Ask A Therapist: Internalized Homophobia and why you should care
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- čas přidán 29. 06. 2024
- Accepting yourself is only the first step Did you know that almost every person who idea tities as part of the LGBTQIA+ community struggles with homophobia? INTERNALIZED homophobia is when the messages you have hear your whole life are (consciously or unconsciously) applied to how you understand yourself, your worth, and your capacity to connect with others Internalized Homophobia can lead to problems in all sorts of areas. Check out this video for some help defining, identifying, and healing yourself from those internal messages. : When people internalize the messages society has about homosexuality. #internalizedhomophobia #homophobia #trauma #lgbt #therapy
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I’m gay and I identify as male. I always get uncomfortable when I see young boys who I perceive as gay (flamboyant behavior) even though I certainly have a strong level of flamboyance within myself. That’s the instance of internalized homophobia I’m dealing with right now. 😕 It makes me upset because that’s exactly the world I want, where kids are free in their gender expression and personalities as a default, but how can I expect homophobic or heteronormative people to become supportive of the LGBT community and everything that goes along with that support if I can’t even truly do it in my own mind as a gay male.
I can see so much GOOD WORK you are doing internally to deprogram your own internalized homophobia. And I know you are not alone in the struggle you described. Thank you for being real about it.
It took a LONG time for me to understand that the stereotypes we are socialized with growing up aren't real. No one can ALWAYS be strong, always be brave, always be athletic, competitive, ready, show no emotion 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. For women, the "expectation" is many of those same things, but also always be smiling, nurturing, "perfect" right? That's humanly impossible.
Something does not have to be "perfect" in order to be beautiful or worthy.
People are a lot more complex than some flat, 2D caricature. Every one of us is endowed with both creative AND nurturing energy.
It's okay to cry, it's okay to have feelings or want to feel safe and protected.
Life is so much better when you know people are cheering for you. Everyone has a bad day every once in a while. With good friends we can hopefully be authentic and take turns leaning on each other when we really need to.
I no longer view that as weakness, it's an acknowledgement of the reality that I do not live in a vacuum, I am successful because of others just as much as my own initiative.
It was a few weeks ago that I realized that I'm lesbian, and it's so weird, because even that I imagine myself with a woman and start feeling happy and waiting for this moment, my mind keep trying to telling me that this is a lie, but I know it isn't. It's my "ego" trying to push me into this unfair society, and hurts so bad... I just want to be fully in peace, but I'm so afraid of what is gonna happen to me after I come out to everyone. This kind of video helps me a lot, it remember me that this thoughts are not my fault and isn't me. Thank you so much for your content, this deserves so much more views!
I'm so glad to hear you are finding affirmation here. You are valid JUST AS YOU ARE. And it's NOT your fault that the lies society has told all of us are impacting you. Keep reminding yourself that YOU know the truth of who you are, and NO ONE can take that from you! ❤️❤️❤️
@@KellyRMinter that's so sweet and heartwarming ✨ thank you so much ❤️
Hello 👋 this topic has been very close to me this past month. I have struggled with internalized homophobia this month, more than any time in my life. I’m a 17 year old and I know the reason behind my internalized homophobia. It is because I’m scared that LGBTQ+ dating is harder than heterosexual dating and I’m afraid of not being able to find a person I would want to spend the rest of my life with and I’m afraid of being alone. I’m just afraid that one day I will be alone in an empty house. The thought of it makes everything inside of me explode. I’m also from Ukraine and I’m not planning on looking for a partner here cuz I’m moving to Vancouver, Canada soon. I would like to hear your advice because I’m very sick of the mental state I’m in right now. Because I wanna be happy and I wanna enjoy life and not be scared of it.
First, THANK YOU for your comment. The first step in overcoming internalized homophobia is knowing it is impacting you. And honestly? All dating is hard. But you may feel it VERY freeing when you are dating someone with whom you could see a future. And you're going to LOVE Vancouver! It is honestly on my list of top places I would love to live. The people are so nice, and in my experience, very non judgmental about sexuality, gender identity, and gender of expression. I'm hoping that will be your experience also! Keep me posted!
I could not agree more with this comment! This is how I feel and I addressed my therapist about how I feel with my internalized homophobia. Living in NW Indiana, I feel like a fish out of the water. Every guy I seem to encounter at the gym is straight. Let alone, all of my friends are straight. I just feel alone and aspire to learn and receive guidance from my therapist on how I could continue to act on healthier solutions while journalling and focusing on my personal goals (and adding new ones!)
It is a lot harder. Honestly got called internally homophobic and wanted to explore that self reflection, I never thought this could’ve been the cause potentially I guess. You’ve shed some light on this for me my brother.
Thanks so much for this video. I’m 26 and gay. I used to think that I was so open minded because of the adversity I have been through. But slowly but surely I’ve started to realize just how much internalized homophobia I suffer from. I use to think think that my personality, the way that I am, was something “natural” … but now I’m beginning to realize that part of my personality has been deeply repressed because of internalized homophobia. I used to think that my mental health was good, especially after coming out and accepting myself as gay and rejecting the church. But no. I need to work through my internalized homophobia.
It is such a journey, and one I wish no one had to take. It shouldn't be like this, and I'm sorry it is (at least now). You have clearly done hard work to get yourself to where you are. Please give yourself the credit you deserve, even as you keep up the hard work 💖
Thank you soooo much for talking about issues between the church and the lqbtqia+ community. What I've learned in the church, spoken and unspoken, has had the biggest impact on the self-hate I deal with behind being a lesbian. There are so many intrusive thoughts that i battle that match the spoken and unspoken things that society has to say about loving the same sex.
On a side note, could you please talk about ways that people dealing with internalized homophobia can go about starting a journey of self love and building a community of people who support them in their sexuality?
I am so happy any time anyone starts to pull apart those complex (and like you said, mostly unspoken) messages about how acceptable it is to love who we love.
I love this suggestion! Stay tuned! ❤️
How does this video only have a few hundred views?! This is totally spot on and incredibly helpful for someone like myself (especially haven gone to catholic school) dealing with this topic. Great job, this needs to be shared more.
Thank you! Feel free to share where ever you'd like, I'm not very good at marketing myself ☺️
I love how you thoroughly explain concepts in clear words that are easy to understand for those of us that don’t have training or education on these topics. This really gave me some insight and hope that I can get to a place where I’m comfortable with my sexual orientation after church/spiritual trauma ❤️🏳️🌈
Thank you so much for saying that! It is a topic very close to my heart, and I'm glad you got something from the video 😁
I'm a female 35, slowly unraveling this after having children and being with men mostly my whole life (and studying every dating coach and relationship book known to god-let's make this work! try harder. what's wrong with me? and so on were my thoughts)-and I don't think it's appropriate to say I'm bisexual once I could separate what I wanted from men is validation and friendship. Anyway thanks so much for putting these videos out. In my heart I really want to be married to a wonderful, beautiful woman-future goals!
I love that you are so willing to put the time into untangling this for yourself. It is hard work, but knowing your future goal is a great step! She is out there for you, I really believe that!
I love doing my chores and having some videos play in the background to listen to. Your video just captured me. I didn’t even realize I sat down and watched the video instead of doing the chores. I really needed that right now. Great video!
This is one of the nicest complements I've ever received. I'm so glad you have yourself a break!! Glad you found the channel! ❤️
You explain this so well. When I speak on this subject there is so much rage within me that I feel that I'm not ready to truly speak on it. I have a lot of healing to do. Thank you for this video this has been one of the best videos that I've seen on this topic thank you!
You are so kind, thank you! And also, thank you for listening to yourself in recognizing you're not ready to speak on it yet. When Rage/Anger shows up, we need to pay attention, because it is always trying to tell us something. It sounds like yours is recognizing how unjust the world has been to us on this topic, and it is getting your attention! I love that you are listening to it, and until you are ready to use your own voice, feel free to borrow mine ❤
this is so important. thank you for making this video, and for explaining it in such a clear way
Thank you for watching! ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you so much for this wonderful video. I've been struggling with this for quite some time now, and your words and advice helped me tremendously. Thank you for doing what you're doing.
I am so glad you found your way to this channel! Thanks for watching! 😁😁
Thanks so much for this video🥰 really impactful for many people. You have a new subscriber!
Yay! Welcome! And thanks for watching 😁💜
This is so amazing! As a 16 yr old who recently came out (to like 2 people) as queer, I've realized that part of the reason it took me so long to become comfortable with my sexuality (n still working on it) is because of how I was raised in a traditional hetero household. It didnt help that although i wasnt even close to coming to grasps with my sexuality, other people were already making assumptions about me, n beecause for so long I was taught in that heteronormative way, i would immediately become offended n fall deeper n deeper into my denial. The thing is, it was never like I had any issues with the LGBTQ+ community either. I have always supported them n believed them to deserve equal rights as cis hetero people, and yet at the same time, I was ABSOLUTELY TERRIFIED of what it would mean if I was LGBTQ+ myself. N that is all because of how I was raised, with this mindset of stereotypical gender roles and that being anything else than heterosexual "is not okay". I've come to this whole realization recently n ur video has really helped me with that, so thank you 🙏🏼. It makes me sad that I am queer myself yet have had to struggle for so many years to just be comfortable admitting that to myself, because of all this internalized homophobia. I just hope that things will be better from here 🏳️🌈
Things always look brighter when you are living authentically. I am so glad to hear that this video helped normalize those fears for you. Most of us don't realize the full extent of the reach that heteronormativity has on us until we confront our own internalized homophobia. I'm so glad you found this video! :)
Thank you Kelly! Very good points and very well articulated.
Thank you for watching!! 💛💛
I’m so glad I found your videos. Thank you ❤
I'm so glad you found them too! 💚💚
Thank you so much for talking about this! I never thought about how we are consistently taught the narrative that being gay isn’t normal/natural. I am definitely dealing with internalised homophobia myself, and I never even realised it.
I'm so glad you found this video then! I hate that we have to be on this journey because of the way society is currently built, but I am thankful we don't have to do it alone.
Glad I found your channel ❤️
Me too! Let me know if you have any requests! ❤️
Great video. Ive been struggling with this most of my life. I thought when i came out at 17 it would all just go away and I’d be free! But ive realized it takes years of cognitive restructuring to change how i think about my sexuality and myself. And its true that holding it in takes a toll on your mental health because it affected me so badly that i developed body dysmorphic disorder which is a disgust and inability to see ones self correctly. Only recently have i realized that it has absolutely nothing to do with how i look but rather my internal thoughts about myself and sexuality being projected onto my body park aka my nose and face. It’s the most painful and horrible thing ive ever had to deal with but i am glad that i am finally figuring out why and i feel hopeful now that i can overcome it.
Thank you for sharing that part of your story, I KNOW others can relate too! The internal shame carried by so many is NOT THEIR FAULT. I'm going to keep saying it until everyone knows it 😊
I've been 'out' as a lesbian for about 3 years now. Growing up, I never really knew what gay people were, but my family have always been supportive of me in pretty much every single sense. But I was still afraid to tell people once I'd realised, and didn't for months.
I think the fear stemmed from when I was 12, I kissed a girl, and people at my school at the time were really mean about it. I quickly ran back into the closet and denied being gay at all, and even told myself I didn't like them, and it was because society had told me it wasn't normal, and I'd be treated differently. I didn't even really know if I was gay, I just knew people didn't think it was normal.
I even became friends with a group of LGBTQ+ people and didn't even feel comfortable telling them. I eventually did, and of course they were supportive. But earlier in my comment, I put 'out' in quote marks, because I never told anybody else after them. I let people figure it out, and when they do, I don't deny it anymore. Even some of the people who were originally mean figured it out, and now are supportive.
COVID hit, and I was 13 with too much time to myself. I figured out I actually was gay, and didn't want to tell anybody at all. Especially not my family. Even though they'd never been unsupportive, I was afraid I'd let them down by being gay because I'd seen it as not normal.
About a year passed, and I was 14. I got in my first ever 'real' relationship with a girl. We were together until I was 16. I didn't tell my mum until we'd been together for 10 months already, and even then, I didn't really tell her. She asked me if we were dating, and I just said yes. She was supportive, but I still felt weird about it, like I'd let her down. When I was with this girl in public, I'd be terrified to actually act like we were together. I was scared to hold her hand, etc.
Me and the girl broke up, and only then did my brother find out. My dad doesn't know at all, which is weird because he also has told me he would be okay with it if I was gay. I just am not always accepting of myself, and sometimes still feel off about people knowing. It's gotten a lot better in recent months, definitely. I'm almost 17, and have definitely gotten over a lot of my internalised homophobia. I've stopped labelling myself as not normal, and stopped telling myself it's okay for other people to be gay, just not me. But sometimes, it's still there. It's something I learned for so long, and unlearning it is hard.
I even think my fear to actually 'come out' to people still, and just letting them figure it out may be because of my internalised homophobia and thinking I'll be a bit 'weird' for bringing it up and telling them.
I'm so glad you are able to look back and see how far you have come! That can be really hard for people sometimes. Remember that your timing is YOUR timing, and no one else's. You have to be ready for each step you take ❤️❤️
I’m 29 and now realizing how detrimental my internalized homophobia is affecting me.
It is such a sneaky thing isn't it? People often expect things to get easier when they come to terms with their sexuality, and generally it does. but internalized homophobia gets louder at the same time, and we often don't realize it until things are thrown WAY off. I'm glad you're doing the work! Keep it up.
I wish you could be my therapist!! :) Lol thank you so much
it’s crazy that you said that kelly !
it pushed me to the edge after getting married to my wife and i finally opened my eyes that my family doesnt accept me being gay . That rejection led to me having the biggest depression in my life and now currently working on my internalized homophobia after getting married and at the age of 33
I'm glad you are at a point where you feel like you can start working through that for yourself! 🧡🧡🧡
You are doing gods work ❤
Thank you ! You're videos are really helpful !❤
Aw thanks so much! 💕💕
Thank you for this, it really helped
So glad to hear it!
Thank you for sharing this knowledge! This has been our life experience as well as a newly out transgender amab nonbinary person. It's a heavy weight, but moving out from under it as much as we can has been life-saving. 🌈💜🏳️⚧️💗🥚
Yes! When someone moves out from under the weight of this is always something to celebrate!!! ❤️❤️❤️
This is beautiful
Thank you so much!
thank you for this video
Thank you for watching it! I love hearing from ya'll, so let me know if you have other topics you'd like to have covered!
I truly appreciate you making this video. It makes me emotional to think about all the ways in which I have internalized homophobia as I identify as a non-binary (masc fem) and lesbian. At 25 I realize that there is no script or blueprint for my identity as a non binary mature adult.
Dealing with various addictions and romantic relationships that are less than ideal have taken a toll on my self esteem. Nevertheless, I’m on my self-care/self actualization journey and I am glad I was directed to this video
I'm so glad you found this video 💙 thank you for watching! 💚
I found this video very helpful, your professional explanation helped me understand :)
That's so good to hear!! Thanks for sharing that ❤️
I wish I could speak to you. I have a very good friend who said while we were hugging ' can you go gay in your 50's. He said he never enjoyed sex with his ex wife. He said. ' I did the right thing, I got married , I had children' . We clicked the moment we met. We have had very long hugs a few times. He is very loving to me and u know he likes me. He is very adamant he is not gay. But I think he is. He is 55 so it would be a huge deal for him. I told him how I feel. ( I love him ) and now he has pulled away. I think he scared
That's a LOT for you to carry, the way that this friend treats you versus the way they move about the world. If this person is dealing with internalized homophobia, they have a process ahead of them, that is for sure. The bigger question here is this: what do YOU want? What do YOU deserve? And is a friendship/continued relationship with this person GOOD for you? I'd suggest starting there. ❤️💙💚❤️
Thank you. ♥
Thank YOU for watching! ❤️❤️
when you mention those in ministry really made my antennas raised... being the first born to homophobic preachers and I'm gay. would be crazy if they were to find out
It can be so isolating to have the people who are supposed to love you be conditional with their love. Especially egregious when they are also people leading others in faith, because it actually means that they missed the mark when it comes to understanding love. I am so sorry that you are living through this. 🧡
@@KellyRMinter thank you. it can feel suffocating at times but I've adjusted to it basically
Thank you❤Kelly
Thank you for watching 💙💙
This hits really hard for me because I have been dealing with internalized transphobia as well as internalized homophobia. I came out as a trans woman 6 years ago and about a month ago I got into my first relationship since. I have often found myself thinking that my relationship with my girlfriend would be more legitimate if I wasn't trans, because then it would be straight. Since I liked women even from before I came out as trans, I still feel the need to do the traditionally "manly" things like pushing her chair in, opening the door for her, make the first move, etc. I feel like I still need to present masculine or at the very least androgynous because if I presented feminine then I feel like my relationship wouldn't be valid since stereotypically there's always a butch and a femme in lesbian relationships (Thanks heteronormativity). I just can't stop being afraid of what other's think of me
Letting go of the expectations of others is really hard. Added to that, society works on really outdated information on who people really are. All of those heteronormative/homophobic messages we get from SUCH a young age really do make it harder to distinguish between what we know to be true about ourselves, and what society has taught us to expect when looking at gender identity and gender roles, doesn't it. I'm so glad to hear you are in a place where you are working through those things and what it does to your own understanding of yourself. You working through that means you are 1) aware of the messages you are surrounded by and 2) willing to put in the work into being authentically YOU, and no one else. My dream is through understanding and real information, we can create a world where people can just be themselves, without having to sort through the messages and expectations of others. Until then, I'm glad you found the channel!
Thank you for the kind words. I've just found this video because I've just now come out as nonbinary. My entire teenage life, I've been the one laughing at """""the craaazy transtrenders """" """"hahah look at those *freaks*"""" until I realized I didn't actually feel that way. I didn't actually hate nonbinary identities, I've felt they're brave and amazing. I was jealous that people half my age are okay with their identity. I'm 23 now and still working through the self-hate and the hateful subtext my family gives me (example: my parents would often "remind" me that the only person who could love me fully is God. Which is certainly a look? No one could love me? Isn't that what put me in the hospital in the first place? And now it's being used against me???) So I've absorbed a lot of hate and internalized transphobia and homophobia. Because I was scared. If I didn't laugh in the crowd, I'd be the one getting tomatoes thrown at me on the hypothetical stage. But I can't take it anymore. I'm officially coming out. This is important.
Also if anyone reads this and feels the same way, it doesn't make you evil or bigoted, especially if you're closeted. You're just doing what you need to to survive. You can change. Take it one step at a time.
Thank you for sharing your experience here ❤️ I am sorry you had to go through it. Thank you for putting it out there and making others feel not so alone.
Thank you. Thank you so much.
You're very welcome!
I wish you were my therapist 😭
Man, I am 15 soon to be 16 and this video is extremely helpful to me and those like me. The only problom is I live in a conservative and religious environment." I was of low but luckily now working class status, an ethnic minority, and am confused about my gender. I mean I like guys and my sex is male, but I feel like anything I come up is selfish; " Oh your just trying to cope with the fact you where gay/born flawed, you can't be non binary or trans because you haven't experienced such and such as many of them have. You can never be a women like some are, that's just what you want to feel and or be instead of gay." No matter how I look at things I have all these mindsets when it comes to myself that cause me to set myself up as a monster and being extremely self critical. I really do enjoy studying and learning, but my grades are poor, I'm doing terrible in school am I simply not trying hard enough. I don't even feel like I deserve to be kind to myself and I just really need a therapist. I want to escape and just live just live else where, which has caused me to isolate myself. Luckily I'm not suicidal because I convinced myself thar the idea is cowardice when it comes to me, that's not to say I support suicide, but the underlying factors or what's important. I was born into a family where drugs are common and I was exposed to all these factors that nurture childhood PTSD. And it just bugs me that if a child can think about deep issues they be gifted or something. This has caused me to question my maturity and it's hard for me to look at positive more often than not. I'm depressed, I'm asthmatic, have ADD, HSP, allergies ect... And unfortunately these are all invisible disabilities. I didn't come here to vent but that's what ended up happening. My life isn't all bad the people around me are doing there best to help, think they know me and what's best of me. But weather or not they are here for me I will still be judged for my being weather or not it's realized. I really just want to just not be here it's not like suicide because in my opinion it's impossible to completely die kf you where ever born. But just be free or somewhere and pursue my many interest, grow to be efficiently independent instead of what I'm doing now, and help others too. But for now I need people who can maybe help nurture me in a different and I don't want to just go looking for anyone online either, I need a small group of people who can personally help me weather I'm betrayed or not. Lol I didn't mean to end up getting I just had a burst. But for now I can only thank you for this it makes me feel less alone and sorry about myself.
First of all, thank you for being so honest and sharing your story. I am sure that wasn't easy. I know there are others who will read this and gain comfort, because they will know they are not alone either. So thank you.
Second, let me tell you that YOU know YOU better than anyone else does. How you identify and how you present yourself to others is your business, and others don't get to tell you how to show yourself to the world. Keep learning yourself, because who you are is awesome!
i accidentally came out to my mum today in an argument although i definitely am not ready bc i am dealing with a lot of internalized homophobia bc i was raised in a very christian household. i feel so bad rn
Ugh that is so hard! Having to say things before you are ready makes an already stressful situation even more so. I am so sorry. I am glad you are able to be honest, but I am sorry you weren't able to do it how you wanted. 💕
my friend is in the exact same situation, she accidentally came out to her conservative christian parents
Homophobia, slavery and lots of other bs in the bible were most reasons for me - to leave all those religious cults, churches and communities - couldn´t stand that any longer - so disgusting when pastors, priests or church people are telling this to their believers.
It's like an abuse of power. Or lazy leadership. Or both. Either way, its gross and I hate that because of that people have to grow up in situations that teach them negative things about themselves. 💙💙
Hi, thanks for the video. I still have a long way to go, and I don't think I can do it alone, but I'm just delaying therapy again and again. Part of this is because I'm terrified, and I'm afraid that the therapist I go to turns out to be homophobic, or just don't understand. Any advice on this? I'm so deeply closeted I don't really have gay friends to ask for recommendations. Thanks !
Thanks for reaching out! I would recommend you go to psychologytoday.com and look for a therapist in your area. You can search by specialty on that site, and read people's profiles. Also, if you don't feel like a therapist is a good fit, it is always your right to go to someone else. ❤️❤️
How do I find group therapy sessions around me?
This is a great place to start: www.psychologytoday.com/us/groups
If that doesn't yield results, using their individual therapist finder, narrow it by the topic you'd like a group on, and contact some of the people in your area that list that as a specialty. If they aren't running a group, chances are they will know someone who is!
Quick note, though, due to Covid-19, many places aren't running groups, or they are virtual. Don't let discouragement derail you!
I accidentally disliked this video at first I’m so sorry 😩 but thank you for this video, very helpful!!
No worries! Thanks for watching, I am so glad you found it helpful 💙💛💜
3:47 *this.*
I cannot tell you how many times this has occurred in my life, or in the lives of queer clients! Such a weird and intrusive phenomenon, right? 💙💙💙
I can't remember which video it was, but you said They/them should be the default until you decide what pronouns work for you. I am breaking out of my comfort zone, and I'm asking some friends to call me they/them. I also recently discovered I am a Lesbian. I thought I was asexual or bi romantic and asexual, but I looked into comphet and put the dots together, and realized nope. I'm a Lesbian.
I do care. Sending me mad. Scaring confusing place to be.
It sure is ❤️❤️❤️
I’m 21. When I was 13 I had a girlfriend but ended it as was scared and confused. Watched women couples on CZcams etc. but I just obsessed over men a lot when I turned 16 and I mean I crushed hard on men every single thing about them. And I still do. But I’ve noticed I can crush on certain women. But my issue is my dad always taught me it’s disgusting and dirty, and I feel guilty even imagining dating a woman. And with my preference in men like their dominance and appearance etc and this guilt I feel like even if I crushed on a woman and had a chance I’d still chose any guy just so I don’t feel that guilt and feel wrong. I am just wondering am I bisexual with internalised homophobia or just straight and find certain women pretty.
This is a great question! I have a counter question for you...why is the answer important to you? (There is nothing wrong with it being important, I'm just wondering if you know why) once you can answer why that is important to you, you might understand how to proceed ❤️❤️
Is there a virtual support group? 😮
There definitely are. What area are you looking in? 💚💚
@@KellyRMinter Charlotte
Staying single
Also a totally valid option if it is right for you! 💚💚
Can you do a video on dating someone still in the closet?
Yes, definitely! Thanks for the suggestion! 💚💚
Umm it’s obvious there is an agenda. You can’t label everything homophobic. I have no problem with people being lgbtq. But children are off limits. Their minds are still forming and don’t need to be confused. Let them develop and see what happens later. Again, whatever you do when you get older and have a mature mind, more power to you. But leave the kids alone.
Thanks for the comment. Check out this week's video if you'd like to see my response.
Internalized negative attitudes associated with a homosexual identity. 🫣😤
It can be super intense, and pretty covert ❤️❤️
@@KellyRMinter I’ve dealt with it on both sides since puberty. It’s taken a toll on my self esteem. Not many therapists are well versed in the nuances of it though. That makes it that much more challenging in my opinion.
Very, very true. I get regular messages from people that I'd love to take on as clients because they can't find someone who is educated in this area and due to licensing laws I can't make them clients. There's definitely a huge need. ❤️❤️
@@KellyRMinter is there a database that would prove helpful? Psychology today is the only one I’m aware of. The insurance ones return practitioners with a broad base of knowledge.
I would also try mental health match. It is like psychology today but honestly has tools to get more specifics from the therapist's bio.
Also if you are trying to use your insurance, check and see if you have out of network benefits. Your therapist can give you a superbill (a statement of your charges) that you may submit for partial reimbursement. Some therapists also work with companies like Mentaya which do the submitting and calculating for you. My website has a calculator on it so people can check their benefits (feel free to use it, you don't have to be coming to me to check your benefits).❤️