How to be Attractive
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- čas přidán 9. 12. 2022
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“Give a whole bunch of affection and then suddenly rip it away” is literally how narcissists and psychopaths gaslight those in their lives. No one with empathy and a conscience would ever take that advice.
Highlight your similarities is a part of lovebombing too
no one with empathy and a conscience would ever GIVE that advice, either
Or give it 🖤
At least no one who doesn't desperately needs affection himself. When you want to bind someone to yourself by using those manipulative techniques you are not selfconfident enough to believe you can get that without "cheating" or by just being yourself. The parts of a happy couple are not clinged to each other by obsession and need, but by the will of spending their time together while being able to be happy on their own, too.
Iam SURE these comments at the beginning you showed us, do NOT get to your sweet heart, because YOU know that they only belong to unhappy parts, right?
Iam so happy for you two, to be together for so long, and Iam looking forward to every video in which you create something new and wholesome for us. Thank you for watching out for us all and keeping on with discussing these topics with us. Merry Christmas, soon!
Right like isn’t that a definitive feature of an abusive relationship??
There's nothing funnier than a boy who can't be a day over 15 talking about wifeing someone up
indeed.
Funny but also nauseating right?
Boy living in imaginary world lol 😆 probably only women he's spoken to is his mummy lol
One of my favorite dating advice article I have read was from a 1950s article about how to get a man. “Go into a corner and cry so that the man will come over and ask you what’s wrong” “pretend that you are ill so they will feel like they are taking care of you”.
My niece and I joke all the time about it, if she is going on a date I say what do you do? She proceeds to walk into the corner and turns around and cries “I’m ill!!!!!!”
Hahahaha😂😂
Hahaha that's like something Cosmopolitan magazine would say. 😆😆
this needs to be a tiktok now!!!
Hahahaha
My mum actually did this. And she got an older man...he's a total douche
“All I want is to be attractive to strangers on the Internet.” Pretty much summarizes the ridiculous state of our society right now. Glad we know how to get “wifed up” now.
I deadass guffawed at that one
There's absolutely nothing really wrong with desiring random people you don't know to find you attractive.
TECHNICALLY, the *vast* majority of we humans want the good feeling of being found at least somewhat attractive to the public.
The *actual* problem moreso lies within the PURE vanity and vapidness that is pumped into literal children these days. It's very harmful and honestly gross how modern society pushes young kids/young adults into being so self-conscious that they get driven insane. You'd be surprised how many of these a-hole, vapid tiktokers start off as booger kids who were actually self-conscious to the point of insanity. It's not all of them mind you! However a good few for sure.
The kids are being taught these traits more than naturally having then
Glad we know how to avoid getting “wifed up” now.
I paused it in order to comment. It’s impressive how so many women can’t understand that other women are completely happy in their bodies without their commentary. I love your channel because you guys are so real and because you love yourself as you are and you’re perfect as you are in my opinion. you’re soooo beautiful and you guys are like the Uber power couple that I would aspire to be
you said it, friend!
you said it, friend!
100%
@@amandaredd3057 thank you. I haven’t felt this way about a CZcams couple since Jenna and Julien. And Jenna and Julian are the only couple that I felt like they were my friends because they’re such good people and their character comes off the screen. And that’s how I feel about Jamie and nick. I mean more specifically Jamie but Nick just seems like a real great guy as well.
@@VGobaira I could not agree with you more. They seem like such good, decent people who really love and respect eachother. THEY are couple goals. I'm thinking those people trying to give crappy advice should actually be seeking advice from Jamie and Nick!
I just wanted to say that as someone who has lived through an abusive relationship, hearing you actually call manipulative & controlling behavior abusive [instead of dancing around it by calling it toxic or unhealthy] means a lot.
It's a small thing, but the vast majority of people still refuse to call abuse abuse, and it goes a long way towards making abuse victims&survivors feel validated and supported.
Yes thank you so much for this. I was in three very emotionally, psychically, mentally abusive relationships. Now I don't even trust my own mother because she has betrayed me with her toxic drunk boyfriend. I trust my sister and myself.
This an interesting take. I have always thought that "toxic" and "abusive" coincided with each other. I need to delve into the meanings of the words a bit more then, I never want to belittle a situation by using the wrong terminology.
Yes it really feels like... like a tension relief in ur chest when u hear someone stand up for the truth like that
@@leahbrening1101 Abusive people are always toxic, but not everyone who has toxic traits is abusive. Oftentimes, victims of abuse develop toxic traits in response or because their abuser has conditioned them to find this behavior acceptable. Codependency is also toxic. I personally found myself in an abusive relationship because I was codependent and had terribly low self-esteem, which stemmed from my upbringing. My ex and I were mutually toxic to one another, but he was manipulative and lacked the ability to feel empathy or love for another person. My problem was that I feel those things way too deeply and didn't know how to protect myself with boundaries.
Idk why I can’t edit my comment but I was gonna say that:
in the present, my partner isn’t like that and never has been (I love my princess 👑 ❤🦛).
Then the comment continues as normal (“We ARE both extremely codependent on each other…” blah blah blah lol)
The fact that Jamie can sing, make fun of herself, make us laugh and she is overall a genuine person makes her 10xs more beautiful and attractive. Plus she has beautiful curly hair. So your looks Jamie are a BONUS!! ❤👏👏👏
Man seeing those comments on how “unattractive” Jaime is on the screen made me sick. I know she is confident in who she is, as she should be, but it still made me feel so sad. It’s horrific that people think it is ok to talk to another person in that manner! You’re awesome Jaime, beautiful inside and out. Thanks for always making us laugh ❤
Agree 💯 It made me feel sick and devastated seeing those comments when Jaime is just 100% pure gold and sweetness who brings us light and positivity. And like hell she ain't pretty! She's totally beautiful like, WTF? I swear people just say things online because they can, or because it's some kind of power move or they're seeking attention or whatever. Either way, it's so not okay. And not true, either.
It's really upsetting to know ppl think it's ok to say stuff like that to others. Jaime is beautiful and perfect just the way she is. I could never imagine leaving such an ugly comment about anyone.
Exactly she is actually beautiful & deserves better. Ppl are rude, they don’t need to be on here, if anything they are just proving how insecure they are!
My husband, who is a therapist, told me most people who go out of their way to comment mean comments, usually need to feel an intense stimulating feeling. That intense stimulation is usually caused by major insecurities they are feeling that the video is invoking in themselves. Idk why but that's what it took for me to truly understand that phrase, "it's not about you, it's about them".
True. I also think it’s a temporary ego boost for some men to belittle women on their looks.
@@luckyDancer100 Im using the phrase Temporary Ego Boost every time someone online insults me now
Very insightful! Thank you for sharing
Textbook projection.
I wanna be married to a therapist… good thing I watched this so I know how to attain my new goal
Lol I love you guys. Appreciate the compliments, but I wasn’t fishing for anything. I just thought it would be an effective intro 💅 don’t stress your pretty selves
I think you're GORGEOUS and FUNNY and SMART.. Like, you're the trifecta of perfection! Like, wut!!!1
That lady spelled asymmetry like "ass"ymetry and it killed me, 😅 Wonder if she mentions the ability to spell as attractive anywhere...
Anywho - you're a riot and I enjoyed this video very much ^_^ Congrats on your anniversary! That's awesome 👌
You are great though. People always show their insecurities through the comments. I’ve always thought you were not only beautiful but funny with a great personality. The attractive trifecta 😜
I know you don’t need more compliments, but you’re a ray of sunshine! I think you look amazing, your makeup abilities are insane, and you’re so funny! In fact, the more we get to “know” you through your videos, the more we want of you! I would love it if you uploaded every day! You’re the girlie version of Nick Diramio, and I know you know that’s the ultimate compliment!
F**k people leaving nasty comments - just do that thing where they write whatever but you’ve blocked their comments from being seen.
Always thought u looked amazing in all you're videos, plus u always make me laugh🥰
As an almost 40-year-old lady I want to hug every single one of these young adults and tell them that they should be free and just be themselves. That way when somebody does find them attractive it'll be for who they really are and not for a facade that will inevitably drop one day.
As an over 40-year-old lady, I wish it was true that you can just be yourself and be attractive. But I know enough people who cannot be attractive to a partner just being themselves because they are incredibly insecure people. Insecurity and neediness and lacking self-respect is not attractive to any partner of any gender. I would tell them they need to LOVE themselves to be attractive to others.
The woman “giving advice” while doing her makeup is literally describing “how to” narcissistic abuse - word for word. She probably doesn’t even realize that other people don’t feel the need to be as calculating as her, that we don’t see every interaction as part of a game. She reminds me of my ex 😂 he was so deeply insecure that he constantly felt the need to overcompensate, study others behavior and calculate his next move. He was so preoccupied with how others would perceive him that he didn’t know how to have a relationship and he thought he could “see through” everyone (including me 😑). There are times I feel sorry for these people but because of the huge amount of pain they cause other people it’s hard to actually feel for them. Sorry for the rant lol but she’s giving me the creeps BIG TIME and she’s teaching people how to be abusive to others. As always, amazing video Jaime, thanks! ❤
@Allen, Mackenzie I kinda wish 😭 but sadly there are so MANY covert narcissists out there. We gotta watch out sis
Right?! "Give them attention and then take it away! It builds a psychological obession" - lady, that shit is a trauma bond, and it breaks people.
Oh crap your description of him just defined me to a t. I don’t mean to be like that and I know it’s super annoying for everyone but I don’t know how to change it and I’m really lonely because of it since every time someone does love me I figure they don’t really love me and I just somehow tricked them into it so then I share all the stuff I hate about myself so I don’t feel bad for making them think I was a good person but then they leave me because I’m insecure and annoying. It’s that vicious cycle that I think has made me start seeing every interaction as part of a game because thats what any kind of love feels like to me now. I’m not asking for sympathy and I’m sorry you’ve been hurt by people like me, I know I’ve hurt some people too and I’ve had to go back and apologise to them but it is a really hard thing to change.
@@elisabethherzog9369 You might do well to get some therapy - you have insight into your behavior, but learning alternatives and healthier ways of being in a relationship could really help you. Best wishes to you 🤗
Yup. She’s a sicko
If I’m unattractive according to those clowns, I think I’m doing something right.
Lol right!? I just so happen to do everything that would not be attractive to men, without even trying, and I'm actually very grateful for that 🤣
aparently stupid lowercases typing is supers sexy!!!!1 💪👐🦵🦻 also hawt emojicons riiiight
My goal is to be the kind of person these types find unattractive.
I’m actually cackling. Imagine being so emotionally fragile that a woman using proper punctuation threatens you. 💀 5:54
🤣🤣
This was so funny 😂
Right? That made me laugh.
😂 That uppercase at the start of your sentence, man - it’s a little too dominating for me. Dude, it’s like... it’s like you’re tryin’ to own me. I’m not your all cap POSSESSION! I mean, I’ll lower case simp from time to time but those big letters are tryin’ to throw down and I’m not about that capitalized life...
@@persephonespomegranate This is totally unrelated, but I just wanna say that I love your username.
I... feel like this should be an episode of The Twilight Zone. I'm a year away from 40 and seeing all these 20-something TikTokers saying all those things made me feel like I'm living in a nightmarish world. And those hateful comments you received just break my heart. You're beautiful, Jaime.
If it reassures you as a _20-something_ , these people do not act like this in real life because theyre smart enough to know they cannot get away this and 9/10 they're awkward as fuc
Jaime, I’m a firm believer that women should always support and uplift other women. In my 30 years of life, I have never been loved by a man. I’ve spent more than a decade trying to become a “desirable” and “high value” woman. But I realize now that all the people-pleasing and beating myself up has only increased my unhappiness because nothing I do will make everyone like me or care about me. I’ve gone above and beyond for crushes and friends, and none of those people have ever actually valued me. We can’t change what other people want to think about us and we shouldn’t try to. You are so beautiful and I adore your videos and sense of humor. I fully support you. Never stop being exactly who you are, and don’t let stupid vomitous masses get to you .😊
I only was in love once. To a manipulator people pleaser. I thought he loved me...but he just agreed with shit to avoid conflict or to get what he wanted.
I spent 18 years with him.
Never will I give a man that much of my life again. The sucky part is he created a trauma bonded when he started supporting my drug habit when I was with him that first couple years. I wouldn't give him a commitment until year 2 cause I didn't trust him. But I was on heroin and never had a bf. So I let him in to try. Then my semi addiction became a real addiction, and I let him take care of it. That was when I gave in. I got clean 6 years later but...couldn't leave. I didn't want to hurt him cause he was a fun sweet guy, in a lying manipulative way. But hd learned from his family. It wasn't manipulation, it was telling people what they want to hear toavoid a fight. Its not lying if it is saving them pain, or its not gaslighting if you mean it st the time.
So, I wouldn't say not having a relationship is a bad thing. The experience only taught me I was right since 12. I never wanted kids. I never wanted to marry. I never wanted to be as stupid and abused as my mom. But I guess I just looked for a different abuse.
i feel soooooo sorry for the young generation growing up on tiktok, man it is freakin toxic as hell. love you Jaime and congrats on your 12 years!!!
I know…this scares me for my kids…
I do to. Don't let my kids on it. I can't stand. Some great content but way way way to much awful to even bother with it
SERIOUSLY. I have a five year old daughter and I am dreading her teen years. It was bad enough being bullied in the nineties but it just seems all invasive now with TikTok etc.
The thing is that they don't need grow up on TikTok... if parents would set some rules and boundaries that wouldn't be a problem. :(
@@mingbotlarue5694 Don't worry, bullying mostly happen to people whose parents aren't making an effort in building their child's social skills and self esteem. In the 90's people were scared of telling their children "you are enough" because they were afraid of making them weak or under achievers. With the studies we have today we know that nothing of value can be achieved without a base foundation of self-confidence. As long as you instil that in your child, and have great openness and communication with her (and heal your own self-hating patterns to make sure you're not passing them on to her) she should be just fine :)
What's CRAZY to me is that anyone would think or say you're nothing other than freaking gorgeous - physically and intellectually. You have beautiful facial features, gorgeous hair, you're hilarious and super smart. Also, you have a partner who loves you unconditionally. All of those other "experts" who are single can just suck it because they're all just jelly. Also, this was super funny!
Exactly!
I third this comment, they can suck on a rotten egg !
I know right?
I was thinking this too. I've said it before - she's honestly one of the most beautiful women I've seen. Her features are stunning, and her hair (her natural hair) is ridiculously pretty.
Exactly! The first time I saw one of her videos my first reaction was “she’s so pretty!” Plus she is so funny! Her videos put me in a better mood always. I really do think the majority of people who take their time to comment on complete strangers looks online are just jealous. Lol I deleted Tik Tok to get away from these people long ago.
Yet another reason why my children don’t have tik tok.
I’ve been married for 16 years, together with my husband for 19. Watching these people, I just want to shake them and yell “what is wrong with you?! Who hurt you?”
I’m holding these “gems” in my brain to later tell my children not do be dumb.
Thanks for the video, hilarious as usual.❤️
So my partner and I are both high functioning autistic. I'd say most people don't even know. Well he had a girl do that hot cold rejection stuff and he just took it as disinterest and moved on. Thanks girl! 💀 A healthy relationship isn't built on lies and manipulation.
I think most people would react like that to toxic people.
Love how you can respond to mean comments with humor. You're much more emotionally mature than I am. 🤣
Right?! I swear, i just rage cry😂😂
I think that she can respond that way because first of all she’s funny; second of all she knows who she is and thirdly she appreciates and loves everything about her that makes her Jamie
It's actually really frustrating and depressing that the majority of these tips on how to make men/women be attracted to you are just power moves, manipulation, gaslighting or just straight up abuse, whilst ignoring the best and only good tip that there ever existed: treat people with kindness, respect and dignity. Treat people nicely. Tell them things you mean. If you just want sex, you can find people who do one night stands.
I don't want you to yell at me in the club, lovebomb me and then ignore me for 2 months, tell me things you don't mean only to have sex with me, and I don't want to change my apparance to be more appealing. If I have to act like an asshole to be seen as attractive, I prefer to be ugly. Treat me like a god damn human being.
I'm soooo glad other people see these things for what they are!
What about people who are polyamorous, or don't want a conventional relationship? I'm upfront about that and I get judged because I'm supposed to be monogamous. I also get judged because people say things like, well if you want the perks of a relationship, why not just be in one? I'm upfront that I don't want anything serious but I'm the asshole for wanting an unconventional relationship. People can be good friends, hang out, and be intimate without having to be in a romantic relationship. But that's frowned upon.
@@DeePeeZee I don't think there's anything wrong with what you want at all, if you all know where you stand and first signs of anybody feeling things that aren't what was agreed upon are spoken about and sorted then Where's the issue?
@@DeePeeZee not everyone is going to agree with your lifestyle but if you continue to be honest with others and true to yourself you will attract like-minded people. Also, polyamorous relationships are still relationships and need clearly stated boundaries that are mutually agreed upon. Casual sex with multiple partners is not the same as polyamory; that's not to say it's wrong, just not the same thing, and possibly part of your struggle.
It’s because there are different types of people in the world, and unfortunately some of those people see life as a video game and that is WRONG.
It’s the Andrew Tit types that think they have to “win” at everything, but relationships are not a GAME you can WIN. It’s sociopathic behavior.
always so grateful to be bisexual, i just act in a way that's considered "unattractive" to men but seems to really go over well with other gay women, and if i somehow end up snagging a man's interest despite being the personification of the phrase "turn-off" then i know he's likely a real one! it's a win-win!
I never see it as “beautiful for a big girl” it’s just beautiful. I love Jaime, her content, her positivity, creativity, and humor! I’ve struggled with my weight in the past, but I feel like I’m at a point where enough is enough and being “attractive” isn’t weight dependent
YAY!!!!! I'm so happy for you. It is a great feeling to get to that place of deep acceptance and release of the need to perform for others. It's a joy. And let's be real, the most attractive quality that everyone tends to agree on across the board isn't low body fat. It's CONFIDENCE!
The biggest problem and greatest virtue of social media is that everyone gets a platform.
This includes self-aggrandized narcissists and children who think they are grown.
Intelligent and sane rebuttal commentary is needed. Without it society will nose dive faster than it already is.
Thanks, Jaime.
👏🏼 👏🏼
Dude ..this.... This right here! Yes!
Needed to be said!
Unfortunately, the sane commentary doesn’t seem to actually help abusive people become self aware and develop insight. They don’t seek out therapy. They just drive their abuse underground. It’s so sad.
So everyone should know that when they’re speaking out the focus is on the audience! Those are the people you’re helping! The ones that are being abused and gaslit into thinking it’s acceptable behavior! Those that have toxic traits from poor parenting and don’t realize how their behavior affects people. And those suffering painful effects from the abuse flung at them.
I also love Jaimes response to this ❤ so was once one of those abused women who didn’t understand what abuse was and that I didn’t deserve to be mistreated.
If it weren’t for social media and internet searches on “what is abuse” I would still be stuck. I started learning, got therapy, and my life is totally beautiful now.
Anyway, I hope anyone that sees the main comment takes it to heart. Thoughtful responses can save whole people from lives that are so painful that human language cannot properly convey the suffering
Preach 👏👏👏
her name is Jaime* ^^
Saying you’re “unattractive” is insane, girl. You’re very funny, very creative, very down to earth and smart and you know how to slap around some good sarcasm with some humor. And you are a very real and beautiful woman who is happy in her life and successful. So whomever is saying these mean, hurtful and untrue comments is just out of their mind and out of touch, period.
I so agree! I came here to say the same. You're beautiful, Jaime! Love your content. I couldn't do what you do. I've thought about it, but I just don't have a thick enough skin to handle the toxic comments. My hat is off to you!
Yeesssss ❤️❤️
YESSSS!!!!!
she's also attractive
Thank you for reminding me exactly why I'm not on TikTok. Just watching those shallow shells of trolls confirmed that our society is doomed. You are gorgeous inside and out. Your channel brings me to tears of laughter and its refreshing to see a real woman using her endless wit and makeup skills to entertain rather than some overprocessed emaciated nitwit giving life tips.
That one girl talking about being toxic so they can become “obsessed” with you is essentially setting other people up to be abused.
The traits I see all humans attracted to but none of these Tiktokers exhibiting: authenticity and sincerity.
I HATE Tiktok. Are people really that stupid? I love your take on this Jaime. You are beautiful, witty, talented, just everything great. Keep on being your lovely self.
I often think about what would social media could be like if we had it just a little bit earlier; I'm 44. I honestly don't believe it would be much better. I bet tiktok, Facebook and Twitter would be just the same during the 80s. I know people with this vain, shallow and manipulative attitudes right now, it's pathetic. I bet all the divorce court dads, religious zealots, insufferable neighbors and alcoholic mean moms would have had a HUGE social media following when they were young.
@@krrr.4902 Probably. Glad I was able to be a teen and on into my 20s without the shit.
My mother STAYS being scammed on tiktok. Clicking every "get rich quick" link to ever exist.
At this point they should call it Tik Toxic
Attractive is in the eye of the beholder. You have a man who finds you beautiful and I’m sure you acknowledge your own beauty as well. Screw what anyone else has to say! Be happy doing you.
Although we are black women, you are my sister's twin. Ma'am you're gorgeous. Your husband is a hunk. As long as you get the views. 💅🏿 Please keep watching haterrrrrs!! 🤑
P.S. In true Jaime French form, I totally paused the video and read the text of you asking him to send you a text with a 1 at the end. 😂🤣
Lol that sent me 😂💀
Oops missed that part, I guess I’ll have to watch it again! 🤣
That “I can’t believe we both have a sister” advice girl is acting like a sociopath giving out tips on how to _seriously_ hurt people.
She doesn’t mean well. (But we know you always do! 🖤🖤)
I’ve never been so glad to be out of touch
Omg I could never think that step 1 to become more attractive was to be attractive!
The way you took criticism (it's your "job" right?) and made it a super funny video is amazing, clever and I laughed and loved every minute of it... And that's the best answer to anyone who left those "did I even ask" comments on your socials
How to be attractive: Be the funniest person in the room.
Okay, you win 😍
It’s sad to me that people can’t see beauty or attractiveness by how others make them feel versus how they look. As a woman in her 30s, too, we had to grow up through a really twisted time of loathing our bodies for how they looked and not adored for our hearts, minds and the fact that our bodies are literally awesome and we are able to exist.
That isn't unique to your generation though. I admit, being very young like when you were a teen would be a LOT harder than us from older generations. I'm super glad the internet didn't exist when I was in Jr High and High school! That would be rough, but even in the 70s, 80s and 90s we were still hit with unrealistic body ideals. It was in magazines and MTV instead of the internet, but we still tried very hard.
In the 80s it was trying to have the best, biggest hair and trendy clothes. In the 90s "heroin chic" became a huge thing and we tried to be so thin it was unhealthy. To look like we were heroin addicts without actually doing the drug.
Being bullied or teased over our bodies has gone on forever. Like I said though, I don't envy your generation having to deal with it constantly online. Even now though, I'm 51, been married for 24 years, and I work out very hard and STILL get attacked online for my age by younger guys and girls. "You're old, gross". Well, getting old is a part of life, I was young literally the exact same amount of time they will be young. Should I just stop breathing because I dared to reach middle age? People are just cruel.
Please don't think I'm negating your experiences! I just wanted to express that unrealistic beauty standards has been a thing probably since models became a thing. Not knocking models either! They are awesome, but so are those who aren't models.
@@Andrea1542 I was a teen in the 90s and very thin (had the "ideal" body type of the time apparently) and got bullied for being too skinny, called anorexic etc even though I never was. Then finally I gain some weight and feel happier with my body and it turns out my face isn't pretty enough for men's liking. Measuring up to beauty standards is always a losing battle.
People are stupid for real. I literally love watching your channel simply because you are beautiful and funny. Your sense of humor and love for what you do makes you such an awesome person. I'm so glad you switched up and started doing things that make you happy because it brings joy to others. You're awesome!
I can’t believe anyone could call Jamie anything other than beautiful, first of all she very obviously is gorgeous, she’s the single funniest person ever, she’s got intellect and a very likeable personality. I love how she never lets anyone determine the way she views herself as only her opinion matters! ❤
This was both horrifying and hysterical lol. Please do more videos like this! Why are these women always doing their makeup while they give heinous advice? I don't understand. That lady is literally teaching people how to create trauma bonds which is so awful and disgusting. I've been with someone who was like that and it's so painful to go through so thank you for calling that out! Also, just to say, you Jaime are awesome, hilarious, gorgeous, and just an all around gem!
These mean commenters are jealous that not only are you attractive, have a relationship that’s couples goals, and hugely successful, but you’re also funny as hell. Haters will alway try to tear you down. Don’t listen to them and keep the (more than) ok times rolling!! ❤
I feel like whenever I watch you Jaime, it’s like reconnecting with an old friend. Or even seeing the “fun aunt” you almost never see anymore. And no other CZcamsr has honestly done that for me. I put on your videos for almost everything. A distraction, entertainment, a way to calm my anxiety, and a way to make me laugh during a bad depression episode. Please for the love of god Jaime DONT change who you are. You deserve so much more recognition than you already get
The screenshot of you asking Nick to type the text is hilarious😂
I think the biggest takeaway here is that people are attracted to all kinds of things. I spent years feeling unattractive and unappealing. My husband loves things about me that I never thought would be attractive to anyone. I love things about him that most people would find weird. If you're reading this and feel unattractive, I just want to encourage you that beauty and attraction are incredibly subjective. Mainstream beauty is narrow, but beauty as a concept is wide and nuanced. It's definitely possible to find someone who is attracted to you just the way you are.
Yes beauty is such a wide concept. I find attributes/traits attractive that are not attractive according to societal standards. People on social media seem convinced that their version of beauty (which is the mainstream beauty) is the only definition of beauty.
Absolutely love you Jamie. You say what most of us are thinking. We never asked them for there opinions/ advice but they give it anyway. ❤❤❤❤😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣
I know you don’t need validation from some stranger online, but I do believe in putting positivity out into the world especially amongst hate. I have to say that you ARE a very attractive and hilarious woman 💕 your channel has quickly become one of my favorites to binge watch, and your green screen skits always crack me up. Keep doing your thing girl, there’s thousands of us standing behind you!! 🥰🥰
I can not tell you how many times on tiktok a Gen Z has told me I was "being aggressive" for using punctuation.
Like a literal period triggered them.
You guys are getting something right if you are celebrating twelve years together. Congrats.
i have much experience w/ narcissistic personality disorder both in my father and in my previous partner. so honestly a bit triggering to see a person encouraging that same emotional abuse for shit tons of people to do too. thx u for actually acknowledging what it rly is & not skurting around truths (ppl will miss red flags/be invalidated/perpetuate the cycle)
I'm 58 yo...the most beautiful traits are listening, laughing, caring, and letting the small shit go.
Oh man 😂 Things like this make me so happy to be out of the current dating scene...and also to be an adult who has come to terms with my body and self.
Despite the fact that you are OBVIOUSLY a stunner, I find you're energy incredibly attractive and high-vibe. You're great!
I don't normally comment on yt videos, but like, I just wanted to say, aside from the fact that I really like looking at your face, I think it's incredibly uplifting how you've taken what must have been some shitty, depressing feelings and turned it into content. That is so aspirational to me and I really admire you for that.
Jme your soothing and casually “unbothered” talking voice IS THE DEFINITION of “typing in all lower case” you “talk in all lower case” so you’re automatically cooler than these weird internet advice givers.
You’re the coolest person on CZcams in my opinion and 100% attractive so i don’t know why ppl are commenting messed up stuff to you. You’re hilarious and smart and beautiful so yeah i don’t know. That confused me at the beginning :/
If you haven't seen "Picture Perfect Royal Christmas" on Prime yet, I strongly recommend it. From all the incorrect camera usage to a storage room used for the "castle library" made for a pretty okay time.
Tik tok is so toxic it makes me sick. I feel like there is no love left in the world after seeing this younger generation. It’s really depressing.
Tiktok just amplifies stuff. There's good stuff too but yea it's a vreeding ground for toxicity.
Also the internet doesn’t feel real at times. When you go out in the real world I see less of that toxic crap 😅
honestly you just need to get off of tiktok, even in other parts of the internet it's not as toxic as it is there. I've made life long friends from niche online forums, there is kindness and love everywhere, don't forget that.
Tiktox it shall be called
Dude, I love you even more now. Spot on.
FLAPPY
You are literally the best of CZcams
Not to mention you have been married for 12 years and just bought a brand new house with your husband
These advice people are single and in unfaithful relationships… 🤔
I'm so sorry a fun event was followed by such discouraging comments. I think you are beautiful! Nick is a lucky guy. I love your content and sense of humor. It's sad how shallow people can be. My unsolicited advice on being attractive: treat others with kindness, let your intelligence shine, embrace your quirks, and make others laugh.
In my low moments of insecurity I occasionally consume content like that, & this video is such a wholesome uplifting reality check 😆💚 thanks for making fun of content that exploits us in times of low self-worth so we can be reminded that it's all silly nonsense anyway & redirect our thoughts to your shining example of be-yourself-ness!
@mmmchelle Yeah, I pretty much don't use any social media anymore besides youtube. It definitely makes a big difference. It's no cure-all, by any means, so I don't want anyone to think I'm implying it is ... but I'd definitely second the recommendation to anyone. I thought I'd never be able to detach from it but I've managed to maintain a decent best of both worlds balance with the minimal ways I use it now, & it's amazing how much less stress I experience as a result. And everyone I know who's also quit or cut back has had similar results.
Happy belated anniversary and toxic people hate seeing people enjoying anything. They feel the need to tear people down to make themselves feel better and get some negative attention for themselves. It would be great if those people would work on themselves to at least be "more attractive" mentally.
Never gonna happen, they are convinced they are righteous and if you get a particularly evil one's envy, your life is over
Humor is the most attractive quality in a person and you’ve got it
I friggen love you Jaime. Seriously, you’ve helped make me a happier person, and spot boom mics in movies
This video is hilarious - people be crazy. Makin’ the internet an okay place one vid at a time girl!! Get it.
I’m glad you rise above the insane ‘universal attractiveness before all’ mindset and have the sense to know better. Any child being influenced by you growing up will have greater self-worth just by watching you. You’re such a lovely person, Jamie. ❤ My favorite people in the world are those who make everyone around them feel like they matter, which is exactly who you are.
I'm wracking my brain trying to think of a video where Jaime made fun of someone's looks, and I can't. 🤷
Love you, Jaime! And you and Nick looked BOSS at the Streamys. I need that jacket in my life.
2:25 - “well thank God it wurksss”
Not the Matt Perry dig 😭😭😭
I had to double check this too, so unfortunate haha
She wasn't wrong though so ya know. Love her even more.
@@rockcriedout7679lmaoooo unfortunate indeed but I agree I love her 😂😂
Thankfully I don't care what other people say and decided being single is better for my sanity.
Also grateful that I'm not on Tiktok.
Thank you for your honesty and sarcasm. I love your content.
I can’t stand abusive advice being touted as “toxic”. It’s not toxic, it’s abusive. If anyone should be creating relationship advice, it’s you Jaime considering you are the only one happily married. I’m attracted to my spouse because he loves me. Honestly, his “flaws” are attractive to me, because I feel special that I get to see those things from him because he doesn’t have to hide anything from me. Once, he went to door dash Arby’s and literally teared up that he couldn’t order the French dip online. That’s my guy!
I'm so incredibly sorry for all the horrible things people have said to you. I know my opinion doesn't matter but I think you're a wonderfully wholesomely beautiful human and I wish I could throat punch all the haters
I’m only a minute in and these people fukn lying. “I know you fukn lying!”. Yall look good, period 🤩💯👏🏼
This is the BEST !!! You are absolutely beautiful. People just hating because you're happy and look happily married. You guys are a whole vibe though. You're wonderful. Thanks for always cheering me up when I need it most!! You're content is so wonderful it's like a random treat I get very excited about when I get a notification.
Same here
Straight up!!!
The voice you used to read those comments had me dying! 😂😂😂What a way to brush off the meanness of a strangers words! I need to do that myself. 😄😄
I don’t understand why people feel like they need to comment on your body unprovoked.
"Be emotionally abusive, GOT IT" LMAO. This is great
You are both gorgeous PERIOD.
Why can’t people just leave it at that? Why do people have to throw in offensive Shit and ruin it?
You two are amazing and never change for anyone else
You have no idea how beautifully unique you are in the cesspool of media we wade through every day. I appreciate your vibe and really love that you don’t use swear words all through your posts. I would’ve been happy for my children to follow you online when they were little. Did I mention you’re beautiful :)
Ok... "I might just stick with the beige teeth"!! 🤣😂🤣😂 I literally almost chocked on my Christmas colored MMs. I love the calm-humor you give!! Im always in the mood to watch one of your videos ❤
From my personal experiences, the “advice” to refrain from any kind of power move could NOT be more wrong. I’m a singer/performer, my stage persona is very loud, in your face, physical, energetic, I regularly throw water at people, knock over speakers etc. and MEN. LOVE. IT. Until they learn I am a multidimensional human being with feelings. Never works out in my favor in the end, but the power pulls them in.
You’re my kind of gal, Jaime. You and Nick are one of those rare, beautiful, hilarious couples that real people aspire to be. Don’t you ever change ❤️
I love the comment when she said, "All I want is to be attractive to strangers on the internet".
The way you read the negative comments sounded just like lumpy space princess lol! Perfection
Happy anniversary!! Thank you for being you!! I leave ratings on IMDB, waiting for the day you read my rating 😂 thank you for always making me feel happy.
ARE YOU KIDDING ME?!!!!! Jaime, you are the whole package! You are beautiful, funny, kind, smart.... THE WHOLE PACKAGE!
Why does so much depend on what you look like anyway?!
The queen energy in that intro, I am shooketh your majesty
Sometimes I’m sad that I’m old but this “advice” like this makes me glad I’m old.
This was hilarious 😂
The vanity seeping thru those tik toks was disgusting
12 year anniversary! You should be giving these folks tips! They still haven't even found the one and are giving advice to others!
“All I really want is to be attractive to strangers on the internet.” 😂 You are my soulmate, Jamie French ❤
First of all, I don’t think you need validation from your viewers, but I personally think you’re gorgeous. You have the best personality and literally the best make up skills and you look pretty with and without make up. Goals. Second of all why would anyone go onto a social media platform and just call someone an unattractive person? It’s so rude. And what kind of life would it be if we just obsessed about how we looked all the time for people we have never met and will not have any significance to us? I think you hit the nail on the head when you talked about that. I agree with you. I love your videos. Keep it up. You are awesome and gorgeous and funny.
Happy anniversary 🎇❤️
Yes, happy anniversary you guys!
Thanks flappy
Girl you literally had me a belly laughing at this one!!!! You're the best Jamie 😽
I also want to say, as someone who used to find the need to comment on how people look (negatively or positively) it was bc I was insanely insecure and wanted others to care as much about their weight/teeth/eyebrows and all those details like I did. I also had a really shitty life (horrible addiction) and was hurting a lot....and I wanted other to hurt. I thought maybe by them hurting, and attention being taken away from me in that moment that I'd feel better. I liked that it pissed people off.
So yeah basically you're right and anyone who does these things I can almost guarantee they're just a human in a lot of pain taking it out on you
1) Apparently the way to be beautiful is to put on 10 layers of blush?
2) This is a guide on how insecure people find other insecure people.
3) You're wonderful - you don't deserve any of that crap people said and I apologize on behalf of viewers everywhere.
As someone with a daughter who will someday use the internet without the supervision of myself or my husband, thank you for this.
Jaime, I'm sorry you have to deal with so many criticisms. People are trash! Not that it matters what a stranger on the internet thinks, but you are BEAUTIFUL and your sense of humor, creativity, and talent make you even more STUNNING!! So grateful that you continue to create amazing and hilarious content, despite jerks chiming in on your appearance (they're wrong, btw). And you and Nick are so lovely together. If I were to ever attempt marriage again, I would want the kind of relationship ya'll have. Keep shining!!
What she said 👆
I think you're amazingly beautiful and you are sooo funny... like the whole package. I've had people say negative things about me for so long and I've come to realize there's soooo many toxic people out there that had to say hurtful things about others because it makes themselves feel better because their self esteem is so low. People that are mean and callous are below you and don't deserve any reaction from you. You go girl!
You are my only gateway into tiktok and it's terrifying 😂 these poor kids. We had terrible advice in magazines but...no, that was also terrifying but at least there were editors?!
Him: I think it's just so hot when girls are really sleepy
Me: So slowly drifting out of consciousness. . .?
Yeah, go to sleep...goo tooo sleeeeep....💤 . And now the violation begins.........that dude was super cringe