Ladies please never ever tell a man how much you know about the game! Let him assume you know nothing and surprise him when you give him your butt to kiss when you pick up on his sneaky sh*t.
It don’t matter whether she tells him what she knows or not. Bcuz he is going to take her honey if she’s giving it away regardless. So she is just speaking to a wall. Talking does not register with guys. If after all her talking she is still dumb enough to give her honey away is what he’s looking for.
@@bc1248 Tony exposes the game for the ladies knowledge not to go tell the player that you know his game plan. Once you tell him what you know you give away your power and no longer have the upper hand. Knowledge is power. Once he knows you know it he will ghost you(which is good) or change the plan. Of course the loosebooty901 type of woman would give it up either way though.
"Men are always looking for an upgrade." "You're 1 of 3 women." Keep your 👀 and 👂 open and your legs close. "You are a pit stop until you are not" Another great vid.
@@chickwitthagoodies That's why Tony tells us women to keep our legs closed until marriage because a man can't fake who he is for a year or two with no sex. Unless he's a psychopath.
@@anointedstilettos even in marriage still keep your eyes open. My ex switched up and I had to leave him in marriage. Always keep your standards ladies, no matter the situation!
A man can only return into our lives if we make it easy for them to come back and have access to us. The block and delete button should be our best friends, just saying. ☕️
“Keep your legs closed” is the answer to everything. I have not been on my back in about 4 years and I promise it has been the best decision. I’m never unclear about a man’s intentions because they drop like flies when they realize it’s not going to happen. I’ve never been the type to sleep with anybody because I had a number of friends who had sex early in life who caught stuff they can never get rid of. I did NOT want that to be me. Thank God I never caught anything. The most recent guy just disappeared a little over a year ago. But I did NOT care because there was no sex and he didn’t know any of my business because I wouldn’t even talk about it. I let him lead the conversation so Tony is right, NOTHING was lost.
@@ataboofamily Don't be so hard on yourself. It's a reminder that you're human and still capable of being vulnerable... Which is important when the real man comes.
He comes back, basically, bcuz life does not go the way he thinks. He has this fictitious fugitive from his imagination that he thinks is out there somewhere waiting exclusively for him. And once reality busts him upside the head and he realizes that there is no fantasy woman, in fact, there is no one at all who want to be bothered with him. It turned out that she was the only somebody who bothered to give him the time of day, and he goes back to her for that reason.
Why do women choose to watch Tony to get a better understanding of the male species and then start disagreeing with him or judging him. Try to listen and Understand it from different perspectives. Everyone’s situation is different. I don’t always agree with everything he says... but he is genuinely trying to help us. That’s what separates him from all the other ones. I have a lot of respect for him. He earned my respect when he talked about how he handiest his last job.
I say the same thing myself.....LOL.... I have two brothers and many male cousins...they don't share much about relationships 😒 however the question they ask is ...are you happy??? They don't need me to answer ......they ask ust to make me think....I apprecjiate TG ....so important to hear REAL male perspective
He comes back because we haven’t learned to love ourselves yet. Wrote a whole book about it called Love Yourself First: How to Heal from Toxic People, Create Healthy Relationships & Become a Confident Woman. Ladies listen to Tony.💯
What I notice is men always want somebody to save them “I need somebody to take me put of the game” “I need somebody who gonna change me” “I need a woman to take me out of the streets.” “When I meet the right woman, they gonna change me” SAVE YOURSELF
The guy she’s talking about must be a narcississt. Oh lord, just went thru this. They never offer you nothing but want things to go back to the way they were
@@marysmith6803 If you assume that a man is viewing you as a pitstop - making sure he doesn't leave with souvenirs means you stay off your back (no sex no soulties) I was just referencing something Tony said in the video.😊
Baby girl, please take heed, soak it all up, and save yourself from a lot of trauma that I know I wish that I avoided a lot sooner. Protect your peace and your temple.
Yes Girl please soak it up. I wish I knew this info and trusted myself more in the past. I am under 40 and just now getting this info and will apply accordingly.
30:00-35:45 was so important. This is why I'm so happy I know that a man doesn't complete me. I am whole and complete in Jesus Christ. This is why I can be abstinent for 5 years and be satisfied without a man and sex.
They comeback because we allow them to comeback.. Once we say enough is enough and let go of the situation it’s time to move on.. I was in a situation similar.. I started questioning my worth and had those self talks and finally convinced myself that I had nothing to lose if I walk and I did just that walked
Ythis video was NOTHIN SHORT OF AMAZING TONITE! AND 2ndly ...your comment jist did somethin for me! I guess..ita because the ex..caused me to leave the situation and now hes coming bk... And wants to 'talk face to face' tomorrow. Lol.yeah.. Hes gettin permanently dismissed and he doesnt know it. . He will be ahocked that in his absence since june2020..i have dropped 25 lbs. And fone from fine to fierce. Lol I have Absolutely nothing to lose with him
These men be looking for perfection and they are always works in progress! It’s so backwards!! I wish it was a healthy balance between both genders. I am so tired of one exhausting the other. I pray for more healthy balanced relationships for all who seek it!
Then if they repeatedly step over your comfort levels, distance yourself as much as possible. Even in a coparenting situation focus on the facts, that is it.
The fact that a man had to ask Tony if it was okay for him to get “it” out of his system before he married a woman who was staying a virgin for him is disgusting. I’d rather be single.
Girl 😒 you’re supposed to take the FREE GAME and apply it silently. U don’t send a man these videos bc they’re not for them they’re for us 🙄. She was hoping he’d watch the video, apply it and change. Girrrrllll...
THANK YOU!! This is why Tony said women talk to much and share too much. Women don't understand to keep things to themselves. Why would they send these videos to men, I just don't get it. This is to apply silently like you said.
Dealt with that mess. Men don’t care about what a woman says. You MUST show them. I don’t know about y’all, but if I get a random text or call, I block automatically (after I do a little research). Ugh!!!! Flashbacks listening to some of the questions. Be blessed and thank you!
it's funny how grown boys always have something there looking for or want more out of us women. When they're not even the bare minimum, like huh???? Also, do you notice how most women will stay with a guy be unhappy, or accept the things he lacks but these guys will just get up and walk away from us for the pettiest things?
Right lol. I don’t sleep on my back no more, I don’t get on my back for the gyn, I don’t do sit ups no more! Everything I do I gotta stand up. Won’t catch me slipping lol 😂
I THANK GOD FOR U MR GASKINS. FOR I TRULY TRULY DID NOT KNOW HOW MEN THOUGHT ACTED AND BEHAVED. EVEN WITH U EXPLAINING ITS STILL AT TIMES HARD TO WRAP MY MIND AROUND AND SO TRYING TO UNDERSTAND THEM ON MY OWN , SMH WOULD BE AND WAS VIRTUALLY IMPOSSIBLE. SO I THANK U. I AM NO LONGER OPERATING OUT OF NAÏVETÉ. :)
If we REFUSE to take the bait, there would be no game. Until we had enough of the foolishness, they'll continue using us as pawns. Unless, you like being toyed with. Let's get back to handling our business, and leave the grown boy in the DUST.👌🏽
Yup! They hate and block you when they know you are not the women they can get anything from! 🙄😂👊🏻 Grown boys!!😂😂😂😂😂 Good riddance😌 I say! I'm not giving the Cookie to a homeless beggar who is not my husband! 🙄😂
Tony I’m not gonna lie this video was a hard pill to swallow just realizing how many times I’ve contributed to making myself a pit stop. Still thankful for your insight. God highlighted you at a time in my life when I really needed the guidance I wasn’t getting anywhere else. I never got any of these real talks from my dad due to his older age & old fashioned Belizean ways. Not only that but if a person isn’t thriving in a certain area they really can’t guide another person. I was sheltered as a child & figured out everything I knew from the opposite sex on my own by trial & error. I’m believing God will continue working on my heart & guiding me, thank you for serving God. God bless.
I have yet to hear when you should take him back though. every case is different @TonyGaskins you're wife took you back so there should be hope for some.
@@eboogiefilms3685 get his book “A woman’s influence” it is available on audible as well as in print on Amazon. The answer your looking for about his wife taking him back is in detail. Also will clarify if and when you should take him back.
Yeah men do balance women. this is why for me I personally don’t pay for dates or go on “cheap” dates anymore in the beginning at least. Men will take you to a hole in the wall wing spot to save money then you notice on Instagram every week he taking pictures of food at nice establishment with the girl he really likes.
This is too funny 🤣😂, a dude who blocked a women and then tried to shoot his shot 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️👀Tony keep on keeping it 💯 with us👏🏾"men don't like to be alone"..
Why send him that video ? He’s not gonna watch it 🤦🏽♀️ i refuse to be like this in my 30s and 40s it comes a time when we need to start looking within and seeing what we are doing wrong attracting this kind of man and entertaining this kinda man even after all the red flags.
People do not like the truth they think it is not going to happen to them. There is nothing you can do to make someone like you. If they like you then that means that you are the one. You'll never be right for the wrong person.
Tony that's why I love you , your my true brother because you break this down with passion, trust me you always on point because I was with a man for 10 years and didn't know him 😢, I pulled out the red carpet way too soon, he threw me away like a piece of trash & went to a young lady 10 years younger sky. Ladies please 🙏 listen to tony. Thank you tony
The way Tony read “I fwd him your grown boy vs grown man video” and looked at the camera had me crying tears y’all. My daughter had to come check on me I was laughing so hard 😭😭😭 whewww
Once he started to read the email, I’m like oh man, here we go. And she said she had discernment...no you don’t sis... because if she did she wouldnt have written this email.
Didn’t the letter also start off with a statement that she watched and rewatched @TonyGaskins videos?? I had the same reaction as you...”no you didn’t sis”... because if you had even just watched some of them once, there would of been no reason for this question!! IJS
55 and I have never done a 2nd time around..though some people say its better...I'm thinking there's a reason why we broke up..what's different. What's changed..then I'm imagining what and who you may have done while we were apart..its just not for me..I'm not judging anyone who chooses to go back..I just couldn't see ahead if I'm constantly looking back..if I'm always making a u turn I will never reach my destination.
When you gave him that watch my dear sister it mean time has ran out. You gave too much of yourself. Girl listen to Tony. He never was your type. Cone on, he not in your man. Keep yourself safe .Tony great talk.
Preach Tony, Thank you, Thank you, Tony I don't understand how we as women can be so Clueless when it comes to these GROWN BOYS!! HELP US LORD!!! HELP US TONY!!! PLEASE!!!
The perfect woman that's in a man's head does not exist. God gave the man this image of the perfect woman so he will have a vantage point of what he needs to pour into that woman to make what he envisions. So if a man is not happy with his wife he should not be happy with himself.
That’s true!! I also believe in spiritual warfare and when god!gives a men a woman she is a complementary to him . In this life no one is perfect, that’s what all makes us so special that is why god gives a men a women that is complementary to him , also when he goes and search for another one he doesn’t find her because for one it’s wrong that he is doing so and the “ universal “ law don’t work like that, you reap what you sow.
This video was so insightful. When I broke up with my ex (which he pushed me to do so; he switched up on me) He asked could we still be friends. I told him no, I don't know how to be your friend. Just found out after 3 months he was still listening to my pandora acct. I forgot that I signed into the app n his phone because we were 2gether at the time. I instantly changed my account info so he could stop using it. To me it was lazy and rude, like he wanted a part of me around. Just thought that was wack and trifling on his part.
This by far is one of the 🔥BEST🔥messages!!!!💯 He really dives deep into the psyche of men and helps us understand how they generally think. This helps us successfully navigate as we date, foster a climate of ease, & protect ourselves from unnecessary roughness, confusion, & continuous disappointment!!!!! He touches on the importance of knowing God, so that we can be content in our marriage. God’s wisdom is flowing through this man. LISTEN y’all!!!😇 Thank you, Tony.🙌🏾
It’s more than just mimicking Tony but finding your revelations through these videos and actually practicing the knowledge you gained. You’ll never keep/receive a grown man by mirroring Mr. Gaskins ... make it your own truth and follow through organically.
" STRONG, REAL WOMAN KNOWS HOW THE GAME IS AND CAN'T BE DESTROYED!"SHE IS REAL AND TRUE! THANK U! TONY LOOKIN FORWARD TO MORE! GOD BLESS U AND YR FAMILY!😊🙏
How is it that men don’t have to be abstinence prior to finding a wife? I’m just confused how that works. Like they get blessed with someone, when we could be getting cheated on when saving ourselves.
I hate to say it but that is the likely scenario. And sadly, that could spiral into him having a child with a woman he doesn't love because he just wanted that occasional release. Of course we can say he should have discipline and use condoms, but he human and he's a man. I'm a realist over everything...I believe in waiting a while, but not complete abstinence. BUT that's just my sinning behind 😭🤣🤣
"IF A MAN THAT RETURN BACK INTO YR LIFE AND " U LET HIM BACK IN !"THAT MAN IS LIKE A CLOSED CHAPTER OF A BOOK IT HAS ENDED!"TIME FOR A NEW CHAPTER OF A NEW BOOK TO BEGIN! THANK U! TONY LOOKIN FORWARD TO MORE VIDEOS! GOD BLESS U AND YR FAMILY! 😊🙏
Learn to appreciate what you have because the grass isn't always Greener on the other side. You won't ever have a perfect match but what counts is their good character
It took me 10 years to learn my husband because I ignored the red flags until things got really crazy. Didn't know any better and learned the hard way where he was really operating from. Thank you Tony for educating me on a daily basis so the next 10 years will be very different.
I have a ? What if u already married and hes going to girl to girl and the wife gives him her all and more but he keeps leaving her and coming back and then had a baby on her left that one and with another one
@@aliciarodgers8776 my reply to that is he is a dirty dog. He should not have gotten married. He does not love his wife in the slightest. He does not want his wife. The wife can be the closest thing to God and do all the above and beyond, but it wont make him act right. He is a grown boy. From the top of his head to the bottom of his feet.
There are so many gems in this conversation I can’t even count. 🙏🏾😌 All I see is Gods hands on your shoulders in every video Tony. “ You are a PIT STOP until your not. “ My God 👏🏾👏🏾😌😓
Hey Tony. I believe that this was your best video of putting it all in a nutshell about guys. I didn't see all your videos - and the ones I've seen were good. I really love the way you keep it all 100. God bless you and your family.
As soon as Tony was in the frame of the camera I was wondering what was going on? Tony, back in the day we would have told you that you look like a glazed donut 🍩 🤣🤣😂😂
After watching some of these- needing my own sense of "closure", I have to say... thank you for your service. The truth hurts, but its so much more valuable.
She was just as immature as he was. Let’s be honest. After he left, she starts sending him videos. This is just a snippet of the situation but when I did things like this, it was because I was immature. This screams young minded. She claims that she watched and rewatched his videos and still sent this email. It means she’s not paying attention and she wants an answer tailored directly to her situation. We don’t need answers for our specific situations. The man she was dealing with knew she wasn’t his wife. That’s why he never attempted to take their relationship to the next level. She’s in her forties as well.
Tony you are truly Bless. Mrs Gaskins truly love you to care about your skin, because all men should have a skin regimen however; men are usually not receptive to it. God Bless you all!!
“If a man leaves you, let him stay gone.” TG
Even if it is only to focus on their purpose, got to let them find that peace.
that part!
Bay bay 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
We don't revive/bring back the dead from death...once dead always dead.
Amen💯
Ladies please never ever tell a man how much you know about the game! Let him assume you know nothing and surprise him when you give him your butt to kiss when you pick up on his sneaky sh*t.
Yeahh, i was like, how could she?!?! But i hope she's learning now🙏
YESSS!!!!!
It don’t matter whether she tells him what she knows or not. Bcuz he is going to take her honey if she’s giving it away regardless. So she is just speaking to a wall. Talking does not register with guys. If after all her talking she is still dumb enough to give her honey away is what he’s looking for.
Exactly. Let him think you’re clueless.
@@bc1248 Tony exposes the game for the ladies knowledge not to go tell the player that you know his game plan. Once you tell him what you know you give away your power and no longer have the upper hand. Knowledge is power. Once he knows you know it he will ghost you(which is good) or change the plan. Of course the loosebooty901 type of woman would give it up either way though.
A man can really destroy a vulnerable innocent woman if she’s unaware of how the game work..
Even people who are well versed in life can be taken advantage of by a manipulative natured person.
Yup
Facts this woman was me 😕
Don't play!🔥
He's was 28 I was 22 I got destroyed but nothing is too big for God to fix my heart is in a good state now thanks to God 🙏
"Men are always looking for an upgrade." "You're 1 of 3 women."
Keep your 👀 and 👂 open and your legs close. "You are a pit stop until you are not"
Another great vid.
even when these men marry they are still looking for an upgrade its scary out here
@@chickwitthagoodies That's why Tony tells us women to keep our legs closed until marriage because a man can't fake who he is for a year or two with no sex. Unless he's a psychopath.
@@anointedstilettos even in marriage still keep your eyes open. My ex switched up and I had to leave him in marriage. Always keep your standards ladies, no matter the situation!
@@chickwitthagoodies Right!
@@chrissy1448 You're right about that. It happened to me too.
A man can only return into our lives if we make it easy for them to come back and have access to us. The block and delete button should be our best friends, just saying. ☕️
Exactly!!!
I live for the block and delete button peace of mind is everything!!!!
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@@lashondarochell7584 girl me too! I block guys so fast they don’t even realize it right away until I’m long gone.
@@lashondarochell7584 @Jessica 👏🏾👏🏾 my block list looks like a party invitation list its that long.
He comes back to see if we're still Duuumb & Stuupid!
Yes!!!! To check if you're still stupid to take him back
Exactly
RIGHT. If you're on your back-- he comes back to get SOME. Point blank PERIOOD.
Yup, simple as that
There you go and when you’re not stupid anymore now they’re mad 🤪
This man is WISE way beyond his years!!!!!
Right
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💯💯🙏 his experiences is what makes him wise..God bless him for sharing his knowledge with us 🙌🏽
Trust
Yes he is
“Keep your legs closed” is the answer to everything. I have not been on my back in about 4 years and I promise it has been the best decision.
I’m never unclear about a man’s intentions because they drop like flies when they realize it’s not going to happen.
I’ve never been the type to sleep with anybody because I had a number of friends who had sex early in life who caught stuff they can never get rid of. I did NOT want that to be me. Thank God I never caught anything.
The most recent guy just disappeared a little over a year ago. But I did NOT care because there was no sex and he didn’t know any of my business because I wouldn’t even talk about it.
I let him lead the conversation so Tony is right, NOTHING was lost.
Man I just messed up after all these years of not having sex messed up messed up and I’m so disappointed in myself 😤
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This is so true. You and Big Brother are 💯 correct. It's been 5 years for me, it feels really good and was the best decision of my life.
@@ataboofamily Don't be so hard on yourself. It's a reminder that you're human and still capable of being vulnerable... Which is important when the real man comes.
Purnt blank periodT🤲
He comes back, basically, bcuz life does not go the way he thinks. He has this fictitious fugitive from his imagination that he thinks is out there somewhere waiting exclusively for him. And once reality busts him upside the head and he realizes that there is no fantasy woman, in fact, there is no one at all who want to be bothered with him. It turned out that she was the only somebody who bothered to give him the time of day, and he goes back to her for that reason.
Perfectly explained 👏🏾
They bout to say you lying ! But this is the whole truth
And her response should be.....
"BLOCKED"
....In my Mr. Gaskins voice
You better speak the truth.....
@@tinajones1932 LOL! Word!
If you are the "one" he will change for you, you will know with every fiber of your being.
Truth
Why do women choose to watch Tony to get a better understanding of the male species and then start disagreeing with him or judging him. Try to listen and Understand it from different perspectives. Everyone’s situation is different. I don’t always agree with everything he says... but he is genuinely trying to help us. That’s what separates him from all the other ones. I have a lot of respect for him. He earned my respect when he talked about how he handiest his last job.
I say the same thing myself.....LOL.... I have two brothers and many male cousins...they don't share much about relationships 😒 however the question they ask is ...are you happy??? They don't need me to answer ......they ask ust to make me think....I apprecjiate TG ....so important to hear REAL male perspective
True I agree with you. I don't understand too.
He comes back because we haven’t learned to love ourselves yet. Wrote a whole book about it called Love Yourself First: How to Heal from Toxic People, Create Healthy Relationships & Become a Confident Woman. Ladies listen to Tony.💯
I’m going to check your book out🙌🏾💓 thx queen
Smen when a woman know her worth a man get his self together
What I notice is men always want somebody to save them “I need somebody to take me put of the game” “I need somebody who gonna change me” “I need a woman to take me out of the streets.” “When I meet the right woman, they gonna change me” SAVE YOURSELF
Truth 👏🏾
All facts. Drop them on their ass🤣
Looking for a mother instead of a wife 🤦🏽♀️
They will bring you down right with them.... I used to be a fixer
The guy she’s talking about must be a narcississt. Oh lord, just went thru this. They never offer you nothing but want things to go back to the way they were
Facts! They’ll break you down, and then want to come back as if nothing happened.
“The man is on a journey...Assume you’re a pit stop” was good. That’s a good approach to have.
Yes it is. And don't let him leave with no souvenirs
@@n.Lenice ?
@@marysmith6803 If you assume that a man is viewing you as a pitstop - making sure he doesn't leave with souvenirs means you stay off your back (no sex no soulties) I was just referencing something Tony said in the video.😊
4 minutes in and that blank stare, Tony! 😭🤣 “Don’t be bringing me in this”
Just want to say as a 19 year old female you’re channel has really educated me, thank you!
Baby girl, please take heed, soak it all up, and save yourself from a lot of trauma that I know I wish that I avoided a lot sooner. Protect your peace and your temple.
Yes Girl please soak it up. I wish I knew this info and trusted myself more in the past. I am under 40 and just now getting this info and will apply accordingly.
Amen I'm much older women he has help me as well
How'd you hear about this Channel?
17 here :')
30:00-35:45 was so important. This is why I'm so happy I know that a man doesn't complete me. I am whole and complete in Jesus Christ. This is why I can be abstinent for 5 years and be satisfied without a man and sex.
Amen
He ain't half a thing. Preach Tony. Maturity is a big factor we as women have to stop allowing them back. DONE MEANS DONE LADIES
Men have options..Look for red flags to determine what you are and stop allowing him to enter your space
Women have options as well, we just need to be smart with them.
@@AmberBrooklyn24 true
We need to date just like them but no sleeping or giving any of them our heart until they are the one and the last man standing.
The saddest part is his age... 45
The saddest part is a lot of these grown boys are in their 30's, 40's and 50's.
@@anointedstilettos , 60's, 70's also! It's a total mess. Those who play the games.
@@davinityt.741 That's crazy! You would think men that old are too old to be playing games.
@@anointedstilettos , yes you would. Think that.
@@anointedstilettos All ages.. They dont grow out of it.
They comeback because we allow them to comeback.. Once we say enough is enough and let go of the situation it’s time to move on.. I was in a situation similar.. I started questioning my worth and had those self talks and finally convinced myself that I had nothing to lose if I walk and I did just that walked
Amen sis
I did the same thing. I had to go off on myself one day, after that I let go. Smh jus wasted my damn time.
Ythis video was NOTHIN SHORT OF AMAZING TONITE! AND 2ndly ...your comment jist did somethin for me!
I guess..ita because the ex..caused me to leave the situation and now hes coming bk... And wants to 'talk face to face' tomorrow. Lol.yeah.. Hes gettin permanently dismissed and he doesnt know it. .
He will be ahocked that in his absence since june2020..i have dropped 25 lbs. And fone from fine to fierce. Lol
I have Absolutely nothing to lose with him
Some still come back when you say enough.. 5&9 years later for 2 exes for me.
These men be looking for perfection and they are always works in progress! It’s so backwards!! I wish it was a healthy balance between both genders. I am so tired of one exhausting the other. I pray for more healthy balanced relationships for all who seek it!
Key point: Make people accountable for their actions.Point Blank Periooodddd!
Then if they repeatedly step over your comfort levels, distance yourself as much as possible. Even in a coparenting situation focus on the facts, that is it.
I enjoy hearing what others are going through and learn from their mistakes and see where I have went wrong in the past
Me 2
Same here...if your personality matches your looks, you deserve the very best 🙂
Amen
If you have to wonder, he’s not the one! End of story. Got it.
Ain't that the Truth🌹🔥🥀
Also I never understand why women bother about such idiots anyway!🙄🤦♀️
Like Why!!???🙄🤦♀️
It's not even funny anymore😒🙄🤦♀️😂
Wow, Tony, that's deep. "What my wife cannot give me, I am completed by God." If only more men had that kind of mindset and spiritual maturity. 💔😭
This video has confirmed that we women are chasing our tails trying to conform to the standards these men out here 😕 I'm so tired 😔
The fact that a man had to ask Tony if it was okay for him to get “it” out of his system before he married a woman who was staying a virgin for him is disgusting. I’d rather be single.
This is so much better than Jeezy vs Gucci😌 ty tony
Facts!
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Girl, you ain’t ever lied. Thank God for Mr. Gaskins!
Agree!
Exactly 👏🏾😌
I’m staying single for the rest of my life after watching this. 😂 It’s not worth it.
Am in! Where do I sign for the singles club? 🙋🏾♀️
It honestly feels like that lol 😅
Never share your strategy with the Devil.
For REAL!!!!!
THE LOOK YOU GAVE HER 😂😂😂
Yes, i lost it!
Girl 😒 you’re supposed to take the FREE GAME and apply it silently. U don’t send a man these videos bc they’re not for them they’re for us 🙄. She was hoping he’d watch the video, apply it and change. Girrrrllll...
THANK YOU!! This is why Tony said women talk to much and share too much. Women don't understand to keep things to themselves. Why would they send these videos to men, I just don't get it. This is to apply silently like you said.
😂😂😂😂😂☺️
Amen you never let a man know what hand you are dealing
Yes I agree girrrrrllll you shouldn't have
Rule number one, never actually send them the video 🤦🏻♀️
You said something So Profound, "If he gets it from someone else, he wasn't the man for you. Simple but make all the difference.
Dealt with that mess. Men don’t care about what a woman says. You MUST show them. I don’t know about y’all, but if I get a random text or call, I block automatically (after I do a little research). Ugh!!!! Flashbacks listening to some of the questions. Be blessed and thank you!
@@p_tiffanii I tried that, but I was blocking people that shouldn’t be blocked (family).
it's funny how grown boys always have something there looking for or want more out of us women. When they're not even the bare minimum, like huh???? Also, do you notice how most women will stay with a guy be unhappy, or accept the things he lacks but these guys will just get up and walk away from us for the pettiest things?
So true
too too true
Maybe a full time mummy who does everything for them and doesn't hold them accountable.
@@wowso4 we have all been in that place before. It's a learning lesson.
@@destineeimani2654 I agree
just got done with homework!!! time to wind down and get some knowledge
Exactly I know what you mean
I ain’t get on my “byke” for nothing, Not even to sleep, I’m sleeping standing up from now on. I’m TIRED!!
Right lol. I don’t sleep on my back no more, I don’t get on my back for the gyn, I don’t do sit ups no more! Everything I do I gotta stand up. Won’t catch me slipping lol 😂
Lol
@@carmenparish lololol
@@antoniaadams2084 I just can’t do it 😂
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If you have to worry, wonder or question he is not the one thank you TG for your daily wisdom 🙌🏾
Amen ! Amen
The sad part is, those same men looking for the packaged deal, trophy woman have none of the attributes he is seeking.
True
Also when they realize those women are shallow and immature they go back to the one who gave them more meaning
Never let your right hand know what your left hand is doing ***disclaimer*** when you about to leave them 😅😅😅
Keep it cute classy and exit the stage 🌷
If you feel the need to e-mail Tony, you just need to go on bout your business. You are not the one... And stay off ya back!!
Facts
THE FACT THAT HE SENT HER "BE BLESSED {In the comments}" GOT ME WEAK! 😫🤣🤣🤣 PROVES THAT HE WATCHED TONY'S VIDEO AND "MADE IT THIS FAR" LMBO
THE RECEIPT MEANS SHE GOT MONEY!!! LMBO TONNNYYY!!!!! I LOVE UR ILLUSTRATIONS !!!! LMBO
@31:26 SMH MY MY MY YOU ARE DIVINELY GIFTED MR GASKINS SMH HOW U BROKE THAT ON DOWN SMH INGENIOUS WOW!!! LAWD JESUS SMH WOW!
I LUH HUH HUHVE THAT "COMPLETED BY GOD" CONCEPT! :D AWESOME WORD PASTOR GASKINS!!!!
I THANK GOD FOR U MR GASKINS. FOR I TRULY TRULY DID NOT KNOW HOW MEN THOUGHT ACTED AND BEHAVED. EVEN WITH U EXPLAINING ITS STILL AT TIMES HARD TO WRAP MY MIND AROUND AND SO TRYING TO UNDERSTAND THEM ON MY OWN , SMH WOULD BE AND WAS VIRTUALLY IMPOSSIBLE. SO I THANK U. I AM NO LONGER OPERATING OUT OF NAÏVETÉ. :)
PRAISED BE TO THE LORD!!! ALLELUIA JESUS!!!
If we REFUSE to take the bait, there would be no game. Until we had enough of the foolishness, they'll continue using us as pawns. Unless, you like being toyed with. Let's get back to handling our business, and leave the grown boy in the DUST.👌🏽
I wish. All I see is a lot of women with low self-esteem putting up with crap from men. It's a sad state....smh...
Yup! They hate and block you when they know you are not the women they can get anything from! 🙄😂👊🏻
Grown boys!!😂😂😂😂😂
Good riddance😌 I say! I'm not giving the Cookie to a homeless beggar who is not my husband! 🙄😂
Tony I’m not gonna lie this video was a hard pill to swallow just realizing how many times I’ve contributed to making myself a pit stop. Still thankful for your insight. God highlighted you at a time in my life when I really needed the guidance I wasn’t getting anywhere else. I never got any of these real talks from my dad due to his older age & old fashioned Belizean ways. Not only that but if a person isn’t thriving in a certain area they really can’t guide another person. I was sheltered as a child & figured out everything I knew from the opposite sex on my own by trial & error. I’m believing God will continue working on my heart & guiding me, thank you for serving God. God bless.
I have yet to hear when you should take him back though. every case is different @TonyGaskins you're wife took you back so there should be hope for some.
@@eboogiefilms3685 get his book “A woman’s influence” it is available on audible as well as in print on Amazon. The answer your looking for about his wife taking him back is in detail. Also will clarify if and when you should take him back.
We all wanna kw why they come back but they got to be left on GONE.
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"WHAT do I want to give, this, man, if I'm just a pitstop??"
Now, that's the million dollar question there..
Well said, Tony!
As a 20 year old I have to say I AM BLESSED TO HAVE FOUND YOUR CHANNEL. AMEN
Yeah men do balance women. this is why for me I personally don’t pay for dates or go on “cheap” dates anymore in the beginning at least. Men will take you to a hole in the wall wing spot to save money then you notice on Instagram every week he taking pictures of food at nice establishment with the girl he really likes.
Yup! They spend money on what they really want. No matter the price.
All facts!!
No lies told 💅
So true darling, how does a woman refuse a cheap date without coming across as high maintenance?
This is too funny 🤣😂, a dude who blocked a women and then tried to shoot his shot 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️👀Tony keep on keeping it 💯 with us👏🏾"men don't like to be alone"..
U are glowing Man of God! ! 😁😁🤣🤣😂😂
Lol😂😂😂 ok
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Why send him that video ? He’s not gonna watch it 🤦🏽♀️ i refuse to be like this in my 30s and 40s it comes a time when we need to start looking within and seeing what we are doing wrong attracting this kind of man and entertaining this kinda man even after all the red flags.
People do not like the truth they think it is not going to happen to them. There is nothing you can do to make someone like you. If they like you then that means that you are the one. You'll never be right for the wrong person.
He comes back to see if he still has access to you what we allow will continue slam the door no entry 😂💪
Tony that's why I love you , your my true brother because you break this down with passion, trust me you always on point because I was with a man for 10 years and didn't know him 😢, I pulled out the red carpet way too soon, he threw me away like a piece of trash & went to a young lady 10 years younger sky. Ladies please 🙏 listen to tony. Thank you tony
The way Tony read “I fwd him your grown boy vs grown man video” and looked at the camera had me crying tears y’all. My daughter had to come check on me I was laughing so hard 😭😭😭 whewww
That look was priceless 🤣 🤣🤣
@@anointedstilettos I literally died and came back to life lol
@@MegaunMonarch 🤣🤣🤣
😂🤣 Man...
That took me outtt 🤣🤣🤣
Once he started to read the email, I’m like oh man, here we go. And she said she had discernment...no you don’t sis... because if she did she wouldnt have written this email.
Didn’t the letter also start off with a statement that she watched and rewatched @TonyGaskins videos?? I had the same reaction as you...”no you didn’t sis”... because if you had even just watched some of them once, there would of been no reason for this question!! IJS
55 and I have never done a 2nd time around..though some people say its better...I'm thinking there's a reason why we broke up..what's different. What's changed..then I'm imagining what and who you may have done while we were apart..its just not for me..I'm not judging anyone who chooses to go back..I just couldn't see ahead if I'm constantly looking back..if I'm always making a u turn I will never reach my destination.
Same. I’m 55 and I don’t do 2nd times either! I don’t have the patience for that. I just move on.
When you gave him that watch my dear sister it mean time has ran out. You gave too much of yourself. Girl listen to Tony. He never was your type. Cone on, he not in your man. Keep yourself safe .Tony great talk.
I love your "Man on a Journey" illustration. 🤯 We are just a pit stop until we are not. 🤯
right!
Preach Tony, Thank you, Thank you, Tony I don't understand how we as women can be so Clueless when it comes to these GROWN BOYS!! HELP US LORD!!! HELP US TONY!!! PLEASE!!!
The perfect woman that's in a man's head does not exist. God gave the man this image of the perfect woman so he will have a vantage point of what he needs to pour into that woman to make what he envisions. So if a man is not happy with his wife he should not be happy with himself.
That’s true!! I also believe in spiritual warfare and when god!gives a men a woman she is a complementary to him . In this life no one is perfect, that’s what all makes us so special that is why god gives a men a women that is complementary to him , also when he goes and search for another one he doesn’t find her because for one it’s wrong that he is doing so and the “ universal “ law don’t work like that, you reap what you sow.
This is some bitter truth but it needs to be taught to women
The over 40 grown boys are the worst! 😂
You ain't lying and it's so sad🤦🏽
Yes they are!
THANK YOU JESUS, Ladies PLEASE stop sharing our jewels with the enemy!!! Most women talk tooooo much!!!!!!🤦🏽♀️
I can't find any guy even in his 40's and 50's who thinks like this man. He is describing all the men you find online too lol.
Tapped on this video & hit the Like button so QUICK🔥.
"Hey Hey Tony Gaskins here."✨💎✨.
This video was so insightful. When I broke up with my ex (which he pushed me to do so; he switched up on me) He asked could we still be friends. I told him no, I don't know how to be your friend. Just found out after 3 months he was still listening to my pandora acct. I forgot that I signed into the app n his phone because we were 2gether at the time. I instantly changed my account info so he could stop using it. To me it was lazy and rude, like he wanted a part of me around. Just thought that was wack and trifling on his part.
Stay strong ladies! Your never wrong for moving on! God has better for you!
This video is the golden ticket. If women only watch one TG video it should be this one! 👏🏾
Thank you Tony
This by far is one of the 🔥BEST🔥messages!!!!💯
He really dives deep into the psyche of men and helps us understand how they generally think.
This helps us successfully navigate as we date, foster a climate of ease, & protect ourselves from unnecessary roughness, confusion, & continuous disappointment!!!!!
He touches on the importance of knowing God, so that we can be content in our marriage.
God’s wisdom is flowing through this man.
LISTEN y’all!!!😇 Thank you, Tony.🙌🏾
I have never had a good male figure in my life and also have no knowledge about grown boy mind games too. Thank God that we have Tony Gaskins!
Assume you're a pit stop. I'm writing that down. 📝 📝
This video was everything “ LEGS CLOSE “ ..... TG
It’s more than just mimicking Tony but finding your revelations through these videos and actually practicing the knowledge you gained. You’ll never keep/receive a grown man by mirroring Mr. Gaskins ... make it your own truth and follow through organically.
“Hungry and Content at the same time” ! You betta preach Tony!! That’s it!!
Thank you once again for all you do and the Queen Mrs. Gaskins. May God continue to bless you, your family and loved ones.
I laugh so heartily at his method of delivery. He's so funny! He's wise too.
" STRONG, REAL WOMAN KNOWS HOW THE GAME IS AND CAN'T BE DESTROYED!"SHE IS REAL AND TRUE! THANK U! TONY LOOKIN FORWARD TO MORE! GOD BLESS U AND YR FAMILY!😊🙏
Tony you are absolutely right!Learned the hard way about my “long distance situationship” that I Thought was a relationship
How is it that men don’t have to be abstinence prior to finding a wife? I’m just confused how that works. Like they get blessed with someone, when we could be getting cheated on when saving ourselves.
I hate to say it but that is the likely scenario. And sadly, that could spiral into him having a child with a woman he doesn't love because he just wanted that occasional release. Of course we can say he should have discipline and use condoms, but he human and he's a man. I'm a realist over everything...I believe in waiting a while, but not complete abstinence. BUT that's just my sinning behind 😭🤣🤣
"IF A MAN THAT RETURN BACK INTO YR LIFE AND " U LET HIM BACK IN !"THAT MAN IS LIKE A CLOSED CHAPTER OF A BOOK IT HAS ENDED!"TIME FOR A NEW CHAPTER OF A NEW BOOK TO BEGIN! THANK U! TONY LOOKIN FORWARD TO MORE VIDEOS! GOD BLESS U AND YR FAMILY! 😊🙏
Thank you Tony I have to watch this over and over to remind me of why I need to stay away from my ex thank you and God Bless
Learn to appreciate what you have because the grass isn't always Greener on the other side. You won't ever have a perfect match but what counts is their good character
HE OVER HERE POKING CELL PHONE CHARGERS. Someone GET THIS MAN A BARBIE AND KEN DOLL 😂😭😂😭😂😂😂 DROPPIN KNOWLEDGE
😂😂😂 exactly!!!
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I’m hollering Tony 🤣🤣🤣🤣
That phone case about tired of him 😂😂😂
@@3D3LIA 😆😆😆
It took me 10 years to learn my husband because I ignored the red flags until things got really crazy. Didn't know any better and learned the hard way where he was really operating from. Thank you Tony for educating me on a daily basis so the next 10 years will be very different.
I love the pit stop analogy. It makes since. Don't give you absolute all till the ring and still reserve til the I do. Thank n Tony
I have a ? What if u already married and hes going to girl to girl and the wife gives him her all and more but he keeps leaving her and coming back and then had a baby on her left that one and with another one
@@aliciarodgers8776 my reply to that is he is a dirty dog. He should not have gotten married. He does not love his wife in the slightest. He does not want his wife. The wife can be the closest thing to God and do all the above and beyond, but it wont make him act right. He is a grown boy. From the top of his head to the bottom of his feet.
Love the way you love your wife Tony! I can’t wait to find that. Been celibate for a year and a half and I’m definitely trusting God!
This was golden Tony ! Thank you 😊 ! You are amazing ! Keep allowing God to use you thank you for sound advice 😊
There are so many gems in this conversation I can’t even count. 🙏🏾😌 All I see is Gods hands on your shoulders in every video Tony. “ You are a PIT STOP until your not. “ My God 👏🏾👏🏾😌😓
That was definitely soul food and needed at this Time. Thank you so much for staying true to your calling. God bless
Excellent video Tony. This entire video is KEY. Sending to my sisters and all my friends.
Hey Tony. I believe that this was your best video of putting it all in a nutshell about guys. I didn't see all your videos - and the ones I've seen were good. I really love the way you keep it all 100. God bless you and your family.
Thanks Tony for allowing God to use you as a vessel. This helped me so much
One of the most helpful videos I’ve seen in understanding the mindset of men in dating and relationships. Thank you!
As soon as Tony was in the frame of the camera I was wondering what was going on? Tony, back in the day we would have told you that you look like a glazed donut 🍩 🤣🤣😂😂
I just can't with y'all 🤦♀️😂
After watching some of these- needing my own sense of "closure", I have to say... thank you for your service.
The truth hurts, but its so much more valuable.
She was just as immature as he was. Let’s be honest. After he left, she starts sending him videos. This is just a snippet of the situation but when I did things like this, it was because I was immature. This screams young minded.
She claims that she watched and rewatched his videos and still sent this email. It means she’s not paying attention and she wants an answer tailored directly to her situation. We don’t need answers for our specific situations. The man she was dealing with knew she wasn’t his wife. That’s why he never attempted to take their relationship to the next level.
She’s in her forties as well.
@@GlendaLove it’s soaking she just wants to hear something different
Tony you are truly Bless. Mrs Gaskins truly love you to care about your skin, because all men should have a skin regimen however; men are usually not receptive to it. God Bless you all!!