common sense kid
THIS. We need to address these deeper issues. Parents need to give these children the tools they need to sit with the hard shit, the uncomfortable emotions, the trauma, the pain and heal from it. The mental health issues NEED to be addressed at the very least while making these decisions about altering your body. I cant stress enough how little this is being talked about and young trans people need to be DILIGIGENT on getting their mindset in the right space before rushing into life alrtering decisions. For some people they get lucky and it works out but for so many others it doesnt and leaves people abandoned/broken.
*Her* ???
@@schabowy6149 Misgendering much? He's back to male.
@@cadenharmsen8845 how can a health professional determine if its a genuine case of gender dysphoria if all they are permitted to do is affirm these people? their hands are tied. There's not enough *GATE* *KEEPING* for something that's such a profoundly life changing decision and has such devastating consequences if they make a mistake! it's about protecting people.
It's the doctors. Their first priority is supposed to be, "Do no harm." This person has obviously been harmed. None of the doctors thought to say, "Maybe get a little therapy first, see where that goes. Then you can decide what's best for you." I think it's a crime, and he should sue for malpractice. Any other unneeded surgery a doctor performed on someone would be considered malpractice.
This madness has to stop completely.
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He is the prime example of why we need to protect our children and why mental health is so important. I appreciate the courage it took for him to come on the show and be completely honest and open.
All these people need to do repent from sin give Jesus a try.
My heart is dying because of these poor kids. Parents should be imprisoned but the government is pushing this. They really are evil. People need God for real
@@pearlettadouglas4218was looking for a real point. Got it! Even if parents would "protect him from himself", without one who'd lead him to Jesus you have a straight man straight to hell.
@@1jazzyphae he wasn't a kid when HE decide to mutilate his body...I save my love and compation for children in wars they didn't choose . He got what he deserve and paid for it
@@user-nc8hv7jb2mParents, and society GREATLY influence kids decisions. Believe it or not.
If someone has every right to tell their story of their successful transition, then these people also have every right to tell their story of their painful de-transition. This person is very strong for what they have went through and to be able to talk about this publicly.
More detransitioners need to speak up so those think they are trans but are not can realise it's a mistake
Exactly
This doesn't even need to be a de-transition story per se. The message should be just say no to bottom surgery whether you want to live as a woman or not.
I've said your words almost verbatim. I occasionally share detransitioning stories because of exactly that. How can people make an actual informed choice when the other side of the coin is rarely, if ever, heard? As well as when they are, they are most often demonized and hated within the trans world. Body dysmporphia is real, but not nearly on the scale we are seeing it. It's truly sad and disheartening what we're seeing happen to people.
@@Skeptique True
The fact that Shape has been through so much. The fact is that he is still here to tell his story.... It is an amazing representation of how strong he is. I hate that the medical industry is using people as an experiment... There is so much pain and blankness in his voice, but he is still speaking out to help and build awareness.
The nervous laughter is heartbreaking. She seems like such a beautiful person, inside and out. I can only imagine how she feels. ❤
Powerful words “nobody protected me from myself.” People think pushing back means trying to control. But it really means slowing down and thinking about long term consequences. Clarifying and solidifying what you believe so you can take ownership of choices so as to not be victimized by people who don’t care and would harm you for their profit.
Prayers of comfort and continued recovery for him.
Well-said!
As parents we know that we have to protect our children from themselves. Why do these doctors and surgeons not protect these children from themselves. They dish out puberty blockers to people's who's brains haven't developed anymore than their bodies have.
that part had me in tears instantly. I am not a crier, either.
That is a parents job, to as much as possible protect their child(ren) from their own self, at the same time teaching them how to look at all sides of a decision. It's what is so scary about these parents pushing for their young kids to change their outside instead of focusing on healing the inside, and counseling to find out where the desire to look different is really coming from. Maybe it's bc it would be revealed that they are causing emotional trauma to their child. I pray for the internal healing of all.
Human vipers lure with kind words & comfort.
It feels like Blaire is one of the only people willing to give detransitioners a place to share their stories. It's sad that the alphabet community rejects them because it doesn't fit their narrative that they're trying to push. Absolutely disgusting, in fact. Thank you, Blaire, for allowing these people to freely share their stories. They need to be heard.
Edit: Thank you for the suggestions, definitely going to check them out. Apologies for the state of the reply section though, it's a bit of a mess 💀
Benjamin Boyce interviews a lot of detransitioners on his channel.
@@MarkVA71 so did Ariel s..I didn't spell her name right but she had shape shifter on there too..it's so nice seeing more people and especially trans people have destransitioners on
It's sadder because the lgbtq community promotes live and kindness and acceptance and the very people they should embrace they reject. They are truly a failure movement.
Shoutout to Blaire👏🏾
Blaire is one of the few people that I consider a rational T
Sending love, compassion, and clarity to all people struggling finding themselves.
This was the saddest story. My heart breaks for every person that has been lied to. 😭
You can be masculine or feminine without needing to identify as male or female. I think this is super important to understand!
What does "masculine" or "feminine" mean anyway? A woman doesn't have to wear makeup and high heels, a real woman can wear boots and love football. This gender identity stuff is all promoting stereotypes.
Completely!!!
I just wish people would care less about gender expression and allow non confirming people to wear what they like without feeling pressured to fully transition. Especially if you are non binary you might feel different from day to day and that’s ok too
Lame
Nah bro, we got rid of personality and temperament. Gender is everything!!!!!!!!!!!!!11!’
The issue is that when people tell trans people to stop and think about medically transitioning or getting a sex change, they call you a transphobe. I find it appalling how some doctors do the surgeries or give the hormones without telling the patient everything and making sure they're 100% sure.
thats cuss they call doctors transphobes if they don't automatically give you the green light for hormones and surgery
it used to be like that, but unfortunately the restrictions have become so lax now, all the therapy you used to have to go through to make sure things like this didnt have simply isnt there anymore. "woke" culture and all these left extremists have diluted the measures that were in place so "children dont kill themselves" when , in some cases, these simply makes it worse
So true. I’m always called a transphobe. Doesn’t phase me at this point. The T cult encourages everyone to do surgeries without batting an eye
And the psychiatrists!
Also what happens when transitioning became a trend… like seriously, it is ridiculous. I’m sure there are people who truly want to change sex, but nowadays it seems everyone wants to do it just because they saw it on social media. Same thing with pronouns…
I'm in tears ...I'm praying so hard ...wow the honesty is amazing and the truth needs to be heard
So brave to share that testimony. It will help many! ❤
I was called a transphobe for talking my closest friend out of getting bottom surgery. To this day he told me I was the only one that actully helped him when he was Trans instead of pushing him to do something he would regret.
@@patriciab696 Thanks. I appreciate it.
So is he trans or no?
i would try to talk them out of it as well. i have lost friends over domestic voilence so I guess this would be no different... Don't mutulate yourself.. You will regret it...
@@Trix4ever of course. are you?
Detransitioners should never be silenced. This is what happens when there is no gate keeping. Keep them gates closed to those who aren’t transsexual. There’s a reason why there is (or was) criteria for medical transition. To stop transition regret. Thanks Blair for this video, very emotional but important to talk about this
There is no gatekeeping in the UK or at least I was an obvious patient that needed the treatment, I got it very swiftly when the 5 year waiting time was up. I even have surgery scheduled within a year or so on T. They think because you waited so long you really know, but in other aspects it's mostly not even trans people on the list waiting because they are confused, making the system struggle and those who are serious have to wait even longer
As well no gate keeper in Switzerland, otherwise called as transphobic.
@Anon Name Exactly. I've watched a lot of detransitioners on YT. You can essentialy boil it down to red flags:
1.) Avoided therapy like a plague
2.) Found the shortest, quickest route to HRT/surgery
3.) Lied to few remaining gate keepers there are to get approved
4.) wHy DiD nObOdY sToP mE?! :(
I'm sorry. I feel your pain. I'm sympathetic. But you don't get to play a victim of "criminal cabal of surgeons" if you as an sui iuris adult lied in order to advance quickly. Take it slow, take your time and start good therapy atleast as soon as you start HRT. Preferably before. IMHO.
can you believe ppl get off virtue signaling about supporting children transitioning or getting on puberty blockers and will NOT acknowledge this MAJOR problem...this is permanent body change that could ruin their lives...
Yep. Now they do nothing.
This was fascinating and so tragic. Thank you so much for reasoning awareness about this issue and helping me to understand it better. I wish Shape peace 🙏🏼😥❤️
My goodness….. I just want to give you the biggest, most meaningful, unconditional, love-filled hug right now. And never let go. My heart cracked when you said that you wish your parents knew enough to protect you from yourself. I wish that for you too & I truly wish for a brighter more fulfilling future for you too.
Love from CT ❤
You just expressed my feelings perfectly. Thank you!
“Sometimes the bitter truth is better than a sweet lie”
Always
so true
Sweet lie is necessary sometimes depends on the scenario, but it's not healthy doing it often.
it is but even when given both most ppl chose the sweet lie. :/
@@Keke_Poutri yah. But time and time again, the sweet lie will someday bite you in the A...
“And it’s pretty bad… and my story isn’t as bad… they have it worse”…. Wow. The compassion Shapeshifter can show for others while going through his own pain. That is empathy.
Absolutely true.
Thank you for coming forward. People like you speaking up for our children will save the next generation.
Heal the trauma and stop the mutilation. God Bless
THE BEST VIDEO you have ever put together. This person is being very brave and vulnerable telling his story. You can tell he is carrying a lot of pain
“Sometimes the bitter truth is better than a sweet lie” 👏
Amen
I have worked in this field of medicine and an advice that we can't say to many trans patients is that "surgery won't fix your internal problems that you're trying to escape from", I wish we can say it's a delusion but you'll get offended so we let you believe the lie and treat you as a business transaction
@@e3mel5eer83 I wouldn't give a fuq about them getting offended, I would tell them the truth and then they probably wouldn't do it and that would be a good thing.
@@MasterOfTheElements Your truth not the truth
@@kateofone No, my truth is the objective truth, you can't change your biological sex only it's secondary characteristics and they don't function the same as the real thing.
I feel so sorry for these people. I used to be a tomboy in the 90s, I can't imagine what could have happened to me if TikTok and all this crazy ideology had been around.
@August Miller I think they mean if they were a tomboy in the 90's with the same social influence as we have now, they could of possibly ended up thinking they were trans due to social media when really they were just a tom boy. I could be wrong though :')
Thank you! I was saying this with my family a week ago.. I was a tomboy, and jesus.. I remember thinking "being a guy would be so much funner, I'd be able to play with the boys and shit", then I forgot about that thought and grew into my hormones and my body and now I love being a woman. If I had tiktok literally grooming me into thinking I was trans I would of acted upon changing. It's a scary world. And when I have kids, they're not allowed any social media, because they will be just as impressionable as I was.
@@emilyward8910 I completely agree with everything you have said. When I was about 13-16 I was a tomboy but I used to follow a few tomboy youtubers who all came out as trans in the end. Due to this influence I thought that was the case with me. At the time I was overweight and boys were vile to me so I also thought being male would be easier as boys didn't want me but I had been asked out by several girls in the past. I'm glad I never made the transition because now that i'm 27, I am happy being a woman and actually enjoy it aside from periods haha :')
I don't pity them at all.
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One of my favorite interviews. Prayers lifted over this beautiful soul 🙏
His laugh to unsuccessfully mask his intense pain/sadness is so heartbreaking each time he does it. To grieve the loss of yourself due to actions you believed to be right has to be so profoundly confusing. How devastating 💔
His chuckle is actually heartbreaking because it’s him trying not to cry, it sounds like.
I agree I felt and heard that
That's how I felt too. Poor thing :(
Yes I agree! Laughing is a form of dealing with the situation at hand I do the same thing.
Yeah poor guy :,( and it is heartbreaking💔
If people supported feminine men we will reduce the suicides
The nervous laugh after dropping emotional truths that are clearly painful broke me. I can’t imagine your pain but I can see it. I’m sorry for what you’re going through
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@@shifterofshape God still loves you.
WHO is doing this? She had to have 2 therapists signoff on her surgery.
Saying "it happened" is important but it stops nobody! GIVE US NAMES!!
The medical profession is not going to stop treating gender dysphoria because 1 person had a bad experience. Nor indeed will 1000 such people stop it because there are easily 30x more people living better lives.
*So stop the people who are convincing others!*
The list of professionals cannot be very long as this is against best medical practices. That gets places shutdown and doctors lose licenses.
@@draesanchez7039 isnt real
@@draesanchez7039 amen
Thank you so much for telling the truth about all this! ❤
Thank you for your honest story that will help educate others to be better prepared and be careful what they do to their bodies.
“Sometimes the bitter truth is better than a sweet lie” hard won, but what words of wisdom. I hope he’s able to find peace & live his best life ♥️
No 'sometimes' about it.
Reminds me of
Proverbs 27:6
Wounds from a friend can be trusted, but an enemy multiplies kisses.
His parents told him the painful truth, the money hungry doctors gave him what he wanted, all for money.
@@periwinkle808 Well I think transitioning for some is the answer. But I don’t think it’s the answer for everyone. “Transtrender” is a real thing.... What’s most scary are the parents out here transitioning their little boys because the kid likes to wear girls dress up clothes. The Saccone Joleys here on CZcams have a little boy, Eduardo & he has always liked wearing his older sisters dress up clothes & playing with her Barbies. The dad had issues himself as a child (liked wearing girl clothes although he admits he’s a heterosexual man) yet somehow thinks this behavior in his son means he’s transgender? Now I’m no authority & I know it’s unpopular to question transgenderism. But this boy is #2 of 4, his parents busy influencers. I can’t help but feel they’re a bit eager to slap a label on him. Eduardo (or Eddy as he goes by now) himself said when asked how he knew he was transgender didn’t say “I always felt like a girl” or something similar. His answer was that his sister Emilia watches Tik Tok & she told him he was trans 🥴 I think it’s far too easy for a child who just likes sparkly things to be labeled trans & go along with it for all the extra attention it gets him & his parents encourage it because hey, anything for the views right? They’ve done huge videos about all of it & bought him gifts, thrown him parties. As I said I know it’s in popular to question it, but having watched the family since this boy was a baby & seeing all the videos & interviews with him & the family on UK news, I just can’t help but wonder if he’s truly trans or the parents are just happy to slap a label on him.
@@periwinkle808 +++
Shape Shifter is one of the most raw, honest, and brave people speaking up on this topic right now. He’s a gift. I have an interview with him on my channel that was really moving. Thank you Blaire for giving this special human being a platform ❤️
@Anon Name I’d say licensed physicians who took the hippocratic oath to “do no harm” and who are regarded as experts have more responsibility for the care they provide than self-admitted mentally ill patients.
I really hope that more people come forward with their experiences. I do agree, more research should be done about this and people shouldn't be pushed into surgery
This is a very interesting interview. Thank you for being open to talking about it. I feel that as a society we are too surgery focused.
In 15 years we will call this what it is. The greatest medical scandal of all time. My heart breaks for this lovely human being.
There are many medical scandals going on simultaneously.
That's the best picture i've seen, it made me happy.
Me too 😢
yeah, it will be a chaos.
Thank you❤️ What Compassion. That’s what these people need.
Sadly, he is the “research” and the “experiment.” It’s awful. My heart goes out to him. Brave to share this message- thank you for your vulnerability.
He is the experiment but sadly they do not care to use him as research.
Indeed. This is heart wrenching. All we can do is pray to God that he / she stay strong and keep creating the awareness for this subject matters. I’ll pray to Allah for him and all of us to be saved and blessed with good life in this world and hereafter. Amen
nothing brave about being mentally ill
THIS INTERVIEW TELLS US EXACTLY THE AGENDA GOING ON czcams.com/video/EOy98HRUigA/video.html
ITS AWFUL
Thank you for the compassionate interview and the insights gained from it. I find sadly though that the lessons learned here could only come from the experience as it occurred. He said himself that he didn’t listen to his parents. I find it hard to believe that if a doctor tried to talk him out of transitioning; at the time he would have called the doctor a transphobe and searched out the same affirming care doctors that he now realizes are doing harm. Hopefully a lot of people struggling with gender identity see this and the lesson sinks in for them before it’s too late. I feel for this person deeply and hope they are able to find happiness.
I know this is an older video but I just saw it. I am a biological female and often fear speaking my thoughts but feel like I can safely express them here. First, thank you ShapeShifter for your honesty and your amazing bravery in telling it. I'm sorry we, as society, have failed you. You mentioned more research should be done (a year later and I don't think that has been done) but research on women's health, in general, is very lacking. For years medications were only studied on men and then physicians were told to just decrease the dose for women. Or that it was too hard to study women because our hormones made it too complicated. So I don't hold much hope in the medical community doing much research, especially on male-to-female transition and hormones and such. I am a middle-aged genetic female who is finished having children and I was not allowed to have my reproductive system removed until a physician deemed it medical necessity ( for reasons such as fibroids or cysts and even then they must be growing, changing or causing severe issues.) And if you are under 40, forget about even that most of the time. So I don't understand why we are allowing young people, and now KIDS to make a decision of this magnitude so lightly. Again, thank you for being honest about your experience. I hope that our society will wake up and see the damage we are doing to people with our rose colored descriptions of life after surgeries and hormones. You can change everything about yourself outwardly ,but what makes you YOU, which includes our demons and fears and traumas, don't go away because you removed a part of your body. Mental health issues cannot be corrected by anesthesia and surgery, and those actions can often exacerbate the very things we are running from. You are beautiful! Not because of your hair or nails or breasts....but because you are a human and your heart is full of love for others, shown by your brave statements to help others avoid the pain you have experienced. Thank you!!! And thank you Blair for being so open to showing the darker side of your community. You are also beautiful, in part, because of the truths you speak. ❤️
He comes across as such a sweet soul, trying to smile through the pain, really sorry he went through this
Cutest laugh too
The medical industry ISN'T ALLOWED to have your best interest at heart. We're forced to affirm you or we lose our job/license! We're literally not allowed.
... and truly, my intention here isn't to be rude, but put yourself back in that chair at the doctor's office before you transitioned. Would you have been ok with or accepted it if the doctor told you not to go through with it? That there were other options? That no matter what you try to do, you'll never be the opposite sex?
Hindsight is 2020 (and we're going to have a whole lot more of that going forward) but at the moment, it's radical trans people and their incredibly radical allies that are causing medical professionals to fear telling you the truth. They've got us by the balls, metaphorically speaking. This is society now and until a whole lot more of you start speaking out (total respect to you for doing just that) nothing will change. It's only going to get way worse before it gets better.
This right here. So many don't realize this.
This!!!
Yeah and being 500 pounds is healthy if the doctor tells them otherwise they're fat phobic
Can you elaborate more on this?
This is just awful. I’m thankful for both of you for sharing this story. This needs to be shared across the world
Blaire is about the only transgender that's so truthful and willing to talk about hard issues. I respect her for fighting the battle especially with children young teens and young adults.
“It was not a fair trade at all.”
“I made a huge mistake.”
This is heartbreaking.
"Gender affirming 'care'"
@@edwinamendelssohn5129 for the large majority of people yes
Detransitioners make up from under 1 percent to 8 percent of the transgender population
And reasons for detransition are plenty
And some of them still identify as trans
As a psychiatrist, I treated patients with gender dysphoria. Because I consulted to continue therapy, was anti GAS surgical procedures, was against hormone treatment for underage (18) - I was FIRED by my hospital. I continue in a private practice. First thing you should understand, hospitals make a lot of money on trans procedures, post op, and especially on drugs because we get financial incentives from Pharma corps. This is a very lucrative business, they donate & target specifically the education committees/unions, entertainment industry and pay for many of the trans surveys. Once you transition, your a client for LIFE$. What happened to self-love? Embracing your individuality? You do not need to physically alter yourself to become happy, that you must find within.
Thank you for speaking on this
Okay I'm 18 years old but I do agree with the hormonal treatment for under age 18 like you shouldn't give that to someone who was under the age of 18 I agree with you let kids be kids untill there is an adult ready to make an adult decision
A big hug to you, doctor ❤
Can you force someone to have surgery?
Thank you for at least trying to protect the children... We need more professionals to STAND UP TOO...
This episode was soooo good! ThNk you so much for sharing your experience 🙏🏽
Thank you for sharing powerful Testimony and telling us the TRUTH
Matt Walsh said after he released his documentary “What is a Woman” that one of the doctors that he interviews in his movie had cut off the genitals of a 16 year old boy. How is a child able to even make these decisions that are life altering, including never being able to produce children after that. What child even knows if he wants kids later in life? It is heartbreaking what is happening to kids by these doctors. And like he said, they need more time to process any childhood traumas, and get a “hug”, and it’s okay to be feminine, or a tomb boy.
It’s really disgusting. We have age regulations about tattoos, cigarettes, alcohol because we don’t trust young people to make those decisions but sterilization and removing your biological sex organs is fine. I can’t believe we are here as a society.
The 16 year old name is Jazz. And TLC has an entire reality show based on Jazz. And how horrible and terrible the surgery went.
I think that might have been Jazz "I am Jazz" has her journey as a show.
They promoted her as a happy trams as a child but now she is struggling with binge eating, mental health.
She is in the position now where she wpuld not even be able to say if she wished she didnt transition.
@@bubbytumby8509 that Jazz kid is already in it's 20s what makes you think the Jazz was that DRs patient?
@@jasonrodriguez8569 it's known Jazz was their patient
I was close to medically transitioning in 2014-2015. It was too easy to get on hormones. Scarily easy. When I decided not to medically transition (for a myriad of reasons), the therapist kept pushing for it. The fact that the therapist kept veering the subject to transitioning instead of other issues I wanted to talk about at the time made me feel really uncomfortable and raised a huge red flag.
I'm sorry Shapeshifter that you had to go through this.
I'm so glad you recognized that and didn't let them push you to medically transition.
Question: is it possible that the therapists get a 'commission' from the surgeons for sending patients their way?
@@melhawk1352 oh I wouldn’t doubt it in todays society in the United States
Shame on that therapist
@Live Light, might i ask, was this in America?
Thank you for this very particular conversation we all need to be educated with. No more fights or controversy should surround this area of medicine. The medical field is broad yet doctors and hospitals practice bottom line dollar amounts only. Great point of men doing these surgery who are doctors, they have lost the long term dedication doctors had once upon a time when medicine and science was inventive with introducing other medical partners to be cautious of how to perform the respected profession. Again, thank you both for a great open conversation that is very needed, learning is part of education, and all of us need an education.
This is just so tragic - and there's no way back.....people considering this surgery should be given all the information......💜
One of the first things they taught us in nursing school is that the body wants to close any holes that aren’t biologically made. And is VERY good at it. I never thought about it in this context, but it makes a lot of sense, and raises many questions on the medical aspect of how safe it is actually.
I knew that without even being a nurse. That's one argument I make for sex reassignment surgery. You are literally fighting your own body and will have to do that every day for the rest of your life. Think about that for a moment. Normal every day people wrestle with their own minds about reasons to NOT get a surgery for normal medical conditions because we know that ALL surgery is risky. Surgery is always the LAST resort and the only choice at the end. When we go under anasthetic we tell our loved ones that we love them and we say a little prayer to ourselves because we HOPE we wake up!!! Ugh! People are duped and scammed into this experimental lifestyle. There is no historical data to backup the long term safety and consequences of all these procedures, chemical or sugical.
The "hole" that is made is not like that. I've had SRS done by a good surgeon. While when done badly it can go as wrong as Shape Shifters it's not always that way. IF the surgeon did the job right it's not a "hole" bloody and scabby ans scaring over or whatever. If the surgeon does the job right it is basically a pocket of skin, made right where the vagina would be. Diallating is then to strech the muscles so that you can you know ... use it.
Any surgery can be done badly.
@@HontasFarmer80 Dilating is done to keep the hole open, like the nurse said the body will always fight to close it. They will have to dilate their whole life or their neovagina will lose depth and close.
@@HontasFarmer80 no they do that so it doesn’t close up
@@valen9941 this is not true. Once it is healed you do not need to do the dilation anymore. It's not like it stays an open wound forever. Come on now. 🤦♂️
you can see how sad he feels. I truly feel for him, any surgery that goes wrong is such a big psychological problem as well. I hope he gets better
Is this TT Exulansic!! If it is we miss you !
Thank you so much for sharing your story. So many children are being convinced they can change their sex like changing their Sox.
Please don’t stop 🙏🏼
Glad that more brave ppl are speaking out on this side of this movement (how some folks were simply too young to make such big life altering decisions)
Sending so much love to you both ❤ from South Africa 🇿🇦 your story is reaching thousands from all over the world! This is an important side of the coin that too many people are not willing to look at and discuss
Oh go jump in a Xhosa civil war
Absolutely! But contextually the situation in South Africa is vastly different.
I'm from South Africa too! Eyyy
We are looking & discussing right now
🇿🇦
When I transition and had bottom surgery over 25 years ago there was a lot of checks done to see if this was the correct path as like you say it is irreversible. Looking at what is happening now is so sad, very young people are being 'experimented' on by the medical professionals. This is driven by need that if they refuse they will be seen as transphobic. This has to stop now before more lives are ruined.
Can u pee without pain ,or having sexual pleasure ?sorry for the question
@@hutao.h1258 No problem. Peeing is fine. Organise is possible as part of the Penis is used to make a clitoris. Sex has not worked as it is quite small inside and very tight.
And then those same people accusing you of being "transphobic" will show up at your house, job, follow you across the Internet, etc. Happened to me over the whole Laineybot/Kai thing.
@@hollyhayes9640 I was actually wondering what happened to her, is there any recent news?
@@hutao.h1258 why the question?
I think if you’re any kind of decent human being, you will shed some tears for Shape. I am a white, cisgender female, with an 8 month old son, and watching and listening to Shape’s story broke me… I can’t stop thinking of him and hoping he finds some solace, and peace.
He deserved someone to advocate for him, not just affirm him.
This “affirm or you’re transphobic” is complete and utter bs.
My heart goes out to you Shape, and Blair, thank you so much for sharing his story and being an empathetic human being.
He doesn’t deserve any hate from anyone.. it’s clear he holds the candle on hate for himself, or his choices that were pressured onto him.
You CAN BE UNIQUE PEOPLE! You do NOT need to comform, especially if it means mutilating your body, or changing something about yourself permanently.
Protect our kids, protect our Youth, Protect our Adults!
Stop normalizing self harm and body mutilation.
I want to give you a hug, Shape. 🥺❤️
Ironic you think you’re a decent person but people who don’t cry over this aren’t. You need to grow up. Immature.
Sad af and I appreciate you being vulnerable and sharing your story. A reminder to show kindness when talking to people dealing with these feelings. So easy to dismiss them all as a group because of a loud subset that is angry and aggressive, but like him, they are just kids and scared, trying to figure this game out. Caring interactions take place in small groups. Reminds me that there are some ultra-wealthy elites that give no fs as long as you pay them to tell you what you want to hear and for the surgery. What a world.
i started transitioning when i was 13, and grew out of it and changed my mind after a few years. im so thankful i didn't do permanent damage while i had these ideas, and there needs to be so much more awareness about detransitioners.
You got lucky!! Thank goodness you stayed safe
You HAVE to speak out. Your voice will save lives. Your voice is the only voice that can save a lot of these lives, because everyone who hasn't been where you've been is being silenced. Speak out and don't let them silence you!
13!!! In US? Who allowed you to do it? ((( sorry for it…
Hey Melina, I am trying to come up w a podcast that features stories like yours. Would you be interested? It can be anonymous
@@nairobae would love to
I am a LTC nurse and just cared for someone who tried to transition man to woman, threw a pulmonary embolism, and ended up having both legs amputated. I’ve never been madder about the medical field than I am right now. My profession has been hijacked. I’m so sorry for what happened to you.
Edit: This person didn’t have surgery. They just went on hormones. Hormones that the doctor told them would be safe for them. They also began sweating constantly afterwards and their back became a giant sore. I don’t talk out of my ass. But clearly y’all do. I’m not arguing that there is not personal responsibility, but if you’re not being told the risks associated with something, or if we don’t know the risks but say we do….. there’s another word for that. Lying.
He/she decided, sorry!
😢😢😢😢
Omg... That's.... 😢😢😢😢😢
Do you know how they got a pulmonary embolism?
Do no harm right?
Blaire you are so amazing and you are saving people from hating themselves! Your helping people to love who/ what they are❤
I so hope your vulnerability in sharing your experience may help others to turn back before they enter the regret that you currently feel. You are both eloquent and I wish you all the best.
“They didn’t protect me from myself”….. and yet had they tried to even have that conversation, they would have been crucified as hate filled trans-phobes!! Parents are now fighting for the right to do that very thing! Why are we telling children their bodies are “wrong”!!!! Bodies are a miracle!! All of them! Present however you feel but your body is precious and sacred!!This is heartbreaking. Thank you for sharing
This is what i thought might happen if we try to tell the people that convinced they are trans. And they might do it behind their parents back anyway.
Recent case where a father fighting for custody of his child, changed his legal gender to female and claimed the child needed a mother's love.
Dude won custody. The system is broken so some men are just using the insanity to their advantage. Guy looks likes your typical 40yo dude....until 'she' presents any legal documents. 😂
@@Davitofrito have to say...this is a reason that is good enough to go through all that trouble
@@Davitofrito Dad: I'm gonna do what's called a pro gamer move.
Yeh people have to get to shit before they understand. She would have crucified the person who stepped up, and that person's life would have been ruined! That's why they can't say anything to them.
My niece had quite a difficult puberty. She hated developing breasts and said she wanted to cut them off. All the women in the family supported her, told her it was normal, and helped her through it. It saddens me that if she had gone through it today, some surgeon would have popped up and said ‘I can help with that……’
plastic surgeons are just............... you gotta be careful around them.
Funny fact: I'm 100% a cis woman, I never ever ever had feelings about transicioning, no issues with my gender, NOTHING, I'm actually very comfortable being a woman. But when I was 11-12 and I started developing my breasts, I HATED THEM......because that meant I had to wear a bra and bras are so uncomfortable.... I mean, with time you get used to it. But imagine living 11 years of your life chest free and suddenly, you gotta wear that everyday to school. I also live in a hot area so, bras are hot and make you sweat. I HATED IT. I would go back from school and take it off for the rest of the day. It's just normal puberty issues, you know.... accepting your new adult body takes time....and that doesnt mean I wanted to be a boy or anything.
We need to stop the "I WANT EVERYTHING RIGHT NOW" culture and allow ourselves to take time to process our emotions!!!!
Chest actually hurts when it develops, its very uncomfortable and also the teenagers have hormonal swings that make them act idiotic. Don't listen to teenagers if they aren't telling you facts.
@@haruno21i remember also absolutely hating my boobs.... i developped very early and was so ashamed to be the only one with boobs. i hated having my period.
@@haruno21 I never, ever hated my boobs. I was happy when I started to develop. @ 10 yrs old, my best friend at the time and I would talk about how we wanted them to be big. They are a gift...just like the penis is a gift to a man. Menstruation, on the other hand, well.... lets just say it was an inconvenience for me.
When you are a teenager you breast is not finished. It can evolve till around 30 years old and of course if you gain weight. I hated my breast when I was a teenager and nobody told me that it was just the beginning of my development. I thought about plastic surgery. Today Iam very happy that I didnt do anything
Appreciate your bravery, Shape💜
Your strength is a gift you can share with the world. You have a beautiful opportunity to help so many others help themselves by sharing your experience. I appreciate your story and am grateful for the understanding! ❤
All these de- trans people say they wish someone hugged them & told them they were loved.. it breaks my heart. If ur a parent please be more present in ur kids life show them love. Be emotional available for ur kids. So many kids when they become adults have trauma because parents weren’t emotionally there for their kids.
During that time when you try to tell them this isn't good for you most of the time they don't listen. Until they were at a point like this. From what he's saying no one even tried to tell him
He said she was warned, but he chose not to listen.
I know a trans man who’s always ragging on his mom and talking about how she never loved him and she is ALWAYS there when he calls. Like for anything and when he’s in a bind she’s always helping as much as she can. Sometimes people are addicted to just being the victim and using things not going their way all the time as an excuse to do whatever they wanted to anyway.
They do get that . Just not in the way that they accept . Because of them wanting to be different .
I think it's important to teach kids , to understand people won't understand, and they don't have to, but we should all try to. It's ok to not be ok but we HAVE try to be ok.
You both are doing the world a service. This needs to go viral. People are walking into this blind. When I say this shit I get told I'm transphobic.
Not at all!!
I am so sorry.
This is fucking devastating
Thank you so much to this beautiful human being. So much courage
it's because if you're something that ends in phobic, you're evil.
-If you are crime-phobic, you're evil.
-if you are violence-phobic, you are evil.
-if you are murder-phobic, you are evil.
-if you are theft-phobic, you are evil.
-if you are kidnapping-phobic, you are evil.
-if you transphobic, you evil.
Most trans people come out then go to therapy then transition. The ones serious don’t go in blind. The non binary or gender non conformists do.
The problem is that Blaire White mocks non-binary people and goes out of her way to tell others they aren’t legitimate trans people creating a culture of hate for non-binary people. Then these non-binary people feel pressured to undergo surgeries to validate their transness when they don’t need it.
Im transgender myself and even I get called transphobic by many lgbt communities lol
@Marygraphy how are you supposed to explain what feeling like a woman is like? Blair feels that way and even she can’t explain it. It’s not a definition issue, it’s therapists not taking the time to fully meet people where they’re at, and doctors not fully disclosing risks of bottom surgery.
The most real and confronting conversation that I've heard. Someone who is actually bringing to the forefront the ugly reality
Gosh, he is so beautiful inside and outside. I’m so sorry for what he’s going through and hope he finds the best way through it possible.
There is so much pain in this interview, absolutely heartbreaking.
Two broken men
Glad this person is stepping up to say something. Horrible thing to endure.
My heart broke for this person. This is all about $$$ they (The Medical Community) doesn't care about the long term ramifications to this butchery.
These "doctors" get to play around with other people's bodies for $$$$$$$$$. Then brag about their work at dinner parties.
@@MK-fk9ty Those who mess up need to take responsibility themselves instead of just blaming others. This person had years to go back.
@@kateofone Please watch the Full Interview. They are showing the pain /harm that's being done both mentally/physically because of $$$. They are Pushing transition because of $$$. 1 sz. Doesn't fit All.
@@kateofone And he acknowledged that. He said he was the one who signed the dotted line and agreed to all of this, but we can't pretend there are no outside factors at play in a large scale. This is a very important conversation to have.
Thank you for sharing this with the world
Very good interview! Thank you so much for this :)
"You don't have the technology to make an actual woman"
PERIOD!!
Even the developed surgeries it's impossible to make an actual woman
@@hamistra1259 And even if one could biologically transform into a woman, you still wouldn't have the same experiences as a normal woman.
@@aliasella488 yes that's trueee
If we did wouldn't this be able to cure down syndrome since iirc it's the result of having more than 2 chromosomes?
One day we will, but not today unfortunately.
It’s not transphobic to say you regret your cosmetic surgeries. My heart hurts for you. Please talk about this, it’s so important to prevent anyone else suffering the same issues. You were born in your body, love it , don’t hurt it. ❤️
Its not trans phobic because "trans" doesn't exist. Its all a fad. You can't change ur gender end of story.
YES!
Thank you for speaking out this message was for sure powerful. Thank you again
I'm so sorry to hear you terrible experience... you seem like a wonderful person and I wish you all the happiness and love in the world ❤
He wanted someone
to “protect him from himself
That’s deep
Families are so important
Parents are so important
We all need that
Exactly. Gender affirming experts won’t be riding the ambulance with you.
He did say parents told him not to transition but he didn’t listen to them .
Beyond that, we need medical professionals to do good by their patients regardless of if they have strong familial ties. If I walked into a surgeons place and asked him to blind me he would say no way! Even if I wouldn’t take no for an answer, he would turn me away. The same should be true for these awful procedures. There will always be vulnerable, mentally ill, delusional, lonely, desperate people and they deserve to be cared for and not butchered too!
And they called us "phobic" for trying to stop "doctors" from doing this to people...well, the people that pushed these individuals to go through with this need to be brought to justice.
That's barbaric, these procedures are worse than some of the heavier methods of torture, but we are the bad guys for trying to stop it.
Most trans people don’t detransition and they deserve this gender affirming health care
Exactly
There are people who want to prevent doctors from helping people who REALLY want this and really NEED this from getting it as well. They're definitely transphobic. There are a lot of people who are content with their surgical reassignments.
@@iamcornholiooooo3019 nobody needs this. It's mutilation. These doctors aren't trying to help these people, they're using them as guinea pigs, and you're either completely disingenuous, you're trolling, or you're one of the people enabling this shit so you can virtue signal like a narcissist. Etiher way, you're part of the problem
There does need to be more conversations about results and medical issues. Ty for sharing. Best to you.