10 Techniques To Calm Down Kids
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- čas přidán 16. 07. 2024
- Do you struggle with getting your children to calm down? This is a challenge all parents face but can easily be overcome with the right strategies! In this video, I'll share 10 techniques to calm down kids in no time!
Watch and Enjoy!
Nicholeen Peck
Teaching Self-Government
Key Moments in this Episode
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00:00 Intro & Summary
01:34 Benefits Of Self-Government
03:51 How To Set Up A Calming Environment
05:37 Importance Of Following Instructions
07:42 How To Do Effective Corrections
09:46 How To Calm Down Kids
14:40 Get The Calm Parenting Toolkit
What To Watch Next
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How To Teach A Toddler To Calm Down
• How To Teach A Toddler...
Resources
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Get our Calm Parenting Toolkit here:
teachselfgov.com/toolkit
Learn more about us here:
teachingselfgovernment.com/about
Check out our upcoming events here:
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About Nicholeen Peck
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Despite your best efforts at raising children, is your family dysfunctional? Do your children set the rules and have control of your home instead of you? Are you looking for parenting skills that will help you create a united, happy family?
Then meet Nicholeen Peck, one of the world’s most effective parenting experts. Whether you want to fix child behavioral issues, create more unity in the home, or simply strengthen your family relationships, her proven system - Teaching Self-Government - can help you turn chaos into calm.
"People are starving for help to save their families," says Nicholeen.
Since 1999, her seminars, workshops, one-on-one training sessions, parenting videos and books have helped thousands of families worldwide regain peace, be happy and maintain unity in their home. The secret? Learning how to use effective family systems based on parenting that’s deliberate and pro-active (instead of reactive). It all starts with the principles of self-government. If you’re a family of faith, you’ll especially love how your faith and values can be woven into her parenting system.
In 2009, Nicholeen and her husband starred in the BBC reality TV show, “The World’s Strictest Parents” (watch here: bit.do/StrictestParents). She became an overnight sensation by turning around two out-of-control teenagers from England after just one week - without shouting, threats or manipulation. Her amazing success comes from the positive parenting techniques of using calmness, effective communication and principles of self-government.
Nicholeen Peck’s Accomplishments
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* Author of “Parenting: A House United,” “Popular Parenting Methods: Are They Really Working?,” “Roles: The Secret to Family, Business, and Social Success” and many other books and magazine articles.
* President of The Worldwide Organization for Women (WOW).
* Nicholeen regularly speaks at the United Nations and other congresses around the world as an advocate for strengthening families and motherhood.
* In 2009 her family was featured on the BBC reality show, “The World’s Strictest Parents.
* Trained as a foster parent for Utah Youth Village.
* Has parented many troubled foster children.
* Successfully raised (and raising) four children of her own.
Testimonials
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“Her loving parenting techniques work with ALL children.”
Kristi, www.thankfulme.blogspot.com
“Thank you for your insights and solutions. They have helped my family so much.”
Michelle
“My husband and I have started implementing some of your techniques, and our house has been so different!”
Julianne
“I feel that my children respect me more. I will be eternally grateful for what I have learned from Nicholeen Peck.”
Michelle Baker
“If you want to forge the strongest family bonds possible, to repair damaged relationships, and redeem a child that seems completely lost, then this program IS for you.”
Sandra
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0:36 hi Nikki! It’s so hard to teach my kids because I have to teach my husband as well! He’s ego is so over his head! He’s telling me “you do what you think is best, I do my own thing” I’m crying now, this is so hard! Maybe we need a therapist!!
Hello! Therapy could be a solution, but it sounds like you both have different visions for your family. Creating a united family vision helps get both of you on the same page since you are both working towards the same goal. That would be a great first step. If you'd like to go deeper into family vision and other skills and principles I teach, you could look into my online TSG Parenting Course. Here's the link, if you're interested: teachingselfgovernment.com/tsg-parenting-course/
I hope this helps!
The pre-teaching has changed a daily power struggle I was having with my 6YO. Thank you So much!
I'm so glad! Pre-teaching is super important to success and skills training.
Thank you. This is SO GREAT!!!! ❤️👍❤️👍
You are so welcome!
I am going to do this
Yes! I'm so excited for you!
😊Amazing information! I just found you today and have subscribed. I hear a lot of skills and techniques but I wanted to know do you also teach on emotions and the root behind the reason why the child is displaying a certain behavior?
Yes I do! I have a whole class on it call "The Value and Mastery of Emotions" and talk about it often in my Support Group and my in-person trainings. Here are a few links to help you out:
teachingselfgovernment.com/parenting-mastery/
teachingselfgovernment.com/the-value-and-mastery-of-emotions/
teachingselfgovernment.com/store/support-group/
I hope this helps!
How help a teenage with Extreme physical aggressive
That is a great question! The full response to your question is too long to type up here, but I'd love to learn more about your situation and have the opportunity to answer your question on one of my weekly Support Group calls that happen Wednesday mornings at 8am MST. That way, other people that have similar questions and concerns to yours can hear the answer too!
If you’re interested in talking with me more about it, check out the link for more information:
teachingselfgovernment.com/store/support-group/
I hope this helps!
7:06 Hi Nicholeen, how would you proceed with a 4 (almost 5) year old who is spiraling out of control and you've given them a calming instruction such as "I need you to take 3 deep breaths" and the child has begun to spiral further from the instruction and says "I can't take a deep breath" or "I don't know how" and then starts pretending to hyperventilate? We've calmly modeled and we pre-teach deep breathing for her and this feels like a manipulation tactic in the moment but I feel like everything we've tried just makes it worse when it comes to giving her that instruction. She will say "help me take a deep breath" and if I try that then she says "I can't hear you" and then everything intensifies and then she's throwing herself onto the floor and completely out of control. Help 😅
Great question! The first thing to tell you is to not engage in anything they say when they are out of control and emotional like that. I have a couple of phrases I alternate through while they are on the calm down spot: "It seems like you want to tell me something. I want to know what that is, but we have to choose to be calm first, then we can talk." "We can't talk about anything until you're calm." "Let's take a deep breath (then model it/do it with them in the moment)." I don't ever respond to the things they're saying to me if I can clearly tell they aren't calm. I do, however, take note of what they're saying so that we can talk about it when they ARE calm. That way, they know they were heard, but needed to get calm first.
Here are a couple of my videos that go a bit more in-depth on the topic:
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I hope that helps!
What I’m struggling with is it all seems like a lot at once…. I have little so I feel like I loose them because I’m saying so much. Is there a way u can do a video of more step by step introduction to this process like you would teach a 4-5 yr old. I have all ur books and the kids books but it’s just a lot and calming down and following instructions is the big issue with my oldest… we have been working on this for over a year but I feel like we are still loosing him with all the steps and words… I would really love a more step by step video geared towards talking with younger kids❤️
I don't know if I'll get to doing a video about it, but the faster way to get an answer would be to submit this discussion to my weekly Support Group calls. Here's a link with more information about it, if you're interested: teachingselfgovernment.com/store/support-group/
I hope this helps!
@@TeachingSelfGovernment i also have a question about the workbooks for family meeting/couples meeting/ mentorship ect. I’m looking to by them but i’m not sure exactly whats in them. We r a non-Religious family and am wondering if religious goals are a big section to the workbooks or if its something thats not a big part of it or if u have a secular version. With my oldest hitting 5 i think family meetings sound beautiful to bring to out family. My husband and i both grew up with very different and unhealthy families so we are looking for some healthy structures to guide our family. Also thanks for responding to so many of our questions❤️
@@jenniferrush8231 I got the audio book of Raising a Family United and it helped a lot! There’s a lot in there on the meetings.
She’s teaching a research-based system that entities use to work with trauma kids, etc., so it applies to everyone and the audio book is not overly focused on religion, it’s for everyone!
Wont the extra chores make them hate chores in general?
How to help a teenage with bipolar disorder
Try cutting out gluten and dairy from their diet. Focus on vegetables, beans, and lean proteins
That is a great question! The full response to your question is too long to type up here, but I'd love to learn more about your situation and have the opportunity to answer your question on one of my weekly Support Group calls that happen Wednesday mornings at 8am MST. That way, other people that have similar questions and concerns to yours can hear the answer too!
If you’re interested in talking with me more about it, check out the link for more information:
teachingselfgovernment.com/store/support-group/
I hope this helps!
Hi Nicholeen, I have 16 years old son I don’t know how can deal with him can you help me please?
Hi Akram! I have lots of videos that focus on teenagers and handling their behaviors. Here are some links to a few of them:
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Hopefully these help you!
I like the fact that you took time out and pointed out the videos to refer to rather than mentioning there are some pls go and watch.. This really to me shows you are honestly putting in effort and not just holding on all just for your paid classes. Really thank you.
How a teenage with learning disability
That is a great question! The full response to your question is too long to type up here, but I'd love to learn more about your situation and have the opportunity to answer your question on one of my weekly Support Group calls that happen Wednesday mornings at 8am MST. That way, other people that have similar questions and concerns to yours can hear the answer too!
If you’re interested in talking with me more about it, check out the link for more information:
teachingselfgovernment.com/store/support-group/
I hope this helps!