Intimacy & Internalized homophobia as a South Asian

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  • čas přidán 9. 02. 2021
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Komentáře • 57

  • @lissettmartinez1476
    @lissettmartinez1476 Před 3 lety +30

    I am a mom of a lesbian daughter, and you always make me understand so many things. My background is catholic Hispanic, so is been very hard. Thank you 😘

  • @kimeocookie
    @kimeocookie Před 3 lety +26

    Back when I was mentally trying to understand my sexuality I literally had the thought “well if I’m gay I’ll just have to be alone forever because it’ll be too hard for people to understand” and whenever I think about that mindset and how real it was to me I’m shocked I ever thought that way. Like what a disservice it would be to myself to let other people’s discomfort affect my happiness.

    • @aarivya2851
      @aarivya2851 Před rokem

      Well ...I think i'm in this phase now

    • @crabzy814
      @crabzy814 Před 5 měsíci

      @@aarivya2851 i have been in it for 4 years now and even tried to go through therapy, but it didn't work, i have no idea what to do

  • @-inactive-7000
    @-inactive-7000 Před 3 lety +44

    "I just didn't know how to be so comfortable with myself that I could be with somebody else. " This hit me really hard thank you for this nidhi💖

  • @snehajhawar
    @snehajhawar Před 3 lety +31

    I pushed her away. Because of my internalized homophobia. I couldn't hold the thought that I would resent her if something were to happen to my father in the future for choosing us. Sabotaged my relationship with my love. Working on healing this part of me.

  • @monikarawat5526
    @monikarawat5526 Před 3 lety +17

    This is soo true for most of the asian /indian people. Thanku for taking this topic hope to see more related videos✌

    • @NidhiShukla
      @NidhiShukla  Před 3 lety +1

      Thank you! ❤️& I'm workin' on it :D

  • @maishaabby96
    @maishaabby96 Před 3 lety +13

    Even as a straight female I struggle with intimacy at times just because it’s been such an unknown territory growing up

  • @nightskystars0762
    @nightskystars0762 Před 3 lety +14

    This was so comforting to watch!! Sexuality related videos are always great to watch!!❤️❤️

    • @NidhiShukla
      @NidhiShukla  Před 3 lety +1

      I'm glad ❤️I've been thinking of making it a more frequented topic!

  • @lassam333
    @lassam333 Před 3 lety +9

    So important that you talk about this topic to help others who feel stuck in exactly the same situation.

  • @karishini734
    @karishini734 Před 3 lety +10

    I may not be Gay, but as someone who is from the South Asian community who is in an interracial/multi cultural relationship, a lot of the things you spoke about resonates with me although it may be a little different.. still things I experience in some ways

    • @NidhiShukla
      @NidhiShukla  Před 3 lety +1

      I get that! I'm glad it resonated ❤️

  • @Ravynblk08
    @Ravynblk08 Před 3 lety +7

    Very nice video, this is one subject that crosses all boundaries. I lived in a very rural part of the states and went through the internalized homophobia for almost most of my life. I feel it is a common struggle for the world.

  • @tahmenaferdous5213
    @tahmenaferdous5213 Před 3 lety +9

    Im so glad you figured out how to accept yourself and be happy with Jadz. Now u have this awesome channel and this amazing relationship and we get to be a part of ur journey

  • @avantika_2547
    @avantika_2547 Před 3 lety +9

    I am waching this video for like the third time today, and at various points my heart was so happy and jumping with the things you mentioned here that i kept hitting the like botton everytime.. (i know its stupid🙈) ... Its so difficult put such feeling in words and hats off to you for doing it so adorably and naturally. ❤

  • @mada7660
    @mada7660 Před 3 lety +8

    I am so sorry that people have to go through this

  • @yuxilove4545
    @yuxilove4545 Před 3 lety +4

    Hi Nidhi. I'm also from India... I don't know I should say this or not, I find some of things relatable ... I never been in any relationship.... But inclination towards this community and getting another kind of happiness when any girl ask me out.. 😭😭😭am I really into girls??

  • @summersunshine1507
    @summersunshine1507 Před 3 lety +4

    Thank you for this 💕 i remember when I first learned of the lgbt+ community, the experience was similar to yours. A friend came out in middle school and I remember thinking "cool! I didn't know guys could like guys" 😂 young me didn't know I'd grow up to be ace/girl who likes girls

  • @avantika_2547
    @avantika_2547 Před 3 lety +6

    Liked it just after 25 secs. Bcoz of the topic u picked. Thanks so much for talking about it. I love all videos and always keping smiling throughtout watching them.

  • @sara_abdin
    @sara_abdin Před 3 lety +5

    You worded this so well. I totally get it nidhi

  • @jinderoo
    @jinderoo Před 3 lety +3

    Love how honest & open this is. Also super relatable. 💕

  • @kavita0509
    @kavita0509 Před 3 lety +4

    Sweet video. It's like heart to heart conversation. ❤

  • @maeheck
    @maeheck Před 3 lety +2

    Thank you so much for bringing up such an important topic.

  • @mangomango9682
    @mangomango9682 Před 3 lety +1

    Thank you so much for talking abt this Nidhi! It's so important to have ppl share their experiences openly, also I love your shirt!💕

  • @lifewithraghu1330
    @lifewithraghu1330 Před 3 lety +1

    Thank you for talking about something people like me relate too!!! ❤️

  • @siddharthjain3341
    @siddharthjain3341 Před 3 lety +12

    Even tho I am straight, I can relate so much to some parts. Thank you. ♥

    • @NidhiShukla
      @NidhiShukla  Před 3 lety +4

      That makes sense! Navigating dating in general in our culture can be hectic, so I'm not surprised that some of this resonated with you.

  • @ruvar7532
    @ruvar7532 Před 3 lety +4

    Thank you for sharing your experience!!

  • @Lostparaok
    @Lostparaok Před 3 lety +6

    #NotificationSquad 🙋🏻‍♀️

  • @ThePriti1990
    @ThePriti1990 Před 3 lety +3

    Loved the video...❤

  • @divinelioness4931
    @divinelioness4931 Před 3 lety +2

    Thank you for talking about this.

  • @tejaswini5185
    @tejaswini5185 Před 3 lety +2

    Thank you!❤️

  • @danielatumanidis4867
    @danielatumanidis4867 Před 3 lety +2

    My gf is India too

  • @chemist_snehal
    @chemist_snehal Před 3 lety +5

    I too felt as love is not for me since i'm looking it in wrong person

  • @anshuchoudhary5081
    @anshuchoudhary5081 Před 2 měsíci

    I can relate to this as I'm a South Asian Bisexual man. This started via watching porn since 6th grade, but I'm going to therapy for free by my job.

  • @kimeocookie
    @kimeocookie Před 3 lety +3

    Also I love your shirt ???

  • @princyagarwal264
    @princyagarwal264 Před 3 lety +3

    Sweet cute video.. in love with you and everything you share and do in your channel...🥰😘

  • @-inactive-7000
    @-inactive-7000 Před 3 lety +3

    All thisss

  • @kurinchybhavan1767
    @kurinchybhavan1767 Před 3 lety +3

    Hi friend, love you

  • @noamaanahmad1595
    @noamaanahmad1595 Před 2 lety

    Omg I just learnt there’s something called Internalised homophobia 😭

  • @babajijobless9591
    @babajijobless9591 Před 3 lety +1

    My father is not allowing me to date men from other religion so u can guess how hard is for people like me to tell our dad that " Hi Dad I m gay"
    And I m dam sure even after pride parade in INDIA , many parents will not support there gay child
    Honor killing is common thing here 🥺

    • @nartanaiyer8653
      @nartanaiyer8653 Před 3 lety

      Hope things get better for you

    • @babajijobless9591
      @babajijobless9591 Před 3 lety

      @Improviser Honor killing meaning is family murder own family person to protect family reputation in the society . .
      You are talking about same Sex marriage is difficult , I say oh please check in Indian opposite sex marriage is also difficult and same Sex marriage is next to impossible to many however few are opening up but many are quite doing arrange marriage with no interest ..
      This is true nothing information is out of box

    • @subritikarmakar7897
      @subritikarmakar7897 Před 3 dny

      What state are you from? Because in my experience in my state it is easier to tell you are gay or bi is easier than to tell you are in love with someone from that one other religion. At least for most of the people it is .

  • @TheHumbleHealer
    @TheHumbleHealer Před 4 měsíci

    Look at this channel… it is… all gay. lol that was cute :,)