I’ve been an expat for 40 years since I was 15yo, 22 years in SE Asia. The only problems I’ve ever had have been with other foreigners. I’m very selective about my social circles, mostly stay at home and don’t go out drinking - ever. Keep it simple! We are here to get away from toxic BS, not get enmeshed in it. My own rule: “two degrees of separation” - between me and toxic people and relationships. If a friend is enmeshed, I keep my distance or slip away and go silent.
I do not socialize with expats here in Cebu. I have met a couple who are just like you described. I just keep a few friends and my wife's family. Sorry if they harass you or anyone else. I really wanted to leave all that behind in America. Have a good week there.😄
I avoid expats in Cebu too. I have met a few I like in the province but I am plenty busy minding my own bisiness. Too many fish to catch and beaches to walk for me to get involved in bs.
Having been going to SEA for nearly 20 years it's actually you guys who are the weirdos. You aren't special. You are just trying to hide something about your life, or you have terrible social skills and the locals don't pick up on it so fast. Oh, and about the locals in the Philippines. It's actually those guys who are the ones you should be swerving but nevermind. Do you know the irony of you guys? You go onto fellow expat CZcams channels or forums dedicated to expats proclaiming how you ignore/don't hang out with fellow expats. Hilarious behaviour.
Steve your are a stronger character than that, dont go to their level using terms like monkeys etc Hard as it is better to ignore and cherish your family and friends who clearly fully support you, I trust that there are more good expats than bad here but in no hurry to find out which one they are, so like you enjoy peaceful time with girlfriend and her son and the lifestyle Keep your spirits up Happy Easter to all have blessed years ahead
Sometimes you come across that one comment...rare as that might be that leaves you thinking this is undoubtedly a nice person and that's what I think of you. All the best to you.
During the 15 years I have been in and out of the Philippines, I had never had a problem with ex-pats. But in 2020 and 21 we had trouble with a Norwegian. He and I were sometimes the only guy in a cafe that served liquor. He was handsome, well spoken and friendly. I visited with him several times and rather enjoyed it. But he drank too much. He would start with five San Mig Pilsons that he drank slowly and handled them well. When He got to the 3rd or 4th I would just leave because the conversation became less engaging. But one day I was there with my Filipina wife. And I visited with this guy for a few minutes and I saw he was starting to drink too much and told my wife we should leave the outside tables and go inside. But she wanted to visit. Well in a few minutes she got in trouble. He told her that he didn't like Filipina food. My wife took issue with that. And I could hear them arguing so I returned to the table. By then the Norwegian had "shifted gears" from his usual Pilsons to hard liquor. I told my wife firmly we need to go inside and get a table. But she said that the guy had picked on the wrong girl and rebuked him for his behavior. I told my wife later that the most useless thing in the world you can do is argue with a drunk Norwegian. And it was true. But we left and went inside to find a booth and order. But the drunk guy followed us in. And he said "Mark, I feel sorry for you having to sleep with a girl like her. She is so ugly I don't know how you sleep with her. " Now of course I wanted to mix it up with him. I am 6'4" but he was taller and younger and meaner and I always had the rule that if a fight was about to happen i would leave the premises. But my wife called the cops. She knew most of them and was related to several of them too. They came with a van and took the rowdy guy to the cop shop in a patty wagon. My wife is a retired cop and swat team member. She is an attractive lady, about 5ft10inches tall. She was a good knife thrower and practiced hand to hand combat with men in training. So I was glad she didn't get physical with him. But I wish she had shut up and followed me when I left the outside table. She filed a grievance at the police and with the local barangay. There was a series of court dates over several months because he had pursued us into the cafe and threatened us. However I had some urgent health issues and we had to leave during the time before the court had decided if he was to be deported. He had a beautiful local wife who was a nurse and they had a young child. So I said I thought that we should just drop the charges because I had to leave. And she stopped all the legal proceedings and we left to go back to the USA for medical care for me. She had hired a lawyer and they were in the process of having him deported for abusing a native women who was a Philippine citizen. Two weeks later we heard that the Norwegian had got drunk and went to sleep while driving his motorcycle going home. He drove up on the sidewalk and killed an elderly local woman with his motorcycle. The locals met at his house and were trying to burn down his mansion. The man fled to another part of the Philippines with his wife and eventually settled with the family of the woman he had killed for about $2,000 US funds. And then I wished I had supported my wife in having him deported. She had enough "pull" with the local officials that she could have pulled it off. But she listened to the old man. I didn't want to break up a young family. And I was wrong as I am sometimes. We should have had him deported.
Hindsight is always 20/20. I would have too let him off the hook as soon as I heard he had a Philippines wife and young child...who could have predicted that he would then kill a poor woman. I do believe your story...it makes sense. You couldn't have known...you did the right thing at the right time with the information that you knew at that moment. You can't be responsible for everybody and every thing.
I have been here in the Philippines since March 22, 2023. I love the peace and quiet here. I totally avoid the crazies here and I have found a few. I stay to myself and my girlfriend and her family and am quite content.
People really need to get over this idea that being a "veteran" bestows some type of special human status above and beyond others. I've been a LEO my entire adult life and am a veteran myself. Can't tell you how many vets I've locked up or otherwise had to deal with over the years. A vet can be just as scummy and deplorable as anyone else...and may not even be a vet frankly. Obviously lots of good vets out there as well. Know how you can tell for starters? They don't remind you they are vets every chance they get.
In my 7 years as an expat in the Philippines, I have come to a few conclusions. Most expats, not minority, come here for a few reasons. Number one…. Can’t afford to live in there country of origin. Number 2, are trying to run away from there past life, finding out soon , that no matter how far you try…. You can’t. Check out the expat situation in the Caribbean, Mexico, etc. The net worth and quality of expats is substantially above what the Philippines receives as expats. I’m generalizing, but I think most would agree, facts don’t lie. Good video Steve.
..and why do you think that is the case? could it be that the infrastructure is crap as compared to so many of the other retiree countries? its a no-brainer that the PI generally is a very poor country, with crap infrastructure. higher net worth ppl simply use common sense, duhhhh.
@@doninbaras I would say I fall into the second category, however in recent years, I have reconnected with my family, and so my Filipina wife and I, split our time, on our farm here in the Philippines and my home, back in North America. It has worked well for us
I'm in Iloilo and expats taught me to just look as expats walk by. I look long enough to see if they're going to do eye contact and say something. Some do eye contact, and some acknowledge me. Some put their head down, and act like I'm not there. Being in the military, Sheriff's dept and Corrections, I understand them! I just want my peace!
Been in and around Iloilo since 2006 I didnt see many expats back them but now here and there I see one or two I say hello and keep pushing everyone has there own lane and I let it be due to being at peace. Enjoy it and youll be happier not to get into any circles of nonsense lol enjoy
@MrSteven5975 I'm glad to see you stick up for yourself and those that like and respect you. America is full of narcissists and psychopaths. I can't get out of here fast enough
How true, just look at all the Expat CZcamsrs down in Dumaguete causing issues and creating problems for others. Had to unsubscribe from Life Beyond the sea because of him stirring up issues! Then you have Mark with Every man has a story, idiot gets into a fight at a coffee shop with another expat. I think the idiots in Dumaguete are the real issue there, not the locals, spent one week there last September and was glad to leave!
Hi Steve, my English husband and I are on our 7th month here in Philippines, we have influenced some expats. here to slow down their alcohol intake, which is excellent! We're not teetotalers and we love our weekend drink.
That's true about not being able to afford a SRRV with a 10k or 20k deposit. Unfortunately the PI seems to attract many of the near broke expats that survive on some low ball pension or SS without any type of substantial savings.
Living 22 years in Europe I'm weary of other Americans. They just want something, and it's not friendship. I'll likely be the same way when I move to the Philippines in the next couple of months. I still would be polite and speak to them, I'm just guarded.
I have met some very good expats in the Philippines from all over the world while living there and a few I recognized right away as people with problems and steer clear of them, as I am very much a person that enjoys his solitude but also occasionally have the need to converse with native English speakers, I also refrain from going to bars because there always is problems of some kind when there is heavy drinking. I enjoy having my 2 or 3 beers in the evening but almost always have it by myself so I can enjoy myself without any conflict caused by others.
Good you say that. Saw a blog attacking filipino pee . I find my fiancé so kind and I respect their traditions and I agree with you. I’ve never ever disrespected them. Why would I respect not Filipino kindness?
Sorry about my comment Steve. I figured you took it down cause I identified a couple of the bad apples. The fact you didn't mention them should have been a red flag for me posting my comment. I do listen to ALL you philippine vloggers, even the jerks.
We do have the same problems in Denmark I wouold say even more. I tried 2 attempts on my life lost about 800.000 USD (5½ million kroner) Lost 2 house due to fraud right in openhagen. I have only bad and very bad things to say about Denmark. I have planned to come to The Philippines maybe I can come ½ year then go back and so on. I do not come to the Philippines to be retired I am retired in Denmark but I come to fish that is my goat to come to The Philipppines I trouble nobody I do not use any bad language and for people I can only say keep trouble away from the Philippines there is a lot to do. Povery we have to do something about not just sit and talk as talk is cheap Just a few words from an Old ex Danish service man(national service) I never had an problem with any american but Danish people gave me sorry to say Hell sorry about my spelling I am parcial bling TCB Max
Nice rant. Well warranted. I'm a US vet and 7-year expat/traveler (mostly Vietnam/Thailand based). Best advice I learned a few years back, 'show me your friends, I'll show you your future.' That has served me well. A big problem with living abroad (for many) is 'needing' a social circle to belong to. Focused and driven men have their ambition - they don't have time to associate with people glued to a bar stool. The opposite of that spectrum (many veterans, unfortunately) aren't lone wolfs. They need a pack to run with. Some, who are living on pensions, make their own pack (building a family) and that becomes their purpose...they're retired and content and can be good people. The biggest red-flag to look out for in anyone is alcohol - stay away from any and all who get drunk...period. These men are liabilities to themselves and all around them. They are emotionally volatile, make poor decisions, and WILL hit bottom eventually in one way or another. And when they do, the blast area can reach far (financially). Do not get close to these people. Keep your guard up, your friend circle small, your business (and money) private, and stay driven and focused. Good women are attracted to ambition. Vultures are attracted to easy prey.
I came to the philippinesto enjoy however many years I have left. When i boarded the plane in st. Louis i remember touching the side of the plane near the entry door and saying a prayer that all the BS from my previous life (narcissistic ex-wife, ungrateful step children, lawyers, family that never cared if i live or die except on pay day) I left it all on the tarmac as you often say. I fit into the Philippines very well and i am succeeding so far. But i avoid almost all expats, alcohol, bars, never any drugs, no cigarettes. I have a strong church family. And i have Steve's blog when i cant figure something out lol 😂
No man is an island! That's for sure. It's still nice to have someone around I can relate to. It really helps to blow off steam once in awhile. But, I am by design a loner. I choose my friends, of which I have very few, over a long period of observation. I charish my privacy very much, especially in the times I am living in now. I could never be a vlogger. Anway, that's just old, unassuming me. I normally am a person of few words, but in this situation this 80+ year old Vietnam Vet feels compelled to pass on a little advice. I do appreciate the topics you cover on your videos. I find them very entertaining, educational and enlightening. However, I find the problem with your nemisis vlogger a little perturbing. You are by far and beyond a much better human being than this creature from the black lagoon ever thought of being or could ever be. He thrives on getting under your skin and receiving an emotional response. He does not deserve your attention. You are simply fanning his flame and that of those that follow him. You know, birds of a feather stick together. Simply ignore this hopeless creature and block his sorry ass. Keep on keeping on with your normal high quality of work. That is what I look forward to listening to and watching everyday as do your other loyal subscribers. I salute you, bro! One more thing, I heard you put out a video on what an expat should do to be sure the vital information of his passing gets quickly passed on to interested parties in the U.S. I must have missed it. Could you please give me the title of that video? Thanks in advance.
I came to the Philippines to live a stress free peaceful life. I do that's by keeping busy with my wife and kids. I do not hang out very often with other exspat's. Good video Steve.
So far in all my stays, each foreigner that I have encountered has either asked me for money, tried to push something on to me like religion or whatever, or want to talk sex trash about some woman. This has happened from Luzon to Mindanao . Now I just act like I do not understand their language and walk away.
In my case the SRRV visa is $20000. Its no cheaper than the tourist visa in the annual fees. Ill stay on tourist visa and holiday overseas every 3 years
Thank you for the info. My filipina wife of 31 years and I retired to the Philippines in 2022 and am currently in the SRRV process you mentioned. I too came here for peace and quiet, but in addition, so that my wife could spend her golden years with family. Take care and best of luck to you.
Hi steve I am thankful for your advise over the years...please keep up the good work, should we meet I will happily buy your a coffee as a gesture to say thank you..
I suspect that this post is not entirely relevant to your video, but it does pertain to living a peaceful life, free from hassle. I don't know any foreigners. I have lived her permanently for 4 years. My family is settled and comfortable. This was my day today and it pretty much sums up why I am glad I moved here. I walked 5km into town. On the way I stopped off at a hole-in-the-wall joint where I got a croissant - proper French-style, not filled with sugar - and a couple of decent espressos made with local coffee. I did my shopping, walked home and sorted out what I had to do. I then walked to my local sari-sari store as dusk was falling where I sat in peace, under what the locals have dubbed 'the monkey tree" - guess who is the monkey! On my way I encountered my 7-year-old son and his pals doing what kids their age should be doing, playing and having fun. I witnessed a hell-for-leather bike race which culminated in a truly spectacular crash involving three kids. I did my duty, made sure they were ok - skinned knees and elbows, the stuff we used to experience as kids - and that there were no in concussions in the offing. I then sat with my beer and my book and was 'accosted', although that word seems too strong, by a lady and three young kids who proceeded to demonstrate their "Beyonce" moves to me! As I have implied, the locals, adults, teens and kids, are used to the foreigner sitting down, minding his own business. However, what strikes me is that were that situation to occur in the UK or the US I would have run a mile rather than even talk to young kids. That to me is a sad reflection of Western society.
Keep to yourself. Be nice and courteous. Hello and goodbye. No need for conversation and no need to get to know each other. 98% of people bring their judgement, misunderstanding, assumption, drama and condescension. Just keep it moving.
Sadly, that's why I dont have a lot of friends here in the States for this reason. Despise drama the older I get, the more I see drama I can't it. Please don't stop making videos. Thanks
Steve, I learned to just live my life and not worry about what others say about me. My father taught me to think of detractors and gossipers as scabs that eventually fall away on their own. Stay strong, on course and live your life. "To avoid criticism say nothing, do nothing, and be nothing." Elbert Hubbard
Too much free time, too much booze, too much trying to run from getting older, too many personal issues. Add it all up and it's a magnet for losers, and it doesn't take an army of them to ruin it for everyone.
Hi Steve, there's always a bad spirited person around God help them.Anyway just checking in on you , Rich does a great job when you have some time off keep up the great work and thank you sir
A selective few expats are in my circle. And we don't socialize every day-Just there for support if needed. I left the states for peace and to enjoy the culture here. Keep on keeping on. If you don't respect a man their word means nothing. let em talk.
I can only hope you can keep vlogging. You are providing a service and very good advice. It is very much apprecated. The mental illness thing is for real. Some times it is just best to ignore and avoid the losers.
Being a vlogger can bring many benefits such as having a larger platform to express yourself and your opinions, more recognition for your work, and the opportunity to influence people. Lack of privacy is the biggest disadvantage vloggers. Secondly, the vloggers are easily judged. People constantly judge based on their personalities, bodies, and habits. It is also very common for vloggers to have fake friends.
I enjoyed listening to your video today. I plan on coming to the islands, most likely Cebu to start, and plan on staying for a very long time, if not permanently. I want to enjoy the adventures I've not had for a long time. I was wondering if there are condo's for rent near your area. I'd love to meet you and maybe even join your group. I'm 74 and in good health. I don't have lots of money anymore, with a failed business, taking care of my brothers finances and his funeral, upgrading my sons old house, and giving him some money so he could get the larger house he needed for his large family. My heart is gigantic, but my wallet isn't anymore. hahaha. I'll be budgeting 1500 usd per month, which includes funds for health insurance in the future, savings, and entertainment. I want to keep my housing cost no more than 25000 pesos per month.
You’re a stand-up man brother 🐸🙌 Especially since you did not mention the individual or individuals you were referencing ✌🏽 If any of your listeners of your channel know of who you’re talking about, I would be interested in knowing who he is ?????? 😳
Giday Steve great topic I don't mix with many expats imm lucky enough to have met really nice ones but I keep my circle of friends small I can't be bothered with crap or drama I just want to sit back relax and enjoy my retirement Take care mate
Good Video Steve 😊. Just keep doing what you are doing 👍. Evidently some people didn't leave their BS on the Tarmac. Don't you have a Sergeant at Arms in your group 🤔 ❓️I see a Code Red is in order 😅. Boy those were the good old days when there was a problem, Problem solved overnight 😉. Don't let that guy get under your skin/shoe laces. I take your video's to heart and take notes. And the #1 comment of instruction to always remember is, Leaving all that Negative Hateful BS on the Tarmac. Keep the video's comin. Stay Safe 💕 💞 🙏 🙏.
No disrespect to Steve as he is a nice guy but i wouldn't live in the Philippines rent free and pay me to live there. As watching many vloggers and their videos most Expats are wasters .You have to be a certain type of breed to handle the Philippines.
I’m a Christian man I’m very spiritual my girlfriend or fiancé yes too we have a good bond of love. She’s Filipino and she’s honest with me. I guess we’re different breed our military too, and I have respect for everyone of them.
Gotta choose where you hang out and who you hang with very carefully as an expat. I have learned that since relocating to Thailand. Can easily spot the troublemakers now.
That's the reason i don't get involved with other foreigner's. Try to ignore those people steve i understand it can be difficult if your running a CZcams channel and a group.
Everytime I have trouble with people I would pray for them. You would be surprised how much it can help you also not become attached to them. After I finish praying the rosary I will pray one Our Father and three Hail Mary's. You should try that out.
To think I was called a hypocrite (Although I think they meant I was being prejudiced) and some other not so kind words, for saying I would want to be in a place with as few ex-pats as possible because I don't want all of their negativity and drama in my life. The irony is hilarious, they didn't even see that their own response was exactly why I said it. How miserable does a person's life have to be to need all the drama and negativity so they can feel better about themselves because someone else has it worse off than they do.
Most of the vloggers think that what they post is the only right opinion and when you criticize them they are angry and offending. The American are leading in this and I agree 100% with you that they should stay at their home country with their crap..... Coming to the Philippines and promoting to look for a gun to protect your property is very bad because the actual situation in the US shows that having guns doesn't make your life safer....I am not interested in having contact to foreign immigrants because I came in the 90's to SEA because I have enough from the western way of life. That's why I never use the word Expats because this is only used for white people or do you call a Filipino in the US/EU expats???
Steve, I watched that video you talking about. For some reason it popped up on my feed. You’re right, it was sick and that individual seems very disturbed. I shudder to think what the Filipinos around him have to endure because they probably cannot express themselves like you can.
It's sad when people go to a foreign country and act out. It gives everyone a bad name. A few bad apples can ruin it for others. Don't let the oxygen thieves get to you. Thanks for the update and have a great day. 👍👍👍
I don’t plan on hanging around expats. I’m learning bisaya and plan on spending time with my in-laws and their friends. I don’t know why anyone would go to the Philippines broke. But the insults and accusations I see from the vloggers is nothing new. This is a strategy that has been going on for a long time regardless of the genre. I see it finance, real estate , even gardening vloggers. Basically they attack their competition and hope to drum up views with the drama. Probably worst with the Philippines expat CZcamsrs as so many of them are broke and need the money or fat lazy pos that have so much time on their hands in between waiting on the blue pill to kick in to do their 3 minutes of loving making to someone 40 years their junior
Not all expats, Steve. Some of us just want to get away from the toxic environment from our home Country. I meet a few expats (like you), and they’re okay. But the majority of my friends here are Filipinos
It seems like the same people you hope you have left behind are the exact same people you are bumping into in the Philippines and they bring that same crappy energy with them
Steve very good topic. But it could also happen from people back home that never wanted to see you leave. They will start interfering with your relationship here by sending text to your girlfriend just to stir up trouble
My wife and I are moving back to the Philippines in a few years probably Cavite area where she grew up, I live next door to a psycho right now in United states, that's the last thing I want to deal with when I get there, I do not have patience for that crap. Great video thanks
Your a good CZcamsr and seem like a decent nice guy but being a CZcamsr puts you into the public sphere. Good luck dealing with that. In the meantime, I’ve had 7 years of quiet in Thailand. Dozens of nice expat friends. I keep to myself mostly and don’t get into anyone else’s business.
I’ve been an expat for 40 years since I was 15yo, 22 years in SE Asia. The only problems I’ve ever had have been with other foreigners. I’m very selective about my social circles, mostly stay at home and don’t go out drinking - ever. Keep it simple! We are here to get away from toxic BS, not get enmeshed in it. My own rule: “two degrees of separation” - between me and toxic people and relationships. If a friend is enmeshed, I keep my distance or slip away and go silent.
I do not socialize with expats here in Cebu. I have met a couple who are just like you described. I just keep a few friends and my wife's family. Sorry if they harass you or anyone else. I really wanted to leave all that behind in America. Have a good week there.😄
I avoid expats in Cebu too. I have met a few I like in the province but I am plenty busy minding my own bisiness. Too many fish to catch and beaches to walk for me to get involved in bs.
I’ll be moving to Cebu in October, any area’s you recommend that’s really nice to get a place?
Having been going to SEA for nearly 20 years it's actually you guys who are the weirdos. You aren't special. You are just trying to hide something about your life, or you have terrible social skills and the locals don't pick up on it so fast. Oh, and about the locals in the Philippines. It's actually those guys who are the ones you should be swerving but nevermind. Do you know the irony of you guys? You go onto fellow expat CZcams channels or forums dedicated to expats proclaiming how you ignore/don't hang out with fellow expats. Hilarious behaviour.
Steve your are a stronger character than that, dont go to their level using terms like monkeys etc Hard as it is better to ignore and cherish your family and friends who clearly fully support you, I trust that there are more good expats than bad here but in no hurry to find out which one they are, so like you enjoy peaceful time with girlfriend and her son and the lifestyle Keep your spirits up
Happy Easter to all have blessed years ahead
Sometimes you come across that one comment...rare as that might be that leaves you thinking this is undoubtedly a nice person and that's what I think of you. All the best to you.
Thank you, not perfect but do my best to be a good person
@@bobmuir8352 you are welcome and I think you are one.
100 percent correct this is why im leaving America ive had it pure nonsense and it's only getting worse here
During the 15 years I have been in and out of the Philippines, I had never had a problem with ex-pats. But in 2020 and 21 we had trouble with a Norwegian. He and I were sometimes the only guy in a cafe that served liquor. He was handsome, well spoken and friendly. I visited with him several times and rather enjoyed it. But he drank too much. He would start with five San Mig Pilsons that he drank slowly and handled them well. When He got to the 3rd or 4th I would just leave because the conversation became less engaging. But one day I was there with my Filipina wife. And I visited with this guy for a few minutes and I saw he was starting to drink too much and told my wife we should leave the outside tables and go inside. But she wanted to visit. Well in a few minutes she got in trouble. He told her that he didn't like Filipina food. My wife took issue with that. And I could hear them arguing so I returned to the table. By then the Norwegian had "shifted gears" from his usual Pilsons to hard liquor. I told my wife firmly we need to go inside and get a table. But she said that the guy had picked on the wrong girl and rebuked him for his behavior. I told my wife later that the most useless thing in the world you can do is argue with a drunk Norwegian. And it was true. But we left and went inside to find a booth and order. But the drunk guy followed us in. And he said "Mark, I feel sorry for you having to sleep with a girl like her. She is so ugly I don't know how you sleep with her. " Now of course I wanted to mix it up with him. I am 6'4" but he was taller and younger and meaner and I always had the rule that if a fight was about to happen i would leave the premises. But my wife called the cops. She knew most of them and was related to several of them too. They came with a van and took the rowdy guy to the cop shop in a patty wagon. My wife is a retired cop and swat team member. She is an attractive lady, about 5ft10inches tall. She was a good knife thrower and practiced hand to hand combat with men in training. So I was glad she didn't get physical with him. But I wish she had shut up and followed me when I left the outside table. She filed a grievance at the police and with the local barangay. There was a series of court dates over several months because he had pursued us into the cafe and threatened us. However I had some urgent health issues and we had to leave during the time before the court had decided if he was to be deported. He had a beautiful local wife who was a nurse and they had a young child. So I said I thought that we should just drop the charges because I had to leave. And she stopped all the legal proceedings and we left to go back to the USA for medical care for me. She had hired a lawyer and they were in the process of having him deported for abusing a native women who was a Philippine citizen. Two weeks later we heard that the Norwegian had got drunk and went to sleep while driving his motorcycle going home. He drove up on the sidewalk and killed an elderly local woman with his motorcycle. The locals met at his house and were trying to burn down his mansion. The man fled to another part of the Philippines with his wife and eventually settled with the family of the woman he had killed for about $2,000 US funds. And then I wished I had supported my wife in having him deported. She had enough "pull" with the local officials that she could have pulled it off. But she listened to the old man. I didn't want to break up a young family. And I was wrong as I am sometimes. We should have had him deported.
Sounds like a story. Lol.
The only thing missing is "Once Upon a Time...."
@@travelinghobo It was a while ago. But still a fresh memory.
Hindsight is always 20/20. I would have too let him off the hook as soon as I heard he had a Philippines wife and young child...who could have predicted that he would then kill a poor woman. I do believe your story...it makes sense. You couldn't have known...you did the right thing at the right time with the information that you knew at that moment. You can't be responsible for everybody and every thing.
If he was from Norway - and this happened in PH - why would he settle with the family with USD? What does the USD have to do with this story?
I have been here in the Philippines since March 22, 2023.
I love the peace and quiet here.
I totally avoid the crazies here and I have found a few.
I stay to myself and my girlfriend and her family and am quite content.
You called it right, we want peace!
You’re 100% right fk the drama and stop and smell the roses and enjoy your life and what you have
People really need to get over this idea that being a "veteran" bestows some type of special human status above and beyond others. I've been a LEO my entire adult life and am a veteran myself. Can't tell you how many vets I've locked up or otherwise had to deal with over the years. A vet can be just as scummy and deplorable as anyone else...and may not even be a vet frankly. Obviously lots of good vets out there as well. Know how you can tell for starters? They don't remind you they are vets every chance they get.
True
In my 7 years as an expat in the Philippines, I have come to a few conclusions.
Most expats, not minority, come here for a few reasons.
Number one…. Can’t afford to live in there country of origin. Number 2, are trying to run away from there past life, finding out soon , that no matter how far you try…. You can’t.
Check out the expat situation in the Caribbean, Mexico, etc.
The net worth and quality of expats is substantially above what the Philippines receives as expats.
I’m generalizing, but I think most would agree, facts don’t lie.
Good video Steve.
And which kind of expat are you?
Truth
..and why do you think that is the case?
could it be that the infrastructure is crap as compared to so many of the other retiree countries?
its a no-brainer that the PI generally is a very poor country, with crap infrastructure.
higher net worth ppl simply use common sense, duhhhh.
@@doninbaras
I would say I fall into the second category, however in recent years, I have reconnected with my family, and so my Filipina wife and I, split our time, on our farm here in the Philippines and my home, back in North America. It has worked well for us
Everyone has an opinion, where did your facts come from?
I'm in Iloilo and expats taught me to just look as expats walk by. I look long enough to see if they're going to do eye contact and say something. Some do eye contact, and some acknowledge me. Some put their head down, and act like I'm not there. Being in the military, Sheriff's dept and Corrections, I understand them! I just want my peace!
Been in and around Iloilo since 2006 I didnt see many expats back them but now here and there I see one or two I say hello and keep pushing everyone has there own lane and I let it be due to being at peace. Enjoy it and youll be happier not to get into any circles of nonsense lol enjoy
Please keep uploading CZcams videos mate and just ignore the bottom dwellers.
I love your words of wisdom.
Thanks 🙏
I can't imagine anyone having a problem with you. You're nothing but kind, positive and helpful.
Someone is vlogging about me and the channel and the guy obviously has mental health problems
@MrSteven5975 I'm glad to see you stick up for yourself and those that like and respect you. America is full of narcissists and psychopaths. I can't get out of here fast enough
@@MrSteven5975maybe jealous of your peace. "An empty can are the one that makes a lot of noise" empty cans are garbage.
How true, just look at all the Expat CZcamsrs down in Dumaguete causing issues and creating problems for others. Had to unsubscribe from Life Beyond the sea because of him stirring up issues! Then you have Mark with Every man has a story, idiot gets into a fight at a coffee shop with another expat. I think the idiots in Dumaguete are the real issue there, not the locals, spent one week there last September and was glad to leave!
Hi Steve, my English husband and I are on our 7th month here in Philippines, we have influenced some expats. here to slow down their alcohol intake, which is excellent! We're not teetotalers and we love our weekend drink.
Beautiful couple. U guys look great together...
Great msg....i hope we get cleansed of all this arrogant energy crap
That's true about not being able to afford a SRRV with a 10k or 20k deposit. Unfortunately the PI seems to attract many of the near broke expats that survive on some low ball pension or SS without any type of substantial savings.
You can live well in the Philippines on SS. Unlike at home.
@@patrickmunneke8348 Yes sure one can live there on SS but that's not my idea of living well in retirement
Why pay $20000 for nothing. Still pay the same annual fee on SSRV as you do on tourist visa
@@grahamedwinpearce1 seems silly to me I wouldn't trust a corrupt 3rd world gov't with $20K of my money.
Living 22 years in Europe I'm weary of other Americans. They just want something, and it's not friendship. I'll likely be the same way when I move to the Philippines in the next couple of months. I still would be polite and speak to them, I'm just guarded.
I have met some very good expats in the Philippines from all over the world while living there and a few I recognized right away as people with problems and steer clear of them, as I am very much a person that enjoys his solitude but also occasionally have the need to converse with native English speakers, I also refrain from going to bars because there always is problems of some kind when there is heavy drinking. I enjoy having my 2 or 3 beers in the evening but almost always have it by myself so I can enjoy myself without any conflict caused by others.
Good you say that. Saw a blog attacking filipino pee . I find my fiancé so kind and I respect their traditions and I agree with you. I’ve never ever disrespected them. Why would I respect not Filipino kindness?
“Never open the door to a lesser evil, for other and greater ones invariably slink in after it.” - Baltasar Gracian
So true. Definitely the best and brightest.
How did you meet John Wales? He had some problems but he was certainly a very nice man who loved the Philippines. I miss him a lot.
We became friends on the phone and on the Livestream. I was one of the last people he contacted. I still got the email.
Keep doing what you do, Steve. Hope to see you soon!
Sorry about my comment Steve. I figured you took it down cause I identified a couple of the bad apples. The fact you didn't mention them should have been a red flag for me posting my comment. I do listen to ALL you philippine vloggers, even the jerks.
We do have the same problems in Denmark I wouold say even more. I tried 2 attempts on my life lost about 800.000 USD (5½ million kroner) Lost 2 house due to fraud right in openhagen. I have only bad and very bad things to say about Denmark. I have planned to come to The Philippines maybe I can come ½ year then go back and so on.
I do not come to the Philippines to be retired I am retired in Denmark but I come to fish that is my goat to come to The Philipppines I trouble nobody I do not use any bad language and for people I can only say keep trouble away from the Philippines there is a lot to do. Povery we have to do something about not just sit and talk as talk is cheap
Just a few words from an Old ex Danish service man(national service)
I never had an problem with any american but Danish people gave me sorry to say Hell
sorry about my spelling I am parcial bling
TCB
Max
Nice rant. Well warranted. I'm a US vet and 7-year expat/traveler (mostly Vietnam/Thailand based). Best advice I learned a few years back, 'show me your friends, I'll show you your future.' That has served me well. A big problem with living abroad (for many) is 'needing' a social circle to belong to. Focused and driven men have their ambition - they don't have time to associate with people glued to a bar stool. The opposite of that spectrum (many veterans, unfortunately) aren't lone wolfs. They need a pack to run with. Some, who are living on pensions, make their own pack (building a family) and that becomes their purpose...they're retired and content and can be good people. The biggest red-flag to look out for in anyone is alcohol - stay away from any and all who get drunk...period. These men are liabilities to themselves and all around them. They are emotionally volatile, make poor decisions, and WILL hit bottom eventually in one way or another. And when they do, the blast area can reach far (financially). Do not get close to these people. Keep your guard up, your friend circle small, your business (and money) private, and stay driven and focused. Good women are attracted to ambition. Vultures are attracted to easy prey.
I came to the philippinesto enjoy however many years I have left. When i boarded the plane in st. Louis i remember touching the side of the plane near the entry door and saying a prayer that all the BS from my previous life (narcissistic ex-wife, ungrateful step children, lawyers, family that never cared if i live or die except on pay day) I left it all on the tarmac as you often say. I fit into the Philippines very well and i am succeeding so far. But i avoid almost all expats, alcohol, bars, never any drugs, no cigarettes. I have a strong church family. And i have Steve's blog when i cant figure something out lol 😂
No man is an island! That's for sure. It's still nice to have someone around I can relate to. It really helps to blow off steam once in awhile. But, I am by design a loner. I choose my friends, of which I have very few, over a long period of observation. I charish my privacy very much, especially in the times I am living in now. I could never be a vlogger. Anway, that's just old, unassuming me. I normally am a person of few words, but in this situation this 80+ year old Vietnam Vet feels compelled to pass on a little advice.
I do appreciate the topics you cover on your videos. I find them very entertaining, educational and enlightening. However, I find the problem with your nemisis vlogger a little perturbing. You are by far and beyond a much better human being than this creature from the black lagoon ever thought of being or could ever be. He thrives on getting under your skin and receiving an emotional response. He does not deserve your attention. You are simply fanning his flame and that of those that follow him. You know, birds of a feather stick together. Simply ignore this hopeless creature and block his sorry ass. Keep on keeping on with your normal high quality of work. That is what I look forward to listening to and watching everyday as do your other loyal subscribers. I salute you, bro!
One more thing, I heard you put out a video on what an expat should do to be sure the vital information of his passing gets quickly passed on to interested parties in the U.S. I must have missed it. Could you please give me the title of that video? Thanks in advance.
Steve keep doing your videos. I know it’s hard to have serenity when attacked focus on your fans the trolls are just a distraction.
The worst part is that they make the rest of us look bad 🙄
Yup
Same
I came to the Philippines to live a stress free peaceful life.
I do that's by keeping busy with my wife and kids.
I do not hang out very often with other exspat's.
Good video Steve.
I lived there for a year before moving back to states to work and I almost never hung out with expats.
Just add red horse in the tropical heat and these guys skeletons come out of the closet
In addition; im tired of hearing these "vloggers" trash the USA cause they can't afford to move back home or they're a recovered dober.. addition.
So far in all my stays, each foreigner that I have encountered has either asked me for money, tried to push something on to me like religion or whatever, or want to talk sex trash about some woman. This has happened from Luzon to Mindanao . Now I just act like I do not understand their language and walk away.
In my case the SRRV visa is $20000. Its no cheaper than the tourist visa in the annual fees. Ill stay on tourist visa and holiday overseas every 3 years
Please tell me you mean 20,000 pesos or $375 USD??😮
@@denismansfield8876 No. Because im not military to get a SSRV I HAVE TO PAY $20000 US. Then pay the $370 yearly fee
I like that color scheme much better.God Bless
Thank you for the info. My filipina wife of 31 years and I retired to the Philippines in 2022 and am currently in the SRRV process you mentioned. I too came here for peace and quiet, but in addition, so that my wife could spend her golden years with family. Take care and best of luck to you.
Hi steve I am thankful for your advise over the years...please keep up the good work, should we meet I will happily buy your a coffee as a gesture to say thank you..
I suspect that this post is not entirely relevant to your video, but it does pertain to living a peaceful life, free from hassle. I don't know any foreigners. I have lived her permanently for 4 years. My family is settled and comfortable. This was my day today and it pretty much sums up why I am glad I moved here. I walked 5km into town. On the way I stopped off at a hole-in-the-wall joint where I got a croissant - proper French-style, not filled with sugar - and a couple of decent espressos made with local coffee. I did my shopping, walked home and sorted out what I had to do. I then walked to my local sari-sari store as dusk was falling where I sat in peace, under what the locals have dubbed 'the monkey tree" - guess who is the monkey! On my way I encountered my 7-year-old son and his pals doing what kids their age should be doing, playing and having fun. I witnessed a hell-for-leather bike race which culminated in a truly spectacular crash involving three kids. I did my duty, made sure they were ok - skinned knees and elbows, the stuff we used to experience as kids - and that there were no in concussions in the offing. I then sat with my beer and my book and was 'accosted', although that word seems too strong, by a lady and three young kids who proceeded to demonstrate their "Beyonce" moves to me! As I have implied, the locals, adults, teens and kids, are used to the foreigner sitting down, minding his own business. However, what strikes me is that were that situation to occur in the UK or the US I would have run a mile rather than even talk to young kids. That to me is a sad reflection of Western society.
These old men troll the malls like teenagers looking for a girlfriend on a Friday night
Nah
Keep to yourself.
Be nice and courteous.
Hello and goodbye.
No need for conversation
and no need to get to know each other.
98% of people bring their judgement, misunderstanding, assumption, drama and condescension.
Just keep it moving.
Love from Germany hope we can have a beer when i moved :) you are so true
Where in Germany? I use to live and work in Hohenfels
Sadly, that's why I dont have a lot of friends here in the States for this reason. Despise drama the older I get, the more I see drama I can't it. Please don't stop making videos. Thanks
Steve,
I learned to just live my life and not worry about what others say about me. My father taught me to think of detractors and gossipers as scabs that eventually fall away on their own.
Stay strong, on course and live your life.
"To avoid criticism say nothing, do nothing, and be nothing."
Elbert Hubbard
My new neighbor, from Virginia. Alright guy, but didn’t know how to brew coffee in pot!! You know, the cowboy way 😅.
There’s a few short bus people here and I have witnessed this many times 😊
Too much free time, too much booze, too much trying to run from getting older, too many personal issues. Add it all up and it's a magnet for losers, and it doesn't take an army of them to ruin it for everyone.
100% true 👍🏻
Hi Steve, there's always a bad spirited person around God help them.Anyway just checking in on you , Rich does a great job when you have some time off keep up the great work and thank you sir
Thank you for the support!
I think they are just looking for attention cuz. And you''re right, the USA probably did not want them either. Stay well!
Keep doing good and God will bless you
A selective few expats are in my circle. And we don't socialize every day-Just there for support if needed. I left the states for peace and to enjoy the culture here.
Keep on keeping on. If you don't respect a man their word means nothing. let em talk.
I can only hope you can keep vlogging.
You are providing a service and very good advice.
It is very much apprecated.
The mental illness thing is for real.
Some times it is just best to ignore and avoid the losers.
This video had me laughing short bus helmet on boot polish 🤣🤣🤣
Being a vlogger can bring many benefits such as having a larger platform to express yourself and your opinions, more recognition for your work, and the opportunity to influence people.
Lack of privacy is the biggest disadvantage vloggers. Secondly, the vloggers are easily judged. People constantly judge based on their personalities, bodies, and habits. It is also very common for vloggers to have fake friends.
Yes it is…. Unfortunately
Too many CZcams channels recruiting them to the Philippines soon it will all be ruined 😢
Good points . Some People are crazy but most are good I find
Let it out Steve . It's understandable . God bless u n family
I agree with you %100 ...
Thank you you and we as a community had to be aware of the rift raft. Stick together open eyes!
You helpede m get my STRVisa. Many Thanx Brother !!
Happy to help
Please don't stop doing what you do!!
I've never seen a hat like that
I enjoyed listening to your video today. I plan on coming to the islands, most likely Cebu to start, and plan on staying for a very long time, if not permanently. I want to enjoy the adventures I've not had for a long time. I was wondering if there are condo's for rent near your area. I'd love to meet you and maybe even join your group. I'm 74 and in good health. I don't have lots of money anymore, with a failed business, taking care of my brothers finances and his funeral, upgrading my sons old house, and giving him some money so he could get the larger house he needed for his large family. My heart is gigantic, but my wallet isn't anymore. hahaha. I'll be budgeting 1500 usd per month, which includes funds for health insurance in the future, savings, and entertainment. I want to keep my housing cost no more than 25000 pesos per month.
THEY ARE THERE FOR WANG DANG SWEET POONTANG 🤣😂
When you reply and vent about this person, all your doing is giving him what he wants.
You’re a stand-up man brother 🐸🙌
Especially since you did not mention the individual or individuals you were referencing ✌🏽
If any of your listeners of your channel know of who you’re talking about, I would be interested in knowing who he is ?????? 😳
Giday Steve great topic I don't mix with many expats imm lucky enough to have met really nice ones but I keep my circle of friends small I can't be bothered with crap or drama I just want to sit back relax and enjoy my retirement
Take care mate
Good Video Steve 😊. Just keep doing what you are doing 👍. Evidently some people didn't leave their BS on the Tarmac. Don't you have a Sergeant at Arms in your group 🤔 ❓️I see a Code Red is in order 😅. Boy those were the good old days when there was a problem, Problem solved overnight 😉. Don't let that guy get under your skin/shoe laces. I take your video's to heart and take notes. And the #1 comment of instruction to always remember is, Leaving all that Negative Hateful BS on the Tarmac.
Keep the video's comin.
Stay Safe 💕 💞 🙏 🙏.
Straight talk. Hopefully some of the people who need to hear it most are listening in and are able to make the adjustment.
👍
Many expats do not belong in the phillipines I agree.
No disrespect to Steve as he is a nice guy but i wouldn't live in the Philippines rent free and pay me to live there. As watching many vloggers and their videos most Expats are wasters .You have to be a certain type of breed to handle the Philippines.
I’m a Christian man I’m very spiritual my girlfriend or fiancé yes too we have a good bond of love. She’s Filipino and she’s honest with me. I guess we’re different breed our military too, and I have respect for everyone of them.
Gotta choose where you hang out and who you hang with very carefully as an expat. I have learned that since relocating to Thailand. Can easily spot the troublemakers now.
You're alright Steve-O. I enjoy your content. Be well, and good luck avoiding the ankle biters (there's still plenty around here too )
I agree with everything 1000% that you said.
Amen
@Steven - We appreciate all that you do. You always tell it like you see it.
I appreciate that
Hi Steve, As true as your rants are, we found your euphemisms hilarious so keep up the good work.
Love, peace, and happiness...enjoy the ride and let the PI be the PI.
You're exactly right. I have had to talk to a few nasty ones who think who are they. Keep doing your best.
Real talk homie
That's the reason i don't get involved with other foreigner's.
Try to ignore those people steve i understand it can be difficult if your running a CZcams channel and a group.
Everytime I have trouble with people I would pray for them. You would be surprised how much it can help you also not become attached to them. After I finish praying the rosary I will pray one Our Father and three Hail Mary's. You should try that out.
:::Clapping::: Finally somebody spoke the universal Truth!
To think I was called a hypocrite (Although I think they meant I was being prejudiced) and some other not so kind words, for saying I would want to be in a place with as few ex-pats as possible because I don't want all of their negativity and drama in my life. The irony is hilarious, they didn't even see that their own response was exactly why I said it. How miserable does a person's life have to be to need all the drama and negativity so they can feel better about themselves because someone else has it worse off than they do.
I have selected expats i keep in my circles.
Most of the vloggers think that what they post is the only right opinion and when you criticize them they are angry and offending. The American are leading in this and I agree 100% with you that they should stay at their home country with their crap..... Coming to the Philippines and promoting to look for a gun to protect your property is very bad because the actual situation in the US shows that having guns doesn't make your life safer....I am not interested in having contact to foreign immigrants because I came in the 90's to SEA because I have enough from the western way of life. That's why I never use the word Expats because this is only used for white people or do you call a Filipino in the US/EU expats???
Steve, I watched that video you talking about. For some reason it popped up on my feed. You’re right, it was sick and that individual seems very disturbed. I shudder to think what the Filipinos around him have to endure because they probably cannot express themselves like you can.
It’s very disturbing the way he treats woman on video
Sorry to bother but may I ask about "the video" and where to find. Thank you for any assist.
@@scottramey4443 If I post it he gets bigger
@@MrSteven5975 understand
It's sad when people go to a foreign country and act out. It gives everyone a bad name. A few bad apples can ruin it for others. Don't let the oxygen thieves get to you. Thanks for the update and have a great day. 👍👍👍
semper fi brother
I don’t plan on hanging around expats. I’m learning bisaya and plan on spending time with my in-laws and their friends. I don’t know why anyone would go to the Philippines broke. But the insults and accusations I see from the vloggers is nothing new. This is a strategy that has been going on for a long time regardless of the genre. I see it finance, real estate , even gardening vloggers. Basically they attack their competition and hope to drum up views with the drama. Probably worst with the Philippines expat CZcamsrs as so many of them are broke and need the money or fat lazy pos that have so much time on their hands in between waiting on the blue pill to kick in to do their 3 minutes of loving making to someone 40 years their junior
I am fairly new to PH but I have total respect for the people
And this country !! I am here to enjoy my retirement and that’s it. 😊
Not all expats, Steve. Some of us just want to get away from the toxic environment from our home Country. I meet a few expats (like you), and they’re okay. But the majority of my friends here are Filipinos
It seems like the same people you hope you have left behind are the exact same people you are bumping into in the Philippines and they bring that same crappy energy with them
Steve very good topic. But it could also happen from people back home that never wanted to see you leave. They will start interfering with your relationship here by sending text to your girlfriend just to stir up trouble
Very well said Steve. On point.
Is the fighting mostly involving alcohol?
Unfortunately no
My wife and I are moving back to the Philippines in a few years probably Cavite area where she grew up, I live next door to a psycho right now in United states, that's the last thing I want to deal with when I get there, I do not have patience for that crap. Great video thanks
Your a good CZcamsr and seem like a decent nice guy but being a CZcamsr puts you into the public sphere. Good luck dealing with that.
In the meantime, I’ve had 7 years of quiet in Thailand. Dozens of nice expat friends. I keep to myself mostly and don’t get into anyone else’s business.
Ur a good man, my friend. Glad u exist.