Doctor REACTS to Sex Education (Season 1) | Dr Elliott
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This Doctor REACTS video is starting to look at the first season of Sex Education. I've split this video into two parts and it includes a lot of really useful information on sex education, sex therapy, sex and mental illness and LGBTQ+ health and queer representation. Also Gillian Anderson is EVERYTHING!
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I think that says more about dear old Sigmund than about most other people
YEESSSSSSSSSSSS WE HAVE BEEN WAITING FOR THISSSSSSSSS
Samzies!!!!!!
Go Kaa!!! You're hissing all of 'dem S's
Lol sadly I grew up in Texas where sex Ed amounted to "if you have sex before marriage you will be used up and never be able to find a loving relationship and you will die of an STD"
Regarding the effects of SSRI's on sexual function: years ago, I interviewed this guy who had been on SSRI's for close to 20 years, and he couldn't get erections. He thought that was a lingering symptom of his depression, so he kept using the meds despite having no other symptoms of depression. That just made me so sad for him, it genuinely never occured to him it could be side effect of the meds itself.
I'm not knocking on antidepressants in general as I know very well they can be immensely useful for some people. But please folks, if you have any symptom that's bothering or limiting you and that could be side effect: talk to your prescribing doc. Even if you you really need the meds you're on, that still doesn't mean nothing can be done about or that you should suffer in silence.
Exactly. There are also meds that can be added which can alleviate the side effects from the first one (if you don't want to switch to a different med altogether because it works otherwise).
I've been on Lexapro for a year and it basically killed my sex life..
Guess I should see a doctor about it but just haven't been arsed. Just happy to not feel like shit tbh
@@Quzga Hey man, I'm not here to tell you what you should or shouldn't do. If those side effects are acceptable for you, or if you deem them to be acceptible the way your life is right now, that's fine too.
Truth is that many people just don't think to mention side effects to their doctors, especially if it's side effects that people think are weird, private, or private and weird to talk about. But it's often worth discussing them. I'm not saying there is always gonna be a solution, but just know that if and when you feel like you need/want to do something about it, there often are options to at least try to adress the side effects you are experiencing.
@@sisterthesister4870 thanks, I'll prob bring it up but you're totally right. I assumed there is nothing you can do about it until recently.. My doctors never mentioned this as a side effect
Finally a show very close to your profession, can't wait to see how accurate therapy is portrayed in this show
A forensic psychiatrist is not a psychotherapist. Knows the theories but do not form part of their working day.
I've brought up sexual dysfunction / gynecological issues three times with doctors, hoping for a straightforward response and candid discussion, and all three times the doctor seemed more uncomfortable than me and didn't seem to want to have the conversation (even though it was related to if not the primary reason I was there). But I also live in an extremely conservative area, so I don't know how general that is. haha.
I didn’t realize how much of an effect birth control pills had on my sex drive. If you are on hormonal birth control you may want to explore this.
Love your videos!
I loved how SE is such a refreshingly open and frank show. Most series (especially american ones) can be so prudish or weird about sex, even when they are open about it on the surface. I don't know any other series or films which is so free of judgement and truly makes you feel like sex is just normal, a normal part of life, no matter where you fall or who you are attracted to. It was a real breath of fresh air.
I'd love to watch your thoughts on Fleabag some day, if you'll ever get the time/mood for that hearbreaking but hilarious but sad but hopeful but ultimately excellent series.
In terms of discussing sexual dysfunction from medications with medical professionals, my experiences were appalling. I was 16 when the problem first started and I was told that it shouldn’t matter because I was a minor and shouldn’t be thinking about that anyway. Later after the age of 18 or so, the excuse from doctors was that I was a woman and that as a result it shouldn’t really matter to me. I even had one male doctor tell me that it was wrong to discuss with him as a man and that it was was irrelevant anyway because I wasn’t married.
I’m in my 20s now and it’s been almost 10 years since the problem started and not once has it been seriously addressed. I switched from any medications that could cause sexual dysfunction over two years ago but it’s still it’s not improved. I was informed about PSSD, Post SSRI Sexual Dysfunction, which is finally starting to be briefly noted in diagnostic manuals and that this may continue long term or even permanently, we really don’t know. It was great to have that finally acknowledged at least but there’s been no further interest or intent to pursue it further or attempt to improve it. I’ve been told that it shouldn’t cause any relationship problems because ‘it still works and can pleasure a man’ and that I can ‘fake it’. Not that this would ever be a valid point but it’s even less so as I am a lesbian and there is no man in the equation, ever.
Anyhow, it’s been almost a decade since I’ve felt anything pleasurable in that way at all and doctors still act as if I’m asking too much or being entitled or demanding if I ever even mention it. I’ve basically given up now, I cant even remember the feeling and that’s probably a good thing to be honest at this point.
I’m absolutely not recommending people against bringing it up or taking medications when needed, this is just my particularly bad personal experience and I’m glad that psychiatrists like Dr Elliott are bringing these things to public attention, this needs more awareness. I feel as if women and same sex relationships are considered even less. I’ve also found as well that a lot of medical professionals aren’t even sure what lesbians even ‘do’ and therefore dismiss any sexual problems completely.
I am obviously not seeking medical advice here, that is something only appropriate to ask medical professionals working with you, with your personal and medical history at hand! Apologies for the essay, I’ve finally just submitted a dissertation and still have what I’m calling ‘keyboard fever’!
Holy fucking shit what country are you in?! i am borderline in awe of how completely backward these doctors responses were. That feels straight from the 1940s or something
Can we bring back glove-slaps? I would really like to bring back glove-slaps, purely for these doctors you had because holy shit this is horrible.
Thank you, for the education about Post SSRI Sexual Dysfunction. I didn't realize it can continue after you stop taking them and we all need to know this. I'm so sorry though that it's from first-hand experience.
Sexual dysfunction is one of *the* most common side-effects of SSRIs, and given that we know more about the lingering after-effects of SNRIs (brain zaps) and Abilify (tardive dyskinesia), it kinda makes sense that SSRIs would have lingering effects too.
@@felixhenson9926 I’m in England, so almost all of this happened within the NHS. I did pay to see a private doctor a while back too but he had the same response and that went nowhere. I feel like a lot of this is indicative of attitudes towards women in medicine as a whole but add same sex attraction and a mental disorder and you are hardly ever treated with humanity. I feel as if this type of dismissal should be something that you could at least make a complaint about, however it is dismissed at every level. I agree that a lot of attitudes by certain healthcare professionals or generally people in positions of power, do feel like they are straight out of the 1940s!
@@lunacouer I feel as if it’s not truly informed consent if these potential side effects aren’t even mentioned. I get that the intention is to not scare people away from taking them, however the complete omission of information about this risk is too far in my opinion. Sexual dysfunction is mentioned at least in the leaflets that come with the medications but the potential for it still being present upon discontinuation of the drug is nowhere to be seen. If I had known about this potential, I definitely would have pushed the matter so much more when it first started happening, I don’t know how exactly this works but I feel as if a month or so on a medication would be less like to cause this than 6 years on it. Informed consent is so important, it’s not real consent if the person doesn’t know what they are consenting to.
Not sexual dysfunction, but related
I told my pediatrician many years ago that I identified as on the asexual spectrum, and she told me I was just a "late bloomer"
Well now I'm 24 and I'm still basically the same. I can have a very strong crush on someone and even find them physically very attractive, but sexual attraction either takes a very long time to develop, or it never shows up.
I'm not super offended by what my pediatrician said, but I think it wasn't the best thing she could have responded with
Nowadays the main thing that has changed about my sexual identity is that I prefer to not use a label or categorize myself (but I understand why some would). However if I had to choose I would say I'm demisexual
Everything you said about the toxicity in medical work environments sounds exactly like what I used to hear as a teacher!!! People are constantly trying to guilt you into working more because "think of the children".
As per your question at the beginning, I’m pretty comfortable talking about that with doctors, I figure it’s your job and so that’s something I can do. Add to the fact that I’m neurodivergent (AuDHD) and I really miss most of the weird stigma that people usually deal with. That doesn’t stop me using euphemisms though, which I find annoying and try not to use. But masking is a thing, so it happens
Yess! Was hoping you'd discuss this series!
So glad you're doing this! I LOVED the premise of the show but I couldn't even finish the first episode. I am not a fan of sexually explicit media and have found myself very disappointed with several shows lately that I was really excited to watch but just.. can't get over the gratuitous t&a aspect.
(I'm ace, if that's relevant, so I'm not saying I think it's immoral or that other people can't enjoy it.. it's just not for me)
Love your work! I kind of wish there had been an Otis at my school when I was young. I was one of those kids whose parents pulled them out of sex ed. 😅
Omg, I am so so glad that you covered this show, especially with your background! There are so many characters that get huge character development and I can't wait to hear what you have to say about all of it! I really like Eric and Adam's relationship develops over time, that's quite realistic imo.
YAAAAYYY!! ❤❤ I'm so glad you're finally reviewing thisss! Also, YES, Gillian Anderson!!! I think she might have been my sapphic awakening 🥺💕
YESSS i binged and caught up on this show a couple of months ago and loved it, glad you're doing it!
I love this show a lot even when sometimes there’s unnecessary drama. The last season was awesome ❤
I've been needing this for so long!!!! 😭💛😍💛
YESSS Please watch more! Keep it coming :D
the oedipus complex is the most oddly specific condition. im concerned for freud
Taking a break from bingeing season 4 for this!
Holy fuck am I hyped to see you reavt to this, plz tell me there's a patron where we can watch full reactions
nooo way just yesterday i was thinking how neat'd be if u reacted to sex education loll, love it
Wow. This is a great pick for this channel.
Just finished the last season and it was so good and so emotional
omg i need more please!!
I have tried an array of SSRIs over the years and I also used to work in a sex shop. So I, unsurprisingly, had an easy time asking doctors about possible sexual dysfunction as a side effect. But I always had to be the one to bring up the subject and I usually had to poke a prod before getting what felt like complete information. I've gotten some docs who even looked blindsided by the questions. Also, Freud is a whole fever dream 🥴
I don't feel comfortable talking to either my psychiatrist or therapist about anything related to sex or sexual dysfunction. I'm not on antidepressants now(antipsychotics and mood stabalizers only) but I have been in the past and we never went over the potential sexual side effects of them. I've been seeing my psychiatrist around 5 years, if something did come up, I might be inclined to talk to him about it, but I've only know my therapist 6 months, so not so much. I'm very embarassed about sex topics and talking about them, when asked my sexuality I panic and usually mumble til the person moves on from the question. XD
I was going to say the hair is super cute, and it is. But damn you sure threw me for a mental loop here. I got really bad imposter syndrome, because even though I only date men, and am only attracted to men, sometimes I can't uh, present. After the first time it happened it became a worry, and now I'm wondering if the fear of it happening again, makes it happen again. Would explain why porn is fine, but actually being there is a struggle. Also to answer your question I suppose I'm fine with it hahaha.
“Man milk” still makes me cackle
I’ve never really had much interaction with mental health professionals; I’ve been lucky enough to never have any obvious severe issues, so far no non-obvious ones either. I’m just here because I like learning things. I was seeing a marriage counselor with my ex for a while, but... well, he and I had different expectations of therapy, and different expectations of our relationship in general, so nothing much came of it. Sex did come up as a topic, because he felt he wasn’t getting enough, but obviously it wasn’t the (actual) source of the problems, so we never got into it.
I can say, though, that of all the non-psych doctors I’ve seen over the years for things, the least uncomfortable about sexual topics have been the gynecologists (obviously, I guess?). But even then not all of them, some were still cagey about sex convos outside the academic “sexually active”, still using terms like “down there” instead of specific anatomy, etc. Any of the docs who got uncomfortable with me using specific, correct terminology for things, I never ended up staying with for any longer than I had to. I could never get comfortable with them if they weren’t comfortable with me. I imagine that would be at least as true with mental health professionals.
I would be curious to sit down with one and talk sometime, see if they have any insights into my brain that might be helpful. But that’s not pressing enough to go through the hassle of finding a good one, all the co-pays and frustrations with the lumbering behemoth that is the American healthcare system, etc. I don’t need to ironically stress myself out over idle curiosity lol
As a UK doctor I’m with you on how the system abuses clinicians by playing on either the feeling your letting the team or patients down alongside having to do free labour to make your portfolio look better it’s at the point where I really can’t be arsed getting into training because they essentially own you then
I think I do find it hard to discuss sexual issues with a professional. Part of that is from past trauma that I wanted to keep in the past, but most of my issues root from past trauma. Part of it is from what I view as societal perspectives that seem to bend towards satisfaction of one sex above that of another. The few times I have brought it up most of the discussion seems to focus not really on me getting through what I am experiencing, but me focussing on my partner's satisfaction. I'm not sure, maybe seeing that as the problem that needs to be solved, rather than my experience moving through my own issues. Still, I have had to bring the uncomfortable topic up partly because of certain medicinal side effects, along with partly my other private feelings that seem to exacerbate those side effects. I do feel like I probably should work with a therapist at some point to work through some of that past unresolved trauma (I thought it was resolved, but in recent years I'm not so sure). It's just a can of worms I am afraid to really open up about.
I've been on Lexapro 20mg for a year now and it's been great, I love it but it def killed my sex life..
Your video finally made me realize I should bring it up but what's the best way to ask? Feels a bit uncomfortable tbh
My previous doctor made a judging comment about me not having a relationship for a few years 😑
Since I'm ace I never had to think about my meds impacting my sexual life.
Seems that spared me some negative experiences.
My main problems with this series are A.) Dr. Jean just assuming Otis has sexual dysfunction without talking to him. She fully wrote a paper on how ill he was without considering that he might be asexual and him pretending to engage in sexual behavior was solely due to the societal pressure he felt (much of which stemmed from her) B.) Otis absolutely should have been asexual. He didn't have to be aromantic, but him being asexual made soooo much sense. C.) When they DID have an asexual character story-line in season 2, they completely abandoned it after like 1 episode. Maybe I'm just sensitive to this because I'm on the ace-spectrum and I've been medicalized by doctors before, but I freakin' HATED it.
You’re going to like Season 4…. 😁
@@jossspear I'm about to start it. I'm trying to keep my expectations low. Between the asexual erasure and Eric being a full-on menace last season, I'm ready for disappointment.
Yeah, as an ace person myself, I kinda found the first season interesting but agree with some of what you said about Otis. Stopped watching after season 1, then I heard they abandoned the ace representation in season 2 so I just never went back to the show. Now I'm wondering whether to watch the whole thing, not sure if the show is worth it. What're your thoughts on how good the show is as a whole?
@@toramenor I just finished the final season, and they do fix some of the bad ace rep FINALLY. The show is worth watching if only for the drama. That being said, some of my favorite characters were completely dropped in the final season, and I hate it.
What about O in season four?
Yesssss
Hey Dr elliott I was waiting for you to watch sex educational! as a straight woman I like watching stuff like this especially if it involves the LGBTQ community I feel quite passionate about it I've directly seen homophobic with my own eyes and it's absolutely disgusting they think it's funny and I'm just soo angry and offensive now I just call them out on there behaviour don't have time for people like that I do have a question I want to become an ally for the LGBTQ community do you know how I would do that..? many thanks Love watching your videos Xxx
Thank you for calling it out ❤️
My best advice for being so ally is;
- Listen to marginalized groups
- Use your voice to amplify minority voices
Note that listening is a major, major part. You cannot amplify voices you haven't properly listened to
Acknowledge that there are loved experiences that you don't and won't have access to experience yourself (and that's okay). The only way to know about these experiences and the perspectives and knowledge about the work they uncover, is to listen to those with the lived experience. This is a major pill to swallow for a lot of people.
If you can, coach people though why what they've said isn't okay, rather than purely being antagonistic or punishing. When people do not understand why something isn't right, 1) they can't stop similar behavior in the future, 2) they'll only avoid that behavior to avoid punishment and 3) they might grow resentful for being punished for something they do not understand.
It's not always possible to explain, and sometimes you just have to shut it down. But when you can, I encourage you to invite to a proper conversation about the topic. Be empathetic on why they are doing what they're doing, whilst aiding in the information you have access to that they haven't or haven't grasped, that inform you to act differently.
And lastly; People are not your enemy. It's the broken or harmful ideological systems. We need to work together, against the problem, to dismantle the harmful thought systems. Not single out and attack those who are perpetuating those ideologies, thought systems, value systems, world views, what ever you might call em.
We were all raised in hegemonic, cisheteronormative, white supremacist, colonial, ablist, patriarchal capitalism. That's taught us a lot of fraught ways to perceive each other, ourselves and especially marginalized groups. All of us. The goal is not to "find the bad apples" and remove them, the goal is to deconstruct, unlearn and relearn, together, all of us.
It can be hard to find that compassion, and sometimes you just have to put your foot down and place a boundary. Express that something makes you uncomfortable without expanding on or diving into why. That in itself can be powerful. Just.. The approach, humanizing each other and realizing the person in front of you is not the problem, the system of beliefs they are reproducing is, and working with them to dismantle that, is really helpful.
We're all in this together. None of us are free until all of us are free.
That means; All our oppression is connected and interwoven. Patriarchal systems harms all of us, across genders and sexualities. Sexism and racism upholds exploitable, capitalist systems that take advantage of the working class. Anyone you talk to are affected and tied in with these systems of oppression. Everyone benefits from and suffers under these systems of oppression, everyone are both victims of and perpetrators of these systems of oppression. The solution is the work together, across intersections and marginalizations, to dismantle all systems of oppression. Whether it's queerphobia, sexism, exploration of the working class (which is most of us), ablism, racism, colonialism, etc. Its a continuous process throughout life. For all of us. Though some people has been convinced the aiding and upholding these systems are to everyone's, or at least to their own, benefit, in reality, liberation is a gift for all of us. Even those structurally considered in the highest positions in our structural hierarchies. Solidarity with the most marginalized amongst us brings liberation to all of us
That's my best advice.
In terms of listening to marginalized voices and their lives experiences - seek out this knowledge. We luckily live in a time where information has been decentralized and more minority voices have a platform to share their perspectives, and share them in their own time
Seek out where marginalized minority groups share their perspectives. You have to do this actively to counteract the systems that provide normative voices with bigger platforms than marginalized voices. That's unfortunately how it is per definition
So, purposefully, actively seek out minority voices. Look around you, in your day too day life, in the media you consume, in the space you find yourself in, the narratives you're presented for and ask yourself; "Who isn't here?"
All the groups who aren't there, or are disproportionally few, are few in that space for a reason. Take note of that, all yourself and those around you why, and then seek out the answers by listening to those who're marginalized; Cause often, they know. It's not a secret. They are just not listened to.
Look up voices on CZcams, Instagram, in books, etc. Form parasocial relationships with marginalized people. Expose yourself to their perspectives. Seek out all the voices marginalized voices have already shared and are actively sharing their perspectives. My personal favorite is through CZcams videos, but there are many ways to be exposed. Find what works best for you. Whether that's attending talks, reading, listening, etc
This channel is the bomb! You dropped a bomb on me baby!!!
I do not agree with Freud on the Odipus thing. I think, he had an unatural sexual atraction to his mother, and to not fell wierd about it, he just made that theory up, so he would be considered ‘normal’
I only watched Season 1 (and generally liked it)... Has anyone here watched all the episodes? How are the later seasons, is it much of the same, has the show declined or improved, should I watch the whole thing?
I stopped taking anti depressants because I couldn’t “finish” having sex. Now that I’m not having sex I should probably get back on them.
Since giving up fentanyl/crack/meth Sex and weed are my only pleasures in life :(
So losing one of those is
Freud seemed to have read to much greek mythology...
Glad to hear you mention the side effects of SSRIs.
Couple of years ago I got Sertaline prescribed, started taking it, seemed to work, couple of weeks later I have experienced a lot of it's sexual side effects.
I mentioned it to my GP, and that I don't think I can take it, I can't live with it's side effects.
Their suggestion was: keep taking it, the side effects will go away.
Kept taking them, the side effects got worse, and also had profuse night sweating from it (waking up 2-3 times a night like if I just stepped out of the shower).
Mentioned it again to my GP that the medication makes me feel even more miserable, because now I have no sex life, and I can't sleep.
Their suggestion was: keep taking it, the side effects will go away.
That's when I stopped taking Sertaline without telling them that I have stopped taking it.
Couple of years later my GP prescribed me Amitriptyline for pain.
It worked, however it put me in a worse mental state than I ever had.
I looked it up, what could possibly work for me, stopped taking the Amitriptyline, and started taking Mirtazapine.
No side effects at all other than I felt quite tired for the first week (probably made worse by now taking opiates for pain at the same time).
With all this, my question is why are SSRIs pushed so hard, GPs are ignoring and minimizing the sexual side effects.
70% of people experience these symptoms, and some SSRIs are even used as a treatment for premature ejaculation.
I just simply don't get it how a side effect that common and possibly severe is so overlooked.
Is there anything particularly wrong with other type of antidepressants?
From what i understand about sertralin is it wither works wonders, or its awful.
I had the worst time on it, no sleep, didnt feel hunger and just all around did not help! Im on meds now for the permanent sleeping issues it gave me yay.
Was off it for a year and still took me 5+ hrs of laying in bed to fall asleep
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Let's just be extremely glad that Freud isn't around for the red pill hate group era. Things were bad enough back then, but can you imagine?
I went to therapy for a few years, and my therapist was pretty bad with the sex and romance stuff. She was really good otherwise, but these topics felt incredibly akward.
Freud also prescribed cocaine and partook himself so I’m going to say no.
ahh, the first season was still so good and grounded in reality. Season 4 is borderline unwatchable, writing went absolutely down the toilet.
I think one thing that is not realistic at all is Otis' mum therapising him. I grew up with a therapist as a mother, and I just talked about this with a friend who's mum was also a therapist, and they absolutely did not therapise us. I mean, sometimes the therapist voice came out, but never on purpose, and I always shut that down. I think some people genuinely believe that having a therapist as a parent means getting free therapy