Watch This If You've Ever Had A Crush On Someone Else While In A Relationship
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- čas přidán 8. 04. 2018
- Kimberly Caldwell, Cari Champion, Amber Stevens West and Steve Harvey agree that crushes are hard to avoid, but there's also a line you can't cross.
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Attractive and crush are two different things
Huli 1234 say it again for the people in the back.
KEdGeUNLIMITED they miss understood what Kim was saying
Huli 1234 yes ! You're right finding someone attractive isn't the same as a full crush. A full crush is the potential for something else to happen
Huli 1234 Exactly!!! Being attracted to someone and having a crush on someone is different.
Huli 1234 cari tried to lump it together.
physical attraction is common, but an emotional connection is rare
Stop trying to sound smart.
@@FrostedTips233 stop putting other people down because you are insecure with yourself.
@@RGE_Music Nobody is insecure. I’m attacking you because you are trying to sound smart as if you know what you’re talking about, when you clearly don’t. Common sense
@@FrostedTips233 Sounds good man. This is not a battle worth fighting for me. Have a blessed weekend!
well if there's an emotional connection, that's way beyond crush. A crush can be as simple as thinking a girl at the gym is cute, even though you don't really know the person. The grass isn't always greener
If you’re in a relationship and you find interest in someone else, you need to realize that you’re going to find interest in many people throughout your life whether you’re single or in a relationship. You got to realize though that it’s not always greener on the other side. You may have someone great and you may have feelings for them still, but don’t waste your life hopping from one relationship to another thinking they’re the new “one”.
And this is coming from a kid with “Gaming” in his name right?
@@FrostedTips233 and this is coming from ultravegitogodkiller4742 right?
@@WolfvineGaming It’s coming from your father himself, aka me.
@@FrostedTips233 lmao so you changed your name
@@FrostedTips233he’s speaking the truth u hurt 😂
“having a crush” is beyond “finding someone attractive.” = 2 TOTALLY DIFFERRNT THINGS
Whaaaaaaaat
Amen!
@@gamblerino8983 nope! A crush is like an uncontrollable attraction, anyone can be attractive. Hell… I can even say I can accept when another men is attractive, but I can assure you I’ve never had o ever will have a crush with a man. So they are completely different things
I had a crush on someone who also had a crush on me while we were both in separate relationships and we never crossed the line. Two years after we got out of our relationships (different times) we finally ended up together.
@@sakthirajini6104 two years later they got out of relationship.
Yeah so both of you are scumbags then right? Pretty much
I have exactly the same problem and need help. I really don't know what to do. It's not like the other person is an option. We both don't want to waste our long term relationship. But I find it so hard to connect again with my current partner T.T
How is the relationship going?
@@candice446Good question. I wanna know know 👀😆
it all starts with an innocent crush innocent flirt and that the start of opening the door to cheating 😩
Abigail Goliath exactly
Why i stay single. It seems most women got an eye for other men anyway. I rather not deal with the constant emotional stress.
Abigail Goliath ct th b.5guy
Abigail Goliath Like a snowball rolling down a steep hill
You sound like you’ve done it before. Don’t make the same mistakes too much cus that is sorta the definition of insanity.
“A lot of men cheat because there are a lot of women willing to cheat “ - Steve Harvey 3:08
What about if the man doesn’t tell the other woman that he’s in a relationship already and lies to her
@@gdtgdt1779 What if the woman lies?
Max House ??????
Max House same thing?
@@gdtgdt1779 It all depends on whose ox is being gored.
Crushes are hard, especially in the workplace...it takes real self control to keep your mind right, man or woman.
Matthew 5: 28 But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.
Ok so they should gone cheat than ...lol
@@Mslovely42 So they shd get their acts together and stop cheating in their heads. Before doing sth even worse .
Truth.. Desire + Opportunity = many mistakes.
Well if I already committed the sin in my head I may as well.........
That’s true it’s just common sense. When your going todo something you think about it first.
If my lady found other me Attractive I wouldn’t care because it’s natural and I find other women attractive too. But if she fantasizes about that person and constantly thinks about that person that’s a problem. Especially if she sees that person on the daily.
Demetrius Davis right
Demetrius Davis If she does that then it’s a guarantee that she will cheat. 100%. I have been in a relationship like that before in my early teens years any then in my early college years. She will say things that she loves you and such but then fantasize about another guy that you know and that is not far from you, talk about him, talk about how some tv star looks just like him and worst when you’re showering together, she will some out for like 5 to 10 min out of nowhere in the shower! Like I will finish 10 to 15 min sooner just because she stood there zoning out. Oh, and that lady spend times telling me all men are cheater and I’m not exception (even thou I have never spelt with another girl during our time together).....
Of course she ended up cheating with the guy and of course I hated her guts for that and the relationship ended.
So yeah. Finding someone attractive is okay but once she gets into that zone where she fantasizes about him, there is almost 100% certainty that she will cheat if he actually tried and gave his 5% effort which is RIDICULOUS.
RASHTG it’s ok man, not all women are cheaters. I’ve been with my gf for 6-7 years.
RASHTG girls can have a crush and not cheat
Demetrius Davis 👍🏽👍🏽 You definitely sound emotionally mature. Not being sarcastic.
You cannot stop anyone from cheating, point blank. No matter what you do...
Of course we can say that about ourselves but that doesn't mean your partner will be loyal... worst case situation obviously
Your partners action can cause cheating and prevent cheating most the time. There are situations where someone has an issue or they are not serious about the relationship.
Chiara - Culture With Coco yes you can all you have to do is be willing to do all they ask for.. most men cheat because they dont get what they want however there are others out there that will...
I get what you're trying to say but seriously, a relationship is a two way street. I don't see too many ladies in this day and age jumping through hoops to satisfy their man in every way he wants but I would also like to know what the man is doing to satisfy all my needs. I really dislike how this topic is put onto women. Every relationship is different so there is no such thing as the answer to this question.
I just always ask myself in what equation does emotionally or physically cheating better the relationship or yourself as a person (Male or Female). Maybe some people just want out or to be caught, or just like the thrill of the hunt. What I always find sad is that a lot of women would take a man back after cheating.I am not trying to be insensitive since I do know that people make their mistakes and sometimes it is worth fighting for the relationship instead of throwing it away. I just don't get how you can ever be 100% secure in your relationship at whatever stage it is if you know this information.
But really, how many men would open their arms to you if you cheated on them. I can promise you they will be running for the hills and never looking back.
Chiara - Culture With Coco you are right. That's the natural and biological difference between men and women. Don't listen to the feminism narrative who tend to put men and women on the same piedestal.
A crush is infatuation. People mistake infatuation for love all the time. I don’t think you should find yourself infatuated with someone else if you claim you are in a committed relationship. It doesn’t make sense. How committed are you really then? Finding someone else attractive or cute is completely different than finding yourself crushing on that person. A crush involves feelings. People tend to act on those feelings. So no I think it is wrong to have a crush on someone else while you are in a committed relationship. Nothing wrong with thinking someone other than your significant other is cute or hot, but when you start dreaming and picturing yourself with that person which most people do with their crushes trouble is a brewing.
YES, YESSSS, Thank you!
Shalana Thomas well said
Yes the minute you start picturing yourself in the relationship with someone else if I find out that's the Minute I'll be gone.
Actually fantasizing about sleeping with someone is NOT the same as crushing on them
Well said and Agreed!!!
People are human beings
- Steve Harvey 2018
Mandy X'O-twod 😂😂😭
HAaaaaaaaa!!!!!
Amanda CLBN So wise
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Lol
Having a crush and acting on a crush are two different things
I agree totally...I definitely have a crush on Ms Champion but would never act on it as she is in a relationship.
EXACTLY
Exactly, you can also have a crush with someone you work with. You just don’t act on it. Champion was saying it was bad to have a crush with done at the office. It’s not along as you don’t act on it. You could be working at the same office as champion and you think I want have a crush.
exactly...u can have a crush on someone and NEVER act on it because your in a committed relationship.
Curlen M exactly. I don’t see how I can control who I crush on. If I do nothing about it, then we good. Sometimes it’s a past crush and sometimes it’s a new crush. But can’t nobody control that.
Finding someone attractive and having a crush is two different things, totally.
Ehhhh both are pretty bad Lmao
The first lady had it right. Control your self. There is a difference between having a crush on someone and being attracted to someone. The last two did not answer the question correctly. They tried to make it seem like it was okay.
I’m a professional who has dealt with situations like this for many years. It certainly is possible to recognize that someone is attractive in an appropriate way. But call it a crush, infatuation, or whatever you will, I will state emphatically that it will not happen in a truly committed relationship where all is as it should be. It’s unthinkable. A person may be in serious debt, but if they’re a decent person, they can drive by a bank and not even consider robbing that bank. If you or your partner is infatuated with someone, I advise you to get on it and deal with it now. I’ve learned in my counseling that infatuation leads to emotional affairs, and emotional affairs lead to a bedroom.🤔
No it is NOT ok to have a crush on someone else while you’re in a relationship.
La Original let’s talk more about this on snap chat
KayR29 😂
La Original 60% of marriages have infidelity. Alot of crushing is going on
Totally agree with you 👍🏾👍🏽👍🏻👍🏿
Thats why i am fighting
For me I feel like if you have a crush on anyone while you have a partner or in a relationship then your partner doesn’t make you feel whole or your not in love. Which is nobody’s fault in the relationship that’s totally normal , it’s just that it’s not going to work if you don’t have a crush on your partner. Because if you have a crush on your partner you wouldn’t even see/look at anyone else.
Very wrong. You can be perfectly happy and madly in love and still have strong sexual feelings (crush) for someone else. Most humans are capable of having erotic feelings for more than 1 person, monogamy doesn't come naturally for most of us.
People are complicated and they can have crushes and be attracted to more than 1 person yk
@@ashley_brown6106 REALLY? “SEXUAL FEELINGS AND CRUSH ON SOMEBODY ELSE” ohh my goodness… now this is just going overboard. DUDE IF WHAT YOU’RE SAYING IS THE CASE YOU MIGHT AS WELL START AN OPEN RELATIONSHIP BECAUSE WTF 😂😂😂 this isn’t love bro this pure dishonor and disrespect! I hope whoever wishes to have a lovable/loyal and affectionate relationship with someone never has to go through that circus mess. Should be ashamed of yourself. Seriously you have to be trolling please tell me you are 🤦♂️
This!!
I love my man so much that If he finds another spouse who is better for him I'm just happy. I will grieve of course if that happens, but life is forever chanching and we are humans after all. It's a fact that we have many other suitable souls for us. This attitude takes of pressure and obsession. We could be just really good friends, but we are lovers too. With my ex it was sick, toxic and obsessive. Soon is our 10th anniversary ❤️
I feel like steve loves theses panels because he learns more about women and its fasinating for him 😊
Mieka Alexandria That's so True, when he first started the Panels he was writing it all down
Free info for his next book probably..
Is that a bad thing?
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 Speak on it Uncle Steve. All men do NOT cheat. That is truly a misconception.
Marcus O Exactly. 🙌🏾
Beauty Folse' ☺😁🙆, thanks for the kind reply
Beauty Folse' listen seriously .....nobody truly believes that ALL MEN CHEAT
That term is just said without the”ALL”. Like most statements
And actually most men say that to women
Do u really think if women believed that we would be so willing to give up our hearts so quickly
Marcus O honey there a Dif btwn being adopted n being a cheater
Jae Jae Actually it depends on who you address. There are a lot of ppl (men and women ) who truly believe that All men cheat. Yes I have personally seen many a women give their heart to men with them knowing that those men were no good. I have listened to men tell their children that All men cheat. Fortunately for me I was raised to know other wise. My first husband was the same way, he was taught by his father these terrible misconception. When he tried it with me I was out. I knew better and how ridiculous that statement is truly. I have personally listened to women try to comfort their friends after there husbands or boyfriends have cheated. Saying that All men cheat, it’s just about “ trying to understand men, their needs and being there for them.” That why I made the comment that no All men do Not cheat.
Its best to stay single. Dont gotta worry about anybody cheating on you or finding attraction in someone else👌✌.
thomas leo True in that aspect
Exactly
Thanks
Yeah, die alone and never experience love, what a great advice🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@ashley_brown6106 I’m being honest lol I’ve been alone my whole life so dying alone is not something that worries me.
I'm with the white woman on this one.
da biz KIMBERLY
da biz same!!
😂
Idk. I think we have become conditioned to believe we have options as it relates to marriage. Options while married is not the way ppl should go into marriage.
Exactly 👌
Somebody needs to get that point across to the family court judges.
This is why I will never ever be in a relationship
Love, Loyalty/Support, and the cookie! Yep yep
What does the cookie mean?
Naw if a man wants to cheat he will cheat. Even if he is give all those three things. Cross your fingers and pray you just don’t run into a cheater
There's attraction, and then there's a crush. To me a crush, is extended attraction based on interaction with someone.
Whatever dude.
Cari said "Ooh, Talk about it Today" lmao!!! 3:10
By these comments im convinced a lot of yall don't know the difference between a crush and finding someone attractive
What’s the difference. I’m still confused
@@powerfullgoddess5797 Yeah so a crush is somebody whom you want to physically be with and somebody you are into. But finding somebody attractive is apparently an admitment, an admiration basically, but of course I’m against both having a crush and finding somebody attractive other than your partner in a relationship
@@FrostedTips233 are you a guy or girl. Usually guys are ok with having crush in a relationship. I just wonder if there’s any guys who admit that’s it’s wrong to have crush while admitting they are committed to their partner😆. I don’t know what kinda commitment is that though.
@@powerfullgoddess5797 Yeah so I’m a guy. And I get what you’re saying, it’s pretty stupid.
@@FrostedTips233 wow that’s cool to know that guys like you exist, I thought all guys are alike. Why couldn’t I meet guys like you before😤
No sorry that’s a no for me when ur in a relationship u absolutely cannot be crushing on someone else that’s ridiculous how it can be okay in any way :s
Of course that’s not ok and I agree with you. What about finding somebody attractive, what about being attracted to them and thinking they’re cute. Im sure that can be applied to the same apartment, don’t you think?
Finding someone attractive versus being attracted to them are two different things. Just because someone is good looking doesn’t automatically mean your into them which is why it’s different. It’s how you react and how you think about someone. If your significant other thinks about that person sexually or in anyway that’s not okay. Some people don’t mind in a relationship, and that’s fine but others aren’t okay with it, and that’s also fine. Find someone who matches your energy. Not every single piece of advice will work for every relationship. But as someone who isn’t ATTRACTED to others while in a relationship, this video is good advice because i’m tired of being told to accept less. Or that i’m being “toxic” just because i want my partner to be loyal in my OWN relationship. It’s comforting for people to finally say that some people’s nature is loyalty and it’s okay to accept the fact it is uncomfortable to date others who might have a different idea for “loyal”.
Mm..
You're
Having a crush is perfectly okay. Never act on it and don't cross the line. You must respect the committed relationship you are in
Loyalty is absent here. Every love or affection towards someone begins in the heart. Then the mind justifies what the heart chooses. If you're in a committed relationship and your heart is desiring anyone else aside from the person you're in a relationship with, you're not loyal. It also says you lack boundaries which means you lack maturity and respect. That space should be reserved for one person and one person only. If I'm with you and you have a crush on someone else, I'm not the one for you and you're not the one for me. We're done. I'm moving forward and never looking back.
@@zacqueeentertainment7336 loyalty is about actions, not feelings or thougths
@@zacqueeentertainment7336 what are you 16 or something?🤣🤣 If you think you'll ever find someone who will never get a crush on someone else at some point or another, you're delusional. 99.9% of people get crushes even when they're madly in love with their partner. This is wayyyy more common than you think. It's not immature, it's just human nature. You seem to be the immature one for not realising what real loyalty is about.
@@ashley_brown6106 it's you who sounds 16 years old. Because when you're in love, there is no room for anyone else. Grow up.
@@ashley_brown6106 before you cheat with your actions, you cheat in your heart. Then your actions and mind co-sign what was done in the heart and they happen. You don’t just entertain the thought of cheating and not do it because eventually, you will. It’s best to cut it off mentally so it never happens physically.
I think it’s normal to have a crush on someone even if you’re in a relationship with someone else. After all, you’re just human and it’s natural to admire something or someone.
Well you don't know the difference between attractive and crush, 2 different things
I think being attracted (for two seconds) is fine, but it should stop there
Attraction and admiration is different. You can be intrigued and admire someone like a crush but lusting after them is different. You still can show respect for your partner by drawing mental boundaries not fantasizing and physical by not touching commenting on their appearance or excessively talking to the person when your partners not around.
You’re definitely not a “True Love Official” if you think that way.
🌸 if you are truly in love, then your heart isn’t open to anyone else 💕💗💖✨
It’s impossible to have a crush when you only have your heart and eyes on that special someone
My eyes and heart doesn’t notice or roam on another man, I’m loyal to my love only
Sadly if you find that you are, then you are not truly in love and should re-evaluate what you want in life
I don’t think you were truly ready to enter into a committed relationship if you can get easily distracted by just looking at another person. Especially when finding someone looks attractive and suddenly having a crush? That’s not normal in a loving relationship
That’s the beginnings of an affair right there 😳
You can have a crush and find other people attractive. That happens and is normal. I think that you shouldn’t act on your feelings for that crush or don’t act on your attraction for that person, because that’s definitely a problem and lacks respect for the relationship you’re in.
Not everyone has had a true relationship or like Steve says, "Lacking in the relationship". So there is something lacking and that crush has it!
This doesn't apply to people that have already had experience in that department. Or have dated for years and are ready.
So you can have a crush on somebody and find them attractive while you are with somebody.. yeahh, not so much “Peace” involved in this
only here for cari 😍😍
Having a crush and finding someone attractive are two different things
Webster's Dictionary defines a Crush as *a brief but intense infatuation for someone, especially someone unattainable or inappropriate.* I think there is nothing wrong with having a crush, married or not. The key is just as Steve said, if you act on it....that is where it is a deal breaker. I don't have a problem with a guy that looks at others, (trust me I will look at others) but once he starts flirting....It's a wrap.
Flirting can be harmless
I agree.
How long is brief 😂💔?
Steve said it there so many men cheat because so many women will cheat too
@@AttonBrown hell no, flirting is cheating if you dont think so you are an idiot
"If a man lust for another woman, he has already committed adultery." The thoughts are as bad as the action, it shows your not fully committed to your partner.
Benjamin From The Tribe of Judah oh well
So if I have murdered someone in my mind, I have actually murdered them in real life. Great logic. 👌
Amen
@@LordRA888 impregnable even🤣
Wrong. The thought is not as bad as the action. Tenptations will always exist. How you handle them is what matters. If the thoughts were as bad as the actions then should you go to jail for thinking about murdering someone?? This is ridiculous. You're not a murderer for thinking about murder (when you're super angry for example)
the bible says that's how you can get into trouble with just a look. Matt. 5:27,28
Proverbs says Do not lust in your heart after her beauty or let her captivate you with her eyes.
sean parker thats right!
K Yan amen thats right
Jason Stevens thats truth.. the WORD OF GOD IS TRUTH.. CARNALITY HAS BEEN POSITIONED AS NORMAL.... lust of the flesh... lust of the eyes... and the pride of life.. this world is at its darkest.. i pray that true born again believers will be the salt and light in and through CHRIST JESUS.
sean parker very true we must flee all temptation and we must filter all of our thoughts and watch all of our actions. Personally I don't believe men and women can be close friends.... it says in the Bible guard your heart for it is the Wellspring of life. Flee all temptation.
See da attitude of dat white woman? Das why she married 😂😂
Facts
She’s not the only married one lol
I feel like they misunderstood Kim. And there is a difference between a having a crush on someone or just simply finding them attractive
It ain’t ok tf.One thing leads to another if you in a relationship u shouldn’t have no crush on anybody else
Kinyachta Toliver fr fr. It’s all that kardashian brainwashing. Unless you Mormon. You can crush on 4-5 women and wife em all up 😂
Damn Cari is hot Af
Yeah she's pretty bad
I believe we can find and do find other people outside of relationships attractive. This is a natural normal thing. Nothing is wrong with it. A crush is only a crush until one makes the decision to pursue a relationship outside of just having a crush. If anyone has a crush, be real, thete is something about that person that interest you, that you find appealing and given the opportunity would like to know even more about that person. A crush can lead to more. Caution lights should go off because stop should be next to avoid wrong doing. The green light could easily be accepted.
Fix your grammar Patricia.
Steve always nailed it and answer it good.
For me i think been contented with what you have is the ultimate because even if you leave your relationship for that your crush you will still later see someone else who is more cute than him, so you can decide to be contented with what you have have.
nah even having an IG crush can lead to ACTUAL cheating because the crush can turn into a strong lust that turns into a temptation to then act on it. It has happened to celebrities so don't think it doesn't happen to people who aren't. I think some people confuse having a healthy crush on a person vs . lust.
Yeah so Mystique, there’s no such thing as a “healthy crush” whilst in a relationship. That just shows dishonor, disloyalty and lack of appreciation and admiration to your partner.
Correct me if have read you wrong.
How about lower your gaze and dont give yourself the opportunity to go beyond finding someone cute/attractive/hot. When you're crushing on someone, you're entertaining the thought.
When you love and like your partner, no attractive person becomes a "crush". PERIOD
I agree. No matter how handsome the men around are or how well we get along it just doesnt happen for me unless I no longer am interested in my spouse, I notice it all the time, I always notice I can't like two people that way at the same time
I think sometimes you can just sense the compatibility you have with someone off their presence and that's how the crush develops and it happens in an instant. Crush at first sight. Like your chemical makeup just bonds well with theirs. And I think it's also out of our control. Only thing I will say at this point is to control yourself. Maybe tell them you're taken. Just don't act on it.
@@r011ing_thunder6 Yeah if that’s the case I’d just let her have him, because if we’re talking logistically. I practically don’t have her full interest. So she’s free to do whatever she wants. At that point she would just be forcing herself to remain in a relationship a side of her wants to leave for that person. I’ve never been a person of holding someone against their will yk.
Steve preaching today....
Some men will cheat no matter what you doOr don’t do for them
Chandra Williams don’t forget women cheat too not just men
Men or women can cheat it's part of our human nature we were born in original sin. If you're not in a relationship you may flirt knowingly or unknowingly. But once you find a relationship that you're committed to no more flirting. And never flirt with someone married unless you didn't know they were married then once you do stop
Guard your heart for in it is the Wellspring of Life. Flee all temptation.
Amen.
the same for women but when the women cheat they want the man to accept it cuz you should be alright with it that I cheatedand if you don't accept it then I'll go get his cookies or somebody else that don't know about me cheating
The big peice is being missed here..... Listen to what Steve said men need to have. Men gravitate to things that make us feel masculine. You take that away or fight that we look in a different direction. It's in the DNA
You're hilarious Steve! Hahaha!
We really gotta look!
At the end LMAO "little extra energy tuhhdae"
Crush is something different if you are in serious relationship because you don't know what will happen ...
attractive to someone in a serious relationship is like playing with fire...
It's just a matter of time before you give in and there you go you break a heart that was with you throughout your ups and downs...
Cari Champion looks amazing!! 😍
fashow peopletv That’s a long time ago.
K Swa yeah before she got old.
fashow peopletv you can’t make a statement like that and not tell the story behind the statement...
@fashow peopletv WE DONT BELIEVE YOU
A lot of people have a crush on Cari
*You should not want anyone else but them simple*
I’m in a 20 years relationship and yes I get the stare down look and even from attractive men, but do i act on it? No! Wonder why, because what I have is soooo much more than just an attractive man checking me out. BOOP 💁🏽♀️😁
I don’t think anybody needed to know that. I think you did that to salsify your ego.
Cari Champion😍
It’s fine to have a crush...just be an adult and don’t act on it.
You sound ridiculous
Alright let’s say we’re dating, we’re playing the hypothetical scenario game right now. We’re dating, going for a walk and I see this girl across the street. Now I have developed a crush for her. and in my head I’m just imagining kissing her all over the cheek and spanking her a** all day. It’s fine to have that in my mind? Just don’t “act on it”?? What. Yeah so you sound ridiculous clearly.
It's always gonna be people that you find more attractive then your mate. Relationship is about love , crush is just effectuation and temporarily lust
Lust n that's a sin
Yeah but wouldn’t you think your partner finding other dudes or can even apply to girls, I’m not lying it would be pride shattering and probably a little heart breaking to you for partner to admit you’re mid and there’s people even better looking than you. That’s just dishonor and disrespect
You can crush on someone but if there’s respect you will never cross that line.
Exactly
“ I’m not a player, I just crush a lot.”
When I hear the girls my head spin around and I am a girl, like I am trying to figure out their point, but damn when Steve talks, it gets straight inside my head
A crush is no big deal. Acting on that crush is what is not acceptable. Temptation is very powerful and if you play with fire, you will get burned. Don’t act on the crush and it will go away.
N21theboss 💯
Well. She can “act” on that crush once I leave her so she can freely make her move 👍
People are human beings....I felt that
Is that the captains daughter from 22 jump street?
Yes
G Weezy never heard that one before 😂
A CRUSH ON SOMEONE OTHER THEN WHOM YOU'RE COMMITTED TO IS ADMIRATION DIVIDED WHICH MEANS YOUR INVESTING ENERGY INTO ANOTHER FIELD. EVEN THOUGH THE TRANSFER IS MENTAL IT SHADOWS THE BEAUTY YOU HAVE BEFORE YOU. IN MOST CASES ENCOURAGE INFIDELITY.
How do you have a crush on someone you're with? It wouldn't be a crush then
They belong to the STREETS. Finding someone attractive is different than having a crush.
Steve sharp as always!!!
Crushes are fine, just don't show you are interested in a relationship...i had crushes who turned out to be good friends, that's it.
Exactly!
@@kayleemayhill4135 Smd
@Mark No actually a crush isn’t fine when you are in a relationship.
Exactly
@@FrostedTips233 It's ok when you know your limits and can control your thoughts and actions
The Me too movement has killed the crush,men are very cautious now of getting falsely accused
It's not a problem at all if the man is single and has good intentions. In fact, a good man is a man that supports women, Not use them.
Steve said it best!
One damn word……… Discipline 🤷🏾♂️
The sad part about this video is that they have a platform to say things like this bc they dont believe in something greater than their own understanding. There is never a time to be in a relationship with a crush period! Learning how to admire, love, and adore someone with respect and honor! This is why love has lost it's TRUE meaning and understanding! Learn to hear the person you love and fully invest without fear! Pray together and focus on truly desiring each other and you will never have a crush on anyone other than the one you pour into! Living out an intentional love and respect!
You have no idea what love truly is. Love is being loyal REGARDLESS of your feelings. Temptations will always exist. After all, there would be no virtue in staying faithful without the temptation of cheating
@@ashley_brown6106 did you really say I know nothing about love and that it is being loyal despite feelings someone has about another person while in a relationship? If that is the case I would love to hear your definition of love?
Dating yes, engaged or married no. If you’re not married or on the way to be, you’re free game. That’s the point in dating. Is to find what you want. If you’re crushing on someone else the person your with isn’t for you long term. That’s ok to move on. Not cheat, but end things. If your eyes wondering that much to the point you’re crushing on other people it’s a sign imo.
Great conversation
"people are human beings" - Steve Harvey
NO that’s the first step to leaving the relationship you’re in. If you have a crush. Just leave please.
You have no idea what loyalty and love mean. You can't avoid being tempted, but you can control your actions.
@@ashley_brown6106 No clearly you don’t know what you’re talking about, if you’re “tempted” to talk to someone else and you have a crush on them, clearly you are not that interested into the person you are already with and not satisfied enough. So yeah you are the one that doesn’t know what love and loyalty is or what they even stand for.
It’s not ok but we’re human so..
having a crush/finding someone attractive is more than okay, it is natural. The only thing wrong is if that person decides to ACT on their feelings.
Keyword: Feelings
Clearly you aren’t in a lovable relationship if you have “feelings” for somebody else rather than your own partner. So yeah Kayla that’s just dishonor, disloyalty, and disrespect.
This is dope. Can’t control your mind but u can control what u do and don’t do
People need to realize that there will NEVER ever be a perfect man/woman out there. You just have to find the one that’s worth all the downs and lows.
Those women are easily to cheat on their husbands. You can find somebody attractive without crushing on them. Foh
"LOve, Loyalty and support" 🌹💞
People dont have control over crushing someone but acting on it is something else. It doesnt mean you wanna cheat, you just did choose to have certain feelings for that particular person. Crushing= not in control. Acting on it= you in control
Its human nature that we are attracted to beautiful things n people. People will have more than one partners if they are allowed too. Shiiiet. Stop lying.
People do it even if they aren’t allowed to...to some a marriage license is the same as a restraining order...a piece of paper...whether they are binding or not
No, I don’t think it’s okay. I don’t even enter relationships if I’m not in love with someone, so other men don’t interest me. Do I notice handsome men and charismatic men, yes! But, I don’t have a desire to have attention while I’m in a serious relationship. My feelings are like a boring snack.
Love, Loyalty & Support and The Cookie.
Not only look, you look, smile and feels butterflies in the heart ❤️.
She said she had a crush on someone else and then she broke up with me. It’s not my fault, she was just messing with my heart.
People are human beings!!!! Really hahaha
Moe Mohamed yeah really. Lol
All.these people acting as if they are Perfect and born without this GOD GIVIN EMOTION. please
People are saying crush and attraction are different things. This is correct. But having a crush on someone means your attraction has developed the more you have got to know them, to the point that you now have stronger feelings about the person. This doesn't mean you have cheated. Cheating is acting upon feelings in spite of your relationship. You cannot control how you feel about a person, we have no control over feelings. What we do have control over is environment. Either you leave your relationship or you change your environment so that you're not getting distracted by this person, and can move on. The grey area that I think most people are thinking is cheating, is where you don't change your environment and allow yourself to stay in this middle land between lusting and being in a relationship. If you're in that grey area you probably aren't in the right relationship.
Steve is right. Having a crush on someone while u r married or in a relationship is normal. If u act on it, then its a big problem.
I have a feeling most of you dont know the difference between a crush and attraction, a crush is when you have feelings for someone and want to be with them. Attraction is just thinking they are hot.....different things.
@@Thomson07 calling another person “hot” while in a relationship is STILL WRONG IDIOT.
@@Thomson07 Like let’s say you’re the chick. I’m the guy in the relationship. I’m not too good looking and I’m kinda chubby. We’re walking around the park and you see this dude wearing a tanktop with muscles and a 6ix back right under that shirt and you call him hot. I’m obviously going to be insecure dude. It’s wrong regardless I’m tellin you
Most of y’all are not thinking realistic, there’s other beautiful people out here in the world. You’re bound to meet another person who you are attracted to on the outside and the inside. You just can’t act on those feelings, that’s about as real as it gets
This is so true.
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