Do You Feel American?: Immigrant Parents vs 1st Generation | Middle Ground
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Jubilee nah, Iâm good
America ( i said america not americans or American's ) is the freakin continent, haha
but I liked their opinions Obviously I will leave my like.
I would like a video of
mens VS women
Or
elders VS teenagers
Could you release....
Teens vs. Adults
in terms of educational standards or some type of controversial topic amongst teens and adults like juuling or weed could be a topic idk
@@curybabyvee yes, that's what I wanted to say, it's great idea
âtoo American to be Mexican and too Mexican to be Americanâ. -Selena
Hector Torres I feel that way about âtoo American to be Mexicanâ But mostly Bc I grew up not in a âSpanishâ household so I never felt like it was my culture to claim. So now I feel like I donât belong anymore.
" We gotta be more mexican than the mexicans and more american than the americans. Both at the same time. Nobody knows how tough it is to be a mexican American " XD love that movie
Hector Torres AsĂ me siento yo. El español no es mi primer idioma, entenderle a mi familia mexicana es muy difĂcil para mĂ, pero tambiĂ©n no me siento 100% americano... y mi madre es americana, y obviamente la quiero mucho, pero eso me pone sentir incluso menos mexicano. No sĂ© jaja
with mixed raced people are the same
@Miguel Hernandez you must have misread his comment because, judging by your comment you refer to Aztecs, you think that all native americans before 1492 in Mexico where bloodthirsty demon worshipers, yet acknowledged the Aztec had many enemies who where not human sacrificing slaveholders who willingly attacked them and revolted to oppose their brutality. Take your strawman argument elsewhere.
Please do kids born in different countries and brought as kids to the U.S. and kids born in the U.S.
I know whats gonna happen.
Yes!
This is such a great idea!
Oh my god yes please
YES!
They better hit me up for that then
Yo what Kendra said about African parents disregarding emotions if they have a roof over their head and food on the table is spot on stiiiill
Haitians can definitely relate to this!
As a kid from growing up in China, this is just reminiscent of my parentsâ style
Yup
Yup This big in Hispanic Latino culture as well
Child of Mexican immigrants, I can relate a lot. Despite this they did at least try to help in whatever way they could.
The entire video I wanted Romi to speak more, I can tell he has a lot of wisdom and I enjoyed hearing him speak
Trevon Adams Why didnât you like him at first lol
You can hear more from him in an episode called " Do All Asian American Parents Think The Same ? " , Also by jubilee . đ
@@mashiataheri4608 yeah, and I don't think he's that wise because of that episode... đ€·ââïž
Yes I ainât like how sis cut him off
@@emerald6434 Agreed. Romi admitted to using physical discipline. Major deal breaker for me.
20:58 "so, do you have a Palestinian culture, a Brazilian culture and an American culture?"
"Yes"
"What's that like?"
*i think it's beautiful*
Soraia is so precious omg
Ser parte de vĂĄrias etnias e descendente de cidadĂŁos de paĂses diferentes Ă© realmente, precioso e bonito.
Being part of various ethnic groups and descendants of citizens from different countries is indeed precious and beautiful.
I'm sorry if I misspoken something...I'm not fluent lol.
Casey Donnelly That part brought tears to my eyes. I came to the comments specifically to see if anyone else appreciated it as much as I did.
She has the most beautiful and contagious smile
@@customfashionazr carai jhow tem uma mina brasileira no video, QUE TOPPP
there is such a beautiful pureness and sensitive presence.
To the guy who doesnât want to speak Chinese because his dad spoke it while abusing him. Chinese belongs to you just as much as it belongs to him. Thatâs your power too. Not his alone.
This reminds me of that one scene of BNHA
Lorde Darius thatâs true, but please remember, he has a negative conation to it. Which actually is quite sad đ
Just like how the Chinese govt owns the Chinese people
@@Lucy.7570 that's exactly what I want thinking xD
@@Lucy.7570 same
âWhen my dad was 11 he was fighting in a war...When I was 11 I was watching Nickelodeonâ
Me :đł:0
I'm sorry, this is a year late but her dad most likely fought in the Biafran war or Nigerian Civil war and my dad was also alive during that time. This info is kinda useless but I felt like sharing,
@@kittymazing9487 yea also from Nigeria as well the Nigerian civil war is very similar to the american civil war
A Nigerian here too..Know abt the biafran war
@@kittymazing9487 it's not useless. I think people should no more about the war especially in UK since UK aided in the genocide of more than 2 million people
First gen Nigerian too. My dad and uncle were children at that time and I always wondered what it was like for them living amongst a war
African parents still unfortunately really don't get mental health, one of my saddest memories is when I had an anxiety attack before a final exam one day and was shouted at for overreacting and wasting time. They would joke to their friends about times I panicked at malls because it was too crowded. I love my parents but I wish there was a way for them to understand
The same way you have to understand your parents no?
@@NikkiDavis843 I'd like to think I do, my parents went through apartheid so we're always like talking about it and discovering why our family is the way it is. That's why i 'wish' I could make them understand but I know it'll be hard because they grew up going through a lot but weren't really allowed and able talk about how it affects them mentally
@@sinethemba6166 It is indeed hard.Our parents had to endure discrimination and having being treated as less than human in order to care for us.
I don't think it's that they don't understand. I think that mine are very capable to understand the idea if it.However I do not expect them to have much empathy or relate the to it as parents of other races do.This is because they had no choice but to cope and live with it.
My younger sister attempted suicide and my dad thought she was being dramatic sooo yea itâs a thing.
@@StellaBella488 wow that's sad.
âI donât feel necessarily Asian enough and I donât feel necessarily American enoughâ
i feel that a little too hard.
SAY IT LOUDERR
Same. I was adopted from South Korea and raised by white Americans so I definitely am not Asian enough, I just look like it.
Read Kiplings Jungle Book again. The book is about his childhood and how he didnât feel accepted by his parents country nor India where he lived.
It's like living in two world's. One side wants you to act like this, but you want to blend in with the real society. It's a burden on my shoulders, it comes with it's goods and it's bads.
I wish it was 2 countries for me. I spent my life so far in 4 countries, I'm about to move to my 5th đ it's difficult not having a home. I hate the question:"where are you from?"
Please do African Americans vs African immigrants
Zachary Meagor that would be awesome you african?
YES YES we need this
yesssss
YESSS
Yesse
I want to listen to Romi for hours, he's talking so calmly and carefully.
Are we going to ignore how hot he is?
Caspers Best Friend đwtf
Caspers Best Friend BRUH lmao đ
@@caspersbestfriend I was thinking that too lol
Dilf
Video suggestion âAP teachers take the AP test against their best students in their AP classâ
Ruby Ayala would love to see this.
+
ooh yes
You are suggesting a damned massacre
Lol or ap students vs college board membersđ€Łđ€Ł
Christine looked like she was gonna cry almost every time she talked about her past, and that broke my heart.
Itâs not really sadness just anxiety from speaking about deep things to people
@@creativesparks2164 I tend to do this too. i could be talking about armchairs and my voice gets all shaken just cuz I'm with strangers or in a group setting
Creative Sparks at 23:44 she broke down maybe thats the reason why because she didnât just have a shaky voice her face seemed like she was gonna cry too. I have a shaky voice but my face stays similar
yh, almost was gonna cry with her damn. bruh
@@creativesparks2164 I can relate, it seemed like she was hesitant to say a few things too
When Christine said that she wished her parents would have told her that they were proud of her I started to cry.
It made me appreciate all the love and support my parents have/continue to give me.
Iâm jealous of you. I wish my parents were like that.
438811 .H same bruh. My Indian parents donât really appreciate me and compare me to my sister and cousins.
I was about to cry. Me and Christine share the same cultural background, and I wish my parents would have told me that they were proud of me. All they care about is me getting a well paying job.
@@VerbalVantage They love you more
Miguel Hernandez i think you mean how empathetic
Imagine how fine Romi was in his prime
I see what you're talking about
LOL he's still got it!
funsizedaree I was bout to say this đđ
he's fine right now too
I was thinking the same thing like bro I'm not into older men but đ
The Brazilian lady looks so sad. I want to give her a hug.
Itâs called âsaudade.â
She is actually Palestinian and first generation brazillian
@@marwanmike1284 So she is Brazilian.
@@morenasilvaoficial Yes but Palestinian first
@@marwanmike1284 As a Brazilian I can say she is Brazilian even with palestinian parents. If you born in Brazil, you are brazilian. She smiles like a brazilian I recognize my people wherever they are.
you know dam well that when Christine started talking about the lack of vocal support from her parents, every single kid who was raised in a strict household started crying.
ADrunkenYoshi I was balling LMFAOOOO
Yep
Right in the feels....
dude the chills my god
mE
When Soraia said she thought being Palestinian-Brazilian-American was beautiful, you could see the pure joy in her eyes. My heart â€ïž
Iâm Hispanic but I feel like Fanny is from a very lucky household compared to the Hispanics that I know of :/
D/ Perez True đŻ
true she donât feel that Latina đ¶
"average hispanic" maybe that's because you relate it to being poor and having a wrecked family lol
Lara animeva well that is the usual status of minorities
@@dnight3037 mmm no... And she grew up in Venezuela so she wasn't a minority.
Teens vs boomers I need to see that right now
Daniel_R 372 y e s
So then that would be Gen Z vs Baby Boomers. Because millennials are not teenagers anymore.
Quinnton Thedens uh yeah...
Millenials would be better I think
Ok boomer
That girl in the red is having anxiety attacks...this is very serious for her. She did awesome
Good for you
I was about to say this. I know that feeling đ
How do you know?
@@quincy9908 I know the feeling, I noticed that it seemed like she was trying not to cry when she talked and I felt that rly hard lol
Absolutely and she is so BRAVE! The onset of those feelings/symptoms almost make you want to avoid socializing and shutdown. I am glad that she spoke and gave her point of view...that's very brave when you battle with that...
Christine sounded sad the entire video and her facial expressions emitted that feeling of sadness. I could really hear it in her voice.
Ikr ! đą
Nah itâs not that bad... i know how she feels itâs any time you talk about something deep u feel like u wanna cry.... I always have that problem Iâm not really sad itâs just Iâm speaking facts and idk what it is just canât hold it in
Creative Sparks yea ik, a lot of people do that but it doesnât mean sheâs not sad. She is emotional because of the topic and so ig a better term to use would be emotional. She was clearly very emotional throughout the video.
Sheâs right about mental health and the Chinese American community
psychedamike very true!
The woman from Venezuela is gorgeous đ I refuse to believe she's in her 40'sđ
She's so gorgeous.
I agree đŻ and I'm Jamaican
The second Christine said: âI am proud of them and sometimes we just need to hear it backâ, I felt that to the core of my being and the tears were running.
Same...same. it made me appreciative of my parents because they have told me on very rare occasions they are proud of me I believe, but for so long and even now I feel like they aren't because I'm always told to do more, to be better. But some childreb don't even get a little bit of acknowledgment and that can really affect a child's emotional development.
Anybody else notice her tik tok name " MuslimThicc" lmao
lol (timestamp?)
It has 2 meanings Muslim Slimthicc, not MuslimThicc
@@aaliyah4798 00:15
Imagine your parents coming to America to give you a better life and you become a tic toc star named Muslimthicc
u donât know who that is? sheâs rlly popular on tiktok
Soraia has the sweetest smile, it warms my heart.
YES! How her face lit up when she was asked about her being Palestinian-Brazilian-American. đ„ș
Her story itself amazes me, she herself is first generation Brazilian, and her parents were the immigrant parents, Now she is the immigrant parent, and her children first generation Americans.
yesss
Thatâs how us Brazilians are
Honestly, whenever she smiled I smiled :')
Why does Christine constantly look like sheâs on the verge of crying
(Edit) Wow a lot of likes
Maybe she's been through so much pain. đ€§
I was thinking that too..
IK ./ .( đ
i think because she is paying attention to the importance of this dialogue... and maybe vent. i would be emotional too.
I WAS GONNA SAY THAT
Born and raised in Sweden. Too Iraqi for Swedes, too Swedish for Iraqis. I've been mocked by both sides for this. I love both countries and feel proud to be Iraqi Arab by ethnicity, and Swedish by nationality. Isn't that enough?
old grandpa mos It never is for anyone else but it can be for you. đđŒ Iâm Jamaican, raised in America most of my life but I did get a chance to grow up there too abit. None the less, too Jamaican to be American, too American to be a Jamaican. Itâs the way of the First Generations.
old grandpa mos yeah but which of your folks is Iraq
Samma hÀr :/
Jag har ocksÄ liknande problem.
Samma hÀr lool
Romi is the most HIP immigrant Indian parent ive ever seen just from his style lmao
there are actually quite a lot of Indians like that. He reminds me of my dad and uncles.
Pandora damn well youâre lucky lmao. Well actually itâs different cause like heâs Americanized in that sense and a large portion of his life is here meanwhile my parents and family are 100% still havenât adapted to cultural norms, or the new ones
@@itsjugu what part of india are they from
Pandora western part like gujrat but itâs not my entire family theyâve adapted to American society but just not to the degree Romi has
@@itsjugu he doesnt seem westernized to me at all... like i said, im indian and the men in my family are exactly like this
Soraia seems like she has the purest soul. Such a sweet and genuine person.
@Dougie lol okay, crazy.
Brazilian people are generally very sweet and warm
Dougie or maybe you have trust issues đ
@Dougie You actually took the time to write all that. "Probably super lonely and using this opportunity to look as sweet and innocent as possible in order to attract a man from CZcams." ?? I think the one with issues is you mate.
@Dougie ur weird
I can understand him. Trauma associated with a language makes u reject it. I go through the same thing with creole
âSometimes Iâm disappointed in myself if I canât find the Chinese word, cause I feel like Iâm loosing my Chineseâ Thatâs how I feel most of the time
Sameđđ
me with spanish omg and i constantly stutter and stammer its so frustrating
Me too. It hurts so much when I can't communicate properly with my mom because spanish is the only language she knows. Especially since I used to translate for her when I was younger; I feel dumber now.
Soraia has my entire heart.
Same I literally feel her.
Toqa ŰȘÙÙÙÙÙ I like your name but I don't like your profile pic lol
@@AshG321M it's Jin from BTS đđand thanks!
Me too
She seems like a nice person
got no name sheâs my dadâs friends who comes over to my house a lot, sheâs definitely a kind person
As a kid of an immigrant - this is so relatable (the feels and thoughts)
Same
I feel like when they ACTUALLY start debating, Jubilee cuts it out. I want to hear arguments being made
Trust me, stuff gets dirty.
Can we, african kids, agree to act different with our kids and be more open with them? Please?
Nadine Mascarenhas you have my word. We will be DIFFERENT.
PREACH
I will, definitely.
Definitely đŻ
YES
â Itâs not me accepting America, itâs about America accepting ME.â
I loved that so much
And hopefully we'll never accept illegals
Mr Very noice
Iâve adapted to the American life and culture without losing my Spanish roots. America was built on immigrants from all over the world when it was discovered.
@Mr Very noice So there weren't people already here when Europeans showed up?
@David Mullis they should totally assimilate the german culture, the country shouldn't cater to the immigrant
You have to respect America and then America will respect you....
everyone is saying Christine looks sad the whole time. it might have just been nerves or anxiety which is common if you're speaking abt personal things in a setting like this. no need to assume she is sad about everything
afraidsari I know! God people need to back off I know Iâm the same way and I get sick of people asking if Iâm ok
@@grayonthewater are you ok? But no really, are you really ok?
Ionasku Alexander Yes of course she was at that moment, but to assume she was literally about to cry every time she spoke is a bit of a stretch
Yeah, also, some people just naturally have neutral facial expressions that make them come across as sad, angry or whatever, just look at 7:45 when she just listens to someone else talking but still looks as "sad" as before
@@grayonthewater you sound like you hate people. Maybe you're antisocial and don't know how to to talk to people.
This was hands down my favorite middle ground. I loved how it wasn't focused on a super controversial issue, and was more about listening to different people's experiences
The intergenerational trauma runs DEEEEEEEPP in every single one of these people, to say the least.
What do you mean by intergenerational trauma?
@@toddmaek5436 Trauma is toxic, dysregulating stress hormones released in stressful situations/environments. It happens inside you and shapes how you view and react to the world based on threats from past stressful situations.
Itâs intergenerational (meaning past down from generation to generation) because
1. Epigenetics and gene expression
2. What you donât heal and process through therapy, you inevitably pass down to your children.
Just look it up to get more information and then come back to the video to see exactly what I mean.
@@toddmaek5436 The trauma talked about includes:
Poverty, witnessing and participating in war as a child, escaping communist revolution (China and Venezuela, abuse, corporal punishment (is physical abuse), death of close family members (grandparents, aunts and uncles mentioned), parents fear that child will be bullied so they force assimilation, parents fear that child will lose culture/language so they force them to learn/speak language, recurrent yelling/screaming at children when mad (is verbal abuse/violence), mental health issues in parent especially in childhood if went undiagnosed and untreated (ie, depression), never talking about feelings or banning/punishing emotional expression, childhood mental health issues undiagnosed and rejected by caregivers, religious persecution and discrimination, racial discrimination, fear-based parenting, never feeling good enough for parents/caregiver,.......
The list goes on and on. All of these examples create dysregulating toxic stress, and it is more damaging if recurring or for extended periods of time. They affect the mind and body physically and emotionally. The affect the way a childâs brain develops and their psychological blueprint which all directly affect physical and mental health for a lifetime.
@@toddmaek5436 let me give you another example in addition to the ones above. My parents were racially abused. My mum had a knife held to her as a teen by racists because she was Indian. I never knew this. But growing up any time I did anything "not indian" e.g. wanting to go on a date, she would say "oh so you think youre one of them now". Because of that I didnt date until my mid 20s and lacked the social skills. Its stopped me assimilating and feeling part of my country. I feel like an 'other'. After I found this out about my mum/the knife it made sense - but it doesnt change the fact the trauma was passed down. Now I don't easily fit in even with people of my own background because this wasnt a shared trauma that everyone experienced. It sucks but it is what it is.
@@Vale-dh1tn Wow, you named ALL of themâŠ.
As a first gen, one of the hardest things is finding the balance between my country of origin and my country of birth. I am proud of both, but I canât help but envy those who are truly from my country of origin.
onion hey say yo same! But i feel like for me itâs not personally my fault because of it. I think itâs more our parents and the people around us that shame us for being âtoo Americanâ or âtoo another cultureâ and because of that I never learned a lot of my Brazilian traditions that my parents and even my siblings did (Iâm the only one in my family that was born here) but Iâve also not been able to adapt very well to the US
I agree! It was hard for me when growing up because I felt like I never really belonged anywhere. But I think its also a gift since we get to experience different cultures and teach those about our heritage. So I'm proud to be a first generation American!
I'm not sure I get what you mean by country of origin vs. country of birth... You mean where you were raised? Or do you mean where your parents were from? I'm a first gen as well, but I don't see origin and birth as being different
@@aperkins07 i think by country of birth they probably mean the country they were born ( & raised ) in, & country of origin as in the country their parents originally came from because that's how i see it, i'm also 1st gen btw
@Angelic Snow same here.
Everyone in my family aside from a few of my cousins and my siblings were born in Mexico. Sometimes I feel not Mexican enough.
when she said that african culture teaches children to fear theirs parents i shook bc its SO TRUE.
Carmen AND ITS SO SAD đ© itâs a complete fact that needs to change.
BIg if true man, African culture literally raises you to be afraid to ask your father for something, even if he doesn't beat you, but out of the fear of being yelled at in way that actually demeans you
PEARL SWIRL I donât think it should teaches you respect and to stay out of trouble then you grow up and become more friendly
Children shall not fear of their parents but Respect them. We are who we are because of them, and shall be gratefull for having themđ
Gatta Console definitely. Most African fathers that come to America get a huge culture shock.
âToo foreign for here, too foreign for home. Never enough for both.â
Something I highly relate too
Marco. When you said âIâm not Asian enough to be Asian and not American enough to be Americanâ - I felt that. I felt that really hard. But hereâs what I gotta say.
You donât need to fit in, darling. You need to shine brighter than the stars.
Iâm a Russian American, but people actually feel intimidated by that and want to impress me instead of me trying to impress them with my Americanness or Russianness. Iâm proud of who I am and Iâm not planning on hiding any of me. I advise you too. You see, having mixed cultures in you is so much more fun and interesting than just labeling yourself with one of them.
Itâs all to do with balance. Once you find your balance between the two cultures, youâll easily overcome the constant struggle.
i feel like iâm neither from here or there, but thatâs okay
Yessir
Truee
Samee
yeah
Maricarmen R. Wow, same
"It's not so much me accepting America..it's about America accepting me" as a first gen, I felt that
Duaa Ali honestly.. I feel as if when people think of immigrants they think of skin color or just non-European people. Personally, I cannot relate to that because I'm Romanian so European so... white. And I'm sorry that you have to feel that way, because ya know non-white first gen immigrant people are looked at differently than I would be. Sorry to make this about race and all, but I feel as if this was the only comment I've seen that would be a proper reply or discussion on. Just know that I accept you lovely :) â€ïžâ€ïž
@@sarathesimmersarathesimmer1300 This comment is so true! Btw where did you move to from Romania? America?
Yeah I feel for first generation people. But America doesn't accept anyone who is new. Period. They will always look at you as an outsider. Coming from an African American who hates American culture and raised my muslim children as muslim first and not American first who are totally disconnected from American culture.
Sarathesimmer Sarathesimmer Itâs weird cause in America all Eurpeans and even arabs can be seen as white but in Sweden Romanians are not seen as white
Style Diversity I know that a lot of people are like that, but not every American is like that. I will say Iâm sorry that in the past I used to be such a person and that that stuff happened to you. But America needs to learn people who come from other countries or who are different are just as much American citizens as we are. I am so sorry that all this garbage happened to you, but I support you.
Iâm a first gen and I genuinely feel proud of my parents. Theyâre so strong, determined, and hardworking. Iâm extremely grateful for that fact that my mom moved here and even left my biological dad because she wanted me to have a better life. She then met my step dad when I was a couple of months old and I can tell ya, they have done and keep doing a great job of parenting. They are amazing people in general, people who help America.
Same
I am Nigerian and Igbo. I can talk to my parents about mental health easily. My father would even tell me to not stress to much and prioritize my happinesses instead of other people.
Iâm so glad you have a relationship like that with your family! I wish I could experience the same! Take care from Rwanda đ·đŒ
@@MichellaneousMe we all had to learn together. It wasn't always like that. It is something that was needed in the family and we decided to make it happen. It was awkward at first. Now it's almost normal
@@lullaby508 đđŸđđŸđđŸđđŸđđŸđđŸđđŸkeep it up and pass it along
@@lullaby508 breaking those generational curses I see! Love that for you all!
What Marco said about other people always having an opinion on your cultural identity is so true. It's as if you have to be at either end of the spectrum and not anywhere in between.
Agreed. I remember watching Selena growing up and the father says something like, âWe gotta prove to the Mexicans how Mexican we are and we gotta prove to the Americans how American we are. We gotta be more Mexican than the Mexicans and more American than the Americans. Itâs exhausting!â It still rings true to me.
I am portuguese and i live in belgium. When i'm in belgium people identify me as a portuguese and when i'm in Portugal people identify me as a belgian. It's as if I didn't really belong anywhere...
Iâm Mexican but âlook white â always had people ask are you Mexican or white ? Half ? Isnât your last name *spanish name * oh you look white thatâs why ! Never really took offense tho but kinda put me on a fence on wether i stick with my hispanic roots or just assimilate into white America, I still havenât decided.
â@@Osomsauce You look white? K so do you have freckles and red hair? Are you 6'4 and blonde? Are you Italian? Russian? White doesn't exist lol Europe has the MOST DIVERSE gene pool of any continent including America and its been that way for over 1000 years.
Yes
Do first gen. Oldest kid vs. younger one and compare the way they were brought up my older sister experience is completely different than mine.
Janette yes please
facts, personal experience is my proof
Yes please!! Im the youngest of three. And we have age gaps. They're 32 and 28, I'm 21. This would be amazing.
yessss
I can relate to it...because the difference between me and my younger sister itâs like sky and earth.
when she said âYouâre speaking Chinglish!â đđđđ
She needs to get better friends cus yikesđ
I felt that when she said it. Iâm always speaking Spanglish đ
As a Russian-American, I would really appreciate seeing a video about Eastern European experiences! We do have white privilege, and especially in my community, many of us are white-collar, but at the same time, especially in today's political climate, it's difficult to see your country and people vilified. I feel like - and I would say this is true for all immigrant communities, it's just that I can only speak for my own - often the "positive" aspects of your culture and the struggles you go through are ignored, while the negative aspects are heightened and used as blanket statements.
Thatâs surprising. I know a couple people from Russia and their family is blue collor
I am a Polish-American, and while I don't think my people are vilified liked Russians, I would love to see an Eastern European video.
My hubby is Serbian. Heâs definitely vilified. Like in movies or tv shows the Serbs are always the bad guys. since art imitates life people genuinely believe those Hollywood projections. They make jokes. People are ignorant and think Siberia. They also think heâs Muslim and then the Islamic hate happens. Looking at him, he definitely gets white privilege until he opens his mouth, or is asked where heâs from. He actually had an FBI investigation, due to someone thinking he was Muslim. They just gave him free hats and shirts that say FBI. that was a bit extreme for me and Iâm a black woman. So I definitely get vilified.
I'm first generation so this is interesting
ABBY M i think i am as well but could u define it for me jsut in case Iâm wrong?
Janani Siva- The first generation to be living in America is first generation. If your parents are immigrants and you were born in America, you are first generation.
Janani Siva you immigrated to the ya from another country
Us*
ABBY M I know right?? Itâs like someone else understands
âJust the love and compassion of all culturesâ that was soooo sweet đđ
Do one about about estranged children and those who grew up with a close knit family. PLEASE!
!!!!
IT was a bit dismissive to tell him that "a billion persons in china" so he shouldn't feel that way. His intro to the language makes him associate w trauma...acknowledge that and create a space for him to unlearn it without being so mean/dismissive.
I also thought that. There was so many layers to what he said and she kinda dismissed
Completely dismissed
She spoke way too many times over other peoples experiences when it was not warranted. Her interjections were the only part of the video I really didn't enjoy.
Exactly, it was irrelevant and ignorant. It pains me to know people do this every day to people like him in these moments where instead of showing compassion, they add on to the neglect and abuse. Itâs not that hard to just be quiet and listen and not judge and not provide unsolicited advice.
When the girl in red, Christine, said she wished her parents told them that they were proud of them, that made me tear up instantly. You always feel like you are not good enough, that they are always unhappy with who you are, even if they aren't. And it's not like you can just ask them if they are proud of you, because when they say it after you ask, it doesn't feel real. So, it's very conflicting. Wishing they would say they are proud of you, but you can't ask them because you won't believe them even if they told you so, or you are afraid they would say they aren't proud of you. All I can do is that if I ever become a parent, I would say that to my kids. Make them feel loved, and that they belong.
After many years my answer to this issue is simple: if they can't do what they ask of you then they have no right to criticize you for your shortcomings. Tiger moms sometimes annoy me because their expectations of their kids is hypocritical, because if they and their husbands don't have a natural tendency for study and learning then its harder to cultivate this kind of mindset for their kids. If the parents are indeed academically oriented then the kids will find it easier to adopt the academic mindset, then there's a case that the kid should try harder, because s/he has the potential to.
Edit: genetic to natural
@@genericguy2951 How would anyone know if they're genetically predisposed to study and learning? It's only hypocritical if they tried and failed and continue to fail to study and learn when given the opportunity.
As a first generation American I understand the other side way more now, and my parents never really talked about what they went through, so happy jubilee made this episode
Awa Manjang this, itâs so true. Parents sometimes hardly talk about the travels, reasons, and why.
only as an adult did i understand the strength of my parents, i mean how painful and hard would it be to start a new life in a new country if you talked about all the things you missed about a home country and people you could never go back to visit (my parents immigrated because of war) they really just chose to pretend everything was okay.
Fanny is giving me strong Penelope from one day at a time vibes. Hope thatâs not racist, I mean she looks and dresses genuinely similar
Malgosia Milczewska yeeessss she does and itâs literally my favorite show kinda mad it got cancelled
I thought the same thing lol
Ikr I thought it was her
i kept saying she reminds me of someone, but i could'n't put my hand on it. Then i saw ur comment and literally said "omg! yes, she does"
She's latina, nothing wrong with pointing at it. Would it be racist if someone said "X person looks american"? No, nor the other way around
Soraia seems like such a nice lady. So soft spoken, so cute
I love how honest and sincere Kendra was. Even as being a cast member, she was willing to share her perspective. Much appreciated.
Do ICE Officers VS Immigration Lawyers
Small youtuber đâš
roseboy1 yesss
Yes! I would love to see that
YESSS! Although i feel like iâll get frustrated
roseboy1 OMG YES
roseboy1 so basically people barely educated in high school VS actual intelligent people
"Do all mixed kids think the same"
RosĂ©'s solo ngl Iâm 1st gen British and yeah, my dad was pretty harsh
They have that one
Nope
"Too black for the white kids & too white for the blacks, from honor roll to cracking locks off them by bicycles racks." - Earl Sweatshirt (chum)
soraia breaks my heart like sheâs the sweetest human and also she says some really moving things đ„șđ„șđ„șđ„ș
Romi is super wise , dude has an amazing perspective on things.
I'm Venezuelan, and what Fanny said about finding other Venezuelans (and restaurants) wherever you go IS SO TRUEđ
I really love how all of these people are self aware. So much more so than your average person. They've faced so much adversity and overcome it.
Oh man... when Christine talked about wishing our parents would say theyâre proud... RIGHT IN MY FEELS, INSTANT TEARS. As a first gen, Mexican American woman, in my last year of university pursuing a career in Occupational Therapy... I have yet to hear those sweet words from either of my parents. One day tho đŹ my goal is to make my dad cry at my graduation đ
Natalie Lechuga not your parentđ, but I am proud of you!! College isnât easy, and takes a lot of hard work! Be proud of yourself too, mainly! You are doing great things!
Same here for me! It takes a very strong person to manage strict latin parents, becoming an adult, and graduating college. You are so strong and I am proud of you! God bless you! â„
I'm from Peru and I've never seen my father cry,too
My heart breaks for you :(
You should be proud of yourself and that should be enough. I've always heard it from my mom, my grandma my dad how proud they are at me... but I also never did seek approval of anyone. They said do what makes you happy, took 3 sabbatical yrs, travelled around and now I'm a stable person, mother and wife.
Fulfilling yourself is such an immense Joy that not hearing it should not succumb you.
Sometimes people do not know how to express that, some do it on purpose to get the "best" out of someone.
Stop seeking approval and enjoy your achievements.
Romi is literally so wholesome i'm-
Lol he Is my dad
@@anyasingh3864 your Dad's cool , handsome and wise
Romi seems so wise! I wish I knew him personally.
Just as friendly reminder since Soraia didn't have the opportunity to say it: we don't speak spanish in Brazil, we speak Portuguese!
Ela tinha obrigação moral de corrigir esses gringos kkkkk mas eu perdoo pq ela é uma fofa
@@Pedro-ul1gr exato! HAHAHA
Soraia just looks and sounds like such a sweet soul, she warms my heart when she speaks â€ïž and what a cultural combination, so interesting đ
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Why is it interesting? A lot of Brazilians are of Arabic descent, especially Lebanese & Syrian... people often forget that.
@@Ahmed-pf3lg I'm Bosnian so I didn't know about it being too often tbh. Thanks for the info. Either way, I was referring to it being a beautiful combination, common or not. I mean Arabs and Latinos, just beautiful, I love both of those cultures so much, so the mix is double the love đ â€ïž
@@Ahmed-pf3lg how?
@@Samsam-vq4se
There's more Lebanese people here in Sao Paulo than in Lebanon
You can search it up if you don't believe me
It was really interesting seeing my dad do this video. I'm so proud of him!
He's a king đ (love from Pakistan)
Hi Maya, I would have loved to hear your perspective too. Do you feel more American than Indian? I am a first generation immigrant to the US with an young kid and want to provide her a strong sense of identity for herself without being torn between two cultures.
@@Dazak Because my mom is Russian, I think of it as a blend of all my cultures. I have spent my entire life in the States, I definitely feel American, but on top of that, I feel very strongly connected to my Indian and Russian side as well. One thing that helped me connect to all my cultures very well was continuing them at home while incorporating American aspects as well. For example, we often had Indian food and Russian food at home but we still had American food as well. Why I thought it was a good idea for my parents to incorporate their culture at home was because I was surrounded by so much American culture outside that it gave me a good blend between both and I never felt like I had to choose any of them over another. Let me know if you have any questions or if I can help in anyway :)
@@Cristal6579 I'm half Indian as well, interesting to hear your perspective
"my father fought in a war when he was 11." Damn i resonated with that. I'm a first generation american as well, my dad had to flee from Iran when he was 17 because of the Iranian Revolution, he met my mother in denmark and they moved to the US for a better education. And interestingly enough, my Mother's parents were immigrants as well! They were from Sweden, so already then as a very young girl she experienced bullying and a bit of a language and culture difference because she was different. It's hard, to see your parents recount traumatic instances from their childhood, there's a lot of expectation that goes along with it too, but nonetheless i am extremely grateful for my immigrant parents and it's a huge source of pride for me. But for an identification thing i have absolutely no idea. I guess Swedish-Persian-American?
What year did they come?
Thatâs cool
I just love Kendra, she is always so sweet and genuine, definitely my favourite Jubilee staff member.
That tiktok girl you featured beginning of the video is gorgeous damn.
sheâs so prettyđ„°
Alex Rivas Thatâs her natural eyebrows and she looks gorgeous
Alex Rivas side she doesnât need any work done sheâs already really pretty leave her alone
Beautiful apart from that one annoying mole on the side of her face
Alex Rivas get some respect
âWe have to be more Mexican than the Mexicans and more American than the Americans⊠Itâs exhausting!â ~ Selena
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Just be Mexican Americanđ
Wasn't Selena it was Selena's dad who said that
I just don't get it though. I AM an immigrant. Not my parents, not another single person in my family. Just me, an American immigrant. My children have an American born father and an immigrant mother. I cannot understand the mindset of where this statement comes from. I don't cling to the past. It's a part of me but it's not my identity.
TheBirdierouge this statement comes from the experiences that Mexican Americans have with everyone they interact with. There are a lot of times when we make friends with Latinos and they tell us how white washed we are, how we canât speak Spanish very well, how itâs crazy if we donât like a certain Mexican food. Stuff like that, so it feels like we have to be more and more Mexican or Latino. But when we interact with Americans, we get âspeak Englishâ, learn to cook American food, be patriotic, this is America, act American. So we feel pressured to be more and more American. Thatâs the experiences some Mexican Americans have had, and thatâs where the mindset behind the phrase comes from. Itâs not that we donât have positive experiences with people, this is just the way Latino Americans are constantly feeling.
âItâs more about America accepting me.â PREACH
My bfs dad is from Egypt, 1st language Arabic. My boyfriend doesnât know a lick of Arabic, he always says one of his biggest regrets is not knowing more about his Egyptian heritage because being American was more âfunâ. I loved this video sooo much. Culture is important!!!!
when Christine talked about just wanting to hear her parents tell her that theyâre proud of her...I felt that
as a first-gen chinese-american.. that truly hit different
kenz bruh i didn't expect to start crying but I mf did like woah
Same here, I was gonna cry with her
I feel that too
Ok when they said âI donât feel American enough or Asian enoughâ I felt that so hard. There is such a struggle because I feel left out from American culture and when I go to Russia they think I am so American. Itâs hard to fit in
Also it not easy fit in even without bring in your from another country. even if you born and raise in canada/America still to be hard fitting in. It's more of how deal and face it when come for all of us eventuality. Try not highlight it when place of origin as that would make others who isn't in your shoes can't relate to you that way. Yes your different from most but cannot put yourself here than want everyone goes to you. It will have to be 50% meeting up kinda things than you wouldn't like that as much.
â”⎰â”â”â”â” there is a emptiness that is there from feeling like you have no home.
â”⎰â”â”â”â” I didnât say it was hard to live with it just exists is all I was pointing out. I was just saying what I have experienced from being split in two.
You donât need to fit in, darling. You need to shine brighter than the stars.
Iâm also a Russian American, but people actually feel intimidated by that and want to impress me instead of me trying to impress them with my Americanness or Russianness. Iâm proud of who I am and Iâm not planning on hiding any of me. I advise you too.
I felt like the girl in the red dress was at the edge of crying in every question
It's so tough to be a diaspora. It's so important to keep close ties with your own culture growing up in America.
Sometimes I feel not American enough, not Latina enough. Agree with most points.
Should you care, tho? Letâs be honest here, they donât own you because youâre an individual. It all comes down to education, because thatâs essential in all aspects of life.
What means 'Latina' ?
Bronzula Bronzula It means sheâs a female from Latin America. But me, personally, I just say Hispanic.
VoidX I agree I just wanted to point out that even tho Iâm Latin Iâve visited my parents country, they donât like outsiders.
@bronazula Bronazula Latina as in Iâm Latina and first Generation American.
B A If if I may ask, what country? Iâm sure theyâre very conservative and donât like English speakers. I mean, honestly, youâre going to stick out if youâre dressed in a certain âstyleâ other than what theyâre used to, so right away, theyâre know youâre not a native.
i would love to see a spectrum about biracial kids!! do all biracial people think the same?
Would be interesting. I'm half Korean. Some people see it and others don't see it at all.
Maya Manzanet what would the questions be? in th us biracial kids are no different from the rest of us
The struggle with identity for biracial ppl in the US!
Khaliyah Amatulip yes exactly what Iâm thinking!!
@@somethingcreativ235 are you biracial? I am (half white half Indian) and it's this constant feeling of not being "Indian enough" and not fitting into the culture even though you're just as Indian as every other Indian American. You feel pretty seperated from either races.
Can you do middle ground for âbloods vs cripsâ
Owen Talabi that sounds like itâd be deadly lol
You made it a reality
omg they did it!!!
They did
Contrary to popular belief, not all bloods and crips are enemies. Itâs not 1980
I'm a child of two immigrants. My mum still to this day tries to push me to being "American" and not "British" even though culturally I do not fit in with Americans, but when I go back home, my family will point out how I'm not like my cousins because I'm not British. When Marco said he doesn't feel American enough or Asian enough, my heart sank. I feel your pain. I want to be in one 'box' if you would, but everyone else pushes me out of it or tries to put me in another. Or in Marco's case, he wants to fit in both boxes, but people are rejecting him when he tries to enter.
I wanna give Soraia a hug, she looks so niceđ
Thatâs my dad!
anya singh i can confirm this
he's my dad too!
You both should meet.... đ
Maya Singh same last name, sounds about right
thats so cool
As an immigrant, I could relate to this video. I moved to the states when I was 11(been here for 17yrs now). You find yourself trying to adapt and assimilate, but still holding on to your culture and roots. I am currently at a stage in life where I can apply both sides and create my own identity, but it took time.
I appreciate how open all of them were! And they often listened really carefully to each other. Nice one!
"I am Fanny"
imagine how much she'd get bullied if she grew up here in the UK ahah
LMAO
What does that mean in the UK?
@@paraglokhande936 The female genitalia lmao
@@tunahh5914 she gotta change her name hahahahah
Thatâs my aunts name
That last question was a good one. I was raised by my grandparents and was constantly hit! My grandfather broke my arm when I was in the 4th grade! I will definitely not raise my kids the same way he raised me.
Probably cause u a weaboo
Flowcharter- Lil peep song edits and more I learned about anime when I came to the USA but who knows!
What your father did to you was abuse and I wish that if you can't speak up about it very openly, please don't stress that memory and please get help for your mental health.
So sorry that happened to you. Thanks for being vulnerable and sharing. Know youâre not the only one
Romi is a very good-looking man!
I like it when Marco talks about the language connotation. In my experience, I rarely speak Malay cause of my tendency to be too emotional when I say words in Malay.
One of the reasons might be that I usually relate with my father who gets easily offended by anything said by anyone.
Is your situation similar to Marco whereby your father was abusive towards you? How's your relationship with him now? Are you still able to speak in Malay? Salam persahabatan from KL, Malaysia.
Loved this! Would love to see middle ground black americans vs black immigrants because whether people like to admit it or not black people outside of the United States look down on black Americans because of the way we express ourselves in every aspect of life. I think that would be really interesting.
I'd like to see this too because as a black immigrant.. I feel it's the other way around
yeah its definitely the other way around
So true. I recently learned from some Ethiopian people that there were never taught about slavery in America due to the education system having strong British influence. If thats true it's shocking to me and give me more insight to the divide in these relationships.
A majority of slaves were from the western coast of Africa not Ethiopia although Iâm sure there were some from that area who became enslaved.
@@whatchandstudy7 why would they teach about slavery in America if the country is Ethiopia. Sounds a bit weird to think the world revolves around America...
When she said Afghan American I heard African American. I've never been so confused in my life
Same, I had to rewind
Lorraine A LMAO SAME
you do realize North Africa exists right? An African person could look like her
@@ravenclawdaleks yeah someone african but AFRICAN AMERICANS dont look like her
@@Youneedalex same I was like so confused and replayed it a few times
I feel that Kendra has a lot of pain and I hope she is able to process it all and be happy one day. This was a really insightful video as always. Thanks Jubilee â€ïž