INFP Mood Swings & Neuroticism
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- čas přidán 20. 08. 2024
- The INFP personality type needs privacy, introspection, honesty, and variation to maintain a positive mental state of flow. When dishonest, overwhelmed, or pushed, INFPs can become extremely stressed and anxious. INFP Mood swings are a big issue because society keeps pushing the INFP personality type, convincing them to deny or ignore their emotions and to not listen to their own feelings. At worst, this could drive the INFP into depression.
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Thanks for the great vid! Your cat just /had/ to make an appearance, hehe. What a beauty!
We all know cats are magically attracted to INFPs!
Haha that's true! I could always get the local cats to come over for a pat when I was a child. We have dogs now though so I've rather missed the company of cats :P I'll have to visit an animal shelter sometime (oh dear, that's risky, I might bring one home O.O)
Zauberholz 😻
Lol, my boyfriend is used to it by now :
"-I want to die
-Don't worry it's the same thing every 2 weeks, it will pass like it always does"
I find that my depressive episodes pass waaay faster if I just disconnect from everything and do nothing, just straight up laying in bed for hours and not touching my phone. And when I'm tired of doing nothing I start cleaning my house, then house is clean and I'm proud of myself and since I'm proud of myself I feel better and can start going outside and it keeps getting better after that.
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Same
Sometimes it's really tempting to do that when I'm depressed, but then I worry in isolating myself too much and that it's unhealthy for me. I dunno man
Thank you
Hm... Interesting way to do it. I think I'll start doing this lol
"you are interesting because you are interested" this explains a lot why other people willing to talk to me when I'm curious about something. some people might think im an extrovert when im in this stage
Same
You know me better then I know me
Infp and I struggle!
I definitely care for people, but I get disappointed, and overwhelmed by people a lot. I keep trying because relationships are worth it.
yes its draining but definitely worth it, energy doesn't make you happy, just like money on the bank won't, it's what you spend it on that brings you joy
This is my husband, hands down. When I met him, he was not being his true self, because he was never given the 'permission' to find himself. Now, he is so happy that he has been able to find himself. He has accepted that he is free to just be himself. He is amazing and strong.
❤️❤️ Permission to find himself. This was a late realization for me too. It probably feels so silly or stupid to others who don't understand the pressure of the world like we do. Being myself means standing up for myself regardless of what others think or say. We deserve happiness. We deserve to find our own selves.
I find myself shutting down and even lying when I don't really want to, but I get agitated having to explain simple reasons why I do this or that, like, it's... just because. You don't need to know. Just accept that.
I remember being very honest with others and myself when I was younger. I was authentic and eccentric with an ecclectic group of friends. Today it seems the older I get the more childish and insecure I become. Lately I have been trying to set myself on a new trajectory, one in which I am empowered by my decisions rather than disempowered by them. I am tired of my primitive brain doing my thinking for me and happenstance choosing my destiny. Build the momentum. iNFP signing out.
Jesse Machtolf yes. I relate to that so much. Family dynamics crushed my spirit as I grew older. Never too late to get in touch with our essence. The INFP inner gentle strength is so amazing, it is ever IMPOSSIBLE for us to give up on ourselves. Sometimes, we do try, it this inner force cannot take bullshit for too long, and we rise again like beautiful Phoenix that we are!
These two comments are honestly inspiring. Thanks guys!
Infp has much stronger emotion than other types. I think there are couple of way to deal with it. First do something that is creative that allows infp to express. Second, spend more time in nature, third, keep good contact with good friends who support u. Fourth, avoid narcissistic person at all cost.
Tried out shooting the video with two camera angles, sadly this caused the audio to glitch of course, apologies for this, hope you can all still enjoy the video! :)
Erik Thor loved it.
Erik Thor I'm glad you explained that. It was freaky, lol!
There is a way to fix this in Premier! What do you use to edit your videos?
It's insane to me how well you understand personality theory. Spot on as usual! - An INFP
INFP Functions:
1. Introverted Feeling
2. Extroverted Intuition
3. Introverted Sensing
4. Extroverted Thinking
EXACTLY
Fi . Ne . Si . Te . 4
Fe . Ni . Se . Ti . 8
Feeling ashamed may be experienced in feeling inadequate, unlovable, abandoned and worthless. I found a lot of toxic shame in me, and regular shame is harmless. But toxic shame can ruin your life.
Because of this video, I finally understand my emotions. I ignored my own feelings and lied because I didn't want to hurt anybody.
I feel bad because I constantly lie to my ESFJ friend. She asks me: Do you like my style? Do you find me annoying? Do you think I'm a nice and helpful person? Will I ever find a husband? I just want her to know that she can do whatever the hell she wants. Although I'm not a mental health expert (as you probably already noticed) I know for sure that you can only truly shine when you are yourself and don't care that much about other peoples opinions.
I think that I should express my emotions and opinions more. When I don't like something, I should be more direct and give constructive criticism. I think that I lock my Fi away. I don't want to keep everything inside.
INFPs instinctively know how to say things in a non-offensive way. Give your geniune opinion in a diplomatic way. Nothing makes an INFP worst than being fake or dishonest.
@@angelicatrino2498 It got much better, actually. I express my opinions and emotions more often. I think that going to a new school and finding other friends, doing martial arts, finding my own style and becoming vegan really helped my confidence because I am more in tune with my values now and feel more connected with the outside world. I'm able to have more open conversations with many of my friends because I learned a lot about direct communication this year and how it makes my life less stressful. Thank you for writing this comment because it reminded me how much my life changed. I often forget how much better my mental health got in the last year.
emilio limo I’m really happy for you
You seem like such an intelligent deep thinker. I wish I had a friend like you .
All infps are deep thinkers 🙂
Jacīr Nabeel Eric is a infj.
Thanks, you are brilliant! As INFP I felt so alone since a child, because I didn’t like to talk or be around lots of people, never understood or was good at basic social politics, got bored easily and found new jobs or opportunities on a regular basis. Only since hitting my 50s did I realize that I already have the capability to be happy within myself doing simple things, and that there’s nothing wrong with being me. Knowing these things 30 years ago would have saved me and others in my life SO much stress, as I kept thinking there was something so lacking in me compared to the extrovert social world around me-did I have social anxiety disorder? Bipolar or ADD (as I get so distracted and involved with new ideas or interests)... or was I meant to live a totally different life and had I made such wrong choices? Please keep up your work so others too will know their places in the world and learn to embrace these unique qualities/gifts and figure out their true weaknesses. I work in mental health but feel personality psychology still so overlooked when seems totally key to growth and improvement.
I'm seeing now how I've denied these functions, trying so hard to fit in. When I have expressed myself, it has occasionally been disastrous.
Lilyan West I’ve never tried to fit in with anyone never wanted to... I just withdraw more n loathe myself esp when bullied when younger takes a long time to recover n regain who I am n learn who I am esp if I was squashed from very early age for 30 years
4 Core Concepts:
- *Energy/Need for Privacy and Originality* : Introverted Intuition 2:27
- *Pride* : Feeling Perceiving 5:26
- *Courage* : Intuitive Perceiving 7:20
- *Peace of Mind* : Introverted Feeling 8:20
(Bonus:)
- *Relaxation* : NP, FP 10:40
- *Conclusion* : 11:30
*”Fear is always bigger before we do something than after we did it.”*
*”You are interesting because you are interested.”*
*”What reframing means is just finding the right way to look at something, finding the right perspective to understand something from. And with introverted intuition, you’re gonna be able to do that like a monster.”* :)
*”What reframing means is finding a new perspective
The thing that stops me is I can easily see conflicts coming out of actions or ideas.
This is just brilliant @erikthor - I will be 60 this year and still trying to figure stuff out! Years of being bound by obligations, rules and shallowness. Your videos have helped me believe that another life is possible!
'The more pressured you feel to be on and to be in the world...the more you fell the need to reclaim your own privacy and take time for yourself'
I resonate with that so much! Great insights and advice, thank you x
I am an infp. I am a trauma survivor and have CPTSD. EMDR therapy has greatly helped with so much of what you said here. Finding who i truly am, I'm really beginning to finally love myself after 43 years on earth. Embracing my gift of linguistics as an artist and an activist. The way you speak so in depth and soul validating ways makes me curious where you sit on this test. Thank you for this. Validation mirrored to me is so healing.
THANK YOU!!!! Moved me into tears. Gives me so much hope! You make me feel like there is nothing wrong with me. SO GRATEFUL! Love
You're seriously such a gem, Erik! Thank you so much for the work you've done so that you can provide such awesome wisdom. I love this, it's so relevant and insightful for me, but i'm sure for all INFP's at some point in their lives. Thank you again and keep up the great work
I'm listening, daydreaming, thinking, processing all while your educating me and explaining how my mind does what it does. It's almost like this intense feeling of just being understood and feeling a bit of sense.
You are inspirational, thank you for your videos.
Can you please make more videos regarding INFP'S? You're one of the only people I listen to regarding mbti. I am so into it but I only really enjoy your videos. I would love and appreciate some new INFP videos as I have watched your others tens of times. Please :)
yes ofcourse! :)
the whole dismissing yourself as you speak kind of thing hit home. My therapist is always mentioning that. Halfway through saying something I get caught up and trail off because "it doesn't matter".
It would be great if you could do one on why Infps get addicted.
"Mmeeooww!" ... Same, kitty. Same.
Thank you so much! INFPs live by inspiration, and you inspire me to have courage and to go forward! So many these days trash us, because we are different, but so is everyone! That is ok! Again, I say thank you, because we crave purpose and being true to ourselves. Because we are not so materialistic, but we look more for meaning in things.
TLDR; a self-repeating cycle of courage, expression, pride, and peace of mind.
Thank you so much this means a lot and lately i figured that i am struggling with myself.As a kid I was a free person didn't care about what others think or their opinions towards things .After growing i lost my old self and became paying too much attention to what others say and let them control my choices.After hearing from you i felt so much motivated to be myself.
Incredibly insightful analysis of the INFP I found this so accurate and helpful!
What a great video! I am so excited! I cant wait to share this with my grandson, who is also an INFP!
Thank You blessed Be infp. Inhave been going w8thin and speaking more from my senses. Just today even!♡
Have courage and be kind.
Felt like you were actually talking to me personally. I needed this. Thank you ❤
Dude your very articulate. Thanks for sharing. You are helping us all understand ourselves better. Blessings:)
I really needed this. You're describing my situation perfectly, I'm blown away. Thank you so much.
You are so full of knowledge ✨ I love your videos! Thanks for sharing 🙏🏼
Thanks for making. As always Erik I really appreciate your insightfulness. What a great reminder to start the day!
This was incredibly helpful 🙏🏼
Oh my goodness!!!! So accurate!!!! I love your videos!!!! so spot on!!! I am an INFP and I am learning so much about myself by watching your videos! Thank you so so much!!!!
This was much needed, thank you Erik! Loved the video and the cat! 💛
What an insight about INFPs - really awesome! Learned so much from this video again. Thank you!
Thankyou so much for understanding our messed up INFP mind so well!!!
My neuroticism pretty much went away when I discovered I had ADHD and went on medication but a test told me I was 80% neurotic beforehand. Life was just too hard to deal with.
We are imbued with Introverted feeling and EXTROVERTED intuition. Good share :)
SO KNOWLEDGABLE so many insights thank you :,)
meh but I can't be too honest because I feel like my feelings are gonna scare some people away AND OH MY GOD YOU HAVE A BLACK KITTEN HOW ADORABLE🤧🤧
IT's a great thing to be stubborn. I do listen and when the mainstream says that my feeling is stupid. Then i do listen.. i do doubt about my own feelings. But there comes a point that i realize that i feel what i feel and you or whoever got nothing to say about it.
I'll stand my ground, it's who i am. And lying about that is next to impossible for me.
Why i really want to start changing my meds. I just really want to understand what I feel. I don't want to feel so lost. I don't want to lose my emotions
If only this info was taught in school! As an infp I've been searching for awnsers. Especially since I will be traveling soon and therefore will be overwhelmed. This video helps me alot ! Thanks for your service .
What you were saying about speaking out and being afraid is accurate for me. I’ve been scared to tell my parents that I don’t believe in Christianity anymore since they are very religious. It’s so hard
Thank you so, so much for this. It helped immeasurably. I am taking notes on everything you talked about and am putting them in my journal to study. I feel like you shined a flashlight inside my head and I can finally see why I react the weird ways that I do.
I cried a bit during this video. I've been this coward and dissociated version of an INFP for a lot of years now. Thank you for helping me understand where I went wrong!
Because of COVID 19 I stay at home most of the time. Since I can’t do my listening and comforting people in my job much. I turn to social media. I comfort and give unsolicited advice to people complaining or having a hard time. When I read angry people being mean I try to placate and calm them down. Makes me happy. Weird but whatever works. I would like to think that I made a difference. And I don’t even have to spend.
I heard your cat in the background lol...I identify as an INFP as well and have always loved cats. I came to a realization a couple of years ago that it makes sense that I am drawn to cats because of their independent personality.
Thank you for this wonderfully insightful video. Much appreciated..❤
I feel Enlightened after watching this
This was the best advice I’ve ever received. Honestly. Thank you so much. 👏
Thank you. 😊 🙏
Erik Thor's Flow Code 🥰 No, thank YOU!!! I’m an INFP and lately I’ve been really struggling because I feel like I’m not living up to my potential. Your INFP Fairy Archetype video helped me realize that I am not weak and I don’t need to be embarrassed about being empathetic and emotional. It also helped me realize that I be the person I want to be and that I can love being an INFP. But lately I’ve been feeling like a bad friend because I shut people out. Social media stresses me out and so I’m really bad at replying to texts and stuff, and this makes people feel like I don’t care about them. This has been really stressing me out. But this video made me get it: everything in my mental health is connected. I have anxiety/depression which makes me not want to spend a lot of time alone with myself. So I constantly keep myself distracted with TV, movies, work, or stuff like that. But in doing this, I’m depriving myself of the introverted intuition that I need to give myself energy. If I’m not letting myself think and feel, I’m constantly walking around with an empty gas tank which in turn is why I’m too stressed out to message people back, or interact with people at all! So if I stop distracting myself and actually let myself process everything, I should be more energized to keep in touch with people and live up to my potential as a self-actualized INFP fairy. ❤️
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Sorry that was a lot. I just wanna let you know that you, your work, and your videos are appreciated and you’ve really been helping me out. So thank you. I hope you’re staying happy and healthy during these crazy times!!!
God’s richest blessings ❤️,
M :)
Erik, this particular video helps me so much. I'm a longtime INTP who has been leaning gradually more and more into INFP territory over the last year or so, and I'm still learning how to interpret. Your talk about the peace that comes from honest expression is so relevant to me. That peace from full, honest expression has been such a gift in dealing with several life situations lately, but until your talk today I hadn't realized it had all to do with INFP. Have you already done a video like this one only with focus on INTP? Could you point me to it, please, or if not yet, could you do INTP next or soon? I'd love to hear them back to back and gain more insight into how I'm apparently evolving! TIA! Thanks for everything you do, Erik. Always so helpful, so meaningful.
I have a plan for an INTP video shortly but it might not be exactly this theme, but I have another spin for it for INTPs
Hello, thank you for all your Videos about personality typ. It helps me to understand myself better.
This makes so much sense, I'm impressed how well you understand INFPs. Just wondering - you keep talking about introverted intuition, while our auxiliary is extroverted intuition. Though I suppose Ni also scores high for me, as indicated by my cognitive function test result.
*Thanks for telling me who I am.*
Pure gold. This helped me so much.
Thank you for sharing!
i hate making unexpected commitments and appointments...
they can literally take away my freedom!
and this results in me being in an angry mood
Thanks Erik, another video that steered me right :)
Your video is saving me right now. Just came from hanging out with friends but left feeling alone and inwardly isolated. Like I didn’t fit in once again. But watching this video is helping me remember my special parts and reminding me what I need to feel more connected. Wondering if you could do a video on how to feel like you’re living your purpose? Thank you for all your work!
Thank you, Erik, for your inspiring videos. You really mirror what I feel like but I would not have been able to express it that way. thank you for putting it into words.
Thank you ‼️🙏🏻❤️ SO HELPFUL
You know me so well! Love your cat Erik! 🐾
You give me good vibes :)
Help me God omgggg. Idk if I can date this infp who is neurotic af and always scrutinizing every little facial gesture I make and picks apart what I say as if trying to catch me in a deception. It's driving me crazy. - INFJ
Brilliant video. Thanks
fantastic videos.. this one especially speaks to me!! thanks for your effort!
Thank you for that. This was actually really helpful
Show us your cat!! Haha thank you so much for the effort you put into these videos it’s really appreciated 🙏🏽
You really get me
Sooo helpful! Thank you!
Thank you Erik 🙌✨
Erik, could you possibly make a video about istp's, or infp and istp relationships....I've been in a relationship with and istp for 4 years and it's very difficult for us to communicate and understand each other...I know we probably arent very compatible but we have a child together so it's hard to just move on and find someone I would be more compatible with..there arent very many good videos on this and I feel that you would be the best to explain it! Thank you!!
It would be great if there was a dating site that incorporated the 16 personalities. I’ve spent 18 years with a entj (I think that’s the one?) and yet I’m an infp and I believe that a lot of our issues are because of this.
I prefer being alone most of the time and I get ticked off whenever I get summoned over trivial stuff to the point I wish that this person disturbing me to be dead or get finished off. I don't like being with my family especially my mother because I feel so controlled and I feel like I've been deprived of my freedom. My joy is solitude and doing things I ought to do on my own sweet time with the people I choose to be with. Is this wrong?
thank you!
Is there a link between INFP and ADD? If it's separate how can I tell if I'm one or the other or both?
I'm asking myself the same thing for some time now.
Ty for this
Can you please address on how to overcome inferiority complex and self acceptance for infps
Thank you
Your kitty looks like mine.. are they a Bombay?? Eyes look golden💛
There is a sense of loss I feel in having an INFP sibling and child who are unable to control themself.
It’d be great to have a cool family instead, family who can naturally relax and chill, and be fair-minded and empathetic critical thinkers, instead of frequently and shockingly out-of-the-blue, turn into authentically self-absorbed, self-righteous, hypocritical attacking flying monkeys, unfortunately. That then next vanish, leaving others behind, after they feel their ‘enemy’ has been plummeted into paralysis.
I personally attribute this sad human behavior to the biological death anxiety,
an insight these family are too easily freaked out already to learn about
and withstand facing, the terror of death and human insignificance.
What is the cure? I gave up trying to help them out.
Any attempts are distorted, and the flying monkeys show up, with fists and knives.
What tortured and torturing humans.
No thanks, truly.
Go away and leave me alone indulged, flattered and destructive INFPs.
- a human message from an authentic version of an INFJ
Also your cat is damn cute :>
Yessssss
Why do you mention Ni so much for us (since it's not in our stack)???
Heather Murray I wonder this too...
I don't get it either...
3:55 meow~
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Does that mean that an INFJ with dominant introverted intuition Ni can bring joy to the INFP, since you said Ni is a source of joy for them ?
I love your videos! What type are you yourself? I have a typing question : is it possible to be two types? Or is it possible to be say a Infj but have managed to acquire the traits of a infp? I was typed INFP but I feel that I turned myself into infp when I was at school. I was so much more like a infj as a kid. And it’s weird, I am like an infj when I’m natural and infp when I’m in student or professional mode.
Histoires de fou Caroline Henry i guess your personality can change for example I think I was an enfp as kid but now i‘m defently an Infp
Cats are awesome
Why do you recommend introverted intuition rather than just going into introverted feeling?