The Genius of the INFP
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This ended up being short and sweet but it felt right (as an INFP might say), there'll be longer videos in the future, promise!
Hi
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"It felt right" is a feeling quiet satisfying to an INFP. It's like we are on to something.
I kinda like the shorter videos tbh. If you can get your point across in 3 1/2 minutes, why drag it out to 10?
Also great Video btw!
Very sweet indeed! Loved it
INFP is like watching beloved puzzles, holding solid explanations, but not being able to speak up. It is being an introvert but liking people. It is debating whether to post this comment. It is looking at a sentence so long that the words feel weird.
"Looking at a sentence so long that the words feel weird."
So often it is ridiculous. Oh my. I thought I was the only weirdo.
You capture the complexity of the INFP struggle so well!
This is spot on!!
accurate as
This is way too accurate
I'm an INFP and people tell me I'm way too nice, or way too stubborn there's usually no in-between
One time, someone told me that I'm way too nice, and that I should cuss more because I never do. I laughed but my inner moral compass won't ever let me cuss willingly
Riiiight?! Omfg!!
Is this annoying to yourself or to themselves? :D
Sorry, this was my ESTJ mode...
Exactly!!!
That is what we call self care.
Catch me watching this video to fuel my ego only to hate myself for it later
Well I'm glad to be your ego-fuel however temporary it may be ~ Nathan
You are definitely INFP, judging by this comment. I can relate...I'm an INFP too.
Same
😂😂😂😂
Soo me
"I don't think Dumbledore is an INFP. So, chill out."
Stop sassing me before I sass you.
I couldn't hold back the sass there in that moment ~ Nathan
I think albus is INFJ
@@AbigaleKirsten Yes. Dumbledore is an INFJ
I laughed
When you are an INFP but have no creative talents, it's difficult to express yourself in creative ways
Write your thoughts and feelings in a notebook and you’ll see that maybe you have more a creative language, thoughts and ideas than you give yourself credit for. Who knows where that might lead in the future...
Much as i hate to admit it, we INFPs CONSTANTLY stifle our own genius & talents, by being perfectionists one way or another, by wanting to get things done right at the VERY FIRST time. it's less about we have no creative talents in us & more about we want them FULLY developed the FIRST time we bring them out, instead of going through the lame, stumbling, arduous stages of developing what is inside us. some of us do come very, notably gifted in certain aspects, & i'm fortunate enough to be one of those people, BUT, it's not to say that we won't need to go through the lame stages.
My forte, the one thing i'm more talented in more than anything else, would be language. BUT, when i look back at how i was in my younger days, i discovered that i wasn't actually that much of a genius & i didn't actually look as cool as i felt myself to be at first----it's just that i learned somehow to enjoy picking up stuff, however small, along my journey of learning. i patted myself on the back for the most mediocre of achievements, enjoyed every small thing i gained instead of constantly thinking i'm not good enough, & i began to shine before i realized it.
The proof of all of that is all in these 3 paragraphs that i wrote. English is like my 3rd or 4th language & i was unable to even write half of these like 15 years ago. that diamond-in-the-rough is now chiseled & polished, because i BELIEVED in it, & i ENJOYED being lame & awkward while i was picking the languages up. just try something artsy & creative, ANYTHING at all, & tell that perfectionist in you to shut up while you try & stumble & fail & whatever, & you'd start finding ways that are uniquely you.
I bet you have one! Just haVent found it yet. 🥰
@@FalconWindblader Boy, are you right. We expect to be Picasso the moment we pick up a brush or Bach the moment our fingers touch the piano keys. There's a bunch of tedious crap to actually become what we see inside. Nozzy, you are talented. It's hard to do the tedious stuff because it's boring, feels pointless, you think you're not good enough or it's sucking the life out of you. It's arduous work, but I'll tell you now, the arduous work sure beats spending your whole like feeling like your a talentless failure. You only fail when you don't believe in yourself.
@@winterbird4447 You get it! I once wrote down obscure ideas not knowing what I'd do with them only to realise years later that they were the basis for really beautiful stories that I now publish online.
As INFPs, do you feel as though you live through the mind of an artist? That sounds weird, but like, you look at the sky and think, “Look how beautiful.” And everyone is like, “It’s a sky. Like what?”
Haha yes, but that's because we are artists ourselves!
i am the mind of an Artist myself 😉
Yes, it kind of feels like many others just look but they don´t really see.
@@alexisleonard3846 We could go a step further with that. Fantasts. Creators. _Gods_
I'm not sure if I'd say I'm in the mind of an artist, but I have a frequent habit of picking up on surreal beauty within the world. There's this one particular tree close to my mother's that always pulls my eyes in all of its majestic magnitude; rising above the rest with its almost magical canopy. I like to look at that tree like some madman whenever I walk in the area. The fact that no one else in my family even notice it is father baffling to me though.
So I'd say I see the art in the canvas of reality, though not as a creator but as a beholder. It's quite the blessing I think.
Personally, I've always been amazed how quickly INFP can size people up and gow good their understanding of a human nature is.
They do indeed seem to be oddly wise when it comes to reading people ~ Nathan
Wow, thanks for sharing this observation!😁
Now I know I'm not totally crazy for believing I really do catch a person's essence real quick😅
~ INFP
@@writerducky2589 ikr istg i feel weird most of the time.
@@writerducky2589
Read people at parties if you ever want to make a person go "who the f are you and how do you know that?"
So true🧚♀️
“I’d rather be hated for who I am, than loved for who I’m not”
- Kurt Cobain (a very very INFP person)
“I don't think I'm easy to talk about. I've got a very irregular head. And I'm not anything that you think I am anyway.”
- Syd Barrett (also INFP)
First quote is the story of my life.😂
@@zerbstablackthunder3514 Same.
As a fellow infp these quotes are just accurate
What INFPs and INFJs have in common is we both see the beauty and complexity of reality itself. INFJs see it by looking deep into the souls of other people, whereas INFPs see it by looking deep into themselves.
There is a reason why INFPs are one of my favourite types. Their uncompromising views on their principles, the way they know exactly what they stand for fascinates me. I have a good friend who's an infp (i think) and one of the most beautiful thing about him is how he's always been there for me, and taught me how there are some things in life you can't buy, and those are, for some weird reason, the most amazing aspects of life itself. U can be successful, and u should be, but not in the expense of your happiness. And i'm like 'Love the philosophy and all, but I'll be happy if you get back to work, coz at the end of the day, we all need the paycheck!' (loved the harry potter ref.)
Love this comment! ~ Nathan
Hahaha, we figure it out eventually. I do some of the boring stuff, then have fun poking holes in processes and giving ideas to be more efficient. Eventually role became mainly what I like b/c it helps the team so my boss is ok with it.
I constantly argue with a co-worker that values money over happiness/gratitude/experiences too 😂
To us INFPs, we equate happiness to success, & we pretty much don't give a rat's ass how others define it. everyone has their own success (which naturally means happiness to us) to pursue, & it's no one's business to shove their definitions of the term onto others. we have no problems whatsoever, accepting the fact that a beggar could be happy, & a tycoon could be miserable, as well as anything in between. once success DEVIATES from happiness, we'd see said success to be a failure instead.
@@dcarze9 maybe your co worker uses his money to buy experiences that make him happy..? Idk I need some money to travel and buy me a healthier lifestyle.
It’s refreshing to hear someone who actually understands our inner strengths. I’m an INFP and I’m 22. My dad is an ESTJ, so you can imagine the conflict we’ve dealt with. I had a conversation with him the other day where he finally seemed to get where I was coming from on things. To him, life is a game plan that you map out a year ahead, five years ahead. You dot your is and cross your ts and hope that’s enough. Dreams aren’t anything to base decisions off of. For me, life is an open canvas that I have no idea what it will contain one year to the next. I got my degree in psychology but I’m not particularly attached to that career or any. I’m moving soon across the country with some savings and don’t have much of a plan, but that’s what’s gotten me through life so far is following inspiration where it takes me and letting things unfold. It’s stressful sometimes, being that dependent on love for life to get me through, but it’s really a beautiful way to live and it’s something infps inherently have as their default and I wouldn’t have it any other way
The INFP child and ESTJ parent dynamic is such an intense clash at times. On the other hand it gives you a insight in to how someone who is totally different to yourself operates and perceives the world ~ Nathan
The estj dad struggle. I know it😥😅.
Even worse with ESFJ mother, there seems to be no way to convince her because of my lacking Fe I come across as harsh to her and she clings on to that point.
@@lovewho I would love it if you covered the interpersonal dynamics between different types. It would be most helpful. My first choice would be INFPs and INTPs.
Enjoy!
Don't ever let someone tell you your way of life is wrong. Some people need security in tomorrow. We find security in the opposite.
it took me a long time to accept the fact that fantasy is as real as reality. now i just take it for granted and my life is much happier.
Personally I am still on that journey of truly undeestandingvand realising that. It really does take a long time. But it is all worth it in the end.
When you think of how strong an emotional reaction imaginary scenarios can have on us/our brains, the effects of fantasy can be as strong as reality ~ Nathan
When you realize that the lines that divide countries are all imaginary, it really makes you think on how important imaginary things can be.
Fantasy has basis in reality because without external stimulus how can anything be created in the mind?
@@samreenmulla3926 Interesting Mulla
Does anyone else feel like they are creative - just dont know how to express it?? Like im not good at anything. Drawing, painting, music whatever... i just feel like my mind is
I choose writing, but I often find interest in fashion, screenwriting, music video directors, creative director for a singer, I have so much creative energy but I lack discipline and patience and I procrastinate so much.
In early school years I had to write esseys and i hapoend to make them te longest and the funnyest in the class. Thats how i discover that writing os what i need and love. And its also very esay to begine.
You need to start small. Just like in school. And You will grow to be better.
Hope I didn't compeatly bucherd the english language😂
I..draw, play and make music , sings , paints, writes ...but I dont feel like I'm good enough to show or continue doing ...more like I've lost interest in all and idk what to do with my life . I'm going to get my results out today and still dont know what Major to take for college ..
You can become better at self-expression with experience.
Write mediocre stories until you become better and start writing good ones.
Eventually you may end up with something decent.
Making jewelry is fun! I love working with crystals and clothes/fashion. Even having an eye for design or aesthetics can be super creative.
Is not about being stubborn nor being a values superiority. We are simply designed this way of deeply knowing the brightest of the lights and the darkest of dark of this world and everything in between.
Beautiful said 👍🏼
Well said
Love what you said!
I second that (well said!) ~ Nathan
Completely spot on👍
I've always liked being an outsider-are there many INFP that don't?
And people always doubt me & think I'm just making excuses when I say, "You wouldn't understand what's going through my head." Hahaha-but it's true.
I appreciate it more now but as a kid it was very difficult. In the corporate world it's not great either. Now I'm self employed it's brilliant to be able to fully embrace my outsiderness.
Oh of course I like it but it does get hard sometimes. I even end up doubting my own sanity sometimes. But in the end it's always worth it and a source of pride to stay true to myself.
@@IMakeBeautifulThings Oh yeah! I am freelancing and loving it.
I remember being in a class where the teacher tried to get me to behave like the other kids, and I looked at her and I said I don't want to be like everybody else. And she had no idea how to respond to that. Bear in mind I'm 47, so this was a while ago. Nowadays they would say you're wonderful just the way you are. I got crickets when I was about 7, :-)
Quit smoking Sally
This was the nicest description of my chameleon, shape-shifting, animorph abilities in social settings. You call it a genius trait, most people just call it being fake.....😭
Well I'm still sticking with Genius as the best word to describe it ~ Nathan
(1:00) "INFPs … can bring their worlds to us, or, should I say more accurately, bring us into theirs," and (1:10) "by letting their creativity out, they let people in.'
Nathan's videos are almost assured of giving us a single one-liner pearl that demonstrates the quintessence of the type, in this instance, the INFP.
Well spoken.
I really liked what you said in the end, that human beings have the ability to get used to almost anything, and that we need people who are sometimes uncompromising with their principles. It's very true, people easily forget what is righteous and good when they get used to something, and things that are bad can easily be distorted and disguised as good. It's important that there are still those who won't compromise on their principles
Our capacity to normalise things is scary indeed ~ Nathan
I totally agree!
I find people coming from different environments giving that environment vibes umm so weird.
I find it pity they have gotten used to it so much like they have forgotten how some of their actions naturally affect others.
And good thing is it is changeable.
It's like the responsibility of teaching them the righteous thing to do is on my shoulders. Lol
@@lovewho Our capacity to normalize is the greatest threat we face today. It is far too evident in the news.
@@pessimistkai5569 Hi Kai,
Do as much as you can. People have to be open to having their eyes opened. Be careful you do not destroy yourself in the effort. That will not help. INFPs need to protect themselves from the negative energy around us especially now during the pandemic. .
Can I frame this comment...
My INFP aunt said to me shortly before she passed away, "you see, in life its what you get used to".
That is one of the most profound things i ever heard, because it says to me, 'be carefull what you get used to'.
I’m a total INFP- my creative outlet is photography. It’s taken me 30+ years to figure it out. I turn 39 in November
I will share this with my INFP husband, which is only right, since we laugh at him a lot in the family while knowing he is invaluable. He is a master negotiator in the outside world (everything from getting a better deal on a car to facing down corporate a-holes for fellow workers during union talks), but he seems a bit flustered in interpersonal matters. Still, he gets things done.
I'm curious to hear what he thinks of it! ~ Nathan
@@lovewho He said, "Some of the things this guy says are accurate." Why waste words, eh? He liked it. :)
I can imagine his super determined look in his eyes when defending others and the complete foolishness happening else where.
@@MadMax22 yup, very determined and on the phone a lot trying to save jobs due to what's happening these days
Wow, an INFP who's a master negotiator, damn that's a rare breed. we INFPs usually HATE dealing with that kinda shit, & the likes of us who're capable of doing battles with SPOKEN words, are almost unheard of, i'd say.
As a INFP I am going to be honest and say that the only reason why I clicked on this video was because I wanted to 1 improve my self esteem and 2 see how others think of me. I wouldn’t call myself creative because the definition of creative in my mind is being able to make something real from your mind and I really struggle with that because I have these insane ideas but when I try to express them in art, writing and such I start to notice how I don’t have the capability to turn the thoughts into words or paintings because the thought in my mind either lacks enough detail to make it real or it being to complex for even me to understand so the art of writing ends up being hollow and have a extreme lack of depth making it a shell that has no purpose or meaning.
We tend to quit things when they get a lil too complex thinking there's no way we can overcome that but we can if we just believe and reassure ourselves or even better have someone reassuring us so we can consistently continue working hard even though we tell ourselves we're not good enough just because of one fuck up or someone critisizing of our work and we shut down and give up, you gotta fight that and push through if you want to become happy it will be worth the sweat and tears, just keep telling yourself to not give up,work hard and as i heard from another video i dont remember which one but "Smile at Critisizm" take it as an opprotunity to grow and do better next time. I realized as i was writing this that your comment is 2 years old lol. Would like an update on your situation since, if you don't mind ofcourse (:
- fellow INFP
What helped me is reading philosophies of others & just other books in general. It helped build my vocabulary cause I love words & using different terms outside the basic term for something in my poetry. Also watching k-dramas, they are so romantic yet dark. Getting into occult & mysticism of some sort helped too. Just let yourself explore & don't be afraid to start small. Little baby progress is better than none at all ♡
I am studying watercolour and pastels so I can communicate nonverbally how I see the world. I feel words are too indirect whereas art goes straight to the heart.
This is something Stephen King talks about. You have this perfect vision for what the story should be, but whenever you actually write it, it always falls short in some aspect. Him, being an INTP, just pushes through it and publishes these close-to-perfect but not-quite-perfect novels.
George R. R. Martin on the other hand, an INFP, clearly has a much harder time accepting imperfections, and as a result he takes much longer to finish manuscripts-and is often more critical of them even after the extra time spent perfecting them.
One thing I have to say that I think is different for me is changing.
I am always me, but I am constantly integrating new knowledge and aspects of myself into my personality.
I don't change who I am but I am always expanding my definition of who I am.
Yep, we INFPs absorb knowledge like a sponge. We are always the same, except we constantly evolve.
- We are able to understand complex concepts and we can make conections between them.
- We can create a very rich inner world or idealise short future scenarios.
I think that makes us "smart".
Your videos are so concise and spot on. ENFP here who adore the INFPs of the world and the creative masterpieces they gift us with!
Well said. At some point I'm intending to do a comparison video between them ~ Nathan
Enfps are artists as well. My enfp sister's a successful animator with alot followers in social media... I'm infp and also an artist but my drawings never make it out to the internet. Sometimes my parents even forget that I draw
Same here ENFP fascinated by the INFP creatives🤩❤️😑😇👌🏻👌🏻
The way you make INFP thumbnail has flowers on their head... I like it. For me, flowers is the symbolism of will to have a good life, even life in afterlife when the flowers being put at grave.
As soon as I saw that flower thing I just knew my head had to inhabit it ~ Nathan
Been married to an INFP for more than two decades. You’re spot on. Thank you for this.
I feel like an alien in this world, as an INFP. But I cannot be anything other than what I am, as ingenuity is a foreign concept. Yes, this often makes me more alienated at times.
Getting excited seeing that there is finally a video saying nice things about infp’s and seeing that it’s only three minutes long ahaha
Haha! Apologies for the short length (something no guy feels good saying) ~ Nathan
Love Who as many would say in response to that, it isn’t the length that counts, it’s what you can do with it. This video certainly didn’t need to be long to resonate with me, still just as enjoyable and interesting as ever :)
“We need people like you to use your genius” That’s the most uplifting thing I’ve ever heard
So this is why I never cried when leaving any of my friends... because I am a master of change
Hey Nathan! I just thought as an Infp I could share this insight with you! I see it like this- I look for what is the best way out of all ways of life, or situation, etc. I test that way through multiple Points of view, myself. Thats how I form my "stubborn" view. Also, I have this extraordinary ability to know EXACTLY how other people are feeling, sometimes even what they are thinking. Its not Fe, its seeing exactly who they are from my Fi that has weighed and measured their being.. Idk if this makes to much sense..With that being said, I believe that the Infp is the true Druid, the true creature in the forest. Yes I grew up on a farm. Hope you found it interesting bro, love the video and thanks for the recognition!! :)
These insights are always extremely valuable, feel free to share them any time ~ Nathan
@@lovewho I wish you could see me fan boying out rn!
I could read the mind of my ex gf so good it even scared me sometimes. Like knowing exactly how she would react to things before it happened. Almost as if i was her. Even at situation i wasn't present i know what she did even if she told me a different story etc. Damn really hate her now. Wasting my time to improve her already good life compared to mine.
I really agreed with the Outsider and wander segments. Its actually jarring to be always "in your world" because you idealize to much that's why as INFP a little bit of pragmatism is something I added. The outsider bit I can say is why I am neutral in anything because the world is absurd for me in terms that two different things can exist with one another aka the world is beautiful and fucked up at the same time. Distancing yourself from the emotions and looking at something in a wider scale can bring up unseen things problems and opportunities alike as well as be reasonable when making decisions
INFP I met sometimes kinda cuckoo, yet it kinda soothing to see how different they can be. It's not a bad thing btw
Kinda cuckoo and.... ultra cuckoo too! ~ Nathan
Just because you don't understand someone doesn't mean they're cuckoo.
@@krystle8534 oh, I understand enough, because whom I talking about here is my best friend. Please don't underestimate my best friend like that, thank you.
@@krystle8534 & please, don't bother defending us. we INFPs KNOW we're cuckoos, & a good amount of us, especially the healthy, happy ones, ACCEPT & LIKE the fact that we're cuckoos. NOTHING bores the INFP more, than to just be ordinary & more of the same.
After a long and difficult week that isnt even finished yet, I reallyy needed a reminder about how these parts of myself can be a good thing.. thanks a lot 🤗
yes, this video came at the right moment for me too. PS love your avatar ;)
Happy to be your reminder of the INFP genius! Always cool to see you in the comments section ~ Nathan
Same
INFP persuit two things in this world.
Beauty and courage.
I'm an INFP and I think A LOT. But I feel like I'm always confused about everything but my morals. Because I'm always trying to take in every side of every situation, it's hard for me to have my own solid opinions. I feel kind of like I'm just floating around with no particular purpose but to be there for someone else.
A few years back I worked with a team and we drove to different locations every day in a bus full of 8 people. I always wanted to make suggestions what music to play but then I started overthinking about how the different people in the bus would react to a song I would suggest and what they would think about me. So I almost never comfortable making a suggestion and just let them play their music. No I realize I just wasn't comfortable with showing them who I really am.
INFP- I get paid a lot to identify faults in organisations then redesign structures and processes that benefit the greater good of the organisation. I need to find compromise constantly between what is ideal and what is feasible, it comes from identifying the authenticity of the problem and ensuring that is addressed as much as possible while the outer solution is mutable.
What troubleshooting job is that?
Brilliant analysis (from a INFP)
Hi Mormegil!
This is always great to hear, thank you very much! ~ Nathan
@@lovewho You do excellent work Nathan. We INFPs are usually too subjective to get an accurate view of ourselves.
I must be a reaaly unhealthy INFP cuz I dont see any potential in me. Maybe because of the situations I have (country, family etc.) I dont think I can do anything good for myself. Been working on a book but I just cannot love my own work, and its never enought, and its like a very far away dream to be an author - especially with my facilities. I live in a horrible country and I feel like Im crushing down with it. Some people get through but I just gave up. I dont even wanna think about future, Im just existing. And I dont feel useful. I know my impact but still, I dont make anything remarkable. I start to think like "its great that I dont wanna have kids since no one wants a dissapointing mother." I know that shit sounds harsh man but litteraly, just LİTERALLY thats the point Im at. Im just stuck and feels like there is no turning back, there is never gonna be an another chance to make a choice again. My genius sides are not working for my wealth at all. Theyre just there and considered useless by the whole world. In words everybody is like yeaah we need people like that but system doesnt need it and system wins. It always wins.
I totally relate with what you are going through! Hang in there okay 💜
Who cares if it’s short, it’s an amazing video :) . INFP here. Everything is so spot on. I draw and paint and I never know exactly how it will turn out but it always end up being a bit whimsical. Truly a different world than the « outside » world. Love the quotes as always.
So great to know the INFPs out there enjoyed it! ~ Nathan
This was really pleasant to hear! Most people will look at us like we refuse to accept someone for who they are when in reality we just see how much of themselves they are sacrificing for nothing. So many people walk blindly into a self trap and cage themselves in bent morals and quiet heart breaks. Because compromising yourself makes you a "good person". Even though they cant stand most of the people they look up to.
you know you are infp when you zoom out while watching this video, even though it was very interesting
This was the best analysis of INFPs I have seen.
High praise indeed! ~ Nathan
Yeah change is constant. I’m a painter and feel the need to stretch constantly. I can’t sit on one thing for very long. It has to be moving constantly toward something that I haven’t discovered within me yet. If I feel stagnant I feel lost and depressed as hell. I never feel settled. But I love making something I feel is an expression of something that is real to me, and make it real for others too
I cannot resist admiring the beauty that pervades everything around me, and it hurts sometimes because you want others to see it & relate to it. & i think trying to show them is what I’m here to do
Both my sons are INFP. Very creative. The one is very uncompromising and genius… the other appears more normal but is very private and very creative and a searcher for his true self. Both are incredible musicians and game players and creatives and they are best friends. Age 25 and 27
I (an infp) often feel like I‘m confusing to others, because I switch personalities all the time. Sometimes it’s even very confusing to myself, but I‘m trying to embrace it somehow
I really like your style which is 'straight and to the point'. You said what you wanted without forcing to do a longer video. Great as always.
This is excellent to hear, I do often wonder whether the videos are too short ~ Nathan
I'm constantly wondering why nobody is seeing things the way I do. Why are they accepting the problems we have in society. I'm happy to hear that it is not just me. Thank you.
INFP’s is highly sensitive. Avoid the feeling of guilty because it is the worst feeling, find anything that embrace ‘love/ love feeling’ because it is the greatest feeling in the world.
Outsiders have a better grasp on reality without being clouded by all the social noise of the group and not bounded by group think.
Direct authentic wellbeing feels like it was constructed before I was born. It's like an indefinite state of being, the ultimate circumstance to all circumstances. I think INFP's are all indifferent due to how we perceive conformity as it can be very ignorant and very limiting to creativity.
This is a fascinating comment! ~ Nathan
How dare you stroke my genius and leave me hanging?! Lazy INTP! 😆
Empathetic and creative geniuses.
INFP aka the black sheep in my family. Great job on the video! 👑
as an infp I can say that we have always wanted to fit in, even as the misfit so the way we are fluctuates until we understand there is no such thing. idk it I explained it right .
On the surface....cool as a cucumber. Below the surface....squirrel in traffic.
This comment is hilarious and brilliant ~ Nathan
You hit on all the core themes that have defined my life! I have spent an unbelievable amount of time exploring the question, "Is your true self discovered or created?" Studying personality is a probe into that very question. Am I discovering why I am the way I am or am trying to decide what I think I should be? Where am I in all of that? How much of me is there already and makes sense once you understand it and how much of me is a blank slate to be written on?
And us INFP'S appreciate you sharing your unique INTP perspective and insight! 😊
Well thank you very much for this! ~ Nathan
This community is so refreshing.
Hey INFPs. I'm a desperate INTP and I need your help. How do you want to be treated? Besides the basic stuff like respect.
How do I know how to cheer you up?
How do I know when you like me?
Just in general HOW TO HANDLE THE INFP?
I've figured, that you guys tend to ignore people when you're pissed at them.
As an infp we don’t like when ppl judge us when we show our inner world or talk about our weird imaginations so if I like someone I ca easily talk about what is in my mind .
As cliche as it may sound but as an INFP, although I have trained myself a lot about not being needy for love, I guess it is inevitable for an INFP to feel like he/she is of value when they are reminded that they are loved and cared. INFP's may fall different or kinda strange compared to the rest and this could easily make us feel not understood or like displaced and thus leave us with doubtful thoughts, mostly about ourselves, and trigger our insecurities. INFP's would be most happy and feel alive when they are seen as they are and when they are loved that way. For me, feeling special is quite priceless for someone because of my differences and kind of "strange" view of the world.
For the questions you specified, all I can say is this: There is obviously not a one size fits all approach for every INFP. Speaking from my personal experiences, I have been someone who keeps their emotions quite undisclosed regarding relationships due to the fact that I know I might get hurt in an emotional connection although I really want to have one. This makes me seem kinda shy or not shy but, "ignoring" or "uninterested". INFP's in my opinion, require some level of interest and care from someone who can discover them enthusiastically without any judgment.
Open up about yourself. This might or might not be difficult for an INTP but, we INFPs really like it when someone shows us who they really are.
Even if what you have to share is painfull, and even if you do so while your INFP is down, I can guarantee you that they'll apreciate it.
If an INFP likes you they'll share with you their secrets, fantasies, dreams, pain and joy. They'll want to spend quality time with you, they'll listen to you.
When something like a conflict happens or anything that affects us, we often need to retreat to process our emotions. We need the space to do this, its not necessarily because we're resentful or anything like that.
Open-mindedness and acceptance are big for INFPs. Though we are idealists, we are also very accepting and understanding of other people’s shortcomings. We ask for the same in return. And of course, empathy is a big one too. We are sensitive. Mature INFPs are strong, but still sensitive. Fi places a lot of value on emotions. Do not invalidate our emotional experiences! As was mentioned in the video, all realities feel true for us and therefore emotions they evoke feel true.
People Typically Mention Creativity & Artistic with INFP, Which Are Great, Howeverrrr, that transcends & to so many other things; social & economic justice, psychology, sociology, archaeology, marine biology, etc.
• INFPs positively contribute to human knowledge: learning the patterns of the past, shedding light on connections today & the possibilities of tomorrow.
• They despise injustices & have strong morals that they hold themselves too & want to see i throughout the world.
• They are constantly focused on doing what they believe is right & stand up for others.
• Wonder Woman/Diana Prince Is An INFP & Princess Diana is an INFP too!
• Doing take an INFP’s kindness as a weakness, for in time you will surely see, you are safely mistaken!
• Thanks for getting the complexity of & using proper verbiage for the INFP!
being ugly and an INFP in modern society is like playing the game of life at very high difficulty
I just noticed how metered your speech is, and thus realised why I like listening to you but not really taking notice of what you're saying. Sorry... 😂 But the cadence catches my attention and leaves my thought processer quite witless. Your beautiful accent doesn't help matters either.
Sincerely,
An INFP
I agree that my cadence is weird in these videos since I often write a lot of it out in advance. I've found that I kind organise my thoughts so much more clearly when writing as opposed to speaking. "Beautiful accent" well, flattery will get you everywhere ~ Nathan
can relate, I was partially drifting off but being immersed in what he was saying.
I've found out I focus better on what he's saying when I don't look at the screen. This is because he positions himself in the middle and it almost feels like he is right there in front of me, making eye contact from beginning to end. Haha.
Same hehe 🤭
Thank you so much for this bit of encouragement from an INFP still struggling to find my place in society. This was reassuring
Wow! this is the most accurate insight/explanation of a creative INFP!
I have struggled to express what I show with my art to my audience, and now have the right words to do so! that is so personal, yet I share it! letting it out! baring my inner world and letting you in!
I love the way you articulate your thoughts. I’m honestly half taking in what you’re saying and half sitting in awe of your choice of words
I just "discovered" my personality type and laugh now when I do something very INFP like today when I went to my boss to bring to light something that happened at work and what I said was "I dont mind being on my own but I shouldn't be made to feel isolated and ignored" lol then I spent all day worrying if I had worded my complaint correctly and weather I rocked the boat too much by bringing my complaint to light....oh well its actually been fun looking into different personality types
You’re so sweet, I really feel like I see a positive side to myself whenever I watch your videos. You put our strengths in ways that types other than us can understand without infantilising, which I think tends to happen. Anyway, thanks for everything you put out! Great channel
INFP=ADHD on Valium
Oh. holy. jesus. Yes. Step further; infp =adhd on x
Haha! I forgot to add that part in the video ~ Nathan
Love Who Trivialising pathologies? I think many people dealing with and suffering from ADHD probably wouldn’t appreciate that.
@@LOdmaric I'm an INFP & i have ADHD. in fact, having type 1 or type 3 ADHD to varying degrees seems to even be a prerequisite to even be INFP in the first place. getting easily distracted & naturally having short attention spans in anything but something that truly clicks with INFPs, are some of the DEFINING weaknesses of ours. so no, putting in ADHD in this case wouldn't count as trivializing the pathology.
Right? Sometimes I'm amazed that I've managed to get by as well as I have!
People seem to be real fans of infp but I have never experienced those in real life. People think I'm stupid and costently dismiss my ideas and sometimes turn around and steal my ideas.
This is amazing! I was just talking abt the subtle form of ignorance that parallels to your mentioning of slippery slope phenomena in one of my readings. I thought it was more of a personal observation rather than a result of a typifying of my M/B personality trait. I’m sure still related, but very interesting to hear from a different aspect.
Thanks for sharing your work! I’ll be in tune more often as educating self is really another characteristic of improving circuit-ways to realigning the ascension of potential paths. In learning we become better mentors & create deeper impressions to awaken others of these subtleties. So cool! 😃!!
I was feeling a bit down and thought the comments section of this video would cheer me up and make me feel less alone as an INFP. I was not wrong 🥰
Love it! ~ Nathan
I feel seen. Thanks! It's nice to know I'm not alone. A lot of us are out here in the space between, making our own ways.
This video was uploaded on my birthday and I've decided that this is a sign from the universe.
I'm an ENFP and i sometimes feel like an infp i can relate to always being im my head and retreating to my safe space even when it's not necessary
Yeah, I'm an infp, but I also feel a lot like an enfp. There's probably a lot of people who can fit into both because they're more ambiverted than anything else.
Hell, I’m and ENTP and I do the same.
@@loony3822 All you gotta do is study cognitive functions. Trust me, it gives amazing insight.
I'm curious about figuring out the main differences between ENFPs and INFPs, I'm intending to do a comparison video at some point ~ Nathan
@@loony3822 you should watch the infp or enfp cognitive functions videos on CZcams just literally type in enfp or infp cognitive functions
"Being a master of change is a rare thing".
A very interesting sentence, i think keeping this in mind will do some good for my confidence
1:50 wow I love this and resonate heavily no wonder my therapy sessions are charged with this energy lol
Being an INFP , makes you see think about every detail in your life in different way every day , shall i call it imagination or creative mind , ✨
1:34-1:47 You hit the nail right on the head there. Staying true to yourself and changing meaningfully from who you once were rather than simply "moving on"/"moving forward" is a very important thing. At least for me.
Glad to see that you agreed with it. ~ Nathan
Thanks for this. I always focus on the things that I find frustrating as an INFP like my inability to get things done (like video editing 😄) because of all the possibilities, and also the fact that I always seem at odds with my colleagues and the company's values. It's nice to hear that my uncompromising values and wandering mind can be a good thing.
It can be painful but ultimately yes it is a great thing! ~ Nathan
As an INFP i express creativity by writing stories! I also really love video games and art, so i wanna be a game dev when i grow up!
This was exactly what I needed to hear. A very close [INFJ] friend of mine is currently being manipulated by someone much older (love bombing, toxic positivity, weirdly subtle manipulation of his time/ social connections), and I've been struggling because while I'm sure this is happening, I also have no idea how much I should be telling him about my observations/ fears etc., because it's a lot obviously. But I'm going to stay in his life and keep being honest with him/ looking out for him/ being there for him, because that's my superpower and I'm gonna godamn use it. Thanks so much for the boost; this video gave me strength.
Everything I ever wanted to be:
a writer, film maker, musician or artist.
Right know I am aiming to become a translator for literature. If that's not living up to the mediator stereotype, I'm officially not an INFP any more.
1:50 🙌🙌🙌 although there are some closed minded INFP’s out there that succumb to conditioning.
As an infp who's truamatuzed af. I don't like humanity... Ppl around me are dumb, don't know why their even living, Selfish, judging, manipulative and annoying af for no reason at all... And now it comes to the point where i hate my friends who tell me im the dumb one here literally i go through that shit everyday im lonely af... Like i syck at school literally but im just too sad to even give a damn about school and don't get me started at that one point:
Whenever i tell someone theyre dumb. The first thing that comes up in their mind is "school" and then they tell me how their smarter than me... No. Im not twlling u that ur dumb in school im telling u that ur THAT dumb to think im talking about school.
Literally my own family and frnds get on my nerves sometimes. Like even when im around my bffs i still feel like an outcast or lets say lonely to tge point that now i have fucking suicidical thoughts that haunt me but no one cares... No one... I really hate humanity, its not "beautiful" its creepy and imperfect. I'd rather look at the moon than talk with ppl really...
I've faked my personality and smile for 3 years and now i jsut feel like im done just done with life and ppl. Im so fake to the point that when im telling someone my sad and intrusive thoughts im still smiling and their like "Wtf how are you even smiling" bruh maybe because i don't have mommy issues like you? Im used to it now so theres no point. Srsly im only a 13 yr old girl, a 7th grader, and i feel like as if im 22 and just looking at dumb silly creatures really...
Im sorry that this happens to you but i would like to explain something.
People around you are not dumb, they have the same level of intelligence as you. Its just because no human has the power to see how another human thinks. If you think you do, you have less then a strand of what others think like, they ARE smart. Everything has a different way of thinking and it doesnt come out in the way that you would ideally like. You are smart too.
I think that maybe you also can be judgy at times, as seen by your comment. Its not just you, its me as well. Its everyone. At school kids can be very selfish and annoying.
I do not think its good to call anyone dumb. Because they are not. It comes across as arrogant. im not trying to be unkind to you and i understand you but most eleven year olds feel like that. Including you, again, because of your comment.
i think it is important that you build tolerance and you build empathy because almost EVERYONE thinks like that, and some people in your school may be having more serious issues like bullying/ poverty/ learning disabilities/ illnesses/ loss/ being a huge outcast
@@user-dx9my1en2d thank you so much.. But i really changed in the past month so its ok :)
Plus HOLY MOLY! I DIDNT REALIZE I WROTE 11😵
Im 13 now and ngl i did change but it was a good change, i started thinking positive and yk just let all the negativity out of me and worked on myself. So i feel better now!
You are very descriptive. Thanks for this.
Your good brother keep up the good work 🙏🏻thank you I really appreciate it
Hope you're enjoying the videos and thank you for this comment! I always mention this to people I sense are regular viewers: if you haven't already come this far down the rabbit hole, feel free to join me and others on the LoveWho Discord server. We have an abundance of INFPs on there so you might fit right in! ~ Nathan
As an INFP who likes Punk Rock, I have no issues with this video being so short.
It's really odd to me that all the INFPs I've known seem to love metal music, never totally understood what that's about ~ Nathan
@@lovewho Haha! Despite their easy going nature, Cinnamon Rolls tend to have a lot of pent up anger and frustration inside that they need to get out of their system through various outlets like metal music for example. For me hardcore punk seems to help a lot!
@@lovewho I'm an INFP & i don't actually have a favorite genre. i listen to just about anything, but yes, rocks & metals do have a weird way of resonating with me.
@@lovewho lol yes I like Metal music
@@lovewho i Love Classical Musics XD
For the first time i wrote an essay/ letter to my parents in docs explaining my thoughts. (Well it was about why i don't need to retake SAT , but anyway it was my first time writing how i really feel to them) So it was pretty cool. I think i will stick with this process. If i have to explain myself then I'm gonna write to them.
I'm INFP-T most my family dont really know me
I like to imagine that if society were a company or factory, INFPs would be the inspectors. They usually aren't part of the process, but they are an integral part of the system by seeing and documenting everything that may be wrong with the system that the workers don't see. They maintain the order of the system through their power of observation.
INFP things: doubting your comment and rethinking if you should post it or not but at the same time rereading it because you're proud of it for getting some likes.
The best and most powerful leader. Is one that leads without the people knowing there being led. Because of how we can connect with people and ability to read the room. We our creative and intuitive enough to change the perspective, moral, and environment of the group.. passive aggressively and behind the scenes.
Hey guy, you are very good at this. Thanks.
Smiled at "unbelievable stubborn":))))) this video is awesome)
You talk in poetic verse. It's lovely.