So true. Now a days men can't justify even with one wife and between their mother and wife. I have seen so many wives and mothers they are very upset with their son and their husbands
Sisters youre entitled to not accept a polygamous marriage - this is a rule from god so don’t be forced or emotionally blackmailed into a situation you don’t want to be in
Its not a rule from God! It was literally made permissible by Allah to benefit Women more than men! Its a benefit or you can say something to make a women’s life easier more than a rule! But men if strong and capable enough want to do it, they can!
No. This is a "believing men..." permission. Look also at the significant order in which marriage to women was specified: "Marry 2, 3, or 4, and if you cannot be just ... then only 1." Nowhere does it say, " Marry 1 if you fear injustice, but if you can be just you can marry 2, 3 or 4." THIS IS SIGNIFICANT. And Allah SWT knows best.
It's a permission not an order...read QURAN E MAJEED first brother...yes it is rule but this rule is totally depend on muslim she or he want to follow it or not...
what is wrong with people? All sisters know that polygny is allowed in Islam. But she isn't obliged to be in a polygamous marriage lollll. Turkey is halal in Islam but I don like the taste of turkey and no one not even my parents can force me to eat turkey saying its halal cause I will legit throw up same for polygny lolll, If u love turkey so much then be with someone who likes turkey as well
And you are not allowed to reject as well if your husband fulfills the conditions to take more than one wife. Watch or read what the senior scholars have said about polygamy,the likes of( Sheikh Al Albani RA)
@@ebrahimi44 yes yes if Allah swt has blessed my husband with wealth and character to maintain a second wife whiile also proviidng for his parents, fulfilfilling his religious obligations, going to hajj m giving zakah then why would i reject? i would simply divorce him.. i dont want half his money, his mahr i would simply go away...he wont even me sad cause he will have his new wife
@@kanizfatima3447women can have multiple husbands too in islam, by divorc8ng and marrying another. Therefore, when the husband married a second wife, the wife can marry a second husband through divorce.
brothers, sisters don't need convincing. brothers need to know their responsibilities and to also not place their desires above the rights of their children and spouses. some brothers engage in haram relationships and then misuse polygyny to escape accountability. and the brothers who go about it secretly don't consider the damage they do to their kids to develop trust because when they find out their father has been lying to them and their mother for years it's almost as bad as a man finding out his child is not his, in terms of the shock of secrecy. Nauthubillah! Brothers be just to your wives and have empathy and honesty is part of good treatment.
@@MaryamMia1599 this is wrong, polygamy is not hurtful, the Prophet and Sahaaba and Prophet's own children and grandchildren practiced polygamy and they never were hurtful to fellow Muslims
I know many brothers who are good and give their spouses and everyone around them their rights, but their wives will never even consider or entertain the idea of polygamy. I guarantee every commenter can think of a good, married Muslim brother they know. I guarantee a small portion of the commenters can think of a Muslim sister they know in a polygamous marriage
I m I reading this right, multiple wives was intended for wealthy men to take widows and orphans and make them whole again, it's doing a charity for human kind not for lust? If mens desire to have a new wife is lust, then it's natural that a wife's first reaction is jealousy.
I am also a muslim woman, but personally i cannot bear my husband sleeping with other woman. Please don't try to convince me into going that. It will be mentally traumatizing for me.
You have to submit to the will of Allah and the Prohpet Mohamed peace be upon him! You're not a Christian! You need to submit and be one of 3 wives! 4 would be awesome!
Don't consider yourself muslim... If you have any kind of negativity about POLYGAMy.. go to hell.. What is the point of being muslim?? You only follow islam when it favours you ?? Christian girl hindu girl have negativity about POLYGAMy and you also have negativity.. So what is the difference between you and them .. You also have beilef like hindus ...
Bismillah. Alhamdulillaah, I’m the second wife and I always believe Allah rules is the best. It’s a bit strange in the beginning, but after few years we are happy with this Allah’s qadr. This is how Allah teach us, how to hold on tight to Him only and follow the Prophet Muhammad shallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam in every single problems we faced. Shabr & Syukr. Alhamdulillaah bi ni’mati tatimush shalihaat.
@@iamdoingood No, one cares about your opinion. What is that profile pic, are you not ashamed to put a pic of you with only wearing bras online, while having the name of the daughter the prophet sallallahu alayhi wa Salama ??? You’re a filthy woman, may Allah guide you.
Quran an-nisa 129 “Ye are never able to be fair and just as between women, even if it is your ardent desire....” Although Islam allows polygamy, it regards marriage with only one woman as essential.
Muhammad sallahu alayhi wasalim never married until his first wife died because he respected his first wife and he has children with khadija. After khadija died then he married and he got no children with all his wife. And Muhammad sallhu alayhi wasalim's all daughter never accepted poligummi
@@mahrukhtariq8228fatima never problem with Ali second marriage ,she has a problem with lady that Ali getting marriage because she daughter of abu jahil
Its very unfortunate that such an important topic as basic marriage rights is perceived as a joke by so many. This is the result of over a century of programming and western propaganda targeted at weakening men.
Maybe they are laughing, because the question came from a young brother who maybe hasn't married yet. Get 1 wife first, than think about if you can handle more than 1 marriage. It's not like have a girlfriend or be cheating without responsibilities as the sheikh mentioned. They have to be responsible to Allah swt
Polygyny is not FARD understand that. It is a remedy for certain situations. People keep talking about sunna. The prophet also had one wife until she died That is also a sunna. Polygyny was nit introduced for men and their lustful desires. Men always quote one part of the ayat - marry women of your choice two three or four but they fail to complete it with but if you fear you cannot deal justly with them then one only. Are men only interested in the lust of this world what time do they have for extra ibadah if all that is on their minds is sex? Brothers have kittle or no form if employment but they want more than ine wife. The quran also stated that if you do not have the means to marry then rast. They do not have the means to adequately take care of one and they marry with the sister agreeing to make sacrifices to make the marriage work but then they talk about marrying another. These men need to reevaluation themselves.
polygyny is not hard says the woman 😂 seriously, u liked the sheikhs response cuz that’s what u want hear, but dt forget that he sided for one wife because of how difficult the women makes it.
yes it may easy for u as a women to say that Are men only interested in the lust and unfortunately most women deny the fact that men are biologically that way, what would u say to this !?
@@meenoomeenoo4578 you called it my brother. Allah is the all knowing, he knows this creation, women always tell men that they should control their lust, ok let me tell you, satisfying his lust in a halal way is 70% of the reason he married you, men have a far higher sex drive than women its not even comparable because of testosterone, and when Allah introduce a way to avoid zina, or concubinage by allowing polygamy, that too they want to take it away because of jealousy and selfishness, these women are the same one who turn a blind eye to the fact that their is more women able to get married than eligible bachelors, so polygamy also solve than problem, whether they like it or not Allah didn't say that you cannot marry a second wife because of lust, the only condition upon men is that they should be fair and equal between their wives. Any other condition women try to introduce is an innovation.
impressive answer, if you don't qualify, then no need to think about it. MAYBE, if the 1st wife can't get pregnant, then there is a legitimate reason to get the 2nd wife who can get pregnant.
@@e.k874 women has a right to ask for divorce, I don't see why is that relevant with approved polygamy (I don't see the connection between the two different topics) Qur'an has verses about divorce.
@@kanizfatima3447 in polygamous societies where there is almost an expectation that rich men will take a second wife, when women are sizing the man up in terms of his money, once he reaches the threshold for polygamy, then women halve their appraisal of his money hecause, after all, he's going to take a second wife and you'll have to share his resources with her. From this Christian looking from outside of Islam, it seems to me that polygamy is intended for times of war or only for the very very rich.
MashaAllah whay a beautiful advice, may Allah reward you and elevate you in wisdom ameen. I needed this right now, feeling very depressed that my heart doesn't like what has permitted by Allah(swt). I wouldn't dare to reject what is permissible , but men would call you a disbeliever just for not liking it for yourself. I don't want this fitnah for my family, i don't want to be financially lesser off, i don't want to work doubly hard to bring up my children on my own. I already have enough problem on my plate, i don't want anymore just so that my husband can please himself.
You are not Fatima and that isn’t the only reason why the Prophet did that. His daughter as the prophet and the daughter of an enemy of Allah could not be cowives. to protect his reputation as the messenger of Allah. No scholar of Islam said women can reject a co-wife just because Fatima didn’t have one.
@@taimurahmadits better to leave than to torture yoursef living a life that hurts u day and night. I hope u get a wife who don't give a damn about sharing u
It's not like that men outnumbered women.and what if the scenario is opposite.women are less and men are more then women sholud marry more men to avoid fitna??and also as you said if 50 women will be there for one man then what will happen.one man will marry 50 women ?? Only 4 max he can marry what about the 46 women left?
Stupid... Muslim men go for Christian and Jewish girl....it is halal for muslim men to marry Christian and Jewish girl .. without converting her to islam... And for your information if men are 300 and female are 100... Then also only 70/80 men are ready for marriage bcz men are freedom and enjoying in nature... Not all 300 wants to marry
And then he can go ahead with his desire to marry 4 times but very first condition and rule is to fulfill all the obligatory rules of Islam then you can think about 4 wife's
Its that easy lolll Quran is clear but people are in discord.. I don't get it.. no one can force u to do something u don't like in Islam such as eating something u don't like so whyforce a woman to be in apolygamhos relationshipo
My Wife's definition of the word "POLYGAMIST" : "Unfaithful Infidel", " Snake" 🐍, 😅. It might get uploaded onto Google 😅. Sorry, just making light on a serious topic. Certainly it is a massive undertaking, not for everyone. But, in the present and coming times, very necessary to avoid falling to widespread filth. Both for men AND women.
Every man who is wealty and can take responsibility of multiple woman must marry multiple woman. Men should not marry woman who is against polygamy he must mention clearly while doing first nikkah.
Im confused. the ayat concerning polgamy ALLAH says 'and if you fear you cannot deal justly' does any1 realise that ALLAH referes to the man who intends that if he fears. Its not if your wife fear, your mother fear, your sister or even if this sheigh fears. No1s fear is referenced accept the man that want to marry. So those who fear on behalf of the man should advise according to islam or keep quiet
Look at the economic situation of the world. A huge majority is living paycheck to paycheck. Plus the morals of our youth are pathetic to the extent that they can't even keep one wife happy, leave alone an army of scornful, neglected wives andchildren. Why don't you do it yourself and cool your own lust for good. God knows how satisfied your own army of wives really are!!!
also if u are committing polygamy do it for a good intention but not for satisfying lust. maariage is the god's method to show ur lust but to show ur lust marriage is not there, its like since u cant commit murder without a licenced weapon u do it with an authority of licensed weapon
@@asilaalbattashy4945 I don't think its necessarily a lie because depending on what area you live in there could be more women than men at the time, and these people probably meant it in that context? Not sure. But I'm just stating the fact that globally/worldwide there have been more men than women on Earth for like the last 60 years. That's what the data shows. Regardless, this reasoning they talk about for polgamy does not come from Quran, these people make up their own justifications for it when really there needs to justification. The Quran (surah 4:3) suggests polygamy to be allowed only if the man could treat the women justly, that's it. It doesn't say to do polygamy because of population statistics or whatever possible societal benefits there may or may not be. It simply says that they *can* do it (under certain conditions), and it doesn't need to explain the *why* part. So I'm not speaking negatively of polygamy, because if something like this has been deemed halal and righteous then certainly there are benefits and blessings that come from it being practiced in the proper way...but what those benefits specifically are we can only assume.
YOU NEED TO FOLLOW THIS VERSE TOO. 1 The Book of Purification and its Sunnah (81) Chapter: Semen that soils clothes (81) باب الْمَنِيِّ يُصِيبُ الثَّوْبَ It was narrated that 'Amr bin Maimun said: "I asked Sulaiman bin Yasar about a garment which gets semen on it. 'Should I wash it off or wash the entire garment?' Sulaiman said: 'Aishah said: "Semen used to get on the garment of the Messenger of Allah and he would wash it off his garment, then he would go out to pray wearing that garment, and I could see the marks left on it by washing." حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو بَكْرِ بْنُ أَبِي شَيْبَةَ، حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدَةُ بْنُ سُلَيْمَانَ، عَنْ عَمْرِو بْنِ مَيْمُونٍ، قَالَ سَأَلْتُ سُلَيْمَانَ بْنَ يَسَارٍ عَنِ الثَّوْبِ، يُصِيبُهُ الْمَنِيُّ أَنَغْسِلُهُ أَوْ نَغْسِلُ الثَّوْبَ كُلَّهُ قَالَ سُلَيْمَانُ قَالَتْ عَائِشَةُ كَانَ النَّبِيُّ ـ صلى الله عليه وسلم ـ يُصِيبُ ثَوْبَهُ فَيَغْسِلُهُ مِنْ ثَوْبِهِ ثُمَّ يَخْرُجُ فِي ثَوْبِهِ إِلَى الصَّلاَةِ وَأَنَا أَرَى أَثَرَ الْغُسْلِ فِيهِ . Grade: Sahih (Darussalam) VERY IMPORTANT TO KNOW YOUR ROLE. AND THIS VERSE TO FOLLOW TOO. Muwatta Malik » Purity - كتاب الطهارة Yahya related to me from Malik from Ismail ibn Abi Hakim from Sulayman ibn Yasar that Umar ibn al-Khattab went out early in the morning to his land in al-Juruf and found semen on his garment. He said, "I have been tried with wet dreams since I have been entrusted with governing the people." He did ghusl and washed his garment of what he saw of the semen, and then prayed after the sun had risen. وَحَدَّثَنِي عَنْ مَالِكٍ، عَنْ إِسْمَاعِيلَ بْنِ أَبِي حَكِيمٍ، عَنْ سُلَيْمَانَ بْنِ يَسَارٍ، أَنَّ عُمَرَ بْنَ الْخَطَّابِ، غَدَا إِلَى أَرْضِهِ بِالْجُرُفِ فَوَجَدَ فِي ثَوْبِهِ احْتِلاَمًا فَقَالَ لَقَدِ ابْتُلِيتُ بِالاِحْتِلاَمِ مُنْذُ وُلِّيتُ أَمْرَ النَّاسِ . فَاغْتَسَلَ وَغَسَلَ مَا رَأَى فِي ثَوْبِهِ مِنَ الاِحْتِلاَمِ ثُمَّ صَلَّى بَعْدَ أَنْ طَلَعَتِ الشَّمْسُ . IF YOU think about how ISLAM helps us all control these women. ITS SUCH A BEAUTIFUL WAY TO ENSURE WOMEN STAY IN THE KITCHEN. CHRISIANS & JEWS ARE ALL EVIL SO ONLY FOLLOW ISLAM.
Lol if i will go in a polygous relation the definetely it would be for money , status or of the guy is a super nova . At this point of my life alhmdulillaj allah swt have granted me with ancestral wealth and good education . I dont tjink i would even need to be in one . At this point i can actially choose to love a man .
Brothers, don’t simply get 4 wives because of your desires If there are practical reasons then go ahead. Also remember that there are no fatwa which forces women to simply accept her husband to have more than 1 wife. Yes, men have that right. But no hijabi is forced to be in the marriage
Polygamy is not permissible in Islam, it's Polygyny that is. The former entails that the woman can also have more than one husband, which is purely alien to Islamic ruling. The latter one specifically means the situation where the man ONLY can have more than one wife.
Well, I reject the Sheria. It’s my right. This verse is only mentioned in a Sarah about women’s rights, not men’s lust. I will be putting this clause in my Nikah, that my husband may not marry again in my lifetime as per Sunnah.
he is sharing his opinion and not saying Islamically, first condition is applicable at the time of first marriage too so there's any difference, and where he mentioned that they'll compete that if she has that I want that too, means she ain't a righteous one, instead of making their husband happy she's doing the doing exact opposite. and whatever he said is irrelated to the question written in title. clickbait.
Assalamualikum. Allah is all knowing, and made marrying more than one wife (up to 4) permissible. Polygyny is halal and if done well, it can be a beautiful practice in this current time as well. The best sahabiyyat were jealous so it is inevitable that we will be too. We as women in islam need to work and develop our emotional intelligence, and learn to regulate our emotions to the best of our ability, so we can deal with our jealousy to the best of our abilities. May Allah bless you all, Ameen
Globally, the number of males has exceeded the number of females since the mid-1960s. As of 2021, there were about 44 million more males than females in the global population
That is because of two countries india and china who are known for killing female babies in womb, terminating pregnancies and even killing female babies after they’re born.
If males are triple also.. 100 females and 300 males... Then also you only find 70/80 percentage of male ready for marriage.. Bcz males are enjoying,they want enjoyment and nature friendly..not all 300 men want to marry ... ..and you are talking about only 44 millions more male... 🥴🥴🥴
You say you at least honor Jesus as a prophet but this is completely against HIs teaching. I’m asking respectfully, I know you view Him only as a Prophet but why do Mohammed’s teachings always take precedence over Jesus’? He taught monogamy, no divorce. answered, “Have you not read that from the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’and He said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.” “Why then,” they asked, “did Moses order a man to give his wife a certificate of divorce and send her away?” Jesus replied, “Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because of your hardness of heart; but it was not this way from the beginning. 9Now I tell you that whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another woman, commits adultery.” Therefore, Jesus says marriage is a covenant between ONE man and ONE woman for life and polygamy is the equivalent of adultery.
Lol. Looking forward to the fall of civilization and the law of the jungle returns. Women's protection by men have emboldened them to dictate to men what they are allowed, in defiance of God Himself.
Unfortunately a man impregnate alot of women and we know who the child is, a women can sleep with a lot of men, and we don't know the child, men and women are different
It is important to be careful with such statements because we shouldn't critize something coming from Allah, especially not in the public. I don't judge you brother or sister but please reconsider deleting or changing your comment 🙏
What i find strange is that practicing muslim brothers have wife that are completely against this aspect of deen that is accepted in kalamullah and shariah. Sadly the brothers who don't deserve to get married 2nd 3rd and even 4th as they re not even practicing and fulfilling the basic fard, wajib, etc That is the sad reality. Also the fitna, fahisha, zina is getting worse. This generation and next generations young women are unfortunately going down the route of - please mind my language, they're happy to be girlfriends, slaves, pimped out, pornographic, b****, w****, lesbian, public property and all these other foul, evil,western, shayateen, feminism, munkar, etc etc Sorry to be blunt, but this is the reality we are in. Every islamic solution is by the creator and is a solution for the ummah and mankind. If we don't choose the islamic way of Allah swt and Rasulullah s. Then we will follow other ways and Allah aza wajjal will destroy us and replace us with this ethat love every aspect of Allah swt hukum, deen, shariah, Islam. Allah swt give us all the towfiq to hold onto every aspect of our deen, be it spiritual, social, financial, political, judicial, etc Allahuma ameen ya rabbal aalaameen
Brother's you know right that even the prophet's wife sometimes jealous on each other and prophet is the perfect man. So how do you expect our sisters to be fully ok lol? Of course they will be jealous and angry and so on, its nature to them. First be the best man you can ever be before thinking about marriage lol
It's optional not a must thing also if you fear you can't be justice not only financially but physically and mentally not be with your both families don't do that cuz first of all this rule was created for woman being protected and safe
What upsets me about this video is the mirth that accompanies this serious topic. It is "not easy", and "you can easily lose your mind" and "it is a nightmare" are not helpful descriptions of polygamous marriage. They could be applied to monogamous marriages too. It is about educating women... My challenge to the non-polygamy mentality runs thus: Muslim sisters very much love the Wives of Prophet Muhammad pbuh, Umm ul Mumineen (the Mothers of the Believers). They love being named after them, naming their daughters after them, wanting to be like them, pray like them, be devoted to Allah SWT like them, and follow the Qur'an and Sunnah like them ... But look at the same sisters' mentality when marriage a second, third, or fourth time is discussed. So many excuses. So much protestation. So many NEGATIVE opinions on something about which they know NOTHING. Suddenly, a militant, objectional, Western-thinking, "liberated", intolerant opinion emerges. Allah SWT, Lord of the Worlds, Knower of the Seen and the Unseen, enjoined polygamy. Dare we, tiny insignificant specks of "maa'in daafiq" (despised fluid) challenge those permissions, rights, and decrees? When we REALLY TRUST Allah SWT and follow His Messenger, we comply with acceptance ... we take the whole package. Sisters get so boiled up about polygamy, seeing only their Western perspective as wife 1. There is the perspective of her husband, and the feelings and needs and heart of her sister, wife 2. Allah SWT wasn't talking to us. HE, SWT, was addressing MEN, giving them the permission to "Marry 2, 3 or 4..." Monogomous marriage isn't a promise of heaven, and it isn't the perfect deal. There are so many clueless girls, living in la-la land, with a Western "I-won't share" mentality, a pro-feminist approach, a women's rights (but not men's) stance, while they know little enough about life to make an informed choice about plural marriage. Better to rein in their non-compliance with Allah's decree, silence their un-Islamic opinions and let us women facing the option of plural marriage accept and get on with it for what it is, instead of treating us like maligned exhibits from a freak show. We don't need the monogomists' excuses, their anger and their pity, their justification, nor their voice.
Well, I want to say something very important. In the time of Abraham and Moses. The people were just writers called scribes. They were not educated in genealogy and DNA. They were uneducated in this matter. We should not go back to the times of Abraham and Moses. Marrying many women causes breading and weak genetics. Some kings did this. The Austrian Habsburg did this and there are deformities. The Zoroastrians from Persia did this. In Pakistan, there is in breading causing birth defects. The bottom line do not follow Judaism and Abrahamic religions.
Women's jealousy doesn't have to do with feminism, it's nature as the sheikh said, and it even existed in our mother Aisha RA. Women are naturally possessive and don't like competition, at least 90% of the woman population qill dislike polygyny and that's natural. Not saying it's haram at all but don't call nature feminism
@@ShairaFairuj-ey5yv Quran says A man can have up to four wives as long as he can do justice to all, if not he can marry only one. What is your point anyway?
We Muslim women need to remove from our hearts this Western idea of monogamous marriage. Allah SWT gave it for good reasons. It was the Sunnah of Rasool Allah SAW which we are apt to forget.
Why? Men have the right to have multiple wives and women have the right to be in such marriage or not. It’s simple Monogamous marriages are allowed so why should we not want it? I agree that if a man really needs to marry again to not commit zina he must marry again but remember that women can choose who to marry and what type of man do marry.
@@angelabrodie6262 like is said, I think people should marry the way that suits them the best. Marriage should make you happy and not anxious or depressed.
@@TheNiceOne_ indeed. As a second wife I am happy and enriched and respected and loved and treated with dignity unlike in my first miserable marriage where the emotional abuse and ghosting and gaslighting was dreadful for 25 years.
So polygamy is singing in religion. PS I looked up with the definition of the word is and this is the conclusion I came up with that sounds a lot like an animal instinct.
Islam allows a Muslim man to marry upto 4 wives if he can fulfil the conditions and treat them equally to the best of his abilities. The Kuffar on the other hand see women as nothing more than satisfying their "animalistic" desires. It's no wonder they have an abundance of Adultery and Fornication amongst themselves. نعوذ بالله من ذلك
Do some reading about it from a Islamic perspective vs having unsolicited affairs (which is the norm in western society). Or better yet, watch the video. Your conclusion doesn't make a difference to us... "blade of darkness from blood" 🙄
@@elkapitan75 did watch it and wife on paper is different from wife emotionally. Think of it like a difference between a contract deal and someone that has a non-physical feeling. Now I'm thinking this video is about the paper part of it. So nevermind and sorry I was only thinking about the emotional feeling part.
Weakness in understanding Islam and preferring one’s own opinion over the legislation led us to what we are today. Polygamy is very good especially nowadays when fitnah upon men is a lot. Women should fear Allah and accept the ruling of Allah. Likewise men must fulfill their duties towards their wives and should fear Allah as well
Idk about others🤨as islam neither deny or forbid or says wife cant stop her husband from doing polygamy when there man and women almost equal in world ,,,Sooo Im😂 not going to share my husband😂instead i will give him very very much of love ❤❤insha allah,,I want him here and after life and every life with meh❤
ik i may not be fair in saying what am gonna say as am not a woman but will try from my perspective. forgive me oh women if u find my sayings unfair. i love u and respect u as u r our mothers, that alone is sufficient for me to honor u. what amazes me about women not wanting polygamy is that they’re so egotistical. I’ll say to the women: imagine u give birth to a girl, remember that she’ll grow up, and know that there are fewer men everyday let alone good men. now u want ur man only to urself, which am not telling u not to, but u also want ur daughter and his daughter to grow up and have a man that is good respectful with deen handsome (women nowadays) etc… AND for lack of gratitude, u also want ur daughter not to be in a polygamy. now plz tell me women how can u solve the case in which u have 3 daughters!!? and u think u will have it all that easy!? u may do all the evil u know to make ur man divorce his second wife but then remember, ur children may be girls. and also the fact that u know very well most men desire more than one women what would u say to this!? we have to also be honest here. if ur husband is capable let him do, yes Allah said that men may not be so fair yet He still let them marry more than one. am actually sided with the sheikh here, more than one wife is more trouble, so think a million time b4 u add but if for desirable reasons u can’t, then marry more. unfortunately women made it that way and they’re only hurting themselves particularly and society in general. it’s hurts society as in the man will or may fall into zina while married, not all but, u know what I mean. it hurts women as in most of ur children are girls and how will their marital future be!?
So I’m egoistic because I don’t want to be ruined mentally? Look sister, we got problems in our lives. Some of us go through alot. I have the worst anxiety ever to the point where I can’t breath. If I’m not wanting to be in a polygamous marriage because I don’t want to make my life harder then it already is, how am I being egoistic? And also, there are more men on earth then women so we could also say, men are egoistic for taking second wives because there are already not enough women. Don’t force people to do things they don’t want. My opinion, men have right to practice polygamy and women have the right to not choose to be in such marriage.
@@TheNiceOne_ u do have the right to choose no to polygamy, but from what u say here, i understand that u already made polygamy a problem. which in and of itself is not. people make it to be a problem and mostly women do. there are definitely more women in the world than men. and by your logic most of our women will die unmarried. now am not saying that all marriages are successful but at least most women should be able to try it. it work out well for some, in the middle for some and bad for others. and alhamdulillah Allah made divorce a way out for all. i pray that Allah ease your situation sister and talk to Him. He hears your suffering.
Sister just come to south asia someday you will see the worse polygamous men nd their women...women are still fighting for their rights as we dont even get our islamic rights...people hate to have a daughter not because it js difficult to marry her off because she is just a burden...you have to give fowry,her child bills..basicallly men just cant provide 100% not even 80% here 😂...so it is just a joke that those men cant do anything but just want to fulfill their lust...also its not only women even polygamous men dont want their daughters husband to have a 2nd wife as they know their own wives go through a lot and now they cant see their own daughters going throgh the same situation...these men sucks as they cant be a good father nd a good husband but want to add the burden...believe me if women dont throw tantrums about it then men will get jealous nd will call uou a gold digger...just saw this happening😂
GOD GAVE ADAM ONE EVE, LIKE HE GAVE THE EARTH ONE SUN ( and that was enough to fill the world...but then the man came an invented rules that break the essence..) DON'T YOU SEE THE SIGNS? Don't follow polygamy!!! ...If GOD wanted to, he would have given Adam several Eves because God can do anything, and this was the GREATEST example given by HIM in relation to this: the beginning of humanity.
Sisters is it better to take second wife than committing zina. Women most of you fail in satisfying your husbands. Whatever wives do this and that obey their husbands but most of these sisters fail in that thing so think wise do you want him in hell or be with you in jannah.
It is our Allah given right, that if we want monogamous marriage,we can have that in the marriage contract,if the man cant accept its his prblm.We are also allowed to divorce if he goes out this contract
@@ShairaFairuj-ey5yv Okay, then women are pathetic failures in physical intimacy more than 93.3% of men are disappointed with their wives. If you can't available for him when he wants then never disagree with him when he decides to get 2nd or 3rd wives. Always, I'm tired, not today, I need prepare food for us, i need to take care of children, i have did yesterday so tomorrow, finish it quickly i have to do some work. Women always slame men for wanting sex with their wives. Women are complete disaster in bed then why you're getting triggered for multiple wives topics. Men do zina then blame their irresponsible wives.
Thank goodness I’m a lesbian, married for decades to one faithful wife, and not burdened by Abrahamic beliefs. Life can be great when you trust your heart and devote yourself to making one wife happy. Happy wife, happy life!
Dear lesbian. You can't even have children. The more lesbians the more a population will decline. A man taking more then wife has many children and offspring. And a strong family can be built from that. The abrahmaic religions preserve traditional family and gender roles and the survival of humanity .
@@NewSmithsonian I must have taken a wrong turn. Lol. But seriously, I try to listen to all kinds of different opinions. It’s dangerous to only listen to one side of any issue, don’t you think? Confirmation bias tends to insulate us from other voices if we don’t make an effort to hear many different voices.
If you believe that your homosexuality isn’t a choice, then you should not present it, even jokingly, as a choice for widowed women with orphaned children in war-torn countries where women don’t have the option of just going to college and making enough money to comfortably go to a grocery store and get what they need to make it through the week. The grocery store is rubble. They are out of flour. In some areas, without the protection of a man, they are at risk of enslavement and trafficking. The point that the sheikh was making is, it is not the standard default of humans for men to have multiple wives but rather the solution to a disproportionate number of men being killed with respect to women, and the need for those women to have a provider in rough circumstances for their children and/or the ability to still be able to be married and have children and build families, despite a shortage of men.
It's not upon anyone to "convince" anyone else what's clearly stated in The Quran, for if someone demands to be convinced, let him/her ask ALLAH, becz He's the one who made that Law. If you don't want to accept what's mentioned in the Qur'an, feel free to reject it. No one's holding you at gunpoint to believe in the Qur'an. Belief in the Qur'an and strong adherence to the Rules and regulations mentioned in it is one's OWN business. Cuz in the hereafter, no one will be responsible for what you have chosen to believe or do but yourself
First convince brothers to fulfill all the rights of wife's and to to do justice between his mother and sister with wife
So true. Now a days men can't justify even with one wife and between their mother and wife. I have seen so many wives and mothers they are very upset with their son and their husbands
Sisters youre entitled to not accept a polygamous marriage - this is a rule from god so don’t be forced or emotionally blackmailed into a situation you don’t want to be in
Its not a rule from God! It was literally made permissible by Allah to benefit Women more than men! Its a benefit or you can say something to make a women’s life easier more than a rule! But men if strong and capable enough want to do it, they can!
trust me we dont want easier lives and its more of a mental and physical trauma for women to know that they arent good enough.
@@KhanDiary
No. This is a "believing men..." permission. Look also at the significant order in which marriage to women was specified: "Marry 2, 3, or 4, and if you cannot be just ... then only 1." Nowhere does it say, " Marry 1 if you fear injustice, but if you can be just you can marry 2, 3 or 4." THIS IS SIGNIFICANT. And Allah SWT knows best.
It's a permission not an order...read QURAN E MAJEED first brother...yes it is rule but this rule is totally depend on muslim she or he want to follow it or not...
@@KhanDiaryHow is it a benefit to females?
what is wrong with people? All sisters know that polygny is allowed in Islam. But she isn't obliged to be in a polygamous marriage lollll. Turkey is halal in Islam but I don like the taste of turkey and no one not even my parents can force me to eat turkey saying its halal cause I will legit throw up same for polygny lolll, If u love turkey so much then be with someone who likes turkey as well
For a second I thought you were talking about 🇹🇷
And you are not allowed to reject as well if your husband fulfills the conditions to take more than one wife. Watch or read what the senior scholars have said about polygamy,the likes of( Sheikh Al Albani RA)
@@ebrahimi44 yes yes if Allah swt has blessed my husband with wealth and character to maintain a second wife whiile also proviidng for his parents, fulfilfilling his religious obligations, going to hajj m giving zakah then why would i reject? i would simply divorce him.. i dont want half his money, his mahr i would simply go away...he wont even me sad cause he will have his new wife
@@kanizfatima3447women can have multiple husbands too in islam, by divorc8ng and marrying another. Therefore, when the husband married a second wife, the wife can marry a second husband through divorce.
brothers, sisters don't need convincing. brothers need to know their responsibilities and to also not place their desires above the rights of their children and spouses. some brothers engage in haram relationships and then misuse polygyny to escape accountability. and the brothers who go about it secretly don't consider the damage they do to their kids to develop trust because when they find out their father has been lying to them and their mother for years it's almost as bad as a man finding out his child is not his, in terms of the shock of secrecy. Nauthubillah! Brothers be just to your wives and have empathy and honesty is part of good treatment.
@@MaryamMia1599 this is wrong, polygamy is not hurtful, the Prophet and Sahaaba and Prophet's own children and grandchildren practiced polygamy and they never were hurtful to fellow Muslims
I know many brothers who are good and give their spouses and everyone around them their rights, but their wives will never even consider or entertain the idea of polygamy. I guarantee every commenter can think of a good, married Muslim brother they know. I guarantee a small portion of the commenters can think of a Muslim sister they know in a polygamous marriage
Pathetic n meaningless comment. People like you prefer western feminism over the rights that Allah has given. Shame on you!
@@Katsuki1031 dont marry plz ur evil
a world which men think all the rules r should b upon their needs😂
I m I reading this right, multiple wives was intended for wealthy men to take widows and orphans and make them whole again, it's doing a charity for human kind not for lust? If mens desire to have a new wife is lust, then it's natural that a wife's first reaction is jealousy.
Alternative is the Western world where MOST non Muslim men I know cheat. This sounds a lot more honourable
@@MikeSpence-wk6iv Most?? i think you need to speak to more people, this is not most people
@QuantumR4ge lol, keep living under a rock
No broaden your worldview@@MikeSpence-wk6iv
@@MikeSpence-wk6iv Good arguement, are you one of those morons who believes anything outside of their personal experiences must be wrong?
I am also a muslim woman, but personally i cannot bear my husband sleeping with other woman. Please don't try to convince me into going that. It will be mentally traumatizing for me.
Fr and it’s also just very unattractive
You have brain use it. Don't follow what is not good for you
@@haleemahsaida9772 correct.
You have to submit to the will of Allah and the Prohpet Mohamed peace be upon him! You're not a Christian! You need to submit and be one of 3 wives! 4 would be awesome!
Don't consider yourself muslim...
If you have any kind of negativity about POLYGAMy.. go to hell..
What is the point of being muslim??
You only follow islam when it favours you ??
Christian girl hindu girl have negativity about POLYGAMy and you also have negativity..
So what is the difference between you and them ..
You also have beilef like hindus ...
Assalaamu alaykum,
One of the best and most concise answers to this topic I have seen on the internet…. Thank you for posting…
Bismillah. Alhamdulillaah, I’m the second wife and I always believe Allah rules is the best. It’s a bit strange in the beginning, but after few years we are happy with this Allah’s qadr. This is how Allah teach us, how to hold on tight to Him only and follow the Prophet Muhammad shallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam in every single problems we faced. Shabr & Syukr.
Alhamdulillaah bi ni’mati tatimush shalihaat.
May Allah grant you and your family the highest rank in Paradise
Alhamdulillah your husband is blessed to have you as his wife. May you be blessed
Dont put ur shit on other womn if they dont want plz
@@iamdoingood No, one cares about your opinion. What is that profile pic, are you not ashamed to put a pic of you with only wearing bras online, while having the name of the daughter the prophet sallallahu alayhi wa Salama ???
You’re a filthy woman, may Allah guide you.
@@iamdoingood Are you a Lindu ?
Barakallahu feekum! Best answer and brave question.
Quran an-nisa 129
“Ye are never able to be fair and just as between women, even if it is your ardent desire....”
Although Islam allows polygamy, it regards marriage with only one woman as essential.
U just quote half verse,,,and u can't be justice between them ,,then not be just once try to equally treat them,,,,this is full verse
Muhammad sallahu alayhi wasalim never married until his first wife died because he respected his first wife and he has children with khadija. After khadija died then he married and he got no children with all his wife. And Muhammad sallhu alayhi wasalim's all daughter never accepted poligummi
Thank you 🎉🎉🎉
Lol 🤣 it's halal in Islam .
@@Ahmedahmed-tu8zn par hazrat fatima ne accept nahi kia tha sunnah ha farz nahi Allah ka ahsan ha ap logo pe wo b rules k sath
@@mahrukhtariq8228 hazrat fatima aap sallallaahu alihi waslam ki beetein thiu aur unke liyin rule diefferent thaa
@@mahrukhtariq8228fatima never problem with Ali second marriage ,she has a problem with lady that Ali getting marriage because she daughter of abu jahil
JazakAllah khair
This response from the sheik is excellent and the best that I have heard so far. He is clearly a brother who has wisdom.
The fact that from the outset everyone in the room is laughing about such a serious topic, says it all really. You all make me sick!
Its very unfortunate that such an important topic as basic marriage rights is perceived as a joke by so many. This is the result of over a century of programming and western propaganda targeted at weakening men.
Maybe they are laughing, because the question came from a young brother who maybe hasn't married yet. Get 1 wife first, than think about if you can handle more than 1 marriage. It's not like have a girlfriend or be cheating without responsibilities as the sheikh mentioned. They have to be responsible to Allah swt
XY chromosomes don't care when it comes to women
Assalamou aleykoum Brother Sheikh Karim, May Allah Swt bless you!
Polygyny is not FARD understand that. It is a remedy for certain situations. People keep talking about sunna. The prophet also had one wife until she died That is also a sunna. Polygyny was nit introduced for men and their lustful desires. Men always quote one part of the ayat - marry women of your choice two three or four but they fail to complete it with but if you fear you cannot deal justly with them then one only. Are men only interested in the lust of this world what time do they have for extra ibadah if all that is on their minds is sex? Brothers have kittle or no form if employment but they want more than ine wife. The quran also stated that if you do not have the means to marry then rast. They do not have the means to adequately take care of one and they marry with the sister agreeing to make sacrifices to make the marriage work but then they talk about marrying another. These men need to reevaluation themselves.
polygyny is not hard says the woman 😂
seriously, u liked the sheikhs response cuz that’s what u want hear, but dt forget that he sided for one wife because of how difficult the women makes it.
yes it may easy for u as a women to say that Are men only interested in the lust and unfortunately most women deny the fact that men are biologically that way, what would u say to this !?
@@meenoomeenoo4578woman too can be that way since some married woman chez ton their husbands
@@meenoomeenoo4578 you called it my brother. Allah is the all knowing, he knows this creation, women always tell men that they should control their lust, ok let me tell you, satisfying his lust in a halal way is 70% of the reason he married you, men have a far higher sex drive than women its not even comparable because of testosterone, and when Allah introduce a way to avoid zina, or concubinage by allowing polygamy, that too they want to take it away because of jealousy and selfishness, these women are the same one who turn a blind eye to the fact that their is more women able to get married than eligible bachelors, so polygamy also solve than problem, whether they like it or not Allah didn't say that you cannot marry a second wife because of lust, the only condition upon men is that they should be fair and equal between their wives. Any other condition women try to introduce is an innovation.
0:53 the question is so important that sheykh had to take his glasses off😂
impressive answer, if you don't qualify, then no need to think about it. MAYBE, if the 1st wife can't get pregnant, then there is a legitimate reason to get the 2nd wife who can get pregnant.
There are many Muslims who qualify, what should they do when their wives don't accept polygamy?
what if its the mans sperm that cant have children
@@e.k874 women has a right to ask for divorce, I don't see why is that relevant with approved polygamy (I don't see the connection between the two different topics) Qur'an has verses about divorce.
It's ur own assumption. Allah does not put any qualifiers for polygamy except for being fair. Stop being a hypocrite and a feminist.
@@myopinion4136 no the man said the first wife cant have kids ... like its always the womens fault
If you are rich enough, then you won't have to convince the Muslim women. If you aren't rich enough, you will never convince them.
If she's a gokd digger yes
Not if the first wife is also rich.
the issue here is men who are rich often marry other rich women and rich women are not okay with their husbands getting a 2nd wife lol
@@kanizfatima3447 in polygamous societies where there is almost an expectation that rich men will take a second wife, when women are sizing the man up in terms of his money, once he reaches the threshold for polygamy, then women halve their appraisal of his money hecause, after all, he's going to take a second wife and you'll have to share his resources with her.
From this Christian looking from outside of Islam, it seems to me that polygamy is intended for times of war or only for the very very rich.
MashaAllah whay a beautiful advice, may Allah reward you and elevate you in wisdom ameen. I needed this right now, feeling very depressed that my heart doesn't like what has permitted by Allah(swt). I wouldn't dare to reject what is permissible , but men would call you a disbeliever just for not liking it for yourself. I don't want this fitnah for my family, i don't want to be financially lesser off, i don't want to work doubly hard to bring up my children on my own. I already have enough problem on my plate, i don't want anymore just so that my husband can please himself.
❤😂😂 My Allah continue to guide keep u Ameen.
I love u for the sake of Allah sheikh 😊
the prophet didnt allow ali to get a second wife bcs he knew it would hurt fatima (authentic hadith). so we are allowed to object
You are not Fatima and that isn’t the only reason why the Prophet did that. His daughter as the prophet and the daughter of an enemy of Allah could not be cowives. to protect his reputation as the messenger of Allah. No scholar of Islam said women can reject a co-wife just because Fatima didn’t have one.
@@talibunajat8178she’s not forced to be in a polygamous mariage tho
@@talibunajat8178if she doesn't want it,she can leave
@@purplelove3666 she cant leave as it isnt a valid reason for divorce.
@@taimurahmadits better to leave than to torture yoursef living a life that hurts u day and night. I hope u get a wife who don't give a damn about sharing u
It's not like that men outnumbered women.and what if the scenario is opposite.women are less and men are more then women sholud marry more men to avoid fitna??and also as you said if 50 women will be there for one man then what will happen.one man will marry 50 women ?? Only 4 max he can marry what about the 46 women left?
Stupid... Muslim men go for Christian and Jewish girl....it is halal for muslim men to marry Christian and Jewish girl .. without converting her to islam...
And for your information if men are 300 and female are 100...
Then also only 70/80 men are ready for marriage bcz men are freedom and enjoying in nature...
Not all 300 wants to marry
Islam is man made cater to sexual needs of man there are many better religion than Islam
Brilliant explanation mashallah
Nicely handled
By laughing?
And then he can go ahead with his desire to marry 4 times but very first condition and rule is to fulfill all the obligatory rules of Islam then you can think about 4 wife's
Quran says can marry 2,3, or 4…. But if you can’t do them justly… marry only 1.
Its that easy lolll Quran is clear but people are in discord.. I don't get it.. no one can force u to do something u don't like in Islam such as eating something u don't like so whyforce a woman to be in apolygamhos relationshipo
My Wife's definition of the word "POLYGAMIST" : "Unfaithful Infidel", " Snake" 🐍, 😅.
It might get uploaded onto Google 😅.
Sorry, just making light on a serious topic.
Certainly it is a massive undertaking, not for everyone.
But, in the present and coming times, very necessary to avoid falling to widespread filth. Both for men AND women.
Every man who is wealty and can take responsibility of multiple woman must marry multiple woman. Men should not marry woman who is against polygamy he must mention clearly while doing first nikkah.
Im confused. the ayat concerning polgamy ALLAH says 'and if you fear you cannot deal justly' does any1 realise that ALLAH referes to the man who intends that if he fears. Its not if your wife fear, your mother fear, your sister or even if this sheigh fears. No1s fear is referenced accept the man that want to marry. So those who fear on behalf of the man should advise according to islam or keep quiet
excellent point.
make dua to not be among confused ones
@chief_9938 yes I will. N may ALLAH guide u also
Look at the economic situation of the world. A huge majority is living paycheck to paycheck. Plus the morals of our youth are pathetic to the extent that they can't even keep one wife happy, leave alone an army of scornful, neglected wives andchildren. Why don't you do it yourself and cool your own lust for good. God knows how satisfied your own army of wives really are!!!
Fr
also if u are committing polygamy do it for a good intention but not for satisfying lust. maariage is the god's method to show ur lust but to show ur lust marriage is not there, its like since u cant commit murder without a licenced weapon u do it with an authority of licensed weapon
What are you yapping about 😂
2 :20 - nisa should be competitive for me or doing ihsan without it.
Bro, there are more men in the world than women.
I've been lied to my whole life then
@@asilaalbattashy4945 I don't think its necessarily a lie because depending on what area you live in there could be more women than men at the time, and these people probably meant it in that context? Not sure. But I'm just stating the fact that globally/worldwide there have been more men than women on Earth for like the last 60 years. That's what the data shows. Regardless, this reasoning they talk about for polgamy does not come from Quran, these people make up their own justifications for it when really there needs to justification. The Quran (surah 4:3) suggests polygamy to be allowed only if the man could treat the women justly, that's it. It doesn't say to do polygamy because of population statistics or whatever possible societal benefits there may or may not be. It simply says that they *can* do it (under certain conditions), and it doesn't need to explain the *why* part. So I'm not speaking negatively of polygamy, because if something like this has been deemed halal and righteous then certainly there are benefits and blessings that come from it being practiced in the proper way...but what those benefits specifically are we can only assume.
Complete opposite
@@asilaalbattashy4945 😂😂😂 honestly
Men are the majority but because they are poor, they are not counted amongst men.
YOU NEED TO FOLLOW THIS VERSE TOO. 1
The Book of Purification and its Sunnah
(81)
Chapter: Semen that soils clothes
(81)
باب الْمَنِيِّ يُصِيبُ الثَّوْبَ
It was narrated that 'Amr bin Maimun said:
"I asked Sulaiman bin Yasar about a garment which gets semen on it. 'Should I wash it off or wash the entire garment?' Sulaiman said: 'Aishah said: "Semen used to get on the garment of the Messenger of Allah and he would wash it off his garment, then he would go out to pray wearing that garment, and I could see the marks left on it by washing."
حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو بَكْرِ بْنُ أَبِي شَيْبَةَ، حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدَةُ بْنُ سُلَيْمَانَ، عَنْ عَمْرِو بْنِ مَيْمُونٍ، قَالَ سَأَلْتُ سُلَيْمَانَ بْنَ يَسَارٍ عَنِ الثَّوْبِ، يُصِيبُهُ الْمَنِيُّ أَنَغْسِلُهُ أَوْ نَغْسِلُ الثَّوْبَ كُلَّهُ قَالَ سُلَيْمَانُ قَالَتْ عَائِشَةُ كَانَ النَّبِيُّ ـ صلى الله عليه وسلم ـ يُصِيبُ ثَوْبَهُ فَيَغْسِلُهُ مِنْ ثَوْبِهِ ثُمَّ يَخْرُجُ فِي ثَوْبِهِ إِلَى الصَّلاَةِ وَأَنَا أَرَى أَثَرَ الْغُسْلِ فِيهِ .
Grade: Sahih (Darussalam) VERY IMPORTANT TO KNOW YOUR ROLE. AND THIS VERSE TO FOLLOW TOO. Muwatta Malik » Purity - كتاب الطهارة
Yahya related to me from Malik from Ismail ibn Abi Hakim from Sulayman ibn Yasar that Umar ibn al-Khattab went out early in the morning to his land in al-Juruf and found semen on his garment. He said, "I have been tried with wet dreams since I have been entrusted with governing the people." He did ghusl and washed his garment of what he saw of the semen, and then prayed after the sun had risen.
وَحَدَّثَنِي عَنْ مَالِكٍ، عَنْ إِسْمَاعِيلَ بْنِ أَبِي حَكِيمٍ، عَنْ سُلَيْمَانَ بْنِ يَسَارٍ، أَنَّ عُمَرَ بْنَ الْخَطَّابِ، غَدَا إِلَى أَرْضِهِ بِالْجُرُفِ فَوَجَدَ فِي ثَوْبِهِ احْتِلاَمًا فَقَالَ لَقَدِ ابْتُلِيتُ بِالاِحْتِلاَمِ مُنْذُ وُلِّيتُ أَمْرَ النَّاسِ . فَاغْتَسَلَ وَغَسَلَ مَا رَأَى فِي ثَوْبِهِ مِنَ الاِحْتِلاَمِ ثُمَّ صَلَّى بَعْدَ أَنْ طَلَعَتِ الشَّمْسُ .
IF YOU think about how ISLAM helps us all control these women. ITS SUCH A BEAUTIFUL WAY TO ENSURE WOMEN STAY IN THE KITCHEN. CHRISIANS & JEWS ARE ALL EVIL SO ONLY FOLLOW ISLAM.
I dont mind at all. . . Nothing belongs to us in this world.. . . I dont know y some women get jealous . As if satan guiding em
Why do the men always laugh when this question comes up..
Salamun alaykum,
I guess he is not even aware of how offending his words are against women.
Lol if i will go in a polygous relation the definetely it would be for money , status or of the guy is a super nova . At this point of my life alhmdulillaj allah swt have granted me with ancestral wealth and good education . I dont tjink i would even need to be in one . At this point i can actially choose to love a man .
Brothers, don’t simply get 4 wives because of your desires
If there are practical reasons then go ahead. Also remember that there are no fatwa which forces women to simply accept her husband to have more than 1 wife. Yes, men have that right. But no hijabi is forced to be in the marriage
Polygamy is not permissible in Islam, it's Polygyny that is. The former entails that the woman can also have more than one husband, which is purely alien to Islamic ruling. The latter one specifically means the situation where the man ONLY can have more than one wife.
From where did u find this hadith? Never heard that women can't marry several times and have husbands
@@sanjanamow He's clearing the differences between polygyny and polygamy. Never talked about any hadith
Do you mean polyandry?
Well, I reject the Sheria. It’s my right. This verse is only mentioned in a Sarah about women’s rights, not men’s lust. I will be putting this clause in my Nikah, that my husband may not marry again in my lifetime as per Sunnah.
Alternative is the Western world where MOST non Muslim men I know cheat. This sounds a lot more honourable
he is sharing his opinion and not saying Islamically, first condition is applicable at the time of first marriage too so there's any difference, and where he mentioned that they'll compete that if she has that I want that too, means she ain't a righteous one, instead of making their husband happy she's doing the doing exact opposite.
and whatever he said is irrelated to the question written in title. clickbait.
All will happened but we r humanbeings, we have emotions, also both genders also have same emotions, if man not tolerating then how can women
Assalamualikum.
Allah is all knowing, and made marrying more than one wife (up to 4) permissible. Polygyny is halal and if done well, it can be a beautiful practice in this current time as well. The best sahabiyyat were jealous so it is inevitable that we will be too. We as women in islam need to work and develop our emotional intelligence, and learn to regulate our emotions to the best of our ability, so we can deal with our jealousy to the best of our abilities. May Allah bless you all, Ameen
Globally, the number of males has exceeded the number of females since the mid-1960s. As of 2021, there were about 44 million more males than females in the global population
That is because of two countries india and china who are known for killing female babies in womb, terminating pregnancies and even killing female babies after they’re born.
If males are triple also..
100 females and 300 males...
Then also you only find 70/80 percentage of male ready for marriage..
Bcz males are enjoying,they want enjoyment and nature friendly..not all 300 men want to marry ...
..and you are talking about only 44 millions more male... 🥴🥴🥴
@@usamasohail3294no male will be rapist and voiolant If they don't have women single men are more dangerous than single women
It’s not easy so please don’t abuse this!
You say you at least honor Jesus as a prophet but this is completely against HIs teaching. I’m asking respectfully, I know you view Him only as a Prophet but why do Mohammed’s teachings always take precedence over Jesus’? He taught monogamy, no divorce. answered, “Have you not read that from the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’and He said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.”
“Why then,” they asked, “did Moses order a man to give his wife a certificate of divorce and send her away?”
Jesus replied, “Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because of your hardness of heart; but it was not this way from the beginning. 9Now I tell you that whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another woman, commits adultery.” Therefore, Jesus says marriage is a covenant between ONE man and ONE woman for life and polygamy is the equivalent of adultery.
I won’t criticize polygamy IF WOMEN were allowed multiple husbands too
Lol. Looking forward to the fall of civilization and the law of the jungle returns. Women's protection by men have emboldened them to dictate to men what they are allowed, in defiance of God Himself.
Unfortunately a man impregnate alot of women and we know who the child is, a women can sleep with a lot of men, and we don't know the child, men and women are different
Allah is the Most Wise and The All-knowing. It is His Shariah. He knows why Men can have multiple wives, while women cannot
It is important to be careful with such statements because we shouldn't critize something coming from Allah, especially not in the public.
I don't judge you brother or sister but please reconsider deleting or changing your comment 🙏
Allah helped Muhammad marry 6 year old Ayesha, don't see how he is the best if he supported pedoism
What i find strange is that practicing muslim brothers have wife that are completely against this aspect of deen that is accepted in kalamullah and shariah. Sadly the brothers who don't deserve to get married 2nd 3rd and even 4th as they re not even practicing and fulfilling the basic fard, wajib, etc
That is the sad reality.
Also the fitna, fahisha, zina is getting worse. This generation and next generations young women are unfortunately going down the route of - please mind my language, they're happy to be girlfriends, slaves, pimped out, pornographic, b****, w****, lesbian, public property and all these other foul, evil,western, shayateen, feminism, munkar, etc etc
Sorry to be blunt, but this is the reality we are in. Every islamic solution is by the creator and is a solution for the ummah and mankind. If we don't choose the islamic way of Allah swt and Rasulullah s. Then we will follow other ways and Allah aza wajjal will destroy us and replace us with this ethat love every aspect of Allah swt hukum, deen, shariah, Islam.
Allah swt give us all the towfiq to hold onto every aspect of our deen, be it spiritual, social, financial, political, judicial, etc
Allahuma ameen ya rabbal aalaameen
The men are also going down the wrong route
Zina was made easy,, marriage was made difficult. And society at large is complicit!
@@hopefully223 Simp. Now adays women outnumbering men in almost all sides in immorality.
Brother's you know right that even the prophet's wife sometimes jealous on each other and prophet is the perfect man. So how do you expect our sisters to be fully ok lol? Of course they will be jealous and angry and so on, its nature to them. First be the best man you can ever be before thinking about marriage lol
We don't consider your opinion..
If you are experiencing that'doesn't mean we also settled for one wife ..
Is polygamy an obligation!? Or a permissible desire!?
It's optional not a must thing also if you fear you can't be justice not only financially but physically and mentally not be with your both families don't do that cuz first of all this rule was created for woman being protected and safe
What upsets me about this video is the mirth that accompanies this serious topic. It is "not easy", and "you can easily lose your mind" and "it is a nightmare" are not helpful descriptions of polygamous marriage. They could be applied to monogamous marriages too. It is about educating women...
My challenge to the non-polygamy mentality runs thus:
Muslim sisters very much love the Wives of Prophet Muhammad pbuh, Umm ul Mumineen (the Mothers of the Believers). They love being named after them, naming their daughters after them, wanting to be like them, pray like them, be devoted to Allah SWT like them, and follow the Qur'an and Sunnah like them ...
But look at the same sisters' mentality when marriage a second, third, or fourth time is discussed. So many excuses. So much protestation. So many NEGATIVE opinions on something about which they know NOTHING. Suddenly, a militant, objectional, Western-thinking, "liberated", intolerant opinion emerges.
Allah SWT, Lord of the Worlds, Knower of the Seen and the Unseen, enjoined polygamy. Dare we, tiny insignificant specks of "maa'in daafiq" (despised fluid) challenge those permissions, rights, and decrees?
When we REALLY TRUST Allah SWT and follow His Messenger, we comply with acceptance ... we take the whole package.
Sisters get so boiled up about polygamy, seeing only their Western perspective as wife 1. There is the perspective of her husband, and the feelings and needs and heart of her sister, wife 2.
Allah SWT wasn't talking to us. HE, SWT, was addressing MEN, giving them the permission to "Marry 2, 3 or 4..."
Monogomous marriage isn't a promise of heaven, and it isn't the perfect deal.
There are so many clueless girls, living in la-la land, with a Western "I-won't share" mentality, a pro-feminist approach, a women's rights (but not men's) stance, while they know little enough about life to make an informed choice about plural marriage. Better to rein in their non-compliance with Allah's decree, silence their un-Islamic opinions and let us women facing the option of plural marriage accept and get on with it for what it is, instead of treating us like maligned exhibits from a freak show. We don't need the monogomists' excuses, their anger and their pity, their justification, nor their voice.
Only one word... They won't accept it any way..mso go and Marry 2,3,4 but don't give explanation to women...
We stop explaining and start practicing
Lol cope 😂
@@ldrago6031 You actually didn't understand my comment, nor do you understand Rasool Allah, based on your childish reply.
@@usamasohail3294then cry when they start marrying kafirs who take one wife only
Barakfeekum sister
Our Muslim sisters must accept Surah NISA.
We already do
Extremely few men can do justice. They should rather be avoiding the grave sin of being unjust
Population will explode with polygamy 😂
Well, I want to say something very important. In the time of Abraham and Moses. The people were just writers called scribes. They were not educated in genealogy and DNA. They were uneducated in this matter. We should not go back to the times of Abraham and Moses. Marrying many women causes breading and weak genetics. Some kings did this. The Austrian Habsburg did this and there are deformities. The Zoroastrians from Persia did this. In Pakistan, there is in breading causing birth defects. The bottom line do not follow Judaism and Abrahamic religions.
Embrace islam and reject feminism
Women's jealousy doesn't have to do with feminism, it's nature as the sheikh said, and it even existed in our mother Aisha RA. Women are naturally possessive and don't like competition, at least 90% of the woman population qill dislike polygyny and that's natural. Not saying it's haram at all but don't call nature feminism
Women are not convinced even though Allah has mentioned this in Quran.
If Allah can't convince them no one can😂
Brother, read what Allah said in the Quran sepcifically, than come talk
@@ShairaFairuj-ey5yv
Quran says A man can have up to four wives as long as he can do justice to all, if not he can marry only one.
What is your point anyway?
@lonewolf61814
Allah gave us all free will, she can refused to be convinced if she wants too..
We Muslim women need to remove from our hearts this Western idea of monogamous marriage. Allah SWT gave it for good reasons. It was the Sunnah of Rasool Allah SAW which we are apt to forget.
Why? Men have the right to have multiple wives and women have the right to be in such marriage or not. It’s simple Monogamous marriages are allowed so why should we not want it? I agree that if a man really needs to marry again to not commit zina he must marry again but remember that women can choose who to marry and what type of man do marry.
@@TheNiceOne_ polygamous marriage, likewise, is allowed. So why should we not want it?
@@angelabrodie6262 like is said, I think people should marry the way that suits them the best. Marriage should make you happy and not anxious or depressed.
@@TheNiceOne_ indeed. As a second wife I am happy and enriched and respected and loved and treated with dignity unlike in my first miserable marriage where the emotional abuse and ghosting and gaslighting was dreadful for 25 years.
@@angelabrodie6262 well, I’m happy that it’s working out for you. I am not against polygamy. I’m against women being forced into polygamy
So polygamy is singing in religion.
PS
I looked up with the definition of the word is and this is the conclusion I came up with that sounds a lot like an animal instinct.
Islam allows a Muslim man to marry upto 4 wives if he can fulfil the conditions and treat them equally to the best of his abilities.
The Kuffar on the other hand see women as nothing more than satisfying their "animalistic" desires. It's no wonder they have an abundance of Adultery and Fornication amongst themselves.
نعوذ بالله من ذلك
Do some reading about it from a Islamic perspective vs having unsolicited affairs (which is the norm in western society). Or better yet, watch the video. Your conclusion doesn't make a difference to us... "blade of darkness from blood" 🙄
@@elkapitan75 did watch it and wife on paper is different from wife emotionally.
Think of it like a difference between a contract deal and someone that has a non-physical feeling.
Now I'm thinking this video is about the paper part of it. So nevermind and sorry I was only thinking about the emotional feeling part.
Weakness in understanding Islam and preferring one’s own opinion over the legislation led us to what we are today. Polygamy is very good especially nowadays when fitnah upon men is a lot. Women should fear Allah and accept the ruling of Allah. Likewise men must fulfill their duties towards their wives and should fear Allah as well
Why not one wife with four husbands? Fair is fair.
Idk about others🤨as islam neither deny or forbid or says wife cant stop her husband from doing polygamy when there man and women almost equal in world ,,,Sooo Im😂 not going to share my husband😂instead i will give him very very much of love ❤❤insha allah,,I want him here and after life and every life with meh❤
So shameless
ik i may not be fair in saying what am gonna say as am not a woman but will try from my perspective. forgive me oh women if u find my sayings unfair. i love u and respect u as u r our mothers, that alone is sufficient for me to honor u.
what amazes me about women not wanting polygamy is that they’re so egotistical.
I’ll say to the women: imagine u give birth to a girl, remember that she’ll grow up, and know that there are fewer men everyday let alone good men.
now u want ur man only to urself, which am not telling u not to, but u also want ur daughter and his daughter to grow up and have a man that is good respectful with deen handsome (women nowadays) etc… AND for lack of gratitude, u also want ur daughter not to be in a polygamy.
now plz tell me women how can u solve the case in which u have 3 daughters!!? and u think u will have it all that easy!? u may do all the evil u know to make ur man divorce his second wife but then remember, ur children may be girls. and also the fact that u know very well most men desire more than one women what would u say to this!? we have to also be honest here.
if ur husband is capable let him do, yes Allah said that men may not be so fair yet He still let them marry more than one.
am actually sided with the sheikh here, more than one wife is more trouble, so think a million time b4 u add but if for desirable reasons u can’t, then marry more.
unfortunately women made it that way and they’re only hurting themselves particularly and society in general.
it’s hurts society as in the man will or may fall into zina while married, not all but, u know what I mean.
it hurts women as in most of ur children are girls and how will their marital future be!?
So I’m egoistic because I don’t want to be ruined mentally? Look sister, we got problems in our lives. Some of us go through alot. I have the worst anxiety ever to the point where I can’t breath. If I’m not wanting to be in a polygamous marriage because I don’t want to make my life harder then it already is, how am I being egoistic? And also, there are more men on earth then women so we could also say, men are egoistic for taking second wives because there are already not enough women. Don’t force people to do things they don’t want. My opinion, men have right to practice polygamy and women have the right to not choose to be in such marriage.
@@TheNiceOne_ u do have the right to choose no to polygamy, but from what u say here, i understand that u already made polygamy a problem. which in and of itself is not. people make it to be a problem and mostly women do.
there are definitely more women in the world than men. and by your logic most of our women will die unmarried.
now am not saying that all marriages are successful but at least most women should be able to try it. it work out well for some, in the middle for some and bad for others. and alhamdulillah Allah made divorce a way out for all.
i pray that Allah ease your situation sister and talk to Him. He hears your suffering.
Sister just come to south asia someday you will see the worse polygamous men nd their women...women are still fighting for their rights as we dont even get our islamic rights...people hate to have a daughter not because it js difficult to marry her off because she is just a burden...you have to give fowry,her child bills..basicallly men just cant provide 100% not even 80% here 😂...so it is just a joke that those men cant do anything but just want to fulfill their lust...also its not only women even polygamous men dont want their daughters husband to have a 2nd wife as they know their own wives go through a lot and now they cant see their own daughters going throgh the same situation...these men sucks as they cant be a good father nd a good husband but want to add the burden...believe me if women dont throw tantrums about it then men will get jealous nd will call uou a gold digger...just saw this happening😂
Brothers aim to get married to 4 women if possible
GOD GAVE ADAM ONE EVE, LIKE HE GAVE THE EARTH ONE SUN ( and that was enough to fill the world...but then the man came an invented rules that break the essence..) DON'T YOU SEE THE SIGNS? Don't follow polygamy!!!
...If GOD wanted to, he would have given Adam several Eves because God can do anything, and this was the GREATEST example given by HIM in relation to this: the beginning of humanity.
Sharm karo, polygamy is a sin
Making sleeping with lots of women omens is sinning polygamy
Your saying fitna what about man
Sisters is it better to take second wife than committing zina. Women most of you fail in satisfying your husbands. Whatever wives do this and that obey their husbands but most of these sisters fail in that thing so think wise do you want him in hell or be with you in jannah.
It is our Allah given right, that if we want monogamous marriage,we can have that in the marriage contract,if the man cant accept its his prblm.We are also allowed to divorce if he goes out this contract
@@ShairaFairuj-ey5yv Okay, then women are pathetic failures in physical intimacy more than 93.3% of men are disappointed with their wives. If you can't available for him when he wants then never disagree with him when he decides to get 2nd or 3rd wives. Always, I'm tired, not today, I need prepare food for us, i need to take care of children, i have did yesterday so tomorrow, finish it quickly i have to do some work. Women always slame men for wanting sex with their wives. Women are complete disaster in bed then why you're getting triggered for multiple wives topics. Men do zina then blame their irresponsible wives.
Thank goodness I’m a lesbian, married for decades to one faithful wife, and not burdened by Abrahamic beliefs. Life can be great when you trust your heart and devote yourself to making one wife happy. Happy wife, happy life!
Lol why are you here?
Dear lesbian. You can't even have children. The more lesbians the more a population will decline. A man taking more then wife has many children and offspring. And a strong family can be built from that. The abrahmaic religions preserve traditional family and gender roles and the survival of humanity .
@@NewSmithsonian lol
@@NewSmithsonian I must have taken a wrong turn. Lol. But seriously, I try to listen to all kinds of different opinions. It’s dangerous to only listen to one side of any issue, don’t you think? Confirmation bias tends to insulate us from other voices if we don’t make an effort to hear many different voices.
If you believe that your homosexuality isn’t a choice, then you should not present it, even jokingly, as a choice for widowed women with orphaned children in war-torn countries where women don’t have the option of just going to college and making enough money to comfortably go to a grocery store and get what they need to make it through the week. The grocery store is rubble. They are out of flour. In some areas, without the protection of a man, they are at risk of enslavement and trafficking. The point that the sheikh was making is, it is not the standard default of humans for men to have multiple wives but rather the solution to a disproportionate number of men being killed with respect to women, and the need for those women to have a provider in rough circumstances for their children and/or the ability to still be able to be married and have children and build families, despite a shortage of men.
It's not upon anyone to "convince" anyone else what's clearly stated in The Quran, for if someone demands to be convinced, let him/her ask ALLAH, becz He's the one who made that Law.
If you don't want to accept what's mentioned in the Qur'an, feel free to reject it. No one's holding you at gunpoint to believe in the Qur'an. Belief in the Qur'an and strong adherence to the Rules and regulations mentioned in it is one's OWN business. Cuz in the hereafter, no one will be responsible for what you have chosen to believe or do but yourself